She doesn’t ever smell. Sometimes her neck and hands will smell a little milky so I use a baby wipe, but should I be bathing her more? She isn’t a fan of baths so I’m wondering if I should do it more to get her used to it? Or give more baths to help with a nighttime routine?

Worried my LO isn’t growing much. He’s currently about 8kgs and his height is about 73cms. Other 9 month olds around us seem massive compared to my baby.

Our baby is 3 months old today and we're so so confused with her eating. She is now 100% formula fed (Kendamil Organic Infant), but she was given formula/breastmilk from the bottle for the first one and half months.

From the time she was probably 3-4 weeks old, she began going through weekly phases of screaming mid-way through a feed and seeming reject the bottle. However, she continues to show that she's also hungry and will snap right back to the bottle for more when offered. Then she'll take a couple gulps and begin crying again. We'll sometimes battling through it to get her to finish and sometimes we'll set the bottle down but she'll continue crying. Feedings can take up to nearly an hour. She has done this with both breastmilk and formula. On weeks when this is occurring, it is at every feed, but it appears to be like every other week. So, given it's not 100% of the time, and since she did it with breastmilk, we don't believe it is the formula. We switched bottles from Philips Avent to Mam bottles around 2 months and it seemed like things were better because she could get milk much faster from the Mam, because even good feeds were taking her forever. We had a week or maybe two of good, full, timely feedings with little to no fussing. But then it began again (worse) and it almost seems like she's getting the milk too fast. She'll blaze through 1-2oz and begin fussing. We do notice some silent reflux like symptoms like some excessive gulping, but it almost seems like she has trouble keeping her latch on the bottle. We tried switching back to the Philips Avent bottles for the slower responsive flow but then feedings began to take 40min-1hour again. We went to the doctor and were prescribed some famotidine and have been trying that but it has not seemed better at all. They also said she didn't have a tongue tie..

We just know something is wrong with her feeding because she's a very happy baby when she isn't tired and when she isn't eating. She was very above average in her weight when she was born and she's falling well below average. She is still at a good weight and the doctor is not concerned for her wellbeing but we just know that she wants to eat more than she's eating. We continue to read what she should be drinking (2.5oz per 1lb of weight) and we struggle to make it there most days.

We tried breaking her feeds up and that seemed to help, but it can't be a long term solution. Breaking the feeds takes up the last little bit of time my wife has to care for herself during the week while I'm at work. And then considering the broken feeds helped, I wonder if we're trying to feed her more than she wants and we aren't picking up on it (because we want her to eat). Maybe she's uncomfortable mid way because we're trying to give her more than she wants??

WE DON'T KNOW. SO CONFUSED!!! Please shed some light if you have it.

Not native speaker so some language errors. rSorry!

Our 6 month old only sleeps when feeding. He's distracted during the day so he doesn't feed much and tends to feed half of his daily intake during night sleep (bottle fed). I'm assuming it's sleep/feed association that's hard to undo. Consequently he is up every 2 hrs at night to feed. This is so hard to do. I'm exhausted and mom is losing her faith.

We are unable to even begin to sleep train due to the fact he's up every 2 hours to feed. I read stories of 6months old not needing night feed and we mom/dad are on 5 hours of sleep every day for the past month.

Before he turned 6 months he'd have 3-4 hours of sleep stretches at night. But since he turned 6 months he is up every hour needing to be soothed and even fed.

6 months vaccination made it worse. And he had a cold so it's been a rough 4 weeks where he is needing to be held every hour at night. He also seems to be teething (swollen gum drools and biting everything). Tylenol helps when he is fussy and chewing on his hand during sleep :/

My wife and I share the night duties. I stay up till 2 am and she takes over after. This means she doesn't get to sleep much after 2 am and this is taxing on her well being.

