33 male. Newly engaged, but our sex life has already been rough for most of our relationship. All of my attempts to restore the flame, suggest new activities or devote myself to improving this with my fiancee have failed. My concerns about our lack of intimacy have been ignored multiple times, or even belittled as unimportant.

She is stressed, works a lot, and currently brings in more money. Her free time is spent on TikTok, online shopping, watching bravo, and playing video games. It makes me wonder when, if ever, she thinks about or wants sex. She’s told me it annoys her when my main complaint in our relationship is sex, and I can kinda understand her point. She’s busting her ass, paying for more, and I’m complaining about not getting any.

That being said…my urges don’t just go away and I can feel resentment building when I have to just constantly sit with my horniess and either jerk off again or ignore it.

She has mentioned it makes her feel more in the mood when I’m physically affectionate and cuddle more, so I’ve been trying to do that. But it doesn’t feel like she’s making any effort to address my needs or concerns.

Am I being an immature, entitled bum who should just jerk off and suck it up? Or should my gf try to carve out a little more time and put in a little more effort? Are we just incompatible sexually? I feel like she truly rarely ever thinks about sex and I’m horny every 2-3 days at least.

Hi All , As I have low karma , It will not get high light Not so handsome , I am a Brown complex avg looking guy. Never have a relationship and honestly now don't have the patience to be in a relationship.

I have watched porn for the last 3 years almost every day., Masturbating almost every day. Masturbation which I started when I was not able to sleep now I am addicted. I tried NNN, after 12 days I lapsed

Previously I was not desperate for sex. The last couple I don't know what happened sometimes I am horny. Sometimes my sticks are up in non normal communication.

I want to stop it I don't know how?

I have a erected 4 in dick which is small, I am insecure about the size as I am reading posts on women saying size matters. I am like God you give me darker skin at least you should give a stick like a darker person.

We didn't have a proper sex education.I don't know I may have premature ejaculation and my Sticks stands for 30 sec Max how can I increase it ??

If ever in life I have an opportunity for sex , fear of bad performance results I will turn off my phone and become a ghost . I don't know how to overcome that.

my bf and i are pretty into bdsm, and a couple of months ago i had a really painful anal experience that i can’t get over. i just keep thinking about it over and over and feeling insecure about our relationship because of it.

A couple of months ago, we were having sex, and it was pretty intensely in dynamic. I was humiliated, but not necessarily in a bad way, and I got pretty into subspace which could have been fun. The sex felt good—like he was trying new things—but it was intense and it hurt. I spent most of it being thrown from it feeling good to gritting my teeth trying to just take it. I don’t mind the pain, though, especially in subspace.

Then he asked for a condom. I was worried he wanted anal—especially when I didn’t have any prep and knew we didn’t have lube—but managed to convince myself that he just wanted to finish inside me or something. I was wrong.

He tried to push in, and before I could process it, there was blinding pain. I remember asking him to stop and trying to push him away before realizing that he wasn’t stopping because we were in dynamic. I safe worded—yellow first, and then red when the pain just got worse.

I ended up on the floor for a while. He says it was close to 10 minutes of him trying to hug me and asking if I was okay. I don’t remember that.

I managed to get to my feet, probably with his help, and climbed onto the bed. I thought because I safeworded, he’d cuddle with me while I recovered. Next thing I remember, he’s pushing back into me and we’re having sex again. It hurt, and I started crying, so he asked me if I was okay to keep going. I said yes, then no, then asked him to wait (which he did). He started moving again (i don’t remember if i told him it was okay, but he is insistent that i told him over and over that i was fine and he should keep going. i believe him.) and i completely dissociated until he was done

he’s apologized a million times since then, and i recognize all the ways i wasn’t advocating for myself. we took a break from sex for a while and i thought i was okay, but i still feel like the whole event is unprocessed. i’ve been really sad after sex lately, and i think this has something to do with it. how do i process this?

