44 Male, athletic/fit / poly / open / ENM partnered

7 years experience as a Dom and switch across a number of different dynamics.

5’11, 175lb, green eyes, soft lips, nice smile. College educated. Steady heart and mind, predictable, warm.

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To me, power exchange through bdsm is simply a way to create intense intimacy through mutual trust and care. The intense bonds, amazing sensations, and blissed out mental states it can create are deeply freeing and satisfying.

Partners would describe me as an empathetic and caring soul who loves the safe, sane exploration of human vulnerability, helplessness, pain, pleasure, and trust.

I enjoy deep contrasts: darker, helpless places on one end, and gentle, loving care on the other. I am extremely sensual, affectionate and playful. I absolutely love primal, physical, body-on-body play. While I do enjoy and welcome casual pick-up play with warm spirits at events or even 1-1 occasional play, I prefer sexually powered connections with a lot of chemistry that build trust and intimacy over time.

My personality contains a warm mix of primal energy, Daddy care and affection, and sadistic intensity and power. I live my life with warm caring energy and let my darker sides free only in sexual play. I care deeply for all of my partners and their care, safety, and happiness are the most important elements of play to me.

I like using my body and hands; nipping, holding down, spanking, kissing, cuddling, fucking. I like letting my inner lustful urges free to enjoy a beautiful, bound body. I have extensive experience with safe electrosex / electric pain play.

I have a lot of experience pushing a sub to her limits and into deep subspace if she enjoys or wants to explore that intensity and those tender, special spaces. I enjoy darker psychological areas of extreme helplessness such as interrogation / prisoner role play. Also being a switch I have experienced nearly everything I inflict, and it gives me a great appreciation for the experience of my partner. Note that I do enjoy less intense, sensual dynamics too.

Send me a message if you interested in exploring :)

Hi there! Firstly, thanks so much for reading my post - I'm glad it caught your attention. To start, a bit about who I am in the nonkinky world. Like the title says, I'm 27 years old. I live in the DMV area and when I'm not working you can often find me spending time with friends, binging reality TV, exploring new bars or restaurants in the city, or with my family in the area! My happy place is a longish car ride down the highway with music blasting and just getting lost in my own thoughts - its a great way to decompress from the day to day stressors of the world (in my experience). Otherwise I'm watching whatever new movie is on Netflix or if its Sunday...football :)

So who am I looking for and why am I posting? Well I'm very much interested in meeting other like-minded people with an interest in exploring a kink-filled dynamic. That can mean a lot of different things I understand. Overall I'm looking for someone relatively close in age who is interested in mostly in-person play. I'm definitely not opposed to online/ IRL dynamics so long as that's an option that suits both of us. Sidenote, I think the possibility of extended weekend-long + play would be extremely fun as we cooperate on a scene.

As an individual I'm really looking for someone who is confident and communicative in what they want. That doesn't mean someone who necessarily knows everything they want, but someone who is genuinely interested in exploring a d/s oriented relationship through either longterm or shorterm play. 2nd sidenote, if 24/7 or more consistent dynamic was a possibility and made sense - I'd be really curious to explore that as well.

If you've read this far and are still interested - I can't wait to talk more.

The kinky me: I've have had a few partners over the years who have shared a variety interests with me. Over that time I've learned a bit about myself and truthfully have so much more to explore. As a sub I very much enjoy protocol where possible. I enjoy worshipping my domme and every inch of her when afforded the opportunity. I melt at her confidence and command and very much appreciate sternness as well praise. Specific activities have included: light bondage, choking, strapon worship, anal plug + vibrator play, tease and denial, chastity, blindfolds, slapping, spanking, and CEI.

Things I would love to explore given the opportunity: heavier bondage, hoods + sensory deprivation play, latex, leather, anal training, extended play (24+ hours), protocol and obedience training. In an absolutely ideal scenario we could engage in regimented training program in order to exactly attune myself to your desires. Like I said, I know there is much more to learn and explore but I hope that gives you somewhat of a better picture of myself.

To be literal from the above - I'm roughly 5 foot 10 with dirty blonde hair, a beard, and a very thin build. Understanding that mutual attraction is important I hope we could exchange photos eventually as we get to know each other.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post. I hope you reach out at your convenience should we be a potentially good fit

Hello! We’re a kinky couple excited to share some memorable evenings with a like-minded individual.

US

Me: A 30-year-old male, 6 feet tall with brown eyes and hair. My interests span from the latest movies and video games to discussions about history and news. I value education and am always keen to learn and share.

She: A lively 23-year-old with a fit, petite figure, bright blond hair, and sparkling blue eyes. She enjoys singing to Taylor Swift, crocheting, binge-watching Disney+ (has memorized every line of Revenge of the Sith) and savoring a good cocktail.

I am her dominant, and she is my submissive. Our key values are communication and openness; we aim to enjoy this journey together without any pressure. Whether you are experienced or curious to explore kink for the first time, we’re excited to learn and discover together.

