so what i think is going on is that my breast buds sit at the very tip of my nipples. they are now expanding and its hurts. a lot. is this a normal thing?

It sucks having friendships and family relationships for years, just gone because of transitioning. It’s hard because it shows that those relationships were superficial to an extent. But man I miss my childhood friends sometimes. On top of that as you grow it becomes harder to make these “deep seated” friendships. I’m glad I have found family and I wouldn’t change my path for a second, but it’s lonely sometimes ya know?

I’ve started wanting to get platform heels but I’ve never walked in anything more intense than normal boots and sneakers, and I’m a men’s 13 wide so I’m nervous about making a flat out purchase for really nice shoes from a drag retailer until I know how to walk in them. Are there such a thing as like, training shoes, or maybe techniques that could be used to learn to walk in high heels before I make a $90 shoe purchase? Or should it just go for it and see how it goes (I think the site said the boots I want are a 5 inch heel if that helps)

i’ve had laser on my face and i know it’s not permanent and i know you have to do hair removal before bottom surgery but im wondering is electrolysis the safest option?

I’ve already changed the gender marker on my passport, and I have an appointment with the Social security department to change it through there. Based on my understanding, these are the two changes I need to make on the federal level.

The state stuff gets more complicated. I know I can change my gender marker on my driver’s license now that I have a “sex: f” passport. But, what else can I do? I’ve been told I also need to change my gender through the state-level department of vital records. Is this true?

I’m a legal resident of Kentucky, so I know I can’t change my birth certificate without SRS. However, when I move to another state after I graduate from college, will it be possible to get a new birth certificate there?

Okay, so I need a term for it that isn't negative, but I clocked a girl. She honestly passes though, no problem. Totally kept it to myself; I'm pretty sure, and hope, she has no idea. Complimented her top and did the whole awkward small talk thing waiting on the bus, I'm boymode btw, and got to see her just light up! Did I just make someone's day? Gods I hope so.

With the new show Wizards Beyond Waverley Place coming out it reminded me of the original show. I remember the one season where Max got turned into a girl for a few episodes. I remember being jealous and wishing that could be me. Just thinking how nice it would be if I could live my life as a girl instead of a boy. That’s all. Just a tiny flashback of years when I knew I didn’t want to be a boy. Let me know if there’s any shows growing up that gave any of you moments like that.

So I live with transphobic parents of course and I sometimes feel like I want to buy some trans things maybe like a trans pin or other stuff. The issue is my dad almost always works from home and his office so happens to have a window next to the front door If I were to get something delivered from a non-USPS carrier he would see it furthermore sometimes he checks the mailbox before I do. Which even if it was in the mailbox still puts a risk. I have been thinking about this too and even if I do get the items before my parents see them storing them in my room leaves the opportunity to still find them. I called a local PMB company and they told me you can store things in the mailbox as long as you're paying for it considering it's only 10$ a month or 110$ a year I think that's pretty cheap.

If I get a PMB box then I can get things shipped to it from any carrier and it is better than a PMB box this is especially good if you're ordering something and don't know what carrier the merchant might decide to ship it with. The issue is I hardly ever go out so it might be stored in the mailbox for a long time. And since it is stored off-site it wouldn't be in person so if I wanted it for some reason I have to go to the mailbox grab it use it and then I have to put it back in the mailbox now I don't drive yet so Uber costs for this would get expensive probably as well. Hence it is likely if I did just be something I store for a long time like you would for a storage locker.

As much as transitioning has helped to alleviate dysphoria thus far and I seem to mostly pass--I fear I'll always suffer a lot from gender dysphoria. I can't help but notice how my skull, midface, shoulders, rib cage are bigger than like every cis woman and I can't change that. Even when I get a neovagina I fear I'll always be conscious of how it's different from natal vaginas. It also seems my boobs will never fully develop to stage 5 of puberty. It pains me so much that I'll never be as female as I want to be unless maybe there is some incredible scientific development. I don't know if I'll ever feel like I'm looking at me in the mirror.

So I had went with my gf to the hospital to see her mom that was having issues (she's ok now) and my gf said to the secretary we were there to see her and the secretary said " Ok are you two her daughters?" And I almost fell over with excitement because I was finally gendered correctly! The crazy part is i wasn't even trying really! I have nobody else to really tell but I'm full of gender euphoria 😃

Preferably one on the less painful side but some discomfort is fine as long as it actually works

I'm on estradiol and spiro. I have EDS and POTS, which means I have a conflict between spiro and a requirement for really high sodium.

