My husband has been working 2 jobs the past months since we got pregnant right after college and didn’t have much savings. I appreciate all the work he has done and all the love and support he’s been giving me. However, because he works a lot it’s been hard to spend some time together. One time we were watching a movie and then his friends called him and he told them “I’m not doing anything” and made plans to meet with them right away, he forgot about me and just left immediately. Today, we made plans after he was done with his shift (he is a bartender on the weekends), we were supposed to go have early breakfast in a new place. He just told me he is going to an after-party after work. Idk if I'm overreacting or hormones but I can’t stop crying. We made plans and I’m 9 months pregnant so I really wanna spend time with him because after the baby comes, it will be better but different. On top of that, I’m 9 months pregnant and his phone is low on battery so who tf am I supposed to contact him if he goes to an after-party? Am I overreacting? 😭 I know we can spend time together later but every time it feels like I’m not a plan when he has better plans.

Note: Sorry for grammar errors, English is my second language. He is for sure not cheating btw.

My mind is in an extremely anxious state right now so I’m just going to summarize my situation:

• 25F with stable career
• don’t live with my boyfriend (25M), we’ve been together 2 years, not engaged, not married
• have had 2 abortions already in the last 4 years (1 was with my ex)
• based on my most recent abortion my boyfriend is probably not ready (and neither am I) to be parents, however I am 99% keeping it
• I ideally want to be married first but at this point that’s not gonna happen lol

Anyways I am terrified that keeping a baby will cause issues between my boyfriend and I, as we are young and have a lot we want to accomplish prior to kids. However he has always expressed he wants to be a younger dad, and I also want to be a younger mom (I don’t want to be too old when my kids are growing up, and due to some health issues, it’s safer for me to have kids younger). I really want to have a baby, and I think I can totally manage it but I’m scared of this making our lives extremely difficult and it being too much of a drastic change, which may drive us apart. I trust my boyfriends intentions with me, but difficult scenarios can make love fall apart and I am so scared of being a single mom one day - I want more than anything just to have a complete family, and I’m terrified that this is going to cause too much stress and it won’t work out. Am I overthinking things ? Has anyone else had a similar situation?

Growing up I didn’t really go to the doctor and even as an adult I’ve always just roughed it out when in pain bc it seems “easier”

As a result idk what qualifies for an ER visit. Im about 14w pregnant and have been coughing, sneezing, runny nose, sore throat just like an average cold. Took a covid test and it was negative.

My issue is

1. it’s been 2 weeks and im not getting better
2. I’ll wake up in the middle of the night and cough until I puke
3. I have no energy less than what I’ve had for the entire first trimester

I see lot of posts on this sub about struggling with the first trimester, etc, and I'm just wondering if anyone else has gone through their pregnancy with absolutely no symptoms? Or had them develop a lot later?

I'm 15w+6 today and am yet to really have any pregnancy symptoms. I work 9 hour shifts at a physical job 4-5 days a week and do swimming on the side to stay active and haven't had to alter anything as of yet to accomodate the changes of pregnancy (except recently my pant size and the obvious things like certain foods, alcohol, etc).

If I didn't have a small baby bump or hadn't taken a pregnancy test, which was lucky I had as I actually only took one to humour a post a friend sent to me (as we had stopped testing due to disappointment from negative tests following multiple losses) I wouldn't even know I'm pregnant.

I'm not concerned as baby is healthy and all of our blood tests, the NIPT, ultrasounds, etc have been perfect - just curious if anyone can relate to this experience, this will be my first baby and it's strange not having any symptoms as they are all talked about so much and it seems to be most people's experience.

TIA :)

i am about 7 weeks in and i am struggling bad. for context im a restaurant manager and my hours are brutal, also i haven’t told anybody yet so im trying to keep it on the down low. but i am struggling something awful with fatigue and nausea. my doctor prescribed my b6 and unisom but i dont feel like it’s helping. i know the worst is yet to come and wondering how yall survive the day. 🩷

I really need support/motivation.

