My ex bf and i broke up 2 weeks ago however that, broke up was kind of a cliff hanger. like we broke up because we fought and then he just suddenly said sorry we fought but thank you for everything. And then he started reposting sad tiktoks about relationships. I messaged hin after a few days saying that im willing to talk everything through if we both feel okay only if hes willing to. but if he doesn’t wanna reconcile anymore then he can get all his money from my bank account (he likes to put his money on my account so that he wont spend it lol). Anyways, he just left me on read for three days until present. What does this mean?

Has any men on here literally never had anyone find them attractive in a romantic sense? Like not even enough to go on a date with them?

I’m (30M) not ashamed to admit that no woman has ever viewed me that way and have accepted the chance that it’ll never happen either. I’ve learned to cope with it all but by taking it day by day. But there are times where the feelings/emotions of it all hurt. I was wondering how others cope with the feelings and all.

Started chatting with some guy off bumble like 6 weeks ago, and maybe it was just me but the conversations felt different than everyone else I have talked to, we were into all the same things, lived pretty close to each other, we were both about a year after our long term breakups, and just all in all I felt we had such a good connection. After about a week and a half of talking he kinda mentioned he felt I was looking for something serious and he could not do anything serious right now. I didn't question him, I thanked him for being honest and that was the last time we ever talked. While I do know I want something serious, it's not like I just want to dive into a relationship I just want to know if I am hu with someone that there is the possibility of it leading to more rather than just becoming a situationship. Like I really don't know what I want, all I know is I want to be 100% happy before I commit myself to another relationship, and granted, him and I both had some shitty ex's so I feel like maybe this is why he is not looking for another one (at least so it seemed he did not talk about her much, but I stalked her quite a bit and she did seem to be a bitt cray cray). Any ways its been a few weeks, we obvi have not talked since, and I really thought I'd get over it quick but idk why I can't stop thinking about him. Every date I have been on since I am literally wishing it had been him, and while I am probably being crazy right now I feel like if I am feeling this way for this long I should just reach out. All I want to ask him is if he really is not willing to see where this would go but I feel like I am just setting myself up for failure, and I really don't want to be the one chasing him. Anyways any advice, or something to help me get over this would be greatly appreciated

I was reading a book and came across a part where they were describing sex with someone they love, and it included this quote:

It’s like, you know that mad, desperate feeling to get there? Well, it kind of switches up into a mad urge to get her there. It’s like everything you used to care about switches into something deeper. Like your needs go on the back burner because your focus has switched to her. It expands beyond the mental and emotional to the physical, and then, because she’s good, it’s better than it’s ever been before.’

It got me thinking—is this really how it feels for people who’ve experienced both casual sex and making love in a deep relationship?

We’re both 18, dating since April and started talking November ish. It's not out of fear of me cheating. I mentioned going to a party with my friends to my bf and it turned so bad. He said I wasn't respecting him since those parties aren't safe and shouldn't be somewhere I want to go as someone who has a bf. I got so hurt and sad by this, because the only reason I want to go is to have a night out with my girl friends and just make a yolo college memory yk? He mentioned that he turns down parties out of respect for me. When he said that I did rethink everything. Because I didn't know he was turning down parties, but im honestly a little happy he turns parties down without me having to ask him. So I don't want to disrespect my of, but on the other hand ljust want to do something fun for Halloween with my friends. What do i do?

I'll try and be brief with the backstory. I've been with my gf for going on 3 years. She has a ton of trauma from childhood neglect and SA, and abusive relationships. She has a very toxic family and no close friends.

She was never very affectionate and for years never touched me unless she was drunk. She would push away my touch and pull away from my kisses, hugs etc for about 2 yrs

I had many conversations where I would ask her be more affectionate and she always told me I needed to be patient, let her work on it, and stop bringing it up. She refused to go to therapy until 2024 and wouldn't hug me even when I would break down

Progress was very slow for 2 years and I became more and more resentful and withdrawn. She started being more receptive to touch and sex but still not initiating on her own (rarely)

Other issue: she used to binge drink heavily, embarassing me by doing things like making out with random girls, falling down in public, semi-flirting with guys over text, having to basically parent her, always having diarrhea, puking etc. Making snide comments about me/my friends and also not being able to socialize sober

