Hi everyone. Just after general advise on where to start/ who to speak to regarding transitioning… thanks

Hello, I received this email from the Northamptonshire gic after informing them I am currently going private for t. I am on sustanon 250mg every three weeks, I've never had hrt before so this is my starting.

Will being on private t affect my GIC hormone therapy in the future.

Should I be worried about starting doses, gel really isn't an affordable option for me.

my best friend, like we are talking day since I was born best friend, has said she's transphobic and makes jokes about it. I'm ftm, I'm not out to anyone apart from online friends but I'd like to start telling some people I know irl. it makes me disgusted that she makes the type of jokes she does and says the things she says but I don't know the right way to one, keep myself safe and two, talk to her / shut her out. ik it should be easy right? But how do you go from loving someone and talking everyday since your existence to never talking and hating eachother and also risking being outed to everyone else and i can't have that. I came out as bi a few years ago and the threats and physical attacks were bad enough.

Hey all! I’m a transman, pre everything. I’m out to my girlfriend, close friends and my close friend’s family but other than that no one knows. I’m just wondering if anyone could offer me some advice on how I start the process of transitioning I.e. starting T, top surgery, name changes etc. and if anyone has advice on coming out to family/work colleagues that would also be appreciated!

I think I’m a little while off actually doing it, but I’d like to start actually thinking about it and maybe taking the steps to start my transition, I’m also 22 but do live at home.

Thanks in advance!

Hey everyone, i’m an 18 year old trans girl and i’ve been wanting to transition since about 14. Since turning 18 i’ve been looking into the best path forward for myself. I’m currently getting a referral to the London GIC but i’m aware that the waiting times are immensely long so i’m trying to go private. From what I can tell, I’d need to pay for a private assessment in order to get a gender dysphoria diagnosis, then give this to a prescription provider, pay a set up fee and then a monthly fee for the hormones themselves. Is this all correct? I’d like to be 100% of what’s going to happen and any other payments or issues before i go ahead with this. Thanks for you help :)

Just realised that my referral for the NHS gender identity clinic included my deadname and old NHS number/ID. Is it worth it to inform them that I've changed my number? I'm just curious if it'll show up on my NHS info in general if I tell them that, I explicitly told my gp that I don't want there to be mentionings of me being assigned female at birth (ftm) on my records or me being trans showing up to general appointments outside of gender clinics.

Apparently I’m within the normal testosterone range for my age but I have a “target” level, which is below 12nmol. Which is fucking bollocks. GIC isn’t even involved because I’m transferring care right now. The GIC has given me multiple target levels for testosterone. Feels like they just want to [removed] everyone into lower doses.

How do I fight this back? They want me to go to injections every 4 weeks, not 3. Target my ass.

Some dude in his 50s used the term “transvestite”, I didn’t hear the context but he was laughing about it with his female colleagues. What do I do? Do I just move on? I don’t have proof and I don’t have his name but he got off the train I just got onto

So a while ago my gp said they refered me to nottingham transgender clinic on my request but said they made it via email as "the forms was not working" and was wondering how can i contact them to ask if i am on their waiting list or not as i have not had any correspondence from them.

Thank you for reading my post!

Hi everyone

The packet says to change Evorel patches twice a week.

If I change more than this, say three times a week, does this impact the hormone dose at all?

I find that waiting two times a week everything gets a bit messy with the glue and I really have to scrub it off so am thinking of doing it three times a week.

Thanks!

I did my blood tests 2 months ago through my gp to send to my endocrinologist, Dr Millson-Brown. I only found out on my call with her that some information was missing and apparently the results of my FBC were lost along the way. I was given a prescription on the call to order T, which I have, but I’m unable to book a blood test to get my FBC for another 2 weeks. Do I have to wait to start T until I’ve done this final blood test, or can I start in the meantime.

This is not trans specific. Apparently due to issues with NHS last 2-3 months It seems GPs may not want to go into shared care agreements with private providers.

I've been having issues with my own GP with regards to ADHD medication. Annoying part is I was referred by my own GP 🙃 and I was referred to private psychiatrist by NHS themselves without me asking for it.

I am not sure if this would translate to HRT private providers... but may need to be mindful about it.

