/r/philadelphiar4r

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An r4r (Redditor for Redditor) community for Philly. Replacement for the previous r/Phillyr4r, which has closed down. Whether you're looking for platonic or non-platonic friends, gaming buddies, online friends, soulmates, travelmates, smoking buddies, activity partners, friends with benefits, or casual encounters, this is the place to find and seek.

An r4r (Redditor for Redditor) community for Philly. Replacement for the previous r/Phillyr4r, which has closed down. Whether you're looking for platonic or non-platonic friends, gaming buddies, online friends, soulmates, travelmates, smoking buddies, activity partners, friends with benefits, or casual encounters, this is the place to find and seek.

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    31 [M4M] #Northeast Sub Hosting Head

    31, 5'8, 170lbs, blue eyes, long dirty-blonde hair

    Hosting for a laid back guy looking for a release. Very service-orientated here and enjoy edging a guy. I'm into body contact and making out, but it's not required for meeting. I live alone so I can host discreetly. I'm not too far from five-point near Fox Chase, if you know where that is.

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    2024/12/03
    14:27 UTC

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    36 [M4F] #Horsham - After Work Oral Pleasure for You

    Extremely orally talented and enthusiastic 36 year old man here looking for a woman who craves some pleasure after work. No reciprocation needed, I just want to please you as much as you need. I can't host but can travel anywhere in the area and am more than happy to meet for a drink or something first. I'm available from 5pm until 8:45ish. Just be clean, sane, and delicious.

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    2024/12/03
    13:33 UTC

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    35 [M4F] #CenterCity - Winter is Coming and a Sensual Massage Will Make Sure You Will Too

    The temperatures have suddenly dropped with a fury, leaving you cold to your core and longing for a return to summer. Thanksgiving pushed you to your wit's end, and with Christmas just around the corner, you can feel the stress starting to build quicker than you can relax. You can feel winter coming, but sadly you haven't been, and you're trying to figure out what you can do to get warm all over...

    Well that's easy! Stop worrying about Christmas and start a chat with me today! I might not be able to solve all of your problems, but I guarantee I can put you in the right holiday spirit. We'll start with a long, deep tissue massage where I expertly rub out all of the kinks and stress that you've been letting build up. My strong hands will sensually remove the chill in your bones, replacing it with a warmth from your head to your toes...and everywhere in between. Once you're a puddle of relaxation, my tireless tongue will explore you, front and back, until the holidays aren't the only thing coming, in full force.

    Mid 30's, 6'2", fit, muscular, and clean. Please be clean, real, and drama free.

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    2024/12/03
    10:12 UTC

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    31 (m4m) giving head in # North Philly

    31 yo 5’7 140lbs Latino looking to give head Looking for an on going thing but can be a nsa arrangement. If you’re interested send me a message with a picture and a little bit about yourself.

    Uncut guys to the front of the line please be around my age and ddf

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    2024/12/03
    02:45 UTC

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    45 [M4F] - Center city, English boy in town for a few days looking for coffee and conversation.

    Hi there!

    I'm a (non-white) English guy coming in to town this weekend for a few days looking for cool people to chat with and maybe meet for coffee or drinks whilst I'm there.

    If you're in to soulful, spiritual, laid back types then please feel free to get in touch!

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    2024/12/03
    02:39 UTC

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    43 [M4F] #CC 8” BWC looking for Monday fun

    6’3”, good shape, clean and tested, 8” with girth, can share pics.

    Looking for a sexy woman in Philly who would be interested in mutual oral and receiving a few loads from an attractive and hung traveling businessman staying in a 5 star hotel. I’m a normal, very clean, smart and successful man who is simply in a kinky mood while on the road for work, hoping to find a woman in a similar mood today.

    Reply with your age, brief description, what you like about my post, and if you’re available today

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    2024/12/02
    21:07 UTC

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    45 [M4A] Platonic New Year’s Eve Hang Out

    Staying in city center for New Year’s Eve and flying solo.

    Already have dinner reservations at Alpen Rose and would love to add a strictly platonic companion. Maybe some cocktails and chill vibes to ring in 2025. All my treat. The world’s a mess so generosity is needed.

    Hit me up if you are friendless for this year’s celebration. Artsy, non-normative, queer folks to the front. Epicureans work also. Looking for 30ish or over and don’t care what you look like.

    Please message- no chat invitations.

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    2024/12/02
    20:59 UTC

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    42 [M4F] #Philly burbs - Days are long and boring, who is up for some naked fun?

    Every day seems to blend together. Kids sports, work meetings, you name it. Who else is in the same boat?

