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Hi all, so I have been seeing a client regularly for sometime and he is into the media/ film industry or you can say a writer. He is ~50 years, has a son and divorced. He asked me about getting married and become his wife, leave SW and take care of house or do some other job. He also offered ~$10k for my monthly expenses of shopping and eating out, etc. which is less than what I definitely earn right now. Need some guidance from my SW family on what I should do.

This month has been terrible and stressful for me. I only saw a few clients this month and recently dislocated my arm and now I'm on my period. Also I've been having a lot of stange health issues recently and think maybe I need to stop seeing certain clients that are rough bc I think they are putting a physical and mental strain on me to the point where I can't work now. I have a booking scheduled for tonight. I really need the money to pay my bills but I'm not sure how to do this booking without putting pressure on my shoulder because I was just in the hospital from my arm being dislocated. What are some ways to reduce the risk of me not hurting myself?

The booking will be 1 hour or may be extended to 2 hours My plan was to just:

1. try to talk and tease most of the booking, he invited me to get drinks at the bar as well so it may be easier to stall.
2. try to make him sit somewhere where I can easily give a bj without laying on the bed
3. staying on top to have control and not put pressure on my arm.
4. tell him I have pain on my shoulders and not to touch the area. without saying the real cause. ( I don't feel comfortable saying this bc I don't want certain type of clients to think I'm hurt or whatever)

I'm really scared I don't want to put my health at risk but I need to pay my bills and I want to be able to leave the us for some time to see my family outside of the us.

I'm based in Philadelphia and don't know anyone else who's in the industry; I'd love to be able to talk about stuff with someone who also gets it!

Also looking to do some tours in the coming weeks/months and would love someone to travel with or do duos. I'm safe, sane and professional and would love to make some other provider friends to support and lift each other up as well as brainstorm ways to make our individual businesses/brands even stronger. DMs are open, thanks!

I’m currently unemployed and doing escorting. But the income fluctuates a lot so might be considering looking for a full time job.

What else besides of escorting do you do?

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Looking for upscale work for photo edits and site creation! Thank you!

Help, I’m supposed to be back home in 8 days! It’s going to cost the about $5,000. I haven’t gotten a single bite from leolist or tryst(I just got approved and I’m on the standard plan) even if I wanted to upgrade I don’t have any resources coming in. I have full professional pictures with a very big photographer. everyone loves my pictures on Twitter( I have over 6,000 followers) so I don’t get it! It’s been 3 weeks and I’ve only gotten 1 booking I hate it here.

Hey everyone,

I’m in a bit of a dilemma and could really use some honest advice. Here’s some context: I’ve been in a committed long-distance relationship with my whale boyfriend since 2020, and things are a bit (ALOT) complicated.

*skip to TDLR if this is too long!!

We met when I was just starting to build my brand in the SW world. He booked an overnight, we hit it off, and we’ve been essentially inseparable ever since. At the time, we were in neighboring states, but now I’m clear across the country for work. We see each other every two weeks, and vacation together at least once a quarter. He’s been an incredible support during a time of transition in my life—he pays my rent, bought me a car, and we frequently travel on luxury getaways/outings/dining experiences together. He treats me like a princess and dotes on me and gives me all the love and attention in addition to the luxury. I truly care about him, I love him and I’m grateful for everything he’s done.

However, despite the financial stability he provides, I’ve realized I’m not building any significant savings or a nest egg for the future. While I’m covering my bills, I feel like I’m stagnating financially and personally. I’m also getting a bit bored. I recently quit my day job to focus on grad school to advance my career, but I’m wondering if getting back into escorting part-time could help me increase my income and accelerate my financial goals.

Some additional context that might help: Earlier this year, my boyfriend told me that he doesn’t envision a conventional future with me, like marriage or a traditional family, because he doesn’t want to get old in my eyes. That hit me harder than I expected, and it stuck with me. Fast forward to this summer, I went to visit family in Italy solo and ended up getting physical with someone else (nothing serious, no sex). When I told him, I explained that after his confession for our future, I realized I’d been so focused on building with him and building my career that I might be missing out on certain life experiences- if we were to break up tomorrow, I feel like I would be a divorcee that doesn’t know how to date.

Excitedly, he recently gave me a ring. It isn’t an engagement ring, but a symbol of our commitment.It turns out he had bought the diamond last year and we just created the custom ring together this year. Again, he’s been clear that he doesn’t see marriage in the traditional sense, but wearing the ring gives me comfort, especially given the age gap (I’m in my early 30s, and he’s 25 years older) I also think my incident in Italy shook him up - I think subconsciously I told him about Italy wanting to shake some something up in him not that I did it on purpose, but it’s almost like I wanted him to realize that he was taking me for granted in some ways. I believe I pressured him about a ring or a symbol of our commitment, feeling insecure about his earlier confession and generally my life transition caused insecurities that made me so consumed with the idea of a ring, he decided to jump the gun and give me one.

