In October, a friend set me up with her boyfriend’s friend, and we started seeing each other. The relationship wasn’t perfect—he had a temper, and we often argued. Initially, he was really nice, but after we got closer (this was his first time being with someone), he started acting entitled and disrespectful.

A few weeks ago, we were on a call, and he disrespected my friend. I ignored it the first time, but later, I had to cancel plans last minute because it got late, and I couldn’t stay out alone at night. He completely freaked out, cursed at me, and said something like, “F** your friends.”* I told him not to talk to me that way or at all, but the next day, he called me as if nothing had happened.

When I confronted him, I explained it was disrespectful to talk about my friends like that and pointed out that I never said such things about his. Instead of owning up, he hung up, calling it “drama.” Frustrated, I asked for space, and he replied, “I’ll give you space forever.” And I just left it at that. No calling, no messaging, nothing.

To add to this, he was always paranoid about me talking to my friends about our relationship, especially the physical aspect (which I don’t do). The only friend I confided in was the one who set us up.

Fast forward after a week and a half of radio silence on both ends. I was at that friend’s house, and she called her boyfriend on video. He casually asked me what happened between me and his friend. I vented and talked badly about my guy, saying he was disrespectful and difficult to deal with. My friend chimed in too because she knew how he had been treating me. I will admit that some of the stuff we said was childish but some of it was valid too. I said some mean things which I don't recall properly but they were mean.

What I didn’t know was that he was in the room during this conversation (but he wasn't seen or heard on call). That same night, he called me separately while we were on video call (which I thought couldn't be a coincidence), and we all ended up meeting in person. He acted totally normal, as if he hadn’t overheard anything. When I brought up how he disrespected me and my friends, he apologized—but it felt insincere, like he just wanted to shut me up. Still, I accepted it, and we patched things up.

The next day, he called me again, acting as if everything was fine. During our conversation, he asked what I told my friends about us. I admitted that I vented to the friend who set us up because she asks me how we’re doing, and I also mentioned that I had talked negatively about him to his friends during that recent call because I was hurt and angry. I also asked him why he called me after so long and if it was a coincidence that we happened to be on call with his friends, and he said he just missed me (now realizing that was a lie). I asked him multiple times because part of me didn't just think it was a coincidence.

The call ended normally, with him saying goodnight like usual. But the next day, I woke up to find myself blocked on all platforms.

I was confused so I messaged him via SMS to ask why I was blocked. He wouldn’t give me a straight answer, saying he had a reason but couldn’t tell me. I apologized anyway, even though I didn’t feel I deserved to be blocked, and left it at that.

A few days after that I saw that he had viewed my TikTok profile, so I mentioned it to my friend saying why is he acting this way, and that’s when I learned from her that he’d overheard us talking badly about him that night. I am confused as to why he would hang out with me that night after I said all that and why he would keep talking to me. Now, I’m torn.

Should I reach out and apologize for talking about him to his friends? I feel bad about it, but I wasn’t badmouthing him out of nowhere—I was angry about how he treated me and my friends. Or should I let it go and move on?

TL;DR: I was seeing a guy, but things got tense after he disrespected me and my friends. Later, I vented about him during a call with his friends, not knowing he was in the room. He acted normal at first but then blocked me the next day. I recently found out he overheard what I said, and now I’m wondering if I should apologize or just let it go and move on.

I'm a 5' 10" and 279lb (32f), so definitely bigger. My boyfriend tells me I'm beautiful and sexy and that he prefers bigger girls all the time. I'm definitely not used to it and have a hard time reconciling what he's telling me vs. what I know guys normally find sexy. How do I believe him? I guess a better question would be is do guys actually find my body type attractive?

I met this guy on a dating app about a month ago and we made it official a few weeks ago. When we hangout it’s perfectly fine, great connection, conversation, I love his presence. When we aren’t though he takes forever to reply and sometimes it annoys me, but I’m not sure why.

Like I know when we are together he doesn’t even touch his phone, not at all. I just don’t want to, so soon come off as clingy or controlling. I was with someone who was abusive for 7 years and he was like that, and I don’t want to come off that way. I guess I just clarity but I don’t want to mess anything up.

I messaged him yesterday and literally wasn’t even opened or anything until today, like 20 hours later, he replied but like it took a hot minute and even now it’s going on 12 hours. I don’t want to bombard and be clingy and blow up his phone, so I just wait.