Hi All , As I have low karma , It will not get high light Not so handsome , I am a Brown complex avg looking guy. Never have a relationship and honestly now don't have the patience to be in a relationship.

I have watched porn for the last 3 years almost every day., Masturbating almost every day. Masturbation which I started when I was not able to sleep now I am addicted. I tried NNN, after 12 days I lapsed

Previously I was not desperate for sex. The last couple I don't know what happened sometimes I am horny. Sometimes my sticks are up in non normal communication.

I want to stop it I don't know how?

I have a erected 4 in dick which is small, I am insecure about the size as I am reading posts on women saying size matters. I am like God you give me darker skin at least you should give a stick like a darker person.

We didn't have a proper sex education.I don't know I may have premature ejaculation and my Sticks stands for 30 sec Max how can I increase it ??

If ever in life I have an opportunity for sex , fear of bad performance results I will turn off my phone and become a ghost . I don't know how to overcome that.

I (M14) have this constant fear about hitting puberty, i fear that my penis wont get bigger enough.

if someone has any way to make it grow ill be thankful

Hi All , As I have low karma , It will not get high light Not so handsome , I am a Brown complex avg looking guy. Never have a relationship and honestly now don't have the patience to be in a relationship.

I have watched porn for the last 3 years almost every day., Masturbating almost every day. Masturbation which I started when I was not able to sleep now I am addicted. I tried NNN, after 12 days I lapsed

Previously I was not desperate for sex. The last couple I don't know what happened sometimes I am horny. Sometimes my sticks are up in non normal communication.

I want to stop it I don't know how?

I have a erected 4 in dick which is small, I am insecure about the size as I am reading posts on women saying size matters. I am like God you give me darker skin at least you should give a stick like a darker person.

We didn't have a proper sex education.I don't know I may have premature ejaculation and my Sticks stands for 30 sec Max how can I increase it ??

If ever in life I have an opportunity for sex , fear of bad performance results I will turn off my phone and become a ghost . I don't know how to overcome that.

If you have any suggestions or advice that would be great.

I’m a female , 19, and I like to be choked and slapped around during sex. I don’t know if it’s normal. I haven’t had a lot of experience iykwim. What is the psychology behind this? I’ve never been physically abused.

Basically my gf (19F) sleeps a lot and rarely replies, but when we call we're both so sweet with one another, I keep seeing her followers goes up and down, I'm kinda overthinking, what if she's cheating. It's driving me crazy.

I (19M) kinda have trauma from past relationships they kinda cheated on me as well..

i am a married woman 30 years and want to explore with another woman but dont know how or even where to start. husband is fine with me wanting that but does not want to be part of it, and i am fine with that

Hello. My wife and I are sneaking away at lunch tomorrow to have sex while our kids are at school. I have a hotel room booked and everis planned out I’ll have flowers and food but I want to do everything I can to make her crazy and super horny. Maybe an essential oil or some lotion anything. What can I do to make her crave every inch of me tomorrow. I mean we are going to have sex it’ll be fun. But I want her to go crazy and pounce on me. Any ideas or tips would be great. I only have an hour tomorrow but I do have access to the room until then

if you hooked up with someone and they said they've never had sex before, what would you be thinking and feeling?

So me (18F) and my bf (18M) have been together for a year and almost 3 months. We started dating in September 2023 and honestly back then my bf’s libido was high. We’d exchange nudes, sext and masturbate together etc. He’d always tell me how much he needed me but we never had sex at that time. That’s because my mom was really strict about visiting his house so I was never allowed to. She hates him so he was never allowed to come to my house either. So we never had any place to fuck. But we got really desperate around October we found a remote area in a local forest and that’s where I lost my virginity basically.

Long story short some certain circumstances happened around November so my mom did in fact allow me to go to his house as a “one time thing” but obviously I extended this. I’m a kinky person and I’ve always wanted to be tied up (like it was never something I could do on my own since all my life I shared a room with a sibling) so even masturbating was annoying because it had to be in the bathroom.