She cut way down on drinking and became better at recieving affection but the combination of the two experiences made me very unattracted to her over time. She finally started therapy but they are moving extremely slowly

I don't want sex with her anymore but she brings it up if it's been a while. When we have it it's depressing because I still have to initiate and she just lays there motionless

In August I tried to break up on a bad day when she was drunk and we were fighting. She scratched me, drew blood on my hand and was screaming in my face. She pushed me down to the bed and said she would kill herself if I left

I was really shaken and scared so I stayed and comforted her. Ever since she has been really sweet. She apologized and is always cooking meals for me, wanting to be around me 24/7, and trying to be more affectionate

I still feel trapped and depressed and know I need to leave, but I don't think I can do it in person. She has a comeback for everything I say about my needs and makes me feel like I can't leave. I'm also scared she may have a meltdown again

I tried to break up over text but she made me feel guilty for doing it that way. So she came over to talk and I just forgot about it

Is text a dick move in this situation?

TL;DR

Gf and I are incompatible. She has a lot of trauma and barely touches me. I don't like her drinking or her lack of socialization.

I tried to break up with her in August and she screamed at me, scratched me & threatened to kill herself. Later I tried over text but she guilted me into an in person convo then I caved & stayed

Am I a dick to break it off over text / block?

I've been su*cidal most of my adult life because I'm a KHVM (Kissless handless (never held a girls hand) v&rgin male). I've been an incel most of my life too. Not the woman hating the kind, the "I'm so ulgy and fat i'll never find someone" kind. I've swapped back and forth between being unable to live without a gf and "I could be much happier with one"

One thing that's a problem is I'm a big guy. 6 foot 4 280 pounds. I've been trying to lose weight but its been very hard. It lead to some bullying in high school and a horrible dating experience when i did try. One time a girl started crying and said "you think I'm so ugly you thought you had a chance?" Another time a girl asked me out and took me to her house, where her friends were waiting, recording me and calling me a fat ugly loser. It led to a death by 1000 cuts kinda scenario, where I eventually gave up on dating and threw myself into school work and video games. I got my associates at 16, but it killed me socially in a way I haven't caught up to.

College has been a bit better. I have friends, am on a sports team, and have ok grades. But the loneliness and desire for intimacy followed me. I tried casual dating, but that went absolutely no where. I've never been called "Ugly" and "a solid 4/10" more in my entire life than there. I tried dating, but my complete lack of social skills due to years of being shut in led to me creeping some girls out on accident. I'm much better now but I still struggle with being extremely quiet sometimes. I tried to get back into normal dating but that also sucked. I've been in therapy and have been on meds for a few years now, but that hasn't done anything really to drown out these feelings. It got to the point for awhile that I was extremely su&cidal, even attempting because of my loneliness. I've tried dating apps, clubs, bars, frat parties, friends of friends, everything, and yet nothing works.

Ive asked my friends, both men and women, for advice. They all gave me the whole "You'll find someone eventually" and "love comes when you least expect it" and refused to engage further when I asked for more specific advice. One girl did tell me I should get a better haircut and maybe shave my beard, and also that weight loss and lifting weights could do wonders for my confidence. But I've been doing the latter for years to lose weight (down 100 pounds) and the former is hard because I don't have time with school. I don't know

I've been trying to get better. I know that I can be happy in life without a relationship and sex, but i don't know where to go from here. And I'm just tired of being lonely. I'm still 6 4 280, so I do have to work on that and I am gonna be more proactive on it now. I know I'm in it for the long haul and its gonna be awhile before I can have the love and intimacy i talked about desiring. Ik its gonna be rough. I still feel alone. I still feel inadequate for being a virgin at 19. I still feel even slightly su%cidal. I don't know what to do anymore. I want to get better, but I can't look to the future when there's a giant wall in front of me. I don't know what to do anymore. Nothing works, nothing helps.

