I can only see how to hide it. Thanks in advance!

I haven’t offered couples bookings in a very, very long time but I think I’m ready to start again.

This is the guy I wanted to marry. This was my favorite relationship ever—we were unbelievably compatible. We were supposed to move in together this weekend, but the breakup happened just over a week ago.

I've been a sex worker for 12 years - mostly dancing and mainstream porn. I’ve only been escorting since early November, and he actually helped me get started—he paid for my Eros ad (I paid him back), helped me with photoshoots for my ads and OF, and even set me up on FetLife for promo marketing.

We also did duos together because he crossdresses for fun and advertised himself as an escort after I started. That part wasn’t weird for me, but I understand how it might be for others. He even encouraged me to use his apartment for incalls while he stayed at mine during my appointments. But I always felt like I was kicking him out, and over time, working at his place started to make me feel awful. Eventually, I began to hate being there. His apartment was the best option because consensual sex work in his county isn't prosecuted and I live in a different county.

Things really fell apart one weekend when he was trying to get business on Grindr. He went on an Adderall bender and, when he ran out, bought meth from someone on the app. He admitted it to me, and I made him flush it. Then, he asked me to take all of his girl clothes and get rid of them. After that, things went downhill. He started resenting my job and me seeing clients at his apartment. I told him I’d switch to working from a hotel, but he insisted I stay. I felt like I couldn’t win.

We broke up because I refused to quit all sex work like he asked as a contingency of us trying to work things out—and because he has a compulsion to constantly message people on Tinder, FetLife, Grindr, and Facebook Messenger for attention and validation. I told him I didn’t mind if it was for money, but I considered it emotional cheating when it wasn’t. He tried to turn it around on me, saying I texted clients in front of him to coordinate appointments.

Then he told me that if I didn’t quit escorting, he was going to open the relationship on his end. This was the complete opposite of when he first helped me get started, telling me he wanted to "slut me out" and help me "be the best hoe possible." A therapist suggested he has internalized homophobia and whorephobia, and after the meth incident, he started projecting that onto me.

It’s been a little over a week since we broke up, and I’ve seen four clients since. I’m keeping my schedule flexible because I don’t want to be alone, but I still feel like complete shit. I feel lonely even after appointments and usually cry.

I always told my ex that this is just a job—and I treat it that way. I dissociate, focus on professionalism, and don’t attach emotions to encounters. Nearly everything is fake. (I also work in mainstream porn under my stage name, so I’m used to playing a character during sex.)

But now, I don’t know how to keep seeing clients without thinking of him—without wishing it was him.

Even though I’ve been working, I’ve also canceled on three clients, losing $1,750. Mostly because I was crying too much, my eyes were too swollen, or I was too exhausted from depression.

I know I listed a lot of his flaws, but he also had amazing qualities that made me fall in love with him. I really thought he was “the one.”

I just don’t know how to keep doing this job without my feelings and heartbreak getting in the way.

Is it normal to offer CIM for high end in US?How do you keep them from CIM? If you allow it how do you spit it out without being awkward? Or is swallowing more of the norm?

I find it frustrating when guys ask me to verify myself. That’s what social media and OF are for. Do you ever make exceptions?

Hi everyone, very new to this subreddit and I love how supportive everyone is towards one another. I’ve been doing onlyfans for a year now and got my subs from streaming on cam sites. I’m tired of it and want to try escort services as I’ve had a sugar relationship and liked the quick money but the relationship part of it annoyed me. I live in Miami and have heart about yacht girls, clubs, etc. I have a TRYST account and wanted advice on other platforms/rates/etc. my onlyfans manager leased a car in my name (long stupid story) and so I have to make some cash quick to cover the monthly payments/rent. Do you get into sugar relationships on top of escort work? Thank you!!

Hey everyone! I’ll be traveling to these cities this month for a short trip, and I’d love to make some new connections. Whether it’s a coffee date, a bite to eat, or even a relaxing spa day, it would be great to have some company! If you’re interested, feel free to message me, and we can swap Twitters or something. 😉

Here are the cities I’ll be visiting: • Cleveland OH 2/12 • Philly 2/14 • Tysons 2/16-17 • Charlotte 2/19-20 • Nashville 2/22

Looking forward to meeting some lovely people along the way! 💕

I got 3 messages like this today….not identical but pretty much saying that I am too pretty for them to meet me, they need to build their confidence to meet someone like me. That they feel intimidated etc.

