I 27F & my husband 29M are seemingly separating after 5 years together, 4 years married. Two days ago he came home from work & we were talking about our issues in our relationship. I sobbed & said I feel like I will never be good enough or change quickly enough to make you happy. He just looked at me, cold faced. He said I’ve been numb, I don’t have sympathy that you’re crying. I’ve been feeling this way overtime & sometimes when you touch me it makes me angry & sometimes I don’t even want to kiss you goodbye in the mornings. My heart shattered. I asked if he wanted to continue to work through this or if he’s leaving. He told me he doesn’t have an answer for me yet. He needs time to think about it. I respected that decision & asked if we could at least talk about things before he leave for his work trip in a few days. He said yes. My heart hurts, I’m on the verge of tears, & I’m confused.

Just last week a mutual friend couple of ours is getting divorced & he said to me that it would detrimental to him if I were to leave him. I reassured him I’m here through thick & thin. That we’ve been going to therapy & working on our marriage & we both agreed things were better. We spent the night at my friend’s Halloween party & now this?!

I feel blindsided. I feel lied to. My heart hurts yet I’m also angry. The anger turns to confusion. He comes home the next day after this conversation acting so happy. Telling me he loves me & that I’m a good person. Acting like clearly something is wrong but also not… he continues to call me baby & says he loves me. I’m lost & I’m waiting for his answer on his decision to stay or not. I don’t want to press him but the unknown is driving me crazy. I really can’t tell if he’s staying or leaving. I feel like he would’ve left by now?

I need people to hear me & share their experiences from either side. I feel alone & scared.

I see many people here with big ticket reasons for separating/divorce. Cheating, drugs, harm, addictions.

it sometimes makes me feel embarrassed and ashamed for not really quite knowing mine. It's harder to explain to people, and to yourself.

I know we'd stopped sex, become housemates not partners, that I annoyed her in small ways, and that I didn't feel loved. But compared to what some people face, it all seems small. Day to day life was ok. You don't have to feel loved, do you? The children were important. You can live without sex. etc. At the time I felt I couldn't go on. But now I feel I took an easy way out of what was not that bad Anyone else feel this?

Hi! I’m asking for advice for a divorce. I tried going through Lone Star Legal Aid but unfortunately they’re not accepting family/divorce cases at this time. I can’t contact Houston Bar Association until 5:30 pm-8:00pm. And I believe it’s only for certain days out of the month.

I lost my job because he informed me I wasn’t allowed to use his family to help with our child so I could work. I have $8 to my name.

He keeps trying to kick me out of the house but I have rights correct?? He can’t do that unless if it’s court ordered?

We don’t own the home. His parents down sized so we moved into their main home. There was no lease or any paper work.

I live here with my husband, our son and my daughter from a previous relationship.

I really don’t know what to do or where to turn to so if anybody knows any places that might offer free legal advice or somebody does have advice, please comment below.

Separated 15 months ago, been divorced for 7 months. Ex husband is a good person but a deeply traumatized alcoholic, combat veteran, had an emotional affair, pretty absent in parenting even when we were married. The last few weeks he has asked me twice if I would ever consider getting back together. As far as I know he isn't sober but is trying, is moderately in therapy but hasn't taken accountability for how his actions damaged our relationship, and hasn't stepped up much in parenting. We don't have 50/50 custody and he struggles to even meet the 20% of time with the kids he's supposed to have. Would you ever consider it? After surviving divorce I don't think I could ever do it again, or put our kids through it again. Is this just his own grief in the bargaining stage?

tomorrow a realtor is coming to the house to view it. my STBXW will be here with her mother. i’ve asked my mom to accompany me as well, so i won’t feel outnumbered.

i hate this. this is the first time we will see each other sense she left me one day while i was at work, then came back a week later and moved all of her things. after telling me to give her space, in which i did, and we’d be able to figure out therapy options. instead she showed up to the house, and blindsided me completely. in which she brought her father, brother, and two officers. she’s admitting that was wrong of her, but was afraid id attempt to take my own life as well as keeping her straight and focused on leaving.

we are both women. i’m not violent, but she says she’s afraid of me due to my aggressive nature + my harsh words in times of anger or defense.

so this will probably be the 3rd hardest day of my life. i am feeling lost and empty, hoping for time. hoping for a big pay out. hoping my wife sees me and realizes she can’t lose me either…

i am only 30 and she’s 25. which explains a lot in hindsight. but i still love her. i still love this house. i still love my marriage.

anyways. happy saturday.

