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tl;dr: don't give up!!

My message is directed towards subby guys who want to be in a healthy, loving relationship with a dominant or rather dominant girl. Not guys who want to sext, send/receive pics, guys who want their GFs to fulfill ALL of their fantasies.

Dominant women receive hundreds of messages. Literally, hundreds, but most of them are trash/coming from guys that don't treat them as real people. Guys either don't give the information that a girl required to give, or treat them as they were commercial dommes listing what kinky stuff they want to include right away.

I can't count all the messages I wrote to dominant women throughout the years, but there were plenty of them. Most of them didn't respond. If they did, we usually liked each other... Up to the point when I sent them my face pic. It was super annoying, since I had much less luck, than IRL, but IRL I didn't want to get involved, as I was embarrassed of my kinks and lack of sexual experience. I still shot my shot every couple months, when I saw an interesting post from my area. Last time this july when I messaged my, now, GF.

The thing that caught her eye was that I was normal. That I typed her and treated her like a normal person. No dick pics, no asking to meet right away, no listing kinks etc. Quite often your message will disappear or they will find someone interesting already, but it's worthy to shoot your shot. Believe me ;)

I think in most cases your relationship will look quite similar to regular relationships. Just more spicy in the bedroom/at home. It's nothing like in porn and, what's very important, is that your dom/dommy gf is a real person, with real issues and she has the right to be weak as well. You can be cute/silly if that's what both of you like, but you need to be supportive, thoughtful and strong as well, especially when she needs that.

We all have our good and bad traits, but if the chemistry is good, we like each other and the most important things kink wise are mutual, then the rest really isn't important.

And well... Honestly, with all the redpill/blackpill/andrew tate stuff, I think a lot of women are getting fed up with all the fake "alpha" guys and if they have/had some dommy tendencies, they look forward towards subby guys way more often, than they used to. That's another topic and we could go on on that, but as I mentioned, I think that if someone is persistent, then in most cases they will eventually find their dommy gf.

And believe me, it's worth waiting. Waiting for someone that you can be cute (my thing) around and who will appreciate you for who you are without being afraid of being judged.

P.S. Sorry for such a long post, but I really felt like writing it >.<

Edit: Got a couple questions about it, so if anyone else is wondering where I found my GF, it's fetlife - fetlife.com

Hi guys I feel bad for using this subreddit to just get things off my chest, if there’s a better subreddit for this then I would love to know, but I’ve been feeling a bit more lonely than I usually do before I go to sleep. So I’ve been talking to a girl who reached out to me because of one of my posts for about a month and a half ( it’s a completely platonic relationship) and for about 3 days she hasn’t been responding or seeing the messages I send her. Mostly I’m just worried for her because we had what seemed to be a very good relationship, but that might be why I’m feeling extra lonely.

The main point is that I feel like being dominated and praised is the only thing I think about when my mind is occupied on something else. The idea of being called a good boy and feeling truly loved is something that really can’t escape my mind. I wish I was the only one for someone who shares my enthusiasm and wants to listen to me, someone who makes me feel motivated to keep going on, someone who I would do anything for. Every day and night I think about this intangible woman and how much I would love her. I just have so much love inside of me and I want to tell somebody the lengths of my love for them. Whenever I think about it I get butterflies in my stomach, it makes me feel like I’m alive. I hope that feeling never diminishes.

I have a very strong fear of being rejected, if I say anything that might make me look unappealing to someone, I feel like they will always remember that and slowly want to distance themselves from me. I just wish someone told me that I was theirs and that they would never let me go, it would make me feel like I was someone worth being with. To be honest I really wish I was never born because I feel like I’m kidding myself with ideas like this. I would kill myself if it wasn’t for my family and friends, me committing suicide would devastate them. It seems a bit intense, but in moments like these I feel unlovable. I just want to be myself and not worry about if I’m pushing people away or not. I guess it’s just something I have to deal with, I’ve been struggling with mild depression for around 6-7 years, and it’s definitely gotten better, but I wish I didn’t have to feel this lonely every night. I don’t really know what to do anymore.

