Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: “Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah Almighty, but that Allah will replace it with something better for you.” [Musnad Ahmad 23074 | Graded Sahih by Al-Arna'ut] This is a promise from Allah that continues until the end of time.

take this how you want but it’s a scientific fact that conception rates peak in november/december.

To people that are struggling during this time know that this can be a challenging part of the year to get through biologically speaking.

stay strong and don’t be discouraged!

i have done it again after about 2 months. for the past 2 months i have lock my phone away and its working but after 2 months i got my phone its started again. I started to feel horny and all that kind of stuff i endure it around 2 weeks before i gave in.

I dont know what to do anymore i cant lock my phone away for the entire year i have work to do. Is there any dua that i can do to help me or any tips. Please help me

I have indeed fapped. Idk what to do.

1. I do prayers

2. I do repentance

3. I take Wudu dearly

4. I read Books and Quran

5. I used to listen to lectures

I do ALL This, yet NOTHING. I also keep myself busy. Please help. I hate this, I don't want to fall into this anymore, please. I'm, sadly, mostly alone in my day so these thoughts just break in, what do I do???

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakathuhu.

Stop wherever you are. Stop falling more and more deep. The result is only sorry, grief and regret. How many times, did we fall into the same sin? relapse, regret, repeat! Did we unlock something new? No! It is the same thing every time, no matter how many times we do or what new ways we do it. No surprise and the end is sorrow and regret.

Listen to what Allah says in the Quran Sura Al-Baqara Verse no 208.

O you who believe! Enter into Islam whole-heartedly; And follow not the footsteps of the Satan; For he is to you an avowed*(stated(publicly) or admitted)* enemy.

1. Stop whatever you are doing now
2. Shutdown your phone
3. Go take a cold shower.
4. Do Thawba! and go out somewhere you like. How about a coffee? meanwhile listen to a motivational Islamic video while sipping a hot coffee to get you back on track.
5. Come back to clean your environment.
   1. Clean your room first
   2. Clean your phone or any device you used to sin.
6. Get back to work, study, be disciplined.
7. Create a productive routine and start doing it right away.
8. Workout - do cardio sessions for at least 20 mins.

Here is a quick 20 mins starter workout to get you active.

jumping jacks - 15
burpees - 15
box jumps - 15
high knees - 30
plank - 45 secs
skipping - 100
jumping jacks - 15
stretch

Remember: Beginning is always hard! As you get going, things become easy.

A family friend showed me inappropriate videos and would talk to me suggestively at a very young age. When I would see them a few years later, they would show me pornographic videos and we would watch it together. I would've never been hypersexual if that never occurred and I hate myself for that fact that it still affects me to this day. I've never been in a romantic relationship and marriage is certainly not an option for me. no matter how many times I try to stop myself, I will always relapse. I pray to Allah but I still fall into the same cycle of repeating the same sins. Will I ever change? I'm not as religious as I used to be but I genuinely no one to talk to this about, and I am never going to bring this situation up with anyone I know. It is a big secret and I have never told any family members about what I was made to watch. I thought to myself that since this a subreddit that has people who has been through similar situations as me, I can seek advice from this. Sorry for any grammatical errors english is not my first language.

Is there a true halal way to deal with hyper sexuality in Islam and if so what are they. Not asking from someone’s previous experience or preference. If anyone can quote some Quran or hadith I’d love to know !

Zina is a test of the soul, but remember that Allah has promised immense reward for those who restrain their desires for His sake.

He said, “Indeed, those who fear Allah when touched by an impulse from Shaytan, they remember [Him] and they see [clearly]” (Surah Al-A’raf 7:201).

Guard your heart, your eyes, and your soul. Every time you resist, you elevate your rank with Allah.

Cry to Him like Yaqub (AS), who said, “I only complain of my suffering and grief to Allah” (Surah Yusuf 12:86).

Allah will protect you and strengthen you Just like he did to prophet musa “You have been granted your request, O Musa.”

Trust and believe ! I have no doubt he will help me and you guys too my brothers and sisters !!!

Title. When you relapse, you had to have taken steps towards it.

You are in control of your hands when you search for haram on your phone. You are in control of your hands when you lock your doors and take your clothes off. You are in control when you persist on a haram fantasy and keep thinking about it. You are in control of your hands when you put them on places they shouldn’t be. You are in control of your eyes when you do not lower your gaze.

