Remember the protests that Jean Hatchet was organising? the FA got back to her.

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She's still angry, because I imagine they'd die if they suddenly stopped, but the FA appears to be on our side. also if anyone is in Sheffield the protest she's holding is 3rd dec 6pm at Bramall lane. just wanted to throw that out there in case anyone wanted to counterprotest

ETA: also I've infiltrated the enemy base

Hi guys, essentially I have been on T for about 6 months. I was meant to have an appointment in November, but they sent an email that got put in my junk mail so I never knew about it.

I only realised I had missed it when I saw an email in the form of a letter that was sent to my GP.

Today I was meant to have that re-arranged appointment, but due to a family emergency I missed it (and just coming off of night shifts at work).

In the letter they sent to my GP, they said I’ve been discharged from the service and for the GP to re-refer for the follow up.

Does this mean my T is going to stop? I’m honestly terrified.

Hey, just joined here. Quick context: I'm hopefully starting T early next year with a private clinic, Gender Plus and was told to ask my GP if they do shared care. I just found out that they do not do shared care with private clinics which means that I may have to pay for my prescriptions. Does anyone know of anyway to get around that??

Just booked my top surgery consult!!
Excited, for obvious reasons. Anxious because I have to travel halfway across the UK (don't live in England and my surgery centre of choice is Hull) and my appointment is TWO DAYS BEFORE CHRISTMAS so I am not certain I trust the trains, and there are no coaches available apparently. But we shall see.

This may be a dumb question, but is your consult going to be with your surgeon? Just asking. I am assuming (and hoping!) that it will.

I'm mtf and trying to join my local football team. I know that I'm meant to give the FA some medical info but I can't work out how and also I can't find anywhere to give them the information. The FA website is just a bunch of circular links to their policies and Google just gives me a bunch of articles about transphobic MPs trying to ban trans women. Has anyone had similar issues/does anyone have guidance on what to do?

Im like 6 months deep into hrt now and ever since month 3 about every third week of the month there is around a week where i am much more emotional and cry a lot more than usual even for no reason and i am normally loving life and happy, this just me?

I’ve been DIYing for just over a year now and haven’t had my hormone levels tested. I’ve tried finger prick tests but I’m so terrified of needles that I have panic attacks when I try to do it. I’ve contacted my GP several times to ask for a blood test but they have refused. I know I should get my levels tested for the sake of my health but I’m lost as to how I can without a panic attack.

I was gonna return to my og gp but I disliked how they barely help with safeguarding. Ngl was with them since I was child and still don't know where to go when I'm suicidal.

Really want to pick a decent gp that's one bus away or short walk.

Archive link to the Telegraph story, obvious CWs apply

For changing my name on my driving licence do I need to send off the original deed poll or can I send a copy? I'm worried about losing it.

Also, I haven't legally changed my gender with a GRC or anything, am I still able to change the gender on my licence without this?

I called 111 cause off feeling depressed and upset they sent an ambulance because I mentioned having a panic attack my name has been changed for 6 months and the nhs has known since I changed it and when the ambulance came they called me my dead name, and I broke down in tears in front of them, I never thought that being miss named and misgendered would make me feel so bad but it did

Hi all - US to UK expat. Moved for my partner's work. I'm glad this community exists!

I have been a practicing lawyer in the united states for 5 years now. I'm currently trying to figure out career plans in the UK and would love to hear about some folks' experiences working in the legal profession as part of the trans community.

Edit: Greater London area!

Like idk I thought this(boy fail) was a stupid dumb thing that didn’t rlly happen but omfg it’s hit me like a truck the past few months, to myself I feel like I still look like a dude but I guess nobody else sees that or something bc everyone genders me correctly and like I’m just so confused like I had my co worker today say I’m way to pretty to be a man and start questioning me about my gender. I can’t believe I’m at this point after starting my transition less than a year ago iam so unbelievably happy and exited. I think it’s probably time to come out at work soon aswell I guess :D (sorry for rambaling my mind Nono work)

