Pretty much what the title says, my girlfriend bases her self worth on grades and I am trying to figure out how to help her. It has gotten to the point where she gets a B, or even feels like she did bad on an exam without getting the actual results, and has a complete meltdown. She doesn't say it, but she has a single immigrant mom who is pushy with her and I think that is putting a ton of pressure on her. She is super smart, but I am worried she wont be able to get through college because it is just her first semester and this is not sustainable. I try to tell her things like, "You already have a good GPA (4.0 through AP and dual enrollment) and it wont be affected much by a B or even a few B's". She wants to go to grad school and I've tried explaining to her that she doesn't need a super high GPA to get in and that other experience is more important, which she is already getting through her research job. I also know that a lot of what she wants to get out of life (travel, friends, fun, etc.) doesn't require super high grades, it's not like they check your transcript before getting on a plane. I've tried conveying all of this to her and she gets super upset and defensive.

I tell her that she should care, work hard, and try, but that she shouldn't take it too far and sacrifice her mental health and self-esteem. She wants to hear none of it. I don't know if I am just going about this the wrong way or if she is just never going to get over this. I want her to succeed just as bad as anyone else does, but I just want her to be happy doing it.

I did badly in high school, graduated with a 2.7 gpa and I pledged myself to do well in college. My first two semesters I did great, I passed the first one with A’s and Bs and the second passed with all A’s To even my own surprise.

This current semester however has been awful. I fucked up on two midterms for major related classes and currently have a 73 and a 74 in those classes. Now I know it’s not failing, but I still feel immense disappointment in myself. I wanted to be better but still fell behind so badly.

I think part of me doing so terribly has to do with me getting a job over the summer, it was my first job ever and it was retail and I worked 30 hours a week which was more than I wanted to since I wanted to try to put more focus in my schooling. I always worked 5 days and my only days off were the days I had class which were two days of the week. The blame is still my own though, as I know it was possible for me do try harder while still working as much as i did but I always felt so lazy or unmotivated and now I’m suffering the consequences for it

Is there a "line" where you're too old to be living on campus?

I'm gonna be turning 22 next year, and I'm probably graduate at 24/25. I prefer living on-campus, and I know I'll probably get placed with upperclassmen, but is there a certain point where it's more... socially acceptable to get an apartment instead? I remember once I lived with three 18 year olds as a 20 year old and even that felt a little out of place and bizarre (and resulted in some issues later on).

I go to Community College and I had this squabble with a friend of mine that goes to a 4-year University. For context, I like to study at UW (University of Washington) because there’s a lot of space/study spots and it’s much quieter than what my CC offers. Our library only has one floor, and a limited amount of books. I know that public libraries exist, but I’ve had some unpleasant experiences at the public libraries in Seattle.

I thought that it was perfectly okay to study at the Suzzallo library at UW because it was a public space, meaning that even tourists and parents have access to the area. My friend on the other hand had an opposite view. She thought it was unfair that I get to use their library despite me not being a student and paying the necessary tuition to be there. Her argument was that it’s not right for me to take someone else’s study spot and time at the library because I “did not work enough” to get in the first place.

I’ll save you guys the trouble: I was an honor student in High School, 4.0 UW & 4.3 W, 7 clubs, and I worked a part-time job. I’m in CC because it was cheaper and I don’t want to take out a loan at 18-years old. We took the same AP classes, took the same general classes, came from the same school, had the same teachers, etc.

Was I being unreasonable? I don’t want to diminish anyone’s hard work at all, I respect everyone’s efforts and grit for continuing higher education. It would be nice to see what you guys think.

the book is “principles of microeconomics” by robert frank. i’m struggling with it and was wondering if there’s someone that explained it on yt cuz i looked and couldn’t find any.

(sorry for shit pic quality i couldn’t find a better one)

(I didn't know what to put for a tag, I am from the US so I guess this works).

Hi, I'm a highschool senior hoping to major in graphic design when I hopefully get to college, but because it's an art major there's artsy classes I need to take alongside my major. I have no issue with this, I love art! But one thing that worries me is how assignments in those artsy classes will be graded. See, here in highschool my art is graded fine so long as I do everything the assignment tells me too and NOT based on how "good" it looks, which is great because honestly I'm really not the best in certain areas. But I was wondering, is it the same for college classes in arts? Or are you graded also in how good the assignment looks, because if that's the case I worry I'm gonna fail my classes.

Anyways thank you for reading! Just curious and I hope this question doesn't break any rules :)

My friend is a grader for a class, is sending applications to schools, and is maintaining their 4.0. In order to do this, they stay up for 2-3 days and then goes to sleep on the 3rd day on some weeks. They told me their classmates are doing the same.

