Me and my close friend (V), are 18. V has been crushing on this guy for a while, on and off. V has a long history of rushing in too quickly into relationships with guys, then immediately calling it off and regretting it because it 'doesn't feel right'. This has happened as recently as about a month ago. Recently, she decided to go on a couple dates with the guy she liked (M), and I was fine with that (slightly biased I don't like him at all). For context as to why this situation turns me so much, is before last week she hadn't even had her first kiss. I come to find out today that not only has she lost her virginity, but that it was without a condom and she had to shell out for plan B (25 AUD where I am - she isn't employed rn so it was a hit to her bank). This guy has had multiple girlfriends in the past, so I know that he isn't naive about this situation at all. She told me this tonight over a voice call, and I did not have a very good reaction to it. I was extremely overwhelmed and concerned for her, as in the past she has been shown to very quickly regret her relationships. How do I treat this? I don't know how to be a good friend in this moment. I'm angry at him, as I feel that he's taking advantage of her, I'm angry at her parents for not educating her about safe relationships, and I'm frustrated with her that she didn't come to me at all until she told everyone else first. I completely understand that gauging my reaction, she halted on telling me, as I did react negatively. I want to be there for her during this, but I need help to figure out how to get her to keep herself safe and figure out if this is the right thing she should be doing. Please help me.

TLDR - My friend just turned 18, had her first kiss and lost her v card with an experienced guy within a week - I'm concerned about her.

So I've(f30s) been with my husband(m30s) for 14 years. We've only been married for 2 of those. I started testosterone injections this past year to improve my libido and...it worked....a lot. now I've always had to self soothe every night by masturbating, I've not really been the typical bean flicker, I really prefer to hump my hands. But now my clit is bigger from the shots and I'm always so horny. I'm on here all the time looking at porn. I have days I masturbate like 5 times. I love rubbing my big clit almost like it's a boner bulge. And I started trying to get myself to squirt and it gets so messy. I know there may be a lil pee in it IDK . But even then I honestly think I secretly have a piss fetish so even if it's pee it just makes me hornier. I've never told him about this piss fetish but I wish he would just ram his dick into me and piss. I just love the feeling of being filled up by a fluid from him. He is not a kinky man at all. He's honestly pretty vanilla but he has been getting me to squirt lately and it's been one of the hottest things ever. I have so many fantasies and none turn him on so far. I keep begging him to choke me too but he's such a gentle man he won't. Any advice about this?

I've been with my gf for three years and she's given me maybe 4 blowjobs during that time. I finally asked her why she doesn't like doing it and she says it's because her jaw hurts when she does it and she's not in a comfortable position.

Any advice on how to deal with these issues or should I just give up on bj's?

And yes, I do eat her out but she's not a huge fan of that either, my beard is too scratchy, and just generally prefers penetrative sex to oral.

My gf (21) asked me m (24) if we could try a 3some. I told her I’m open to it and she suggested a guy we went to hs with. I’m not sure how to feel thinking about her with another at the same times as me. Does anyone have any experiences or advice? I’m not against the idea I just have mixed feelings.

I (m24) have been with my gf( f21) for 2ish years. The sex is the best I’ve ever had. We have explored a lot of new stuff together that either was a kink for the other one or new positions for both of us ever. We both have higher body counts but it’s been pretty vanilla with few exceptions with our past sexual partners. In the last few months we really got into more erotic BDSM type things. I learned really early into our sex life that she is extremely naturally wet during sex and that she can also squ*rt. However no other guy has been able to make her it was only ever when she would get off solo. After she got more comfortable completely nude around me we were sexting while she was out of town and we both were obviously getting off by our own hand. While that was happening I asked for a video of her pleasing herself and she shut it down but when she got back right before I put it inside of her she said I could take a video of it if I wanted without her face in. So I now have several videos of her getting off with me. I don’t usually jerk off except when I’m alone and she’s not home for days at a time but recently I was rubbing one out and finished to one of the videos and she walked in by surprise while I was laying there before cleaning off and she thought it was sexy so we fucked and now she asked me for the videos to use for her alone time too. I have really bland angles of it so I’m wondering what’s the best position or placement of the camera to record the next one

So I wanted to tease my husband recently because I really got into the milking table porn. I was kind of tickling the tip of his penis right at that spot at the top of the shaft on the underside. How can I milk him like my dreams desire? I want his dick to jump and shoot cum out. It's my fantasy.

how do you guys last longer in bed? i used to perform above 20 mins but im alot quicker lately.

hi everyone! i been feeling terrible about this feeling i have. i’m a 23F who is in a relationship with a 25M.

to simply put this. i feel like my partner doesn’t turn me on anymore, i guess i caught the “ick”. couple of things he does is put his whole weight onto my chest while we are kissing. some of the things he says in bed doesn’t make me excited. when he touches me it hurts (like his fingernails) or he presses so hard onto my clit. he tries to get me into the mood but i end up never wanting to. or sometimes i cut our kissing short because sometimes the way he kisses doesn’t feel good. it just doesn’t seem right.

