My leg hair is my favorite part of my body. I stopped shaving around February and learned I’m blessed with long leg hair genes! It makes me feel masculine and I love it. I can’t wait for T someday so I can be hairy all over.

(Obviously body hair is not an inherently “masculine” trait and women who grow their leg hair aren’t less ladylike because of it… just to clarify. Lol 😅 idk why my brain is like this)

This post is just me sending my thoughts out to the void. But..

I'm a transman. And once I started transitioning I began pushing my "feminine" and "childish" interests away. I was getting annoyed with how people weren't taking my transition seriously because of how I behaved, the way I dressed, and the things I liked. So l shoved it all away so I can prove to others that I am a man. But in doing so I felt like I was losing more and more of myself.

Until I met my (now) boyfriend. He helped me open up and realize that it doesn't matter what I like. I am a man regardless of my interests. I am a man regardless of what clothes I wear, if I put on makeup, if I grow out my hair.

And yea, my family thinks that I'm not serious about transitioning again. But I don't care anymore. I don't exist to please them. My love knows I'm a man. I know I'm a man. And that's all that matters to me right now. I'm happy :)

I'll be forever grateful for my safe space. I'll be forever grateful for the love of my life.

Tagged for NSFW because this may be triggering for some people—it’s very hard for me to talk about.

Like a lot of us here (if not all), I’m a very fem trans guy.

I’m not out to my family at all, except for my brother—but even then, I haven’t explicitly said, “I’m trans; refer to me by such and such.” He knows, though. Still, he uses my birth name and she/her pronouns. For context, he’s out as gay to my family.

The thing is, I’m very visibly trans—facial hair, body hair, a deeper voice, a masculine body, and just… so different from who I was pre-transition. I’ve been on T for two years now, and I’ve kept it a secret from my family. They’ve definitely noticed and have asked about it—not in a way that’s supportive or encouraging but by berating me with invasive, hurtful questions. Their approach has only made me shut down more.

What I’m struggling with—and why I’m reaching out here—is this: Is anyone else in a situation where you’re not out to your family, you live with them, and it feels like it’s killing you inside? I never hear from other trans people who are in this same weird, in-between space. It’s always one extreme or the other: they’re out, and their family either accepts them or rejects them, or they’re not out at all and haven’t started transitioning out of fear (which is 100% valid—you don’t need to medically transition to be trans!).

But what about people like me? People who are in this halfway place where you’ve been medically transitioning but still aren’t out to your family? Living here, under this roof, feels unbearable sometimes. I’m terrified of coming out because my identity feels so much more complex and nuanced than just saying, “I’m a trans man.” That phrase alone doesn’t fully encapsulate who I am.

So, I’m wondering: How did you all come out as fem trans guys? Are there any tips or experiences you can share? Anything at all that might help? I just feel so stuck, like I’m suffocating, and I’d really appreciate hearing from others who might understand.

I’m really wanting to start experimenting with a more androgynous/fem style and honestly I don’t know if I have the courage to do so. I used to experiment with fashion and makeup all the time but, that’s when I was very early into starting my medical transition and I basically got called a faker and bullied out of it. I’ve kind of forced myself into being masc and while I do enjoy dressing masc I would like to branch out a little bit. However, my anxiety won’t let me.

Any advice?

I'm pre everything except social transition, but if a skirt is pretty enough I'm brave enough to look fem ❤️

New work schedule is kicking my butt... hopefully I'll look a little less dead inside in a week or so 🫠

I was so scared xdxd, I had been scared of being myself before but I felt so happy and free, any advices will be appreciated!

Felt a bit cute today amongst the anxiety and pain(migraines and periods suck).

Sup! I'm still in the closet so I think this is an important question, I've never been a fan of my body hair and I found it uncomfortable to have to wax - luckily it doesn't hurt that much in certain areas of the body for me, but I can't deny that it's not the best feeling (especially when it comes to the groin).

Fortunately, I don't feel any dysphoria about it, in fact I feel happy just seeing my skin smooth.

Thinking about it, I was able to get laser hair removal sessions, fortunately, AND in the future I plan to do some hormone therapy. Will taking these hormones make the hair grow back and cancel out the results of laser hair removal? Can anyone with experience tell me whether or not it is worth just doing laser hair removal and then using hormones?

TLDR: I'm afraid IF after doing the sessions of laser hair removal and THEN taking testosterone, the hair will grow back and the sessions will have been a waste of money.

Turns out people will always be pretty/handsome to the right audience. :D