One time a guy even said “you’re so pretty you look like a scam”

Is this like a new lie??? I NEVER had this happen to me before. I was always an average girl. Yeah I got a nice body but like I am a solid 6, not more. I got no extensions or any cosmetic work done, my teeth are not perfect and my skin has all sorts of sun spots, stretch marks etc. I don’t even do my nails because I can’t be bothered! And I don’t hide anything.

I know the girls out there ARE 20/10!!! Long hair, hourglass bodies etc. I see their ads.

So these “rejections” got me all confused.

Can someone decode what does it mean? Are they fantasy booking? Or maybe they are very young?

Because it’s annoying and I want to avoid it in the future

Did anyone go last weekend and can give tips for next year? https://www.snowpolo-stmoritz.com/tournament-2025/40th-snow-polo-world-cup-st-moritz-2025/

i’m only on tryst and i’m wondering if there’s any advertising sites that have a lot of traffic in denver, boulder etc.

I was a FS escort for six years. I can't say the totality of my time being a sex worker was considered "high end" however — I crawled my way up. The last two years were bliss though — good clients, reliable income, private incall, and a solid accountant. I had the looks, and the energy to carry me through then.

That was five years ago, 2020 left me in shambles. I've since dealt with chronic health issues (auto-immune), a horrible relationship (with a former client), I now most certainly look my age at 39 y/o from the combined stress (whereas before I always looked significantly younger), plus I've had botched lipo that is likely irrepairable and has my abdominal area looking less than perfect, and I've gained a bit of weight.

My question to the community is: Is there still a place for me, should I come back? What's the climate like? Is review culture dead yet? Can I get by with just a website and Twitter? Also, I moved from Tampa to Kentucky, does anyone actually tour Louisville or am I better doing tours to more well know cities? I visit Tampa almost monthly, so that's a possibility.

It's been a rough go. I'm trying to pick up the pieces of my life right now. I was happy as a sex worker... sure the money could be touch and go at times, and a fair amount of the men are flawed, but mostly in the exact same way which made navigating those conversations easier.

I've seen this advice given here o'many a times, but just to reiterate, id never recommend going exclusive with one client! Keep something in your back pocket! I dread starting all over! It took YEARS to get to that sweet spot. I'm hopeful I can maneuver my way back to it easier this go (should this seem like a feasible fit for me, per your replies and advice).

Also, side bar, I use to make websites and do photoshoots for my local friends. It was fun! I was good at it and enjoyed it. Would that be something any of you could see as being impactful to the community or would I be wasting my time?

Anyone that offers this service ? How do you like it? what are your rules ? how many times do you see your client at week ?

Offering exclusive girlfriend experience for a whole month can seem like a relaxed commitment, but depends on the time and dedication, it also involves much more emotional investment .. i would like to know how your experience was like .

I can feel myself finally breaking & I don't know what to do because I'm in a position where I still have to do sw for about another 12-18 months. I cannot waittttt to get out of this industry, it is KILLING me. For context, I'm based in a relatively wealthy city & am at $1,200 ph. But no amount of 5 star hotels or Michelin restaurants is making it easier.

I DETEST all my clients with every fiber of my being. I cannot stand listening to their PATHETIC sob stories about how their wives "lost interest in sex" yeah I wonder why!! You're all insufferable & revolting!

Every time a client touches me I feel nothing but disgust & anger. I wish I was born into a better family that supported me & put me through college. I wish I had decent well-educated wealthy parents that guided me into a better lifestyle. I wish I had a normal job that didn't make me feel so utterly disgusting. Every time I watch some pathetic out of shape man squint his eyes & go red in the face whilst cumming, I feel such an intense disgust & hatred that I visibly grimace (lucky they're too wrapped up in their pathetic micro dick orgasm to notice).

