Idk how did those Arabic artist and songs I did listen to them but I didn't expect to over shadow other of mind favourite I am kind of disappointed 😤😭

Went to grab the hairdryer at the office gym.

A question mostly for guys over 30. I’m 21 now, and never “experimented” or “explored” my sexuality. I’m still a virgin, and never kissed a guy before, mostly because I’m waiting for the right guy to appear. I never felt comfortable with a one night stand, or a friends with benefits type situation. I worry now I may regret it later on in my life, and I wonder if I should push myself to go and explore. Any tips?

Used to watch a lot of really old sitcoms when I was younger there was two shows the odd couple and my two dads about two guys living together but they weren’t gay and acted like a married couple lol. It was interesting especially during the 70s and 80s time period where’s nowadays they be explicitly gay and not use dumb gymnastics to explain why they’re living with each other.

I have been and I am very pleased about it.

Just way more male-male PDA, even in my backwoods Texas hometown.

I'm curious if this is true elsewhere or if it's limited to my neck of the wood?

Do you guys think I am limiting my dating prospects based on the preferences I have?

I feel like there are certain things that have to be there for me to want to be with a guy. But when I hear myself say them out loud, I sound crazy, thinking I’m going to find someone who is perfectly compatible with me on every level despite the abysmal odds for just finding a member of the same sex who wants a long term relationship in the first place.

Anyway, here are my preferences. I won’t say they are my “standards” because I’m not sure I’d turn someone down just because they don’t meet all or most of these:

• Dominant. This is the most important one. I can sense the incoming judgment already… The reason I want this in a partner is because I am very passive and indecisive. More than just being dominant, I need someone who can see through my facade of wanting control. I only put that out because I’m afraid people will take advantage of me if they perceive me as vulnerable. Side note: dominant does not mean disrespectful of boundaries or my autonomy, just a guy who takes charge.

• Align with me politically. This is kind of a deal-breaker. So much of my identity and core values is tied up with my political beliefs, so if my partner clashes with me on this front, then that will only lead to larger fights that will ultimately end the relationship. I am very argumentative and defensive when it comes to my philosophy and thinking, so something as small as disagreeing on the topic of economic structuring will likely act as a catalyst for mutual animosity. (For anyone curious, I believe in social democracy—planned centralized economy; I am very liberal but not delusional about the merits of extreme liberal ideologies such as communism, which are beautiful in theory but hopeless in reality)

*Somewhat smart. I’m not sure if this is shallow to want, but it’s going to be very hard for me to be attracted to someone if they cannot dazzle me with their intellect. The only people I’ve slept with have been extremely smart because that is what drew me in initially. They don’t need to be the next Alan Turing, but I want them to think deeply about things. I don’t think is the same as education. I have met high school dropouts who are still intelligent and get things in a way people with master’s degrees don’t.

• Works out. I know this one is definitely shallow, but I want a guy who takes care of himself. He doesn’t need to be ripped. I mostly just want this so that we would be able to do physical activities together, like hiking, rock climbing, weightlifting, swimming, etc. If they can’t so much as traverse a flight of stairs without taking a break to pant, then they probably won’t be able to do things with me that I would like them to.

• Not religious. This comes with some stipulations. I’m fine with pretty much any religion except for the super controlling, fear-based they religions like Christianity and Islam. If you’re Buddhist, Hindu, or even Jewish then I don’t mind that at all as long as I’m not expected to convert to something I don’t believe in.

• Introvert. This definitely isn’t a deal-breaker, but I still thought to include it. I’m not a very outgoing person, so if they are wanting to constantly go out and see people, then they’ll either push me to my social limit or go by themselves, which I would feel bad about. Some socialization is ok. I don’t expect my prospective partner to be a hermit, but I would definitely prefer that they’d like spending several nights in and even ask for alone time, since I need my share of that as well. That said, I need a talker. I love listening to stories and exchanging thoughts with the people I’m closest to.