KINKS

We enjoy spanking, paddles, whips, and flogs. We also loved forced orgasms and have toys like a sybian a fucking machine as well as various bondage furniture, and even a violet wand, for those of you who want to try out electrical play.

Who Were Seeking

We’re looking for a woman who is thin to normal (sorry no overweight folks, just not what were attracted to) and curious about joining us for an unforgettable adventure.

Whether you’re new to the world of kink or looking to integrate your desires into our dynamic, we’re open to exploring together.

Lets meet, dinner on us

An ideal evening might start with a casual meet-up at a trendy bar or restaurant with zero expectations. If the night does evolve into a night of play and exploration, we will always prioritize mutual consent, communication, and make sure you have the time of your life.

If you feel a spark of interest, we’d love to hear from you. Let’s begin a conversation and see where this enchanting path leads us.

All the best!

I'm 32, from New York City, I'm a big nerd. I truly love talking and I find if I can enjoy talking to you without sex, I will be so much me. I'm a bigger guy and working on it. I quit my job recently because of burnt out and have met up with someone online friends actually so that's been great. But eh, you know, sometimes you just wanna flirt or more right?

I am single and open to whatever as long as the connection is there. Honestly, I just love talking, I miss having a special connection with someone. It's seriously my favorite thing. I want to sit at a bar and talk for hours. I want to take an edible and cuddle and talk. I want to talk and cuddle after having slept together. Boundaries are very important. Idk if that sounds dumb lol. Single dude who’s open to whatever as long as the connection is there.

• No kids, never want any but I do love my nieces and I'm generally fine around children
• I like talking. I like getting to know someone, their history, what makes them, them.
• I have a 14-year-old cat who's the bossiest guy ever
• I've been working on losing weight and have a very long way to go!
• Social drinker myself
• Liberal/Progressive and vaccinated.

As for more kink related...just some stuff I'm into. I am dominant, I like a submissive woman but it is something I prefer to keep in the bedroom rather than make it our whole lifestyles but...I have enjoyed it in both aspects so I guess it depends on the connection with the person, you know? I like to cuddle, I like to control your body consensually, reward, touch, kiss, and all that good stuff. As for what else I want in just a partner, I don't know, hard to say. I like a talkative person, I like to touch so hopefully you do too. I don't care what you do for a living and ideally, you're close to New York City but if meeting is a serious possibility than I'm more than willing to talk.

• Creampie/breeding
• DRY ANR/breast worship
• Face fucking
• Free use
• Spanking
• Light bondage
• Light pain
• D/s
• Cock warming

Things I can't/won't do

• Scat/piss
• DDlg
• Anything with age play

If you’re up for talking please send a message and selfie! And sorry but I will not respond to simple one word messages. Please send a real introduction

Hii everybody!!

Let me paint you a picture. After a long day of work, you come home tired, a little sapped of energy, and in desperate need of some food and comfort. As you open the door, there I am. Your perfect partner and submissive, ready to give you all the affection, comfort, and care that you need, whether that's a massage, a home cooked meal, or something a little more... risque... remains to be seen. We can talk about our days, laugh, enjoy each others company, and maybe also make a little room for some kink. You and I have spent plenty of time growing into each other; with your guidance and my eagerness, I've transformed from a blank canvas into a sub that is perfectly tailored to you and your wants, and you've become the person of my dreams.

Whew, glad that caught your attention, it was dicey there for a second wasn't it. Anyways, I'm in the market for a lovely dom/partner, someone who I can grow into the best version of myself with! I am, as the title says, pretty inexperienced in the world of kink and BDSM, but I'm hoping that will change very soon :).

You should probably know a bit more about what you're buying first, though. I'm a college senior studying History and soon to be actual adult [very stressful but I'll survive ;)], former varsity athlete, and hopefully competent if infrequently motivated artist. Some of my favorite things are medieval history, Star Wars/other Sci-Fi projects, and cuddling <3. I'm trans (pre-hrt unfortunately), and have begun to socially transition at school (yippee) which has been super exciting but also a bit anxiety-inducing too. Kink-wise, I lean very heavily towards submission and I am a natural people pleaser, for better or for worse. I haven't had the opportunity to explore much, but the little I have done has definitely got me excited by what I might get to experience next!

What I'm looking for from you! You should have a kind heart and genuine compassion for people. Ideally, you're fairly experienced in the kink world, and are excited by the prospect of introducing/guiding me through it. I respond much more to praise than humiliation/degradation, so if you lean more that way yourself that would be a plus :). I also see this relationship/dynamic as something that might transcend just kink, so if you're a romantic soul I'd love to hear from you <3.

Disclaimers: Online-only stuff tends to fizzle out quickly for me (my love language is physical touch lol), so I would love it if you were located relatively close to me. No hard limits, but I would loveee to meet up :). Also, while everyone is certainly welcome to dm me, I do have a preference for women (butch/femme) or feminine-leaning people, so if that's you you jump straight to the front of the line <3.