I'm 7 weeks. One week ago, I woke up and was hit with a 2x4 of nausea and vomiting. I couldn't keep the B6 and unisom down to even try it so they gave me Zofran (which I'm nervous about). But I guess keeping anything down is more important than the zofran risk. It's only been a week. I threw up broth today. BROTH. Not even full on soup with noodles! That's what I get for trying to do a day without the zofran. I vomited so hard I burst blood vessels under my eyes.

How am I supposed to get through this? I have a very wanted IVF baby...but that's not enough. I'm at the point where I'm so miserable that the future isn't working as a motivator. What do you all do to hold on and get through???

Hello. I am 35w4d pregnant. This morning I had a weird feeling in my mouth after drinking water...and it was actually because there was blood. I have bloody gums when I wash my teeth sometimes, I know it's a pregnancy symptom but this time it was coming out of the hard palate/top of the mouth ...It stopped after rinsing with water for a couple of times but I am scared. I just had a soft protein cheese bar (sweet) and water. Nothing else that could have hurt that area. When I blow my nose , there is sometimes blood but nothing significant...and now that I remember my jaws hurts yesterday. As if I had chewed on something for hours or kept it open, not sure how to explain. Did anything like this happen to you? I take baby aspirin in the evening for elevated heart rate (will stop at 36weeks) . Could it be a cause? I am worried and home alone 😢 Baby is kicking like usual. Thank you!

Me 24 and my husband 25 are expecting a baby. I m 4 weeks pregnant. My family lives in another county and we are here in Toronto. I have few friends here and but none of them have any pregnancy experience. Any advices we are expecting our first baby. So excited. What things to expect in coming weeks. My husband is so excited to do baby shopping. We are already thinking names just waiting few more weeks to know it’s a baby boy or girl so that we can call him/her for rest of the weeks and welcome the baby. Totally unplanned pregnancy and got positive in first try. Thanks to god for this blessing.

Just felt like I wished I wasn't pregnant. Then realized the only way for me not to be pregnant is to have a tiny newborn I have no real idea how to keep alive and no real help (my husband is not super involved in figuring this out and family that can come has never had babies and can't stay long). And then that continues for basically ever. so just really spiraling here. And it doesn't help I have basically no appetite so I'm freaking out about how my bump didn't grow much from 31-33 weeks (still in the normal range for now)and I'm probably not getting good nutrition or protein, my depression is pretty bad as far as feeling any good feelings or motivation to get out of bed and I'm starting to fantasize about drinking for the first time in a long time (I'm an alcoholic)

We still have all the money saved from our wedding earlier this year, so I'm thinking of instead of buying more baby things, hiring a postpartum doula for at least a couple times a week for a few weeks because I know we'll be grateful for the help. So that feels constructive. Getting more baby books from the library, the only problem is none of the books I've read really spell out what a day in the life of a baby is actually like.

maybe at my next midwife appointment I will share some of these concerns. It's just a rough double whammy of lack of motivation for self care times awful anxiety and so when I talk to healthcare professionals it's like they don't understand what it's like to be so depressed you can't go to the store and buy protein shakes

hey! I am 14 weeks and 4 days pregnant. a couple weeks ago I noticed a red spot on my left breast that's like an inch in diameter. it doesn't itch or hurt or anything but Google has me so scared. I messaged my doctor but it's a weekend so I'm just looking to see if anyone else has experienced this so I can try to put my mind at ease until I hear back from my doctor. thank you!

30 weeks and this past week I’ve had terribly dry skin all over my entire body. It was just my stomach before but now it’s everywhere. Any tips? Just lotion I guess???

My GP added toxoplasmosis blood test due to me having a cat - the test came back inconclusive for igm (the result that shows current infection) but not detected for igg (showing past infection). I have to wait another few weeks to re-test but it’s obviously quite nerve wracking and not a great way to experience early pregnancy full of worry.

