Could ya give me an example of lighthearted personal observations you could make about yourself during conversations?

I'm pretty quiet during conversations, don't have anything to say about myself. So i'd like to making add some input related to myself during the conversation, but i'm not sure what kind of comments would be suitable

Any lighthearted examples you know of that work well during conversations?

Something that's light heartedly insightful about you (thoughts, beliefs, observations, personality)

Hello! I enjoy meeting new people and having someone to chat with on the daily. From menial things to deep conversations, I’m here for it.

I’m married, no kids. I have cats and I enjoy reading, I write, watch movies. I like going on adventures too 😊

Hi! I’m kinda of struggling with the way things are going here and maybe just a touch of anhedonia. I’m looking to write to new friends that can give me a different perspective. My hobbies include finding a new penpal! I haven’t had one in a long time. I possibly, could be, maybe getting into K-Drama. I watched one last weekend and I’m torn on if I actually liked it. I work with an older lady that is obsessed with this guy from BTS. I have to allocate time so that she can show me his dancing and how “sexy” he is. This is probably too much information but it’s already here. Please send me a message if you would like to start something up! I don’t do the real time chat thing because it’s just too much. Thank you for reading!

Hey there! I’m looking for a gamer girl and I’m also open to making guy friends! I luv to connect with fellow gamers and share same interests!

I’m 30M, 6'0" tall, and really into cool stuff like music, anime, football (soccer), wrestling and gaming.

Right now, I’ve got a Nintendo Switch where I’m mainly playing Pokemon a lot. We could totally game together and compare our fav Pokemon, as well as share tips! Plus I’m about to grab a PC to expand my gaming options even more which is super exciting!

I’m really into music! My fav bands A7x, Soad, Linkin Park, Metallica… just to name a few! I luv to share sum of my playlists and luv to listen ur fav bands/songs!

If u share same interests and want to game or share playlists, don’t hesitate to hit me up! Let’s connect!

I'm 40, F, been calling NZ home coming up 23 years now. I was born in the Philippines and also lived in England, so my accent is all over the show! I enjoy travelling - I just got from a 5 week trip around Europe and the UK. I'd love to hear about your upcoming travel plans or favourite trips you've been on. :)

When I'm not daydreaming about places to go (and lamenting my lack of funds :P ), I'm usually knitting, reading, or doomscrolling on my phone while bingewatching tv. Sending memes is my love language! I read/watch a lot from the fantasy genre, but I also read general and non-fiction, and watch the occasional documentary.

No preference for where you're from or your age. My letters don't get political, but I don't mind talking about social issues if you'd like to. I'm also LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent-friendly, but still have a lot to learn (I myself am cishet and neurotypical).

I do get a bit anxious over reaching out first and have been burned with no-responses, so would definitely appreciate if you wrote first and told me about yourself. Looking forward to hearing from you! :)

Hey fellow Homosapiens , or Neanderthals just in case there’s some kicking around 🤪

45 male from Scotland here , looking for anyone who’d like to chat with a guy who looks like a Smurf for 10 months of the year due to our weather system 🙂 , especially after the latest storm , thought I was emigrating for free 😂😂😂

Love to travel , absolutely love horror films , Terrifier 3 is just the Dogs Bollocks . Huge sports fan , Played Rugby for around 30 years. Soccer , Gym Rat and even American Football ( Ashamed to say I’m a Seahawks fan 🙈🙈 )

No preference in Age , Sex , flavour , universe or political take !! All welcome 🙂🙂.. Apart from Bots !! Place is full of them .. They can all Bot off !! .. or people who disappear up there own crack after 2 messages !! Granted they may be bots though … Feckin Bots 😂😂😂 . Also looking to visit Japan in the near future , so any Japanese Penpals or insight would be great 👍

Any of this piques your interest then feel free to send a message , if not ?? Then I wish you a plague of locusts on your life ( joke in case I offend ) .. I wish you all luck in your search 😜😜😜

Experiences cause us to be differentiated and so sometimes its just easier to connect through and stay interested in topics that are on the intellectual side to keep the engine going when there is nothing to relate over. There are limits to resonance, in sustaining it, even in its value. And there can be a good generated from dissonance, but usually interpreted as displeasurable and a signal to abandon the situation. So how do you think about the process of creating and maintaining the dynamics of a relationship?

Maybe this is a useful way of starting a dialogue or maybe not, but my invitation to chat is sincere.