If I've caught your attention, I'd love a dm! Also, if you could include your favorite animal emoji somewhere in your text to show me you've read all this, I would really appreciate it <3

Kinks: praise, appearance/wardrobe control, body-writing, feminization, hypnosis, spit, cumplay

Curious but haven’t tried: bondage, light masochism, watersports, abdl, chastity

Limits: gore, illegal, CBT, vomit, heavy/lots of anal (I have ibs ://), homo/transphobia + raceplay + etc

Happy Tuesday! Just like the title says I'm 36, fit, drug & disease free, 6ft tall, white, and looking for an ongoing sub.

Not here to change any situation and can be discreet if needed. I can host, travel, meet at a hotel, etc. Send me a message and pic!

47 [M4F] #Orlando Florida Dom Daddy 6’3 250 lbs Athletic Dad Bod looking for sub to train. Must be clean 18-60 shaved have pedicure and manicure like to ware heels in public and dress in bdsm outfits horsey and sub outfits. I have a trainer outfit and whip and other outfits to put on.

Hello I never know how to start these.. I am very adhd and dyslexic. So if you can't handle spelling mistakes or poor grammar I am not for you.

I dream about being a father and opening my own business. I am looking for my little helper, my passanger princess, my life partner. I am the man of the house and always have the final say. I will take care of you, protect you, guide you, and love you. I need a woman, who wants to stay at home with the kids and can handle a lot of attention and cuddles.

About me

I have a lot of intrests. I really enjoy needing out about fantasy and sifi, but love to build and work with my hands. I can take a car apart and put it back together. I can move walls around and remodel a house. My biggest interest is electrical theory and electrical engineering. My best skills are wood working and electrical. I am very good at diy projects. Not much of a truck guy or car guy. i don't hunt or fish. I spend most of my time reading. I like to read mostly fantasy, non fiction and self help books. I love self improvement. I read fantasy because it gives situations that challenge my ideals, self help books give me a better grasp on myself and improve my emotional maturity, and non fiction let's me understand the world we live in. I always strive to hold my self a higher standard and act how I want everyone to act. I don't lie, I work hard, I am considerate and kind, and help those in need. I care about lot about health and work out regularly

In a realtionship my partner is my everything. I like to take care of her. Realtionships take work and that requires both people striving to make each other happy and helping each other. Physical appearance 5,11 athletic and toned build with a beard. I hate body builder look. I like toned and muscular.

Kink I have 10 years of experience with kink. I have performed shows at events, been part of private clubs and been in different dynamics with diffrent partners. Every dynamic is going to be unique and change over time. I am looking for someone who wants are dynamic to be build into our Realtionship. Not a 24/7 control. Just little stuff that is always in the background, a secret that we can see but is invisible to everyone else. In the bed room I am a pleasure dom, I like to make my partner struggle while she cums her brains out. I also find breeding dirty talk super hot. My list Sensory deprivation, predicament bondage, toys, rough sex, roleplay, outfits, ddlg, pet play, pain play, degradation, latex, masks, face fucking, breath control, musk, spit, sweat and giving head. Won't do I don't change adult diapers, not looking someone who needs little space, i won't call you names(generic dirty talk excluded slut, bitch, ect), extreme pain, extreme cnc, extreme chocking, scat, ass to mouth, anything illegal or that causes permanent damage

I don't take any partner that I can find. I am looking for someone to be the mother of children. That is a high standard. If your intrested in my post, please respond with what you liked about my post and your asl. I will ask for a verification pic.

Hey there! So I'll keep this brief, and we can chat a bit if you care to DM me. I have always enjoyed other peoples pleasure, and I would like to enjoy you and yours. Maybe that means you get to cum a lot, maybe that means you get to edge more and more, maybe that means something different. Regardless, I have a good deal of experience helping others on here find that fun. The more toys, the better, but none required!

Things I like: Orgasm Control, Edging, Denial, Orgasm Abuse, Vibrators, Toys, Bondage, Sub/Dom, etc.

Things I don't: Toilet play, extreme pain, blackmail, etc.

I'm also fairly nerdy (I am an engineer by day) and fit (I live somewhere where I can and do hike a ton).

I look forward to hearing from you! :)

I am an 18 year old sub from the USA looking for an online relationship. I want a dom that will make me their personal toy and use me as they see fit. My kinks are degradation, humiliation, pain, punishment, abuse, CNC, free use, and body worship. My limits are piss/scat and blood. I’m 5’8 and white with brown hair.

I’m a 19 year old male currently going to school in Alabama. I am located in Opelika and I’m looking for a domme to worship and make me her sub.

I’m inexperienced but willing to learn

A little about me:
19 years old Skinny white male
150lbs
~5’11”

I’m super into face sitting, JOI, praise, humiliation, degradation, orgasm control/denial, and I love eating pussy.

My limits are pain, permanent marks, blood, piss/scat, anything illegal, and anal is a soft limit, but I would need to get to know my domme before I did any anal.

I CANNOT host but I am willing to travel a little bit and I am open to car play.
I would prefer an in person dynamic but online is ok as well.

If any of this interests you, please feel free to DM me as they’re always open.

