I finally got my Lolita dress in the mail a few days ago! N now I can dress up hehe. Who looks better me or my plushie?? (Btw just so ppl know I'm a Pre T transmasc. Thought I'd preface that bcs my bio says nothing bout me at all lol)

i’ve had a really rough day/week and to cheer myself up i’ve been trying to think of all the people or spaces that i am thankful for. i’ve messaged a few old friends i’ve lost touch with and now i feel like i have to say this to y’all !!

it may seem silly, but this sub genuinely means so much to me. going thru my feed and then stumbling on someone on here just living their authentic life genuinely makes my days easier to get thru.

i used to feel so alone. i fell deep into hateful groups when i first came out at 13 (lasted 13-15) where i shamed other trans people for not putting emphasis on ‘passing’. i genuinely believed it was our job to be accepted and make ourselves palatable to “the majority”. it all came from a place of suppression - i was so bitter that cis queer men were able to present how i wanted to without their manhood being questioned. i was bitter that people were able to overcome the pressure to fit in and were able to be fully themselves.

i am now 20 and looking back on this time of my life makes me very sad, and it’s partially the reason why i try to go out of my way to support and hype up all the amazing people on this sub. you may not feel brave, but simply being yourself without censorship is BRAVERY especially in the face of this current election.

i fell into such a deep hole after the election thinking about the pure amount of Americans that simply want us to disappear back into the shadows. what has comforted me though and what the truth is, is that we are here and always have been. we will find safety and reprieve within our own spaces and we will survive!!

and if you are someone like me right now, and you are also having to pull back on self expression due to safety concerns - please please please try to remember that this too shall pass, i hope you are able to find moments of vulnerability and relief.

anyways - i just want to say thank you for being here, contributing to this space, thank you for being part of the community that finally allowed me to feel actually proud of who i am. hopefully if things start to seem too much you can think about how important you are and how many people you are indirectly showing that it is okay to live authentically.

you are all beautiful and i will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers, never lose your shine or let it be stomped out by ignorance because your existence is so important.

Lately I find myself wanting some coverage but not like as heavy as doing a full face of makeup with foundation. Has anyone got any recommendations for a good tinted moisturiser or similar product? Preferably something that will hide redness - my cheeks are prone to it lol.

Been on T since June 2024 and I’ve always had more prominent facial hair, but now it’s coming in way more noticeably. I was teased mercilessly growing up for it so I’m still trying to find balance with this fluffier caterpillar as it grows.

was wearing eyebrow powder, mascara and pink lip tint :3 i loooove mascara so much

One month post top surgery (🥳YIPPEEEE🥳🥳🥳) and I am super pumped to get to wear crop tops this summer!😼 huge fan of little top big bottoms but never felt super confident in it until now!

So some (long) time ago I have come across a YouTube comment on Bridget guilty gear, saying that "Bridget being trans is a femboy erasure" bullcrap gives off the same vibes as "lesbians are disappearing because they keep transitioning" bullcrap.

After reading that comment it dawned on me that if Bridget's controversy were to be DIEGETIC she'd be an FtM allegory (despite being a trans girl in a literal sense) or at the very least a trans girl who experiences genderflipped transmisandry.

Even when NOT from a femboy erasure angle,

the lore of Bridget's superstition has been an (bad) excuse to call her "a boy who succumbed to the superstition that targeted twin boys" (She has a twin brother FYI and lived in a superstitious town)

And I felt like that is just a genderflipped version of the transphobia trans MEN face- i.e: "trans men aren't men, they're just women who succumbed to the profuse misogyny this world has"

I thought it would be SUPER interesting if a LITERAL TRANS GIRL was a TRANS GUY allegory but, Daisuke (the guy who made guilty gear) didn't make it diegetic. Or at least not yet.

So I thought I'd do it myself and started writing a fanfic where Bridget gets called all that by her neighbors twins OCs.

Later I changed my plans: I will make that fanfic into my original work, and as such Bridget is replaced by Alk (OC). (Name censored due to rule 6)

So keep that in mind- Alk = Bridget but her controversy is diegetic = A literal trans girl who is a trans guy allegory ironically.

But when I revealed this information to a guy I met on this subreddit, on dms, he responded

"The succumbing to patriarchy...I swear I've only ever seen this line on the internet" "No real person has ever said such a thing or anything close"

Then I was like "Oh shit, then Alk's moot!"

But He lives in a blue state, plus, he himself stated that AFAB non-binary people face this bullshit more. Also it seems that binary feminine trans men have a tendency to get clumped together with AFAB non-binary people by people who don't know better

so I am taking this into account and asking here again.

So have you ever been called a gender traitor, or a woman who succumbed to patriarchy? If so, how did you respond?

If not, how would you?

Lastly, would you consider Alk moot in terms of being an FtM allegory?

Fellas, bros, homies! Help a sister out. I'm looking for an old online debate and my google-fu is failing me. I'm hoping one of ya'll might remember it and have a link or a name that can help me find it. I'm chatting with a trans dude struggling with enjoying feminine things and invalidation. I think that whole back and forth might be useful to him. Anyway, it was between Sam Collins and young feminine trans man. It was 3,4,5 years ago. I don't remember the stated topic, but it might have been trenders specifically or more general about how trans men have to conform to gender norms. Given the timeframe Sam's take was very not good, and it wouldn't surprise me if Sam dropped it from his channel. Sam got pretty well stomped both rhetorically and logically. I remember it was a big thing at the time and there was significant "discourse" between them leading up to it and substantial "discourse" about it after. I just remember the fem dude was quite young (like somewhere in the 15-20 year range) and wearing a light yellow sundress and stomping around his room like an absolute beast. Sam is in a dark room with his trademark leaning into the camera which was most of his videos at that moment TBF.

Thanks in advance for any help you can provide.

Not relevant to this question, but let me just say that ya'll fucking rock. I don't participate much here, but lurk quite a bit. I am in awe of you. Fighting a very bitter nasty fight just to be able to walk freely as yourself. It takes some giant steel balls (metaphorically) to do that. Keep on killing it!