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I'm 17 and transmasc. I've been on T for 10 months, and I know what I want with my transition. Testosterone, top surgery amd a hysto. The hysto isn't as important right now but top surgery is.

I scheduled a top surgery consultation for in April and I'll be 18 by then. I've been in the foster system and recently got adopted which is great, however they expect me to be able to do everything myself without help to practice living on my own. Which great but. I don't know where to start and the gal on the phone lectured me for making this appointment without my parents as a minor.

I guess why would these people know how to help with this specific situation. I have to call my insurance and ask them what I need for the consultation but I get such severe anxiety with what to say, I have no idea where to start and looking at Google doesn't give me any answers.

Can anyone help, I feel like I'm dangling midair by a string.

How do you guys overcome feeling broken and unlovable because of being trans? I feel like I’ve had to deal with all this dysphoria and loneliness because I deserve it for some reason. And I feel completely undeserving of anything good, especially from other people like love, kindness, and appreciation. Any advice is appreciated

If you don't want to insert things, can it be treated uhhh taking pills or something? That's the only thing I'm worried about in the future, because I want T but I don't want to put anything in there, it would cause me massive dysphoria:/ I would rather take pills with estrogen or whatever than have to interact with those parts

hi! so ive been on t for about a year and a half now and i have yet to figure out how to combat the acne…. before i started i had no issues with it at all but after maybe three-ish months it started and i still havent found a great way of controlling it. my skin type is normal/sensitive; my skincare routine pre-t worked for me good, so the only things ive tried different so far is using turmeric soap once a day and salicylic acid at night. does anyone have any skincare products that have worked for them? much love <3

So I'm a trans guy that has a skin condition that is currently being treated with Spironolactone. I'm hoping to get on Testosterone very soon, but I've heard that Spironolactone can lower testosterone levels. Does anyone know what effect it will have if I am taking both? Will I have to get off of spironolactone for testosterone to be effective

Hi, I’ve been on T for 7 years and also been with the same girl the same amount of time.

Our whole relationship, I have been pleasuring her sexually with me not getting any sexual pleasure whatsoever. Not because she didn’t want to, I was just embarrassed of my body, a service top, touch-me-not, nevernude, ect.

I masturbated often but as you can imagine all that time not being able to experience my girlfriend or feel her was INCREDIBLY frustrating for me.

Recently we’ve been living together and I’ve become comfortable with my body and trying to experience pleasure. However nothing really works. Head doesn’t feel good for some reason and I can’t figure out positions that would work to get my growth in her. My T dick is pretty large (roughly 2.5in) but it doesn’t stick out much. Trying and it not working is almost (if not) more frustrating than just accepting not receiving anything. Whenever we try I just get pissed off and turned off. Not trying to be dramatic but I feel kinda hopeless lol. I have read it’s possible to get it in and it seems like a lot of guys here enjoy getting head.

TL;DR Basically, wtf are you guys doing? If you can explain any positions that work to penetrate, or what your partner does when giving head I would appreciate it immensely. Bonus if you’re around the same size as me but I would love literally any tips at all.

Side note, I have seen the play packers that have pleasure attachments and stuff, I’ve considered them, I haven’t seen enough reviews that make me set on buying one though. Do any of them have a soft hole built in that your dick can go into? I prefer suction/penetration over grinding/rubbing. Vibration is a no. The banana pants prosthetic attachments look like they might hurt lol but correct me if I’m wrong.

Thank you so much!

So last week I had a consultation with a surgeon. While he was examining me and explaining everything to me, he said I could get keyhole with no problem. which I didn't know was possible with my size ((I'm smaller medium size for reference) other surgeon said I'd have to get a double incision). Which is great?