Any ideas or help? We thought we don't want to sleep train as that might have negative psychological/attachment impact on the baby. But now I'm second guessing our choice. I'm unsure if this is a phase or permanent. We cannot go on like this we are both exhausted and on the edge :/

My baby will be 3 months old in just a few days. She usually sleeps between 4 or 5 hours straight at night. but for about a week or so now she just will not sleep. She's CONSTANTLY crying unless I'm holding her. Even if she's tired, yawning and rubbing her eyes she won't sleep more than an hour or two and that's only if I let her fall asleep in my arms before putting her down. Most times she'll fall asleep and as soon as I try putting her down she wakes up and starts screaming at the top of her lungs. I try feeding her, changing her, swaddling her and nothing works. I gave her gas drops thinking that might be the problem but no. I haven't been able to eat, sleep or even use the bathroom without her getting upset because I wasn't holding her. I've even tried having her dad hold her while I do what I need to, but as soon as I'm out of her sight she cries. I'm losing my mind, im exhausted and really need some rest. I'm starting to feel pretty depressed and hopeless at this point. I start a new job this coming week and don't know how I'm gonna be able to handle a restless baby who won't sleep, then work a 12 hour shift in the morning. If anyone has any tips, tricks, ideas PLEASE comment them. I need to figure out a solution, or an explanation for what may be going on.

My 14 month old entered a “daddy phase” many many months ago, and it’s never stopped so I don’t think it’s a phase anymore. I’ve never really felt like he loved me like others love their moms, but that’s probably my own insecurity.

But he does much prefer my husband. My husband is the fun parent, I’m the organized, schedule-oriented, planner type. I struggled with PPD and still struggle in general with motherhood but it’s hard not to feel like it’s my fault he doesn’t find comfort in me or look to me for affection. We also both work full time.

Anyone else have a similar situation?

So my husband and I have had this bad habit of playfully arguing with each other where we take arguing tones when we are not serious about what we are arguing about.

My husband is the youngest of 3 boys so his sense of humor is rather feral (not very sensitive). I’m easily influenced so I wasn’t any better either in this situation.

In the middle of our fake argument I remembered how sensitive babies are to tone and I turn to see my 7mo staring at us with concern and a toy dangling in her hand. I felt horrible and called my husband’s attention to her reaction. My poor girl was probably stressed as we amused ourselves 😢

Anyways, we went the overcompensation route and peppered each other and her with a more positive and affectionate gestures. She perked up after a bit and we came up with a code to let each other know when we were slipping into a sarcastic tone to keep this from happening again.

So quick reminder to anyone that needs it, watch your tone around your baby ❤️

My girl is 9months and loves food thankfully! But I feel like I’m always giving her the same things.

We mostly do -chicken -beef -egg -black beans -avocado -banana -toast -berries -yogurt -peanut butter

I try to stay organic and clean. Any other clean foods your little one loves?

My fiancé and I were invited to an outdoor music event in the park tomorrow, but it’s 21+. We can’t get a sitter in time so we discussed bringing our son. It’s just during the day, the park is large and we would plan to sit further from the music. Overall we know the event would be fine and safe for our 11 month old, but I’m not sure if we’d even be allowed to bring a baby. Do you guys bring your babies to appropriate 21+ events?

Just wanted to add that while this seems apparently obvious to many, there are many situations that infants are allowed at 21+ locations. We just went to the pumpkin patch and brought our son to the 21+ bar area, which is what sparked the debate on this event. Also, I’m not asking about bringing my child to some crazy concert. It’s music in the public park 2pm-6pm and there’s not even a stage. It’s an event for musicians in the industry and it’s mostly a social gathering while artists take up the mic for 20-30 mins at a time. It’s only 21+ because they have food trucks serving alcohol in an otherwise public place.

Hi! Does anyone know where I can find small bibs? I find everything on amazon is for older babies who need the bibs for food. We need it for spit-up and drool. Our baby is just over 10lbs so still fairly small and all bibs we've found are too big for her.

Took my LO to his 4 month checkup and pediatrician recommended we get our son a helmet. Does anyone have any tips/ advice? Did your LO hate wearing it? How long did your LO have to wear the helmet? Thank you in advance!