Idk how it exactly works but are all people registered at an address? Is there a way to update that? Also if me or my mum or dad (on my behalf obv) receive benefits, do they put it under my deadname or chosen name or both?? I was looking at a post on here before abt someone asking something similar except with the police but I haven't had issues with them but I used to have a social worker who put my pronouns down but also my agab. But yeah I'm just wondering about the address stuff or if that sorta stuff can out you maybe for when I start working or giving my info to other people who need it for whatever. I'm nonbinary and pretty out and not ashamed about that rn but I might want to go stealth or something one day so I'm curious

I have no issue paying the initial amount for the two appointments on gendercare to begin hormones, and even the blood test since my GP has said that everyone at his surgery has been told to not help anyone with anything in relation to private healthcare (yay...). I was just wondering how often I would need to be paying for bloods after I'd begin hormones, and if possible the average monthly cost for the actual hormones since I'd be paying it all myself (testosterone, I'm not sure which type it'd be).

Basically, past the initial setup cost of starting hormones, how much is it per month/year?

I've only been on the nhs waitlist for a little over a year at this point and the sandyford waitlist is atrocious so I'll be paying this myself for a good while. Is it worth trying to find another GP that'd do bloods for me? The way he was talking about it seemed like there was nobody around that would do it.

Mine call me by my dead name 90 percent of the time. two things..1. i dont mind that and 2. they are in their 70s so, but I wish they, and every one else could put more effort into calling me by my desired name even if it does not bother me what they call me.

Second, this is where I secretly suffer more: when Im around them, they ask me to do things perceived to be of males: if they need the trash out, they dont ask my nephew who was assigned female at birth and lives with them...in fact they sometimes have said in a low voice (nephew) "is a woman , you know this!" ...they ask me to pull heavy stuff up, throw trash out, help move furniture..EVERY DAMN TIME IT NEEDS TO BE DONE!

Is that your case too?

[Future me here, apologies for the heavy post—just trying to give as much context as possible to explain the situation. TWs: depression, anxiety, sa This post has been run through ChatGPT to maintain my anonymity.]

I think I first started to realise when I was really young. Growing up, I always felt more comfortable hanging out with girls. I didn’t have the words for it back then, but looking back, it all makes sense. Around the age of 10, I learned what it meant to be trans, and something just clicked. It was like discovering a puzzle piece I didn’t know I’d lost.

I remember messaging my best friend on MSN (throwback!) about it, but my parents had access to my messages. The next day, on the way to my weekend drama class, they confronted me, telling me there was “something wrong with me” and that I was just attention-seeking. I was so scared that I denied it all and buried those feelings deep inside.

Fast forward a few years, and by the time I hit Year 10, I started exploring my sexuality. I came out as bi, which felt like a step forward, but there was still this nagging feeling that something wasn’t right. The memory of my parents’ reaction was always in the back of my mind, making me afraid to question things further.

Eventually, I told a few close friends about how I was feeling. Most of them were supportive, saying things like “Oh, I kind of guessed!” which was reassuring but also overwhelming. I decided to talk to a teacher at my very conservative school, but he referred me to the school chaplain instead of any mental health services. The chaplain, to his credit, was kind and tried to connect me with an organisation that helps young trans people, but I didn’t feel safe pursuing it without support at home.

During a school holiday, I tried to talk to my parents again. It didn’t go well. My parents brought up a cousin who had struggled with addiction and died young, using it as a metaphor for how “bad decisions” can ruin lives. I was gutted. After that, I went through the school’s pastoral system, but every service—counsellors, GPs, even a psychologist—needed parental consent to proceed.

To make matters worse, someone I trusted in my boarding house started manipulating me. Because I’d come out to him, he assumed I was interested in him. This led to a series of situations where I was coerced into things I didn’t want. I didn’t fully recognise it as assault until much later.

The trauma from that, combined with feeling unsupported, led to a really difficult time. I gained a lot of weight, felt incredibly isolated, and just struggled to see how I could ever move forward. COVID eventually hit, and being sent home was a blessing in disguise. It gave me a break from school and some space to breathe, but I still couldn’t take any affirming steps for myself at home.