Any good news stories or advice!? X

Am I the issue, or is this just because I'm pregnant?

TL;DR: My usually friendly, calm Phu Quoc Ridgeback has started acting aggressively toward other dogs when I’m around, especially now that I’m 6 months pregnant. He recently barked aggressively at a muzzled Dalmatian and acted similarly toward dogs at a cafe the next day. I’m wondering if he’s being protective of me because I’m pregnant, or if he’s resource guarding. He’s always calmer with my husband, so I’ll try reducing the amount of affection I give him to avoid reinforcing any behavior where he feels the need to “lead.”

My dog is a Phu Quoc Ridgeback, a primitive breed known for being good guard dogs. For some background: he barks at strangers who try to touch him but is friendly with other dogs on walks. He’ll initiate play when given a chance and is never reactive—he usually just ignores or calmly watches reactive dogs passing by. He's just turned 1 year old, and I'm 6 months pregnant. We scheduled a playdate with his friend from the neighborhood at a dog-friendly restaurant to celebrate his birthday. He’d been there twice before and had a blast with all the other dogs, but this time there was a Dalmatian on a muzzle—a super-friendly dog, by the way. My dog had never been around a muzzled dog before, and he started barking aggressively at him. I noticed that some other dogs also showed their teeth and barked at the Dalmatian. To avoid disturbing people around us, I put my dog on a leash and sat down at a table. I now think this may not have been a good idea because, when the Dalmatian got closer, my dog became even more aggressive, making scary noises but not actually attacking. I didn’t touch or stroke him, just tried to correct him, but my friend sitting next to us was petting him despite my asking her not to. Things didn’t improve until my husband took the leash and walked him around the space. I noticed he had no issue being near the Dalmatian then, which made me wonder if this was because I’m pregnant or if he was resource guarding me. He’s always calmer with my husband. Anyway, this was the first time we’d ever seen him behave aggressively. The next morning (today), I took him to a cafe after his morning walk, as usual. As soon as I sat down, he started behaving the same way toward a dog at a nearby table and then later at another dog that arrived. I managed to keep him under control, and he listened to my commands to “sit,” “down,” and “leave it.” But then he lunged and barked again when I stopped focusing on him. After about three corrections, he finally started to relax. I’m also going to cut back on showering him with affection at home. I thought it was okay as long as he was calm, but it might be too much and might have led him to see me as weaker, prompting him to take on a leadership role.

I am 25 weeks pregnant and I have been taking small doses of oxy on and off (once a week or every 2 weeks) since about 10 weeks pregnant because of chronic pain. I probably take a half of a 60g pill. Other than this I don’t consume any other drug, nicotine, meds at all. I feel very guilty about it. I don’t feel addicted in that I don’t feel urges or feelings of withdrawal when I’m not taking it. Maybe I’m in denial but this pregnancy has been really hard so I have moments where the pain is unmanageable and then I’ll take a small dose. Anyway - I am actually worried about the baby experiencing NAS and want to know if I stop now can I prevent the baby from experiencing withdrawal? As I mentioned, I don’t think I need to wean off as I’m already not doing it very often and don’t experience withdrawal type symptoms. Please any advice would help

Ftm here and i'm 31w+2. What are your thoughts on 4d scans? I'm still not 100% sure if I should get one. Part of me wants to see what my baby girl looks like now, and also have a keepsake bec i might only want 1 kid. But also part of me kinda want to wait till she's born and honestly a lot of 4d scan just looks "weird" bec they look all squished in there lol

What do you guys think?

Im in California, U.S.

I’m due in mid January and was planning on telling my job at the end of November to give them a months notice. Is that too short of a notice? At my last OB appt. My midwife told me that I am entitled to 4 weeks of disability before my due date in addition to the 12 weeks my work offers for mat. So that would put me at Dec 23rd to start my leave. 4 months off sounds so nerve wracking.