Introduction

Hello everyone! Fair warning this is going to be a fairly long ad so if you don’t feel like reading or are not serious I’m not for you. So let’s start with a little about myself first. I’m 31 years old, 6 '0 , around 220 pounds and located on the east coast of the United States. Some things I enjoy are sports (American Football, Hockey, and some Baseball). Video games (mostly things where I can relax and get away from the stress of the day). Working out (mostly weight lifting and cardio). I like to enjoy different Anime shows and modern television and movies as well when I have time. 

In relation to kink based interests I have quite a few and have a very high sex drive which may make me too kinky for some people. If that is the case no worries but I’d like to be up front before anyone wastes time figuring it out down the road.

I have a romantic partner who I live with so none of this is romantic for me. Pure kink fun 😉 

I will note that these are fluid and can be added to as we discover more about ourselves. These are just a few and this list is ever expanding as well. I will include my results from bdsmtest.org to help give an indication of my interests.

BDSMTest Results 📋

100% Rope bunny

96% Submissive

89% Masochist

88% Primal (Prey)

82% Degradee

70% Experimentalist

69% Brat

68% Voyeur

67% Switch

66% Slave

53% Pet

51% Non-monogamist

35% Exhibitionist

30% Vanilla

0% Ageplayer

0% Little

Kinks/Interests

• Control
• Bondage
• CNC (Consensual Non-Consent)
• Degradation 
• CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)
• Discipline
• Orgasm Denial
• Edging
• Chastity
• Anal

Limits

• Watersports/Scat
• Body Modification
• Illegal
• Public
• Exposure 

Toy List

Lovense Hush 2 1 inch plug

Lovense nipple clamps

Lovense Gush

Lovense Domi Wand

Lovense Edge

Lovense Lush 3

Bed Restraints Kit

• Comes with ankle cuffs, wrist cuffs, connecters, straps for bed

Padded blindfold

Plastic mouth gag

Penis ball gag

Kink3d Chastity Cage

Small Regular jeweled butt plug

Lovense Solace

Lovense Diamo

Straps to hold chastity cage in place

Cheap Suction based dildo

I’m completely open to getting preferred toys and things as we build trust over time 😀

Desired Partner

Trust is the most important thing to me in relationships. Knowing you can trust someone I feel makes the whole experience that much more enriching. I’m interested in a Mistress/Master/Dom (Whichever title you prefer) that is serious about this and interested in building long term.

In terms of personality I am looking for a naturally dominant person. I’d like this person who can be a friend at times while being able to enforce their strictness at other times. They should have no problem putting me in my place if they feel it's needed. 

Communication will be very key for this. I am usually available off and on throughout the day for chatting.

Women/Mistresses are preferred but completely open to others as well 😀

What I’m looking for

If you’ve read this far I applaud you 👏 I want to provide as much detail as possible so as not to waste anyone's time. I’d like for you to start with as much information up front as I can think of now. 

Certain things would be of interest to me such as daily tasks, task tracking in obedience apps or something similar. Training me to conform more and more to what you like is of interest to me as you take more and more control (as much as online allows - open to creative ways of you taking control). 

Intensive sessions where available could be done depending on timing for both of us. I want to be truly broken and built back up how you would like (again within reason). I might be too kinky for some people 😂

To conclude a few notes so we are both on the same page:

1. I’m not interested in FinDom or paying professionals.
2. I do not plan to show my face until we have built up an extreme amount of trust. Can never be too careful on the internet.
3. I’m open to different parts being negotiated as things go as well.
4. EST Time zone is preferred but any US based timezone can work for me.

🎉 How to apply:

Send me why you are interested and how you think we could be a good fit. The response should be a couple sentences at a minimum. The more interesting and creative responses are more likely to get replies.

If you have any further questions please feel free to message me as well. Thank you for reading and I look forward to hearing from everyone 😊

I want to know the deepest hidden parts of you. You promise to put your orgasm on the line trying to win. If you don't make it you promise not to cum for the next 24 hours.

You get three failures, 'lives' in a video game sense. If you run out, you have one retry where you must do one incredibly challenging thing fitting in the theme. You must make it through 50 personal questions, starting from benign to the deepest part of your sexual desires. Lose one chance when you don't answer with sufficient information.

Along the way we'll have gambles, where you could complete a task and get closer to your goal, or fail to and get further away.

You get to know me by the questions I ask and where I take it. I get to know you from your detailed, revealing answers. Let’s start with you telling me what’s off limits to ask about, and if you want to do this with text, voice or video call. I also greatly enjoy voice memos. If you say "nothing" off limits, it shows me you aren't serious. There is also a 90 minute rule, which we can discuss.

Additionally, there is another game within we can play. If I discover something sexual about you that nobody knows, I win a prize from a menu of options you provide.

Do note that this is not a role play, it’s a conversation between real people. A way to meet and make friends with actual people. The more real you are, the more interesting you are. Please don’t waste each others time

I'm looking for someone who wants a longer term dom/sub relationship. Getting to know each other helps me push your boundaries and keeps things fun. I expect we'll talk about our day in between the fun. Talking sex all day gets boring, doesn't it?