So for some context, I [18F] met him [21M] back in 2022 but I knew his mother and his brother from before. our ages when we met were 16 and he was 19. The previous 3+ years I was struggling with addictions. I first met him on a Catholic retreat, and on the first night, I was acting very entitled. Basically, I was being an ass my mother is the youth minister, and I thought because of that I could get my way throughout the entire retreat. But when we start first activity, and I was acting like a little shit, he was the first one to put me in my place. Previously, I had been considering becoming sober, but if it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t have actually gone through with it. My journey to sobriety was basically a domino effect, and he was the one who pushed the first domino. Now, three years later, I am a very devout Catholic, and almost all of my views and rules align with the Catholic Church and two years sober (Yay!!). Now, because of that I grew a bit of an emotional attachment that first started with hatred then turned into me liking him. Coupled with the fact that he is my ideal type even before I knew him, I would describe guys like him/be attracted to guys like him. So when I met this guy that is Extremely attractive, who also shares some of the same values as me and is Catholic (who treats his mother very well) as you can imagine, my emotions turned from looking at him as a brother to somebody I really want to date. Now, when I say, I’m a devout, Catholic, I mean I volunteer with the youth ministry programs and go to church almost twice a week. My views also align with the Catholic faith, including no sex before marriage. Now, where are you saying no sex before marriage I mean the physical act of sex I would be open to doing other things permitting that I really like the person. However, for him that rule would go out the window I wouldn’t give up my V card before marriage for anybody but him. Partially because I’m so attracted to him and partially because he is the only man that I would feel comfortable doing it with. I was forced to mature at a very young age I was adopted and my biological parents were drug addicts in from a very young age I had always known this and known that one day they might come and try to take me back. I also had to deal with a lot of adult things very young in life, so I am very very mature for my age. The only thing I’ve struggled with on my side is the fact that the likelihood of him ever wanting me back is extremely low. I met him at a very young age and he also knows my mother and sister [20F] so I know he just sees me as a kid even though I’ve gone through many things adults, don’t go through in America. With him, knowing my mother, the youth minister, the age gap him knowing my older sister, and he kind of has the reputation of being a man whore. Things are not in my favor. This summer he’s moving back to town from college. The year after that, I would be going off to my college to finish out my degree, but my future job is one that wouldn’t let me be home at all. Biggest fears are A him telling my youth minister mother, how I feel about him (Sexually) B him rejecting me(which is the most likely case scenario) or C me not making a move and that being my greatest regret/what if? I know it might seem dramatic the last one, but with my career and what I wanna do for the future it is set in stone and it would require me living three months away from home and three months back at home. So it is kind of a big deal. Now while I do want a relationship, I would be OK with a friends with benefits or one night stand type thing. I just don’t know I shouldn’t make a move at all or if I should tell him how I feel (obviously not all of it) how I wanna have sex with him if not a relationship (that he’s the ONLY guy I’d be willing to do it with) and run the risk of him getting scared off. To put it simply I would say hey I want to have sex before I go to college and you’re the only person I want to do it with before marriage

So I got lead on heavily for two months with this girl I see EVERYDAY at her work. (Rehab for an injury) we’ve kissed multiple times and hung out a couple but she recently said she only ever wanted to be friends and is talking to someone right now. I’ve asked her out before and gotten a no. The problem is I kinda have feelings still because I see her everyday and she still throws (what I believe is mixed signals). How do I got about seeing her everyday when I know I have to talk to her? Should I just be really short and try not to converse if not completely necessary?

MY FRIEND NEEDS HELP

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So I worked with this guy and we had quite a lot of chemistry. We talked a lot at work and he always looked at me funny and we chatted about music and we had really similar interests which made us get along really well.

There were many times where I thought he was gonna say something to me like when he liked and still continuously likes my stories and used to reply to them a lot too when he was actually seeing other girls. So l've tried to get over over him and I unfollowed him on ig to stop viewing his stories. He's got a gf rn and they seem to be serious as he's told this to one of my friends. Today, I went to check his profile just on the off chance and there is a purple heart in his bio on its own with no context. Now. This sounds insane. But, my fav colour is purple and he knows this as I always wore purple to work and he would compliment my outfits, AND underneath all of my posts on the caption I ALWAYS put a purple heart at the end of all my posts. And the same purple heart is in his bio.

This sounds insane I know but please someone tell me if means something.