    As for me, I am a divorced Dad, joint custody, athletic, business professional, and always up for new adventures. Over 6’ tall, built, short hair, and if you want to know anything else, just shoot me a message.

    Let’s grab lunch and have some adult fun. I currently work from home so have a lot of flexibility during the work day. Hopefully you do as well!

    If you have any questions, please feel free to ask. Have pics if interested. Hope to hear from you soon and hope your week is going well!

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    2024/12/02
    19:25 UTC

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    36 [M4F] #Delco - Christmas Present to Ourselves

    Thanksgiving is over and Christmas is coming, maybe we can give each other what we really want - an amazing, long-term affair.

    I'm 36 and live in the Philadelphia area. Typical suburban dad type with a love for sports (especially hockey), the outdoors, and learning new things. I'm educated, professional, and have 3 kids. 6'4", average build, and not bad looking. I don't want to change my relationship but I want more. I want a spark, laughter, flirting, and immense pleasure when we can meet. I want to look forward to messages from you and to feel that excitement when I see you whether it's just for a coffee, a drink, or more. The physical side is important to me, but chemistry is more important. This is not my first time and my OPSEC is very tight and important.

    I'm looking for someone with a great sense of humor who's communicative and is looking for something amazing. Prefer you to be married with kids as well, but a minimum is understanding the difficulties around balancing that. Let's chat and see how it goes!

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    2024/12/02
    18:34 UTC

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    30 [M4MF] voyeur hosting in #SouthPhilly

    I’m an attractive man who enjoy the art of voyeurism (I turned on seeing others nude or having sex or given themselves pleasure) . I can host in #SouthPhilly a couple MF (MM or FF also welcomed) who enjoy being watched. Just dm if you are interested. I’m open to accept ppl who are first time in exhibitionism. You will be on a bed and I will be sitting on a chair just observing you 🫣

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    2024/12/02
    17:29 UTC

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    32[M4F] #South Philly; Chill Pleasure Dom Seeks Long Term FWB

    I'd really like to find another person that I vibe with really well. I've had many variations of FWB over the years, and ideally I'd like to find another long term partner (though I am open to short term as well). The friend aspect is important to me because I'd like the person to be someone I can casually hang out with as well. Those who are 420 friendly to the front, though not necessary. My sessions are typically described by my partners as, "hanging out with an old friend, having a smoke (optional), and cumming more than enough to put me to bed".

     

    I've had a good handful of FWB like this in the past, and they're always pretty wholesome experiences. I do not randomly "catch feelings", always set safe words and am very good with boundaries, as I would expect my partner to be. I'm fully capable of dropping the benefits and remaining a close friend, should they find something romantic to pursue; I would never stand in the way of love.

     

    So, what can you expect from me as a FWB?

    • Loves to explore with and pleasure others. I make it a point to provide a safe, judgement free space for my partners to explore their interests with me; very kink friendly and experienced.
    • High End Toys (cleaned extremely thoroughly after use, of course) such as a Womanizer & Hitachi, a collection of Bad Dragons, & a Hismith Fucking Machine and many more.
    • I love eating out and I love taking my time to make sure my partner gets exactly what they came for and more. I'm a chill Dom & typically specialize in orgasm control, pussy pumping, light bondage, and more.
    • Fantastic cuddler if that's something you like. My partners often tell me what they enjoy most about me is how easy I am to get along with, how good I make them feel, and how they can be themselves around me.
    • STD & Drama free, Covid Vaxxed & Boosted. I expect the same from my partners.

     

    I don't really have a set 'type', but I do prefer someone who is fit, average, or curvy. If you've made it this far, thank you for hearing me out. I'll include a brief bit about myself:

    • 32M/South Philly, 5'8", Jordanian/Sicilian, chubby/bearded & handsome/cute in appearance
    • 420/shroom friendly :) (you don't have to be, but it is a plus)
    • I loosely call myself 'nerdy'; I love tons of aspects of science (space and nature, honestly a lot of topics are super interesting), technology, gaming, and anime are some of my core interests. I also love things like mini golf, paintball, go-karts, darts, pool, cards against humanity, board games and more. Honestly anything you can do in a group of 3-8 is usually my cup of tea.
    • Musically, I'm Indie/Alternative at my core, but I dabble in a little bit of everything. TV/Movies, I'm more into comedy, animation, sci-fi, thrillers, and documentaries.
    • Great listener, I encourage feedback; I also tell it like it is. Kinda terrible at talking about myself in bios tho, but I am an open book; so, I welcome messages and questions!
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    2024/12/02
    16:33 UTC

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    48 [m4m] #SouthPhilly Looking to give head, possibly rim

    I’m in the mood to suck dick and swallow cum. If you’re fit I would also be willing to eat ass. I host. Seeking hwp men 18-45. Doesn’t matter if you’re straight or married, complete discretion guaranteed. Private message me with your age, height and weight.