Is this happening in your school? I feel like my friend is going to get some health problem from it, but they feel like they need to do this to maintain the workload. They let their counselor know and there was no real help in this situation.

I'm going back to college fall semester next year. My issue is that I feel completely out of practice - like I haven't done a math problem or done a homework assignment since I dropped out at the beginning of the pandemic. How can I prepare my brain to get back into the rhythm of full time school? Can anyone else relate to being an old college student? Any advice is appreciated!

My younger (by three years) sibling went away for college, and it’s hard because I don’t know how to maintain our relationship. I commute to my university, so I never really had the college dorm experience at all. I miss talking to them; I miss listening to them about their day. They’re always willing to talk to our parents about their day, but then, I get left out of the conversation—I have to hear about their day from our parents. They never want to repeat their day to me when we video call, and when I ask them, it’s like talking to a wall. They know how uneventful my day is in comparison—commute, classes, and research & clubs. I have few friends because of my commute & busy work hours.

When I text them, they leave me on read or answer with short-word answers, but when they text me—and it’s always about advice, I respond quickly with full effort.

How do I cope with this? I’m afraid of losing my relationship with my sibling, and it seems like I miss them more than they’ll ever miss me. I can’t mention anything negative—like my tumultuous relationship with my parents—because they’ll shut down on me and not listen, but I’ll sit through everything they talk about—like bad roommates and professors and everything in between. Should I just accept the inevitable?

so there's a professor whose class i need to take. he had two hybrid schedules: in-person tues thurs 50min class in-person mon tues wed 2hr 10min class the first one is all full now. i'm bummed but... if i take the second one, will it mean that there's less homework/asynch work??

Ok. I didn't know what I was doing. I went to 2 different 4-year schools 20 years ago and had polarizing A's or F's(lot of F's), never got close to graduating and was afraid to submit the transcripts to my Community College. I was afraid to ask questions and was under the assumption my GPA was going to follow me. I am 6 credits away from graduating with an AA I just really wanted for myself, but after this degree I want to go a different path for a career change and all of the classes I got A's in are in this new major. Would the school get all miffed and possibly expel me if they knew I withheld my transcripts?

I'm a undergrad senior right now at a small research university in the northeast. I'm very anxious about graduating and losing the community I have and fear i'll miss being around other students all the time. It's making me feel like I need to maximize the amount of social and academic activities I do as a result. Do any postgraduates here miss the community that college provides? How do I find community as an adult in the real world?

i have no idea what to do. i turned my paper in on time and my sociology professor is saying it was either late or he doesn’t have it. he makes us print them so it’s not like i can validate that i turned it in on time? i know for a fact i turned it in and i have the last edited in docs. if he says i didn’t turn it in do i have any options here?

pretty much the title. in a nutshell, i (f21) couldn't finish my thesis (mostly due to mental health problems which resulted in physical ones too) and had to take a gap year right before submitting it, at the end of april. since i studied away from home, it was decided i come back and have a proper rest while writing my paper (now on another topic)

needless to say, i feel like a failure, though i battle this feeling with all my might. of course my family (mum and grandma) were furious in the beginning but as of now they have said many times that it's not a big deal and what matters most is my well-being. still, one time during a fight, my mum admitted to being envious of other parents whose children, albeit being 'less smart' than me, did manage to finish uni this year and now are either working or proceeding to get their master's degree. a few days ago, though, when i asked if mum is ashamed of me, she reassured me about being proud of me no matter what and i want to believe her. though i do not talk about my friends with her (i never did to be honest)

now, today grandma asked how one of my friends is doing, to which i replied okay, and then grandma proceeded to call her 'a bitch' (english isn't my first language but that's how i'd roughly translate it). i told her i didn't like her calling my friends names and grandma said it was no big deal—and then that she was only saying this out of envy. i left her house extremely sad. why? because the envy comes from my incompetence. if it weren't for me, they wouldn't feel this way, and i know that perfectly, so... no need to say it okay? there's nothing i can do about someone's feelings right? only do my best with finishing uni

the reason i wrote this is probably because i need some more reassurance. i know it won't matter in the long run, but it hurts so much to be a failure as of right now. maybe someone has a history of taking gap year and feeling left out? i would highly appreciate your advice

Hi, I’m approaching my second year of college soon, but I’m having doubts on if getting this degree is worth it for me. A lot of graduates are struggling to find even basic jobs, and one of my professors said that even for talented graduates it’s still a struggle to find a basic job, which is incredibly concerning. Every semester more and more people graduate with this degree so that isn’t helping. And with the advancement of ai, one person can be 10 times more productive which means much less people will be hired overall.

If I cut my losses and jump ship now I wouldn’t lose that much, but if i graduate and can’t find even a basic job, what was it all for? Anyone else considering jumping ship and doing something else?

