/r/transgenderUK

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A place for transgender and genderqueer people in the UK.

Transgender UK -- Rules


Community resources


Useful Websites


Trans Healthcare Services Directory

England

NHS Gender Identity Clinics

Any adult living in England can choose to be referred to any English clinic, regardless of location:

Current NHS Pilot Clinics

Shorter waiting lists, varying eligibility criteria.

Local NHS Services

Private (Adults):

Private (under-18s)

While options for under-18s exist, we wouldn't necessarily recommend any of them without caveats - searching for the provider's name in the subreddit's history is encouraged:

Blood testing / sexual health services / HRT support:

Scotland

NHS:

Private:

Wales

NHS:

Private:

Northern Ireland

NHS:

Support groups

Helplines

  • Switchboard LGBT+ helpline - 0800 0119 100, open 10AM-10PM every day.

  • Mindline Trans+ - 0300 330 5468, Emotional support/information signposting, Monday-Friday, 8PM-midnight.

  • Shout by texting SHOUT to 85258 or if your in the bluelight services (999, NHS trusts or other Bluelight Services) text BLUELIGHT to 85258

  • Samaritans or call 116 123 Free from any phone in UK or ROI - Support for people who need someone to talk to. Available 24/7 365 days a year.

Other Assistance

Some other LGBT subreddits

/r/nonbinaryUK/r/UKLGBT/r/trans/r/asktransgender/r/transspace/r/ainbow

/r/transgenderUK

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nipple tattooing north?

any tattoo artists for nipples in the north/north east anyone can recommend for just touching them up, rounding off where theres discolouration?

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2024/10/29
22:18 UTC

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NHS GIC advice for someone who has basicly already transitioned?

Hi, So I'm just looking for a little bit of advice from those who have been throught the NHS GIC appointments or are in a similar situation

So I (MtF) was referred to one of the GIC when I was 17y old and am currently on the waiting list, I have basicly transitioned in my opinion. I have gotten my Gender dysphoria diagnosis, been on hormones for many years, have a shared care agreement with my GP, changed my name and gender on every piece of documentation and have a gender recognition certificate.

I have proof of all of these in a big trans folder as you could call it, in dated order with routine blood tests, perscriptions, letters of support from my GP, all the surgerys I have done (apart from SRS which im wanting on the NHS because £) So basically fully transitioned kinda :)

Theoretically my first appointment with them will be around May of 2026 and I'm wondering how everything I have done legally and physically to transition will affect this appointment or how my treatment will be at the NHS clinic ? As I keep hearing different things from trans people some who have had several appointments and some who have basicly been "fast tracked" through the system because of there private transition, any comments would be much appreciated x

5 Comments
2024/10/29
22:13 UTC

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Not added to waitlist?

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this - I came out when I was 12 in 2018, in 2020 I told my psychiatric nurse and in turn my psychiatrist at the time who I believed to have put me on the waiting list for Sandyford (I lived in Dundee at the time, now further up the coast) but I recently found out I wasn't added at all.

I'd say I pass decently until I speak, I'm starting T via diy methods next week yet I was more focused on getting a hysto and bottom surgery (undecided between metoid and phallo) but I've had to rethink my entire transition I had in my head, is there anywhere possible I could get a hysto privately? I'm completely thrown off as I fully believed I would've been over the waitlist by the time I'm 20 ish (2026) for at least getting on T.

I know I'm privileged to pass decently but I truly just want to be able to transition and live as a man.

2 Comments
2024/10/29
20:34 UTC

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Andrew Mellington - Top Surgery

I was just wondering if anyone is willing to share their experiences with Andrew Mellington for top surgery, thanks!

0 Comments
2024/10/29
19:42 UTC

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Wait times for ftm lower surgery?

Is there anywhere I can check for accurate wait times for ftm lower surgery (specifically meta) on the NHS? Or just anyone who knows roughly how long it is? I should be having my appointment to be referred to the waiting list soon, so it'd be nice to know how long it is

I know about trans actual's post about the whole situation but there's not been updates on it for a while and it doesn't have current wait times

2 Comments
2024/10/29
18:57 UTC

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Inaccurate blood test results from Vitall

5 Comments
2024/10/29
12:25 UTC

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Transform Identite

I was on Instagram and an ad for the company/service Transform Identite came up in my feed and I was curious if anyone has heard of them before or have any experiences? The website looks pretty legit, similar to companies like GenderGP (which I have heard mixed things about). I'm interested in top surgery, not right this moment but soon, and wanted to check out any mentions of them online before considering a consultation/contact of some form.