Don’t blame your hormones or stress or circumstances. Trust me, we all have those problems. Those excuses you bring up did not directly cause you to relapse, YOU caused your own relapse. Even the whispers of shaytan do not cause you to sin unless YOU give into them. So resist them and seek refuge in Allah.

Your life is slipping away and the Day of Judgement is getting closer and closer; there is no time for excuses or procrastination. Would you rather endure the pain of resisting your temptations or the pain of jahannam? Take accountability and be disciplined.

May Allah help us all.

#Read this before you quit

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
To my dear brothers and sisters who feel like giving up, this message is for you. If you're drowning in guilt, overwhelmed by your struggles, or feel distant from Allah, please listen closely. You are not alone, and Allah has not abandoned you.

Section 1: Addressing the Pain
Life can feel unbearable sometimes. You may think, "Why am I even trying if I keep failing?" or "How can Allah forgive me when I’ve sinned so much?" These thoughts can weigh heavy on your heart, but know this: Allah is closer to you than you realize.

Allah says in Surah Al-Baqarah:

"Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear." (Qur'an 2:286)

Whatever you're going through, Allah knows you can endure it. The struggle you face is a sign of your potential, not your weakness.

Section 2: The Hope in Allah’s Mercy
Shaytan wants you to despair because hopelessness keeps you from turning back to Allah. But Allah, in His infinite mercy, calls us back to Him over and over again.

In Surah Az-Zumar, Allah says:

"Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [through sin], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful." (Qur'an 39:53)

No matter how many times you've fallen, Allah’s mercy is greater than your mistakes. It’s not about never falling; it’s about always returning to Him.

Section 3: A Reminder of Allah’s Love
Sometimes, you may feel unworthy of Allah’s love, but that’s a lie. Allah’s love is not conditional on your perfection—it’s constant even when you fall short.

In Surah Ad-Duha, Allah reassures the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) during a time when he felt isolated:

"Your Lord has not abandoned you, nor has He detested [you]." (Qur'an 93:3)

This verse is for you too. Allah has not abandoned you, even if you feel lost.

Section 4: Turning Struggles Into Strength
Your struggles are not pointless. They are a means of purification and growth. Every hardship you endure with patience draws you closer to Allah.

In Surah Ash-Sharh, Allah says:

"For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease. Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease." (Qur'an 94:6-7)

Notice that Allah repeats this promise—ease will always accompany hardship. Your pain is temporary, but the reward for enduring it is eternal.

Section 5: Practical Steps to Keep Going
Here are three steps to help you move forward when you feel like giving up:

1. Renew Your Tawbah: No matter how many times you’ve sinned, keep asking Allah for forgiveness. Tawbah is your shield against despair.
2. Surround Yourself With Positivity: Connect with people who remind you of Allah and encourage you to stay strong in your faith.
3. Turn to the Qur’an: The Qur’an is your source of healing and guidance. Even reading a single verse can reignite hope in your heart.

My dear brother, my dear sister, don’t give up. Your journey is not defined by your falls but by your willingness to rise again. Allah loves you more than you can imagine, and He is waiting for you to turn to Him.

Let me leave you with this beautiful verse from Surah Al-Inshirah:

"So when you have finished [your duties], then stand up [for worship]. And to your Lord direct [your] longing." (Qur'an 94:7-8)

Keep striving, keep turning to Allah, and never let despair win. You are stronger than you think, and Allah’s mercy is closer than you feel.

Wa Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

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Salamualaikum,

With whatever success we have (with NoFap or otherwise) its always because of the blessings of Allah. We do what we can in terms of staying disciplined and incorporating all the tips and tricks in the world but there is always going go be holes in our system. There is always going to be situations we are not prepared for.

Put your faith in Allah. Even after all the restrictions and self control, we are helpless without him. May Allah grant us success and ease inshallah. Ameen.

As usual. I’m taking things one day at a time. See you guys tomorrow inshallah.

Asalamu alaykum wa rahmatulllahi wa barakatuh,

As part of my ongoing struggle to improve myself I came across this hadith today which I thought I would share:

*Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Allah is gentle and He loves gentleness in all matters.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 6927, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2165

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim*

insha'Allah you find it beneficial

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Salamualaikum,

I’m getting to the point now where I’m getting a little cocky with my phone. I caught myself clicking on an article I did not need to and was able to get out of there alhamdulillah.