Thoughts wanted - we use standing motion/swaying or starting with a contact snooze (to then transfer to bassinet) to lull our 3 week old to sleep. Usually doesn’t take too long for him to doze off, but we certainly can’t put him straight into the bassinet wide awake and expect him to sleep.

He also falls to sleep within minutes with car movement or pram movement.

Are we setting up bad sleep habits and associations by doing this? Or is this the time where you should do these things to encourage sleep?

Any tips for flying with a 6.5 month old? We’re traveling for thanksgiving and I’ve never flown with a baby before. It’s a 2 hour flight

Looking for honest feedback on when to take babies around large gatherings… FTM here and our baby will be about a week over 3 months at Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving would be out of town about four hours away so the drive already sounds exhausting to me with the necessary stops, but it would also have around 40ish people present, maybe even more. We’ve taken baby out to immediate family gatherings and shopping, but not much else. However, my mom is giving me so much crap for not wanting to go to Thanksgiving. She keeps guilting me about people wanting to see the baby and I really don’t care. I don’t care if people come visit in small amounts, but the thought of a large gathering makes me so anxious right now.

Not even that, but it’s also about boundaries. I already have to tell my mom, DAILY, to not kiss my baby and she tests me all the time thinking it’s funny. All of the older relatives in my family are very similar (little to no boundaries, entitled, etc.), so that’s another reason I really don’t want to do Thanksgiving this year. If he had his four month round of vaccines then I’d consider it, but right now I just don’t feel comfortable.

Am I overreacting or being too helicopter mom here?

We are using the Frida tub but idk if there is something else he’d prefer and could be better.

I think I am writing this as a sort of message to my past self but also hoping it will reach a lot of people who may be struggling with their emotions in the newborn phase.

I’m going to be honest and say that during the newborn phase, I thought I had ruined my life. I loved my baby and I did everything to look after him but I felt a deep grief for my previous life. Everyday felt like a horrible cycle of chaos but also utter boredom. I missed my husband even though he was right there. I missed my self.

Our son slept in 30 minute increments for 6 months. All of his naps were contact naps. We sleep trained at 6 months and it was life changing. Sleeps overnight for 10-11 hours and naps in his cot. Hang in there - there will come a time when you can sort things out.

Our son needed constant interaction during the day and was incredibly frustrated until he could crawl. Your baby will crack it and they will be happier.

It is my baby’s first birthday tomorrow and I am in such a better place. I cannot believe the huge changes that occur in a year - my baby has turned from a needy potato to a little man with such a fun personality who can play games with me, laugh and give me kisses and cuddles.

Don’t get me wrong, there are moments and days that are still incredibly challenging. But I genuinely never thought I would get to a point where I felt happier and I want anyone who is reading this now who is struggling to know that things will always get better - your baby will not be a newborn potato forever. That is a fact. You will leave the house again. You will have fun moments again. You will sleep again (not as long as you used to but enough to feel human). Your life is not over.

Hello all,

When my 8 month old gets frustrated, she clenches her fists and tenses/stiffens her body, kicking her legs and jerking her arms and does an "UUHN" noise. She can then kick and hit me or herself.

Sometimes she does this when she's on her bottle or when she hasn't napped and is seemingly not getting what she wants.

Does anyone else's baby do this? I made the mistake of Googling and got results for stimming.

I’m curious how parents are getting their 1 year olds (give for take 10-12 months), to nap?

For my reference. My baby was never sleep trained, I just have never set him in a crib to cry with no milk/feeding to sleep/or bouncing. He never has just passed out on his own unless he’s in a car seat without some assistance. Feel like we are getting to the point where setting him in the crib when sleepy with a bottle is the move.

I just want to hear what others have done around this age. Just feeling like he’s getting to that big boy phase of taking naps without mommy and daddy’s help till he’s dead asleep for a crib transfer. We are wanting flexibility and want him to learn a little on his own as well.

Who else is terrified for the clocks to turn back tonight?

I don't know what I'm looking for, solidarity or advice. Our 2.5 year old little girl is our middle child. She's got a 4yo big sister and a 9mo baby brother. She does not listen. She is aggressive. She will actively do whatever it is you tell her not to. You could tell her not to belly flop off of the couch, and the next moment she's on the floor screaming because she belly flopped off the couch and got "hurt". In parentheses because she is never actually hurt as of yet.