34/ftm/usa trans man, queer, pagan, Jewish by birth. AuDhd. Looking for people who enjoy writing letters back and forth. I’m into anime, scifi, horror, animals, paranormal stuff. I have pet cats and snakes. I enjoy dancing, ancient history, cooking, some video games, learning. Currently unemployed so I have a lot of time on my hands. Let me know if your interested in being buddies ✌🏻

Want to vent about your day? Seen something interesting you wana share? Just generally want day to day chatting without the worry of it going sexual? Hmu for a daily debrief of your day if you feel like it. Nothing serious just reddit for now and see how things progress. Not too keen on giving my address out straight away

Hello. 52-yo female who lives in Hiroshima JAPAN is here. I seek US military member or civilian snail mail penpals. I prefer you to be kids-free as I'm so. Please DM me if you have an interest. Well, I'm not into anime, manga, gaming. I don't seek relationships. I will tell you my interest in my message.

Hello!

I live in a cozy mountain town with my partner and our two cats. I love finding ways to be creative in my free time. This also includes working on my penmanship through the art of letter writing. I found myself diving head first into the world of fountain pens and haven't looked back. Most of my hobbies, unfortunately for my wallet, require me to buy fun materials. In my spare time I enjoy cooking, painting, drawing, playing video games and watching horror movies/shows.

I also enjoy being outside, even in the winter, and have an obsession with searching for tiny creatures in the wilderness and photographing flowers. Skiing, hiking and camping are my favorite outdoor activities. I want to get back into doing a little bit of trail running but it's not the highest on the list. Maybe one of these years I'll manage to hike a 14er.

My occupation takes me to multiple destinations a year and I dream of visiting Italy one of these days.

I don't have a preference for A/S/L but would like to exchange a few messages before committing to writing to ensure that it's a good fit. Please message me about you and we can see where we land!

Hi there! My name is Dan. Looking for some snail mail (or maybe email) pen pals. I enjoy working out, playing my Nintendo switch (mainly platformers and boomer shooters), playing the bass (getting back into it after long break), and reading non fiction books.

The last three books I’ve read were Racehoss, Alive: The Story of the Andes Survivors, and The Devil’s Highway.

The last three games I’ve played were Ori and the Will of the Wisps, Guacamelee, and Rayman Legends.

I just learned how to play Time Bomb by Rancid on the bass.

Shoot me a message or comment below if you think we’d be a good match!

Hi im 34m. Looking for a penpal with whom I can relate to. The last two years was kind off hell and still struggling to find my feet. Not only to vent but I feel a bit lonely lately and would like to connect with someone. Dm me if interested. Looking forward.

Hello/Bonjour from Canada!

My name is Medina and I’m looking for female snail mail penpals!

I work in corrections. I love crime shows, true crime podcasts and books, comedy tv shows, currently binge watching Gossip Girl and Orange is the New Black. I love the outdoors. I live where the air hurts my face so I don’t have to deal with scary animals (well like the giant spiders and snakes in Australia at least). I’m forever taking a walk by the ocean to get some sun and some breeze. I just became a new mum in October, and I am getting married this summer! I love to read and do crafts but don’t have much time for those things these days. I have a quite a large vinyl record collection, my favourite band is Coldplay, favourite artist right now is Tate McRae.

Happy to make friends all over the world! I would prefer female penpals please :)

Hi. I'm a 35 y old male living in Greece. Looking for a pen pal to exchange snail mail in English. I enjoy the feel of putting words on paper with my favorite pen, so no email pals wanted. My interests are hiking, reading and writing. Looking forward to your responses.

Looking to connect with folks from any and all walks of life who can tolerate corresponding with a human jukebox. I took ten years of classical piano lessons, then learned my way around guitar and banjo after realizing I couldn't bring a piano to bonfire in the woods. I'm also an avid listener. I'm always trying to find the next album to binge listen. Aside from music I'm always up for swapping stories or jokes. Pax vobiscim

Hi! I just stumbled across this subreddit!

About me:

I’m married, have two kids and WFH.

Likes (in no particular order):

DDLV

Writing & poetry

TØP

Arcane

Arts & crafts; any creativity!

Decorating my physical mail.

Reading

Journaling

Pandora jewelry

Hm… what else?

I speak Spanish as a second language.

I like traveling but time/money doesn’t allow for much. Lol.

I’m new to this subreddit so I’m not 100% sure how it works. If you’re interested, private message me and we can go from there!

I am a 33M from the Austin, Texas area in search of penpals from around the world who want to share their lives with each other through some sort of long-form writing.

I am open to both Snail mail and emails since these both lend to writing longer, more thoughtful messages. I would really like to hear about your life and your interests and am open to discussing just about anything.