Hi everyone, I'm a cis woman but my partner is AMAB NB. I'm really worried about how long the waiting times are for getting hormones etc, this is a bit of a stupid question but would them taking the contraceptive pill work at all? I've heard that the amount of oestrogen in the pill is higher than the amount in HRT, so would this mean they'd have to take them less frequently? I have loads left over and if it would help them start their transition faster, I want to help. I'm an uneducated moron and thought the waiting times were up to a year (still stupidly long) but they told me it's actually closer to five?! I'm so sorry our system sucks :( <3

I posted this question over on r/asktransgender but I thought I’d ask it here too.

As I said over there, I am sick of hearing “sex is real” or anything of that ilk! I mean, yeah …no shit! 99% of my dysphoria is down to my birth sex and I am painfully reminded of it every single day! The whole purpose of medical transition is to bring your physical sex characteristics in line with your gender identity. Of course it’s real, but more to the point who is actually saying otherwise?

I’m not going to say that nobody is claiming sex isn’t real, but let’s not make it out to be more of a thing than it actually is!

Hey, so im 18 (19 in march) ftm & have been on the waiting list for nhs services since early 2019, i've gone to northampton services as its the closest (i'm in cambridgeshire)

I still haven't heard a single thing from anyone about this (GIDS or GIC) and its kind of exhausting me. Also looking through this subreddit I havent seen the best things said about the NHS GIC services & am now starting to get anxious about it.

I have looked into maybe GenderGP & GenderCare but my GP says he can't do a shared care agreement with them. I don't know why. I really need my GP for other reasons so changing is out of the question.

My question is, is there any private services that don't require any GP support? I am ready to pay for anything needed & price isnt an issue I just can't find anywhere.

Please let me know, i'm really struggling

Are there any ftm guys from Leicester that would like to meet up? I'm 24 ftm and I'm looking for some trans friends coz I think it would be nice to have friends that have something like this in common with me. I have lots of queer friends and they are all great but it's just not the same.

Anyway, I hope that this is not inappropriate.

(Yes, I go to the LGBT+ centre adult trans social, but I haven't met any ftm guys there yet)

hey my friend gave me oestrogel 750 micrograms / actuation gel estradiol. how do i use it? how much lol :3

Pretty much as is in the title. Not sure what to expect. An assessment, then treatment appointments? I've been on the waiting list for four years and I'm so nervous and excited to start actually receiving trans healthcare.

So, it's been 8 years, since I started medically transitioning, and I still don't pass to anyone at all. I have no idea why, and the thing is that I really want to pass, but it seems like no matter what I do, I just can't seem as female. (I'm mtf) I know I'm 6ft 1 which doesn't help. My voice sounds femmine on a good day and days when I sound like a teenage boy. Nevertheless, I've done everything that I could ( hormones, FFS, Bottom surgery, voice training, hair removal) and nothing works.

I'm just wondering if this is normal? Especially given how trans spaces normalise passing to the point where it is expected.

So I'm ready to start my transition privately and I sent an email over to Dr Dunda's team a couple of days ago. I just wanted to know how long would I have to wait for a reply? And then from the reply how long will I have to wait until the whole process starts?

Any advice would help because I'm kinda an overthinker

Thanks <333

Hi everyone! AMAB Enby here.

Just started university this month, its been a great opportunity to decide what I do and don't like in terms of fashion. One thing I've got zero experience with is makeup , and I don't really know where to start? I have some questions:

- What do I need to get started with makeup?
- How much is that going to run me? I'm a student and therefore working on a budget
- Where are the best places to buy online?
- If shopping online, how do I know which colours to get?

I appreciate any responses :D thanks

I’m a british and polish citizen and I’m looking to legally change my name. The thing is I’m not entirely sure how to change my name on my polish passport, and I want to do that as I need to change my polish passport before I can change my british one. Though would changing my name everywhere but my passport be fine legally or do all my documents need to changed after I do the name change? It’s hard for me to find information on this specific situation because it’s kind of niche so if anyone could provide any websites with information on this that would be great.

I am soon looking to join an apprenticeship with the british army doing engineering but i am worried about how i will be treated and also worried about taking time off and was wandering if anyone could answer my questions ? I’m ftm and if i am accepted i will be joining the army and was wandering if any other ftm have joined the army.Did you get a lot of hate or judgy looks ? or were you accepted by the other people .

I also am saving and looking to get top surgery in in a year or two and was wandering if i would even be allowed the time off needed to heal from surgery.It says you get around 30 days off paid leave a year but i know when healing i need to be healing for around 6 weeks to prevent stretching scars and of course the army is something very physical that ill need full mobility for. Has anyone got any answers thanks !