• Taller than I am. This is asking a lot, as I am 6’1, but I’d even be ok with manufactured height like shoe lifts or something. I don’t like having to bend over when I kiss a guy, and I really like when I have to look up. That’s about it; I know it’s pretty stupid, but these are preferences, remember.

• Deep voice. My biggest turn-ons are what someone feels like and a deep voice, so if my partner has a sexy voice, what they look like really isn’t going to matter. My taste in voices isn’t super unrealistic, I don’t think. I’m more into Jeremy’s Voice from Cinemasins compared to something much more sonorous like Corpse Husband or Markiplier. Is this an unrealistic preference? Idk, but it would probably get rid of some others on the list if my partner did have it.

Alright, that’s it. Thanks for reading all this if you did!

So, 2 days ago I was in a job interview. It went average. There were three interviewers. One of them was this guy with a silly comical face(he always smiles) yet somehow looking extremely cute. Idk if it was gay radar or I just liked him at first glance but something drew me closer to him. He was making jokes all the time, the kind that is not too deep but would make you feel much more relaxed since most of the time job interviews do the complete opposite.

It went well and I came back home. Yesterday I accidentally sent an email to that company(I swear it was an accident, not intentional). I didn’t realise this until HE called me and asked me whether I sent anything like that.

Long story short, we solved the problem and he actually helped me over the phone to resolve the issue(I got paid less by my current job and I was trying to email them to figure it out, but the email was accidentally sent to this guy’s company.) Since he was also an accountant he counted my salary and tried to figure out why this happened. I got embarrassed tbh. But also kinda felt butterflies.

He is either a very nice person or he is just a closeted gay who is trying to make a connection. I showed him to a couple of my friends they said he definitely has the queer energy but still not 100 per cent sure.

I checked out his ig(okay I stalked him🤦🏻) and the only women he shared photos with are his 40+ years old coworkers.

I talked to the accountant at my job and resolved the issue with him. Now I want to tell him that and ask him if I can take him out for a coffee as an apology. I don’t even care about the job anymore. I just want to get to know him better. But I am afraid it could backfire really badly and everything can fall apart really quickly.

Look, I know how it sounds but I am not a creep or a serial stalker. Something tells me that this is a happy accident and I should take my chance. This never happened to me before.

What should I do? I really need you guys’ advice🙏🏻

As someone just starting to come out and live a gay life, what mistakes should I avoid?

For me specifically, I understand that others have found success in this area and that's wonderful but personally for it's just exhausting and I don't feel like I have the emotional bandwidth to keep trying. It's gotten to a point where I expect every guy I talk to flake out and disappear at some point and I'm trying to not let it turn me into resentful person but some days are easier than others.

Every guy that I find attractive that matches with me would start the conversation but then never respond once I do. It doesn’t make sense and Im on literally every dating and hookup app with no good replies. I’m 29 and never had a relationship and I don’t like any shows anymore because they want us to believe that we’ll fall in love or be in relationships in your 20s. Well they’re wrong. Anything in those stupid romance movies doesn’t happen in real life and all gay relationships are just sex fetishes. I haven’t seen gays actually like the person they’re with, they’re just using them for their own sexual desire. It’s not fair.

Been using hook ups apps for a while, but every time I mentioned my virginity guys immediately bail on me. I honestly don't know what to do, I'm worried that if I hide my virginity people will rialize I'm a virgin during sex. Can I hide it ? What can I do be a good lover ? What can I do ?

I’m a virgin bottom and aspiring drag queen, and for both activities I’d like to go in looking as effeminate as possible (for obvious reasons 😜). This includes a desire to be completely shaven like the really hot twinks on blue sky. I recently purchased hair removal cream to achieve this look but the packaging warns against using on your face, nipples, genitals and anus.

Obviously with drag this is technically still ideal as these are the parts of the body I won’t be putting on display, and I can just shave my face daily. However sexually I’d still like not to just have my but-cheek crevice be the only hairy thing about me. While I understand that tops don’t mind or even prefer this, I’d rather my entire body be hairless.