Long story short, my wife (53F) and I (45M) will (?) be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary next May. And all I can think is how desperately I want out.

My main issues are absolute boredom and sexual incompatibility. I just feel like we have reached a point where we want different things in life. It’s almost like I’m still ready to go in life (new experiences, new adventures) and she’s ready to just wind down.

Sexually, we have never had a very good sex life. There has never really been a spark. I think we like different things. We haven’t had sex in seven years … mostly by my choice because the entire thing gives me anxiety (I have a hard time hiding my disinterest). And it’s not a disinterest in sex … but specifically sex with her. It’s like having sex with a family member (I know she IS a family member but you know what I mean, I hope). We’re like buddies or roommates and not partners.

And that really goes for everything across the board, it feels like.

But then I wonder … I’m older. We’ve got twenty years in this relationship. Is it worth blowing everything up just out of a hope of finding something more fulfilling? Is the comfort of this worth more than the possible excitement of a new life?

I love her … but I don’t have romantic feelings toward her at all. There are no major problems - she’s thoughtful, we get along … but I just have this gnawing ache that I’m wasting my life while there’s still time to do something else.

Any advice or feedback would be greatly appreciated. I feel guilt and selfish for even thinking these things.

Is it better to keep them together or each take one? Animal lovers… please advise.

I found out that my wife was having an affair with another guy and i decided to proceed for divorce right after. (Please feel free to read my previous posts) I am looking for a lawyer from my side and we still live together as property is owned by both. She plans a trip with her bf even telling me about it. I told her to at least stay till divorce proceedings have started. I still have pics of her and her bf together in a hotel where they stayed together for 3 days which i retrieved from her Instagram messages. Btw her Instagram was logged in my phone way back when we were dating and she totally forgot about it and still lies to me that they are just friends. I have chats and Pictures which i have not shared to anyone till now. If she decides to go on that trip with her bf, I have planned to show her the pics and all the chats and walk out the door to live someplace else and never see her again or should i just leave without saying a word? I need suggestions.

This forum really helped me out, last year around this time, my ex-husband said he wanted to sleep with others, I said it was a no-go for me, and he said we are divorcing and he left within a month. He said so many hurtful and horrible things as he left.

A year on, he barely sees the kids(every other weekend), has had a girlfriend for a long while now (who has 5 kids including a 2 year old), got a cat and some hairplugs. Hes as noncommunicative now as he was in the marriage.

Ive spent the year in peace, I make 4 times his salary, owe no alimony or child support. I lost alot of weight and invested money is looking and feeling good. No boyfriends or dates yet, Im just not ready. My girl friends really helped me in moving forward in my life. I dont know if Ill ever trust anyone again though. I have 7 more years of still having to somewhat be in each others lives and this year was pure hell. Retired, got a new job, got a divorce done in less than 5 months. I should be proud I was able to do so much. I've lived my life for others and hope in time I can live it for me.

For anyone else entering high divorce season, just remember its one step at a time. Ask for help when you need it. Getting divorced is pure hell, but being divorced has its peace.

Hello, I'm looking for a little advice. We are divorcing, no lawyers. We agreed on everything and don't want to pay a fortune. I saw another post about not using a lawyer, but I figure if I ask my questions there they won't be noticed or answered.

I have filed already. He responded. We have a court date in January. Is that it? It seems like I should need more. I e-filed:

Petition for Divorce
Summons
Certificate

This is what the clerk told me to file.

But the forms I downloaded online had a lot more. Parenting Plan, etc. There is the judgement form, where I was prompted to list the debts and property, but it didn't have me fill out who gets what. Does the judge do that or something? Do I bring this on the court date? Do I e-file this? The clerk only said "everything else will be filed later" when telling me to file only the above 3 documents. Do I need to bring a hard copy of this (or anything else) to the courtroom?