Here's the site link if anyone wants to check it out: https://identite.transforminglives.co.uk/

10 Comments
2024/10/29
18:27 UTC

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Tina Rashid

Leeds GIC has referred me to Tina Rashid at Parkside any idea on how long before I hear anything?

Edit :

Sorry everyone- I should have said it's for revision not initial surgery

10 Comments
2024/10/29
18:01 UTC

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Job required for SRS?

I'm disabled and unable to work, does this mean I can't get SRS?

19 Comments
2024/10/29
17:29 UTC

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Is the nhs or private the only way to get surgery?

I’m already sure I know the answer to this because I’ve done a load of research but im desperate at this point. Are the options really just nhs and wait or spend tens of thousands?

My dysphoria has gotten exponentially worse and is now to the point where I’m definitely either going to do self surgery or kill myself because I can’t wait anymore.

14 Comments
2024/10/29
17:27 UTC

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Trans girly looking for trans girly friend :)

Hi I’m a trans girly looking for a trans girly friend. I live around Norwich/kings lynn area in Norfolk so trying to find someone close by that I can hang out with IRL. Like go shopping or just chill with and I really need someone to teach me how to do makeup haha.

Just wonna find someone who wants a on my level and understands me if your interested just PM me and we can chat to see if we click.

Thank you :)

2 Comments
2024/10/29
16:33 UTC

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UK TERF logic

Restricting trans people’s access to healthcare that can help them change sex characteristics and then become “gender critical” to blame them as “predators that need to be eliminated” because “they don’t change their sex characteristics”.

Isn’t this the same logic nazi people used on Jews?

And now the same ridiculous logic is spreading all over the world. Even to Nordic countries.

12 Comments
2024/10/29
16:10 UTC

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Trans male in Scotland losing all hope

I’m a transgender male living in Scotland, I’m not out to anyone in my real life and I’m socially isolated, on benefits and out of education and have no irl friends just family and family friends partially because I can’t bear to go out in public and participate in society being seen as a woman. But I’m too scared to socially transition as I will be less likely to pass without HRT & surgery but it’s looking like it’s never gonna happen. I’m terrified of transitioning either way as the acceptance towards trans people seems to just be going backwards and I feel that my mental state is too fragile to handle any harassment. I’ve been on Sandyford waiting list since 2019 I’m still on it but have heard nothing and I’m worried that even if I do get an appointment I won’t be able to get anything from it since I haven’t socially transitioned & I’m worried that my GP and any GP in my area would not be willing to prescribe testosterone even if I did have successful appointments with Sandyford. I have changed my name legally to something gender neutral but that’s it. I have tried to change my gender / prefix to male/Mr in places that allow it can’t bear the looks I get and the way people treat me differently when I look like a woman but ask to be called a man I don’t even feel safe shopping in the mens department or even looking at stuff like mens deodorant and shower gel in an irl shop I’m so paranoid of the judgement and disgust. I feel like I’ve been suppressing this for so long I’ve tried to go back to being a girl so many times and just get used to it but I can’t, but I don’t feel safe living as an openly trans person either. I don’t know what to do it honestly feels hopeless. I can’t afford to go private and again I don’t think even if I did get a prescription privately my GP would be willing to accept it and I can’t afford to pay for T forever I’m on benefits and can afford things right now but when I’m no longer living at home I won’t be able to. I really don’t know what to do I feel like the only way out is to not be here at all

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2024/10/29
15:09 UTC

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Am I wrong to not want to be outed

Going through an exceptionally rough time at the moment with wife getting more angry and resentful to the point that she’s wanting to just out me to everyone now! I’m out to my professionals (GP, Gender Therapist, Medical Team etc) and my immediate family, children etc and each have one good friend that we’ve confided in. However now in her anger she just wants to just throw it out there and I’ve responded and said she has no right to do that, it’s on my timeline when and how our extended family and friends are told. Don’t know what to do, I’m so upset, anxious and just so tired of this emotional turmoil and I know that I’m the cause of it all! I just don’t want to get into arguing with her, I’m exhausted and don’t know how much more I can apologise or do anything right. Sorry for venting, I just needed to get it off my mind. Becky x