At times this feels like such a delicate affair. One click too far and you’re too deep in trouble. Inshallah I need to be more watchful. Allah saved me today. May he keep up strong and on the right path. Ameen.

As usual, I’m taking things one day at a time. See you guys tomorrow inshallah.

Im so much in pain and shame.

I am over 30 and I have this porn addiction since very early age. I wasnt religiously aware till my 20s. I didnot commit zina as I knew then this was big thing but I had a girl friend. And we were planning to marry and we were very close and fell into some sort of closeness physically and on video calls for about a year or so.

I broke up with her due to disagreements in my 20s and become more religious made tawbah but my porn addiction continued. That break up destroyed me as I was shy, introvert and not so close to girls except my girlfriend. She was everything to me then. And I had only a couple close friend. I am still not social and do not have any friend as of now. And I do not have mu familly with me too. Parents divorced.

Later I decided to quit porn and get married properly. I was somewhat achieving that with some relapses (dont remember the frequency now as it was mid 20s)

Then I got married to a narcissistic woman who looked highly religious and respectful and loving in the beginning. My marriage was a waste and it was horrible. She rejected me many times. I didnot see love there as well as in my family from my dad. He doesnt talk to me for years. My mom is the only loving person in my life. I am in so much shame.

I wanted to suicide sometimes. Before my marriage and after divorce. Now I donot want that but I sometimes think maybe its better to die to not commit more sins. Even writing that makes me devastated.

My religious activities went down after my divorce and got back to porn even deeper.

Recently I made tawbah and quit porn 2 months straight but I was relapsing on masturbating every a few days. Couldn't improve that. I still want to get married. But there seem no hope in my search.

I now have a mental break down after one talk with a candidate I liked recently. She did not want to continue so suddenly.

And what I did after that is not just porn. I also started looking for text partner and even tried some video calling too for pleasure but it was unsuccessful. I am afraid I will go deeper and start committing zina and eve more. I feel like I cant hold it. Im not strong.

I am normal, successful in my career, highly educated, logical and practicing muslim but this sins are just putting me deep down in the earth. I cant get it off of my chest. It burns like hell and I cant talk anyone even to my terapist.

This is first time I write all together. May Allah forgive me. I recognize Allah I donot culturally believe in Islam but I research that deeply too. I read always. And try to analyze how Allah created things. My view is open on that and that deepens my shame bcs he sees me. I hope wrinting here anonymously won't be counted as revealing my sins. O Allah forgive me.

I am in shame evreytime I am praying. I feel like I will be punished in this life and after forever. I cant find a wife and friend. I will continue for tawbah but I am lost.

i was addicted to porn and I left it 2-3 years ago. But i still have side effects from the addiction. should I be transparent about these issues and their origin along with my struggle to overcome porn addiction to the one I marrying before marrying because in one way or another it is gonna effect our future and it feels like a betrayal to the one I am marrying. I Love this person a lot and don’t wanna loose her and at the same time I can not betray her. Do I need to come clean or should I hide my sins as instructed in Islam. Kindly give genuine advice (people who are married and suffered from this disease) Thank you.

I am muslimah and struggling from this issue for the longest time i can remember and i think i got into this addiction due to my mental health and ocd issues. I dont know how to quit it tbh i can go on long streaks but i eventually relapse its awfully frustrating please any tips would be appreciated jazakallahu khair

السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

Sisters that are struggling with nofap and cannot post on the subreddit since it's unsafe and more male focused can join the discord that's still in development but has a muslimah community with more or less similar struggles.

It would be beneficial if a knowledgeable sister who has already beaten the addiction joins the discord and guide others on beating this.

Others that have chosen to post on here and receive DMs by men can refrain from doing so in the future and post their queries in the discord and receive help as well as guidance from fellow sisters. It's completely anonymous and safe with a verification system. You'll not fall as a prey to the DMs in your vulnerable phase and be in a safe community instead.

Also, those sisters that post being gender neutral can also be free in disclosing their gender identity without any restrictions in the discord server.

I am someone who is under the (satr) cover of Allah.

This Sinner , ungrateful worshipper tries to prays on time (even if it is with out Khushoo many times). I pray so I get saved, but people think I am a good Muslim. I pray because I know the others who pray barley have half of the sins i carry.