I am terrible at starting the conversation, so if you write to me, I will respond back! I am open to anyone, from anywhere but I do prefer to write to guys. 

I am married with two dogs and work in technology. I love to travel, read, write, and play some video games in my downtime. I don’t watch much TV these days nor listen to music all that often. I also enjoy coding/programming and other technology stuff. I enjoy learning about history and other subjects.

DM me if you'd like to write to me.

Hello Everyone, My name is Stephanie. I currently live in the US, but recently moved from Quebec (yes, I also speak French). I am a 30-40 year old female and am looking for people in the same range to write. I'd prefer US or Canada, but am open to anyone willing to exchange long term. I am new to this group and just realized I love sending stuff and getting mail (not bills though, which is what I normally get).

A bit about me:

📖 Writer Extraordinaire (in Progress): I specialize in fiction, especially YA and fantasy. Writing is my passion, and I’m currently working on my dream of publishing a novel (In reality I pretend I'm making a career move while most of my writing ends up in the trash).

🎨 Creative Soul: I adore unique stationery, pens, and anything that adds a touch of magic to daily life. If you send me something quirky or whimsical, it’ll definitely find a cherished spot in my collection!

🌍 Explorer at Heart: Having lived in several places across North America, I love hearing about different cultures, traditions, and ways of life.

💻 Gamer: I played World of Warcraft for many years and consider myself a recovering addict but I still enjoy talking about it and the lore. I still enjoy many other computer games Stardew Valley, Sims, and Civilization.

📓 Reader: I enjoy fantasy and Sci-Fi novels but my TBR (to be read) list spans many genres

📖 Favorite Books

The Furthest Away Mountain - Lynne Reid Banks

Fourth Wing - Rebecca Yarros

The False Prince - Jennifer A. Nielsen

Jurassic Park - Michael Crichton

Silo - Hugh Howey

Those are a few but I have WAY too many to list out.

🪡Favorite Crafts

Cross-stitch

Journaling

🎬 Favorite Movies

Love the whole Jurassic Park series, and yes I know they're not true to the books but I don't care.

Almost anything Disney

If you’re into creativity, and storytelling, or just want we share some favorite hobbies and interests, we may be a good match. Send me a message or post below if interested.

⚠️I am not looking for a relationship or anything beyond platonic friends.⚠️

About me…

I love listening to music, traveling, learning in general and about different cultures. I enjoy nature, live shows- theatre/ comedy or music, watching movies/shows( sci-fi, fantasy, horror, action, comedy…) I also enjoy documentaries- animal/ nature/ interesting people. Currently, improving Spanish speaking skills. I aspire to be a digital nomad or to live overseas.

I’m open to those home and abroad. Feel free to message me and introduce your self if you’d like to chat 🙂

Hey there! Thanks for checking out my post. I'm looking to find someone to make friends with. I love to learn new things, see different prospective of the world, and ways of thinking. I love cats and currently have 3, did have 4 (so maybe I'm a bit of a crazy cat guy?) enjoy anime from time to time, play on my PS5(I love the Soulsborne games), go for walks and runs around my neighborhood and hopefully see some animals, and go for drives. I also love to travel to different countries and wish I could do it more. Anyway, if you wanna talk with me hit me up here and we can exchange emails! Thanks for taking time out of your day to read this!

Hey there, potential future friend!

Picture this: A somewhat overenthusiastic 30-something who can identify whales by their blow patterns and gets equally excited about stumbling upon ancient Bristlecone pines as she does about spontaneously booking flights to countries she can barely pronounce. Currently living the remote work life with my partner and two cats (who are, frankly, terrible at letter-writing).

Fair warning: I'm the kind of person who will absolutely send you a deeply researched essay about Lake Baikal at 3 AM (did you know it contains 20% of Earth's unfrozen fresh water?!), or write a six-page letter about that time I met an internet stranger in Lisbon, wandered the city until sunrise, and somehow ended up with both a lifelong friend and surprisingly solid retirement investment advice.

Things that make my heart do a little happy dance:

• 🎬 Certified movie nerd who will absolutely write you detailed analyses of why that one scene in that one film changed my life
• 🌿 Nature enthusiast who gets lost (on purpose) searching for 5,000-year-old trees and can't resist stopping at every scenic overlook for "just one more photo"
• 📸 Amateur photographer who will pull over for perfect light or weird clouds, turning every drive into a potential photo adventure
• 🧳 Road trip enthusiast whose planning style ranges from "meticulously researched itinerary" to "this random dirt road looks interesting!"
• 📚 Proud owner of a library that's less about impressing people and more about genuine obsessions (ask me about the hydrology of the San Francisco Bay!)
• 🍜 Food adventurer who believes every meal should be spicy enough to make me question my life choices (while reaching for another bite)

I believe the best friendships are built on sharing both the extraordinary and the mundane – your latest existential crisis, that weird dream you had, why you're convinced that regional water management policies are actually fascinating, or your completely justified wariness of raccoons (they just stand there... menacingly... with their little hands... plotting something. I know it.).