    1 Comment
    2024/12/02
    15:58 UTC

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    25 [nb4m/mm] #northeast Philly sub looking to serve studs

    25 nb in northeast Philly love giving head eating ass being dominated and degraded. Open to more pretty open and down to try most things really looking for some kinky fun and maybe a consistent fwb if all goes well. If this is up I’m still looking. Definite bonus for men in uniform and groups

    2 Comments
    2024/12/02
    07:27 UTC

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    34 [MF4F] - #CenterCity - looking for fun after PAX Unplugged

    We are going to PAX Unplugged this Saturday at the Pennsylvania convention center. We would love to find a woman who wants to play some different games with us after the convention. We have a hotel room and enjoy some kinky play (with consent of course). We're both fun, a little nerdy, and love to laugh. He is tall, well hung and in decent shape. She is bi, curvy and is very eager to please.

    Happy to exchange photos if you're interested.

    Please no single guys. Couples are welcome.

    Hope to hear from you soon.

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    2024/12/02
    04:19 UTC

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    [M4M] 32 #CC fit sub seeking his dom king

    32, 6’ 180 muscular build white guy in CC here. Newly exploring my submissive side and looking for a dominant guy to serve. I have a wide variety of interests to try and I’m looking for someone to push my boundaries. Inquire within to find out more. I’m looking for one guy to consistently serve. Open to talking to anyone 18+, but picky about meeting because I’m looking for the right one. Shoot your shot though. The ideal guy is hot, cocky, dominant, fit or muscular, and bigger than me 😏

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    2024/12/02
    00:06 UTC

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    30 [M4M] #PassyunkSquare #SouthPhilly Looking for Bromance and FWB

    I’m hoping to find a friend that is open to chill together both clothed and naked and see what we get into. I’m a regular guy that is open to new experiences, and I’m looking for the same. DM me if you’re interested, and we can go from there.

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    2024/12/01
    16:33 UTC

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    30 [M4M] #centercity looking to give no strings eyerolling service and swallow a straight guy

    Cleancut professional very discreet here looking for buddy to suck off nsa. One time or regularly. 30yo, 5'7'' and 140lbs asian guy. Former college athlete, and pics in my post history. No gag reflex, patient at servicing, love to suck the soul out of a straight guy who doesnt get what he needs at home
    Can host in center city.

    Prefer guys 20-35yo. Str8/bicurious/married guys are a plus. Please send stats with your msg.

    Ideally you'd be straight and just chasing that feeling of getting a top notch bj. If this is up. I am looking...

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    2024/12/01
    16:25 UTC

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    30 [M4F] Delco - Looking for a nerdy FWB

    Looking for a nerdy woman who likes things like video games, D&D, and MtG to hang out with and have fun. I’m 30, 5’4”, and fit (I work out regularly). I have a house in Media and can host.

    No guys and no married/couples please.

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    2024/12/01
    16:21 UTC

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    51 [m4f] Attractive, fit, intelligent passionate WM #University City or King of Prussia or West Chester or tri-state area. I'm looking for one AA/Black woman for FWB - open to other races as well

    Hi, I'm an intelligent, attractive, passionate white man looking for one special African American/Black female for ongoing erotic fun and mindblowing sex. I find AA/Black women extremely attractive and am not looking to merely "experiment."

    There have to be some normal adults on Reddit who are in the same situation as me and appreciate the beauty of different races and ethnicities.

    Looking for someone mature, professional and ready to meet or at least chat. Discretion assured if necessary. Please be prepared to exchange a few messages to gauge interest/compatibility, etc.

    I'm open to other races as well. A passionate nature and a sense of humor is essential.

    Contact me and we can exchange pix on Kik or via text. Life is short - let's meet! NO MEN!

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    2024/12/01
    15:53 UTC

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    20 [F4A] | Que sera sera!

    [EDIT: I keep forgetting to add my neighborhood, Girard Estates!]

    Hiii! Guess what time it is? Friend hunting time! You can call me Mel. I’m a 20 year old black woman who’s been rocking it in Philly forever. In my last post, I talked about wanting friends after my little getaway, and that’s still the case! I like munching on food, watching anime, gaming, and listening to music. We should talk!