Anywhere in England specifically? Regardless of expenses? (Providing under like 20k or something)

For context, I'm 15, almost 16, and I'm on T

Had my follow-up appointment to pick a surgery clinic today. The guy I was speaking to said that it would be a ten month wait for my consult, and then another ten months before I could get surgery. It seems a little odd that he's able to give me that specific of an answer immediately, given that he hasn't spoken to the surgeon team at that centre and looked at their wait times yet. Is that likely to be the actual amount of time I wait?
Anybody who has had top surgery on the NHS, how long were you told you'd have to wait/how long did you have to wait?

I get it now, I finally get it!

It all started during the pandemic, after my ex girlfriend decided to fucking friend zone me. I fell into a deep depression, I was beyond suicidal and falling deeper into the abyss of despair.

But the lower I sank, the deeper into hell I went the easier it was for my spiritual awakening to take control and give me the mental clarity I needed all my life.

Let me explain just how I’ve felt all my life, I have Autism/Asperges and prior to that I had gone my whole childhood without knowing, therefore not realising I was different to others. But I always knew I wasn’t like other people.

When I look back on my life, it’s been a lonely one for me.

But as far as I can go back to my childhood especially when I was at school or in social settings I’ve always felt like I’ve never been loved, wanted or desired by other people. I was a very lonely child. I didn’t have friends, and most of the time I felt like I didn’t fit in with anyone And was never accepted by anyone.

I’ve never been myself out of fear of being rejected, judged or bullied. Because I felt I was always the outcast.

I wasn’t diagnosed with Autism until I was 22. So I had gone most of my life not even aware I was on the spectrum.

I was always socially awkward, and had to mask my way into groups in order to fit in. If I wanted people to like me i had to get interested in the things that they liked. Just so I could be part of the conversation and the group.

I always felt invisible, best way to describe it as. I feel like someone looking at everyone from the outside. I felt like people looked through me and not acknowledging my presence. Never feel included.

I’ve always felt alone in this world, there’s a part of me that has always felt missing. I feel very lost.

It hurts to assume everyone hates me all the time unless physically or verbally showing me they don’t, and to find it hard to trust people, which made me avoid relationships just so I couldn’t face rejection.

It’s hard always feeling like Nobody understands me, or cares. I don’t know who I am on the inside and How i am is determined by how I’m treated because I have always felt out of place in society

I feel like a blank canvas and that I have no identity and have always found it difficult to express myself.

When I was at School alone on the playground I always wanted to be someone else Or somewhere else, I sometimes wished I could switch bodies with people just to experience being more desirable and maybe then I wouldn’t have to force myself to fit in. I’ve always felt really strange like I’m constantly having to play a character.

Most of my playground days I would just sit under a tree or in a quiet place and watch everyone else play. I didn’t bother going up to ask if I could join in, I knew what to expect. It was either a simple “No” or “Go away”

Sometimes I wished I could push a button to change myself to feel fine and happy with my image. But then I struggled to understand whether or not I have to feel a certain way? Look a certain way act a certain way? Speak a certain way? Am I doing something wrong?”

Despite all that, I love being myself but I also hated myself because I’ve always felt everything was my fault.

I think this is due to trauma I faced since I used to get bullied a lot by boys and sometimes girls.

I was always told I was ugly, stupid or in some way just not good enough. This was not rare either. It was common. I was the quiet kid. So I was naturally an easy target. My classmates treated me like I was a freak and even called me one frequently. The only time they would talk to me was if they wanted to ask me strange questions.

Such as “why don’t you talk?” Which is a very hard question to answer. It’s just the way I am and have always been.

Even some teachers treated me differently. And singled me out. One teacher in particular, I just felt she had it out for me all the time. I felt uncomfortable around her and didn’t want to be in her class. She was my year 4 teacher. She would send me out of the class for the most minor things and keep me behind. When I struggled and asked her for help She spoke to me like crap and in a nasty tone. I never attended parents evening just to avoid her.

Unfortunately I was upset when she was announced to be our teacher again for year 6. The teacher I had before in year 5. I liked her. She was nice. And treated me well. She always praised my work. And I felt she actually cared about me.

My school life was incredibly miserable.