Been married for 22 plus years, wife us a beautiful woman, love her all my heart, we lost out 22 year old adult child few years ago an we have a 20 year old at home, problem is she wanted this dog an forced it onto all of us in the house, it's totally untrainable, it chases cats an destroys everything. We put about $20000 into redoing our house an she's trashed the outside an inside an now pees on the rugs on our hard wood floor.Dog is just over a year an we had it since it's a pup. It has bones, toys, everything, spoiled rotten, walked an loved but destroys everything. I came home an found out she trashed the rug an peed in the room again. We have 1/2 a acre fully fenced an a dog door. I said that's it we did not redo all our house for this dog to destroy it. Wife replied I love her if she goes I go an that I'm an asshole because of how I treat her ( I actually disapline the dog an try too train it. Wife just ignores it) I told Wife our relationship is more important but this dog she says is her dog is staying or she's going an refuses to get rid of it , if dog goes she goes.im worth more then a dog, I think our relationship is more then a dog. What should I do?

I’ve been on 2 dates with this girl. We are both 22. All dates were amazing and the last one ended with great kiss. I felt she was really into me. I texted her 4 days after and she replied immediately to my texts and had a great conversation going. After that I suggested a movie night at my place. She agreed, but later mentioned wanting to know more about my intentions — if I’m looking for something casual or serious.

I sent her message explaining that I’m interested in building a genuine connection, not just something casual. She replied that coming to a guy’s place at night is a big step for her. I told her I understood and suggested meeting somewhere she’d feel more comfortable. But since then, she hasn’t replied. It’s been 1 day

I’m not sure if I misinterpreted her message or if I came on too strong. Any thoughts on why she might not have responded? Thanks!

If this doesn't belong here, I'm sorry! Just not sure where to post this.

I 24F have been dating my 26M boyfriend for about 4 years now. Before him I've only dated one other guy (he was never like this, he barely liked to touch me outside of sex), and two women (I'm demisexual). Throughout the majority of our relationship, anytime I touch my partner, be it a kiss on the forehead, me holding his hand, a hug, hell... sometimes even just smiling at him he gets an erection. This doesn't bother me, it just confuses me. Is it normal for a man to love his partner so much that even non sexual acts get him aroused? I am not the prettiest of women, which adds to my confusion...

Within the past year I've gotten the courage to ask him about it and he's always just said "I like... love love you." I just don't know much about the male body, or maybe about the hetero body?? Just trying to see if this is a normal occurrence among men in love.

Thank you in advance 😭

In 16 years as married life, my husband’s libido hasn’t waned; he frequently seeks intimacy with me. He gets a boner everytime i get near him. Could this indicate that he’s still very much interested in me and still loves me deeply?

I sense his love through his actions (not just sex) rather than through expressive words.

As a woman, I really appreciate hearing sweet words, but my husband isn’t naturally inclined toward that.

hello, so i knew this guy when i was a sixth grader (now 20 y/o) and he was a ninth grader (now 23 y/o), at then we stopped texting and parted ways. before two months or so, he followed my visco account, and before 3 weeks he requested to follow me on instagram. i didn’t accept the follow request or removed it. before 4 days he texted me and asked about how my life’s going and told me about him and how his studies in germany is (he’s a biomedical engineering freshman) i asked him why did he thought of me after all these years, and he told me it has been a while that you’re on my mind and he finds it strange

every day since then he texts first but the thing is that these two days he would start a conversation and would answer after an hour or so or leave me on seen and then answer ? if he’s that busy, he probably can text me when he’s free or just tell me that we can text later.

can some guys tell me why would he do this ?

• we are both jordanians / muslims
• until now i didn’t accept his follow request neither did i text first

Is it possible for someone to be truly devoted to their wife and still slip into infidelity without meaning to

(35f) moved into separate apartment than husband (32m) how do we get along?

Hi- I posted the other day & got ripped to shreds but it really helped me understand my husband’s point of view bc he doesn’t share with me.

Anyways, I’m coming to terms with the fact that I essentially initiated a separation & being away from him feels very freeing.

How do we get along & coparent?

Imagine: you are giving the silent treatment or just being mean to me while insisting I “be patient with you while you figure it out”. It’s been 10 days since I’ve moved out officially & we have only spent one night actually apart. Today would be the second day.