I know I probably sound like an idiot here, this should be simple. I wish I could find a step-by-step of what to expect, what documents to file and when, etc. At first I filed everything I had and it was rejected. I didn't knowwww

I left I finally left fully left my emotional and abusive relationship . I had to do it over text and when he wasn't home I packed my stuff and I moved out. I'm not sad and I feel bad about it . I'm not sad, I'm not mad I'm not really anything towards the situation honestly I'm ready to start dating others. Am I a bad person for not crying for not waiting for not mourning? I feel like the past 2 years of insults and comments and passive aggressive actions just made it so I felt nothing when I finally fully left which I've tried to 10 times before now. He's blowing up my phone t how can I do this how can I hurt him ect..and I'm just not caring 🤷🏼‍♀️...i think maybe my heart and mind moved on..but I feel bad about not feeling bad I feel bad that I don't feel bad about It. talking to another guy I feel bad about not caring about my exs feelings.. I feel bad that the only thing I'm going to miss is my cat and his daughter. I feel like my body was screaming ro run I'd have panic attacks after sex I'd been so horribly anxious and dissociated I wanted to eat non stop..and literally the day I loved u didn't have to take my panic attack pill I took every 4-6hrs I took 1 at night instead. I stopped wanting to eat massive amounts of sugar..it was like a light switched..

Am m 24 am going to be divorcing my ex wife of 7 years soon am at the 2 months stage of the break up of when it happened and I started to do no contact with her unless it about are boys do you regret it or have the good time y'all had together come back and think u could of worked things out I am just wondering what stages y'all go through while being in the same room as your bf or starting to get the papers ready to be filed or how long did it take you to start going through the emotions if any thanks

I feel nothing. He took everything from me. I truly am empty inside and Just so empty. And he’s destroyed me. And I let him. And there’s nothing left of me. And I keep faking that I’m fine but I’m not and my heart hurts. I can’t do it. I’m so tired. And the worst part is this whole time I just want him to comfort me. I miss him

I’ll never see him again. How am I suppose to accept that. I didn’t want any of this. I cannot believe this is my life.

Been married nearly twenty years, he cheated for years and gave me HIV. I hate him but I'm physically disabled and autistic, and it's just me and my two cats. I get about 900 a month from SSD. I'm 57(f). I'm trapped in a red state in a very rural area about an hour from the nearest city. I don't have a vehicle and I have one close friend, but she will try to talk me out of leaving because she brought us here from Texas over a year ago when he lost yet another job.

I just lack the courage to take the leap. I want to bail to Seattle. I've dreamed of living there for many years and this is where I feel strongly I need to be. I don't know anyone there, I don't know anything about what neighborhoods are safer, etc. I've started trying to research it a bit online, but most information seems geared towards families with money or jobs.

I just need someone to give me a swift kick up the ass I guess. I am afraid. I've never been in a city alone before and my health isn't good and I use a cane to get around. What would you do if you were me? I swear, if he laughs at me one more time about my choices about the election I might lose my shit.

Thanks for listening.

I asked for divorce and I felt okay at first. It’s been about a week and a half and now I can’t stop crying. My therapist says I’m mourning the relationship. I feel like I have no one to talk to about this because I feel like I’m just talking about the same thing over and over again. Everything we had in our past when things were good keeps flashing in my mind. we’re splitting up the cats so I feel bad about that. I know we’re not compatible but all of my feelings are making me question my decision even though I felt so strongly about leaving when I asked for divorce.

I plan to file for divorce on Tuesday. I haven't decided if I should tell my stbx before or after the paperwork part is already filed. It really should not come as a surprise that I'm doing this because we have been separated 4 or 5 months already, and we have had numerous conversations about getting divorced (we just never set a timeline). I know my stbx is expecting me to be the one to file. I'm not afraid of my stbx flipping out or abusing me or anything like that. I'm just not sure there would be any benefit to saying anything ahead of time.

TW: abuse, r*pe, s**cide, & cheating. (TL;DR): divorced, split custody with abusive ex. Might try and go back to him not to miss time with her and let us both parent.

I'm(FM 23) finally divorced as of Monday. My ex-husband(M 23) was emotionally abusive. We were together from 2018 to 2023. Got married in 2019. His best friends girlfriend admitted to flirting with him and trying to have sex with him and having sex dreams involving him. After this she had to come to my house 3 separate times with others to play dnd. It was unusual because they had never played this much before in a month. I told him i didn't want her in my house anymore. I paid the mortgage and all the large bills myself and helped him with bills if he needed it so he could get weed. He essentially told me he couldn't do that. He told me he found her attractive as well but didn't have permission from either partner, and she was his best friends property, not his😃. He would vent to her about all of our issues. She knew more about my relationship than me, probably. So i told him i wanted to leave then. This was the catalyst. I told him it was over and had sex with someone else a few weeks later. He only got physical after I did that. I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore and was actively seeing someone else. I was hoping the someone else would help him leave me/move on, but it didn't. It made things worse. I can admit to wrongdoing. After i told him this, he would hold me hostsge until i told him we were gonna work it out. He tried to kill himself in front of me and handed me a suicide note. He told me he was fine with me being with someone else so we could both be happy. Then he tried to kill me when he saw us at the house. I had told him he was there and not to come home. He was at work and didn't have a car or license. He came home after he said he wouldn't. Strangled me, shot at the guy, and tried to commit suicide. He held me hostage. I didn't tell the police what he did so he wouldn't get in trouble. Then He threatened to kill me and my kid if it wasn't his. He broke into the home twice. Did major damage to the property and stole my ipad. So I tried to get a dvo, and they wanted me to file a police report. I only pressed charges after the continued threatening of killing me and my kid.