Everyone always says to me in a patronising tone “when you gonna get a girlfriend” or “you got a girlfriend yet?” And when I say no they ask “why not?” And I say “I don’t know” and shrug. You can’t help but feel like a massive loser. Feeling like you’ve let everyone down.

people tease me about my sexuality, according to everyone, having a hard time finding a relationship and spending most of your life single must mean you’re gay, because when they asked “why are you single” or “you got a girlfriend yet?” my answer to these questions tend to be either “I don’t know” Or “I’m just not interested” it bothers me because I feel I have to keep trying to justify myself.

The truth is, it would be nice to have a relationship but a part of me has given up on love. I’ve lost all desire to make new friends, find a girlfriend or even talk to people in general.

I’ve faced so much rejection in my life that when I’m around women I just assume they think I’m the most disgusting thing in the room. I’ve experienced it first hand many times and I didn’t have to say a word. All it took was someone to say “why are YOU here?” And the whole room would laugh.

I’m 26 as I write this, I’ve reached a point where I really don’t care anymore about anything.

I’ve never been religious, so I never believed in anything. Yet I believe in the universe and karma. That’s the stuff that I can relate to. Whatever religion or belief is related to that then sign me up.

However reason why I’m writing this is to say that. I get it now. I really do.

Everything we’ve been told is bullshit, it’s all lies. And what I mean by that is simple.

I have a friend, one that was transgender and went by She/Her but now is non binary and goes by They/Them. my upbringing was bigoted. So having such a friend I never imagined possible.

I’ve broken the cycle of my upbringing, I’ve seen life for what it is. Deep down it’s all meaningless, I’ve always said self expression is very important. Fuck it, Why not. We have one life. Be whoever you wanna be! Don’t let anyone stop you from being the person you wanna be! I’ve never believed in Labels, you are who you are so own it!

But this particular friend has helped me realise and made me question who I am. Which is why I’m here because I genuinely need help.

I’ve been AMAB all my life, I’ve grown accustomed to it, I’m comfortable, It’s who I am and well… Here’s the thing.

I just want to say I think Transgender people are very brave, and I’ve grown to really love you people. I wish I had more transgender friends. I say this because I’ve been questioning my gender and to be honest, the thought of transitioning really scares me.

There’s that question, the “if you could press a button and be a girl and everyone just has always known you to be one, would you?”

I’ve thought about it, yes I would. I really like being a man, but I also wish I could experience being a woman.

When people ask what your superpowers would be, mine would be gender swap. I could switch from man to woman whenever I wanted.

I dunno if my egg cracked or this counts as cracking but, I really wish I was a lesbian. Being a man with a woman is one thing, but fantasies about being a woman with a woman just makes me feel really tingly. Is this a normal thing?

I should point out, I’m very attracted to women, but also attracted to myself as a woman. I don’t want to be a man with a fetish, I just want some clarity.

I’ve always been into Guy things, I’m attracted to women. But a part of me sometimes wishes to have a woman’s body, breasts, curves… blonde hair. (I have blue eyes).

I used to look at women and want to be with her but now I look at a woman and think I wish I was her.

I’m happy to go live the rest of my life as I am, but if I ever one day decide I am a girl, then hrt really scares me, but what scares me the most is how the world will see me, And knowing my family would never accept me. I don’t know if I’m just a confused broken man looking for an escape, or really a woman craving to show her true self. That’s my dilemma.

Just looking for advice. Sorry this has been a long exhausting read, and thank you so much for taking the time.

given that I’m 17, almost 18, and have no previous health conditions with my reproductive system, I know that my chances of getting one is basically 0% lol, what can I do and say to try get a referral for one? I’m not exactly excited to wait til I’m elderly or pull out 10k for a private one

edit thank you everyone for your answers ❤️ found the solution and I’m going to try get the referral

18 ftm. I just feel so lost at the moment. I was so excited to be put on the waiting list for Bracken Burn Clinic in Northern Ireland, thinking I'd finally be able to start hormones soon. My hope of that has plummeted after finding out through others here that I could be waiting nearly a decade just to be seen for the first time. So, I want to know how to go about going private. I am currently in Liverpool for university. I haven't registered with a GP here, but my GP back home in NI is pretty good, she used my preferred name before legally changing it. I know it might be a stupid idea trying to go private when I'm a student and already struggling with money, but I'm just desperate to start sooner rather than later, I have no idea what to do and how to get it done. Sorry for my little rant.