*I mean trousers excuse my Americanism!

Hello everyone, I’ve just moved to the UK to join my husband and have been really struggling with finding clothes as I left most of my clothing back in America. I figured new country, new wardrobe!

My main issue is all the brands I normally go with just don’t exist here and shipping across the Atlantic is just too expensive. My secondary issue is a lot of walk in shops I’ve gone too do not have bottoms that fit me well at all. I’m very pear shaped to the point where my bottoms need to be plus sized to fit well. I’ve tried Next, Uniqlo, primark(found a few ok items but the quality is pretty bad), and a department store I think called M&S.

The fit at these places has been very unflattering, tight in the hips and butt while loose in the waist and legs. If any women with a shape similar to mine can recommend good UK based brands I’d be highly appreciative!

I've got a few of pairs from M&S but they don't seem to have any light flow anymore, only heavy!

Reccomendations for light flow period pants, any style is fine! Thanks

Looking for classy but pretty

Hi all,
I'm not sure if anyone can relate - I know nobody in my circle can.

We (me, 40F and my other half 36M) met 9 years ago, fell in love quickly but it took me a little while to find myself. All this to say we started trying for a baby when we had bought a house, felt stable and able to support a new addition. No judgement at all to those who do it different.

We started trying when I was 38, but no joy. We've been through 2 rounds of IVF since October (bless the clinic for pushing the second through before I turned 40, we wouldn't have got NHS funding otherwise.) We weren't successful, I didn't have many eggs to give and those that turned up weren't able to make it to the embryo stage where they will transfer. One did and we got the transfer, but it didn't take,

So, we have an appointment a week on Monday to talk about donor eggs. Does anyone have have any experience of IVF with donor eggs? I'm totally for us going ahead with it but it's a big deal. I have like two sides of A4 of questions, but maybe I'm missing something. It feels a lot bigger than just IVF and I use the word "just" very very loosely. It was fucking traumatic.

I know farbgel is legal to carry in the UK. Is it legal in the rest of Europe? Would I be able to bring it with me on a flight?

Do you guys use any other self defense items?

Hi ladies, I hope it is okay if I post this!

I will be traveling to Ireland June 11th-20th this year for my belated honeymoon(we took a year to save up more money). I am having the hardest time deciding what I should wear! I know the obvious practical things associated with the weather and activities. We will be in Dublin, Wicklow, Doolin, and Galway.

Mainly just looking for cute inspo. I am 25f, if that matters!

Hi all, looking to buy some d-mannose to help with recurrent utis.

Does anyone have any suggestions for where I can get this? Not keen on Amazon as I’ve had some out of date stuff before.

Holland and Barrett does have it but it’s quite expensive.

Hopefully trying get in bulk!

Really would like to kick these UTIs for as long as possible.

I've been on hormonal contraception (implant) since I was 17 (now soon to be 31) so I've never really had a normal, regular period, don't know much about the monthly cycle and know nothing about my own. Looking to get off the hormones in a few months so looking for book reccomendations about the subject please, or even the best period tracking phone app. I'd like to see what life is like without the added hormones and understand the changes my body goes through each month and what changes it will go through when I get the implant taken out.

Thanks gals

Ideally I wouldn’t be shopping through Amazon but open to any other shops.

There are so many options out there it’s hard to tell what’s good.

I have fairly normal periods if that helps? (Whatever that means)

Okay, I appreciate this might be a dumb af question, but I'm a guy so have never had to deal with these types of check ups and I don't have a daughter so never had to think about it.

A young friend (F32) has stated she hasn't had any gynaecological check ups for a number of years. She is scared of going to doctors about anything, sometimes willing to avoid it to the point of causing herself future harm, and English is not her first language so there is an element of not understanding things. She has been in the UK for several years and her spoken English is okayish while everything else is patchy. She gave birth in 2010 and there were complications with cysts and a requirement for possible cervical surgery which just freaked her out so she did nothing. Her periods can hit pretty hard and she can be lain up for 2-3 days but again won't speak to anyone about it. I am aware of one time she really didn't feel well during her cycle so then tried to fly back to her home country and a local ambulance had to be called when they landed to take her off as she was bleeding so much. She has never had any decent level of support from anyone.

A recent visit were I had to literally drag her to A&E for a wrist cut that required stitches alerted me to the fact that she has never registered with a GP in the UK so I have sorted that out. I think previous rare doctor visits have been to private clinics she has found were the doctor can speak her native language but for anything regular she won't be able to afford continual visits or treatments. Many GPs have a phone translation service available that she wasn't aware of.

So I ask this question in an effort to suggest appointments for any regular things she needs to take care of from smear tests to anything else, gynaecological or not. She did appreciate I was there at the A&E visit and I've said I have no issue coming to any future doctor visits for other things until she gets more comfortable going by herself. What appointments should I suggest she make and with whom? GP or someone else?

Looking for first hand experiences and recommendations for a consultant who can basically help me figure out what colors and fits work well with my brown skin and pear shaped body. Has anyone had luck with such a service? Did it help you?

Hi TwoX, I’m one of those that can basically only wear elasticated waistband bottoms. Which is fine outside the office as I stick to my leggings and joggers. But not sure what the best office appropriate alternative is?

In the winter I can get away with stylish sport leggings (like the plainer more cotton style lululemons) as I’ll pair them with boots and a top that covers most my butt. But it’s getting to summer shoes season and I need trousers that are a bit more structured. I’ve been thinking to try wide leg trousers but would love to hear if anyone has found other stretchable waistband options, maybe also like more structured legging brands? Like jeggings but for the office? 😅

TIA 🥰

Question in the title. Basically I’ve (32f) been on the POP contraceptive pill for about 7 years and never had any bleeding. At Easter I had a period and today (6 weeks later) I’ve started another. This is really unusual for me.

