Hi, I go to college for mechanical engineering and I’m failing all my classes. This is my first semester and it’s been terrible. First off, I was an okay student in high school, I did my schoolwork and graduated with a 3.4 gpa. I come from a dysfunctional and abusive household though so I had to move out prematurely and it’s been a struggle. I live in Atlanta where rent is extremely high so for 8 months I just worked my ass off and hoped I would be financially stable enough by the time school started. I was not, and juggling my job along with going to school full time has proved unsustainable. Im broke, I’ve pulled all my money from my savings for gas and rent and this has just created a cycle of me being depressed and burnt out. Not to mention, I have untreated mental illness and sometimes have problems with drug use. When school started though I started out okay, but still struggled. I dropped two classes hoping it would make things better but my depression has proved unrelenting. I know I’m going to fail this semester, but I’m hoping there’s redemption later. What should I do? I haven’t talked to my advisor because I’m not sure what’s to say or what’s acceptable. I really want to become an engineer and as far as my external factors they’re works in progress. My financial situation is looking up and I’m starting therapy soon for my mental issues. I’ve been able to cut back my drug use to just weed too. The only thing I need to recover now is my schooling. Any Advice???

I’m in my second year of college and I have been dating my gf for almost 2 years. We grew up together and started dating before college. Recently she told me that she wanted to put us on a 4 month break because she “lost track of who she was and doesn’t know who she truly is” and she wants to “become her own person”. She told me that she has been struggling with her mental health and feels disconnected from reality and that she needs some time alone to figure everything out. We set boundaries saying how it’s only going to be 4 months since I’m going back home for summer and when i said that it’s a long time and asked if a break was what she truly wanted to do. She told me that she really doesn’t want to break up fully and that she just needs a break from our relationship. I asked her about seeing other people she said that “she’s currently not seeking anyone else” and that if something arises then she “might explore her options” and that if something arises for me I shouldn’t try and put my life on hold. She also explained that she doesn’t want any contact over these months and I feel like she’s just leading me towards the end. I asked her if she still loves me and if she still saw a spark and she told me that she still loves me and that the spark has gone down but has not faded away and that we can bring it more light after she finds herself and becomes her own person. She also clarified that she feels like she needs to experience more since we’re so young (20). I really love her and want to wait for her to improve and become a better version of herself, but another part of me is telling me not to hope too much because it might not work out. How do I handle this break without any communication and do you guys have any advice/ recommendations for me?

Ok so l'm academically "smart" and so I'm 11th in my class out of 2000 and I got into Princeton, and all the colleges i applied to in my sate (tx). But my family life is not amazing and I don't really want to stay in state because of that and so part of my wants to go to UCLA (accepted) to get out of here but it would be really expensive and really hard to live in California. Then I was thinking about maybe going to Wyoming because its pretty and l've always anted to live there BUT everyone says its beneath me. And like I'm not gonna go to Yale or Princeton because money and it's far but I don't know. So then i thought maybe i could go to college in Texas but far away so like Loredo which is far or like Dallas. And I don't know what to do. And my whole life i said I wouldn't dumb down what college i go to for a boy but l've been dating this boy for a while and he wants to go to A&M which would be cool to go to the same college as hi v yk? Someone give me some advice. Much love thanks.

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I'm currently a high school senior who's looking to do school in FL (I don't live in FL at the moment ) at a community college but because FAFSA has been down these past months I cannot get the financial benefits that come. I could always get a job pay for the classes myself but what do I do? If I don't get money from fafsa will that prevent me from being able to go? I don't know when it will ever start working again its infuriating. I enrolled in classes I have my schedule. I want to be on campus. I live in a chaotic dysfunctional household with a narcisissitic mother who doesn't even want me to leave so I know she's happy, I'm very upset and very angry because this was my chance at leaving this place and these people I was finally going to get freedom and what I needed to actually heal and become a adult and now I don't know what to do? Staying here wont help me and it only causes more harm. She's highly controlling and manipulative I dont know what she'll do if I stay. First day of in person classes start at the end of August.

One of my professors from my undergrad was very kind to me and provided a letter of recommendation for grad school. I'm not a student at that college anymore. In the country where I'm from it is common to bring some small gift, like a box of chocolates or a cake to a professor or any other professional as a symbol of your gratitude. Would it be seen as weird here in the US?