I was thinking of asking him to hangout either today or tomorrow and see how things go and maybe try to gauge from there.

I do really like him and I think he’s a great, incredible, intelligent, hardworking guy, and I haven’t felt this way about anyone in literally years. We also both agreed to take things slow as well and not rushing like sex or meeting families for a couple months just to make sure things continue to work out. I just don’t want to mess things up and I’m just confused.

I was thinking of sending something like “hey, I hope your day has gone well. I know that we said that we both wanted to take things slow, which is still true for me. I was just curious as to what is ideal for you in terms of how often we see each other? I just wanna make sure that i don’t constantly ask and disrespect your boundaries. :)” unless that’s awful. Ugh I have no idea.

Hey guys, I need some advice on a situation that’s been on my mind for a while. Here's the backstory:

I’ve been noticing a girl in my university who I first met during a course last semester. We never really talked, but we had some strange eye contact moments back then. After the semester ended, I sent her a friend request, but she didn’t respond. I didn’t think much of it and moved on.

Now, coincidentally, we’re in two courses together this semester, and the weird eye contact still happens, although less frequently. What’s even stranger is that I keep bumping into her, even on days when we don’t have classes together. For example, today, she was near my class, peeking in, and later, I saw her sitting outside my classroom after class ended.

What’s throwing me off is that she seems friendly and smiley with a guy she’s often with. It makes me wonder if I’m just overthinking everything. To add to this, I sometimes feel like my “baby face” or youthful features might make me unattractive or uninteresting to her (I’m 22 but have always had a more boyish look).

So here’s where I need help:

• Does this situation sound like just a series of coincidences, or could there be something more to it?
• Should I try to break the ice with her? If yes, how do I do it without making things awkward, given the “weird vibe” between us?
• Could my appearance really be holding me back, or am I just overthinking?

Any advice or insight would be appreciated! Thanks in advance.

Hey Reddit,

I’m reaching out here because I’m overwhelmed and need some advice, especially from men who might have insight into what’s going on. I’ve been married to my husband for 10 years, and I’ve recently discovered something that’s shaken me to my core.

He’s been going to Asian massage parlors that are listed on erotic massage websites. I found out because his work credit card was canceled for nonpayment for the third time, and I finally demanded to see the statements. When I cross-referenced them with our personal accounts, I saw how often he was going for “massages.” Looking up these places made it clear they’re not legitimate massage therapy establishments.

I confronted him through email (he’s out of town for a family reunion) and shared screenshots of the reviews and social media profiles of these places, which include pictures of young women and comments about “happy endings.” He knows I’ve done this research, but I haven’t gotten any meaningful response yet.

Here’s some context:

He’s a military veteran with 60% disability and has struggled with PTSD and unresolved childhood trauma. He’s mentioned counseling before but hasn’t followed through. He used to go to legitimate massage therapy places, but this behavior started after I launched a nonprofit and committed myself to making a difference in our community. It feels like the more energy I’ve put into doing good, the more he’s spiraled into self-destructive behavior. His excuses for going to these places include them being “cheaper” and “not afraid to massage his glutes,” but it’s clear there’s more going on. This behavior has caused financial strain, destroyed my trust, and left me disgusted. I suspect he’s dealing with a sex addiction, not just indulging in the occasional “rub and tug.” I feel betrayed and heartbroken.

I’m trying to process a lot of emotions—anger at him for lying, at myself for being naïve, and sadness at how far things have fallen. He used to be someone I respected deeply, but now I’m questioning everything.

I need advice:

Do you think this marriage can be salvaged, or is trust irreparable at this point? For anyone who’s struggled with sex addiction or has been in a similar situation, what helped you (or your partner) work through it? Am I wrong to think that this isn’t just about the massages but a deeper issue he’s refusing to confront? I’m open to any honest feedback or insight. Thanks for reading this.