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    2024/12/01
    03:10 UTC

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    50 [M4F] #Center City/Grad Hospital - It's too cold!!!

    What a clusterfuck this world is. We need each other. On top of that, the dating apps have turned everyone into sociopaths. Let's just be authentic.

    "As one limping man to another, old Zooey, let's be courteous and kind to each other."

    I'm pretty cool. Creative. Attractive. Chill. Kinky but not a weirdo. You're going to like me.

    A little about me:

    • I had valentine's day dinner with Marissa Tomei. (I'm not too cool to be excited about the famous people I've met.)
    • I’m an indie rocker and generally creative. I write songs and letters that don’t suck. Slowly working on an album. When we match up, I’ll send you my music if you're interest. You're going to say, "Wow. I was really worried that I would hate your music but I actually really like this."
    • I love the water. I try to get to into the rec center pool every day in the summer. It's so good for the soul to be in the water, under the sky. I haven't been to the beach in far too long. We should go.
    • Philly is my default city. Over the past 20 years, I’ve lived in Philly, NYC, Upstate NY, DC, Czech Republic, Israel, Houston… I was a consultant, so I moved around a lot. That said, part of me dreams of escaping the city to someplace with water, trees, and parking.
    • I have a "good job" designing software for a giant, evil health insurance company. I work from home in Center City, Philly. I have lots of flexibility.
    • I have an adorable cat. She doesn't get enough stimulation. You should come pet her.
    • My other posts detail my desires that I'm probably not allowed to mention here.

    Here are some things I like:

    • Movies: Wings of Desire, The Jerk, Secretary, Reuben & Ed, Sid & Nancy, Bill & Ted, Harold & Maude, Blade Runner, Annie Hall, Rear Window, Zombieland, Better Off Dead, Scott Pilgrim, Shaun of the Dead, Spinal Tap!, Pootie Tang, Can’t Hardly Wait, Cabin in the Woods, Fargo, Let the Right One In, 28 Days Later, 30 Days of Night, Dawn of the Dead (both).
    • TV: Bob’s Burgers, Always Sunny, Game of Thrones, Dexter, Community, Troy and Abed in the Morning, Battlestar Galactica, Firefly (pretty much anything sci-fi), Sherlock, MST3k, I Think You Should Leave, Fleabag, Broad City, Baby Billy’s Bible Bonkers, What We Do In The Shadows, Kids in the Hall.
    • Books: The Murderbot Diaries, The Bobiverse, Day by Day Armageddon, (Lots of the classics) Salinger, Kundera, Confederacy of Dunces, To Kill a Mockingbird (Fun fact: this was written by Bruce Lee’s sister, Harper.)
    • Music:
      • Hit me up for my spotify playlist. I'm not allowed to post it here. Lot's of 90's indie rock!
      • I need a date for Black Francis' Wedding.
      • Ask me why I feel bad about Elliot Smith. (This story is probably more than I want to type into my phone so I'll tell you when we move to a better chat than Reddit.)

    Looking forward to hearing from you…

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    2024/12/01
    00:14 UTC

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    45 [M4F] #West Philly / University City - Dominant Guy Looking For Some Devilish Nsa Fun With A Sub Girl

    I'm a young looking 45 yo dominant male. I have tats and an alternative look. I'm just looking for some NO STRINGS ATTACHED fun with a like minded fun submissive female. I'm into passionate rough sex, kissing, anal, facials, face fucking, slapping, spanking, choking and more. I'm clean, well groomed, and drug and disease free. I expect the same from you. I can host in a nice neighbourhood or you can host if you live in Philly, preferably not too far out.

    When responding, provide description, location, availability, limits (if you have them) and what you're into. If you don't provide what I ask don't expect a response. Ideally, would like to meet in public first but not a deal breaker. If you're attached no worries I'm very discreet.

    FYI - Don't be flakey or waste my time if you respond. If you ask for a pic be prepared to send one back. This is strictly NSA.

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    2024/11/30
    23:50 UTC

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    20 [m4m] #South Philly. Looking for a bearded hairy fwb

    Hey guys, I’am a hairy masc guy with my stats being 5’4, 140lbs. Looking for bearded hairy guy who’s down for a fwb if interested. I’m really into country or military guys but I’m really open so if you’re interested, shoot me a message.