I’m just having a hard time bc he seems to just come around & make everything uncomfortable- he texted me earlier saying he’s trying to figure out how to not live in his car or with his parents. Idk why he would even say that we literally DO NOT have financial problems.

I am also struggling- I went so far as to secretly get another place before talking to him about it in case it went left.

• most ppl on my last post said majority of women get an apartment & say they want to separate so they can sleep with other ppl & that def makes sense & could be true for some people but it just isn’t for me.

*I will say though he keeps being so mean to me & also assuming that’s what this is about that it’s really like planting the idea in my head- def don’t want to involve anyone else in this mess. Just want to enjoy my clean safe apartment with my babies.

My question is- have you separated from your wife/ spouse with children & if so how did you coparent?

I (F,22) and a guy I met that goes to another college (M, 22) had the most intimate sex last night. We both made it clear before hand that it was a hookup as I live in another town and was visiting a friend for the weekend. We had met early on during the day and ended up chatting non stop for several hours. We went to a party and ended up hooking up. This sex lasted several hours (it ended up being like three hours long) of stopping and starting again.

I had the most intense orgasms of my life and had several back to back, and several that lasted long periods of time. He was pretty much entirely focused on me. I focused on him for a while with some very dedicated head, (he had never really had before I guess) which he said is a very vulnerable thing. I ended up being unable to ride him because I just kept coming and it made my legs literally stop working. He was more than understanding and reassured me that he was more very fulfilled because I was taken care of. The aftercare was wonderful, full of intimate making out and cuddling. We had some very vulnerable conversations, asked a lot of deep questions about each other, did a bit of trauma dumping. I have never had such amazing sex or amazing aftercare. I’ve had great sex and great aftercare, but nothing to this extent. It felt incredibly intimate and the chemistry with this person was amazing. I’ve never been able to just pick a person from a crowd, tell myself I want to get to know them, have amazing conversation, and seal the deal. All of my relationships have just kinda fallen into place. I’ve had intimate sex, done hookups, done fwb. They were all great partners and prioritized my pleasure. But nothing felt like this one though.

A small part of me is sad because I know that we would never work. He lives four hours away and both of us discussed the fact that we are emotionally not ready for a relationship and are getting over our exes. I’ve hooked up with other people since that ex and he has too. However, his hookup count is low (like mine) and this doesn’t seem to be a normal occurrence for him.

I’ve never had that level of chemistry. Never had that level of intimacy. I feel like a standard was truly set for me with how sex should be, what true spark attraction and chemistry should feel like I am returning to his town in a few weeks for another event, and have considered reaching out again so we can share another evening. Can anyone talk to me about their experiences with intimate hookups like that? I just need to talk to people about the situation.

So as you can tell from the title I have a serious question. For a little bit more backstory let me just explain. I have been with the guy 19M for a year. We live together. Prior to him Ive had boyfriends but nothing this serious.

So onto my issue (well few issues). I have hardly any experience with sex so I don’t really know how the male system works but here it goes.

My (19F) boyfriend (20M) and I like sex. I might like it more then him but thats not why I am here. My boyfriend tells me that he can’t cum sometimes. At first it was stress and nervousness but then as time went on I started to wonder if it was something else. See why I think that is a few reasons:

I am an over thinker. Sometimes I think maybe I’m doing something wrong, etc etc.

we used to sext and he would tell me that i made him cum 4 times in one day. Like I said, I liked sex and anything to do with it when it comes to him so yeah many conversations were dirty.

And i think maybe I just don’t do it. I can’t exactly tell if I am because i dont know how to tell if hes at his full size so I know I’m doing something right or if I need to stop lacking.

I also tried asking him if he’s okay or if i did something wrong but he tells me I’m fine and he doesn’t know why.

Edit: I hope I am in the right place.

i [24F] has a crush on an older man at work. however, i tried to give him 2 subtle compliments on 2 different days but he didn’t take it well(?) the first time he just replied with “no no no” & the second time he chuckled in embarrassment and left. now i’m confused is that him shutting me down or is he not used to receiving compliments? idk what type of feeling i gave him & i know you guys can’t guess but do you think we’re good? or am i bothering him? do you guys hate it?

Pretty straight forward. But if you'd like, some detail:

I have this guy(31) friend whom I've know almost 2 decades now. Now, nothing about us is regular, or often. (At all)

But, there's been a few instances over the years, where I've questioned his interest.