TL/DR: I suspect my husband has a sex addiction in the form of visiting Asian massage parlors 3 to 4 times a month and sometimes more. I’m angry with myself for being willfully naïve, and now we are dealing with the fallout of that including the financial strain, it’s putting on our budget. I think I need to divorce him and learn from this. I’d really like to hear from other men who have experienced this kind of addiction. I just can’t believe we’re in this situation right now because it’s a man that I’ve loved and now I’m disgusted to even look at him.

my bf (m19) won’t come to visit me (f18). we have been together for 3 months on the 2nd. i have constantly asked him if he could come see me for even just an hour or so because i miss him and we are long distance because of college (4 hours). he doesn’t have a strict family but he has a stricter family when it comes to me. i keep asking him to do something and talk to his family because our relationship isn’t going to progress if im the one who has to come see him every time and i don’t even have my own car that can make a four hour drive so i use my sisters.

the only time he came to visit me was within the first week of us dating but he told his parents he was coming to see “paul”. my names not paul in case u were wondering. and each time we have hung out i came to him either driving four hrs to his college or driving somewhere nearby his house and inviting him to come hangout with me. he doesn’t drive out to me at all unless he’s hanging with ‘paul’. but it’s been three months since he has come to see me and he would constantly tell me even before we were dating that i shouldn’t nd wont be the one who has to make these four hour drives all the time, but look whats happening

idk what to do bc i feel like he’s not goin to stand up to his parents or anything and tell them he’s going to come see me. like he’s busy a lot of the time because he’s with extended family nd immediately family but he isn’t with them 24/7 and ik he’s not so i just feel like he isn’t putting in the time for me specifically, what do i do???

I (23M) am having some mixed feelings with my girlfriend (26F) as the relationship gets more long term. I want to marry and have kids in the future, is this sort of situation normal or should I save us both and end it before we go to deep?

My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years, we get along well, although our interests differ quite a bit. We both live in the UK and she is from Thailand, she is here on a work visa after graduating from UNI.

I feel we are a good fit but idk if she is the ONE, I don’t know if there is a one but let me explain.

I like doing things outside, like long walks/hikes, camping, surfing, swimming etc. She gets sore ankles so doesn’t want to walk far, and thinks the ocean is gross. I know it sounds kinda cringe but I feel she doesn’t have a tryhard factor that I do, when I go on a walk I’ll get tired but I push through to get the the good view, she would likely rather turn back or stop half way. It’s hard to know if she is being difficult or actually having a hard time.

I feel that we get along well but we don’t connect on issues like this. For example I am quite patient, and usually wait till she she finishes talking in an argument, and maintain a calm tone, however she is the opposite, shouting and interrupting. She always apologises for this after, which does help but gets a bit old as time goes on.

Sometimes I think I would like to break it off (when we have gone through a rough patch). However she doesn’t have any family in the UK and I hate the idea of her going alone or sad. I want her to have a happy life and I want to ensure that happens.

Furthermore she has been talking about getting a civil partnership to allow her to stay in the UK without the job. The job she has doesn’t pay well, and she could get paid twice as much for the same work at a firm that doesn’t sponsor(as they have less leverage on the worker). However I don’t know if I’m ready for this, this is my FIRST AND ONLY real relationship.

I want to have kids in the future and want to enjoy things like hiking, and want a mother that is collected around them (not speradic). Is it fair for me to impose my ideas on her like this?

Finally please appreciate that I can’t manage to convey the complexity of our relationship in text, and that this is but a small part of a big story.

TLDR I am in a living happy relationship but have some clashes of personality and interest with my partner🙃. I sometimes feel that I want to break things for these reasons but I can’t imagine living without her or her being sad without me. What opinions do you have on this?

Husband won't give a second chance

So I 26(F) got married to 29(m) one year ago. Prior to that a year of engagement and a six month relationship as well. W had long distance relationship all along. I am.not much of a expressive person rather an action girl, also I tend to get very expressive once I am deeply attached. My husband used to say that your behaviour is dry. Part of reason was that he never used to praise me, or do romantic conversations and didn't communicate well about what he wants from a relationship. We just went on some dates and I was expressive during that tenure. As our dating dwindled my expressivness as well did. Right after two months of honeymoon period we had a minor conflict and my husband went in depression thinking about leaving marriage. I bore insults did whatever to save the relationship. Twenty days to a month I was apologetic and told him if he is in pain my world stops. Anyways he got reconnected. Then fast forward four five months, my dry behaviour reemerged (which means no romantic conversations) other than that I was responsible, responsive and attentive, that was all along. My husband would comment on my weight as well as his family, and he never payed attention to how I looked on dates, plus he commented on hair on my face, also with my father heart surgery planned, all these things built a resentment inside and four months later I was dry again, since my father's health took a deep turnoil on my health, i jad dark circles, hair fell off and all. He didn't like my dark circles and commented that I look old. Anyways one day upon a minor conflict where I didn't praise his sugar levels he just busted off saying negative things about my appearance and I asked him to praise me, to give attention in romantic way, to make me feel.loved and this behaviour will vanish, things took a turn where I said I enjoy talking to my colleagues more than him. He replied same and there is no bond. Four says later his family arrived. Fifth day on phone he said that he has checked out, he is dovorcing me and don't want me anymore (mind you little bit same things he said on previous conflict as well, he used to hate conflicts but then he got better). I asked for a second chanve he didn't give it to me and blocked me from everywhere. My question is was my mistake so big? Don't I deserve a chance? What should be my course of action.

