Salut, je voulais savoir si c’est normal de se branler sur sa meilleur pote et si ça se fait de lui en parler pour lui demander des photos. Je veux même pas des nudes mais des photos un peu sexy, son visage me suffit en général !

I’m 19m and have been in a relation ship wiht my gf and we have had sex and oral sex and I can’t not cum,I would really appreciate some advice on how to fix this problem

30F. I feel like I would like to try anal with my boyfriend if it is something that he is also interested in. I have ABSOLUTELY no idea of how to go about preparing for it, how does it feel like for a woman, etc. I'm just generally curious and I would like to try. Advice? Thoughts? What would you have liked to know beforehand? Thank you!

I am 19 and my bf is also 19. He wants to have sex and I’m not ready (I’m a virgin and he is not). I’m to insecure about my body which I am working on and he is understanding but I can tell he wants there to be more. What are alternatives/suggestions?

My partner is a trans man, I am nonbinary. When I use a strap on him, we like to incorporate the fantasy of me finishing inside. Problem is, using words like seed or spunk kind of take me out of the fantasy, because my body obviously doesn't produce semem. 'Cum' doesn't really work for me either.

Any ideas for some words I can use? I'll welcome wilder suggestions too, like 'nectar'.

Alright so basically I’m a virgin, and I want to start masturbating (I’m a girl) sooo I need tips 😭

Tldr: What's your favorite thing to hear in bed?

My gf likes when I tell her "how much I need her pussy" but I run out of different ways to say that. She only ever asks me to tell her about it when shes trying to finish herself off and is having trouble (she is not very orgasmic, but is sometimes convinced she can give herself a 2nd one after I already gave her the first one orally, though I've never seen a 2nd one in the same session from her)

What are some of your favorite lines revolving around "needing" your partners body? It's clear to me the word "need" is more of a turn on to her than conveying the exact same idea without using the word "need"... i.e. "I need this pussy" does 10x more for her than "Fuck your pussy feels so fucking good around my cock... I don't want to go a single day without feeling you squeeze me like that"... I feel like the first one can only be said so many times before it loses its power.

OH ALSO, is there a sexy verbal response to "take me"? Or does that just mean "fuck me harder"?

I don't read sexy books like she does lol. This is what an English major gets for dating an Engineer lol.

My girlfriend always seems disappointed that I can only go one round and then can’t get hard again for hours and hours. Is there anything I can do? (M24)

So for some time my wife (40f) and I (42m) have been discussing a threesome with another man (at my request, I've been exploring myself lately). We're both pretty excited, especially her knowing I've come out of my plain vanilla shell I've held all of these years. Though I'm excited, i also have to admit I'm about worried. I have sucked a dick or two in my teens but I've never had a man in me. The thought is so hot and intrigueing the idea of being in my wife while he's in me but i can't pretend I'm not worried about the first time. The date is still several months away, is there anyway to prepare myself. I want this more than anything, but i really don't want to ruin the moment for either one of us when the time comes.

So like…I love my partner but sometimes I wanna play with my vibe. I’m not opposed to them joining but also I wanna just play for a bit. How do I say this I feel so awkward about it.

And how do I do it when I don’t want him to join??

I'm a woman and my bf who is roughly 5.5 inches. maybe even 6.5 when really really erect. i want to buy condoms but i don't know what size, he has some but they're a bit old and ik they expire. we're planning on doing it tonight. and i like rough sex so what do you recommend that will be able to handle that. i heard skyn, trojan, and durex are good but not sure if i would get normal, M or L

Hey! My bf and I wanted to try anal this weekend, I read up some tips on what to do and have a few ideas on what went wrong, but a full length answer would be appreciated since both of us are confused.

A few days prior to the main event I had made sure to eat slightly more fibre filled foods. I drank coffee too since it acts like a laxative in certain amounts, I maybe drank too much as my stool became not watery, but not hard either.