& I would like to try to figure out where he stands so I know how to move forward. 📍The issue is: WITHOUT directly asking.. (yet)

I don't want to come out right and ask because, if he is just being himself. I don't want to make it seem as if I'm interested & then make things awkward... But, if I can kind of fish around &/or catch certain things that let's me know that he is interested in more than just a friendship...

Then I know how to move forward, whether it be just enjoying & remaining on our current path. Or talking to him & having to make some changes.

& he is a rarity.. He is very mindful, respectful, & minds all boundaries (even if I don't care) (& around everyone) & gives me a place to "run" to, if need be. Even if it inconveniences him. But he also isn't one to chase, or ask.. (& I assume, he's also afraid of rejection) so there's a fine line here..

I ask, because he is very hard for me to read. & idk if it's because we've known eachother for so long, or if he's just really good at hiding things.

📍SIDE NOTE: I've also recently come out of a 10 year marriage. & before that he was my (now x) best friends boyfriend/X. So there was never any chance to even explore the idea, of there possibly being anything more.

So exactly as stated above. I'm going to try to keep this short but with best detail as possible ( will answer anything to clarify) I (f)am in a 10 year relationship with my(m) I give absolutely everything I possibly can.I have asked and explained and tried so many different ways to clearly make him see I am getting less than the bare minimum. (Please don't tell me to leave, I'm giving one last chance for him to clue in and have my plans if it's not happening) Everything works for MAYBE one to 3 days then it's back to complacency. Most recently my therapist suggested a list we each create to give eachother that coincides with each of the 5 love languages and how we each specifically would FEEL loved by each thing. We were directed to give the list to our eachother and they were to ACT on those. 1each day He told me he found it difficult to create his list because he knows and sees I go above and beyond each and every day, but he made one and it's being reinforced consistently. As for me, he used my list as a coffee coaster and has not even attempted to take action on any of them, let alone do anything else minus one kiss during the day. I am absolutely lost and angry to no end. I want to bring the list up as it is 100% clear and no chance to misinterpret. I really need advice from mature men that maybe had a light bulb moment and realized they needed to be active in love. Again, sorry it's not overly detailed, but I don't want to sully the possibly of getting some input or insights. Thank you very much for your time!!

im struggling to overcome these feelings and i dont have anyone to talk to. please feel free to comment any advice for me :((

If your wife dresses up in lingerie as per your request? If your wife tries a new position you wanted? If your wife wants sex a few times a week? If your wife texts you a hot steamy text with what she wants when you get home ;) If your wife initiates? If your wife asks you to just cuddle her or massage her on a rare day she just needs human love? If your wife plays with herself more than you do? If your wife is the only or main giver in an encounter?

Fellas I appreciate any answers as I’m at a loss and my marriage is crashing. I have always been one of the guys so to speak so it’s not like I don’t have plenty of knowledge but unfortunately I married the man that everything I thought I knew, I don’t. Not that all men are the same like all women aren’t but as long as I’m fighting with a man on this I need backup from men on what hill I choose to die on. I’m pretty confident in my feelings but don’t want to throw out 20 years if a majority shows his reactions/responses are the norm.

Personally, as someone with moderate to severe body image issues, it makes me feel somewhat uncomfortable to hear my wife compliment my looks, saying I’m handsome, that she likes my body, etc. I got a lot of shit when I was younger for being ugly and out of shape so hearing compliments almost triggers my fight or flight response and My wife knows this, it’s not like a secret to her or anything, and I’m actively working on it.

Anyway, I’m curious to hear how specifically other guys take it when a spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, etc, compliments you on how you look. Hopefully not as bad as I do.

Hey everyone, need a little bit of advice here. My ex boyfriend (M27) and I (F28) were together for about 7 months total. The first time we dated, he wasn’t over his ex until we broke up. The second time we tried dating for about 2 months and didn’t work through anything. Fast forward a month after the break up and he’s calling me to “catch up” and tell me he’s seeing someone. Earlier this month he wanted to meet up to discuss a friends with benefits situation because she wasn’t meeting part of his sexual needs. He prefaced it by saying that he was liking going to ask her to be his girlfriend in a few weeks (F24). We did fool around but I told him I felt awful and was only open to a friendship and he needed to tell this girl that we were involved sexually. He said he was single technically.