Sorry if it got a bit too heavy near the end but I just need to get it off my chest and this is the only way I can talk about it really. Anyway I hope you have a good night, I would love to read any comments anyone has in the morning if there are any, but I really need to get to sleep, I have work in like 6 hours. Stay safe!

This is an update to my previous post lol

Sooo she still has me denied and I can’t stop edging. It feels so good. I was supposed to be allowed to cum tonight but u may have bratted to close to the sun and got myself 2 extra days 😢 (it’s worth it)

I kinda like doing the update thing but idk if I should do it here or not🤷‍♂️

I could never attract the bold, confrontational, and yet gentle women

Hi everyone! This is my first post here and I'm fairly new to the scene in general, but I wanted to share an idea for an session/scene that I came up with, I'm not sure how to title the idea (or even if it's original) but I went with "in person ASMR"

so essentially the idea goes that the sub puts on a eye mask/blindfolds and then they will be tied down by their Dom, once everyone is ready, the Dom will essentially start whispering into the sub's ear and describing everything that the Dom is doing or going to do to the sub, kind of like Asmr in a way.

essenceially the sub will not be able to move or see anything that the Dom is doing and hence the sub will not be able to react or prepare them self for anything, which means that the Dom essentially can "build up" an action/thing by describing everything leading up to it, which potentially will mean that the sub's imagination will "enhance" everything.

So let's say that the Dom is going to peg the sub, the Dom can essentially describe how they are teasing them, describe every reaction of the sub, how they squirm or move in response to the Dom, maybe slightly "prod" the sub with the strap on and tell them how you can tell that they can't wait for you to enter them.

or the dom can take the sub by suprise (or at least do it more easily) by describing what they are going to do but doing something else that is similar to what the Dom described but different enough that the sub would not expect.

One disadvantage of this is that you essentially are kind of limited to what you can do, because the Dom's head has to stay close to the subs ear, one way you could maybe fix this is by using headphone/earphones and saying things to a mic when you want to do something further away, and also another one is that it would probably require a lot of planing for some people.

Sorry if I described anything badly, English isn't my first language so I sometimes struggle to describe/convey the ideas that I want to say, and sorry if this is isn't an original idea, I just haven't seen something similar describe here so I thought "why not?". Either way thanks for reading through this post!

So this is basically some more stuff that happened with me and my Master since the last time I posted here, she has friends she talks about with me, I just wanna tell someone else how amazing she is too 🫣

Some context, we are in a long distance relationship and recently we started with petplay. Within a month I feel like her pet dog a lot, and she has been sooo caring and loving as she's a natural caregiver. I love being with her soo much. Sometimes I have problems with the distance, so being so thoughtful as she is she sent me her perfume so that I can feel her closer to me. And so that her pup can learn his master's scent 🫣🫣. The first time I smelled it we were on call and I was blushing and smiling soo much, she looked extremely pretty and I loved the added aspect to our life. Since getting that, her scent has made me feel calmer when I was anxious even!

After this I had some of the most kinkiest experiences with her ever, we figured out I have a high tendency for continued ruined orgasms and she loved it, so she had me ruin on a bunch of her sexy pictures over and over again, it turned her on soo much to watch me ruin while dressed like her dog 🫣. She even made me try to fuck a picture of her pussy. And the next day I ruined on her pussy and licked it clean for her to see 🫣... Oh fuck I loved that Soo much. She praised me a lot 🫣

We even setup a cyber leash, for her to know where her pet is, she was soo cute when she asked me if we can do this 🫣. I love the idea because this gives her a bit more control and I find it so loving and caring. She also shared her data with me so that there can be a mutual trust, and she said when her dogs on the leash even he can look back to see her being present 🫣. It just made me melt.

