Hi everyone,

I wanted to share something that’s been on my mind. I met a man at my sister’s wedding—a friend of my brother-in-law’s whom he’d known for nearly a decade. A few months later, we started talking, and within two months, he proposed marriage. I was open to the idea, especially if marriage could happen soon, within six months, as we were spending a lot of time together and I wanted to avoid any transgressions.

We took things seriously. He met my family, I met his sister, and he even shared our intentions with his older brother. Everything seemed aligned until I found out I was pregnant. On the very day I shared the news, he left me. Later, I learned he had even sought a fatwa to justify an abortion. In messages with his sister, he suggested I wasn’t mentally stable, citing my previous struggles with low moments in my life.

Things became even harder when I was disowned by my parents. He denied paternity, despite knowing he’s the father, and his dad has been spreading rumors that I had a relationship with someone else and that the baby isn’t his. Two weeks after learning about the pregnancy, he left for Umrah and cut all communication. I’m now eight months pregnant, and he has still made no contact. I’m torn about whether to speak up and share what happened publicly.

PS. we are both muslims and both virgins.

And how's the experience so far? How did it happen? Are you happy in both marriages?

This is something I've been long struggling with. I wholeheartedly accept the divine obligations placed upon as a man. I'm trying to work towards becoming a good man, the kind that can excel in fulfilling them. However, I've always felt insecure about being able to do it.

Like, will I really be able to have not just a good career but a great one, where I can support the household on a single income? Will I really be able to be the foundation and support my future wife and kids when the responsibility falls squarely on my shoulders?

But even worse, with the modern world, I keep seeing how women also face the same responsibilities, such as attaining a career. And plenty are excelling at it.

In my mind, I always assumed (perhaps, arrogantly) that as a man I'd be able to do such a job simply better. That Allah did give me something that He didn't to women, in order for me to fulfil my obligations. But then I see women out earning men, and think, well, what?

Of course, this is a whiny and pathetic attitude. I want to get past it. I hate this idea of putting down women in order to elevate myself. And I sincerely do believe Allah will help me. I just want to get over this insecurity.

I haven't had the most stable working life and I currently am on the job search. I overthink a lot. Maybe it just could be my external conditions fueling these weird pessimistic thoughts?

My bro is into BJJ and I have a friend who tried out boxing and now I’m curious to look into some martial arts like this.

So I’m debating with a male that the correct way to wash your behind is from the back . He argues that it’s easier and better to wash it from the front and under . Please let me know how you wash your bum after no2

Unfortunately yes this is a serious debate 😂😂 I say it’s from the back as it makes more sense and cleaner WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Assalamualaikum everyone! I just found this small Reddit community and it looks awesome 😀. I like how there is a subreddit centred around Muslim men.

However, I struggle with staying productive. This not only effects me academically in school but Islamically as well. I tend to get lazy and procrastinate a lot. It’s a habit I want to get rid off but I am having difficulty. It feels like procrastination is my addiction because I just can’t focus on what’s important. Any tips to combat procrastination?

"O believers! Intoxicants, gambling, idols, and drawing lots for decisions are all evil of Satan’s handiwork. So shun them so you may be successful." [Quran 5:90]

Do you think it is haram to work in a store that sells alcohol or pork?

Challenge yourself and be a better Muslim! Answer below!

https://muslimgap.com/selling-pork-and-alcohol/

Imām Ash-Shāfī'i رحمه الله said:

"There is no happiness equal to the companionship of brothers, an there is no grief like parting from them."

[Al-Bayḥaqī in Shu'ab al-īmān (6/504)]

Can anyone explain to me what Ruqyah is ??

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Do you guys have any good resources for how to learn common handyman skills? YouTube channels, blogs etc

And what type of exercises do you do?

Life is one big battle and I’ve taken my fair share of losses. Not being able to help family when needed, making some bad decisions and so on.

I’ve decided I’m not going to let anything like that happen ever again. I created a new rule for myself: The 1000% rule. I’ll put in 1000% the effort into life and leave the rest to Allah.

I have big goals. I want Firdaus and I want it via helping the Ummah. I want to be a hero to those in need and I want those good deeds to earn me Allah’s mercy and pleasure.

Posting this here because I wanted to declare this anonymously somewhere. Feel free to delete if not appropriate.

Anyone willing to walk with me on this, let’s get moving. Insha’Allah.

Men Are Measured by Their Care for Women

The Prophet ﷺ said: "The best of you is the best of you to his family (i.e., wives), and I am the best of all of you to my family."

Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him and his father) said: "The best of this nation have/had the most wives."

The statement of Ibn Abbas is a purely nounal sentence, lacking a verb. It is thus open to interpretation. He either meant the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ specifically, or he meant it as a general rule.

In either case, being a good family man is the prophetic measure of manliness. Want to know how good a man is? Cherchez la femme.

References:

1. https://sunnah.com/search?q=%D8%AE%D9%8A%D8%B1%D9%83%D9%85+%D8%AE%D9%8A%D8%B1%D9%83%D9%85+%D9%84%D8%A3%D9%87%D9%84%D9%87
2. https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5069

By Moustafa Elqabbany

The end reward is totally worth the amount of physical effort. Did it for my in laws while visiting and now I want a home with a front lawn.

سلام عليكم my dear brothers, first off I would like to say may Allah reward you all for the services you give to people in this subreddit and most importantly shower you with endless amounts of blessings AMEEN

I am 18M teen who is very much stoic or as people would sometimes label me as weird or confusing which I can understand where they are coming from, in nature i am somewhat of an introvert unlike my parents and siblings, sure i hang around with people but i dont engage convos and activities, most of the times I prefer to be the standout or the dark horse from the family and friend group, there has been a constant internal struggle for me not complaining tho but would like to know more about this issue from my brothers who speak from experience is, despite the fact I hate opening up, talking about my personal problems and prefer to be silent and to deal things my own way without any complaint regardless of any hardship, my whole life I never ever spoke about my problems, discontentment and the hardships I face and really wanting to break down and just want to destroy the world completely but I always remind myself that I am not really the victim at all since I know for a fact that there are around 4 billion people in this world who face much terrible fates than I do and to complain about such "petty" for a person of my caliber complaining about such stuff is cowardly and me being ungrateful because people are suffering alot worse than I do, so is it truly cowardly to speak up

Assalamu alaikum, I’m looking to speak to single muslim graduates to understand their challenges for a project I’m working on Pm me if interested