Last bit of context, I have met his youngest son being introduced as a “friend”. His remaining family does not know about me nor mine about him, although I have mentioned his name. He has met some of my acquaintances and colleagues. I only wear the ring when I am with him or around trusted friends, I don’t wear it when I’m around my family bc again,they don’t know about him.

**TDLR: Now, with the new year approaching, I’m considering going back to escorting on the side to build more financial independence and savings. I’m not sure if it’s worth the risk, though. My boyfriend would NOT be thrilled if he found out. I know he’s browsed escort sites in the past as he’s looked for threesome partner for us. I’d want and need to be extremely discreet, but at the same time, I feel like I could use the money to build a future that’s not entirely dependent on him.

So here’s my question: Should I pursue this side hustle to focus on my financial growth and independence, or should I put it aside and focus on the commitment I have with him? Is it worth risking potentially losing him, or should I prioritize my financial future and personal growth over this relationship?

I know this is a lot to digest, and I appreciate anyone who’s willing to weigh in! I would also appreciate being connected with other ladies who may have been in this dynamic before or currently in this kind of a dynamic so I feel less alone.

Thanks in advance for your advice!

A prospective client wants a FMTY to Indianapolis. I live in Honolulu where the prosecutor announced several years ago that his office would no longer prosecute escorts or massage parlors (unless there’s trafficking or minors involved).

What is the legal situation in Indiana? Are there likely to be more clients there if I were to add on a tour in Tryst and Slixa?

We all know seeking is full of cheap John’s that want to exploit women.

High end escorting is nice and like night and day from being on seeking dealing with cheap John’s but I genuinely wish I had a REAL sugar daddy that spoiled me / traveled with me / kept me on a nice steady allowance.

And of course, while I keep escorting. Just that being high end, most of my bookings are 1-3 hours and it’d be very doable to balance it out with a real sugar daddy.

Has anyone found a real SD? And where did you find him?

I faintly remember that one (or more) of you had this, but I can’t find the old posts.

It’s not always possible for me to grab sneaky looks at the alarm. If I used the same playlist each time I could remember which song was at the 30 min mark and which at the 45 min mark.

I want to preface this by saying I am UK based so the culture is vastly different here

You can check my history post I got a comment from a 40+ y/o SW on reddit telling me off because deposit scammers drive down the market rather than increase it and That the new age of SW have essentially ruined business to which I replied and then it was comment deleted. She was saying she doesnt need to take deposit because her screening process is soooo through that whenever she posts an ad she has back to back bookings 😂😂😂

Anyways her comments about that make me wonder how High End Escorts feel about deposit… I only care for what you think as its where Im headed and I most most premium girls are deposit or get out of my face sort of thing If I am correct.

I feel this will change geographically but are you team deposit or no deposit? And why

Im on the fence here is why on one hand asking for deposits mean that you are compensated to a degree, for your efforts no matter what. It’s safety and security Thats the obvious reason it weeds out TW and fantasists which I hate. It also pushed those who are on the fence to make their decision or go.

However the biggest set backs are “cant do that” , feeling like youre missing game because of this policy. I also find that most the guys I screen that reject my deposit policy usual have Tw tendencies anyways. Like asking excessive questions or being too on the fence because they’re skeptical In real It doesn’t make sense to waive deposits when this game is mostly TW regardless

I did read through some posts here which say personal intuition goes a long way and I agree! Maybe it should be a person to person basis and depending on how high the stakes are e.g if they are a model client who screens perfectly being more lenient vs if they are younger, hesitant, rude or lacking information during the initial contacting

I had posted an opinion that we control the market and that everything SHOULD be our way or no way as we are both the supply and the demand and yet… when I made a comment stated deposits should be standard across the board I got slated by a SW who claimed to be a veteran so now Im not sure.

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS LADIES??? *sorry for the typos Im too tired to edit you get the flow

Anyone have experience with Le VIP collection?

Venmo requires your nickname to match the card you are transferring the money to….. even if you were to briefly change it to your real name just to transfer it and then change it back again, you can only do this once in forever because it limits the amount of times you can change your name

I keep trying to connect my bank and it’s also failing… probably also because of the name issue. Perhaps I should’ve done this before I started having clients send me money but it’s too late now. Maybe this is how it worked for other providers?

Here is my issue…. My last 2 clients were literally only able to send me the money via Venmo…… I could’ve asked for an Amazon gift card but I’m tired of not being able to use the money for bills. I want real money I can use.

