How do you feel providing something so intimate and personal with a stranger? Does pregnancy scare you? How do you avoid attaching to clients after sex? I heard girls release a bonding chemical during sex so wouldn’t that affect you?

Obviously every region and everyone are different and there's cultural nuances etc.

Do you as a SW have a general blanket rule where you don't take clients from a particular demographic? If so, why?

Context: a SW friend of mine in London told me she doesn't take Indian men over 40 due to the risk that they might know her father.

In 2024, I frequently visited or ordered escort ladies. My question to you, ladies, is: why did many of these escorts ask to spend private time with me? I’m convinced that I’m good-looking, but there are plenty of men who are even more attractive. Some of these women have become really good friends, and the crazy thing is—they don’t even want my money.

Some of them have written to me, asking to go out, come over for free, just to hang out. In some cases, I agreed, and in others, I canceled. But what could be the reasons that would motivate an escort to spend time with me? Am I just that likable?

As I mentioned, in 2024, I spent time with about 8 or 9 escort ladies in a friendly way—of course, also involving sex—but I never paid them anything or, like buying them clothes or giving them money directly.

Have you ever built a friendly relationship with a client? If so, what was the reason?

So, for context this happened back in fall of 2022. I just recently discovered this sub and thought I might see if you all could help me shed some insight. I was and still am a virgin. It's mainly due to autism and living in a rural area but those details aren't important. I happened to be in a large city one night and decided to lose my v-card to an escort. She appeared to be in her late 30 or early 40s, and was asking $300 (I think) plus the cost of the hotel room. Not incredibly expensive I know, but it wasn't dirt cheap either. From the little bit of research I'd done, it seemed a reasonable price for a mid-teir provider for the area. We also FaceTimed about an hour before the appointment and she seemed completely normal. When I arrive at the motel, I greet her, we make small talk for a minute then we proceed to walk into the lobby where I payed for the room. Again, indont get any weird vibes. We then walked back to the room and she asked that I go take a shower. I had already showered but read on r/sexworkers that this was very common and had no issue with it. As I was showring, I heard a car leave but paid it no mind as vehicles were coming and going from this. I got dressed and saw she wasn't in the hotel room. I figured she was outside smoking as she did have a cigarette when I arrived. No dice. I then go ask the desk clerk if seen my friend. He said no. I then relazied she had conned me. The strange part is, she had many reviews on TER and similar websites. Now, I couldn't see what they said because I was and am not a member because of concerns about my card being hacked and the sites legality and ethics but if over 30 clients had reviewed her, they couldn't all be negative? Wouldn't people see the reviews and avoid this scammer? I've wondered what could have happened. If she was legitimate and had an emergency, if she was being trafficked, if this was some long running con. Any insight would be appreciated. I haven't hired an escort again due to this and other concerns.

😔 how is business looking for you guys? Is US sinking? Should I be hoarding cash now?

Thank you.

Hey everyone, I’ve been considering SW since 2020. I did only fans for a little while from 2021 to 2022 only because I got into a relationship and end up pregnant and had a child now 2025. I am ready to leave the father of my child. I can’t take it no more but unfortunately, we have things tied like an apartment. And since dealing with this man, I’m in a lot of debt due to him and my personal situations from the past I need a lot of money right now to pay off the debt and to move, so it will be the best time to start escorting The only thing is that I am afraid of the what if like what if someone r4pe me or worse that’s the only thing that’s not making my feet move? I did a lot of research on it as well.

Sorry I’m rambling but my question is how do you get out that fear dealing with first time client???

A year ago I met a provider that I did't see coming. It was one of those surprise chemistry dates that has prolonged in the best way. 9 months ago During the 'getting to know you' phase, she mentioned her affinity for National Parks so I booked a specific weekend trip to witness a natural phenomenon that only takes place 2 weeks out of the year in February. Over the course of those 9 months we've spent many regular dates, overnights and weekends together. During that time she offered me an arrangement (just to illustrate how close our relationship was developing). Now, for the high end providers, you understand the 5 figure impact that a weekend has on your wallet.