I feel not appreciated enough in the relationship.i feel like I will lose any feelings for him sooner or later if this continues and it scares me .letting someone u love let go is tough.I have been feeling hurt since past month.i just don't feel welcome with him like I used to .feels like an ending I cannot accept.i am not very good at communicating neither is he .wish I could just burst infront of him with all these emotions but scared.its suffocating me the feeling.i try going cold if he will notice I m not fine but I give up can't stay cold .we just meet on weekends but he spends time with his friends and doing what he likes .I am tired of Asking him attention every now and then.Is this what guys do when they are done?it feels so bad when u see guys putting hell effort for their girls around you

I 21F been talking to a guy 28M for almost 4 months now and we are long distance. Recently he has been working from 6am to sometimes 7pm 8pm or even 9pm seven days a week. We only call on the phone for 2 hours 2 days a week and he checks up on me mostly everyday. Recently he’s been doing this thing where he will go one or two days out of the week without calling or texting. Is he losing interest in me? should I give him space? What’s going on?

Girlfriend’s mom doesn’t allow sleep overs anymore.

Hey guys, I’m kinda in a predicament. I’m a 23M and my girlfriend is 21F. We’ve been to together over two years. We go to each others family events. Her family comes to my events and vice-versa. She would stay over my house I would stay over hers. I would say about two-three times a week. However she’s not aloud anymore as of two weeks ago because we are not married and it’s disrespectful. I slept over the other day and her parents didn’t say anything. My mom loves having her over. We watch shows, have dinners, decorate the house, and etc. I don’t know what the deal is here? I have feeling is a hurdle in our relationship.

Had a long talk with her last night and came to the conclusion that she wanted to end things because I haven't been able to give her enough reassurances about the certainty of our future together. She's about to finish medical school and I've been working as a neuro lab tech assistant. But because I am in the process of applying for an EB-5 visa to the states, I don't know when I will have to head back there once my conditional citizenship starts. As such, I been saying that "I need to go back soon" to her since the start of our 2-year relationship, yet here I am still in Thailand with her.

The thing that makes it hard for me to plan a new job or a master's program in the states is that I've had a big depressive FOMO episode back when covid hit in 2020. I was stuck in oakland throughout the months-long curfew and missed out on being there for my uncle before he passed away from liver cancer (and missed his funeral). Now every time I think of leaving Thailand, I feel a sense of dread that something wrong is about to happen. I thought by being here with her and delaying my departure would make things work, but it turns out that she's been hurt because I haven't reciprocated her desire to plan for a future together. She wanted to know my plans ahead so she'd know whether to apply herself to a medical program in the states, or finish things up here in Thailand and get to be a practitioner here. She was open to the idea of long-distance before, but because of slow I've been at giving her a response, that urge to try as dwindled. She said she wants me to get my life in motion, and that she is open to the idea of dating the same person again if the opportunity and timing works out. As of now, she is working abroad in another province and wants to be single so she can focus on herself and be with friends.

I feel deeply motivated by this and want to better myself for me, and for her. Problem is, I can't shake the feeling that by the time I ask her to get back together, she'd have moved on. Worse, I feel anxious just thinking about her being able to say to guys that she is single, and that someone will make a move before my life comes to fruition. I haven't had this kind of overly passionate thought in a very long time. We love each other a lot, and I would dare say that we're perfect for one another (financially, academically, personality, etc.). Never had to break up with someone without it being about cheating, which was much easier on my emotional wellbeing.

