Hello, I am 31M and I would like to find a fetish mistress or a girl that could be interested on doing finding and feetdom content for online platform. Is there any girl in Barcelona area open to it? Thank you!

So I have a lot of fantasies and ideas about wanting to domme a guy I'm dating. Ideally I would get to know a guy, then find out he's into it too. I want there to be an emotional bond, for him to want me as a person first and that seems to be hard to find? Years ago I did briefly date a guy that was really enthusiastic about it but I'm really shy so I don't quite know how to domme while feeling like that. I did take charge in the leading up but when the clothes came off I got really insecure. I get insecure about a lot of things, my body, if I'm good enough, if he will like me. I knew he wanted me to be confident and not feeling it just made it worse. He was waiting for me to take the lead and not having any handholds I felt like I didn't know what to do anymore. So I chickened out and never did any of the things I wanted. I know it's all just trauma response blocking my personality. It's so rare to meet a guy who is into it in the wild so I always regretted it and I wonder what I can do to make it better. I'd really love to let the dominant side of me out without it clashing with all my insecurities.

Since I found about Femdom and Female led relationships, it feels as though the online content isn’t made for me. It’s clearly made for the viewpoint of a man and doesn’t excite me to watch really. Even impact scenes, it’s like I’m only excited if I’m the one doing it, not watching someone else perform the scene. Also as someone who enjoys seeing masculine men acting submissive or in bondage, the only place I see it celebrated is in gay bdsm and femdom literature written by other Dommes. So much of femdom content leads to sissies or feminization. (which I’m not yucking anybody’s yum it’s just not my cup of tea) I want to watch a masculine man being submissive while maintaining his masculinity. I don’t need the reversal of gender roles to feel like the dominant one. I don’t see my dominance as “acting like a man” and I don’t see subs as “being a girl” I’ve always felt the way gay men discussing their attraction to men related more to the way I desired submissive men which has led me to enjoying gay porn.

Any other Dommes with a similar experience?

So me and my husband haven’t been sexually active in years at this point. He knows he’s inadequate and boring, and I know he is very comfortable with sitting and watching me get exhausted from the action. However even the cucking aspect has been neglected for a while, for months he didn’t even see me naked but I decided to change that up last weekend. I have two submissive cub boyfriends that I am extremely sexually actively with, to the point that they’ve both been inside me more times than my actual husband, and I brought them to my house for us all to cuck my husband together. They so excited and enthusiastic they love trying new things, I’ve mentioned my husband’s tendencies to them before but this was their first time actually being involved in it all.

We got started like we usually do, I uncage them and play with their dicks and balls while they kissed each other. They were so full and hung I got wet right away, they had been caged for three days straight. We got started before my husband got home from work, but he ended up arriving pretty early in our session. My boys called me mommy in front of him, I pegged them, they fucked me back, much much harder than usual since someone was watching them this time. They double penetrated me and kept switching between my holes. I would loudly tell them how good they are at fucking, better than my husband, etc. I drained their balls sooo good while my husband jerked off and made a mess all over himself. We drank up each other’s cum like a sweet treat. Us three showered together, I dropped them off at home, and went back home and fell right asleep, it was such a good night :3

I have recently connected with a service sub and we will have our first dom/sub meeting this week. He enjoys completing chores and giving foot massages. Sex is completely off the table. I am very new to being dominant and would like some tips on how to set up our time together to make it enjoyable for us both.