I don’t know, i think I’m not sexually attracted to him as i used to be. so i guess my question would be how can i get sexually attracted to him again? would it be mean if i told him i don’t like how he does things?

I (27 F) recently started exploring the ins and outs of casual sex. It’s been pretty chill for the most part but I’ve come to realize something about my body that is ultimately hindering how much I can enjoy the experience.

For context: in the past most of my sexual experiences happened with people I was in a relationship with or that I trusted and was dating exclusively so we would usually have unprotected sex. There were a few times we would use condoms but I felt it wasn’t enjoyable after a while and I wouldn’t really enjoy the experience. I recognized then that it had to do with the condoms so my partners would try different brands and even lube but for some reason lube felt unnatural in a way.. like I was trying to enjoy it but it felt foreign to my body. Maybe it was the specific lube but who knows?

The problem: as I’ve been exploring casual sex I’m running into this issue with condoms again. Usually it’s not a huge problem because on avg guys last between 10-15 minutes which is right in the window of enjoyment for me but anything after 20 minutes feels like the condom is drying me up. It starts feeling almost like rug burn and I can’t fully enjoy the experience. It’s not an issue of foreplay because I usually start off really wet so I genuinely think my body just doesn’t like the feeling of latex and I’m not sure what to do because as I mentioned before lube wasn’t a great experience either.

Why it matters: I recently started hooking up with someone that can go a while, and while I have the stamina and desire to keep going, the discomfort over powers everything else which I hate because now that means I need a break and neither one of us got off?? That’s so embarrassing. It makes me feel like I’m wack at sex which I’m not!!!! I’ve heard the reviews okay lol and I know how I do when I have been in those more trusting situations so I KNOW it’s not a problem with my ability to get/stay wet

So this is all to say, has anyone else had this issue as well? If so, how did you go about it? What kind of advice can you offer me as I learn my own body better?

TLDR: I want to enjoy casual sex but after a while condoms become unenjoyable and I’m not the biggest fan of lube. I genuinely think my body just doesn’t like latex. What do you recommend I do ?

I know that probably sounds bad without the context but here we go. So this has happened twice to me now (I don’t get much action lol) where I’m trying to pleasure my partner and they seem to be enjoying it incredibly. Like their breathing gets heavy, they have trouble talking dirty anymore and they grip my hair (while eating them out) then they quickly tell me to stop. One time it happened in a threesome so I can see why she wouldn’t want me to make her finish (I was the third in the couple) and the other time I was playing with her nipples and she quickly pulled my hands off (don’t worry I did have consent) and told me how she hasn’t had anyone play with her nipples before.

All I want to do is make them feel amazing but they never let me go all the way. Do you know why???

Hey guys I’m (M24) Not sure exactly how to accurately explain this but I know a lot of guys need time after they cum to be able to again, but I never have. I don’t really even understand the concept of needing rest time, I can just orgasm over and over again as many times as I want. Is there a name for this? Or is this some kind of condition I’m unaware of? Advice or any questions are welcome.