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2024/10/29
14:49 UTC

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Concerned my doctor is stonewalling my transition

Heey Reddit, I'm just looking for some advice really, I'll try and keep a long story short but apoligies in advance if i ramble on a bit. This is the third time ive tried to write this out and stay on point. Also I'm writing this on my breaks at work on my phone to sorry for grammer/spelling etc.

I've been battling with my gender identity issues for over a decade now, like many others I've had some severely awful experiences with 'professionals' in the field and I've been sent spiralling into bouts of incredibly negative mental health on more than one occasion as a result. In my early twenties I had a new GP take over who refused to carry on my HRT as they 'didn't know me or gender identity issues well enough to comfortably handle the situation' and after reaching out to every avenue I could find, got no help or advice back other than to start the referral process all over again (which had originally taken about 4 years to get to my first appointment with a GIC and a further 2 years to begin HRT)

At that point I felt so exhausted and heartbroken trying to battle against the people who were supposed to help me, to just get an inch of progress that I gave up and tried to ignore everything I knew and felt about who I was.

Fast forward to August 2023, I hit a point in my life where I knew I couldn't keep living the lie because it was steering me further down a dark road that felt like it had a rapidly approaching dead end. So I bit the bullet and spoke to my current GP who was actually very understanding about everything, though was reluctant to start me on HRT and it wasnt until the heroes in the Cardiff GIC spoke to him after a referal, that he moved forward, so within around 5 weeks I was back on a starting amount of HRT (1mg Estradiol gel satchets) and a few weeks after I mentioned about blockers and was prescribed a low dose of Finnasteride. I'll admit I'm a little ignorant on the different kinds of HRT as a lot of it gives me anxiety with side effects etc. And kind of went forward under the assumption of the trained medical professional knows best. This all happened last September, and I had check ups every few months to monitor my cholesterol and blood pressure etc. Since my doctor had concerns about my age and weight (Early 30s and about 18.5 stone, 5'11"). But it felt like finally after so long, I was finally getting somewhere with being happy with myself. I know I'm overweight and have no disillusions about that needing to change, and I set out to make the healthier changes the doctor wanted to see. So i started cooking healthier meals and eating a lot less junk food, I quit smoking, cut out energy drinks and got my severe caffeine addiction under control and started going to the gym. My blood pressure has been consistently in a very healthy range for several months now and I got my cholesterol under control as well. So with all the progress I asked to up my dosages and progress further with transitioning, but my doctor immediately seemed reluctant and asked me to wait, then after about 6 weeks, I finally got another appointment and asked again and he told me that I had to wear a 24 hour blood pressure monitor before he would consider exploring higher dosages etc. I've been requesting the equipment my doctor has instructed me I have to use, but keep getting told it's unavailable, or several times that someone will contact me within 48 hours to arrange the equipment, then nothing happens and when I query it, I get told it's unavailable again. This has been going on for over 3 months.

Now I'm at a point where I've been on the same dosages in my HRT for 14 months and I'm not being allowed to progress any further despite doing everything that's been asked of me and then some. It's really started to effect me mentally at this point, I'm not getting any younger and I can't help but feel similarities to the doctors I dealt with earlier in my life and I'm concerned I'm getting stonewalled by this doctor now.

But I have no idea what my options are or what other resources are available to me, so any and all advice would be super appreciated. I've seen people mention about self medicating, but I want to make sure I'm doing everything safely etc. And I know private is an option but don't really know where to look or what kind of costs to expect.

TL;DR: I'm worried my doctor is refusing to allow me to transition after being on minimal levels of HRT for over a year and I don't know what I can do about it.

10 Comments
2024/10/29
14:44 UTC

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MTF Breast augmentation and tracheal shave options ?

Hey!

I’m looking into getting a breast augmentation (trans friendly) and tracheal shave, has anyone got any good recommendations for UK and Europe? I’m based in Bristol, UK.