I started university a year later, and while it was a much more inclusive environment, I still felt stuck. Coming out to friends there was positive, but any time I tried taking concrete steps—like wearing affirming clothing or trying a new name—I had overwhelming anxiety attacks. I eventually stopped trying because it felt too hard.

I sought support through my university’s counselling services, and they were fantastic at helping me navigate things like my AuDHD diagnosis and even an abusive relationship I was in at the time. But when it came to my gender identity, I felt like I was treading water.

In late 2021, I self-referred to an NHS gender clinic, but I’m still on the waiting list. I’ve looked into private care, but it’s just not financially viable. At this point, I feel trapped in limbo. I know who I am, and I want to live as myself, but I don’t know how to move forward.

For clarity, I’m in a better place mentally now. My depression is managed with medication, and I’ve built a solid support network around me. But to use r/egg_irl terminology, my “eggshell” is so cracked it’s practically dust, yet it just won’t shatter. I want to feel free and confident, but it feels like there’s too much baggage weighing me down.

If anyone here has been through something similar or has advice, I’d really appreciate it. Thank you for reading this—I know it’s a lot, and I’m incredibly grateful for any support or suggestions.

Hi !! For context:

• I am currently 18 (soon to be 19)
• I'm planning on getting testosterone via GenderGP
• I am in a 4 year long relationship with my (cis) boyfriend
• I have no (known) fertility issues right now

I want to one day have kids with my boyfriend -- in an ideal world, I would love to be able to have a biological kid with him in around 10 years, and as I do not want to get pregnant, I would have my eggs collected and a surrogate would carry the baby via IVF.
Obviously, I know that it might not all play out like this as this can be a costly process, but we are both trying to save money to have the opportunity for a family in the future.

I really want to start testosterone soon, as I now have the means to do so, but whilst looking at the application form for GenderGP, it asked if I want to be referred for fertility preservation before taking T.
I don't know if it would be worth trying to collect my eggs right now -- I don't even know if the NHS or private clinics will let me, as I am still relatively young, but I *know* that I don't want to ever get pregnant. Also, people typically hold eggs for 10 years which would be cutting it a bit close for when we actually *want* to have a kid.

If at all possible, I would like to put off this process until later. I know that if you collect eggs whilst on T, you need to stop for a while, and I have made my peace with that tbh.
However, I am so confused about if being on T makes you less fertile or not, because there is still a risk of getting pregnant whilst on T, but then resources say that it does affect your fertility. Does fertility in this sense mean ability to conceive a child and carry a child? Or is it actually egg quality?
Because I don't mind if it messes up my ability to get pregnant, but I want to have eggs that can be collected in the future to have kids and make the process as easy as possible.

This is really long sorry !!
TL;DR -- Do I need to start fertility preservation even if I don't want to get pregnant, and will starting testosterone affect how well my eggs can be used to conceive a kid later down the line (through surrogate IVF)?

Hi, fellow awesome trans people in my phone.

My Hair, Nails and Beauty place is shutting down in a few months. Any recommendations for Nail Bairs/Hair Stylists etc in the Central Belt of Scotland? Basically anywhere from Glasgow to Edinburgh.

Queer friendly preferred obviously.

Thanks x

At just under 3 months on T, I decided to take a break while I got my shit together just for my own emotional sanity and mental health. I got my T prescription when I had only just gotten out of an abusive relationship. This relationship wrecked me and during it I was the worst I’d ever been. I started T anyway just to give me something to look forward to, but stopped not too long in just to get myself fully together as I didn’t wanna risk too much emotional instability as things had been so bad and I was still having some issues with my anger. I’m extremely happy to say that my mental health has gotten so much better, as well as my anger, and I’m able to look after myself far better than I have the past 2 and a half years.