Hello. I'm 19f, and exploring my body. The thing about my body is, any stimulation I try doesn't give me pleasure. The only pleasure I can give myself is through the clitoris and the clitoris only. I've tried poking around up in my body for the g-spot. Nothing. I've read so many sex advice websites. Nothing. I figured, ok then. Get a dildo, maybe I just cannt get deep enough. I just got the dildo in the mail and have just finished trying it out. It's 7.7 inches with 5.8 of insertable length and 1.5 inches wide. It said it was good for beginner mastubation and g spot stimulation. I think I got a good, I dunno, 2 inches in? It stung and was uncomfortable more than anything. I couldnt thrust it in our out or it hurt. Is it possible that I just don't have a gspot? I'm not sensitive anywhere but the clitoris and now I wondering if I'm ever actually turned on or just feel the pleasure... without being turned on. When I rub my clit, I do get wet, after a good amount of time. Like, if I spend hours touching there. Which, is rare cause who has time for that. I can go hours but also minutes. Though, I might not actually ever had an orgasm? I mean? Maybe a few. I do have a clitoris vibrator and that's good. Makes me shake. But if it just my hand, it's a small wave of I dunno, higher pleasure. Like a speed hump. I don't know what I'm doing and I don't wanna find a man because 1. I'm asexual. Sure I feel the pleasure sometimes, I want to touch myself but I don't want another person with me. And 2. I live with my family, strict family and can't just dissappear and lie to the successfully. I dunno ok? My parents have kept me niave to a lot of things. Basic life things.

I(24M,virgin) was having a good time with my girlfriend(24,not a virgin). I had a good(average) boner during foreplay and makeout. Things started heating up. We had already decided we would have intercourse, but when the time came i was almost flaccid and couldnt get it up again. Is this common among first timers? Was I not ready or nervous or what?

Note: I used to watch porn a lot like everyday, but that frequency is reduced and now stop all the way

So my partner and I have a very active sex life averaging at least 5 times a week. However when we first got together I was way heavier and physically couldn't really do much during sex without getting so out of breath and light headed. Fast forward to now, I have lost 80+lbs and I am itching to contribute but I feel like I dont know how to. Last night I felt really brave so I tried cowgirl and I messed up big time. I positioned it wrong on the way back down and I hurt his "member" by bending it a little bit. It was sooo embarrassing and I felt really bad. How can I contribute better and not hurt him?

I (21F) am living with my boyfriend (21M) and his family.

He is a good guy and he has grown a lot since the beginning of our relationship. We have been together almost a year. However we are still having issues.

He has cheated on me twice( via text ) with multiple different girls.

The first time was before I moved in. The second time was 3 months into living with him.

It's been about 4ish months and he has changed and has shown growth.

We have fought and BOTH of us have crossed boundaries physically, emotionally, and mentally while fighting.

I feel stupid, stuck, and numb.

After our last fight left me with 2k damage repairs on my car and bruises up my arm - we talked and said I should move out after the semester.

He said he wants to take the next 2 months( until the end of the semester ) to build our relationship up.

However I have found a place near my college and am preparing to possibly sign a lease. My boyfriend does NOT know this - and I am TERRIFIED to tell him.

My fears about signing the lease are....

1. I won't meet anyone better.

He has been good to me and I have opened up to him.

2. I have a sex addiction

If I am single in college I think i will go crazy

3. I'm worried about about self control

I have no idea how to do this alone, I feel like i need someone and I have no one.

I just lost over 100lbs and for the first time I feel beautiful and powerful. I am afraid I will be hurt.

TL;DR!

I AM QUESTIONING MY RELATIONSHIP AS A COLLEGE FEMALE. I am worried that I will never find better than what I have now, and that I won't be able to control urges as a young adult. I'm afraid of leaving my current boyfriend, even though I think I will regret it if I don't.

So I (18f) and my bf (18m) have been having sex pretty consistently for about a month now. By consistently I mean every time we see each other, every few days or so. He asks me to give him head almost every time. I usually love giving head, but I’ve noticed something about giving him head that I don’t like. I feel terrible saying this, but every time I go to suck him off, his dick smells like pee. There’s a few times where I just suck it up and deal with it for a few minutes, but I don’t enjoy giving head like I have in the past with others. I’ve never had a guy smell like anything, and it makes me kinda sad cause he’s by far the best sex I’ve ever had, and I want to give him head and make him happy, but I want to enjoy it (or at least not dislike it) too. I know I’d feel insanely embarrassed if someone told me this, and I don’t know how to tell him. He asks me to give him head a lot since he says mine is really good, and I always kinda frown and make an excuse, saying I want to have sex instead. Please help me tell him why I don’t like giving him head without being mean.

I have been experiencing sexual frustration for a while now. It's annoying and distracting, and sometimes borderline interferes with my life. I want it to stop or slow down, but it just won't.

And trust me I've tried a lot of things, like masturbating, meditating, mindfulness, keeping busy/working/focusing on hobbies or distractions, exercising, talking to friends, showers, and so on.

