I live downtown in a pretty busy I guess city and I want to make it very clear that ambulances run through here CONSTANTLY. Like all the time. I was at my crosswalk going home from work and couldn’t hear the sirens (obviously)didn’t see any lights because I was looking the other way, there was so many cars covering the lane and my line of sight. The crosswalk signalled to walk so I did, and of course an ambulance is coming and i just book it across the street in panic and I can tell everyone around me in that moment is just pissed at me. I do feel bad but I didn’t know, and I try not to beat myself up about these things but seeing people flip me off from their car window and I just wish that they knew what it was like. It gives me so much anxiety doing anything outside because I’m at a disadvantage in these scenarios. Anyways. Here’s to not being able to hear. :/

One of the member of my gaming group is deaf and usually we get by with just typing, without using voice comms in discord to play, but we're trying a new game that needs a little more coordination than usual, what are some options for speech-to-text that is recommended for transcribing discord chats?

I’m HOH/Deaf. I have two hearing aids, but will be replacing one with a CI in January. I’ve had hearing issues for 15y (since I was a kid).

I just had a TERRIBLE experience with phone call customer service. I usually am fine, I have bluetooth hearing aids and I play phone calls in full volume and almost NEVER miss things. Today, the customer service guys had extremely thick Indian accents. I personally feel, if you are employing someone with a heavy accent, you should give them resources to be more understandable? if that makes sense? My hearing friend also had a difficult time understanding him and needed a repeat. The only difference was, even with repeats I STILL couldn’t tell what he was saying.

Am I a bad person for being upset about this? I called three numbers and each person had a heavy accent. I’m not at ALL saying not to hire someone due to their accent, they cannot help it! But maybe ensure they get lessons or something to help with conciseness ??

Ugh. I feel so shitty.

I just had such an awkward deafy vs hearing person experience. Let me set the scene. I'm in the Dollar Tree check out with my grandmother. For context I had hearing aids on and I am a great lip-reader so I could understand what she was saying if I was looking at her.

Cashier: says something I don't understand

Me: w- (trying to ask to repeat)

Grandma: interrupting She's Deaf she reads lips

Cashier: OMG! Does she know braille?!?!

Grandma: yes! 😃👍

Cashier: really slow and overdone lip movements so she doesn't even know we're talking right now?? 🤯

Every time I tried to get a word in she was talking over me with exaggerated lip movements. I was being talked about like I wasn't standing right there, talk about awkward.

I have chronic Eustachian tube dysfunction and am waiting for surgery that will temporarily restore my one-sided hearing loss. My country funds the surgery but the waiting list is long and my private medical insurance no longer accepts claims for my ear. I can’t afford to pay for the surgery myself. So while I wait (probably another 2 years) I wear a hearing aid.

The problem I have is near constant ear infections and significant pain. Part of this is because of the Eustachian tube dysfunction, but I also feel like the hearing aids make it worse or cause the intensification of the discomfort. Does anyone else have this problem with hearing aids? Or any tips to share?

Hey everyone, I'm a first time mom to a 7 month old baby girl who has profound bilateral hearing loss due to moyamoya disease. We are learning ASL currently. Her hearing aids are the oticon 2 and im so confused if shes able to hear anything at all :(

Anyone with profound hearing loss with hearing aids, can you hear sounds?

One factor that deters hearing parents from enrolling their children in Deaf schools is the prevalence of abuse. Many people think that since this subject isn't discussed openly, the parents aren't aware. However, they are. They talk with other parents whose children share with them the abuses they experience at Deaf schools.

As long as this isn't addressed effectively by the schools, their children won't attend.

Are dental offices required to? When I googled it- is says they’re required to. Just need feedback!

Like, I'd never call someone "hearing impaired" even if they tell me that it's okay.

New to not being able to hear sound and I'd like to get some recommendations of movies that are still great even when silent. Thankyou!