Met a girl online and dated her for about 2months. This was a pretty long run considering almost all of my dates dont make it past the first. On paper she is absolutely perfect. Great morals, traditional, wants to get married, and have a family. She Doesn’t have a lot or any relationship baggage, shes very sweet to me, and we’re also extremely similar. She doesn’t party, is quite introverted —just like me. Like myself, she is also very calm unlike my exs. She just totally different. In addition to all that, shes also extremely beautiful and in great shape. Super model level beauty, but very humble about it. With that being said, i just cant see myself falling in love with her so i dumped her. I know its only been 2months but i know myself. Ive been in 3 long term relationships and these women were all very different from her—i was excited to see them, thought about them during the week, etc. i dont know what it is, i just dont get the butterflies with this girl, i dont think of her often so i let her know and dumped her. Will i regret this? Did i jump the gun?

So, a new coworker was hired in my workplace and after some chatter, she told us that she has a daughter who is single. She showed us some photos and she was just my type. Another coworker mentioned that I too, am single and she(new coworker) jokingly started calling herself my mother-in-law and said we (me and her daughter) should start dating.The thing is, she isn't good at the job and our supervisor is considering firing her. So with limited time how do I get in contact with her daughter?

I know this is a weird situation, but I really want to try dating her. Please help!

I'm not referring to hook-ups, only serious relationships/kids/wife.

My SO is 13 years younger. We met at work and it's going great. But that type of organic meeting relies heavily on chance.

My male friends 38-42 looking to settle down haven't had any luck finding younger women.

So how did you do it, was it also by chance?

Je souhaiterais avoir votre avis sur le sujet de la tromperie virtuelle. Ou commence t elle? En avez vous déjà été victime ? Qu'avez-vous ressenti lorsque vous l'avez découvert ? En avez vous parlé a votre partenaire ? Que s'est-il passé après ?

I’ve crushed on a guy older than me for over a year (both twenties I believe, him late twenties I estimate and me younger) and tomorrow is my last possible chance to see him, but most likely we will not see each other tomorrow. We have never talked besides one word hi etc. We know of each other but have never talked. We do not have each other on any social media. I am going through a lot in life right now and since we will no longer be in the same space/place where we can bump into each other again after tomorrow, I want to confess to him in some way. I want to make an anonymous insta account and tell him that way and just finally put my feelings to rest for the first and last time. Secret admirer kind of thing. Being with him is not an option anyway as we won’t see each other in real life again. I know this is not ideal but it’s something I want to do, for closure.

I have connected with a woman and she is making this so easy that I cannot believe it. She is reaching out and initiating contact, talking about our next meetings, showing a high level of interest, asking all about my life, etc... This is so refreshing. This reminds me of how it started 13 years ago with my Ex-fiance, she made it so easy. I guess when they are interested this is how it goes.

I (20M) dont understand how some guys can accept a girl who has had past relationships or who has had sex with a guy before. Like she has been seen nude by an other guy, she has kissed another guy, she has had feelings for another guy.

I also see like so many other problems. Like if ur in an argument with her who do u think she will think of? Her ex(es) obviously, especially if they parted on good terms. If she would cheat who do u think she would most likely cheat with? Her ex or one of her exes ofcourse.

Also im a virgin and ive never had a real relationship before so if i would have a gf who has had sex and past relationships before she would think of me as less than her. And she would also put me as less than her ex bcs he would be her first for everything. Which also means that yk she would have lowered her standards to be with me.

So I’ve been talking to this girl and we were texting a good bit when I was at college and hung out a couple times. When I went home for thanksgiving break she started texting responding much less. We did text abt hanging out after break and going to a nice dinner when I got back and she said she would love too and was excited for it. After this though she responded a lot less but she did text like 2 times through the day saying sorry abt how she was sick so she wasn’t on her phone much and had been sleeping all day because of it. I haven’t been spamming her but this morning I asked how she was feeling and she hasn’t responded. The main point of this post is to see if i should send this text “I know you sick but if I’m bothering you or annoying you can tell me I don’t wanna be wired and keep texting you or bothering you if u don’t want me too.” Should I wait a little longer before I send this text or should I send a different text or not send anything at all. I’ve been ghosted a few times but other people but this one I can’t tell bc she still responds with interest sometimes just much much less so I can’t tell if she does or doesn’t want to talk to me.