And none of it really lasts long (it works at first but literally 10-30 minutes later the sexual tension returns). I'm not very romantically inclined, and I have a bunch of mental issues, so Relationships are very difficult for me and honestly I can't say I'm that interested at the moment.

I would like advice on how to deal with this.

Question 1: everytime we try to have sex she finds it painful putting my dick in, 90% of the time not able to put my dick in becuase it hurts her too much. My dick is average size, we have foreplay and use lube sometimes. How can we fix this?

Question 2: Im also never able to put my finger in as her hole is too tight. When and how should I put my finger in.

Question 3: Evertime i give her head she doesnt cum from it any advice

Hi All,

After a long break, I’m getting back into a relationship. I’ve noticed that I don’t last as long in bed as I used to. When I’m with my partner, I always make sure to focus on her pleasure first, she makes me so excited that I tend to last around 4–5 minutes afterward.

I’ve come across some advice like masturbating before the first round, using distraction techniques, or trying a cock ring, along with practicing some exercises. What have been your experiences? Has using a cock ring worked for any of you?

Even when I try masturbating beforehand, I still last around 4–5 minutes. I’d like to avoid any medications and make natural improvements to my sex life. I used to smoke, but I’m working on quitting, and I also do strength training 4–5 times a week.

I’d love to hear about your experiences and any tips you have to help me improve. Thanks!

Would it be weird to read my books while sucking dick? I have a fetish for having dick in my mouth as a way to relax but I have never tried reading while doing it, just watching tv or falling asleep. Would this be a weird thing to do? Both reading and having dick in my mouth are ways I like to relax, doing both sound really nice:,)

First time posting ever.

Short version: husband and wife have occasional sex and OP is wondering what to do to stay motivated and how this situation could be helped.

I (30F) am super struggling with sex with my husband (30F)

We've been married for 7 years and we have sex pretty inconsistently. Like we'll usually go weeks. The fewest it's been is three days between times. I'm a very sexual person and he just isn't. We didn't find that out until later...

When we were dating, the tension and the spark was there. We fooled around but never actually did the deed because of personal reasons. I was so amped to FINALLY seal the deal. We did premarital counseling and we had a conversation about how often on average we think we'd like to have sex. We both agreed that two times a week sounds great. That was low for me at that point in my life, but I get it, life gets busy.

So I have that expectation...plus my previous relationship experience where we had sex every chance we could. Twice a night. It was easy and fun. We experimented and changed it up. In bed we were great, but personality wise didn't mesh.

And so I go into my honeymoon, after 3 years of not having sex, thinking me and my husband are gonna cram as much fun in our week and a half as we can... We had sex three times and at the end I just wanted to go home. I would ask if we were going to have fun tonight and he'd be all for it. And then at night he'd say he was too tired and go to bed. I would lay in my stupid lingerie and cry myself to sleep.

To this day we have done almost nothing but missionary despite me asking. Oral is not mutual. In fact he never has. He finishes in 5 minutes but at least he cares enough to help me finish? Like he's a really amazing guy in most every other way, but it's like he only has sex with me when he physically cannot go any longe. So most nights when he falls asleep, I get my vibrator out because I am that desperate.

We've had several conversations about it, like it makes me sad, we should do this more often, well then let's schedule it, blah. And it doesn't work. He actually believes it's fine because average people have sex once a week and we're "basically at that level". When we do have sex it's usually mediocre with him finishing quickly or not at all.

Now he does a ton around the house, works his butt off, also has told me, not realizing how it sounds, that I'm last his to do list and that he'd prefer sleep than sex. I've also gained a solid 50 lbs, making me a 5'2 200lbs girl. This is all to stress and my job. I would say that was the reason for his standoffishness, but this shift happened almost immediately into our marriage.

And I have been HORRIBLY insecure about my body forever(thanks dad) and now I just hate myself, im starting to loathe him which comes out subconsciously in conversation. My mom took me into a different room to ask me why I was being so mean. I couldn't just say I'm sex starved!

So anyway, I'm at the point where I am fantasizing about coworkers. I'm fantasizing about my high school boyfriend. I masturbate all the time to not go crazy, which ends up derailing actual sexy times...I don't know what to do. I want to scream, but I'm afraid he'll just tell me once again we're fine. Am I the one who needs to change? Should I be doing more? What can I do to motivate and stay positive??? And does he even like me 🥺????