I have a dvo for him. I know i shouldn't have done what I did. I just thought it was my only out. He would threaten suicide any time i wanted to leave. I'm not innocent in any way. I've said things out of anger to him I shouldn't have when we were together. I realized I shouldn't do that anymore ( I learned the behavior from my dad). My ex told me it hurt him, so I stopped. So for revenge, he started saying mean things, calling me names, basic stuff. He then escalated to breaking my stuff and threatening suicide when we argued, or I tried to leave. I wouldn't even say anything that warranted that. I stopped calling him names, i stopped saying mean stuff, but i guess i deserved it because I wasn't a good listener and didn't take his feelings into account when making decisions. I understood for a while. But then he wouldn't stop after I asked. He raped me a few times because I didn't give him enough sex. He would do it while I slept, and I felt I could do nothing but cry. Like I said, I was emotionally abusive for our first year, and then he was for the last 4 of our relationship. He wouldn't get therapy with me. He said he could fix any issues on his own.

Though we now have to split custody of our daughter(9 months), who is under 1. He has only seen her a few times in her life. He went to jail when she was 4 months old. And hasn't seen her since. He gets her every other weekend until she is one, then it's every other week. She's exclusively breastfed. She won't take a bottle of breastmilk no matter how much I try. He is gonna have her for a full weekend. I'm just so worried and scared. Mostly, I just don't want to miss out on my babies life. Any of it. And I know he needs parenting time because he is her dad. She needs him like I need mine. I'm just scared for her safety and emotional well-being. She's used to always being with me and breastfeeding for comfort. It makes me want to try and go back to him just so we both have full time instead of split time. I know she should adapt and be okay. I just guess I'm scared she will think I've abandoned her. He has also said he'd hit our kids if we had any, even though he was never hit as a kid. He said he wanted to do what my father did but not as bad. My father is also mentally and physically abusive. My ex would also beat our dog while she yelped, and he would get mad at me if I told him to stop. He said that he wanted to stomp my cat to death when I got her because I didn't ask permission. Idk. I just don't want her to grow up like I did. I don't want to leave her with an angry man. He said he got anger management, but so did my dad, and he still continued the abuse of my mom and us. My mother has never left. She never protected us. I want to protect my little girl. Something my mom was too scared to do. I'm not sure what I'm looking for posting this. Venting, maybe? Advice? Everyone says she will be okay. Everyone says that until she's an adult with trauma. I would deal with the toxicity again for at least a few years, just so I could be with her.

The only thing holding me back is my current amazing partner. He's such a great step-dad. So patient and understanding with me. He healed me so much even though that isn't his job. I even told him about this thought, and he said he kind of figured. I have been crying and not sleeping since I heard we had to split custody. He told me he would support any decision i made. He said he understands why I'd want to go back. But he also said he doesn't want me to leave. My therapy appointment isn't until next week. I'm just spiraling. No one wants me to go back, but it's just floating in my mind that I can't protect her from afar. She can't even talk right now. Except for saying mama😭 my heart is aching just thinking about her screaming and crying for me. I don't know if I can be without her. I'm just being selfish. I just love my daughter more than anything in the world. I want to breastfeed until she's 1, and it's just hard for me to pump consistently with all the parts to clean. She deserves a happy, healthy, and safe mom. She also deserves to be protected if need be. I'm her only voice.

I would love to co parent. I'm honestly ready to let everything go. I'm so much healthier and a better person. I love my partner. He helped me through post partum. Let me be a stay at home mom. He is so loving and caring. I dont want to leave. But I also know that when she's gone I will worry and be so sad. Those thoughts of going back and suffering will come back. I just feel like a horrible partner and mother. I feel so stuck and alone. I never wanted to even think about going back. And here I am.