This is meant to be pressure-free – write when you can, share what moves you. Whether you're a fellow adventurer with wild stories, a sunset chaser with a camera always ready, or someone who just appreciates good conversation and unexpected facts about very old trees, I'd love to hear from you.

P.S. If you've read this far, we probably should be friends already. 📝✨

Salutations!

I've been interested in penpalling ever since I was a kid - back in the days before you could more easily meet someone from half way across the world sooner than a neighbor a few doors down. I've been fortunate enough to have had a few before, mostly focusing on item exchanges, letters, and postcards, and would like to see if I can find that again, being able to live those experiences and to give that to someone else as well.

Ideally, I'd like to have a physical exchange, with my preference being letters and items. Due to the private nature of penpaling, however, I'd like us to actually chat a bit and get to know each other before diving right into those physical aspects of it. Let's become familiar with each other to make sure we're a good fit. All that being said, I'm also interested in having e-mail penpals, which I'd be open to in the immediate now. It's more than possible for one form to transition into the other or for us to have multiple forms of penpalling going on at the same time.

My ideal communication method with someone is in the form of lengthy, detailed, intricate paragraphs and pages that delve into a variety of topics and themes. Even when meeting people in less defined ways we sometimes end up becoming de facto penpals due to how long it takes to properly respond to each other. So, if digital exchange is what you're after, this is the style it should take. I'm less particular when it comes to the physical. I've done pages upon pages in the form of letters and postcards in what looked like 8 point font, as well as exchanges that included almost no words at all or even focused exclusively on items. The form of our penpalling doesn't matter as much as what works for us. Above all, I'm here to meet a person that I want to engage in penpalling with and not someone to fulfill a word count and dollar amount. What I'm after is connection and intrigue and not an extra piece of mail every few weeks.

On that note, who, exactly, may you be connecting with?

I'm 34, male, and from the Eastern US. I'm looking for someone that I first and foremost relate to on a personal and deeper level. My ideal is to actually get to know my penpal - cold exchanges are less interesting to me, but aren't completely rejected. Location doesn't matter as much, as who the person is defines whether I'd like to connect with them or not. That being said, I do have a preference for cultural exchange and differences, so I'm more open to people from parts of the world more distinct from my own. Part of why I like penpaling is to be exposed to things I otherwise wouldn't be and to allow that for someone else as well. But, whether you're in my state or half the world away, it's you, the person, I want to exchange with.

• I strive to engage in genuine and authentic discussion. I understand that it can take time to open up and feel comfortable, and this is completely understandable, but my ultimate and ideal goal is to engage in a deep, intimate, meaningful way.
• The complex vulnerabilities within a person are as important as anything else. Most people have endured some form of trauma or pain, or are subject to some form of mental turmoil or woes. The type of connection I want understands, accepts, and embraces this reality. However, the type of connection I want also strives to live in spite of these things and to heal and advance in a comprehensive and considerate way.
• Creativity and artistry are important to me. Personally, I engage in more literary arts, primarily writing intellectually, about observations and thoughts, and conversationally, not uncommonly poetically and intensely. I can appreciate and admire many different types of expression, whether I involve myself in them or not.
• Ruminating, researching, and coming to understand new things is a major and critical part of my life. I, by choice, am an autodidact. The motto 'Nitimur in vetitum semper cupimusque negata.' is a pretty good summary of my intellectual ethics. I deem nothing to be above reproach, and also that there is no outcome in which everyone benefits or avoids misfortunate calamity. While we're on the topic, since it fits better here than in most spots, I don't do the politics thing. If it's a requirement of yours that someone shares your exact political, cultural, or personal values, we should discuss it bluntly and quickly to see if something is possible between us. No 'side' or 'sphere' is one I relate all that much to and I have contentions with all of them.
• More casual hobbies of mine include photography, tech, incense, time pieces, archiving, collecting, coffee, and abstraction. Inquire within if one stands out to you. I'm always surprised by what people consider to be interests and hobbies, so I probably have more I take for granted and didn't list here. I haven't consumed media regularly in years, but used to engage with a lot of it when I was younger, mostly including movies, anime/manga, and video games.
• I'm INTJ and am Type 5. I only list these psychological evaluations because some people find them important or revealing. Personally, I find many of these sorts of tests to be bunk, although I do like studying myself and other people. It's a fun activity to share with those who are into it.