First post so idk what I’m doing, but I need more info. I’m a first gen student, so I don’t really know which computer would be the best. I know that like a big majority of students have MacBooks, but is that really the best computer? Need some outside help for this

Thanks!

I am currently in my senior year and because of bad advice from advisor and a semester abroad I am in a difficult situation. Basically I have two choices the first choice is take 3 summer classes Finance and 2 marketing classes and then take 5 classes in the fall semester to be able to graduate in December. Or 1 marketing class in the summer and take the finance class I was going to take in the summer in the Fall instead. But if I go with option number 2 I will have a semester where I am not a full time student becasue I will only have 3 remaining classes left to take.

Any advice from anybody who has been in a similar situation?

Do you choose based on how big the company is, how related the role is to your future career goals, the internship pay, or how much you can learn from it?

Hello,

I bought a Japanese textbook long ago, I was enrolled in a class in community college but the class beat the shit out of me because i had a lot of going on so I didn't do too well, fast forward to now and it'd help to know Japanese at the company i work for an a lot of my coworkers speak the language so I wanted to give a crack at it again on my time

I have my Nakama 1 Version 3 textbook, and I see that i can buy the ebook access, but I'm just wondering do all of these ebooks with homework modules REQUIRE a class code or to be enrolled in a class? or am i just free to do the homework (and probably print it out for a colleague to skim over lol)

Hey! I'm starting college next semester and I'm so excited, but I know it's more than just what Disney Channel displays. I will be living in the dorm for context I guess. I'm going to a state school which is only like $1,900 per semester for in state and dorms are <$3,500 max (there are different plans.) My fasfa form has already been processed and I am eligible to receive full Pell grant thankfully. In my state, we have a scholarship paid for by the lottery that you automatically qualify for if you have a 3.0 or above, and it pays $1,600/$1,900 per semester. I've done calculations and I'll have about $14,600 in student debt without receiving any more aid. I've applied to like hundreds of other scholarships but I don't know if I will hear back from them so I'm not going to count them. My dad doesn't want me to work while I'm in college so I can maintain my GPA, but I will have enough to save so I won't go into debt. I've done the math just about a billion times. I wanted to know if you guys think it would be manageable just to work on the weekends while attending 14-15 credit hours per semester. How many and how much do you guys work and are you able to keep up your GPA? (Idk if this is relevant, but I'm majoring in English with an alt certification in secondary education)

Hello, I am a second-semester sophomore attempting to complete a secondary English teaching degree with a minor in philosophy. Currently, I am in a little bit of a predicament as I am unsure of what decision to make, I am trying to plan ahead as my graduation year is 2026, I am 27 years old as I started college later than some as I joined the workforce out of high school. I am considered to be double majoring as a major in English as well as a major in secondary education since I must have certification to teach with a minor in philosophy. I have 12 credits in philosophy, and 18 is needed for a minor, which is only two more courses. My predicament is whether I drop my philosophy minor and focus on my major classes despite having to take two semesters of 6 classes, equalling 18 credits for both, as well as taking summer and winter courses to "speed up" my degree as I have been doing this since 2022 or do I continue my philosophy minor as well as double majoring in Secondary education and English? I am also working 30 hours per week maintaining a 3.73 GPA currently.

ion know if this is the right sub so please forgive me🙏 but for the seniors in band, every year the underclassmen get the graduating class like baskets with like gift cards and things that they can hopefully use when they go to college. but no one has older siblings in college so we can’t ask them what would be good (or the person we were assigned but like duh) so i just need a little help on what yall think would be good places /things to get the girls.

I have many cousins on my mother's side; however, I am the closest to four cousins on my mother's side of the family. My cousins' mother, my aunt, and my mom are sisters, and they have been close forever, so naturally, our families are very close. When I was in college, I would spend holidays and breaks with my aunt, uncle, and cousins due to the fact that my college was closer to their home.

Despite the age differences, my cousins and I have always been close. We share a special bond. We know each other very well. We share inside jokes, and we enjoy spending time together. We have been there for each other through good times and bad times. I have seen them grow up. They're my cousins but I look at them as additional sibling/best friends. They are my 'posse'.