(Edited for spelling/grammar, trigger warning, and more details)

So long story short my ex wife wanted a divorce after cheating on me. We got a divorce and she left me for this guy that goes to her university. I was of course upset but I eventually got over it and found peace with it but recently after 2 months of no contact she's been checking my tiktok page every morning and every night like 8 times a day. She has her friends check my tiktok page as well. I only have like 3 videos of my self and I know it's her because she lives in a different country and I can see that my viewers went up from that country. I'm just confused on why this is happening? I don’t create fake profile or try to see what she’s up to because that would just make me more upset, so I’m not sure why she’s doing this? The only explanation I could think of is that the honeymoon phase ended with that guy and she wants me back because of all the stuff I did for her after our honeymoon phase ended. For context I'd would buy her flowers every weekend, take her out for coffee almost every morning before her classes, converted religious for her, moved to a poorer country for her, and was lucky enough to study at home and get paid for it so I was always making dinner for her and taking care of the house. Don't worry I have self respect and I know she'll do it again if I go back but just curious if anyone else had there ex spouse dump them for someone else and then want them back? What happened?

I was able to forget password on the account of my wife made and determine it wasn't my ex or anyone else she was generating fake evidence for the divorce. The level of betrayal is insane. She then told me to pick her up at work as her car wouldn't start. I drove the hour in traffic she then calls me at home and says that she knew about the affair. She then trashed our apartment. There was no affair she trashed our apartment and now our marriage is in ruins.

Reddit, twitch, discord, Pokemon go, gaming, social media.. you now do none of that so it turns out that you could have lived without it. I gave you space but you accused me of pushing you away. I begged you to hang out with me and spend quality time together which is wild bc I've never begged for a mans attention but I had to with you. You wasted 6 years of my life and now I can't have kids with anyone else bc you convinced me to have a hysterectomy instead of of endo removal and then you left me 5 months later like a coward. The most hurtful part is that I'm not married to my late husband anymore bc you tricked me into marrying you bc you wanted me to trust you again. Those are YOUR words. You were addicted to being on your computer bc you didn't even like me. You did me wrong and said you "led me on" during our marriage. You were still being intimate with me even though you later said I made you miserable. You said we didn't have enough sex even though I was only months after having a hysterectomy. You lied about how you felt and about who you were. I will never forgive you for that bc you aren't a good person & you know it deep down. You will never see the damage that you did bc you don't care to. You hold no responsibility for it bc you are incapable. Your next wife will go through perimenopause & will have hormone changes so are you going to leave her too when that happens? Are you going to leave her when she gets sick? Are you going to leave her if she gets depressed? You don't know the meaning of wedding vows bc you aren't an honest person and you made me believe that we had future when you were planning on leaving me. You dumped me via text & then left me in my own vomit without calling an ambulance & then wrote about it on a public reddit post. You told strangers personal details about my health & suicide attempt & why you left. You're just an insecure and manipulative man that can't feel or give love. You proposed to me on April fools day and that should have been my first red flag. You said I wasn't worth it but now I know that you weren't worth it. You said I wouldn't find anyone better than you and that's untrue. You said I killed my late husband bc I stressed him out knowing that I have PTSD from watching him die. You left me on his birthday knowing I was already a mess. You don't understand mental health or grief and you pretendeded you did. You have a lot to learn in life. You killed my spirit and faith in humanity. As a widow, I should hVe never got remarried but you're good at what you do to get what you want. Best of luck, albatross rex.

That's all. I also miss my husband but I think I would be better if I was with my daughter.

I got a divorce 6 years ago. In my darkest moments I begged my ex to stay (despite him cheating on me multiple times) and made a fool out of my self trying to fix things. I eventually stopped and moved on with my life, healed, started a career, and met a great man.

After 6 years of no contact from my ex he emailed me…

“Thanks for everything....”

Don’t know why it brought back so many negative emotions and I wish he hadn’t contacted me. 3 simple words brought back feelings of anger, hurt, and so much more.

Hi everyone, my husband (33m) and I (27f) have decided to do a trial separation after months and months of talking through our options with a counsellor. I’ve completely lost who I am and am feeling very unsure of me and everything around me. I don’t know what I want or need in life and this has all led to us separating.

I’m also very close to my family - all of my siblings understand what’s happening and feel like I’m doing the right thing. My parents are pretty religious and have a specific mindset on what’s right and wrong.

In the lead up to this all I’ve kept in touch with my parents and updated them with everything. Up until recently they both have been very clear in whatever Peter (fake name) and I decide, they would support. I felt like their house was a safe space because of it.