Things I want to do to you: choosing what you wear, giving you tasks to do, controlling your orgasm, some degrading talk. Nothing too rough and definitely no bathroom stuff. If you have a remote vibe that's a big bonus.

I'm generally light hearted and easy going. I have many interests especially travel and cooking. I’m sure we can make a connection outside of kink. I’m in shape with a bit of a dad bod.

Looking forward to your chat.

I'm a pretty soft and sensitive boy, generally very submissive, I'll do as I'm told and I'm as loyal as a puppy, I get very clingy and obsessive very quickly however so fair warning 😅 I'm also going through a breakup after being cheated on with two guys for the past 6 months so to say I'm very depressed right now would be an understatement 🥹 I just want to feel like I belong, to feel wanted and desired and loved, and I want to make somebody else feel those things as well as I have a lot of love to give 🫶

So if anyone hears interested in a actual relationship with somebody who will do anything you want and essentially be a sIave lol, please DM me anytime! Thank you 🥹

Hello all! I'm a daddy looking for his little. A little about me: I'm 5 ft 10 in tall, I've been a daddy for 7 years, I go to the gym daily and work full time from home. I love to travel and hang out with friends as well as be outdoors. I'm an avid paddle boarder and hiker. I have a lovely big dutch shepard for a dog. Professionally I'm a senior cloud engineer and cloud architect for a very nice company that fundraiser for many things including animal welfare, advancements in to cancer study, and more. I make around 175k a year, own my house outright and am looking in to getting a nicer car. I'm defiently willing to travel for the right person or pay for them to travel to me.

About me as a daddy: I'm a softer daddy and open to training a new little. I'm a pleasure dom in bed. I love ropes, restraint, and other things. Just because im a soft dom doesn't mean I won't make my little adhere to rules and push them when they don't.

If you have any questions please ask! Have a good day. Thanks!

Skinny bi generally masc in my day life, albeit soft and submissive in personal relationships. I recently moved to Florida and decided to go back to college, while I work with marijuana in the meantime. I'm a nerdy computer geek with a lot of anxiety and even more kinky fantasies. I'd love to find someone local but understand the odds of the right person also being close is a dream.

I've always been submissive, being told exactly how to make someone happy turns me on more than anything. The only thing that comes close is when someone plays with my ass. The feeling of someone stretching you open and just melting at their touch. Then I found a new excitement when a girlfriend left a pair of her panties at my place and they "vanished". Something about a tight pair of panties spreading my ass and attempting to contain my ever growing erection was so enticing. After years, with a few peaks but no action towards my next kink; I finally took the step. The other day I bought my first chastity cage (Locked in lust, Vice min v2).

I was so excited to finally have a cage, I wore it the rest of the day but took it off to go to sleep. The next morning I woke up and was excited to get back in my cage and wore it while I did my homework for the week. I was having a blast, ended up finishing the night drinking while playing with my locked clit. The next morning I awoke hung-over, locked, and running late for work. I franticly searched for my keys; hoping I could get out of my cage, changed, and rush to work in time. None of the clothes I wore yesterday have a key in the pocket.... "Fuck". Now panicking I throw on some clean clothes and start grabbing my stuff, "Where are my keys... probably on the desk.". I rush out, handfuls of miscellaneous items, "Fuck...". I finally realize, I can either search for my keys or get to work on time.

When I finally got home, having been locked all day, I found my keys almost immediately. For some reason tho I no longer had a desire to unlock my cage. Now I can't stop thinking about having someone actually in control of my keys. Even thinking about combing my cage with any of my other toys is making me crazy. I can't stop thinking about someone feminizing me and turning me into a perfect little sissy.

https://imgur.com/K19VxcH

If you're here you're probably interested in having a dynamic just like that and in this post I want to go through some of the points I consider important to keep in mind at first, in order to have a better idea of who I am.

One common misconception when people read that I am a gentle Dom is considering this style as not strict enough, but let me say it is not the case. I generally do not like labels but totally see myself as someone who loves obedience and sense of ownership towards my partner. Things that I want to achieve through some agreed on, healthy and playful rules. I can crave control while being a caring person that likes to check up on you often during the day and gladly supporting you when you need to vent. Being here in a BDSM forum does not mean I just crave sex, the personal side of this should be as important.

It is also important to point out why I am doing this online. Of all I should mention that online does not mean a side thing nor less meaningful. It is just easier. If you have faced bigotry or hypocrisy you know how these things go: people ro not accept or show their interest for sex related stuff so easily but online, connecting with like-minded kinksters is not that big of a deal.

Over my many years of experience as a Dom I've started to dislike the word expectations when it comes to this world. When approaching me, you are not about to face or check a list of 'things I expect from the perfect sub' because this goes entirely against my perception of genuine. As I'm writing my only goal is to summon some interest and have a conversation, finding out about common interests, chemistry and mutual attraction between two people, without starting off with roles. But I absolutely love a good banter and having a laugh, you should definitely start off with a dad joke or a cheesy pick up line!