So if you have any tips on how to safely remove hair from that area, please share them with me <3

I dont know man. It feels like initiatives like this make things go backwards. Reading through the comments was really dejecting. Sexuality should not be such a political divisive topic yet here we are. Society sucks.

And an extra fuck you to Fabrizio to allowing comments on this post. I swear he enjoys posting stuff that riles people up.

I live in a conservative state but the city I live in is pretty open, I have considered leaving though. What are the differences? Do you feel more comfortable going places (doctor, shopping, big purchases)? Are your adoption laws different? What’s it like?

for context i’m 18, i lost 150lbs/70kg and as a result of that i have quite a lot of loose skin which doesn’t look good and makes me very self conscious. once i turned 18 i started dating and having hookups and it’s been quite an unpleasant experience. of course most guys don’t find my physique appealing which i understand but what makes it even worse is that i’m not exactly unattractive at first sight when clothed apparently as i actually get quite a lot of attention whether in person or on dating apps but once i show people my shirtless self or tell them about the loose skin they are usually turned off. i’ve had people say straight to my face that it looks weird or that i should surgery (which i don’t have the funds, time or pain tolerance for). it seems like the only people interested in me after letting them know of my physical flaws are older and/or not in shape which i’m not against but is not ideal for me in the long run. on the other hand there are some big guys who say it’s a pity i lost the weight and that i’m not fat enough for them. the fact that i live in a conservative homophobic country where homosexuality, although legal, is taboo and where the standard for gay men is being in perfect shape doesn’t help either. so yeah, being gay and not having an ideal physique is a stressful and upsetting experience, just wanted to let it out.

Nothing has changed

This purely based on looks alone, no personality included, but does anyone else feel this way?

Sometimes,for example, I don’t even bother messaging hot guys on Grindr or where ever cause I feel they’re ‘out of my league’.

Or other times it’s hard to even look at one in the eyes cause they’re so attractive where I don’t wanna feel like a creep (lol).

What is your perspective on open relationships and marriages? Are they becoming or have they already become the new standard? Do you believe those not in favor of them will eventually have to compromise so that they are not “cheated” on? This post is in no means intended to be judgmental. I’m genuinely interested in everyone’s perspective. As always everyone please be respectful of opinions and statements you may not agree with. We are all grown adults.

I'm a physician and I'm currently serving my military duty (it's obligatory, it lasts for 9 months). Each of us is placed in a specialty relevant to their degrees. I'm still in the lowest rank as every other soldier, it's just that I'm a doctor and oh well everybody needs a doctor and that makes us more important.

One of my main goals was to assess the health and the complains of soldiers. If necessary I could give them a day off-duty, or a day free of shaving or free of the army shoes (they would wear sneakers). I know that you can't give everybody a day-off, I was doing my best to evaluate those who really needed it.

I got to see so many chests, I examined so many lungs etc. It was huge experience for me. The feeling was also very different. They were not purely patients and I was not purely a doctor. We were brothers. It was the same person that in the night we would sleep in the same chamber along with other 40 soldiers. I would see them shiver in the night, I would shave with them together in the bathrooms. I remember one dude who showered but the water was ice cold and he was nearly blue and shaking. We gather around him and rubbed him and covered him with blankets until he got the color of the living again.

It's weird to describe if you haven't felt it. But this experience made me understand patients more holistically. It also made me understand that somethings (like put some ice on that hurting area) may be impossible (where the hell is he supposed to find ice?).

PS

One day I fainted (it was my time to need help). I was in a special forces exercise as a surveillance doctor. They carried me with in their arms back to safety. I felt a bit embarrassed. They told me that we're family, it's one for all and all for one. It was their time to care for me. The distance between patient and physician is different. I loved each and every of my brothers there and I hope I did the best for them.

PS2

As a gay person this was truly magnificent. Me being gay never got in the way. I felt like a brother to them all, perfectly equal and no different at all.