Anyway I’m nervous because my work is very volatile. I survived 4 round of layoffs this year. A year ago I finally landed a job I’ve wanted since graduating college and am at a place where I’ve become the expert in, yet still so much to learn. I’ve seen how they’ve laid off the people on multiple teams with kids and can’t help to think that they will train someone else while I’m Out to replace me. Anyone else going thru the anxiety of telling their employer?

Any tips to keep in mind?

I'm 23 weeks with my first, I have been struggling since 20 weeks with constant leaking and it's not like a few drops here and there I'm talking soaked bras and if slight pressure is on my breast it's just a mess everywhere. Is this normal? I have been told it's not by a few family members and it seems odd to me. Husband says it seems normal and that we should talk to my OBGYN about it to calm my nerves a bit. Just not sure if it's normal to leak this much. I have to lay on my side with a towel on my chest causw there's just so much. Anyone else have this problem?

The first week of the trip I was fine, except for dealing with jet lag and feeling hungry a lot. The second week the fatigue and nausea started to kick in, I had to go back to hotel to rest for half a day every day..didn't want to go out in the evenings at all..felt really bad cuz I haven't seen my parents for over a year and I was completely disinterested in going out to explore places during our family trip.

Eating: the trip was mainly in the rural part of the country so food quality was a question mark. Also because we stayed at hotel the whole time, I had breakfast buffet a few times which later my doctor says it's not recommended...The last few days of the trip we went to south korea from where I ate a lot of charcoal bbq that made me feel guilty because of the smoke...

Finally riding a long flight home, destroyed by jet lag and pregnancy fatigue altogether.

Felt that I screwed up my first pregnancy, will all this cause defects in the baby?

OK I am like week 4 or 5. Last menstrual cycle and IUI procedure say 5 weeks. Ultrasound said 4 weeks.

I am puking my guts up every night. I have tried peppermint tea. Not a big fan of ginger flavor unless it's ginger bread lol. Tried ginger ale and sprite. But nope I get all bloated and puke. This is making throat and the inside of my ears hurt. :( Help..my sisters never had any of this and just shrugged at me.

Also the nasal congestion! I literally cannot breath from my nose which is making my throat worse..And I can't sleep because of it.

Any things I can try?

I'm 23y/o and 37 weeks pregnant (35 weeks going by my actual conceiving date and not my last period) and almost every other night or nap I take, it's me dreaming about giving birth to my baby boy, I'm sure I'm just very excited to meet him. I often dream about things I can't wait for before it even happens. Did any one else experience this and how'd your birth go? ♡

I'm about 21 weeks pregnant and twice now I've gotten just the worst almost like lightning going across my abdomen well obviously where the baby is at and honestly the feeling is scaring me. I had it happen when I picked up my daughter on Halloween that's first time it happened I thought I probably just messed up because she's 40 pounds and maybe she was just too heavy but I just had the same feeling happen while I was simply yawning. I've had two pregnancies and never felt this type of pain/cramp? I've looked it up and can't find anything on it just lightning crotch but it's not that. It's not in the vaginal area. Is this something that should concern me? I see my doctor on the 6th so I'll ask then as well. Baby is VERY active more than my other two were so idk if maybe he is just kicking a weird spot? Lol. Has anyone else experienced this?

So my water has not broke but I’m having contractions and diarrhea and I keep losing bits of my mucus plug. Should I go to the hospital or wait?

Hello! I'm currently 21 weeks pregnant with a baby boy and have outgrown jeans. There are so many brands out there and I just wanted to know what other mommas preferred when it came to maternity Jeans. I've personally learned, I don't like Levi’s due to them feeling like they are falling off of my butt when they aren't. Would it be easier to just size up in my jeans?

I know the title is funny, but hear me out! 😂

I had unprotected sex with someone twice in two days but he didn’t cum inside me - or at least, I don’t think he would have much.