What was next... Oh yes! She will give me a bracelet as a collar and a keychain like a dogtag too! Then umm we tried something we both never had and I'm sure it only works because of the relationship we both have built together, she asked me to call her Momma, because that's what her pets know her as, like for commands like "Go to Momma" and even though I was a bit shy at the beginning and it made her extremely shy too, she loved it. So now I'm sooo happy with my momma 🫣... I love her and she's perfect, I wanna serve her and make her feel as loved as she makes me feel, I just love taking care of her too.

Which is why we tried lovense toys and I was able to make her cum 4 times that night 🫣🫣. I felt extremely happy and successful as her puppy. Being able to give her physical please felt Soo releasing and made me feel happy. We played a lot and I sorta know her preferences now but I still have much to learn. And then today we spent an amazing day watching a movie together 🫣 It was so perfect, and I was dressed as a dog again while we watched it hehe.

I love my momma soooooo much, shes so loving and caring I wanna protect her and make her happy. She teased me a lot but I love it even more 🫣. I am indeed the luckiest dog to be hers ❤️

So not too long ago I posted here because I was trying to get into Femdom for several reasons but I couldn't really find good information into the internet, just popcorn that I can see now it (and I could sense) it is not really related to the real experience.

First of all I would like to say my experience until this moment has been really "vainilla" so I apologize if my perspective looks wrong for you, I may still explore many new things.

As far as I've been into Femdom, having some little experiences I would say it is not only about humiliating someone, but to also care about them, watching the little things they do trying to entertain you or to look nicer, cooler, cuter etc. It is kinda of a relationship dynamic in where me the fem, does love to have power over him.

So far i've been having fun with little games, and the way I am being obeyed and adored. If you are a little bit dominant as a Fem I would recommend you to try it with someone who is ACTUALLY into it, because they like to be and NOT because you want to try or because they can have you like that (one of my firsts mistakes).

So if someone has some ideas for some games or new things to try please let me know! I am excited to try them now!

So sometime ago i was reading a post of a dom on tumblr answering some questions and one of them was the most amount of times she made a sub come in a session and she answered(if i remember correctly) like 13 times at which point he was all numb and limp(but in the best possible way) and she had to literally drag him into the shower, and during the aftercare he was describing to her how relaxed he felt. And i just remember thinking how amazing this sounds, but i know that everybodys body responds differently to stimulus so i would like to hear some more stories about the subject.

So subs, whats it like to orgasm multiple times from pegging? Anything i should know for if i ever want to try this with a dom?

And doms, whats it like to make a sub orgasm multiple times? Any advice you would give for any inexperienced doms lurking on the subreddit for if they wanna try this? Also whats you high-score?

My domme is quite stressed in work lately and as a result isn’t relaxed / her typical self. How can I help her de-stress when she is usually headstrong and wants to cope alone? I want to respect her space but feel helpless when she’s so stressed.

Just interested how others on this subreddit think on the topic!

So I've always been pretty interested in exploring my submissive side, but never felt comfortable in previous relationships to open up about that. I've been seeing my current girlfiend for a while now and have talked to her about my interests, and I'm really happy to say she seems pretty enthusiastically down to explore her dom side and my sub side together. The problem is, neither of us are really sure what to try out specifically. I like when she holds me down while we're fucking, I like giving her head (especially when she sits on my face 😵‍💫) and we love praising each other, but I really don't know where else to go or how to articulate just my pretty general desire to make her happy and be dominated (gently of course, or else it wouldnt fit into this sub very well lol.) I think anything with my ass is off the table, at least for now. The idea of pegging is hot to me but I'm scared to try it and I don't think she'd be into it.

I guess my specific question is, for people who are farther into their journey, what did you and your partner do at the start? What are some good things for beginners? What can I look to for ideas or to see what I'm into?

I’m gonna keep the details space just in case she sees this, but a friend of mine and I have recent kinda became fwb. We are online atm but we have plans to meet next year. And we have met before but life stuff separating us atm. We are both switch’s and I’ve been a dom for her for a while but the last couple days she put me on denial. And holy hell I’m constantly horny. I mean if love it but I Connor think about anything else. It has only been like 2 days. Ahhhh!

Does anyone have any advice???