Hubs and I am at our wits end. We tell her not to do something and she either actively does it, or reacts aggressively, hitting and biting and screaming. We already went through this, we got her to stop hitting and biting and now it seems as though we've just gone backwards.

Hubby and I do not hit or yell at any of the kiddos, the only time we raise our voices is if we need to be heard over the chaos that is our house. I just don't know what to do anymore, we fought to hard to get her to stop hitting and biting and it feels like we're on a backslide.

Additional information: I work full time during daycare hours M-F. I do daycare drop-off and pick up. She is the child who gets THE MOST attention and a good amount of one on one time, which is saying something as our 4yo is homeschooled. Dad is disabled and cannot keep her at home because of the way she is acting and no amount of slowing down, talking to her, explaining why we can't act the way she's acting helps. We talk to her and then then seconds later she's acting up again.

I'm really tired of being terrorized and I feel bad for her sitting in timeout all day, every day. She doesn't act like this at daycare. This is a HOME issue. But I can't seem to figure out what to do to help her.

I'm at my wits end seeing my poor 6 week old suffer; preemie was on enfamil neosure and it gave him such bad constipation and gas pains so we switched to gentlease. This caused him to be spitting up a ton soaking multiple outfits a day and never had a "dry" burp. He started screaming crying during feeds and arching his back, clawing at us, turning away from the bottle but then wanting the bottle because he's starving. We just switched him to byheart 24 hours ago and he had a few feeds during the day no crying no bottle refusal and now he's started up again screaming crying, arching his back, etc. please help any and all recommendations. I don't want to keep switching his formula!

So. From around 8 months old my baby would not lay down for nappies changes or getting changed. She's 10 months tomorrow.

So we just do it standing up. It's so much easier with pull up pants.

No crying, no fighting, and 10 times quicker.

My parents have stated it's disrespectful and not a "good look" if I ever visit anywhere. She should be laying on a changing mat.

My response was, what the point in having an unnecessary fight/meltdown if it can easily be resolved by just doing it standing up.

She also is brilliant at getting changed and lifts a leg up when I touch it so I can put her leg in things etc, which I think is pretty smart.

They said I'm just giving into her and making her too comfy?. I'm so confused.

I don't understand why, doing a nappy standing up is disrespectful, not like I'd do it while out not in a changing room/bathroom

I wouldn't just change her in front of aloud of people laying on the floor either way? So what's the issue.

Anyone else do this? Or daft things parents have said?

Looking for books for raising kids and to help my relationship with husband as we enter parenthood! Thanks

My baby turned 5months a few days ago. I am curious what kinds of schedules you have/had for your 5month old!

I feel like this should be obvious to anyone who has read anything about food and nutrition, but it’s worth mentioning it.

“Cutting the amount of sugar children get in the womb and as toddlers can protect them against diabetes and high blood pressure in adulthood, research suggests.

The finding reveals a critical period for healthy nutrition in the first 1,000 days of life as babies initially absorb nutrients from their mother and move on to formulas and infant foods.”

Link to the article:

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/oct/31/less-sugar-in-first-1000-days-of-life-protects-against-chronic-disease-study-finds

The New Parents Anthem: Welcome to the Chaos, Sleep is a Myth, and You’re Doing Just Fine!

Hey new parents, seasoned pros, and everyone in between! Let’s be real—if you’re here, chances are you haven’t had a full night’s sleep in what feels like several decades. And if you have? Well…we don’t believe you, but tell us your secrets anyway.

Here’s the truth: we’re all figuring out this new universe. Baby arrives, and suddenly the laws of time and space don’t apply. Your “morning” coffee happens at 3 p.m., and everyone’s a walking zombie with bags under their eyes (except the baby, who somehow looks fresher every day). Nothing personal, just… pure chaos.