Hi. I (19F) have been with my current boyfriend for over two years now. I love him very much and I love our sex life. He has been very adamant about eating me out which he’s slowly been helping me through for the past few months. Whenever it happens, my mind wanders off. I get nervous and in my head. It feels good for a while but it’s hard to focus most of the time. He’s told me multiple times that he wants it and enjoys it and I want it and enjoy it, but for some reason my body doesn’t allow it. A lot of people suggest 69 to take my mind off of it but honestly it just doesn’t feel the same. I need advice for feeling more comfortable? Or anything else that might help…

Hello. I am a 23f . Almost done with nursing school. I am extremely pretty. I get compliments a lot. I been in an abusive relationship for about six months in 2021. Until I started nursing school I left it. I was 20. So I haven’t dated in a year. My ex tried to kill my dog. Pointed a gun at his head many times and chocked me. A little backstory. So not a lot of people don’t know this and wonder why I don’t date. Today my classmates said your lonely and that’s why your stressed always about school. And this is TRUE. I am so lonely. I moved out got my own place and a new car. I want someone to be here or I want to have fun now. I am old enough to decide this.

My friends say I need to figure what I like and to stop sitting and waiting like I’m in a book. It’s true I take every guy serious and if they want fun I say no goodbye. Or if I think if they aren’t perfect I say bye. Because I think of my ex being so toxic and I don’t want that again.

So now I come to being a ho and having fun. I want to have XXX and see what I want. Is that bad ????

My wife and I have been together for over 20 years. We were high school sweethearts. We both had different upbringings. She had a very strict catholic mother who drilled into her that touching herself is pure evil and she never really learned about sex.

My family was very open about sex; my mom was just like Jim's dad from American pie, over explaining anything I had a question about. I was taught that self exploration was good for you. Needless to say my love life with my wife has been kinda vanilla. I masturbate pretty regularly, but in secret.

Recently my wife and I have introduced some new things like a vibratory into the bed room. But she gets very reluctant to use it on herself. How can I convince her that it is ok for her to touch herself and masturbate? When I have tried to bring it up in the past, she almost seems to get angry and I drop the subject.

I have fantasies about watching her masturbate while I masturbate, but I don't know that I will ever get that... Any encouragement is appreciated.

When I'm having sex with a guy I can't feel them when they're inside me. I can feel their fingers, but when it comes to their dick, I don't feel anything. I can sometimes feel it when we're at certain angles. But for the most part I feel nothing when having sex with someone.

Side note, not trying to bring dudes down or anything. But the guys I've been with haven't been very big either. I mean I think it's average, but when I described size to my friends they tell me it's small. So idk if it's a size thing or a me thing.

It bums me out because I want it to feel good, but I kind of just feel like I'm only there for them to cum in, not for me to get any pleasure out of it :/

just want tips and advice on how to last longer in bed before i lose my v card, eventually 😭.

So long story short, it takes a minute or two for me to be able to get in her normally. It's embarrasing that she has to guide me in almost everytime and I can't get back in if I slip out unless she helps. Is there something I could do that makes it less of a struggle for both of us?

I know things he liked with exes and former FWB's (nudes, sexting, flirting, just being told they wanted him) and nothing works when I do it. We barely have sex anymore, he initates anything once every few weeks at most. We both had a very high sex drive prior to dating each other. He dated casually and adventurously before me, I only dated seriously.

I'm a conventially attractive woman who gets a fair amount of attention from the opposite sex and have never had any issues getting a partner riled up with ease. My boyfriend was no different in the first few months, and based on the insta models he followed I'm exactly his type (body hasn't changed), but we've been together for 1.5 years now and I can't seem to do anything to turn him on. Given I'm a natural flirt/tease with a high sex drive, it's detrimental for my self esteem.

He says he still feels attracted to me but that me making a move makes him feel 'pressure to respond the right way' which makes it a turn off so I stopped - but he doesn't make a move either. So I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. We're in relationship counseling but are focused on working though his trauma from his ex (narcissist who had a strong grip on him, I've come from a similar issue but with more years of therapy under my belt and better mechanisms to deal with the trauma it left me with).

Any advice?

Im a girl but I was wondering what position feels the best for guys?

When my wife cums, she is so sensitive that she can’t even stand to be touched sexually for a little bit. I’m wondering if she forces through it, does anyone think maybe she’d squirt? Or would it just torture her? Would love for her to squirt, but she claims she never has. I believe it’s because she is unfamiliar with the feeling and stops herself too soon. However I am not a female so I can’t begin to understand.