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I know it's a depressing time in history for many. But please don't let the recent transphobia and attempts to discriminate by this new administration get you down.

Hang tough, I'll always be an ally.

I use Aetna. Everything tells me it should be picking up my T Gel completely, and my doctor was under the impression they should to. But for some reason, they aren’t. Anyone know why or has had the same problem??

Hey y'all, I need some advice. I have a non-binary friend who is seeking a binder but they have chronic back pain from a bad accident a couple years ago and had to get their spine fused. So I need recommendations on binders that would be best for someone with that kind of disability/chronic pain. Thank you in advance! I have told them to at least look into the "for them" brand of binders since I've used them and found it to be especially more comfortable than binders that have a non-stretch panel in the front. But I'm open to suggestions. Thanks! 💛🙏🏼

Last night, I met some of my boyfriend’s friends for the first time. They were very respectful, and everything went well.

But when my boyfriend was introducing me to one of them, he said, "This is Noah, my boyfriend." (In Portuguese, "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" sound pretty similar.) The guy responded, "Didn't you date a dude?"

Haha, anyway, I just said, "Wow, you really messed that up, dude." And everyone else gave him a bit of a hard time after that.

Today, he texted my bf and was really apologetic. He sounded genuine, which is really different from what most people do (making me feel like i'm overreacting and they didn't do anything wrong).

But honestly? I’m so fucking tired. I’m only 19. I only started transitioning five years ago, and I’m already exhausted by people being accidentally transphobic.

Apparently, no one ever means to be disrespectful. They’re just uninformed, and I’m supposed to suck it up and forgive them because, oh wow, they feel bad.

Guess what? I feel bad too. I actually kinda want to off myself, and you’re not helping.

I don't think he meant to be a jerk, but at the same time, it doesn't mean he gets a free pass, if I'm feeling bad, you're going to feel bad about it too.

I haven’t had this issue before, this has been happening in the recent weeks.

I do subQ with a 23g needle. Sometimes the T its self won’t push through the needle?? I have to twist it while it’s in me and it’ll get going again and then I’ll have to twist it again every so often. I’m injecting 0.5 mL so it’s quite a bit of liquid.

Is that… normal? Like I said, it’s new, it didn’t happen in the previous 2 years I’ve been on T. The only change I’ve gone through is I’ve been losing weight but I doubt that has anything to do with it.

Advice?

I finally made the call and booked my first HRT appointment thru Planned Parenthood, it's in a few months so I can save up for it. I'm going in with no insurance since I don't qualify for any, and hopefully will get some help 🥺Anyone got any insights on what prices for T are without coverage? I've heard GoodRx has the best out of pocket pricess around $60. I don't have a legal job since I can't do that, so money is very sporadic, and I live in a red state, thankfully I'm over 21 but its still hard to know how to go about my transition in a way that won't leave me high and dry.

hi there this is my first time posting on this sub. i’m a 21, pre t, living in the closet but out at my accepting art university. i came out to my dad last week. i did this because he seems more progressive than my mom and he is very involved in left politics. it went really well and he told me he loves me, he isn’t mad, he will do anything to see me happy.
since coming out he’s still been calling me my deadname, the day i came out when he called me it i made a really disturbed face and i said “well you know how much it hurts me” and he muttered my chosen name and hasn’t used it since. i really need some comfort and some words from an older trans man rn :( i just had a conversation with my dad and i feel so hopeless, heartbroken and upset. he basically started saying i have to come out to my mom tomorrow, and how it’s going to be really emotional for her and “destroy/ruin her”. he is saying he cannot hold it in for a long time, my mom will be jealous that i told him first, and that i need to tell her soon. when i came out to him, i gave him an extremely long letter explaining my whole childhood and everything as this has been a lifetime of me trying to come out and then going back into the closet. i plan on giving my mom a letter too. he just told me that she will probably read the first sentence and not even read the rest as she has so much stress going on in her life and she will just see this as another problem. (for context my mom is extremely depressed and tells me she wants to run away from my family environment and she has not read my autism diagnosis which i got 8 months ago because it’s too stressful for her) i started walking away from him crying and he began yelling at me and swearing at me. he told me he did not tell me to come out tomorrow, and he is not pressuring me, and he did not yell at me..