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    2024/11/30
    23:49 UTC

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    32 [M4F] #NEPhilly / Lower Bucks County — Black male seeking White woman for kinky, passionate FWB

    Hey there 👋🏾

    About Me:

    • 32 years old
    • Fit (6’0”, 200 lbs)
    • Clean (can show test results and get a fresh test)
    • Well-educated
    • Well-endowed (BBC)
    • Have my own place and can host in the Lower Bucks/NE Philly area

    About You:

    • 22-45 years old
    • HWP (open to a variety of body types but fit or thick preferred)
    • Fit/curvy white woman
    • Looking for something consistent and exclusive, meeting 1-3x per week
    • If you can host sometimes, that would be great (not a dealbreaker)

    What to do if you’re interested:

    • Reach out via DM or chat—tell me a bit about yourself in your initial message (age, city/town, what you’re looking for) and include a body pic (I provided mine on my profile page)
    • After we exchange a few messages back and forth, we’ll set a mutually convenient time to video chat so we can see each other’s faces, talk a bit more, and determine if we’d like to proceed further
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    2024/11/30
    23:33 UTC

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    43 [M4R] Paoli Sub Who Loves to Dress to Impress

    It's been a while but I'm back and ready to dress and show off again. Feeling fresh and free at 5'6" and 150lbs. 30 inch waist and an ass that looks great in heels.

    I love to dress completely with beautiful lingerie, dress, makeup, wig, and heels.

    If you're into spanking I'd love to talk about that.

    I was active on here about a year ago or maybe more. I dropped all my accounts and deleted my photos if anyone still has any I'd love to get some back.

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    2024/11/30
    17:00 UTC

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    29 [M4F] # bucks county #warminster # greater philly, nice fit guy looking for a mistress to have fun with maybe fwb

    Im looking for a Mistress, something casual and long term for fun. im open to all types of connections and regular dates to bedroom fun. Happily will tell you more if you are interested , i can host if needed or get a hotel room for fun. please FEMALES ONLY. could also try mfm and ffm or fff fun

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    2024/11/30
    16:14 UTC

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    32 [M4F] #SouthPhilly - Amazing oral for you, no reciprocation needed

    Short and to the point, I’m looking to give amazing oral for as long as you need, no reciprocation needed. My mouth, tongue, lips, and fingers are all yours for your pleasure. About me: I’m an attractive 32 year old white male living in South Philly. This can be one-time or ideally recurring- up to you. I can be flexible, given my hybrid work schedule. And I am off next week. Hope to hear from you.

    PS- My other related interests include exploring forced orgasms, orgasm torture, and ruined orgasms if any of those appeal to you (but not required). And maybe making out too?

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    2024/11/30
    06:31 UTC

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    38 [M4F] #Media - Charming and fun guy seeking a woman to lick for hours on end

    If you like good conversation, not being rushed, and having your pussy expertly played with for hours, we should talk. I’m a giver who loves lots of sensual touch, plenty of foreplay, and giving women pleasure. Looking for a woman in the Philly area who loves being eaten out and is comfortable being the center of attention for our encounter. I also really enjoy giving massages if you’re into that.

    About me: 38 male, single, white, 5’11”, muscular and slightly chubby, disease free. I have my own place and can host or drive to you. Would prefer to meet for drinks or coffee first for a vibe check.

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    2024/11/30
    05:29 UTC

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    36 [M4M] #CenterCity - Discreet Non-Recip Oral for Straight & Curious Guys

    Hey! I'm looking to offer a no strings attached blowjob or straight or curious guys who just want to kick back and enjoy themselves. My only goal is to focus on your pleasure and not into recip. I enjoy taking my time and making sure you feel good in a discreet space.

    No pressure, no judgment, and most importantly a laid-back vibe. I host in Center City most days and evenings and would be fine with an FWB dynamic.

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    2024/11/30
    03:21 UTC

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    [28M/27F] [MF4A] #City of Philadelphia #Greater Philadelphia 🔥 bi/brown bouple in Philly seeking group play experiences

    Hey! We’re a cute bi and brown couple (28M & 27F) and we’re looking to meet some amazing, like-minded bi couples and bi singles to explore new experiences with! 🌟

    We're both excited to dive deeper into our sexuality and are open to exploring with other couples (ideally bi couples!) where we can all vibe and enjoy each other's company. We’re still new to exploring same-gender dynamics, but super eager to learn and grow together! 🌈

    We’re open to checking out events or meetups in the area, so if you know of any happening, let us know! Maybe we’ll see you there 😉

    If you’re in the area and excited to meet some chill, open-minded people, hit us up! We can’t wait to make some new connections and have fun together 💫

    Respect is key. Please don’t send unsolicited nudes or explicit pics – they’ll just get blocked. Let’s keep it fun and respectful!

    2 Comments
    2024/11/29
    23:10 UTC

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