Out of my four cousins, two are in college, which is surreal. I am proud of them, and I am excited for their adventures. I do miss them, but I am happy for them too. Recently, my (18M) cousin is a freshman in college. He's enjoying himself. We talk very frequently. In fact, he will spend hours on the phone/face time telling me about his classes, friends, and college adventures. He has been asking me for the longest time to come visit him. I haven't been able to visit him due to my schedule, but I have finally have time. I am going next weekend for the day to visit my cousin, and I will be bringing his younger brother, my other cousin, along. My cousin is excited for me to see his dorm, campus, and meet his friends and roommate. He is also is excited that he will get some real food as well. I am ready to be the cool cousin that visits his little cousin on campus. Any advice to make the visit enjoyable/memorable? Thanks!

I’m currently a senior in high school choosing between Bc or wake for premed and I was wondering which one is better. I like the weather much better in Wake, but less so the dominant Greek life. Boston is a “better location” but I’m not sure how much that matters for premed. Any Advice?

Hi. So I got myself in a bit of a tough spot.

I live in university apartment-style housing and they randomly selected 2 girls to fill in the spaces this semester. They both are friends. The one girl said at the start that they asked to switch because their old roommates never took out the stash or did the dishes, but they always complained when she had a dish in the sink, and they hated her boyfriend because they are all man haters. From the start, I found it a lil sus because people who complain about other people all the time sometimes are the problem themselves. I’m aware of the irony here.

Little things have started to add up. For example, she invites her boyfriend over every day. They both always yell instead of using their indoor voices. They’ve woken me up a few times now at like 3 am. She makes him an elaborate dinner every night, and usually doesn’t put the dishes away when the dishwasher is half empty. She waits for me to run it half filled, and then I empty the washer after school, and then she puts her dishes in. She also leaves food in the sink and sometimes the dishwasher, which has caused it to flood. When I put her dishes back in the sink after the flood so maintenance could fix the washer, she called me a petty b-tch on the phone with someone. I also get irritated because for the first half of the time, she rarely took out the garbage. When she did, she’d leave it in front of our door, in the main hallway. When I asked her to stop leaving it out, she sounded mad but was like ok.

Anyway, she and some friends were really loud coming home Sunday at 3 AM and woke me up. She also made them a bunch of food and left the dishes in the sink. It’s Tuesday now. The washer was available the whole time, except 9pm mon to 6am today/tues, when I let the washer run (she stays up late, so she could have unloaded it if she wanted). I was annoyed because it’s Tuesday at 5pm, and she’s been home for hours. I was also annoyed because there was food in there and it smelled.

So when I saw her, I said “hey the dishwasher is open, it has been all day.” I don’t think I said that in a rude tone, but I guess my choice of words was passive aggressive. She said “I’m trying to teach my boyfriend to clean up after himself, so I’m waiting for him to do it.” I agree that since she always cooks, he should offer to do it. I could have said that. But also, her guests are her responsibility. So I said “or you could do it yourself, because it’s been 3 days.” She said “mind your business” and sounded mad and like she wanted to be aggressive I said “I mean I live here, so…” and she said “oh really 🙄.” After that, I went to my room, because I was heading there as the conversation was happening.

I hate conflict. When I get mad, I get so anxious and I can’t think clearly, so I wasn’t very mature. I don’t want to walk on eggshells, but I’m so nervous to see her. I think I have a right to be annoyed with her, but I was very immature about it. How do I make amends without losing my cool?

I am a junior, but I am looking at colleges. UIS has been in contact with me and I am visiting soon. I want to see if anyone in Illinois knows if it’s bad or not. I hope to major or minor in education, social work, or psychology. I want to be a teacher or social worker one day. I want to know if UIS has a bad Reputation or is not a good school. UIC is by me, but I can’t live close to home because of family issues and the area isn’t safe. It is up there for good schools and I can get in there no problem, but the crime is bad. I worry with me being a woman and there’s a lot of sa crimes and stuff. I have also been looking at UICIC, but according to college vine I have a 46% chance of going. I heard it’s a good school, but I am not sure if I can get in. If anyone lives in Illinois can you let me know any good public colleges? I am trying be in a public school because it is cheaper and I won’t have to take too much loans out.