I don't care how many gifts I receive, hell I wouldn't even care if one of them gave me a million dollars, I hate this job & can't WAIT to be free of it. I see so many sw's on X talking about how they love this job & like their clients etc, like are we fr??? How could we possibly enjoy having countless men touch us & put their dicks in our mouths??? Just how?? SW is HELL & I wish there was a way I could get out & never have another man touch me. I went on a 4 month hiatus but I feel no better.

Client wanted 2 hour date (it’s 2k) and I asked for 200 travel fee because he’s 1.5 hours away.

I believe he’s passing because of my request. How common is this?

I said it in the nicest way possible. Yikes. Even added “if that’s ok” which I don’t normally do.

Tbh I’d actually do it even without the travel fee, I just hate to have to eat up the costs all the time, so wanted to see if he was fine with it… but apparently not only is he not ok with it but wanted to pass altogether because of it!!

Jeez do people not say no in a nice way anymore ? It’s that or passing?

Where I live and work in (Las Vegas, NV) business has been okay but not anything like it was when I started doing this 6 years ago. I noticed a heavy increase in Asian providers (99% of them young, beautiful, enhanced boobs) posting their hourly rate very low, for my area (≈$200). This is particularly on Tryst, my main advertising platform.

I’ve heard multiple news stories in the last year or two about major busts made by LEO, which they stated that they contacted a girls number from online adverting and got a home address and started surveillance on the house resulting in arrests of men who ran what they described to be an “illegal brothel”. They interviewed the women which consistently said they were smuggled in from China through Mexico.

Also, I have heard via word of mouth from several different clients (from all over the US) about how they will typically visit massage parlors for their low rates. Some of these clients went into detail about the services offered at massage parlors and apparently it’s standard to get BBFS for $500 or less. $500 would be the absolute maximum price with the average being anywhere from $300-$400, from what I have been told by these clients. I assume the women must be under some sort of force or pressure and likely were also smuggled into the US, because if they were citizens and didn’t have a gun to their head or their ID/passport stolen by the people who run the massage parlor, why wouldn’t they make a run for it, considering the risks of BBFS being offered to anyone with an extra hundred or two hundred bucks. Typically I hear that the rates are low $200-$400 and for more than just a happy ending, such as bare services, all the men are required to do is tip $100-$200+ and then they receive bare services from these women.

Maybe this is something far fetched completely, and I do not agree with Trump’s views on abortion and other major topics, but the fact that he tightened up the laws regarding the Mexican border could really benefit some of us High End girls in big cities. Less likely to have so many massage parlors as our competitors bringing down rates for us girls who don’t offer BBFS to anyone with $100-$200 tip.

I have nothing against immigrants or massage parlors but anyone offering a bare service for a small fee is bringing down the entire community of escorts. That is bad practice.

I have slowly noticed a decreasing amount of Asian providers posting on tryst with low rates over the last few weeks and also noticed a slight increase in business at the same time. Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts, insights agreements, or disagreements on the topic of Trump’s immigration policy being better for those who are already in the US working as escorts (my thought would be this affects those particularly in bigger cities, but maybe it will affect smaller cities too?)

My first thoughts of this were from a popular forum on usasexguide.nl where a poster stated “And you people want to shut the border, that will limit your Asian and Hispanic pool of possible f**k buddies. Let the Chinese girls in they are a needed commodity here in Vegas. 20-30 guys every day need to bang someone. For all you guys with an Asian fetish keep that border open so new talent can rotate through Vegas” and the same poster linked this article from local 8 news now https://www.8newsnow.com/investigators/illegal-las-vegas-brothel-raided-men-accused-of-smuggling-chinese-women-into-u-s/

Looking for high end massage+fs spas that have FS rates going from $450-600 and only take a cut via room fees from the client in the Vancouver region or anywhere in British Columbia. Helpppp a girl out. 😩

I’m not discouraged as I know it takes time but I’m based in UK & I just feel like the clients here SUCK ! I know I shouldn’t compare myself to others & it’s something I’m trying not to do / actively working on but most of the girls on twitter that I see are getting FMTY’s and I know some are fake and obviously book their own trips but it seems like you know everyone’s getting tricked off off and I’m not even there yet…I got my Tryst and website with amazing professional photos and I’m just don’t seem to be getting clients that I want. I don’t get ANY messages on Tryst & my Adultwork is down. I was told my prices were too high (the men are so cheap in London) I charge £300 per hour on directory sites and £500 per hour on my own Independent sites. Men expect all services for £150 and it’s so annoyingly ridiculous & I refuse to lowball myself I know my worth. I have my regulars and some cool new ones but I want the really good generous ones.