Generally curious

Hey everyone, I’m struggling with something in my relationship, and I could really use some advice. My girlfriend feels like I’m not putting enough effort into talking to her, and it’s really hurting her feelings. She says I don’t find things to talk about and that I don’t seem interested in her. I do care about her a lot, but I’m not great at small talk or starting conversations, so I don’t always know what to say.

She also mentions that my tone comes across as wrong sometimes, but I don’t understand what she means. I don’t hear the problem, but she says it sounds like I’m annoyed or uninterested when I don’t mean to be.

I’ve tried to show I care in other ways, but she really values quality conversations, and I feel like I’m letting her down. I don’t want her to feel unloved or ignored, but I’m not sure how to fix this.

Have any of you dealt with this before? How can I improve my communication with her? Any advice on recognizing tone issues or making conversations feel more meaningful?

Thanks in advance!

I (22F) have been dating D (23M) for about 3 months. We’ve had a conversation about splitting finances. I mentioned to him how I believe a man should be the primary provider because that is how I was raised. From previous romantic relationships, I am also used to the man paying for most things. D believes in 50/50 but lately I feel like it’s been 70/30 with me paying for most things. Am I overreacting and being extra for wanting my man to be the primary provider in our relationship?

I told my current gf that I cried when a girl from highschool (as a 17yr old) broke up w me . I know that you should never cry in front of a woman, but what about telling your girl that you have done it before? Am I finished or just being paranoid? We are in our early 20s and in a relationship for 4 months. I would really like mens perspective on this. TL;DR; : Did I mess up? Men, toughts on this?

Recently broke up a little over a month ago with this guy, we are 18 F and M. We agreed to be on good terms but have not had any contact since then, unfollowed each other, all the good stuff. I know I was his first love, and he's avoidant attached so the pipeline kind of makes sense.

Our breakup was not messy or disrespectful, just kind of confusing. He didn't want a relationship because he was in a time of stress, and I was stressed as well but willing to try and make it work. Unfortunately, it seems like he had his mind made up about me, and I was the easiest "stressor" to get rid of. There was no fight, no cheating, no lying. It was mature and respectful for the most part. We broke up because we both needed space and time to grow in our own skills and professions. There's no bad blood just no contact.

I don't think he's seeing anyone else right now and I'm 99% sure he was genuinely serious about working on himself. That seems to be the case from afar. I am doing the same, have been hitting the gym, podcasts, winter arc shit.

Our connection was extremely deep, genuine, and I truly think it was pure love. It hurts very bad to not have him anymore. Before we broke up he said he thinks we would be able to get back together in the future when life slows down a little. But I'm thinking that's just a ploy to be able to get me back whenever he wants. Could this be the case or could something like this work out? What are the chances of him actually reaching out?

My first language is not English so sorry for any grammar or just mistakes in general

I (18f) been on and off talking to this guy (18m) And ive been getting really mixed signals ive talked to my friends about this and i think he likes me but i might as well be going crazy these are all the things we have done or he has done thats giving me mixed signals, sorry if these pointers are a little childish ive only had 1 boyfriend my whole life so im a novice at dating and relationships

1. At 2 a.m., he listened to my heartbeat while holding me tighter, and I scratched his back.
2. When I would lay down near but not next to him, and he would sit up, take me, and pull me closer to him.
3. Every time I lay down after the going on my phone (i would lay down but not next to him), he’d shift so close that I ended up sleeping on the edge of the bed.
4. After he came back from the toilet he lied near me in silence, waiting for me to finish on my phone, and when I turned to him, he was smiling at me in the dark.
5. After a fight, we fell asleep back to back, but he woke up, covered me with a blanket, and hugged me.
6. He always had to touch me in some way while we lay together (his hand on mine, an arm on my shoulder, his head on my chest, or his leg over mine)
7. His entire attention was solely on me. What i mean by that is when the whole group was watching a movie or something he wasn't even watching it he was looking at me
8. He spent about an hour trying to take my ring off, and when I told him to stop and asked what was wrong with him, he asked who bought it for me and when I said I bought it myself, he stopped.
9. I was scrolling through my gallery, quickly skipped past a picture of my bicep, and he almost fought me to see it again, asking whose bicep it was, and when I said it was mine and showed him, he calmed down.
10. When we were lying together and just staring at each other in silence.
11. When he was sitting in the garage with me, smiling, watching me joke with my friends on my phone.
12. When I was scrolling through my gallery, and he saw a cute photo, stopped me from scrolling, and looked at that photo.
13. When he was constantly seeking reassurance from me. What i mean was he was asking me do i like this about him do i like that
14. When we were lying in bed talking, and he mentioned that I hung out with my guy friend, and I said it was only one time, and he said, "yeah right," in a jealous tone (even though I hung out with that guy 2 months ago), and he still brought it up?
15. When we were lying in bed just talking he asked if i liked anyone from my grade (liked like a person not in a romantic way) At first i said no and he said mhm and then i said i actually did like one but hes like a brother and he just turned from me?