i feel so broken and confused and hopeless. i was genuinely going to come out to her this week, but now he’s said it’s going to ruin her???? that she will not even read my letter??????

i told him multiple times that i have already thought about this a million times and discussed it in therapy, i don’t really want to be talking about the negatives for no reason as it brings me down so much and he continued to yell at me..

can someone please give me some advice or comfort or something nice to hear. i feel myself going back into the closet. i just want her to love me. i don’t want to ruin my family. what do i do. :(

Please just offer some advice! I'm so indecisive

So I finally finally talked to my dad about going on T and am now researching best financial options and otherwise

I want to start as soon as possible, obviously, but here's my dilemma:

I sing with the chamber singers at my university. We have a tour the second week in March. After that, my voice needs continue. Recording session, local competition, the opera (ensemble), a concert with the orchestra, and a studio Showcase are all on my list.

I'm worried if I start T now I may lose control of my voice before all of these important events. Tour and the competition are the most important to me, both of which I need my high range for. I sing both tenor and alto in chamber, and my rep for the comp is mostly within the G3-C5 range. (For reference, my chest voice begins around that G3, extends to a D/E3, and I can reach as high as an E5 comfortably. So I'm definitely a mezzo but I prefer to identify as a tenor, obviously.)

I'm just wondering if any singers (or even non singers) have any advice. My voice COULD change within a month, or it could take a few months, and I just need to think on it for a bit.

How long did y'all wait to do your legal name change (if you have)? I talked to my doctor about getting a letter and she cautioned I may not have been on t long enough for the state to approve it.

Update: it looks like a letter is only needed for gender change which I'm avoiding given it would no longer match my passport.

So, this is kind of TMI but I’ve struggled for a few months with a really strong abnormal odor down there, like definitely something out of the ordinary it’s not just the smell of sweat. It’s driving me inane. I can smell it through my clothes. (And I know T can change the smell of your sweat- I don’t think it’s just that). Boric acid helps while I use it, but it comes back when I stop. I got tested at the OGNYN for BV and yeast and it came back negative. I was given meds anyways, and it didn’t work.

I’ve been on T for a little over a year, and I wear cotton underwear only. Two of my doctors says T shouldn’t cause this, but then my OBGYN did some research and said it could be because of the T changing my pH and prescribed me topical estrogen gel to try.

Has this happened to anyone else? What helped?

I was fortunately able to update my gender marker on my passport the week before the sc*mbag was inaugurated. I totally forgot to update my gender marker with TSA precheck.

With all the crazy passport stuff going down, I'm worried TSA precheck will f*ck with me in a similar way.

So I’ve been trying to find a middle name that I like. My dad is Mexican and Salvadoran, I’ve been talking about this with my dad’s girlfriend that I really like the middle name Cienfuegos, and it sounds good with my first and last name. She told me to expect for people to try to talk to me in Spanish. I wasn’t raised by my dad so I don’t know Spanish, and I’m pretty white compared to the rest of my family. I’d feel pretty embarrassed if someone tried to talk to me in Spanish and I had to tell them I don’t speak Spanish. I’m changing my last name to be my dad’s last name, which is Hispanic anyways

Any good dating/hook up apps or sites for T4T? I haven't found any in my search.