How long do you think this will take ? Im turning 24 & I’ve been in the game 3 years. How do I build following on twitter organically ?

SW from 🇨🇦 here. I am travelling to Paris and might do a photoshoot there. I am planning to bring my laptop, personal phone and some lingerie.

I travelled to Paris 2 years ago and it was fine. I had a few pictures of myself in lingerie and Protonmail. On my personal phone, I currently have a lot of screenshots and stuffs SW-related and on my laptop, my SW pictures are all in folders. I want to be able to study on the plane or during my 1 week stay.

I know it’s not the US, but just want to know if it’s generally safe?

P.S. I’m leaving my work phone at home as I’m not really planning to work there and I do have a “clean” personal phone I bought on FB marketplace for when I travel to NYC.

Hi!

I'm planning a tour next month in DC and noticed that my P411 ad isn't generating hits like it usually does in other cities. Is there another advertising platform that's used in DC? Thanks in advance for any advice :)

I am very grateful but I really have to push myself to do them. I find them stressful and I hate having to spend the night with someone I hardly know. I’m also an introvert and I need a lot of alone time. Anyone else ?

What’s your opinion on charging more for vacation arrangements due to the increased risks of being in a foreign country or offering deep discounts for multi-day arrangements?

I haven’t been getting bookings on my PD for a while.. is PD good for anyone? And if it is what cities/states?

So, I have a client who is 4 hours away from me. I thought it would be best to fly, and he’s willing to fly me to him. Our date is only 4 hours though, and for a flight you can’t stay and leave the same day

So it sounds like a hassle logistics-wise…

I thought of turning it into a tour, but he wants to see me close to Valentine’s Day, so hotels would be an insane amount and then I’d have no idea if I’ll even get other clients, while also not being in the comfort of my home, and with nothing to do :/

It feels like a lot of work and then I’m worried about the logistics with the flight/hotel, feels like I’d be stuck waiting for hours for a 4 hour date

Hi! New account here as I realize my typical is a tad too identifying for me to post here.

Anywho.

I would love to book a photographer or hire a fellow escort with a creative eye to help me out with taking some photos! I am just starting out (extensive history sugaring though) so I’m a tad overwhelmed with the huge range/style of shoots and poses and outfits and lingerie etc etc. I’m super petite/slim-thick (think Sabrina carpenter) so I’m really hoping to find someone who could work with my angles well and take a few flattering photos.

I’ve done my best to use the search in this sub and the broader one for our kind but the lists for SF/Bay Area photographers seem a bit outdated. I’m waiting to hear back from some more mainstream (in this industry) names but would love to explore all my options and get a little guidance.

Thank you! ❤️

I do stripper slide on clients i am comfortable with and it has a 99% return/repeat client rate when i offer it. If you offer it do you have a high rate of clients returning back or you don’t offer it at all?

Hi! I want to do a tour in Paris and am wondering what the most common websites are? I’ve heard of m.6announce.net, adult work, euro girls escort, and lady xena. Not sure if any of these are outdated or if I’m missing any major ones.

I do high end pricing in NYC (800/hr) and am willing to go lower to match more standard rates in France, if anyone has any intel on what standard French rates are I’d much appreciate it! I do full service GFE but am also open to kink and FBSM which, here in the states, tends to be lower rates. I have worked in parts of Europe before and have had some French clients so I know there are some different practices, but any info would be helpful!

How the hell does anyone make money in New York?

I’ve been considering touring here, but there’s about 2500 profiles on tryst. It would be very difficult to get your profile seen even if you paid for premium.

I want to be a flight attendant, I heard they do full background checks including finances/credit. I’m worried bc of my deposits, payments and idk my credit score. I also have been unemployed for years.. just doing sw. Is this too risky for me to try? I do want to stop escorting. I’m over it.

Sharing this info is embarrassing but I’ve been living utr for years…