I have never tried douching before this, so this was the first time trying, I had a rough idea on how much water to use, the right temperature, etc. Since this was the first time douching I was scared but used breathing to keep calm. I failed the first few times to get anything in, when the water actually did get in, immediate nausea and the water was stuck. Over the course of maybe 5-10 minutes the nausea got worse, my vision went fuzzy and black, my hearing also went fuzzy and was ringing, I was swaying, barely had depth perception (due to the dizziness and lack of vision) cold and hot sweats, even more nausea, the whole shebang. The only other time I have had a reaction similar to this is a piercing. After being able to let the water go, everything slowly went back to normal.

I think it’s a combination of the coffee, too much water and air, but if anyone has had a similar reaction, please tell me what caused it.

My friend (23ftm) and I (23f) want to fuck but both live with our parents. We can’t afford a hotel either. Where do we go????

It was mostly just petting. Firstly I started fingering her, and my fingers were slightly wet of her fluid. Then, she stared handjob on me, but I finished it by myself and my cum did not touch her body at all. After that, I washed it all out and we haven’t done anything else. During the time I was in the bathroom she was masturbating herself with dry hands. Is there any form of possibility of some unfortunate consequences? (sickness, pregnancy even) Sorry if this question was dumb, we are very very anxious about it and don’t think rationally probably.

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years. I was a virgin before I met him so my experience wasn't that much advanced (apart from books - booktok girls will know). And yeah, everything has been okay, the sex is great and he is really considerate. Nonetheless, I have always wanted to try a sex toy, alone when we are apart (we are from different cities), but also with him. He feels like me even asking for it is being inconsiderate because it implies that he is not enough. For me, It's not about him not being enough, it's about my curiosity... Oh well, we just had a huge discussion about it and he says that sex toys are for single people that now I am in a relationship and I should act like it, that sex toys are not okay, not only for us together, but mainly for me alone. My focus is how good he feels during it and if he wanted something else, I would be the first to make it happen. As long as he is not getting it from another girl, being it porn or wtv, I actually don't care... It's a machine for that single purpose... I just want him to feel as best as possible... For him, however, he says that he should be enough and that I shouldn't be looking into other things other than him to satisfy me... I really don't know what to do, I heard some men say that sex toys are their best friends during sex and that it makes it even better to see the other person feeling like that, but I am not sure... I even asked what would happen if I wanted to try and he said he wouldn't even want to know, that it's a huge red flag... I am feeling kinda bad about it, but at the same time I feel like I shouldn't... Like I've always been so self-conscious abt it, saving myself to experience everything with my special other... Even kissing... Did I just create a huge gap in our sex life by asking about it? Should I just let it go? Any advice on what I should do?

TLDR: I've always wanted to try a sex toy, but wanted to experience that with my boyfriend. He thinks it is wrong and that even me asking is awful, a huge red flag... What should I do?

Disclaimer: He says that masturbating is fine as long as I use my fingers, him or wtv, that using something else other than his or my body is wrong

I have had multiple men cum pretty quickly with me during sex. I don’t mind it but they almost always feel a little bad afterwards.

I tell myself it’s because I felt really good but I’m never sure. Especially since they seem so upset after.

Am I just being delusional? Do guys sometimes cum fast because they are nervous or disconnected? How do I make someone feel better after?

I (23F) have been dating my boyfriend (24M) for a year now. We have lived together since around 5 months of dating because he never wanted me to leave and loved having me over, which was amazing because I really need validation about being liked/needed/desired. I was originally really hesitant to seem too eager or to move too fast because I struggle with feeling secure in relationships (even friendships) where I feel like I care more than they do. To be in love, I need to FEEL loved. Same goes for attraction (which is our main issue now).

Well, over the last few months, I've felt like the effort on his end is just gone. He used to get me flowers all the time and grab me up in a huge hug when he got home and was always the one to initiate kissing/intimacy. But now when we get home, he doesn't rush to hug me or seem excited I'm there. He never kisses me unless I initiate it and even then he just gives small, close-mouthed pecks. He'll smack my butt or give me a long hug before work and we do cuddle at night, but otherwise it's like we're friends who live together.