I told her that I had developed strong feelings for her and because of that, I had to cancel our weekend trip. I was scared of getting too close and she told me that she didn't want to convince me to be with her, so she said she blocked me.

This trip is 5 weeks away.

I didn't want to stop seeing her. I just wanted to pump the brakes on trips/weekends b/c there're so draining when we separate.

I didn't want to cancel this trip and now I feel like I'm the asshole for some reason? I felt 5 weeks was a respectful amount of time to arrange a schedule? AITA?

I’m about to post my ad on Eros as I’m having a lot of difficulty with Tryst for whatever reason but ready a few comments here about it not being worth the 200+ $$$ to post the ad as the site is a scam? Is this true?? Please let me know, I’d like to post asap!

I think most SW’s live a double life in fear of this happening. I once had a male friend confront me about it. Apparently, he was looking at escort ads and saw me.

I’m on my last city of my tour and heard charlotte was a good way to finish but I’m not sure about my current area and wanna relocate but not sure where the most safest area or the most lucrative need help asap!

It seems like the large majority of South and Central American sw's are from Colombia, Venezuela, the DR and Brazil. Why is that? I rarely come across SW's from Mexico, Peru, Uruguay, Argentina, Guatemala, Nicaragua and Ecuador, many of which have similar GDPs (Venezuela excepted) and large immigrant populations. PS, I am in NYC.

I really enjoy kissing and licking armpits. How do I bring this up with a provider and at what stage? Is this a fairly common fetish?

Hey, I have a live video session scheduled today, but I haven’t been able to get all the items my client requested (a dildo & lingerie). He already paid a deposit, and I don’t want to disappoint him, but I also don’t want to overpromise.

How do I best handle this situation with him? Should I be upfront, offer alternatives, or reschedule? Any advice would be really appreciated.

Basically in my personal life, I would ask permission before I did anything (consent is sexy), and with a provider I would clarify this before the service began. But I know some things are just inappropriate to even ask about, and I should know better to not think it was something provided. What is your all's experience? I am talking finishing (ejaculating) on the provider from the neck down, degrading facials isnt my thing (no kink shame, just not my cup of tea).

Wat would be a minimum booking for a 6h (3h each way) round-trip by plane?

I'm thinking a 16h overnight? My overnights are usually 12h, but I've only did them locally + 2h maximum by train.

I don't really know how to decide, I would like to know how you do things please.

Thank you!

How do SW feel being approached on Reddit as opposed to the usual websites? Wondering if this is an appropriate way to find providers as the usual sites (in my area atleast) seem to not have legit women

Hey ladies I just moved down to the island what's up with work down here how should I go about posting I Need to work help a girl out

I'm 25 and still a virgin. I originally wanted to lose my virginity in a relationship but I haven't had any luck with dating and haven't encountered any man that would want a serious relationship with me. My virginity is also seen as a red flag at my age, and I want to have some experience so I'm not a burden to future partners. Might seem irrelevant, but I'm a Black woman which has contributed to my dating struggles as well. We are expected to be sexually confident and dominant and I'm the complete opposite. I'm more demure and "white-washed" if that makes sense.

I've been told to get on dating apps and lose it from a casual hookup but the risks of that are high and I want to actually enjoy my first time so I have no regrets, which I'm more likely to with a professional.

Providers, what are your criteria for labeling a client (male or female) old/young? I mean, are there certain traits in a person, whether sexual or non-sexual, that make you immediately think they are distinctively old/young?

So far I’ve had my most 4 recent reviews never posted and I don’t see them on the clients page anymore either. This all started when I got my first bad review and I wrote to PD about it. Why would they not be posting my new reviews now?

Looking for input from people who are regularly intimate with males over 40. This seems like it fits the bill. Do you notice a difference in how heat - and let's define this specifically as a room above ~76°F; hotter than "room temperature" - affects erectile function for clients above and below 40(ish)? I'm not looking for medical advice (nods to rule 13) just curious if this is a known phenomenon in relevant circles. I trust you all to be more honest than r/askmen or whatever. LOL Thanks!

I’m an early 20’s virgin in the US. I’ve found it hard to find any success with romance/dating due to being neurodivergent and having a physical disability.