He was out of the state for about 2 weeks and during that time told me he was leaning toward ending things with her because he wanted to explore this. He sent me nudes, sexted me, and called me daily. He got back Friday and saw her Saturday. I told him not to end things with her if he thought she was a good match for him and to try to work things out if so. He said it wasn’t about me but that how he was feeling about me made it unfair to keep seeing her. They’ve been dating for 3 months and he hasn’t asked her to be his girlfriend.

While away he said things like making out with her was a turn off, she didn’t turn him on like I do, and he was excited to see me and not her. Well Saturday he told me he’s going to continue to see her. I reminded him that I will not sleep with him or do anything other than friendship while he’s dating her. He said he understood and was disappointed since he had been looking forward to fooling around with me. I told him I felt that he lied to me. His response was that he was sorry I felt lied to and he hoped we could talk about it.

I’m looking for some insight into why he’s treating his new relationship like this and why he’d treat me like this. I’ve since blocked him on everything as a gut reaction. What’s with the back and forth? Does he still having feels for me? Will he come back? Is he just toxic and I need to move on? I feel a lot of guilt and confusion.

Thanks!

Little update: he asked her to be his girlfriend, has not told her what happened with us hooking up earlier this month and him sexting me a week before they became official. He wants us to be friends or “as close as we can be that we’re comfortable with.” Then told me how he does all this stuff for her that he never did with me. Like he treated me like SHIT.

So recently I was talking to this guy and he wanted to be fwb which was cool with me cause I’m moving in a couple weeks anyways. The more we talked he asked if I would be open to pursuing a relationship even said he would do long distance and I said sure but only after we hangout first. After that we talked even more and then last night in the middle of texting/snapping he deleted all his pictures and blocked me. Like I’m literally mid typing of text and got blocked before I hit send. Is there a reason for this or just him being a dick? It just threw me off because HE is the one who wanted to make it more than friends. I guess what I’m asking is why would he not just say “hey it’s actually not working out”? Why block me when I was completely understanding of doing whatever? And why block me in the middle of a conversation?

I’m am 35 F and am sick of online dating. Where do men go when they are single to meet woman other than bars. What types of hobbies are you guys doing that I could join? How have some of you met your wives/girlfriends?

I know you can probably meet anyone anywhere but I am shy and have never approached a guy ever to ask them out. I think it would be easier to join something and hope seeing them there once a week would form a relationship rather then me awkwardly striking up a conversation in a store or something. Let not even get into the fear of rejection I have to get over if I’m going to start doing this lol

Would love a male perspective on this...

I recently met a guy(we will call him John) through tinder. After texting for a while I told John I wanted to be clear in what I was looking for. I wanted something longrelatilike a relationship. I was NOT interested in hookups or friends with benefits. john replied in text that Ideally he would like long term too.

After texting some more he asked me to dinner and a movie. Dinner went great we talked about life. We went to the movie after. I admit that a kiss goodnight become a hot Makeout session that led to sex. I'm not complaining! After John kinda grew distant so I let it go. We didn't see eachother for like 2 weeks and barely texted if that. Now a month later he texted wanting to hangout.

Part of me wants to text him "if you want to hookup i don't have time. It was fun but I'm interested in something more". My friend jolin (who is kinda toxic) said to text him asking what he was thinking of doing. Then if his reply is geared toward hooking up to say "I've got a hot date but I'll see you after". My other friend Sandra said to just play it cool be flirty and see where it goes. She met her husband thru tinder and they were kinda hooking up without a title but when he found out she was dating other guys he put a label on it.

I don't have a ton of dating experience so I'm looking for advice on what I should do. He was a really nice guy and I don't want to scare him off by seeming rude. I also don't want to play games.

Hello, I’m a person who individually gets hellos and attention from men. When I’m with 2 or more girls they completely ignore me. Now the obvious reply may be to assume the other girls are better looking but girls who have said they don’t even usually get approached have been like “wow that never happens to me” when guys come up to them when we are together. It is so strange and I don’t have low self esteem in just genuinely confused and not sure what to do about it.