I have looked at 2pass clinic in Belgium where they offer both the procedures that I could get done the same week, however, not seen great reviews? Does anyone have any experience here?

That being said I’m prioritising my breast augmentation so if anyone has any great recommendations for this? I have looked at transpire uk.

Other Tracheal shave options I have are Brian Musgrove.

Thanks so much for any help / advice!!

Xx

3 Comments
2024/10/29
14:26 UTC

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Puberty blocker pause not fuelled by ideology???

I smell a rat! Puberty blocker pause not fuelled by ideology, says top doctor https://www.upday.com/uk/puberty-blocker-pause-not-fuelled-by-ideology-says-top-doctor

13 Comments
2024/10/29
14:18 UTC

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Dr Kaustubh Nisal

Has anyone had any experience with Dr Kaustubh Nisal as their private endo to start hormones? I cant find any posts at all about him. He is one of the endos on the GenderDoctors website

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2024/10/29
14:09 UTC

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Pharmacy bungle saved me about £80 in prescription costs (Little Win?)

Today marks the bi-yearly trudge around town to find a pharmacy that'll dispense my Finasteride prescription (still private, costs a bunch booo) without hassle.
After some long waits in a few lunchtime queues, the on-duty person at Superdrug kindly let me know that although they'd have enough Finasteride for my prescription tomorrow, the duty Pharmacist for Wednesdays doesn't dispense more than 4 months of meds at once (not a Transphobic thing, just frustrating as I can't change my bit of paper).

I slogged to Boots despondently, resigned to the slightly higher going rate that they've charged me in the past for private prescriptions. Well, after a 20 min wait, the old dude who rang me up charged me the NHS rate by mistake.
6 months of meds for £10.70! Almost feels like how the rest of society lives...

I'm usually the sort of sap that interrupts with a: 'so sorry but it seems that you've undercharged me and of course I should pay what I owe etc.'
But given the oodles of cash that I have to fork over for the rest of my meds every year, I'll take the little win on this occasion and replace my busted-up, grubby trainers instead!

TL;DR
Got rang up wrong for my Finasteride prescription, saved £80+, buying new shoes to celebrate.

(Not a frequent Reddit poster so hope this meets the sub-rules, apologies if I've misread anything)

2 Comments
2024/10/29
13:45 UTC

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Second assessment at NRGDS!

Some good news here. Been offered a diagnostic assessment (second appointment) not even six months after my initial assessment at NRGDS.

In person whereas my initial assessment was via zoom.

Literally in shock at how fast it's been since I waited 6 years for the initial assessment.

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2024/10/29
13:39 UTC

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What are the first steps to top surgery ?

Im 17 and I work two jobs . Top surgery is becoming this thing that I no longer want but need, I have NO idea where I even begin with all of this . I don’t have any insurance and I can’t wait a million years on the NHS, I need a 1 year time gap at the max .

Do I speak to a GP about this ? Do I spend 150 every time I want a consultation with a surgeon ? Genuinely lost . Anything is helpful

Thank you all

2 Comments
2024/10/29
13:31 UTC

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HR not updating all details after deed poll

My HR department have been great so far, updating email addresses and the like as soon as I came out and generally being supportive. They won't however update my payroll details until I've updated my drivers license or passport, even though I've changed my name via deed poll. Does anyone have links to resources I can send telling them they are wrong? (Assuming they are wrong).

5 Comments
2024/10/29
10:57 UTC

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GIC clinic selection/NHS app

I'm very early on in the GIC process and I know there are many more years to wait. A few months ago my GP referred me and in the NHS app I can see the referral is in the system. But there is very little info on there, it doesn't name a specific clinic. The last thing I remember doing is selecting a weird time slot for an appointment, like 2:16 AM, which I know isn't a real appointment.

At what point in the process does the clinic get chosen? Do I get to choose one or does the GP assume it right at the start? Or can I change it myself at this stage without having to restart the whole process?

Just asking because if it's location based then I think I would be Tavistock but I saw a few comments saying in England we can choose another GIC with shorter wait times.

3 Comments
2024/10/29
08:50 UTC

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Changing testosterone types.