Hello, i’m 19 years old who just started college this January of 2024. I’m about to finish my very first semester of college! However, I was waitlisted for the fall term so I had to wait until the spring to start as a freshman. I also had to get an apartment off campus because the dorms were full. I honestly feel like this lacked my experience of meeting new people and new friends. I feel like if I was in the dorm my first semester during fall I would of had a better opportunity meeting people, because now I was thrown into everyone else’s second semester who already found their “group” of friends. I got a late start, and I was too busy this semester with my workload to even consider joining a club. How should I make my second semester better? I met about 2 people that I enjoy talking to from class but they only want to hang out if you want to party. I don’t know. I just expected coming to college, leaving my hometown, and meeting a bunch of great people that never happened. Any advice?

 So I have had to do a LOT of things for college recently because it’s nearly the e end of the year and I have a school I really want to go to but I kinda bombed my GPA Freshman and Sophomore year, i’m getting it up in junior, and I plan on LOCKING THE HECK IN my senior year. 

 I’ve become really serious about going to college because I’m realizing that I would like to get away from my living situation so I would really like to dorm. That leaves me with a few questions about like financial advice and like how to get into this school lol. It’s not like a crazy school where I need to be a straight A student to get this. I’m a little worried because of my lack of academic prowess lol. 

 I would like to go to school to be either an art teacher or a music teacher for like elementary to middle school grade children Maybe even specifically like a middle school choir Director type of deal. 

 One of my main questions is the question of getting a job. Is it recommended that I work during college? I’m not really thinking about working during my senior year due to the fact that I know my boundaries and I know that I would probably start failing a lot more if I had a job at the same time. but I feel like in college I might thrive in that type of situation. 

Second question being should I be worried that my GPA is low and if I score low on the SAT? How much do grades really matter? And how much do classes matter? Next year, I plan on taking at least two choirs and one AP class along with a normal art class.

GEEZ Thinking about this stuff is STRESSFUL but exciting

I picked the topic of police reporting police doing unethical things and I have to make a specific scenario, idk what to do and it’s in 2 weeks, here are my ideas 1. Officer finds out another officer is drunk on duty, does he report him or make him go home. 2. Officer catches another officer making out with a girl and going into the back seat on duty, blind eye or snitch? 3. Officer finds out another officer is stealing money and drugs in traffic stops, 4. Officer catches another officer gambling on duty. Are these good ideas, which one is good. If not any ideas to help I’m struggling and my mental health is also😭

I (20f) am a dentistry student for 1 year now. I worked hard af last year to get my exam which was very competitive because it was a medicine contest and got it at first try. I was so proud of myself. But now i am in my new college, in a new town i wonder how my life could be if i didn’t listen to my uncle when he recommended me to chose this path a few years ago. He told me about the salary, which really is 80% the reason why i am here actually. And i am questioning constantly if i should change. Being a dentist is great, we have a great salary, decide when we work, always have job opportunities, autonomy and its manual and i kinds like it but it’s also kinda gross. And i don’t see myself scrubbing teeth of strangers for the rest of my life. In other hand i wanna create my whole industry, or maybe go in spain learning veterinary, or going into 2D animation school as well. I am not sure but all these chains are risky in a financial way and i don’t want to mess it all for a messy dream. What if i change and loose everything, i would disappoint my parents. I want to travel a lot and create a business and i can’t to it without money. Which i can only get by this job. Should i change ? Is money this important ?

Hello, I am at a crossroads for what to major in. Chemistry and Physics seem like my main options but it is difficult for me to choose between them. On one hand, I like learning about inorganic and organic chemistry, but on the other hand I also really like the puzzle-like nature of mathematics and physics. I like learning about theories that explain how our universe works.

However, I am also planning on going to medical school, and I recently found medical physics as a specialization at my college. Now one of the main reasons I have a problem with Chemistry is because the required classes are memorization-heavy, and while I am fine with taking these classes, I want to keep the skills that I have worked so hard to build in physics and math classes, more specifically in calculus. But I also heard that pre-meds are usually pushed to retake AP and Dual Enrollment classes, and retaking all the physics classes while completing the required classes for med school may make my life hell. Any suggestions on what I should go for? Currently, I am majoring in Chemistry with an emphasis on Biochemistry, but I haven't started my freshman year yet.