Last but not least, let me go through some of my kinks real quick so that even sexually you have an idea of who I am. I am gentle and respectful even in bed but definitely have a slightly sadistic vein within myself. Light impact play, light pain in any form are huge turn on, as well as mixing praising and degrading (good girl/dirty slut kind of). Anal, cum play, lingerie, dressing and DDLG are all things I'm interested in but not fundamental to involve.

As I said before, if this got you wondering about me, don't hesitate to get in touch. I'll be waiting.

Hi hi, I’m Skye. I work a lot and my work life is very dominant. Sadly, I never get to express my submissive side. Work has been very stressful recently and I have had to be more dominant than usual which has caused me even more stress since I am inherently submissive. I also sorta have an addiction to touching myself so I need someone in control……if you are into orgasm control and maybe controlling a needy boy, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Hope to hear from you!

We’re a dominant married couple who thrive on control, creativity, and pushing limits. We’re looking for someone (or a submissive couple) eager to surrender completely—a submissive who craves structure, thrives on accountability, and gets off on being molded to our desires.

He (42) is an experienced Dom who lives for reshaping submissives, whether through intense degradation, humiliating games, or strict behavioral control. He’s the sadist who will break you down and rebuild you into exactly what we want. She (34) is his wife, co-Dom, and enforcer. You’ll submit to her as much as to him, and you’ll learn quickly that she doesn’t tolerate disobedience. Together, we create a layered dynamic designed to consume you fully.

Outside of dynamics, we travel often, climb, and dive—we don’t just push boundaries in kink, but in life. We expect excellence from our submissives in and out of play. If you thrive under structure and accountability, you’ll find mentorship here that extends beyond kink.

We want a submissive who:

• Is 21 years old or older.

• Obeys without question and thrives on discipline.

• Craves degradation and emotional masochism—you’ll feel small, used, and exactly where you belong.

• Enjoys being trained, shaped, and challenged—whether satisfying our sexual whims, enduring denial, or serving us non-sexually. (Financial domination is not part of our dynamic.)

• Is bisexual or wanting to explore bisexuality through training.

• Is ready to serve both of us, contributing practically and sexually to our lives.

Kink Interests:

Degradation, humiliation, orgasm denial, edging, behavioral training, bimboification, voyeurism, domestic servitude, bondage, sadism, spanking, slapping, hole training, exhibitionism (tribute posts, public acknowledgment).

Limits:

Blood, scat, urine, needles, animals, extreme body modifications, financial domination, age play beneath 21.

This isn’t about one-off scenes or casual play for us. We’re here to take control, train you thoroughly, and ensure you know your place beneath us. You’ll report back on tasks, send proof of progress (photos, videos, and eventually video calls), and embrace the privilege of being part of our world.

If this sounds like what you’ve been craving, send us a message. Tell us about yourself—your kinks, limits, and why you want to serve us. Be thoughtful and honest; shallow messages won’t cut it.

Are you ready to surrender completely?

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Looking for another girl to share my cock with my girl at our place

We have more content and info about ourselves in our profile

We can host!

We can pick you up!

We love going out to raves and partying!

We love taking content (pics and videos)!

Hit us up if you’re interested, please be respectful of my relationship with my girl and everything will be fine! Thank you

Hey all,

Made a few posts on this subreddit, perhaps you’ve seen them! To start, I’m 24 years old, about 5’6, average looking weight, with light brown skin. I’ve had an interest in older women and the gentle mommydom kink for a while at this point, but haven’t had the opportunity yet to experience it in person ;)

Regarding what I’m looking for, I’m seeking an older woman who shares a similar interest in this kink. I’m not exactly seeking sex right away, as I’ve been sexually inactive for over a year and would like to get tested beforehand. That being said, I would definitely be interested in that at a later point ;) I suppose I’m looking more for some casual fun with making out, cuddling, and perhaps make things a little spicier as well? (Kissing and sucking tits, mutual masturbation, etc.)

Please reach out if you find yourself having any interest in this! Been seeking an experience with an older woman for some time now, and if we hit it off in the chat, hopefully we can have a mutually beneficial experience ;) Please be 20+ in age if reaching out. I’ll also ask to trade SFW pics in our conversation to see if the attraction is mutual.