I was just able to start T again from where I left off, which feels amazing. And on top of this, I finally got my name legally changed on NHS systems. I’ve been waiting for this for so long and it feels so amazing to be more and more excepted. Hopefully getting things legally changed with my bank in the coming days and then going from there :)

I’m also finally getting to see a psychiatrist through the NHS which I’ve been waiting for the past 3 years at least which is also amazing news. I know this sounds cliche, but if you’re struggling hang in there. Things do get better <3

So if i take finasteride and minoxidil and then come off. Will i only loose progress or will i loose more hair overall. Im looking to start before my hair line gets any worse. And any advice for when i start like side effects that they dont tell you about (i know i asked a simmilar question before but it was a more rambly post that was a bit over the place)

I’ve poured over many thread’s; article’s and searches. Yet I cannot find anything truly conclusive that denotes Nicotine upsets Oestrogen uptake in M2F - other than, it might.

Out of sheer paranoia I’ve dropped down from 20mg to a 0mg vape juice since restarting HRT. I just really like that throat hit you get when Nicotine is added - the relaxing effect of nicotine I can’t say I’ve had a problem weening off.

I wanted to get a fresh 2024 perspective on this:

What are your thoughts? Does quitting nicotine all together make any difference?

That sweet, sweet….nicotine!

I've heard great things about University of Manchester, Cardiff and Liverpool. Was wondering if I could get any more suggestions. thanks!

I feel as though for the last month or so, maybe a bit longer, iv felt completed disconnected from my identity and who I am as a person. Like a switch has been turned off, like the part of my brain that makes me me is missing. Even referring to myself as, myself, or I, feels wrong, like who am I even referring to, because I feel like I don’t exist. This summer was when I felt most myself, I felt so comfortable, I felt attractive, I felt happy, and I had friends ( not close, just people I met at pride who I went to my first club with ) who saw me as a guy, and referred to me as such. But unfortunately those friendships ended for multiple different reasons, mainly because they weren’t deep, and I drifted apart from the majority of them. I also, during the summer, had a fwb, who I ended up catching feelings for, but that aside, she made me feel sexy, and she was fun, and it was my first time being in sexual relationship as a man, it felt so right. That ended early October, and after that I started to feel isolated. Because of that, in the last 2 months iv been spending more time with my grandparents, and they misgender me a lot. I didn’t/don’t correct them, because I am a pushover, and I like to keep the peace, but it would hurt everytime. I would get home and dissociate for awhile because of the dysphoria, but outside of that, I love my grandparents, I always have fun with them, and they make me feel less isolated, so I continued to see them more often, becoming more dysphoric, but ignoring it because I just wanted my family. I could tell when I was with them that how I looked made my grandma especially upset, the fact I had facial hair, and pass pretty much all the time. My grandad would insist I use the women’s bathroom, and I couldn’t say “no because I’m a man” because I couldn’t get the words out, and didn’t want to deal with the aftermath, so I just held it until we found a unisex bathroom. It’s a complicated situation, they love me, but they didn’t understand, and I never specified which pronouns I used anyway. I try and hide my facial hair with my hands so my grandma doesn’t have to look at it, try and make my voice higher, and refrain from being too “masculine”. It’s horrible every time, but I would do anything to make them more happy and comfortable, even if I feel like I lose part of myself everytime I do it. I feel deep guilt for being trans and putting them through that, and feel like I need to make up for it, even though they tell me they want me to be happy, and even recently my grandma corrected herself and called me he, which made my heart jump a bit, in a good way. It’s been worse since officially telling my grandma I am trans, I am a man, and since getting top surgery. I can’t live in my little bubble anymore, where their misgendering doesn’t hurt as much because maybe they don’t know, where nothing changes, where I have the safety of being their little girl, even though iv known for atleast 4 years now I am not a girl, I wish I was, accepting I’m not was, and honestly maybe still is, really hard. It’s hard to really explain to strangers on the internet, but I have lost myself trying to be someone I’m not. I don’t feel like a guy, like a girl, I thought for a bit maybe I’m just nonbinary, but nonbinary people are still people, and I don’t feel like a person. I don’t feel attraction to anyone, sexual or romantic, which is a huge switch up, and it honestly feels awful. I feel like a husk, like my personhood has been scooped up and is locked away somewhere. If you read this far, like with all my other novels of Reddit posts, I really appreciate it. I just wanted to get my feelings out and see if anyone has ever felt/currently feels the same so I know I’m not alone.