We (30F+30M) recently added it to our role-reversal/GFD act. Me doing MtF crossdressing has been a staple of our sex life for years - I wear a bra, panties, and nightie. She variously tried wearing lingerie that matched mine (she said it felt awkward like we’re sisters), non-matching lingerie (she didn’t like the comfort), or normal underwear (not sexy so I didn’t like it.) And neither of us like the leather dominatrix look. Since all of these choices were unsatisfactory, as an experiment I recently asked her to try wearing men’s briefs. They are as comfortable as granny panties but still sexy to me because they have a playful femdom vibe.

The first time she seemed a little embarrassed but quickly embraced the comfort aspect. Soon after she embraced the femdom aspect too. She loves taking off her robe after she tops me and confidently showing off her body and her briefs. There’s just this sort of unspoken and sexually charged “yeah, I wear the pants and we both know it” moment. 

After three times I asked if she was just doing it for me and wanted to stop, but she said she likes wearing them and wants to continue. It’s been a few months now and seems it will continue indefinitely. There's no trace of embarrassment in her now, just confidence.  I’ve gotten her a few different colors and also a set with “BOSS” written on the waistband. Besides the briefs, she just wears a robe. It’s not a men’s robe, but has white tiger stripes which make her look sexy and powerful. She doesn’t wear a bra so I can easily pleasure her breasts. 

I don't see it discussed much, but I absolutely love the look of women in men’s undies. I just melt when I look up at my wife in briefs pounding away at me in panties. I could see us expanding in the future. I think it’d be hot if she wore wife beaters and men’s boxers, and maybe even men’s jeans during the foreplay. 

I thought I might have found someone.We spoke for a few weeks and I thought things had been going well.Then she just ghosted me and I never heard anything more

I was fine at first,I just tried to move on,but its been hitting me a lot lately.I just wanted someone to cuddle with,I guess its back to hugging my pillow

So I had been searching for a while for a domme when I saw her post. I looked at it and it seemed too good to be true. I don’t find myself very attractive and I didn’t think my odds were looking good but I thought “screw it”. Sent her an introduction and about a day or 2 later, she messaged me back. I was shocked, and we started talking. I had no experience in BDSM relationship prior and definitely annoyed her a little at the start with stupid questions, but she (for unknown reasons to me still) gave me another chance.

It’s not been too long since I started talking to her but everything she says makes me like her so much more. She’s comforting but hard on me, she’s kind but puts me in my place, she praises me and makes me feel special.

When she told me that I was officially her sub, I wanted to jump up and down like a kid. I was so happy and felt accepted.

As time has moved on, I’ve trusted her more and more and opened up more, and she accepts me every time. I think about her constantly and she’s just an amazing person.

I completely lucked out, not sure what the universe will hit me with next since I think I’ve used all my good luck for a long time.

Sorry for the yap but I feel so happy.

Has anyone here had a sub or trained a sub to learn HFO but not by anal penetration either. But trained to cum absolutely hands free just using their pelvic muscles or by some sort of mental play?

I recently came across a video where the sub orgasmed from eating his Domme out. It made me really curious if one could be trained to do that or is it just something that comes with certain individuals?

It's become sort of a fantasy of orgasming while sucking toes or eating pussy. I don't know, but it feels so hot to think about.

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Exactly what title says last night i got incredibly needy and horny and thought id try so ass play ended up finding a spot that gave me so much pleasure and not long after i came, it felt so unbelievably good, and it was my first one, wanted to brag so if u read it thank you and have wonderful day 🤭

So um l've been dating this girl for about 3 weeks and I really like her things are going pretty well I'm super obsessed if I'm being honest but I was thinking about it and I know it's early but how am I gonna tell her I like being well ya know dominated especially since im like 100% sure she's into more dominant guys and most likely thinks I'm also like that what do I do?

Hello anyone who is reading this I made a post a while ago about how I wanted to dress in more feminine clothes I will link it here if anyone wants to read that here and that post got a nice response so I decided that I would post another question. I have been into gentle femdom for a while and one of the aspects that I like is a woman with a strap on. Part of the reason that I like it is I have been into futanari for some time now and I really like the idea of a woman penetrating me or having me suck her dick something about it really excites me. Due to this I have been thinking/fantasizing about buying a dildo for me to use on myself to explore how much I like it and to prepare for the future when I meet a woman who is into that, I also really like the idea of using the dildo in front of her while she watches to turn her on as well as solo play. So again my question is is this okay should I go for it? Is this something that is too weird, and are there any women out there who would like that sort of thing? Thank you all for hearing me out a second time it has been really helpful being able to express my thoughts here.

I need to have this question answered because I'm feeling confused.

Being a Domme, exercising and expressing femininity in that way is different even from the way a man dominates, isn't it? A Domme can own and use her sub's cock as her own, maybe even go as far as adopting masculine habits or clothing, but it's still rooted in femininity.

To veer off topic for the purpose of comparison, sissies. That’s a man embracing femininity to the fullest extent but what's the female version of that? I've never heard of masculinization. If anything, that leads us to butch lesbians, which still isn't the antithesis of sissies. Straight, masculine women exist, i.e. Rhea Ripley. She's feminine enough to be lusted after but undoubtedly masculine in appearance and ability.