I'm going to ask my doctor for an estrogen implant, and for an alternative to spiro, at least until I can get an orchie, which I still haven't heard anything from the urology department I was referred to.

What alternative options are available in the US for spiro? And what should I expect from switching to an implant? I have about 3 months worth of estradiol tablets left, so I'm good either way, but still.

Didn't get a hint of ewphoria. It was really just a lot of ew. I feel cheated.

Jokes aside, goddess that sucks. Now I'm disgusted and feel unsafe. I've gotten my share of online creeps, but this is the first time an idiot called me on the bus stop, and I feel gross and now I'm looking around afraid he's going to circle back, because I very much alone. I guess it's time to start carrying a knife in my purse. Yay.

Yet another reason to not like men.

Edit: Girls, I don't live in the US. Pepperspray and tasers are considered military gear in my country, and require special permission to be used. It's assault to use it even in self defense.

Hi. Umm. So I want to apologize out the gate for the fact this will be long, and kind of rambly. The tl;dr is that I'm a recently out (to my friends, and one parent) trans woman in my mid-30s who wants desperately to start transitioning but is incredibly confused and overwhelmed, and could really use some friendly advice.

Ok, so. My name is Olivia and I'm in my mid-30s. I live in Chicago (like, actual Chicago, not the suburbs). I'm in my mid-30s and recently graduated from graduate school here last spring. About that same time, I finally realized (or accepted, or whatever you want to call it) that I'm not a cisdude, nor am I a genderless blob that just exists as themselves...I'm a woman, and I want to finally feel comfortable in my skin and transition, etc etc.

I have slowly been coming out to trusted and friends and my sister and her wife, and they have all been incredibly accepting and open and it has been very validating, though I know this will not be my experience forever. My mother and her sister are transphobic -- we're religious, but not Christian, so its less from a religious sense and more from a Narcisstic (shes a narcissist) point of view. I've known for a long time i might have to cut her off, but she's slowly been improving in how she treats me and what have you and I don't want to like, shit on that? I dunno. Like, I want to be myself and have my peace most of all, but I'd rather not lose my Mom if I don't have to? So I'm terrified of telling her. Not that like, she supports me financially or anything (but I'm not exactly stable or solvent yet, either, I'm a substitute teacher for CPS and also starting next month will have a restaurant job that should, hopefully, finally get me financially stable enough ot at least be able to cover all my expenses and such and have a little left over), but its just the finality of it all and whatever. I'm willing to do it, but I don't want to. And i'm afraid, because my other parent who are themselves a trans woman, has been completely horrible to me about it. She has refused to call me by the correct gender or name (by my last count in the month she has known -- and I didn't tell her, I was outed by a former-friend -- she has misgendered and/or deadnamed me at least 12 times) -- the one time she did, she called me "Livy" which i absolute hate and had to essentially beg her to never call me (she is *also* a narcissist, can't you tell?), has basically tried to discourage me from transitioning, tried to knee-cap me by giving me bad advice, tried to tell me that 3 years is too short of a time to transition and I need to live as a woman without HRT for like 5 years before even deciding to get on HRT, some really backwards ass shit, basically. So I've basically written her off as useless at best, and probably actively harmful to me (and so I'll probably need to cut her off, too, unfortunately).

Which gets us to the meat of my post/question: there is so much to know, and learn, and research and figure out, and I'm at a point where I don't want to wait any longer than I have to to get started. I've already started shaving my face, growing my hair, and growing my nails, and wearing femme clothes around the house (though these days its hoodies, cos its getting cold), but aside from that, I'm not sure what i'm able to do yet without jeapordizing my financial security, such as it exists, so far. But also there's just...so much to know about the hormones, surgeries, timelines, what i should be doing or not doing in which order, etc etc etc (yes, I'm Autistic and Type A, why do you ask?). And i guess....just do yall have any advice? How do I sort of figure out what my timeline is/should be? Do you have good, relatively easy to digest sources for all the research/etc I should be learning about and becoming versed in and knowledgeable about?

I guess just....can someone throw me some advice/mentor me a bit about what I should be doing now, in the next month or two, the next six month, year, etc? ANd if you have any advice about coming out to transphobic family and/or at work (I live in a state with trans protections, thankfully), I'd really, really appreciate it.