It doesn't matter if I'm in sweatpants or lingerie (tried that) or stark naked (we literally shower together and he sees me naked every day getting ready for work and bed)- it seems like my body is the furthest thing from his mind. Forget about s*x, in the last few months it's barely once a week where it used to be every other day (or even daily- that was honestly my preference). We genuinely only have s*x if I initiate it, and he seems very very into it when I do. But I don't feel attractive or sexy or desirable because HE doesn't seem to think about me that way unless I'm on top of him. How can a man look at a woman's naked body (a woman who wants hm!) and not have any desire at all?

We've talked about all of this, and he's genuinely the sweetest and most caring guy in the world. He's everything I want in a husband one day- gentle/calm, hardworking, great with kids, and generally cares about meeting my needs.I've practically begged him to be more passionate and show me that he is as attracted to me as he claims to be. He says he understands every time I bring it up and he'll pay more attention to me and is somewhat affectionate the next day, then it all stops again. No kissing, no handholding or couch cuddling, and zero s*x.

I want to make it work, but I feel like we've been having the same conversation every couple of weeks now and I'm worried that I'm starting to lose attraction to him over it. The no cleaning/barely cooking/no flowers issues I could honestly live with, but I don't think I can be happy in a marriage where he doesn't find me attractive or care to initiate s*x/intimacy.

What can I do? Could a marriage work without the physical aspect? How can we get back to what we had?

extra info: He works 45+ hours a week and spends every spare second afterwork with me. Even when he has to go do something for his dad or his friends, he'll ask to pick me up first so we can go eat or something after. At home we're together in the same room- we just eat and watch TV and he'll talk to his buddies on the phone or play video games. He's not a cheater. He has me set his alarms every night and I carry both phones in my purse when we go places. He had us get Life360 like a month in so I could see when he was working late and not worry (he's a lineman and can't be on his phone). I know it's not like a medical thing because in the beginning he always initiated and was fully capable. He swears he's attracted to me and will do better, but I don't feel the same about it as I used to. There's only so many times you can beg someone to actually kiss you and to freaking notice your naked body standing in front of them.

Basically title, when I get hard, it stays at an upward position and when I try to push it down to a straight forwards/level position, it hurts and goes right back when I stop pushing it. This makes it incredibly hard to have sex, because the only position that it comfortable for me is cowgirl but I don't want to only be having sex with a girl on top of me because I like to be on top sometimes. Does any other guy have this problem or is this unusual?

My post got either taken down the first time I posted or no one saw it and I just need some advice, if a mod took it down can you tell me why? I don’t think I violated any of this subreddits rules

I recently stopped watching porn and stopped masturbating. Just a lifestyle thing. However I have now started having issues getting and maintaining an erection with my wife. Used to it was a flick of a finger and I was hard as a rock. Now it takes time, and I lose it after awhile without finishing. This all happened after I stopped masturbating daily, and stopped watching porn. What gives? I thought stopping was supposed to do the opposite.

I 18F recently lost my virginity but I’m not sure I did a good job. I don’t know how to please someone or what to do before sex to get into the moment, and how we should act after sex. I also want to know what feels best for men when it comes to oral sex and handjobs.

As the title suggests, I have no idea how to pleasure myself. I have no partner but often feel like I need to pleasure myself in that way/want to explore it. The problem is, I have no idea how to do it! It’s kinda embarrassing I’ve gone this long not knowing how, but is there any good way to do it?

I need help, maybe from a female specifically. I can't make my gf cum. She sq💦 a lot but when it comes down to cumming she can only make herself cum. She says she thinks it's a blockage in her head because she never got to cum with a man before only on her own. I like to make her cum first(or at least try to) and she's never felt this "important" in bed before.

Thoughts?

I am a 30M who wants to learn how to talk dirty to my wife. It always feels awkward when I try. Any advice ?