When I started going to his house we did have sex more often, but had to be insanely quiet since my bf’s room’s walls were incredibly thin. So no kinky stuff just sex trying to be quiet.

He used to do stuff like if I napped he’d touch me in my sleep to wake me up and fuck, or want to fuck me so bad when I’m half asleep he’d do it and I loved it. Around April this year I moved in with him because of issues between me and my mom. But at that point his sex drive was just gone.

Let me just mention he hasn’t masturbated like on his own since around October. So before I’d go to his place for the first time his libido was already depleted. In April he just wasn’t that desperate. Not just for me but for sex in general. We’d have many opportunities when left home alone for me to be loud and him fuck me harder but he wouldn’t take them all the time. And these were rare chances.

Like if it were him at the start he would. And what got me thinking was that around June he had to go to work with his dad in construction for a week, so he didn’t see me for a week. Then when he came back we cuddled and he fucked me good. Like the best it had been in so long with choking and pulling hair and things like this because he never does these things usually. It was like that for a little bit then back to normal. And since then it’s been decreasing more and more. Yesterday I asked him why we don’t and he said he just doesn’t feel like it as much anymore. We have sex like 1-2 times a month. He has mouth sores sometimes so it hurts to eat me out, so imagine how often I get head. 3 times a year?

We moved into our own place for uni this September and thing is when we were still at his family’s place from April- August, he wouldn’t wanna do things like tie me up because he said, “just wait until we get our own place”. And it’s not like bondage is something he isn’t into (maybe now ig but before he’d used to want to tie me up).

Now that we have our own place it’s nothing. We can do anything but he won’t. I get so horny every day I have the highest fucking sex drive but I feel gross asking him “why won’t you fuck me” basically.

I brought up buying rope the other day and he left me on opened like 3 times. So idk. I really feel that to me sex is important in the relationship especially since I got with him thinking that this man loves the same shit as me, has a good sex drive for me. But now I feel stupid sitting alone in the bedroom when he’s not here, using a vibrator on myself that he doesn’t even know I use. I bought it a while ago and he said he’s not into them he finds them weird. So for all he knows I don’t use them. But it’s the only thing giving me something at the moment.

I’d kill to have him back how he was at the start. I feel a little depressed about this because I don’t know if it’s me or sex in general. I just love the intimacy too and the cuddling afterwards. But now if we even have sex it’s just him saying, “do you wanna get on” and I’ve never ever said no to sex because that’s how rare it is and that’s how horny I get. I just ride him and it gets tiring and I don’t feel as good as when he fucks me doggy or missionary. But when I ask to swap positions he doesn’t want to because it’s tiring for him.

So now idk what to do am I exaggerating? Like is the sex life in this not so important as I believe it to be?

Hey all… only posting the gist so please do not judge me for staying. I’m aware how bad it will sound when I post it. You don’t know the whole story. Here you go.. I saw a bunch of accounts on my bfs Reddit that he has. I looked one of the names up and a post popped up seeking an affair. Which is odd. I would never ever guess that my man would cheat. So I went to him about it. I didn’t tell him that I saw the account name but it seems to be deleted. He swears he didn’t post it and I’m not sure if he did because when I checked IN his phone, I didn’t see it. I’m choosing to look passed this based on everything else and the fact that I really don’t have proof. Just going to keep this in the back of my mind in case something comes up in the future. This man goes above and beyond for me. When he realized I was upset he immediately turned on his location sharing and told me any time I’m feeling some sort of way or whatever I could request and he’d send it. So here we are. I’m trying to just get it out of my head so I can continue on with our lives and not get in the way of how I am with him. I don’t want to have a wall up. Like I said, I couldn’t post everything so please just helpful advice on how to overcome this and get out of my head?

So, I've heard some things... About 'poppers'

What are they? And where can I buy them in the UK?

Are the addictive? Are the dangerous? What are the effects?