About me: Before we start, I should introduce myself. I'm a 28yo Dom from Guatemala, I have a career and a master’s degree. I really take pride in staying fit and continuously learning new things. I have tons of online experience with multiple submissives and slaves over the years. Kink wise, I am primarily interested in degradation, humiliation, tasks, spanking, edging, pet play, anal play, outfit control and clothes swapping/stealing. With that being said, I'm more than willing to explore the kinks you're into, since I believe a D/s relationship should be a mutually fulfilling relationship. About you: If you've read this far and are still interested, chances are you just want to turn you into a complete object for me. You want the type of relationship where I take everything away from you. You just want to be a toy for me to use when I’m bored and always craving my attention. You want to be used for hours, degraded and humiliated, and left wanting more. You want me to control in your life and want me to restrict you in the way you speak, eat, dress and live. You want to feel like you have no control over your life, and someone above you is taking all the right decisions for you. Don't be scared though. Your pathetically boring vanilla life would be just fine. You would still be the respected person you pretend to be. But behind those closed doors, you would be who you truly are - a depraved slut who craves to be controlled, humiliated, degraded and someone who's just a toy for someone else enjoyment. Message me if you are interested, and we can discuss about details and limits. I am a very reasonable person, a good listener, caring, strict and a good communicator, so I'll help you see what you truly want in vivid details and reach an arrangement we're both satisfied with. As for the duration of our relation, I'm fine with both long-term and short-term. If you would like to get to know me before jumping into anything, that's definitely fine with me as well. Experience is not required. Pictures, no face, are a must

Hello all. I’m a 17+ year experienced Primal Dom. I excel at delivering unique existential moments and memories for the both of us. I’m just as much a people pleaser as most subs, however I do this while maintaining and not relinquishing control. I understand how important the need of giving up control is to a submissive, but not to just anyone. It’s earned, enthusiastically consensual, and something that both people respect to their core. I’m a deeply romantic person and prefer a strong emotional and mental connection with my partner/sub.

In terms of dynamic. I’m a big fan of equal in relationship, but not dynamic. I like knowing my partner can communicate and mediate their needs and words. If TPE is your thing, I’m okay with it, so long as you communicate your needs to me. My kinks are:

Breeding - I want every last drop in your body, I don’t care where. This is your first task. Do not forget this.

Praise - I love to genuinely praise, no patronizing. I will notice your existence and listen to every word you say. I want someone who’s exciting to hear my words of inspiring and affirmation.

Anal - it just feels so damned good. I know how to cause orgasms through anal stimulation to my partner. I know exactly where the other end of the clit is located and how to stimulate it. I don’t hurt here either. I know exactly how to please without pain here. Come be my back door lover sometimes.

DDLG/CGL - I’ve had experience in this style as well. I don’t mind if this is your preference.

I’d love to know who you are. What’s your day to day lifestyle like? What are your kinks? Age and location too obviously. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Message me if you’re ready to be a cum filled princess; who’s ready to take my seed inside her tight holes again and again.

Hii,

I'm making this with the intention of finding a caregiver/ dominant

I suck at writing these which is probably why I’m still looking so bear with me!

So starting off I’ll start with a little about myself: I don’t have my life together (ewww right) But I stay productive I game(I play games like:house flipper 1&2,animal crossing,Disney dreamlight valley,Call Of Duty,and some retro stuff) I read,I journal(keep that mind healthy folks),I crochet(well attempt to 🤣),and I enjoy art(drawing and digital)and books(mostly smut but some spiritual stuff{cause I’m spiritual}if your also spiritual or just like books i definitely recommend reading The Four Agreements.Im also very 420 friendly and I’m a guinea pig momma.Anyway moving on from the stuff you probably find boring.

A little about what I’m looking for: Welllllll……I’m look for a man,woman,or both just someone who actually is serious about the lifestyle.I prefer someone who’s over 24 and under 40.And I am looking for someone who’s genuinely patient and can deal with tantrums and like rule breaking and button pushing (ya know what keeps it fun.Be fun😉) I’m looking for something eventually involving some sort of TPE dynamic.Also please share some hobbies and have your playlists ready because I’m gonna ask what kinda music ya dig.Because going on about me again(I love talking about myself)I LOVE MUSIC and I listen to bands most 21 year olds probably have never listened to in their life.And for kinks I’m into a lot but I’m not telling you until I feel comfortable so if you wanna get to know me feel free to dm your zodiac sign if you don’t I’m deleting your message .

Anywayyyy Stay chill folks ✌️

Things have been really stressful at work lately, so I am hoping to find someone who would be willing to let me stop by, atleast once a week, on my way to work. This would initially start with me just using your mouth or sitting back and having you service me. However, I would be willing to do more if the first few times go well. I hope to hear from you soon!

23 [M4M] # USA new York - (I am a submissive top looking for a dominant bottom or femboy )

I am a submissive top , muscular, manly Half italian half swidish , I love being tied up , gagged, blindfolded, being used like a dildo , many more things Almost no limits and into everything kinky no matter how extreme or vanilla

I am very into pleasing others people , it’s like it’s my purpose in life , sexually and otherwise I love having no choice and I love having no control over my self and my mind

Can you introduce yourself?

I'm 34, in San Francisco. Gainfully employed, great health insurance coverage, white wine over red wine until the white wine is gone. About nine years of BDSM experience. Based in San Francisco and looking for something in-person - my schedule is pretty flexible and I generally travel a lot so I'm open to other cities if we click.

What kind of Dom are you?

I would say that like many things in life, I don't fall neatly into one category. For one, I do exhibit certain elements of what one may consider a Gentle Dom, because I pay particular attention to someone's needs and am very giving in that sense. On the other hand, just to provide an example, I love impact play, and the best part of it is the reminder the next day.