Thanks :3

Have you ever just wished you had someone you could go to when you needed an ally or someone who you knew was supportive of you and you could talk to them and everything would be OK. Have you wished that you had a parent or family member you could talk to for advice or just to tell your problems too, and give you a shoulder to cry on. That is the main reason why I am here so many of us in the LGBTQIA community have no family. We may have been kicked out when we were younger or they may have just simply stop talking to us because they don’t agree with who we are. I want to be here to be that virtual family member for you if you need someone to talk to if you need someone to vent to if you just had a particularly hard or emotional day and you just need to cry or get it out. I want to be the person you can turn to if you need it

I know it’s different than having an actual IRL family member to talk to, but I’m here for you. I myself I’m a member of the community. I’m a gay male and I have a trans daughter. I can also be here to answer any questions you may have about Gender or sexual identity or whatever if you need anything just reach out I’m here.

1,5 years HRT and minoxidil. I've had quite a lot of hair growth and I have quite a lot of baby hair. If all of those would become proper hair, I would be very happy. But how does it work, how long can I expect those baby hair can become real hair, or will they already at this point just stay as baby hair for the rest of my life?

There are two people in my life I believe will be supportive and possibly even helpful. One is my sister, the other is my girlfriend. But I'm shaking just thinking about it. I'm not sure about their reactions and it could honestly go very badly, and spread like wild fire...and there's weeks before I'll be able to see either one! I feel this is probably going to be better done in person, so now I'm worried about being on the verge of a panic attack thinking about it until then. Omg why do I do this to myself?

I'm 2 months on HRT and I've definitely noticed slight breast development. Not enough to see in the mirror but I can feel firmer tissue in my chest under my nipples.

The thing is I notice a lot more tissue on my left than my right breast when feeling around. Is this going to even out? I know I'm quite early on my journey and such but I'm concerned they'll end up super uneven.

I need some advice. Whenever I put the pill under my tongue and let it sit, even if my mouth is moist, it doesn’t seem to be absorbed by anything. I hold it in my mouth for like 20 mins and there’s barely of the pill gone. Am I missing something? Where in my mouth do I put it?

Basically title, I have just enough money to start hrt but I don't know where to start. I've been seeing so ma y mixed reviews about local clinics as well as the online platforms that I genuinely don't know where to start.

So uhh I’ve noticed my nips starting to puff out more than they used to, and I know soreness there is expected, but I’m kinda concerned cus its only happening on my right side, it started yesterday but i do remember that area having a similar episode a few days ago too (edit) I should also note that that one side also is tending to be harder than the other side.

Is this normal?

I’ve been on E for 10 months now. I’m worried I’m not making any change or progress in my life.

I can’t do make up to save my life, I have no idea how to dress myself, my voice has become intolerable to myself & the worst of it all is I just feel so trapped and alone.

I don’t know what to do, I’m worried that I’ll never be able to look in a mirror and be proud of who I am.

Any advice for getting out of a trans rut like this?

It’s crazy how much can change in a year.

Last year I felt so ugly and alone, like I’d never get anywhere. But after 1.5 years on estrogen I’m finally starting to feel pretty, more like myself.

Yesterday I was out listening to Françoise Hardy, just walking outside some shop and someone from a top modeling agency actually stopped me, took my measurements, snapped a few photos, and asked if I’d be up for moving to London.

It honestly felt unreal because I’ve always wanted to be a model

After my egg was cracked, I'm not able to hide my inner self anymore. It's good indeed, but for me it also means that I speak about my future transition every day (at least I speak about it with my allies). And it's annoying (for my allies just maybe, I suppose). I just can't stop because I have remained silent since I was 7, and now this torrent explodes me up. How am I supposed to stop reading this sub and not think that much how great it would be to have boobies and wear women's clothes?..

I think about my gender identity even more than I used too, and this scares a little...

OHMYGOD! OHMYGOD! OHMYGOD! OHMYGOD! OHMYGOD! OHMYGOD! I just tried on my first dress ever, and it was so euphoric that I nearly hyperventilated! I actually love the way my body looks in it!

That is all.