Thanks 👌

I have never had a complaint regarding size but mentally it's always been an obstacle with a new partner, although I've never had a bad experience with anything anyone has ever said to me

This is the recipe I'll be using: Mix 1 cup of water to 4 teaspoons of corn starch.

Slowly bring the mixture to a boil in a saucepan on a low-medium heat. Stir frequently for about 30 seconds and remove from the stove. Remember to let the mixture cool.

I was just wondering how I would go about storing this? Could I just put it in a container and store it somewhere? Would I have to store it somewhere cold?

My wife and I have been together for 18 years. I'm 37 she 43 we got in a argument two months ago about some bullshit before we had a very good sex life and now all of a sudden it's almost nonexistent. I didn't know what to do about it I've tried talking to her about it that does help tried be romantic that didn't help even help out with the house whole chores and that didn't help or get a thank you. I love her but it's getting really hard to deal with this bullshit any advice yall could give to help the situation or is it a loss cause

Just not a huge fan. Tongues are slimy. Also what am I supposed to do with someone else’s tongue?? Genuinely unsure how to respond when someone puts their tongue in my mouth. It kinda makes me feel like I can’t breathe. The awkward thing is my partner loves kissing with tongue. They’re respectful and pull back if I ask but it’s not fun to make them stop doing something they like. Any advice on what we could try to somehow meet in the middle?

me and my girlfriend (22f) are very active, we fool around 1-3 times daily when we are together. she loves giving me blowjobs, but hated that she can’t make me cum. i don’t think she is doing anything wrong because it feels fucking amazing, so i think the issue might be me. any advice on what i can do to fix this?

Im looking for advice about a fantasy of mine. I (m23) have started to realize I enjoy hearing about my gf’s f23) previous sexual experience. She’s pretty open about them but I’ve slowly started to realize that it’s something that I want to lean more into and want to ask her to tell me more about it a little more in depth. I’m worried about seeming too eager and freaking her out so would love some advice?

Also would love to hear how women might feel if their partner is into this. Trying to gauge if it’s worth approaching.

I(28M) have been with my girlfriend(28F) for many years, and her being uncomfortable about my cum was always something I felt bad about, I tried to make that change, but eventually I gave up because I thought she was just naturally that way, and it there was nothing I could do.

But lately this has been having me a bit frustrated, because the sexual dynamic and intimacy are never the same when your girlfriend doesn't want your juices anywhere near her mouth.

On our first year, she even used to clean up my precum before going down on me, nowadays she's not bothered by it, and over the years she has been going down on me with more dedication, even becoming quite good at it, but never had the open mind and willingness to get out her comfort zone and embrace something as harmful as the cum from the person she loves, and for some reason that hurts me.

She also doesn't like her own juices at all, she won't go down on me after I've been inside her and she won't even kiss me after I've went down on her.

My thing is, for who has gone through it and overcome it, how did it happen?

Mostly I want to hear about experiences of people who also were very reluctant, and what happened for them to start being comfortable about cum and her own juices, or even better, start to enjoy the experience and turn it into a thing they enjoy.

Hey ladies! I'm looking for some advice. My girlfriend puts in a lot of effort to look sexy before we get intimate, and I’d love to step up my game and look great for her, too. I always keep up with my hygiene, but I want to add a little extra something to my style. Are there any clothing items or accessories you think would make a guy more appealing in the bedroom?

Hey ladies! I'm looking for some advice. My girlfriend puts in a lot of effort to look sexy before we get intimate, and I’d love to step up my game and look hot for her, but I want to add a little extra something to my style. Are there any clothing items or accessories you think would make a guy more appealing in the bedroom?

I need advice. I'm open to all sides.

I (28F) am newly divorced and started dating this guy that I really like. To preface he is only the 4th person I've slept with and I have 2 kids so my body is not how it used to be. We have slept together a few times and he takes a long time to finish which had been fun to explore what eachother likes but sometimes we just stop because it's taking too long. He remains hard but just sometimes doesn't finish, we try again an hour or so later and he eventually finishes.