What destroy me is that I cried to Allah, and promised not to go back. I took an oath and broke it. Everytime

I know what I am doing is bad, because this filth took me to other levels of sins that is beyond. Things only Allah knows about.

This path only leads to doom, you guys may think it is just this, but may Allah never put you in other places where he test your will, because i found out if your will is weak here it will be weaker in the other tests.

Allah pulled me out from the deepest parts of sin. He covered me, again ,and again and again. I felt his mercy on every part of my life even after I sinned beyond what I thought was forgivable.

But I still went back to ground 0. Even though I left the worst type of sins. Here I am back to my old one.

So why do you say that???

Should we give up!! No god forbid Because even this ungrateful sinner knows it is over once you give up.

Allah didn't give up on me with all that i did which is far from what you did. Do you think he will give up on you?

Just keep fighting it, god doesn't want to see your end results, he wants to see you fighting. Even that small guilt feeling is better than not feeling anything.

I am still fighting, I am still crying, I am still trying

May Allah forgive us and cure us of what is burdening us.

Pray for me , pray for all the rest of your brothers.

And please don't stop trying

I just keeps on doing it, I keep going back every 3 days and I can’t stop, I feel guilty, weak, and I’m in my lowest,

I need help to stop this, anything that might just snap me out of this

Ya Allah, please help me to stop this bad deed.

Brothers and Sisters,

It’s been about 21 hrs since I made a commitment to end this practice once and for all. I have an unimaginable amount of guilt and resentment. It’s consuming me thoughts.

Physically I feel drained and I’m fighting the urges every single time. My heart isn’t at peace due to this guilt. It’s destructive.

But I will keep pushing on. Allah said with hardship comes ease and I will be patient in this recovery. It is a disease and I will treat it as such.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QJvHglNMsqc

Summery :

- Restriction

• The goal of restriction is to maximise the barrier to entry in order to discourage pom usage outside of an alloted window of time

- Regulation Methods • Alternate nostril breathing

• Meditation & Exercise

• We want to regulate emotion without resorting to porn.

- Triggers • Understand and identify

• Mentally prepare to deal with them

• Anticipate your emotional reaction

- Analyze your weak point

• Go for walk 15 to 30 minutes in that particular time

- Working on dormant emotions

• Try journal

- Find a Community

- Do something you can be proud of

- Excercise and Diet

• 1 hour 3 times a week , Minimum 20 minutes 3 times a week excercise.

• lots of leafy green vegetables and whole grain and healthy proteins.

- Dual diagnosis

• See mental health professional if you are feeling adhd or other things.

- A simple Technique

• keep patience

- Urge Surfing

• do nothing for 1 to 2 minutes while Urges

In stuck in this cycle of sining and repenting again nd again now i feel that i wont be forgiven cz i do it on purpose cz i think ill be forgiven but majority of times i dont have any control over myself. In thinking to just delete everything and focus on how to improve myself and stay away fron porn and fapping , but how much i try the shaitan comes back with stronger tactics and i fall again in its trap . Im fed up now and im feeling helpless rn what should I do, i dont have anyone either in my room and im all alone and idk why i cant Allah in this specific matter in other matters i fear alot but in this matter im not afraid what should i do. Need guidance please help me

My last post here

I relapsed hard 3 times during this week. Tomorrow is day one again.

It is about improvement not about perfection. Now is a new moment. Who joins me?

I'm a 26 years old guy that spent more than half of his life(💀) with PMO addiction starting from an early age. Needless to say it harmed my deen and dunya to a great degree. Now that I'm nearing 27 and my libido is diminishing, having lost an immediate family member for the first time, experiencing some new personal struggles, I'm more mentally mature and sober compared to my, say, 5 years younger self.

I was too deep into this sin that I used to detest guys who say I've done zina, it's not worth it out of pure frustration, jealousy, ignorance, being a slave to my desires and all that foolish state of mind but I start to understand them now as a guy who's never been with a woman before.

So what now? All that lame pleasure I got from PMO is gone and I've accumulated a crazy amount of sins, harmed myself and my life, harmed my family indirectly by not being a better person.

I hope you take lessons from my failure in deen and dunya. Repent now while you're still alive and take commandments of Allah seriously. It didn't hit me as hard when I heard someone else say it's not worth it because I was a fool, please don't be a fool like me.