Has anyone gone from sustanon 3 weekly to test C weekly? Hoping it will stop my hormone crashes but any to hear others folks experiences before I try. Thanks

7 Comments
2024/10/29
08:28 UTC

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Feeling completely stuck and hopeless

I hate it here, I hate it here so much, I just wish I could leave but I can't and probably never will. I just don't have the money and don't have the education.

I've gotten nothing from the NHS after 6 years, their even failing at non trans care, so I've been going without food for hrt and I feel like bottom surgery is just an impossibility

I'm sick of feeling terrified of going outside, I'm sick of being treated the way I do by every level of bureaucracy, I'm sick of being harassed and bullied by other people, I'm sick of seeing people like me demonised in media, and I'm sick of losing friends because they ""gave up""

I just wish I could just do anything.

2 Comments
2024/10/29
04:19 UTC

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Gender gp

I'm looking at starting hrt, can genderGP be trusted and will I likely be able to get everything (mtf) through them?

As so many of you have said look elsewhere. What suggestions do you have for where else can be trusted?

10 Comments
2024/10/29
00:39 UTC

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GenderGP has no more tech support or something IDK?

i'm trying to renew my medication with genderGP, but i've run into issues since i seem to be logged out of theirs site (specifically book.gendergp.com , although i might be signed out on theyre other site too) this is a problem since atleast as of 6 months ago, they required a fallow up session every 6 months to continue medication, with said fallow up session being booked on the aforementioned sight, IDK what's going on so i attempted to try and find the help section on they're site, but all it gave me was a AI chatbot which failed to help with my issue, they've also stopped replying when i email them, i don't know what's happening, and i don't like being in the dark as my medication runs out.

help

4 Comments
2024/10/28
23:53 UTC

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Need advice

I have been out as trans for a couple years now and my parents have never accepted it. They deadname me and misgender me every single day. It's tiring. I've tried everything. I've tried to ignore them when they misname ot misgender me, didn't work. They just yelled at me and/or didn't talk to me and painted me to be the villain. I've also tried to correct them whenever they misname or misgender me, which resulted in the same outcome. Just being yelled at and painted as a bad person. Basically ANYTHING you can think of that would work on normal parents, hasn't worked on my parents. It hurts so much more because my mom is generally an averagely good mom and treats me well, other than with me being trans and a few other things which bother me a bit less. I just feel like I'm fighting with a brick wall whenever I mention anything to do with being trans. She tells me I'll always be a girl because I was born a girl and nothing can change that. I'm an adult now and I have a trust fund that I want to use to get onto testosterone, but I know she'll go fucking crazy over it. It's a government trust fund which makes it even worse considering she didn't even contribute to it, so she should have no say in it.

I just want to feel comfortable in my own house. Being here genuinely makes me depressed because of the constant dead naming and misgendering. I'm so scared to go on testosterone around her because she thinks it's stupid. Does anybody have any advice on how I can get through to her?

3 Comments
2024/10/28
23:30 UTC

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Laser hair recommendations Leeds

Heyyy so I had 4 sessions of laser hair removal with skin clients before they went bust and I didn’t see any benefit/ difference but I’m wanting to find a new place and give it another go. Any recommendations or advice thanks x

3 Comments
2024/10/28
22:49 UTC

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How can trade unions help trans people in the uk?

Hey! I’m the equalities officer for my branch of UNITE the union in Brighton. I want to ask the trans community what we can do as a union to help trans people more.

• We’ve had a presence at trans pride both in the parade and also with a stall to give out materials about trans rights at work.

• I’m currently writing a letter to Wes Streeting challenging the puberty blockers ban and the awful state of trans healthcare.

• We’ve worked with other local groups such as Trans Liberation Front (TLF) to mobilise an effective counter protest to Posie Parker and other transphobic events in our city.

• I’m passing a motion to donate £200 to Trans Kids Deserve Better following their recent protests outside of the DfE and the LGB Alliance conference.

• We ran a successful event for IDAHOBIT where I gave a speech about the need to challenge the rise of the far right and anti LGBTQ+ rhetoric.

Any suggestions or advice on what more we can do would be really appreciated! 🏳️‍⚧️🚩

77 Comments
2024/10/28
20:49 UTC

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