/r/NonBinary

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A subreddit for people of every stripe who feel that they don't fit into a preference-binary or gender-binary culture.

  1. This is a subreddit for people of every stripe who feel that they don't fit into our culture's gender-binary. This is a place to share stories, experiences, questions, images, art, poetry - anything to help you through the journey of expressing the real you and meeting others who are like you.
  2. Anyone binary wanting to ask questions because you don't understand something non-binary must search the archive before posting. Odds are your questions have been answered... multiple times. If it's obvious you haven't done this, your post will be removed.
  3. When making a link post, please make the first comment to your post. You can include a summary of the link, an opinion, and/or a discussion question. Thanks for participating!
  4. Interviews and surveys require prior approval from mods. Click here to modmail us.
  5. We do not allow posts that ask anyone to guess OP's AGAB/assigned gender at birth, whether it is as the main point of the post or a side-note, etc. If you see these posts, please report them to us.

  6. Related Communities:

    Steam Community: Genderqueer

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    /r/NonBinary

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    Got this hoodie I like, happy Halloween everyone

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    2024/10/31
    22:59 UTC

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    If your wardrobe is cool enough you can just wear your normal clothes with slight variation for a Halloween costume.

    I procrastinated getting a Halloween costume until it was too late. Luckily my regular clothes can make a decent hippie costume.

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    2024/10/31
    22:46 UTC

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    Booo 👻 happy clowny halloween 🎃

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    2024/10/31
    22:11 UTC

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    I had a dream

    The other day I had a dream where I was me but throughout the dream I had gone to different clothing stores and bought items of clothing that were typically "female" (such as knickers and bras and dresses and corsets as well as 'feminine' clothes). I wore them inside my room and done a fashion show where I felt so comfortable. I had a smile on my face that wasn't fake (for once), it was a genuine smile that came from within. I felt so at home and comfortable. I did wake up in my male body and felt absolute sorrow and disgust at my form I was given at birth.

    I'm not here for pity or sympathy; just here for camaraderie in my feelings. I don't want to be me but want to be the person I am.

    Thank you for all that have read this. I'm just being transparent with people on the Internet as they're the only people who actually care!

    Thank you!

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    2024/10/31
    22:06 UTC

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    Enya and Ulrich, at your service 🧙

    Needed a last minute costume so I threw together some stuff to make myself into a wizard lol! I even made up names and lore—I’m Enya and my frog is Ulrich, my ex-husband who I turned into a frog who’s cursed to carry my items for all eternity 😂

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    2024/10/31
    21:35 UTC

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    Happy Halloween (2B Gender Euphoria Edition)

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    2024/10/31
    21:02 UTC

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    My facial hair has been growing in more, and I'm curious what vibe do I give off?

    As the title says. I'm not on T, but my body does produce a lot of it(PCOS) hence the facial hair, not a bad thing! But since then I never been quite sure how to perceive myself.. 😅 I used to call myself a pretty boy, but with the facial hair, I'm not sure if I would call myself "pretty"? I feel like I look more masculine now, but I never knew what to make of it. I feel like one can be a pretty boy with facial hair but I'm not sure how I would tackle that from where I am at, never thought I would grow facial hair, but here I am.. or idk! I'm just thinking of how to get creative with my look with what I have, I have some ideas but I would welcome more.

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    2024/10/31
    20:52 UTC

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    i want boobs so bad

    why'd my appointment have to get pushed back a month, and that's not even the final appointment before i can start hrt, it'll probably take another month after that, why can't i just start now 😭

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    2024/10/31
    20:38 UTC

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    The Enby Avatar

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    2024/10/31
    19:41 UTC

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    Dysphoria, anxiety, and depression hitting hard today

    I just feel like not wanting to exist for a few hours or a week or two right now.

    It's just been a really rough day mentally, starting first thing in the morning with my roommate playing a video on her phone, out loud, with a bunch of transphobic feminists complaining about what makes a woman an "actual" woman. Now, I'm not a transgender woman, but hearing these people and the things they said just set me through a loop. She said she didn't expect the conversation to take that turn, but how couldn't she? That's all TERFS talk about is how trans women aren't real women and they're just men trying to appropriate their culture.

    Again, I'm not a transgender woman, but this still affects me in some slight way (even though I don't directly identify as trans, I'm just nonbinary). All day I've been at work trying to hide, both entirely and just how I look as I have to wear a certain uniform that felt incredibly revealing today (even though it's not at all). I just missed my security flannel that hid everything and I wanted to sit in the back until my shift was over, not having to deal with anyone.

    It's getting a little better as I'm trying to channel my angst into my writings, that's my form of catharsis and the only way I know how to deal with negative emotions. It's helping a bit and hopefully helps with my character's development story wise.

    Sorry for the random vent, I just felt like I needed to release a little somehow.

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    2024/10/31
    19:41 UTC

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    Aging without too much masculization is possible without hrt?

    Im a femboy and i identify with a feminine appearence (i just started my ''transition'' in appearence. I will do laser hair removal soon and im doing a lot of skin care, started growing my hair and etc) however im scared that as i get older with testosterone i will look too masculine to be a good looking femboy (i know however that estrogen doesnt stop aging) im currently 22 years old. theres the problem that i dont identify as trans and having breasts would be a problem for me, i also dont want to deal with the side effects and i dont know if its worth it, if theres healthier slower hrt than doing a full dose, etc. if i decide on hrt at a later age (30-35) will it still help? will i have further masculization even if puberty is over? i have so many questions...

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    2024/10/31
    19:29 UTC

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    throwback to one of my best 😆

    this year i’m a warm cozy bed that you can’t leave 🛌

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    2024/10/31
    19:26 UTC

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    Halloween ‘fit check! Wore this to a Chili’s. (They/He)

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    2024/10/31
    18:17 UTC

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    have a safe Halloween, friends!

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    2024/10/31
    17:46 UTC

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    Safe areas in the USA

    Hey y'all. I'm wondering where in the US is affordable, and safe to live as a trans person? I'm interested in living semi rurally, as I currently live in a major city and am trying to get out of the environment. Bonus points for family friendly.

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    2024/10/31
    17:08 UTC

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    tattoo placement pre-top surgery?

    I'm nonbinary/transmasc and about to get a fun new tattoo in a couple of days, but I'm a little worried about how it might look later on if I decide to get top surgery. I'm considering getting the tattoo either on the side of my ribcage (where I don't think future surgery would be an issue) or around my diaphragm area just beneath my chest (where I'm a little more concerned placement-wise). Has anyone had a tattoo around their chest pre-top surgery, and how did it wind up looking post-op? Thanks!

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    2024/10/31
    17:00 UTC

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    NB friendly fragrances?

    Do y’all have any recommendations for a non-binary fragrance? What even is a smell that not assigned to a gender? Also why are smells gendered??! Anyway…

    I like smelling nice but I want to avoid anything too femme or masc but I can’t even imagine what that would smell like. Should I mix fragrances?? Help!

    33 Comments
    2024/10/31
    16:51 UTC

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