He makes great eye contact during sex and over all it's been really good. But last night I asked him what he needed thinking we needed to change something up and he asked me to push my boob's together. At first I was a little hurt because I am insecure about how soft/saggy my boobs are and I have inverted nipples that I've always hated. I got over it quick because I don't think he was trying to hurt me. But then a few minutes later I converted my face for some reason and he told me to do that again. I covered my face and I was so hurt. It was clear that the vibe changed and we stopped.

Afterwards he apologized for hurting my feelings and explained that it looked sexy the way my boob's were pushed together when I covered my face. He then doubled down and said not to ask him what he needs if it's going to get my feelings hurt.

I genuinely can't tell if this was all big red flags or innocent. I am learning to be more secure about my changed body and wasnt even thinking about my boob's until he said that.

I’m dating a guy who is perfect for me and my family loves him. The only issue is that I’m a vers bottom and he’s a side. A side is someone who doesn’t like anal sex. Either as a top or bottom. He says he wants to to top more but due to trauma he experienced as a bottom he loses his erection when he tries. Sex overall is kind of separated. We tend to lie next to each other while I jerk him off or suck him off. He sucks me off occasionally and jerks me off but it’s hard for me to cum. It feels like there is a lack of passion which doesn’t get me going. I need more confidence from him I think . There isn’t a whole lot of body contact or foreplay. This is really hard for me and I don’t know what to do. Please help!

So, me and my girlfriend have been having sex for 3 months and oral for 7 months as well as fingering nd hj, etc… I never know how to tell or how to even make her cum or squirt. I’m fairly young but of age and I feel like I have the basics down, she loves when I finger her, go down on her and fuck her in missionary but idk how to make her c*m or tell even if she ever is? Any tips to tell or make her do it?

I (M20) have been dating my current gf (F21) for almost two years now. My gf has a past of sexual assault, and because of it has a hard time getting horny (which is understandable and valid). I’ve noticed that she normally only wants to have sex or make out when she’s either tipsy or high, which makes me feel like shit. Most times when we do have sex, we end up having to stop early, which she says isn’t my fault but after so long of the same thing happening it’s hard to feel like it isn’t. Most times when I do try to make out with her sober, she gets weird about it or has a bad response, which also makes me feel bad. I understand having been SA’d myself that sex can be hard and triggering. It’s just that this is really bringing down my self confidence to the point where I cover my penis up with my hands when we shower together and I’m afraid to even look at her naked. I know I need to talk to her, but what do I say?

I (F21) have been dating my boyfriend (M24) for two years. Recently, I have had a really low sex drive and have only wanted to do it maybe once a week while he would want to do it daily. We have been doing it every few days. I don't even like him touching my privates too much. I feel like it is tearing our relationship apart, even though we both know we are meant to be together and are going to get married. I wish I liked sex more than I do, it would make everything way easier. Does anyone have any advice on how to navigate this or any similar situations?

So are most women interested in trying or actually doing it on your man? Have peaked my partners interest in prostate play with me and want to take it to the next level but afraid of getting kink shamed. Hod do I approach this subject?

Hi! I 20F am my BF 23M first body (and hopefully his last) but when I try giving him head he says it tickles and feels weird/different, idk if this is a me problem and that I’m doing it wrong but I never got complaints before. I really wanna make him feel good through head because sometimes (like when I’m on my period or my tummy hurts) I don’t want penetration. I have jerked it for him a few times but I don’t think that’s enough.

Giving head is also a plus because it helps ME get in a more sexy mood and turns me on more to be more in the moment and have some foreplay, we used to have some foreplay like him fingering me or us jerking each other off/kissing each others bodies but it slowly developed to us just making out and putting it in (though him kissing me like he does makes me wet almost immediately) I wanna do more than just penetration yk? I wanna show him everything since it’s his first time and I want him to experiment and explore different feelings and sensations.

I am just curious if this is normal for first times or if there is a way I can help him not be so ticklish when giving him head? Anything will be appreciated I really want to give him only the best experiences!