Think we could have a great exchange? Doppelgängers are loved, but some of my best and most significant connections have been with people I had notable and vast dissimilarities with. Have any uncertainties or feel unsure? Leave your hesitations and take the chance. If you liked anything you read here, there's a very high likelihood of us both gaining and experiencing something wonderful together. Don't doubt yourself or what's possible. The person themselves matters more than the form of penpalling we take on and any specific details. You never know until you take the plunge, and I've certainly been shocked countless times in life by what does and doesn't work.

Just trying to see the day to day stuff you might deal with! I’ll give you my personal number if we fit!

haii.. looking for likeminded friends attempting to empower and improve. I have no kids, working to move out of the family home and trying to find ways to kick out the loneliness i feel inside from not being the best of myself. i've been laying low for the last decade, trying to make sense of everything and it hasn't worked out..

so now i have to work super hard where working one step at a time isn't quite how my mind works against adhd, my internal crutches and i've got only a few months time to make a huge impact. i am... anxious that i'll not succeed (again), tired because i've had a lot going on, and so company would be great. I'd utilize my friends around but after a recent enlightening winter I've come to realize I may need more new friends that recognize boundaries, consider others, and are self-starting. I'm definitely not perfect or I wouldn't be where I am now so I apologize in advance for my poor habits. If there is something I can be there for you for, I'd be happy to do the same. Please let me know.

if you like star trek, period fighting/romance dramas, hiking and the sights, randomly talking all day long from reddit first then maybe discord, this might work. If you are someone who can carry a conversation, care about another person, and is trying to stab at something that's wrong with their life and could use someone at your 6, would love to be that person. Message and we can see if this works. thanks!

Hi there! I’m 34 and live in Texas. I’m a stay at home married momma to 3 boys and 1 girl. I’m looking for some snail mail friends that want to write and exchange some goodies with letters. I love decorating my mail and writing about anything and everything! Send me a DM if interested.

I am an agent of balance trying to help create some way to reach world peace somehow. :) What that means is that I am a student (still!) that wants to do something awesome with her International Relations major in the future. What I like:

• Poetry
• Politics
• Metaphysics
• Drawing (anime)
• Anime/Manga
• Postcards
• Fountain pens
• Journaling
• Writing in cursive
• Coffee and tea
• Collecting books (I really need to stop so I can catch up on the reading part)
• My boyfriend

Let me know if you are interested! I want to send postcards for now since that's fairly low maintenance. Tchao!

Hello! I’m here hoping to find a friend to chat with during the workday, someone who is interested in building a genuine and lasting friendship. I work in retail and sometimes while I have crazy moments working and while I enjoy what I do, I often find myself missing the social interactions that come with outside of work. Over the past few years, life has made it challenging to keep in touch with friends, and I’d love to find someone to share daily conversations and experiences with.

A little about me: I’d describe myself as a laid-back person who enjoys both quiet nights at home and the occasional adventure outdoors. I’m a huge fan of cooking, and I love trying out new recipes. I also enjoy reading, especially historical fiction and mystery novels. When I have some downtime, I’m all about listening to music, ranging from classic rock to modern indie hits. I dabble in video games too.

I’m looking for someone in the U.S. or Europe. Having some common interests would be great, I’m equally excited about meeting someone with different hobbies or viewpoints, it’s all about the connection right?

If you’re interested, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself! I truly believe in putting effort into conversations and would love to find someone who shares that sentiment. Looking forward to meeting a new friend! :)

Hello,

I’m 32, from the USA, and looking for just one (maybe two) consistent pen pals outside of the US. I would prefer another female. :)

I like to read, especially dystopian. My favorite book is Never Let You Go by Kazuo Ishiguro, but I recently finished reading I Who Have Never Known Men, which was amazing.

I also like video games, especially story driven games like Red Dead Redemption and Detroit: Become Human.

I’m also interested in history, traveling, animals, and mailing postcards.

Let me know if you’re interested!

Willing to convert to Snailmail and Email if there's a true connect!

Have been in hermit mode for so long there are cobwebs on my communication skills.

I have a variety of interests and I'm not really sure how to approach them? But I'm equally inquisitive/curious. I like to have a fluid approach with conversation.

I believe even two people with little in common can make for great conversation so long as respect is involved.

With that said, I don't really have a preference in who I'd like to talk to, so surprise me.

Ciao!