Thanks

I've ALWAYS had pain during sex, unless the guy has a small penis. It always feels like rug burn after, or like my insides are being pinched by the cock. Some micro-tears. Obviously this makes having sex with my fiance (who is pretty damn big) difficult but I want to because I know it makes us feel closer and more connected.

But it fucking hurts! Hurts to pee after, hurts while it's happening, ouch ouch ouch. It doesn't hurt much long after, but it makes it really hard to cum easily and he feels bad when he sees I'm in pain. I use lube, I got him those bumpers (which work but he doesn't like wearing them all the time).

Lil background: I have a short and tight vaginal canal--I'm v tiny. I also had endometriosis and surgery for it.

I guess I'm looking for two things:

1. Any advice for me to navigate it? I know there are things my partner can do and we do those things (not going in all the way, bumpers, etc) but I want to know what I can control to make things better! I also have those dildo vagina stretchers but I really don't like them... but if folks think those are my best bet, I'll use!

2. Any idea why this is the case? Endo? Am I not horny enough? Some secret pelvic floor issues (my acupuncturist thinks so).

Ok I guess I'm maybe also looking for sympathy or to know I'm not alone in this, lol.

Hey, this is a throw away account I feel as if I’m not as confident as I used to be. My sex drive is way down and I feel my erections are not as big as they used to be. I divorced my ex wife about a year and a half ago and had fun after I split but now after not having any sexual partners after a year I feel undesired. My erections aren’t as big at all and I just don’t feel like I’m good enough for anyone. I will admit I don’t go out of my way to have sex or even talk to women in general, but I used to be able to maintain a decent sized erection for hours with little to no stimulation. Now I feel like I’m the shell of the man I once was. I don’t actively look for partners but don’t deny anything that comes my way (Almost nothing). I’m wondering if there’s anything I can do to restore the confidence I used to have and to return to my previous self. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Also for context I’m in the military and workout regularly.

so some background or wtv. i turned 18 about 2 weeks ago and sex has never been i big part of my life. i never had “the talk” with my parents, and ive never really cared about sex. the only person ive ever had sex with is my ex bf (we split up a month ago).

like i said, ive only ever been with my ex bf and his dick is the only dick i’ve ever seen. since i’m 18 i feel like im behind on sex and just general knowledge about it. is it weird that since having sex with my bf a couple times i now wanna know what other have experienced? i have a decently big butt and ok boobs, but my bf said he felt bad bc he “didn’t have a lot to work with” (his words) in regards to his penis. idk how big dicks are supposed to be, if yall could give me some metric to base sizes off of that’d be helpful. i also want to know how different sex could feel, and if my ex bf’s penis really had that much effect on sex.

thx <3

Hiya! Soooo my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. We recently started having sex 6 months ago and it’s been going pretty well. We are each others first and it’s been pretty sweet. For some background on this, my boyfriend lives in an apartment shared with other students and usually I’ll go over and we will hangout. Towards the end of our hangout we start to get a little touchy, cuddly and what not. We will probably do that for about 20 minutes, just making out and surface level touching. When we start to have sex though, he only last about 20 seconds, I don’t really care tbh and it’s not a big deal but I just wanted to know why. We’ve had sex plenty so I thought he would start to last longer but then he just didn’t. Is it the anticipation, is it because he loves me a lot, is he just really sensitive? I’m not sure but I find it’s pretty cute. Just a genuine question I’ve been thinking about.

hello!! i have only ever sucked one dick before, but now i have a new bf and his dick is curved.. i tried to suck it today but it was really hard to. (for reference, his dick curves towards his bellybutton and is 5 inches) do i need to do it at a specific angle?? i need help

also, i have trouble staying down on his dick . i can only stay for like 4 seconds before i need to gag or breathe.. any help??

i’m still a virgin and i’ve tried having sex multiple times but it always hurts too bad and i’ll always ask the person to stop before it’s even in. i’ve even had people tell me im too tight and it’s hard for people to finger me at first. is this normal? i’ve also tried relaxing but i feel like maybe im just too tense. please give me some advice