I 19F have a guy 29M who I am seeing once every month for a year now and we sleep together every time.This weekend i was wearing lacy lingerie set, nothing over the top but red lacy bra and thongs, other times i am wearing basic thongs.While he was undressing me he told me something along the lines of can i keep this i didn't think he was serious and responded yeah sure.When i was getting dressed i asked him if he still wanted to keep them i said it mostly as a joke but he said yes little embarrassed but still.So i left them. We are not texting or anything except when we are in same club or bar and then we hook up.We are from the same home town but none of us live there and we are not in the same city so thats the reason we are not seeing each other or texting.But the panties thing left me really confused, like did he took them as a trophy among other conquest or is this some kink i am not familiar with.Would appreciate any thoughts.

Why is my boyfriend worrying all the time and getting annoyed and finding problems where there even isnt any problems. Like i know we love eachother and care deeply and trust eachother but he still manages to create problems and then just get annoyed and overwhelmed by them. I try to understand him, help and reasure him but at times nothing is even helping. Honestly i dont even know how to help or how to stop it from happening. Any tips why it could happen, or what i could do or just anything?

I (49/F) met a guy (30M) IRL and became friends. We had flirty little chats on IG, sent racy pictures and even videos from him. He wanted to hook up and I eventually agreed after about a year.

We hooked up about 2 months ago and now we don't chat anymore. I am not interested in anything more than friends. Also not interested in hooking up again. I've sent him a couple messages and gotten nothing or he tells me he's sick and that's why he can't chat.

Was it me? Did he only want to hook up and once that happened he doesn't want to be friends anymore? Or is this something a younger man would do? I didn't plan on losing a friend, especially like this.

I (20) had an adoptive cousin who lived next door to us since he (19) was 10 years old. He was really shy, and so am i, so we never really talked a lot. Our interactions for the first few years were limited to:

1. Me telling him to pass messages from my dad on to my uncle.
2. Him asking me if he could use my family's computer, me saying yes, and us not talking for the duration of it.
3. Seeing him during family gatherings, mostly eating, a few times going to the waterpark or beach.

We got closer back in 2021, chatted a few times both in person and online. It was nice to get to know who he was under that quiet exterior. We were comfortable friends but not close, i suppose i could say. Our conversations extended only to our hobbies.

We were that way for maybe 6 months, until he confessed to liking me through chat. Asked if he could court me. I declined very very respectfully, and said i would never feel that way about him (on account of me being a lesbian, but not out, so i did not say i liked girls).

I stopped talking to him much, plus we had moved away a month before and i had not known how to deal with a situation like this. I did say i hoped we could be friends, but he stopped talking to me too.

The past two years we've only sent each other birthday greetings.

He passed away recently.

I found out that he first liked me when we were children. Before they moved next to our house, they visited at some point, and i let him borrow my psp and we played games on it. I no longer remember this memory, unfortunately.

Also found out that he started falling in love with me in 2017, ever since he started using my family's computer. He stated that puberty mightve helped push it along as well.

I also just found out from his closest friend that he still liked me a lot apparently. I was his motivation for bettering himself. He went to the gym, worked. They had dreams of getting rich. Plans, actually. To cut it short, they were gonna get rich and be successful in 2029, and after that, he planned on asking me out again. For around 5 years that they've been friends, his friend couldnt introduce other girls to him because he would only talk about me, always.

From what i could see when he was still here, he was a loner, quiet, with few friends. That's what me and my relatives saw. His friend vouched for that, but he added that he was smart, very hardworking, and but not actually shy.

So yeah, what i wanted to ask. Was this love? Was i an anchor? Motivation? Something else? How could he have loved me this much without knowing who i was?

I don't really know why i want to know. If anyone has similar stories in the same situation, do share. Thank you.