TLDR: FAFSA IS OPEN at https://fafsa.gov . If you didn't have issues last year, you shouldn't have issues this year. If you had issues last year, they are maybe solved but do your FAFSA sooner rather than later.

We all know what a mess last years roll out was, and hopefully the issues solved last year won't continue to this year. Your school will roll with the punches if there are issues.

Assuming things go smoothly most schools are going to be returning to their normal priority deadlines. These deadlines are usually in February or March but may vary from state to state or college to college. But its better to be as far from the deadline as possible so complete the 25/26 FAFSA ASAP

I'm putting a lot of faith that the issues with the new rollout mean less errors and issues then last year. In particular, I'm hoping there are less problems with mixed immigration family where one or more of the family members is not a US citizen or is a US citizen living in the a foreign country.

Assuming things don't go well document and reach out for help. I'm tempering my optimism with realistic advice in case you have issues. Documentation will help your aid office troubleshoot with you if they can help you out AND will help if you later have to appeal a missed deadline.

1) Documentation or notes should go to a central place. Like a Dropbox folder that is JUST fafsa stuff or physically printed on your desk.
2) screenshot the specific spot you have trouble if you have trouble
3) write down the dates that you complete individual steps For example, note when you send you parent or spouse an invitation or when you started but couldn't finish or started and did finish.
4) write down summaries of issues/conversations dates you reach out to the Dep of Ed or your school. Write down the name of who you speak with (even just the first name). You can probably tell from me, but some people in this industry are verbose. I tend to give not just the first step but all the coming steps when I work with a student. Writing down the name and summary is ACCOUNTABILITY if things go wrong and very helpful to you they go right but you can't remember the 17 things you were told that day.

Thank you for reading. Like I said up top, if you had little to no issue with the form last year then you probably will have a breeze this year. that's a great reason to get it out of the way over thanksgiving or winter holidays. If you had issues last year (invitations, mixed immigration families, foreign addresses, et cetera) thats a great reason to try again, document, and work with your aid office in the next 3 months to make it work.

My professor is like one of those Indians who are hardasses kinda like my mom but she calls on you in class and if you don’t know the answer she shames you. I remember another time I got an answer wrong and she said “shame on you, you’re one of the 90s students” cuz I got a 96 on the first exam but in class I don’t know what she’s asking most of the time.

Today I didn’t know the answer and stayed silent because I don’t want to be shamed but she was yelling at everyone in the classroom. I came out of class crying because it reminded me of all the times I didn’t know the answers in class and got shamed or humiliated by a teacher. It just makes me not want to go to class. This is intro level bio btw.

My problem is that I am emotional and can’t study when someone yells at me and humiliates me. Kinda like my mom when I was younger but it did make me a better student. In the long run though, it damaged my self esteem. I know it gets worse as you enter your first job and have a boss yelling at you so do you have tips on how to seem competent and knowledgeable in class? In work? I’m so tired of having to be on edge all the time in lecture. I hate anticipating when she will call on me.

Should I apply to a college even if I'm not sure if I want to do 4 years there or 2 years community College then there? Basically what I'm trying to ask is if I get accepted when I apply can I wait to go 2 years later after I finish 2 years community College? Or would I have to reapply? (Also if yall have any scolarship information advice pls reply to this with it I don't know which websites are reliable)

I’m looking into going to Rutgers in the spring after not being in school for 10 years. I wanna at least have some friends before I go so hmu if you’re interested ☺️

For context, I'm in my late 20s with arthritis in my neck from the army. I've bought a standing desk and a great ergonomic chair but I still get neck pain when writing, doing math problems, etc. My only thought next would be to get a tablet with a standing case to use in place of a notebook. I'm a finance major so this is something I have to consider for the next couple decades.

I'm taking a senior-level course in my major that's pretty rough right now. I'm typically an A student, but I'm probably going to get a B+ or an A- in this class. I go to the lectures, turn in the homeworks (and do well on them), and go to office hours. The material is just pretty dense, so even though I spend a lot of time studying, I can't seem to score an A on any of the exams.

When I've gone to office hours, my professor has expressed surprise that my score on the exams isn't higher. Do professors actually get disappointed when students who are pretty active class participants don't do well? Or do they just acknowledge it and then not really care/take it to heart beyond that conversation?