But here's the problem. I don't know if I want it? I've never even thought about getting keyhole tbh. Like yeah with a keyhole, I wouldn't have to worry about passing (which Is a huge plus since I want to be as safe as possible in public spaces where I'd have to take off my shirt), explaining why I have huge scars on my chest, or getting "dog ears" which is great!!! but I'm not too well informed about this type

So with keyhole there are many social-related pros, but also I feel like

1. I'll lose a huge part of myself (literally lol) with no visible remains...

2. I'm getting it because of others/ to be perceived better by others/ because I'm expected to

On the other hand with double incision, I'd have super cool scars I would LOVE and be proud to have and I'd be constantly reminded of who I am and what a long way I've come (positive). Plus for years I was okay with the idea of a double incision, I even draw my sona with them! Plus plus I feel like I would be "rebelling" against the "norm". Everyone expects me to get the "better" option to blend in completely, which I don't want to, I like the way I am.

But with a double incision, I'm more worried that I'll end up with bad-looking results or some other complications

here's link to the surgeon's site with some of his examples

I know the decision is ultimately mine but I'd love to hear other ppl's opinions since I have no one to talk to about this irl and i want to make a good decision for myself. what are some other positives and negatives or possible complications of each type? Which one did you get (if you had a choice) or want to get and why?

// next week I'm going to therapy so I'll definitely talk about all this with my therapist. and in a few days I'm hanging out with my transmasc friend so hopefully I'll have the chance to talk about this with them

// btw sorry for my bad grammar, English is not my 1st language

Hey guys. I had unprotected sex with a guy yesterday. No condom, pull out method. Approximately 12 hours later, I’m taking plan B. I have been on T for over 2 years and haven’t menstruated for over 1 year. Yes I realize T isn’t birth control but hoping odds are ever in my favourite.

Looking for advice or good luck or idk? Feeling so dumb for doing this.

I'm trans but I wouldn't mind being pregnant and even want to be eventually, but I don't know how back backlash I would get or how taking testosterone would effect pregnancy, from what I heard it'd make it harder to get pregnant, so if I were too would I try to get pregnant and take hormoes after rthe baby??

I’m flying out to see my mom in January and I will be there for over a week. I take mine once a week and will miss a shot if I cant bring it:/

I will have a check bag and carry-on if that helps.

I’ve been on the max dose of T for about 2 months or so and my jaw/ chin acne has gotten progressively worse. I understand this is completely normal but is it possible that it will subside after some time? And if so when can I expect it to calm I’ve always had acne but just got it under control pre T. I shower lots, wear clean clothes and clean my sheets often.

Today in PE, I sat in my usual spot (To give more of a description, there’s benches, like a lot, along the wall.) This guy who’s known to be obnoxious and honestly so immature, he had came up saying “This is my seat, but i’ll let it slide. Don’t let it happen again.” (Let’s call him Ollie) and he’s not really serious but he’s doing it to be “funny”. Honestly I’m just ignoring it, cause he’s always doing weird crap like that. Though, a teacher overhears this, she’s like coming over to us. Telling him the same thing, like… “I own this gym, don’t come into my gym without my permission.” You know, giving him a taste of his own medicine or whatever.

The thing is, after she’s done saying this to him. Which honestly was kinda nice of her til she said, “Leave her alone, okay, don’t be bothering her.” Like woah, every time I feel like I’m passing well, always someone saying otherwise. Now this obnoxious guy already knew I was trans, a few other people did too but that’s because they knew me in elementary. He did not but he’s friends with people who did. So he’s like “Well actually she body slammed me last period.” (Did not, he was just making crap up to try and be funny.) JUST A BUNCH OF “SHE” AND “HER” being thrown around and i’m stuck in the middle feeling like crap.

This other girl (Lets call her, penny.) who always hangs around the obnoxious guy, gets involved into the conversation. She says “That’s not their pronouns, he goes by him.” and honestly that felt nice, the teacher was surprised and was like oh. Then she left. But of course they’re still on the topic and talking about it, honestly i’m wishing they’d move on. Though of course someone else has to overhear this and they start LAUGHING? Because Penny is like “It goes by he/him! be respectful.” And it was nice when she first corrected everyone but now she was laughing with Ollie and it was obviously a joke to her now. Ollie’s laughing about it and saying “Yea be respectful to her.” STILL misgendering me.