I’ve decided to seek an escort because of this, but I’m not sure what would be the best option for me. To be clear, I understand that no two escorts are the same, I’m just seeking broader input.

To preface, I know that it’s fairly common for clients under 25/30 to not even be accepted.

I was thinking about finding someone closer to my own age (early-mid 20s) due to the fact that it helps with the fantasy of being with a peer of mine. However, since they are younger I am worried that they won’t be as comfortable with my nervousness due to my own inexperience.

Or should I see someone older (late 20s-beyond) since they’re more experienced? To be clear, I’m not saying that these women are old, just in terms of my own age/life experience.

Due to my disabilities I have grown to disliked being humored/pitied. While I understand that at the end of the day that this is a service I’m paying for, and that she most likely not going to be physically attracted to me, I would hope she doesn’t find me ugly and have to grin her teeth and bear it. Does that make sense?

So should I not bother seeing one at all? Since the fantasy of being desirable is the major aspect of the service?

I am interested in contacting a provider in a large city (US) I have seen on Tryst for a massage. This is my first time so I’m nervous. She has no screening process other than reaching out via text. She also has no social media linked. She has a lot of TER reviews going back years, and does appear to have reviews on another related site. Prices appear to be the same as other massage providers. Does this seem legit/safe? I have read the FAQs and this seems to fall in between a green flag and a red flag.

There’s been a few girls who offered bb but tells me they’re not on BC but I do it anyways. Always makes me paranoid if I get her pregnant so why do they do this?

As the title alludes to, do providers "freestyle" on dating websites? While swiping along on tinder saw and profile the looked very similar to a pd post. Could be civie life as well....

So my partner came up with the idea of making a post on a fetish site to see if there was anyone interested in having group sex with us on a specific night coming up. Due to timing, I've realized that it would be more convenient to hire an escort and skip the "getting to know you process".

My partner often stresses about money and I'd honestly like to hide this expense from her. We are both non-judgemental and have close friends who do various forms of sex work, so I know she wouldn't have an issue with being with an escort - but she may stress about the cost.

So my question is: Would it be disrespectful to ask the worker if she wouldn't mind not disclosing she's a worker to my partner, and is someone that I met off a fetish site? I don't know what confidentiality looks like in the industry and I don't want to risk insulting the worker by accident. Is it okay to ask her?

Hi everyone, is a $50 VS gift card and $50 an appropriate amount for $450 hr service, and what is recommended for $275 an hr service? Thank for your input!

I expect it’s annoying if strangers (potential clients) are constantly asking if you provide X, when you don’t advertise it but I’m curious if there’s a right way for a regular to approach the subject?  Or is just “don’t do it”

Part of me wants to respect the list of services advertised to avoid offending and possibly lose out on future sessions but does being a regular change that?  [Talking about year plus regulars here]

I know it could be one of those “just ask” things but I wanted some opinions.  Is it just a polite decline or do you keep certain services in reserve depending on client history?

I should add that I wouldn’t be expecting any favours from these providers.  If the unadvertised service did mean paying extra, that would be completely fine.  It's just a question of whether asking in the first place is bad form?

Hi! I'm looking to have a threesome experience and decided to engage escorts for this. Several reasons like first time, hesitant to approach friends and so on.

Anyways, I tried the direct approach and asked a couple of escorts for a 2-3 hours 3some date. My exact words were "I am very curious about a 3some and would also like to experience one. Do you have any friends or associates that you work with and are comfortable with to have a 3some? Also, just so you know, I am open to undergo any tests if needed."

Mind you, at this stage I did not really discuss the details of how I would see the date happening. I thought I'd first find out if they are open to it or not. Some of them refused the 3some, which is understandable, but some just told me not to contact them again and blocked me on whatsapp.

This left me wondering if there was something wrong in my approach. Could I have this done better? Any advice on how I should go about this?

Accidentally outed myself to my housemates on a call for work. Involved me saying touring, health screening, my worker name etc. I thought they weren’t home. How do I deal with this? I am a bit concerned with getting kicked out, but the general awkwardness of it all makes me remarkably anxious and scared.