3 days before my period was due, I started to get light pink spotting. This was 14 days after the unprotected sex. I did a pregnancy test which was negative. (Hcg too low?). But then I got full red bleeding 1 day before I was due for my period which lasted 3 days.

Today, 4 days after the bleeding stopped, I’m getting a light yellowish-light brownish discharge on and off.

For the last two weeks, I’ve become tired as hell every night by 6:30pm-7pm. My iron levels are good.

I know chlamydia usually has no symptoms or mild symptoms, so I’m also very worried it’s an STD.

Thoughts please!! I’m freaking out.

Exactly what the title says. This if my first pregnancy and I’m 30 weeks today. Every time I stand up I start to feel intense pressure. I legitimately feel like she’s going to fall out some days while I’m walking or something. Earlier today I felt her foot push down like it was about to come out. I figured I would have this feeling every once in a while but it’s daily and it doesn’t always go away. The Relaxin is doing its thing but I feel like everything is too relaxed and my body is just ready to let go. I’m nervous that I’ll have a really early birth. I know this may sound silly or dumb overall but no joke I really feel like she’s going to just drop and I’m kind of scared.

Do any of y’all have these feelings/sensations? If so is it a consistent thing or does it go away?

I am almost 31 weeks and this has literally tormented me my whole pregnancy. No matter what my husband does- what soap he uses, deodorant etc.- I freakin hate the smell of him. He could be fresh out the shower and I would still think he smells almost spicy?? Like a garlic/onion mixture. Yes he eats foods with garlic/onion in them, but certainly not everyday, and there’s no reason that after his second shower and brushing his teeth that he should smell like that? Does anyone else have this issue? It’s really affecting my already meh ability to be affectionate with him.

I’ve smelled this on and off since my first pregnancy (ended in miscarriage) last July, and I’m sick of not being into my husband. I’m hoping it’s just hormonal, but at this point it’s been like over a year of thinking he smells terrible most days. I’ve told him this and he’s made changes, but nothing seems to help.

I’ve been having insomnia for a while and trying to sleep at night, my partner travels overnight for work and recently came back extremely tired. I don’t want to disturb his sleep since he’s been working really hard but GOD DAMN his snores are so loud and making it worst on my end to get some sleep 😭 I’m thinking of sleeping in the couch at this point i don’t even care! I just wanna get some sleep.

First pregnancy and 9 weeks in. I've always struggled with binging and over restricting due to terrible body dysmorphia. Although this pattern is awful on my health I give myself some grace and just remind myself tomorrow is a new day and that with practice I can get better.

However, once I discovered I had become pregnant it was night and day. I stopped counting my calories, I ate whenever I began to feel even the slightest bit of hunger, and foods I haven't touched in years were comforting me during this experience. I know this is what's best for my baby and I don't plan on over restricting or even attempting 1200 calories a day. However, I also don't want to binge or over consume. Food is my weakness and being pregnant I'm discovering is like giving an addict their vice back. So, I'm just wondering, has anyone ever had to reign in their food consumption? What do you do about nausea if snacking is the best relief? What foods are your go to? I really don't know what kind of advice I'm seeking specifically but if anyone has even a nugget of advice I'd be so so grateful❤️

Am I the only one who feels like their boobs are suffocating them when they lay down 😭?and they aren’t even that big

I’m currently 38+4 today, I have pretty bad stretch marks, the last week my bump has been super itchy and I’ve noticed that my stretch marks are in some area raised and bumpy. I googled “itchy raised stretch marks” and it gave info on puppps. The area around my belly button aside from my piercing hole is clear. I also noticed small bumps on my inner thighs and apparently it can spread to your thighs, butt, breasts, etc? Has anyone had this? I brought up the itching at my 38 week apt but now that I think it might be puppps I will mention it again to my Ob. Tips on things to do to help the itching?