So, in honor of survival, here’s the New Parent’s Pro Tips (Survival Edition):

1. Sleep is for the Weak… or Whenever the Baby Sleeps

I know you’ve heard this gem a thousand times: “Sleep when the baby sleeps.” Spoiler alert: that baby will sleep for approximately 17 minutes, during which time you’ll stare at their little face, scroll social media, or clean something random. Just know that real sleep will happen someday… like, when they’re in college.

2. Embrace the Mess – It’s Your New Aesthetic

If you used to keep a tidy home, consider that phase of your life officially over. There will be laundry mountains, toy avalanches, and sippy cup towers. Embrace it as “lived-in chic,” and know that anyone judging you hasn’t stepped on a Lego at 2 a.m. in bare feet.

3. Expect Your Brain to Betray You Daily

Today’s plan? Changed. Tomorrow’s schedule? Ha! Your memory is now shot, and finding the car keys is your new cardio. Get a whiteboard, write down EVERYTHING, and don’t be surprised if you forget what you wrote down. (Also, put a few diapers in the glove box; you’ll thank me.)

4. Accept That Weird is the New Normal

The weird stuff is par for the course. Catching projectile milk? Check. Negotiating with a tiny human who refuses pants? Check. Singing lullabies at full volume while trying not to wake your partner? Triple check. Just lean into it. Embrace the weird; it builds character (for both you and baby).

5. Your Village is Everyone (Use Them Wisely)

Grocery clerk? Villager. Coffee barista? Villager. Person who holds the door while you juggle baby, diaper bag, and a shopping cart? Villager. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or at least a sympathetic “we’ve been there” nod. It takes a village, and it’s OK if your village consists of random Target employees and that one nice neighbor who doesn’t mind screaming baby sounds.

So yeah, it’s a wild new universe and the sleep schedule is pure fiction, but here’s the real pro tip: You’re doing fine. It’s messy, it’s nuts, but you’ve got this. Keep that coffee close, laugh at the chaos, and remember—the “figuring it out” part is just part of the journey.

Stay strong, friends. We’re in this together!

My baby is 10 weeks old and his sleep is all over the place! He will have some nights where he will sleep for 5 hrs and not wake up.. or last night where he woke every hr. I have no clue when to try to put him to bed. He falls asleep lately between 530/6. When he wakes up around 7 he seems really fussy. He immediately gets happier when I bring him in his room and get him ready for bed. He’s currently napping right now. I was going to wake him up at 6 and Just go from there???

So just like a normal 5 month olds he’s super curious but also a bit fussy and wants to be entertained most of the time, we do a lot of play time on the floor, he hates being in his bouncer so we’re going to put it away, but he absolutely loves being held or sat on my lap or on the floor. Even if he’s fussy and we’re having a hard time sleeping, if I just let him sit for a few seconds he immediately stops crying. I’m thinking of getting an exersaucer to give my back a break because he is a big baby, but is it really bad for him since he doesn’t sit up on his own yet? what other options do I have to keep him in one place while I can do other stuff? And what are some activities you do to keep your LO entertained?

Sandifer-Syndrom/GERD

At first Sorry for my bad english..

I am desperate! My daughter had a "cramp" or an "attack" a week ago. Rigid, red head and it looked like the mororeflex. I picked her up and she started screaming. We went to the hospital and they did a 30 minute EEG and a head ultrasound. The neurologist then said that it was probably reflux. She only has these problems when she lies on her back. She is very restless and her arms become tense and flail. Then she smacks and has a lot of saliva in her mouth and then it starts. She also coughs a lot and I can hear when she swallows. When she lies on her back she does sit ups and wants to come up, probably because she doesn't want to lie down. She is 2 1/2 months old.

The neurologist said it's probably Sandifer Syndrome/GERD. Have you had similar experiences?

My problem is that in Germany they just say "thicken the milk and raise her head while She sleeps". But she must really be in pain. After drinking she cries for hours until the next bottle and She arches her back. We dont sleep. Is there no medication for her?

Which is better, the Baby Brezza Bottle Washer Pro Or Momcozy KleanPal Pro. Both are Washer, Sterilizer + Dryers.