They finally move on, but of course Ollie is still a pain in the ass. Asking me, “So do you like boys or girls?” It doesn’t matter what I answer, you know if you’ve been asked this. They’ll joke and tease you about it. I say something along the lines of “That’s a weird question to ask, I don’t even know you, that’s personal.” and i’m not even looking at him. But he does not take any hints that I just want to be left alone, he persists. “I’m just asking a question.” but why is that question important? Why do you have to know that? And that’s exactly what I say. So he gets ANNOYED??? saying “Okay whatever, just say you’re gay. Dumbass.” ??? Are you serious? Not only did I have to sit there next to the dude, I just had to calm myself from tearing the hell up cause I was so damn upset.

This whole situation just sucked, my gender dysphoria has been getting worse and I’m about to lose it. I can’t win with these people, Im trying my best to ignore it but it’s so hard. What more can I do? What do I say? How do I stop feeling so upset? Yes I know that teacher meant well. But she honestly just stirred the pot and then after misgendering me, didn’t even correct herself after being told the correct pronouns. Maybe i’m just angry and reacting to everything that happened now. I don’t know.

i sing a lot, and i try to sing a lot of songs that are sung by men, and even when i am hitting the same notes in the same pitch as them, i just sound like a girl. i'm even hitting the pretty low notes fine but they just sound "weird" like a girl trying to do a silly deep impression of a man. i've read that it's due to different resonance/timbre, but is there a way to change that pre-t and sound more like the guy singers? i've seen a few voice training videos but i'm not sure if they'd apply to singing or not the same way? i haven't really started voice training yet, but i think i have pretty masculine intonation, but it's just not the same at all while singing.

I had top surgery yesterday and just need to know when this pain chills tf out. Meds are great but last 4 hours and then I’m back to agony.

Let me know pls :/

I know I shouldn’t get rashes from trans tape but I have very sensitive skin. I get a rash after taking it off and it gets itchy and I make the mistake of giving in. I know trans tape sells some balm for recovery but the shipping is lwk expensive. What do you guys do when this happens? Do you have any suggestions or do you use things like vaseline or lotion?

Thanks in advance!!

Hello! I’ll make this quick. I usually do a 25g 5/8 needle for my testosterone cypionate sub q injection. I recently switch to 26g 1/2 just to make it easier. I noticed as I was injecting, I noticed a significant amount of pain. I usually have pain from doing these shots on this side on my stomach, so I knew it would pinch a little but this was pretty shitty.. I read that injecting the oil too fast can cause some pain. Has this happened to anyone?

I had been previously using a cream that came in a tube that would twist and dispense the cream, but recently, I raised my dosage so this form doesn’t work anymore. I moved to using shots recently, but my body hates needles. I have a tendency to pass out as needles enter skin, so this has been a struggle for me. I know there is another form and it’s a gel, but it has far too many cons for me to pick it over needles. I’m wondering if y’all have any advice on how to better deal with needles? Thanks!

I really don’t want to cut them out of my life. For now I financially can’t but soon I would be able to. My parents are trump heads, but they aren’t totally unsupportive? I had a huge fight with my mom a few days ago in which she called me a disappointment and said I was dead to her. But then after she kept apologizing and saying she didn’t want to lose me, that this was all just “hard” on her. I’m sure a lot of you will say to cut them off, but it doesn’t feel right to me. I do want them in my life, they’re the only family I have. Sometimes they’re really great about it, other times not. I don’t know anyone in real life with unsupportive parents, im the only one in my queer friend group that has trump parents. and the trump parents i’ve heard of act nothing like mine. i don’t know how to go forward and keep a relationship with them but i also don’t know how to cut them off.

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I've had my top surgery 2 weeks short of a full year now, so haven't binded for all this time so the back pain can't be related to that and I've been on T for the past 9 months, and I remember vaguely hearing from someone that ftm hrt could cause it but I wasn't able to find anything online so wanted to ask here if any of you know anything about it, personal experiences or have any medical sources/articles about it?