Peter and I decided on the trial separation on Thursday and I drove to my parents to give us space from each other. My mom was out at book club and my dad was home, I updated him on everything and he got quite emotional. It was like, in his eyes, I was his little child again and needed to be scolded. He told me a lot of things and took offence to my answers. To be fair I did raise my eyebrows and roll my eyes a couple of times. He raised his voice at me and luckily with my counselling I knew how to bring it back down. I spoke to him very softly and kept it only to facts, rather than emotions.

He suggested that I talk to my godfather who is a priest. I told him while I appreciated the sentiment, I don’t think that will help me, I’ve already spoken with Peter, my counsellor and have a support system around me. I don’t even know my godfather that well and I can bet I know what he’s going to say. My dad told me I wasn’t taking my vows seriously and was just honestly treating me like a child in that conversation. So I ended up going to my sisters and staying there for a couple of nights. I was a wreck when I got to my sisters because it now feels like trying to find my happiness and a better understanding of me is also ruining my relationships (with Peter and my dad). The place I felt the most safe and welcome (not including my own home, which is also obviously not very welcoming of me at the moment) very quickly became a place I no longer felt safe and welcome in.

My dad is a very stubborn man. I don’t think I’ve ever heard him apologise. And it’s always whatever he says is the truth - he told my mom he didn’t yell at me, when I know that’s a lie. I came back to my parents today because I don’t want to be at odds with my dad but I feel like he’s not going to do anything to try and mend how he made me feel. And because Peter and I have set terms and guidelines to our trial separation, I can’t call him and talk to him like I normally would. Has anyone else gone through something like this? Can I please get some advice.

I miss having my own person. Someone to come home to - some to share with. I feel incomplete now. Don’t get me wrong - definitely not regretting the divorce. Just that I wish it didn’t need to happen or that he was someone I could have stayed with forever.

I just filed for sole custody of my child. My wife has had a full mental breakdown and has been accused of abuse by her previous spouse. She has fully disassociated from her behavior and it has been a pattern where she goes nuclear on other loved ones. I’m planning on subpoenaing those people. I know it’s costly but it is worth it. Any advice on the subpoenaing of parties to testify?

There opposite sides to anything in the world as well as divorce. On the one had divorce is a progressive thing to leave abusive relations but on the other hand it can be devastating to children.

My stance is that divorce is good when in abusive relations but not good when we normalize it especially if you have children.

If you have children and you divorced and remarry a another man or women then the family life of your children will be over and it will have certain psychological concequenses in future .

When two parents divorced the sense of home and security is going to shattered. And when divorced parents remarry sense of belonging and whats left of security is over.

So i'm not saying that divorce is bad what i'm saying is that we shouldn't normalize it especially if you have kids. But if you are in a abusive relationship then you should get a divorce

Spouse wished recently I crashed on my way to work. We got in a fight tonight and she wished I catch a disease and die. All because I wanted our daughter's candles to be blown out at 2pm vs 1pm. Everything she said she wanted for our daughter, I am accommodating. She cannot see no other way but hers and told me I'm making our daughter's birthday about me. Her sister is coming the night before. My sister is coming an hr away and I'm sure she will hit traffic.

Hi guys! quick question. I’m in a really stressful situation, I got horribly manipulated by my ex and her mom into getting married (they’re venezuelans) and they wanted me to get her papers. I got into a lot of debt being with my ex so i really can’t afford a lawyer. I also have one of her payslipwhere she was using a fake ssn. is there any recommendations for me living in California?

3 months into the divorce process. She changed her last name on FB recently. Not surprised. Not upset. Still feeling some kinda way though. Not really sure how to describe the emotions. Was wondering if anyone else had any thoughts, insights, stories or anecdotes about similar?

So much for sobriety… 6 Whiskeys in and I’m sitting here looking at the POS in the mirror across from me; looking like Billy bob Thorton in Bad Santa just HOPING one of these Navy boys behind me says/does some slick shit so I can fight them all… Maybe I’ll feel something more than how much I hate that sobbing pussy across from me.

Fucking NORA JONES on the touch tunes…. Whoever played THAT…. FUCK THEM!

The familiar sad/numb feeling of “I’m ready to take my chances of driving home” is back…. It was waiting for me, open armed!

Thank God this shithole doesn’t allow smoking! Fuck, at this point I’d be going for a pack of Camels!

Fuck It!