I am currently off work with stress and I wondered whether anyone has experienced or heard of stress playing with their cycle like this while on contraception. Nothing else in my lifestyle or contraception routine has changed to make me think that could be the cause - but I’m open to hearing what some other causes of this might be.

Disclaimer: I will of course be speaking to my GP about this too, I’m just interested in hearing if anyone here has had experience of this as I’m a bit concerned and, like most women’s health issues, information online about this is pretty patchy.

Hi my friend is looking for help after recently getting herself into sexual situations - that she doesn't not define as rape or sexual assault - but that she is regretful about and felt she was unable to assert herself in the moment. She is on the spectrum, pretty impulsive and not easily able to think ahead or judge whether a situation could be dangerous.

She does have a past that includes early sexual trauma. She called a charity that offers counselling to help assert yourself in these situations but as she didnt have a police incident number they were unable to help her.

So Aunt flo just came to visit and my lovely beach holiday is in almost exactly two months. I have never used any kind of hormonal birth control but the thought of having a period on my one nice holiday is just a huge no. Does anyone know what I can do or ask for to save my summer??

There’s a live music bar I want to go to, I’ve never been before but my friends are busy/not interested. I feel like I keep missing out on doing stuff I like cause of this. However I dislike doing anything by myself- going to the cinema by myself was a big step for me, I’ve also managed eating in Mcd’s by myself but haven’t got to a cafe or restaurant yet. From the pictures it seems like tiny 2 seater tables, I am worried I’m going to stick out like a sore thumb. So to refer back to my original question, would you/do you go out by yourself?

I do the cooking but he does the washing up. I do the organisational household chores but he does the clothes washing. I will clean the kitchen and he will do the bathroom.

Between the of us we have never had a conversation about the division of household work and yet, it works perfectly.

I feel like what I have is amazing, but I also feel like I shouldn’t consider it amazing, but the norm?

It’s just weird discussing it when I hear what other women of my general age bracket are living with.

Edit: obviously the above is just an example, as long as people feel loved and supported and treated as an equal then that is all that matters.

I (24f) am suddenly finding my boyfriend (28m) annoying

We’ve been together 5 years and for the past few months I have just found him so annoying.

I keep thinking about ending things but our lives are so intertwined that I don’t know what I would do with myself. He’s so nice to me and has done nothing wrong but it’s almost like a switch has gone in me and I’m not as attracted to him and also find every little thing irritating.

We’ve been together since I was a teenager, own a house together and I don’t have many friends outside of our relationship (relocated to be with him) so I’m just so stuck for what to do.

I’ve shared how I feel (to an extent) and he acknowledged it as “intrusive thoughts” and 10 mins later asked me to reassure him I wasn’t going to leave

I just feel so stuck and would appreciate any advice

I keep getting ads on Instagram for fidget rings. They're supposed to be good for anxiety and skin picking.

I suffer with both, I skin pick my face or scalp.

I was wondering if anyone has fidget rings and can vouch for them? I worry my brain isn't going to get the same satisfaction playing with rings that it does by causing me pain!

But….not just any old socks. As I’m mobility impaired my weak ole legs don’t lift my feet too well and my socks end up being massacred within a few wears.

If anyone can recommend me some robust and hard wearing women’s socks, or any old for that matter, I’d be really chuffed. Not particularly looking for thick ones either and can also wear out Toasties fairly quickly.

Thanks

Edit: It’s fab to see great replies but silly me should have mentioned that I only have small feet.

I take a ladies 5 1/2. I may take a chance on some of these though since they’re not expensive.

I really appreciated not feeling left out when I came on my period surprisingly. I just had them there ready to use.

I don’t wear underwired bras but I don’t want it to just look like a sports bra.

I’m a D if that’s important as I know some places don’t do unwired at that size.

Hi everyone,

I was thinking of treating myself to some jewellery and it got me thinking about the best kind of jewellery to wear on a daily basis.

Sooo, I was wondering, what jewellery do you wear on a daily basis? And where did you get it from?

Personally, I never used to wear much but I

1. read something recently about not waiting for special occasions to use that item you’ve been saving (so for me it’s wearing my favourite jewellery but for others it might be drinking that special bottle of wine)

2. Just had my Indian wedding and culturally there is some jewellery I’ve been encouraged to wear permanently (e.g. anklets and toe rings)

So today is my first day in the office since March 2020. Before then I wore tights pretty much every day for work. Loved em.

I am wearing them now and god they are uncomfortable! I pulled these out my drawer and I think they are M&S or Tescos. Either way they are scratchy as hell and tight on my toes. Plus they are bobbly! Great first impression!

Any comfortable tights you lovely people recommend?

I’m currently planning my sisters hen do in Birmingham (in which I do not live) which will be an overnight thing. I’m thinking a basic itinerary will look like the below. I have the big activity down but otherwise stumped.

I need a small activity for the day after and somewhere to eat and begin the night in, I’m thinking something like fight club but I’m unsure. Any ideas?

24th Travel Big activity Get ready at hotel Meal and Night out ending in the gay village.

25th Breakfast/brunch Small activity Food Travel home

We've been asked to 'dress up' for the dinner party, as it's at a fancy restaurant. Need inspiration/recommendations as this is going to be my first Christmas party at workplace in the UK. What do you ladies generally wear to the party?

more info: I'm 33 , POC and work in a tech startup :-)