I have top surgery scheduled in early June 2025 and I live in America. I'm able to afford it out of pocket but insurance would obviously be nice. I've just been stressing out that top surgery will be banned completely when trump gets in office. Does anyone have any insights. I try to avoid looking at what trump plans to do with policies regarding trans ppl cuz it just makes me anxious 😓

So I am looking to start T soon but I really don't know 𝘩𝘰𝘸 I want to take it. While Ive done plenty of research on effects, I really haven't done any research on the different ways to take it. I was thinking of using gel since I heard you can get a lower dose with it. I do want to go with something less potent, but can I can a low dose with injections as well? I have no problem with needles so I dont mind that part but for some reason Im under the impression that both have different effects. Or like, potencies. I want something as low and gradual as possible so if anyone can tell me about their experiences with gel/injections let me know! I will also be speaking to a doctor but I wanted input from real, grade A, free range transgenders.

Hey I’m Ftm trans for context and I’m like just over a month on T with the gender hormone clinic in London I have a private diagnosis of gender dysphoria and the private clinic said I could phone my gp and ask for a repeat prescription so I didn’t have to pay. So I phoned them and the receptionist said wait till the dr sees the paperwork and I will phone you back. He phoned back two days later saying that my fr would like to see me for an appointment. Which happened 2/3 weeks ago I had my appointment today I was just looking for a bit of advice on what to do I feel like my gp was a lil transphobic for this I asked my mum she feels the same but I just sorta wanted confirmation from other trans people.

Basically I arrive at the drs I was like 10 mins early and on their system my appointment was at 4:30 but it was actually at 11:30 and there had been a mix up so I was right. I wait 40 mins before a get to see the gp, then she’s just like bumbling her words and asked me about my gender dysphoria diagnosis I said I went private and gave her the name and she was like questioning who this person was where she practiced how I seen her and how I found her and then questions me on how I found the gender hormone clinic and how that company is run this was a bit weird cause I felt I had to defend my medical history and diagnosis to her. So I tell her then she’s like are you on the waitlist with sandyford I said no I’m with Charing Cross because I previously lived in London and she’s like when we’re you referred and I was like 2022 and she was trying to be like it’s not too long of a wait and I was like let’s both be honest here I have at least 5 years to go before I’m even seen. Then she is like I just wanted to talk and say that I won’t be doing shared care and I was like what’s the point of this appointment then and she was like I just wanted to have a convo about it and I said so this appointment was a waste of my time and she was like not really because most gps wouldn’t even have entertained an appointment let alone help with bloods. She offered to just do bloods which is good.

Then she goes on to say that the gender hormone clinic are not responsible because I haven’t had a blood test or a review since being on hormones and I was like but they gave me signs to look out for and I stated that I have a review in a couple months but I’m free to contact them anytime I want, I had also mentioned that other gps where doing bridge prescriptions and she was like “I wouldn’t prescribe you a pill I thought you didn’t need”, which I felt was basically referring I didn’t need hormones. I basically said I need your help I can’t afford it and I was like if I don’t have these hormones I will kill myself (I’m not really but I was trying to express the seriousness) and she deadpanned just stared at me and said nothing like am I wrong or is this not right ? Her whole demeanour gave a sort of I don’t really care.

Like isn’t this something she could have said over the phone. I understand that shared care isn’t something most gps do in the uk but she kept repeating I’m not a gender specialist I’m just a gp but arnt gp’s meant to have a duty of care or at least offer helpful suggestions because she sort of come across like “I’m not doing it and that’s that goodluck” vibes.

I feel like I should find a new gp and will be phoning some others. I live in Scotland btw

Please provide some insight to the situation- all is appreciated.

-Nico He/him ✌️😎

I've been out going on five years now, and recently my mom's become overwhelmingly transphobic (parents are divorced, hoping to move in with my dad soon.)

It's just so tiring and exhausting having to try to justify who I am on a daily basis, like that's something I'm obligated to do.