Hi i think this community should have a discord, sort of as a community we can fall back to when urges and temptations are the highest and stuff. Do have have a discord? If not perhaps the mod here can make one, i don't mind helping out as well :)

Salam Aleykoum I have been abstaining for some time now but I feel like I am becoming weak. What I mean is that I still have very recurring sexual thoughts, and each of these thoughts, no matter how small, is enough to cancel my ablutions. This makes it difficult to perform prayers at times because I cannot do my ablution all the time, and I have to make sure that the flow is finished. I don't want to fall back into this sin because I know what it represents, I also live in a hyperstimulating environment which is university. I thought about marriage, in any case I planned to go see a girl in my class to ask her for the number of her wali but I lost hope. I realize that I'm not mature enough yet and that this girl will probably say no to me. I would just like to know if any brothers experience this, and how long it takes for these thoughts to stop. Do you have an effective way to deal with it?

Salamualaikum Everyone,

As I enter this next week which for reasons I want get into are going to be very stressful and testing. A mistake I have made in the past is getting overworked and upset about things not going the way I wanted. Problem was that most of it, I had no control over. No control over how people acted, what they said, little things they did that annoyed me.

I remember the first time I tried to let go and just go with the flow. I was so much less stressed and enjoyed myself a lot more. I write this as a reminder to myself more than anyone, especially for the next week, need to let the little things go. Getting worked up only leads to discomfort and that in turn leads to temptations.

As usual, I’m taking things one day at a time. See you guys tomorrow inshallah.

Today, I transgressed beyond what I ever fathomed. Today, I’ve hit rock both. Today, I ask Allah for forgiveness and make an oath by Him that I make Tawbah.

I ask Allah for his forgiveness and ask him to not punish me for my transgressions in this dunya and akhira.

I ask that he protect my family from this evil in their lifetimes. I pray for his mercy and call upon his mercy. I know his mercy overweight his wrath for Allah is Al-Raheem. I ask that he increase him mercy upon to 10 fold.

To Iblis, I say this. You have, inshallah, tempted me for the last time today. I say prepare for a battle of a lifetime. I say that I am among the Ummah of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and a sinful servant of Allah. I seek refuge from you from Allah S.W.T.

As for you my brothers and sisters. I ask for your support in this journey. Inshallah I will update you on here and use this platform as a dairy/accountability tool.

May Allah ease this for me and you. Iblis is a powerful enemy but with Allah on my side, he will crumble, inshallah.

This is personal.

#"If you don't fight for what you want, you’ll cry for what you lost."

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, and bismillah.

Let’s be real—how many times have you let this habit steal from you? Your dreams, your focus, your relationship with Allah, your self-respect. Every time you relapse, you’re not just slipping—you’re losing something priceless.

But here’s the thing: you still have a choice. You can either fight for what you want—a life of purpose, closeness to Allah, and real peace—or keep letting this habit rob you of it all.

Allah says:
"Indeed, those who have said, 'Our Lord is Allah' and then remained steadfast—angels will descend upon them, [saying], 'Do not fear and do not grieve but receive good tidings of Paradise, which you were promised.'” (Surah Fussilat, 41:30)

Steadfastness isn’t about never falling; it’s about standing back up every single time. You don’t have to win the whole battle today. But you need to fight. Even one small step—one single prayer, one moment of turning to Allah—can start to change everything.

Quit corn. Stop mass debating. These habits are chains, and every time you give in, you’re letting them get tighter. Break those chains with istighfaar. Turn to Allah, because His mercy is greater than your struggle. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:
"All the children of Adam are sinners, but the best of sinners are those who repent." (Tirmidhi)

And when the urges come, don’t give in. Replace them with something better. Go pray. Read the Qur’an. Go for a run. Do anything that pulls you out of the moment. Don’t let your feelings dictate your actions—let your purpose guide you.

Remember, Allah hasn’t abandoned you. He’s giving you another chance, right now, to turn back to Him.

"Say, 'O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.'” (Surah Az-Zumar, 39:53)

You’ve got a fight ahead of you, but it’s worth it. Because every step you take toward Allah, He comes closer to you. So fight. Don’t let this habit win.

May Allah bless you, guide you, and give you the strength to overcome. Ameen.

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I’m yearning to get married. I keep sinning, I just want to have a nice wife.

I wish it was easier to get married. Although some ppl still do this after marriage. I hope inshallah I don’t become like that.