I literally go to sleep everyday hoping I don’t wake up and have to do everything over again and fear the future. I’m in my final year of undergrad, taking a full 15 units, applying to grad school for Occupational Therapy, volunteering for observation hours, working at a clinic, and studying for the GRE. Among all that I try to find a world life balance like going to the gym, seeing and going out with friends, spending time with my boyfriend and family. It’s all so much I feel so confused by every second of the day and feel guilty for relaxing. I am just a ball of anxiety and am wondering if I’m just being weak because so many people probably do this and here I am crushing under the pressure of it all. Even though I feel like I’m doing a lot I feel like I’m not doing enough at the same time. I constantly feel like there’s not enough hours in the day to do what I need and by the end of the day when I have some time to do stuff I’m fatigued from all my anxiety I had throughout the day. I feel so defeated everyday and just want to never wake up every time I go to bed. Is this normal? I’m anxious about my grades, when I’m gonna hear back from schools, preparing for interviews, the list goes on and on. The only time I feel truly at peace is with my boyfriend. I get so relaxed and feel so safe but then I relax too hard and don’t do any work with him and then in turn get stressed during the week and feel guilty. I do go to therapy and see a psychiatrist btw lol. Anyways just wondering if anyone is going through anything similar.

Sorry if the flair doesn’t fit this question but I wasn’t sure which would work the best.

But this is something I’ve always wondered but been too scared to try myself. If there’s a test due at 11:59 PM with a time limit of an hour and someone took it at 11:40 would they still get the full time to take the test or would the time limit shorten to fit within the time frame of when the test is due?

Is it cheating to use chat gpt for writing tips. In a paper due tomorrow, I asked the ai a couple of questions.

1. Can you review a previous essay and give me tips on what to look out for on my current essay? It gave basic tips.
2. Is mentioning this important? My essay was long and I was considering cutting a portion. I had it there originally as a TA recommended mentioning it. I ended up trimming my essay and was able to keep it.
3. Is this line good? (I was kinda proud of a line, I was going to keep it regardless) it then mentioned that I should make sure it's used properly, it was regarding human rights. So I chose to mention a violation of the 4th amendment. I asked and it said it was good.

Every trim was chosen by me and everything was rewritten by me.

Hi all. I am a paralegal for a decent sized law firm in my state. I got this job through a professor I have in college for a paralegal degree. Anyway, I think I’ve gotten myself in a pinch. I cannot seem to grasp this paralegal program and I think I got in over my head… these classes are extremely challenging and I do not like it. I took a criminology associate’s degree program and that was not nearly as difficult. The workload for these classes is extreme, there is so much to do and I just feel like I can’t get the material. I failed all 1st sem classes and I took the fall off terrified to fail again. I really need some redirection. Are there other programs that I can get a similar education from? My job does not seemed concerned about me being in school as I am excelling well in my profession. However, I like being in school and would love a second degree in a paralegal/criminal related field. I only have enough financial aid to cover a 2 year program so I really need some help here.

Please advise.. thank you.

i’m a senior in high school and very shy around new people which means i struggle to make friends. i’ve had around 3 friends since freshman year, none of whom i feel very close to but i can’t make other friends even though i’ve tried through shared classes and sports. i am not very attractive which i think is partially why i have so much trouble on top of the social anxiety but i think my personality is ok so im hoping in college i will do a bit better. my high school was only 70 people so i really want to make more friends at college im going to try to have multiple roommates but i wanted to see if anyone had any other tips because im really lonely now and im not sure i could take another for years of that

This sounds bad, but I have excuses trust. I'm a first year in this math class that's a one a week 3 hour night class. I have this other prep course that everyone says is more important in the long run than this class so I haven't attended anything after the midterm which was mid-October. I showed up to the first half because it was linear algebra, did pretty bad on the midterm (like barely above average), but upper years insisted the second half is easier because it's a lot of overlap with high school calculus. I've showed up to some classes held by other profs, tutorials with TA, but I have a few specific questions I really want to ask this prof during his office hours. I'm pretty sure he only teaches our one group for this course, estimating like 50 kids? But he definitely also teaches a few other courses. Anyone have an idea as to whether he'd remember me and whether it's a bad look to show up to office hours after skipping lecture? Especially if my question is something he probably went over during lecture? He's definitely the kind of "funny guy" to call me out if he does remember though IDK what to do 😭😭

Hi everyone, I'm an international student in the US, and I can't find an on-campus job. I have emailed and talked to ppl in person but no hope. I truly don't understand why since I have gotten a job in my country without any problem After my first interview on campus I thought I did well but I was wrong. After that, I got trust issues but I still act confident and, I can't help but think that they're just fake smiling at me when I talk. I can't understand people's body language. Despite this, I haven't given up but I need help like wtf, everyone I know is getting a job, ppl from the same country. I feel so insecure, and I am running out of money for basic things, my PC is broken and I have to take a computer science course in spring, I am completely stressed and frustrated, and asking my family for money is off the limits. What should I do? Is there anyone who overcame this problem, I just need emotional support.