It would be so much easier to just give up and start going by my legal name and gender again, but every time I think about it I know it's not the right thing.

No matter how much I think I'm faking it, of it's some hyper fixation I'll grow out of (I have ADHD), being trans is the only consistent thing in my life.

Just the thought of being seen as a woman is instantly uncomfortable, and I know women don't feel that way about themselves, so I'm definitely not cis.

But it's also exhausting to keep fighting just to be who I am, when it feels like I'll never get anywhere.

It just boils down to the fact that I'm worried I'll never be happy. That I'll always be stuck in a state of self loathing and depression because I'll always be seen as a woman.

So far I get gendered correctly in public, but my mom always "corrects" anyone.

She also keeps me dependant on her, I don't leave the house much and she doesn't let me have any friends. So basically all my interactions are with her, which are transphobic.

Idk this is kind of a rant or but I never get replies in any other subreddits.

I have nobody else to talk to.

hello! i just wanted to know, how the hell do i start the process to get top surgery? i currently have no other trans masc people in my life to ask about this process, so i figured id come here. i’ve been on T for 1.5 years, and i’ve been out as trans for over 4 years. i am 20 years old and (thank god) my parents have agreed to support me through this process and use their insurance to help pay for surgery. i have a doctor through my college who prescribes my T but im not sure if she is my primary care provider. besides her and my psychiatrist, i have no other doctors. i have been in touch with an organization in my hometown that helps LGBTQ+ folks, and i figured i could get some referrals from them, but their waitlist is 3 months. should i reach out directly to a surgeon and see what they need in terms of insurance and letters? so many questions! this process is daunting.

throwaway b/c people irl know my main acc.

anyways, im 20 and i think that i may be a trans man (that's a whole other post/ story). i dont like being a "woman" and have never identified as it.

i also hate having the female body and have been wanting to go on T for a very long long long time. (note: im from ontario if that gives an idea of the rules of the place i reside in). i think i should be able to get T on my own ofc now at this point as im 20, but the problem is that my mom thinks that T will have negative health impacts.

she's not transphobic (i dont think - like i wear binders occasionally and she knows that and doesnt care if i wear them out in public or to like family's houses), but when i mentioned wanted to start using T then shes on about "youre going to ruin your health using all these chemicals" and whatever

how can i convince her that T isnt bad for you/ your health. (i also wanna go on BC or something to try and stop my periods for the time being or if T doesnt help with stopping them and shes also against that)

I’ve been out for 4 years and living as a guy for that long. I am 17. I’ve always known I was a boy and I made sure my family knew. they didn’t agree with letting me change my name or use other pronouns till I started Highschool. I’m in my senior year and my dad JUST started using they/them instead of she/her, I have never asked for him to use they/them and he uses them as an alternative for he/him because for some reason he still thinks I’ll grow out of it. He also stopped deadnaming me (unless he’s yelling then he doesn’t care), but instead of calling me by my chosen name (which is also my legal name now) he just refers to me as my first initial because it stayed the same. It’s just pissing me off and everyone is like ‘give it time’ but it’s been three years and he only just started to try. I’ve told my mother and brother I don’t appreciate it and mentioned it to him but he never decides to use his ‘listening ears’ and just ignores it. Do I have to just give it more time or like aggressively tell him to stop? (he only ever seems to listen if you a whole dramatic scene out of it)

I really like the name Cyrus but my mom said she'll never call me that and it reminds her of Miley Cyrus 😭

I also considered Seth.

Anyone have any cool name recommendations?

Ive been living my life as a boy since I was 11 years old. I've always been desperate to go on testosterone, and now that I'm 18 I have access for it. but now all of a sudden I feel doubt. Is this a normal feeling? like seriously I've always been confident testosterone was right for me but now I'm questioning everything.

Mostly a question for those who do injections but other forms welcome to answer! I just started and I'm wondering if I got put on a low dose since I'm a teenager even though I've been done with puberty for a couple years.