I'd really love to know if I'm misunderstanding or misinterpreting this. Or is it exactly the same: there are men out there that are receptive to a woman having masculine fantasies, in the same vein that men have submissive fantasies. It just doesn't seem like it's the same to me but maybe I have it wrong.

Doms how was your first time pegging your sub?

I’m building up the courage to ask my dom to peg me. However it would be each of our first times on both sides. I’m reallly nervous they will try it and not like it or feel uncomfortable.

So my question is, how was your first time pegging your sub? Any advice you can give or first time stories?

Also just to be clear I’m not worried about my partner rejecting me at all because they love me and are very supportive but I just want them to enjoy it as well :)

Sauce is worldtr33. Thought it was a really nice interaction and would probably be appreciated here :3

I realize most people are usually just "themselves", or at least a version of themselves, when engaging in their femdom play, but have you or would you ever like to roleplay as a fictional character from a book or movie or something during playtime (or any other part of your dynamic)? Could be a character for the Domme or sub or both. What characters do you think best match a Gentle Femdom dynamic? Were there specif aspects, outfits, props, or scenarios that you did or would focus on? Are there characters that maybe don't explicitly fit the role as originally written, but you wanted to push in that direction?

My love, I can see it in your eyes... you’re thinking that after everything today, after all the work you’ve done, after making this beautiful dinner for us, you’ve earned something in return. You think that if you just touch yourself, just give in to that urge, it’ll make you feel better. But listen to me, I need to tell you that NO, that’s not happening today. That’s not what I need today.

I understand why you want to cum so badly, it has been some days now without any orgasms for you, poor little thing. I know you’re feeling this way. I really do. It’s like a pressure building up inside you, and you think the only way to release it is through that moment, that quick release, that rush. But my love, I need you to hear this. It won’t make you feel better if I don't allow it, we both know that. And you are not allowed to cum.

Are you listening? You are not allowed to cum.

You’ve already done so much today. You’ve made this meal for us, you’ve shown your care, your love, your attention. You’ve given me everything I need, just like you should. That’s what matters. That’s the reward. Not the release you’re thinking about. You’ve already proven how much you care, how thoughtful you are, and that’s more than enough. You don’t need anything more. True fulfillment, comes from a deeper place and you are here to serve me. Serve my needs, not yours. remember that.

Right now, you need to focus on me.

I know you’re struggling and you are doing so good! You are the best at struggeling for me. I promise you, if you focus on my needs, which are so much more meaningful, you’ll feel better in ways that nothing else can give you. Focus on me, on how much I value you, on how much I appreciate you for everything you’ve done, for everything you are. That’s the reward. That’s what will calm you, fill you up, ... silly you, not in the way you are thinking now!

You are not allowed to cum. You don’t need to seek that quick release. What you need is me, here, right now. You need this connection. You need this love we share. And I need you to focus on me and my desires.

So no, my love, I’m not letting you cum today. You don’t need it. I’m so proud of you for that.

Now let me sit on your face so you can make me feel good. Taste how wet you got me from doing everything for me and behaving yourself so well. I know you already made me cum three times today and I know you will make me cum again, right my love? You just love to make me cum, I know that. You are so eager, especially when I deny you. You will be a good boy and let me use you until I explode on your face. And that’s everything you truly need.

My wife and I have been exploring femdom for a while now, but she says she is struggling with mental blocks. In general she has a hard time letting herself get into the moment and often says she’s worried she’s not doing it well, is silly or will be criticized even though it’s just me and her. A lot of this goes back to her childhood where a lot of pressure was put on her and she didn’t feel adequate. She says it’s not just in the bedroom but something she feels in her professional life and hobbies as well. My wife is an incredible women who achieved a lot of success, but she lets this mindset hold her back.

We’ve talked about these hang ups a lot and I try to be supportive and reassuring, but I’m wondering if there is more I can do to build her confidence. I don’t want to lead from the bottom but maybe there is a way in the context of femdom I as her sub can give her the confidence and reassurance that she needs to get outside her comfort zone a little and explore more.

Any advice would be appreciated.

First off I like this coworker but I don’t talk to her alot so idk why I had this dream of her if that makes sense, she’s really pretty and goes to my college rivals but idk why I had this dream, anyways here’s the scene. I woke up laying down on my couch in the dark watching tv and she was next to me watching the tv as well, she got up and circled me to drag me into her lap. She kept dragging me up and playing with my hair which I love sm! She cupped my face and started woofing and asking me to be a good boy and bark which I did I was in a trance until I woke up on the couch and went to bed lol.

This post it a kind lf continuation of this (https://www.reddit.com/r/gentlefemdom/s/ir5MIEL6XH) post, tldr I wanted to start being punished but I just can't bring myself to be bad.

I spoke about it with my domme last night, and she immediately jumped at the idea! She laid a few rules, no more touching with my hands, no cumming until she says so, and the only way I can even try to pleasure myself is by lying ln my stomach, and humping my bed/ pillow.

Last night we started this, and already I'm harder than I've been in the past month, I've never gone no touch when i've been able to have naughty time.

I'm just so happy that she was so ready for the idea, i'm a good boy and she has loaded me with praise since I asked her to punish me, I can only think of her anymore, and even while typing this I've been tempted three times to just put a hand on my dick, even just to feel the warmth.

Anyway thank you for giving me your time, I'm so happy that things have gone this way, I'm going back to humping my bed now, because if I don't i'm gonna end up touching myself on instinct.