So it’s hard for me to not accept Venmo when I don’t have another alternative for being transferred real money :/. These fuckers always have an issue with cash app

Just bought myself a full length mink fur coat with black leather trimming in perfect condition for $1,200 (originally $2,500 consignment, original sale price close to $10k) with two other lower end coats and a pair of cowgirl boots thrown in essentially for free. It’s a consignment shop off the beaten path in Carmel-by-the-Sea, only open Saturdays or by appointment only. If you pay cash she doesn’t charge tax. If you make a big purchase (like my coat), she will discount the hell out of everything else. Pay all cash? I bet you can score an even better deal.

Not going to publish the name publicly out of discretion. DM me if interested. I’m not on SM much ATM so please forgive slow response. They do ship, so if you’re confident in your measurements and ability to make high quality purchase online, go for it. The shop owner was a sweetheart and really goes out of her way to make the customer happy. I’m a bumpkin trying to upgrade my brand and style and she gave me a good 15 minute intro on how to care for fur and make it last a lifetime.

Very excited to have a high end coat I can wear to an upscale outcall with only lingerie underneath. And wear to amazing events. And — as a former outside dwelling poor person — survive all cold temperatures in. I can literally live in this coat if I need to, but the real goal was to procure something amazing for a big brand revamp for Year 2 of this business.

Happy holidays 😘

I’m seriously just going nuts hoping a booking request comes through

Does anyone have any locations in Los Angeles that they absolutely loved doing their shoots in? Looking for recs. Thanks!

Does anyone have good practical advice for thriving through the holiday period? I have winged it most years, but would prefer to keep things flowing consistently this year. Please note, I’m looking for constructive tips and professional feedback from people informed by proven experience/ results only! Blessings and thanks 🙏🏽

I know high end varies by location but IMO if you’re U.S based, you’re high end if you start at least at 1k/hr

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If you’re single, do you hook up in your personal life? If so, who and why? If not, also why?

I’m asking because I generally have not felt the need to but I recently have hooked up with someone that I’m very attracted to and I’m just navigating my way.

Ty x

Any ladies here working in Switzerland? I’m European and thinking to move to work to Zurich, but don’t know where to start. I have worked in Dubai and Toronto but Europe seems more difficult to be in high-end range. I have so many questions… would like to hear from you and connect, thank you!

Wondering if anyone here has dealt with sebaceous hyperplasia (might be a long shot, not sure how common it is). I’m starting to develop it on my forehead and feeling self-conscious about it when I’m with clients and in photos. If anyone here has dealt with it, could you share what treatments/management tools have been effective for you? I’m willing to pay for expensive treatments to get rid of the bumps (though I know more might appear over time).

Also, does anyone have recommendations for quality facials in Los Angeles? I am in my early 30’s and want to start investing more into my skincare to help with my longevity in the industry.

Thank you!

You can send me a DM of recommendations too. Thanks!

I've decided to host a branding challenge to help other SW with their branding. It's free to sign up, the link is at the bottom of this post.

I'm running a 5-day branding challenge running December 2-6, 2024. I'll be sending out emails daily guiding ladies through a branding worksheet. Joining the challenge includes access to a group chat for supporting and accountability, and a branding worksheet based off what I share with photographers and marketers I work with.

In my experience, I've been the most successful when I have strong branding. Because when I have a strong brand, it gets client to say "hell yes" to me and gets clients to see me again and again.

If you want to review your branding -- or just connect with other sex workers who are interested in such things -- I welcome you to join the challenge

Link to join the challenge: https://leijla-foss.eo.page/branding-challenge

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I live in Texas and in a city that requires a paid pass to list in PD, and I'm high-end (800-900/hr). It seems like the providers I see on PD are more low-mid range and there's no way for clients to filter by rate. Do other high-end providers outside of the west coast find success with PD? Does it get you more FMTYs from other cities?

I want to plan my first tour…

First, should I also add a number to my ad during the tour or stick to email? And also, how many days in each city would you suggest for a first tour?

Any suggestions when touring?

For the past few years my cover story for people who don't know about this side of my life has been that I’m a remote executive assistant. However, my parents have asked a few pointed questions about why I travel so frequently, and I’m starting to wonder if they're suspicious about this lifestyle. What fake jobs or cover stories do you all use to stay under the radar?

I’m based in Toronto and travel frequently across different provinces, but lately, I’ve been wanting to take things to the next level. Traveling is my passion—I’ve visited five countries this year alone—but I’m starting to feel burned out from having to come back home and work hard just to make up for the costs.

What I really want is to be able to travel and work at the same time. I’ve seen many women working in places like Singapore, Australia, and the UK, but since I don’t have any friends in the industry, I’m not sure where to begin. I know of a few websites, but I’m unclear on which hotels are friendly to SWs or how the screening process even works.

I don’t currently have a website, but I’m starting to think that creating one might be essential if I want to start touring internationally.