For me when it's a guy hold's a cocksucker's head and makes him gag.

2 minutes and I'm done, LOL

I was talking to a guy for weeks. We met once in person. I wanted to see him more and date. But he kept making excuses, like being sick, or not being able to afford to go out. Turns out he knew the entire time he didn’t want me.

Apparently when we met he thought I had done something innocent that reminded him of an ex that had treated him badly. I don’t even know what I did that was wrong.

But for weeks now he’s still led me on. Still said he was interested. Still flirted and sexted. Still begged me for sex almost every day and then changed his mind when I told him I could come over. I told him I had feelings for him, and he still chose to string me along knowing he didn’t want me. We would talk for hours into the night and early morning.

I’ve been searching for a decent guy to date for 10 years and this is only the second one I’ve been interested in.

I can’t understand why he would intentionally hurt me like this. And it hurts so much. Why does it hurt so much. How do I make it stop hurting?

Hi everyone, I'm 28 years old gay guy from Jamaica and even though I'm not fluent in Portuguese, I'm very excited to visit Brazil. I needed a change of scenery and since Brazil is one of the few places that don't require Jamaican citizens a Visa to visit, I figure I'd take the opportunity and spend a few weeks there. Now I'm on a tight budget so I'm hoping that some kindred spirit here will give me some recommendations on where I can go to get meals for dirt cheap and entertainment that's either free or extremely affordable. I will be staying at an Airbnb but I want to make the most of my time there so I'm open to any and all suggestions you have. I know that I shouldn't really expect to see many beaches in this part of town but that's fine, I'm still looking forward to seeing what the city has to offer. Primarily I'm looking for the the names of the following but if you have any other suggestions that you think I'd like, feel free to share.

Gay bars Gay clubs Gay saunas Art museums Bookstores/libraries Music stores Affordable restaurants/roadside meals What locations to avoid What apps to stay away from

Also I'm curious, what's the gay dating scene like? Would it be difficult to find a bf, especially since I'm not fluent in the language? (I have Duolingo downloaded though so I'm practicing). I don't mind hookup culture but it would be nice to find a potential partner to go on dates with, introduce me to his friends, show me around town, etc.

Thanks in advance 🩷

Let’s see everyone’s trees.🎄

As a boy from the Midwest that unfortunately understands what it’s like to fall in love with a boy you can’t have… That song is so emotional for me. There were a few boys that showed me what “could have been” and they chose the girl I could never be… Just a 34yo gaybro listening to the soundtrack from the new movie of a story I’ve loved and resonated with for 20yrs. ❤️

I'm 25 now. I know that's still young but I feel like I have no time left.

Since around the age of 16 I started having visual issues. Fast forward to when I was 19, I found out I have something that is causing retinal vision loss. The opthalmologist assured me that I would only lose my macular vision but that has since proven to be false. My family was supposed to make follow up appointments at other specialists but due to no funds, that hasn't happened.

I know blind people can live amazing lives but I can't imagine that for myself.

I've never been in a relationship before and I know that's entirely my fault. I'm too scared to drive and never go out, not that I'd know where to go to meet guys in the first place and I'm still in the closet.

I want to study too but now I'm worried I don't have time left for it and as it stands I'm struggling to find a job. Everyone else in my family got the opportunities handed to them and although I'm happy for them, I'm also jealous.

I'm feeling hopeless and like a complete burden to my family. I'm constantly reminded of how my dad could make money and find opportunities easily.

I don't know if this post is a rant or a question at this point. I guess any advice will be appreciated.

Do y’all like guys who are submissive in the bedroom? I mean I let him have his way with me and do pretty much whatever they want with me when it’s sexy time, provided they ask consent if it’s anything too much. I’ve been wondering if it’s a turn on or turn off for other guys because it just happens when I switch into sex mode. The last guy I was with liked that I “ let him do whatever he wanted”. For my part I like a man that will throw me around a bit and I’m fairly open if a bit vanilla sexually. What do y’all think?