Heyyy so basically I'm a trans ftm teen and I'm not aloud to go on T yet so my voice still sound like a girl, I have this problem where whenever I talk to someone new or an adult my voice gets all high and shy, making it obvious that I was afab. Does/did anyone else struggle with this or am I just weird? If u have struggled with this before PLEASE give me some tips on how to fix it 🙏 btw I'm a singer so please don't recommend anything that could hurt my vocal cords

Hi! Has anyone on here ever donated plasma? I am recently 18 and am hoping to make some extra money to save for college. I just signed up for my physical(this friday)/first donor appointment and I was wondering if anyone has had trouble with this before? I am on testosterone(about 2.5 years) and a progesterone only bc to stop periods. I am also gay but have not been sexually active in the last 6 months and been tested so that shouldn't be an issue. The specific company is BioLife if that matters

I’m American, 16, and bc of family issues I couldn’t start T, but now I’m in a situation where I could take something else. I’m at a point where I just barely pass, people generally assume I’m a cis guy, but if I tell them I’m trans they aren’t very surprised. I take 3 grams of creatine daily and work out 6-7 days a week. I’ve been recommended minoxidil, I was wondering what I should know about that before I use it. Are there different kinds? Could it be banned? I’m also a little overweight and cursed with a very feminine fat distribution, is there anything I can do about that? Any specific diets or workouts that are recommended? I’m even willing to try birth control or something if that could help, idk. Thanks, I just made this account last night purely for trans stuff, so this is probably the first post of many.

I am currently putting together an art portfolio for work. For the longest time i've labeled my art with my art tag or preferred name in all my socials and contact info, but now that i start to look for more formal jobs i wonder if i should use my deadname instead, since using my art tag feels too casual.

I have not yet changed my documentation to my preferred name and gender and it may be a long time before i'm able to. My main concearn is having legal problems with the discrepancy between my contact info and my documentation.

Any trans person in the art industry that could help me?

Can she force me to get on birth control? I use protection and practice safe sex, but she said if I don't get on birth control by the next time I see her I won't be allowed to continue treatment with her.

so I had an appointment with my doctor and I decided to switch over from testosterone gel to testosterone injections as they last longer and I’m not positive if they’re gonna get banned or not, and I am on medicaid and it always covers the gel in full and the prior authorization still hasn’t been approved by the insurance and it’s been almost 2 weeks. i did check and my doc did send the request to the insurance.

I keep seeing on social media that certain red states are preventing hormone replacement therapy from being covered if the diagnosis is gender dysphoria which is my diagnosis. I’m just curious if anyone else lives in ohio and is not getting their testosterone approved.

also if anybody has low cost insurances that do cover HRT please let me know as I am considering switching to an insurance that isn’t medicaid due to all of the oncoming restrictions.

Hey so I just got my hair cut short for the first time ever, I have had it sitting on my shoulders with layers for awhile now but this is the first haircut that I’ve gone short. I am happy as it is more boyish but how long does it take for the hating the way it looks on me to go away? And how do I learn how to style it properly. I’m stressing as I have school and want to make sure I won’t get made fun of for it

For anyone who’s gotten their testosterone through a clinic that uses informed consent, did you get your first dose same day? I’m wondering if I’ll have to wait to hear back from my insurance before I get it, or if I paid out of pocket if I could get my T that same day? Not really sure how it works, would appreciate hearing anyone’s experience. Thanks. (I’m an adult in the US, using planned parenthood)

So if you guys didn’t know, they’ve officially stopped processing marker changes for social security. I, being lazy and dumb, didn’t just go early last week even though I had a feeling this was going to happen and was going to go this week to update it :/ so now I’m screwed I guess?

But my issue is that only half my docs are updated. How big of a problem is this going to be? BC is by state so I can probably do that but say all except my SS say male, what potential problems may arise?

Given the climate I am very scared especially as a trans black man of potential issues with police/governments and prison for just existing.

Is this a normal side effect of T? It seems to be happening almost constantly.

I’m looking for a product that is realistic somewhat, good for penetration, and not super expensive. I also need advice on how to hide this since I’m only 17 and I don’t really want my parents seeing it lol. My girlfriend and I talked about it and we want to have sex for the first time soon and I want to find something that would be good for a first time.

I'm pre everything and very rarely pass even though I present pretty masculine. I'm not out to anyone yet though so I have never asked anyone irl to use he/him pronouns or anything like that yet.