Do let me know if you have a way to categorize someone very giving who does not hesitate to slap you around the bedroom.

How do I know that you are the real deal?

That is my responsibility to show you. Some people find comfort in reassuring words, others will proclaim that actions speak louder than words.

Above all, I am an open book in many ways and will answer and consider your questions thoughtfully. My commitment is that I will provide the space for you to explore and probe during our conversations without judgment or defensiveness.

Dominating someone does not mean that you are not allowed to ask questions or that you must blindly follow directions. You are allowed to ask, you are allowed to understand, and you are allowed to question if it does not feel right to you. Submission is earned and it is my responsibility to earn that.That sounds submissive of you.

Dominance and submission are not synonyms for receiving and giving. I have sometimes been questioned whether my desire to please a submissive isn't sign of submission itself - to which I usually reply that it's an exchange, and pleasing someone isn't the domain of only one person. Dominance and submission are not synonyms for receiving and giving - although at the end of the day, if someone wants to interpret it as such, I have no qualms with it, but we're likely not going to be a good match.

What qualities do you value in a sub?

I wish this was as easy to answer as it is to ask. It is a bit of a restatement of "what are you looking for" - alas human beings are complex and I like to dig deep. Like really deep. Whenever I get asked this question, I jokingly reply with "wordy". Like all great jokes, it has some truth to it, and I tend to have great conversations with those who are curious and happy to share, and we end up exchanging paragraphs upon paragraphs of messages, and FaceTime + in-person meetups end the same way. In the past, there was nothing quite like meeting up, chatting for hours on the couch, while slowly inching closer to each other, slowly teasing, before actually getting into a scene.And yet other times, meeting up and going straight at it without me even saying a word lit me on fire as well.The point being that I value complexity as most of us can't really be pigeon-holed one way or another. Different stimuli evoke different reactions, and this self-discovery and self-exploration is something I love to undertake.

Why do you write so much?

I appreciate nuance and passion. I find it incredibly attractive watching someone talk, especially if they are sharing their passions with me. It feels like there is a fire burning inside me whenever it happens. I am enthusiastic and I know what feelings it lights up inside me. Passion is key for me.

Enthusiasm can just be a euphemism for pushy.

Fair observation. For me, the difference lies in the intent.

Enthusiasm for me means that I am excited for you (and me). That I would melt inside if I was able to help you feel what you have been longing to feel. That I would be there to help you grow. To explore and figure out who you are. Be the sounding board if you are unsure about something and share my experiences, thoughts and concerns. And much more.

Pushy doesn't listen well. Pushy doesn't take no for an answer. Pushy doesn't ask questions.A lot of what I wrote are generalizations, but it really comes back to what I wrote above already - Dominating someone does not mean that you are not allowed to ask questions or that you must blindly follow directions. You are allowed to ask, you are allowed to understand, and you are allowed to question if it does not feel right to you.

There are differences between pushing boundaries that were okay'ed and pushing boundaries that you are not comfortable with having pushed.

Do you have any pet peeves?

I don't quite understand people who choose to eat food in bed.

What is a pet peeve that could apply to you?

The moment the plane lands, I'm on my feet. I just sat for hours in an economy seat with the person in front of me reclining their seat all the way back. I'm 6'4", I need to stretch my legs now.

Where is your full kink list?

Waiting to be revealed once we get a bit of a sense for, and of, each other.

Why should I bother if I don't think we'll have the same kinks?

That's a fair question to ask and wonder about. In my experience, compatibility has not been an issue. I try not to delve right away into all the sexy, fun topics because it takes away from building a connection with someone. And that is important to me.

I have no questions left to ask. How do I even start this?

I believe in you. It's impossible to run out of things to talk about. Think about your entire life and every experience that shaped you into who you are today - it would take literally a lifetime to discuss, so that alone has enough conversation potential before we even get to me or the world around us.

Tell me about your day, tell me about what annoyed you today, tell me about what did or could make your day. Or something else entirely.

Any last-minute tips even if we don't vibe, since I made it all the way to the end of your post?

Experiences make life worth living.

Whether you're just browsing, curious what is out there, or actively looking, or had a bad experience - don't give up. There is someone out there for you who appreciates you for who you are and who you can have earth-shattering experiences with.

PS: I prefer reddit messages over chat, notifications on the latter are hit or miss for me if you value timely responses!

Just like the title says, I am looking for a shy or inexperienced girl in the area, who wants to gain some experience, skills, and confidence before getting too far into life! We can go at your pace and can discuss limits and goals, when you reply. All I ask is that you are curious and committed to learning and pushing yourself.

I am a 30 year old 6ft clean and sane male in the area with a dad bod and girthy where it matters.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Hello there! I am hoping to find a woman who likes to let it her hair grow out and is interested in laying back and letting me explore, lick, tease, taste, and worship every inch of her. If there are any places off limits, you can let me know, but ideally everything would be okay, including feet, armpits, ass. I hope to taste every inch of you soon.

I am 5'11" and have a dad bod.