The reason I am worrying so much about this beforehand is that I don't want to waste too much time in college. Med school is already a commitment and I just want to widen my chances of employment should anything go wrong. I understand that I prob won't have much time to pursue a career in Physics in Med school. Still, I don't want to unknowingly depart from a subject that I may have found a vital strength in, and should plans change (unlikely), I'm not sure which major is better for employability.

i am active duty and have 15 credit hours on my joint service transcript which i plan to transfer through AMU. i also plan on taking the following clep exams: spanish 1, spanish 2, college composition, college composition modular, principles of marketing, introduction to sociology, and analyzing and interpreting literature. My question is, are there any specific subjects i have to take to get an associates degree ?

Hi, I’m a 22 year old college student in my 3rd year. I am wondering if it is disrespectful to simply own up to the fact I wasn’t organized and didn’t finish an important assignment despite even the whole class getting an extension.

This is my final presentation in this class worth 5% of my grade. I am supposed to present a 10 minute report tomorrow that I only managed to finish half of, I had to submit it half finished.

I have fallen behind in this class because I’m working 30 hours a week with 5 other classes and an hour commute to my campus both ways (2 hours total per class day). I know this is no excuse because I still could have taken steps to stay organized, but I am burnt out and currently don’t have enough energy to complete even a shitty powerpoint.

I am not usually like this, I was a straight A student and still am for most of my classes except this one because of the half report only.

I am not sure if I should just chug a few coffees to at least present something on 2 hours of sleep after a 9 hour shift or try to respectfully tell my professor that I am not able to present but really appreciate everything she has taught in the course and still came to class to at least listen to other presentations and hear any final words she has about the class topic before the exam next week.

Thank you in advance for any advice about what the best course of action is.

Hey everyone, thanks for the advice, i’m gonna at least try and finish the presentation to see what happens.

thats it.

One of my professors hasn’t responded to emails from several weeks ago, and hasn’t put in grades from the midterm (administered in February). He also failed to open up a test this past week, and has not attended any of his own online lectures/reviews for the past few weeks.

I’ve reached out to other students in the class and they have also been unable to reach the professor. Should I just wait this out or should I email the department chair? I just don’t really understand what the purpose of this class is right now if we aren’t being assessed on anything. Although, I wouldn’t mind if he came back and just passed us all on the course (this class is unbearable). Any advice on course of action is greatly appreciated, thanks.

I’m a senior is hs that struggling to pick between schools. One is a PWI that has a good program for my major (not perfect, but way better than my second option) and the second is a smaller school where the diversity is one of their strong points. I’d have to dorm to go to the PWI while I’d have to commute to the smaller school.

My issue is, I’ve basically never been around white people my entire life. Black and hispanics were the only people around, so I’m not sure how I’d fit into a completely new environment. I don’t want to throw away the opportunity to go to a better school because of some simple “feelings”, but I know I shouldn’t push my limits, and nothing is guaranteed if I go there anyway. I always see people talk about their negative experiences at a PWI, so I’m conflicted.

So basically, is the “fit” criteria actually THAT important?

Some background before asking for advice: In the coming months I will begin a big life shift. Leaving the over worked working mom life behind. And pursuing my college degree for the first time, truthfully, in a decade. In that time I’ve gone back and forth between human services (youth mental health and juvenile justice related work) and food service (from dishwasher to general manager) and honestly. They both suck the life out of me. For very different reasons. But some surprisingly overlapping ones as well. I originally started school (after hs) for music education. And truly still love the arts. All of them. And day dream of getting to take these classes while I’m still at this job I’m about to leave. And also have some fear about joining these classes when turning 30 this year. Because band was such a family before. And on the other hand I also have a lot of interest in law, ethics, sociology and some medical researches and practices. So… how do you choose? How do you know what is the best. How do you narrow down your interests and commit like that? I am fortunate to have this opportunity and am so scared to mess it up. I’ve taken personality and aptitude tests. Each gave me more interests making my list longer, not narrowing it down. 😭 Any help, suggestions, book or podcast recommendations, or reassuring words welcome! 🫣

This semester has been exhausting. I have 4 weeks left of school, and I know that if I can just make it to there than I'm in the clear and can recouperate. However, I've been having trouble staying focused and motivated, along with being pretty tired. Any advice on how to get through these last few weeks?

i have a professor that hasn't submitted grades to assignments in nearly 3 weeks.

i really want to be able to gauge how i'm doing in the course and what i need to improve on but i can't do that without feedback.

i completely understand that professors sometimes get tied up in life, everyone does, but with the semester ending soon it's just making me anxious lol