I'm moving to a new city soon and starting a new job. I definitely want to be out to any new friends I make and in the dating scene, but idk what approach to take at my job and just in general day-to-day life. I'm moving to a pretty lgbt friendly city but the fact that I don't pass makes me hesitate. I don't want people to not take me seriously, yknow? At the same time, it's probably gonna be a few years at least until I can afford to go on T and get surgery, so idk if I want to live another 2-3 + years as a "woman".

Any advice would be great

I don’t understand how this happened. I bought it maybe six months ago and while I have been wearing it almost daily I only wash it in the sink with some laundry detergent, so it never suffered through a wash cycle or a dryer. I also only wash it once a week, leave it to dry on the towel rack and take a binder break for a day or two while it’s drying. Basically, the less stretchy fabric at the front has a hole kind of in the armpit area where it’s sewn onto the back piece. Is this normal wear and tear for something like this? How to I keep this from getting worse? This a Phluid brand binder by the way.

Anyone else mentally feel like theyre bottom dysphoria area is just an open wound? For me it feels like i lost my dick in an accident and theres a wound left that needs to be fixed

I’m feeling extremely defeated and could use some encouragement, or to at least hear that I’m not the only one?

I have been on T for over 5 years and have had little to no voice change. I’ve been on anywhere from 30mg - 70 mg sub-q weekly the entire time and my T levels have always been within cis-male range.

I still have a high, feminine voice and it causes me such extreme dysphoria. I have many, many transmasc friends and also worked at a hormone clinic for years - I have watched people on a fraction of the amount of T I take have extreme voice drops in a matter of months. I’m yet to meet a single other person on testosterone who never ever got a voice drop like myself.

Am I alone? I feel so frustrated. Voice training only goes so far. It’s slowly crushing my spirit. I don’t even need or want to pass but my voice immediately “genders” me to people in a way that I hate.

I can’t go up on T because it would put my labs in unsafe territory and I have terrible hormonal acne, so it’s not really an option.

Has anyone else experienced this? :/ please tell me I’m not alone.

For me, I was a super nerdy child who didn't interact with people much. So, naturally, when I was like 4/5 I was CONVINCED that I was part of some psychological experiment to see what would happen if you raised a boy as a girl (i think i mightve heard about the actual case of that from one of my older siblings learning abt it at school)

And the funniest thing is that even though I was sure I "figured it out", I decided I didn't want to ruin their experiment so I kept quiet.

Ok so, Ive been experiencing some weird chest sensations lately and im wondering if it could be attributed to using transtape. I haven’t seen my doctor for it yet, but i have an appointment soon. Therefore i’m not entirely sure it’s nerve related but my symptoms seem to match really well with those associated with peripheral nerve pain. I wouldn’t describe it as pain but rather just a bothersome tingling/pins and needles/burning sensation in the middle of my chest that spreads out slightly to the skin on my breasts. it does come and go but it seems to get worse at night.

Now, I’ve been using transtape for well over two years at this point. i used to be a lot better with my habits of taking it off within the recommended period of time and not pulling the tissue back too tightly, but as i’ve used it more i’ve gotten a lot lazier with those instructions. i’m not here for people to tell me this bad though lol, i know i should follow them more but oh well.

The issue began a couple weeks ago when i realized that i had left my tape on for way too long and i decided to take a break from taping to help heal my skin. now that i haven’t worn the tape in a couple weeks, im getting these weird nerve pain sensations. I’m thinking that it could be because that tissue has been pulled back for so long (and probably too tightly) that it’s been damaging the nerves in that area. The pain also seems to lessen when I pull the tissue back with my hand. I’m going to try taping again and see if that relieves it some.

I havent seen any other posts relating to this issue with transtape specifically so my question is: has anyone else experienced this?

I’m not asking for any medical advice, i know yall aren’t doctors lol. I just want to see if this pain could be attributed to my transtape use. There are other factors that i’m considering could also be related to this issue but i’m trying to rule some things out so when I see my doctor I have a better understanding of what the possible causes could be. Thanks!