I’m a parent of a teen who let me know about a year ago that they were mtf / trans. this was very out of the blue for me - not a situation at all where I felt like part of me always knew that my kid was not their birth gender. nonetheless I was really affirming right away of my kid’s new name, pronoun (she / they), and presentation, taking them shopping for new clothes and makeup, etc. they have seemed happy over the past year and are doing well.

but, the one area that has been giving me anxiety is HRT. when they first came out they also immediately asked about hrt. it felt way too fast / sudden to me. even though i know they were probably thinking about it for longer than i knew, and even though i know the research about low regret rates, etc., i also know that mtf hrt has some non-reversible body changes, including to fertility and sexual function, and those seem like serious decisions to me, and also hard decisions to make as a teen while many things are fluctuating and unsettled (not in a "this is a phase" kind of way, but in the nonetheless very real way that teens are in a state of flux around sexuality, their relationship to their bodies, and how they experience pleasure and intimacy). a year ago, i said let's keep checking in about how things are feeling and maybe give it a year or so, so that's what we've done.

they now still seem interested in HRT. though, at the same time, i would also say - as my gut was telling me would happen - i have seen some fluctuation around their identity over this initial year. they have said things recently like they sometimes feel more like a they than a she, and they now present as more of a fluid mix rather than femme all the time. It seems very normal to me that a teen would be exploring and unsettled in many aspects of their sexuality and identity. so that's why, as a parent, the permanent impacts of HRT - like making life-changing decisions about fertility and sexual function are giving me a lot of anxiety.

i'm worried that, in a culture where there is a strong push for affirmation (we are lucky to live in a liberal community where people bend over backwards to affirm gender identity), that these very real questions about permanent physcial and reproductive changes will be dismissed - i've also had bad experiences with a former therapist of my kid's implying that i am transphobic just because i have questions. would a gender clinic talk honestly to my teen about changes to sexual function? about freezing sperm? are these conversations i need to initiate as a parent? is there a spectrum of dosage for hrt and options for non-binary hrt vs full hrt? i have a lot of questions and many of the topics and concerns feel intrusive to ask my kid about (like whether / how they are being sexual with their current afab partner). if hrt is the right decision for my kid, i'm all for it, but it seems like a huge decision and i want to make sure it is really the right thing, since they currently seem pretty fluid, happy in their dating relationship, and not like they are in crisis.

so context im transbian (ofc) and im like working at my school retail and like All tfems are hot to me so like whenever i see one im like (AAA) so this one tgal in here and she buys a thing and i say "have a good gay" 😭

Stranger's gender confusion order by HRT: Young women, old women and men.

Passing-to-strangers order: Men, old women and young women.

It's funny that men were the last group that suspected anything different with my gender, but also the first group whom I started passing to. I'm not that suprised that they are, but I'm suprised how it was almost a group behavior of them. Like I started to pass to most of them at the same time, while still not passing to women. But the same thing happened with young and old women too.

It was also pretty great feeling to notice that suddenly young women were staring me weirdly, like they no longer weren't sure about me being trans or not, and then suddenly that stopped. That change was amazing feeling

im almost 18, i turn 18 in a few months. my parents dont support me. my mom especially hates lgbt stuff.

i heard theres a waiting list. is that something I should get into now? and how? i have no idea how to do this. do i have to schedule some appointment? it cant be over the phone, talking, since the walls are thin and my parents can easily hear me from anywhere.

i have some money saved up from my life over the years and i barely spent any of it. so is there a way i can skip whatever this waiting list is for and just pay for the hrt myself?

im really scared. ive wanted hrt for years and ive already filled out and look so much morr masculine than before. if my parents had supported me, its possible i could have passed as a girl now. but i doubt i will. its too late for that. but i still want to try. i heard the next best time to take hrt is before 22, so that's my goal now.

im a logical person. ive thought everything through many times over the course of those years.

hrt is most likely to make me happy with myself, at least more so than before. i hate being a boy. i never was traditionally boyish. i dont like competitive sports, i didnt get along with boys in high school.

i feel hrt is right for me and i accept the risks.

what do i do?

thanks

its my first time ever picking out girl clothes so im a lil inexperienced

i have these black stockings already and i want a skirt to go with them. i found these pretty cheap ones on discount which are almost exactly what im looking for except they have these white shorts underneath them.

i wouldnt mind if they were black but the white color makes me worried itll look kinda bad underneath the skirt and stick out too much

is there a way around this? would it look good or is there a way to somewhat hide the shorts part?