EDIT: open to any movies, not only in movies with deaf characters and themes. Just movies that you enjoyed without sound :)

I am (m24) deaf, I have gotten the “keep it down” gesture too many times in my life, but since I started working I have been so self conscious about being loud without knowing.

I have gotten looks here and there, really judgemental ones and I really don't want to bother people or make them treat me “differently”.

Sometimes I don't even know what about what I'm doing is loud, I never talk because speech therapy was useless for me but whatever I'm doing is loud to people and I don't know how to control that.

I really would appreciate any insight on how to “keep it down”.

Hello! I was just wondering what the best way to get the attention of someone who is deaf? Waving in front of them feels a bit rude, but I also don’t want to reach out and touch their shoulder/arm or anything incase they don’t want to be touched by a stranger. Some advice would be appreciated 😁

So to explain my background, I'm a rural Deaf man, from birth. Resources here are limited and my hearing loss allows me to use a hearing aid effectively. I don't have much of a choice here. My preferred language is American sign language.

I still have all the problems a deaf person has.

I was at a Deaf Christmas party where four languages were being used, and interpreters were in attendance with their hearing partners. So the interpreters and I were conversing in two languages to be inclusive of those in our conversation.

Woman. "I see you're talking?"

Me "yeah?" I'm signing only at this point as this is a deaf to deaf conversation now.

Woman "I thought you said you were deaf? You're hard of hearing!"

Me "no... I'm deaf..."

Her "no! You're talking!"

Me. "So?"

At this point the interpreter is getting very uncomfortable. I wasn't looking at them so I don't know if they were voicing me.

Her "you're talking!"

Me. Shrugs "so?"

Her. " Deaf people don't talk. You're hard of hearing."

Me. " Enough. This attitude is finished."

Her. Bursts out laughing " you're so funny!"

Me. (In English: fuck you) In asl "well, we're done here. Thank you (to the interpreter), I'm going somewhere else"

Her * still laughing* and everyone around were very uncomfortable and not laughing.

The funny thing is... A few days earlier I was part of a discussion with the leadership for the province on how to include the mainstream deaf people... And having my point proven on why we're not that interested...

Hello everyone

I am a resident in the EU and I would like to ask if anyone knows an iPhone app that transcribes phone calls as they are happening? We do not have innocaption available here. Also does anyone knows if Apple Intelligence allows this feature or not?

Thanks in advance!

Hello, everyone!

We’re currently building a fantasy escape room in Germany and trying to make it as accessible as possible. Tomorrow, we’re meeting with someone who works for an organization that supports deaf people. He mentioned that he is very hard of hearing and prefers communicating in DGS (German Sign Language), but unfortunately, we couldn’t arrange for an interpreter on such short notice. He said it should work fine if we just speak loudly and clearly.

However, I’d like to at least introduce myself and my partner in DGS and maybe learn 2-3 basic signs like “hello” and “thank you.”

Would this effort be appreciated by the Deaf community? Or would it come across as a “nice try, but learning a few signs doesn’t really help and you’re only doing it to feel good about yourself. If this topic really mattered to you, you’d properly learn DGS” (of course, I’m exaggerating here).

I want to make sure we don’t accidentally offend him.

I would appreciate your thoughts! If you have any other tips for us, those would also be greatly appreciated :) Thanks in advance!

Edit: For example, is it considered rude if we write text down (on our phones, for example), and give it to him to read?

Hey all, I recently posted about my son’s hearing loss, our journey and questions on BSL. I can’t add this image into the earlier thread so here it is…. Honestly when I look at this I marvel the poor guy coped for so long totally under the radar. Questions only started being asked at 3 yo around speech and language starting to fall behind and pronunciation . Still no idea what caused this, his new born hearing screen was fine. CMV has been ruled out, just waiting for genetics, if no answer there then imaging. He loves his hearing aids so I guess is getting some benefit but not tested yet. I have a feeling implants may be a consideration soon. How does this look to you guys?

Hello my teenage hoh son is having a lot of trouble waking up in the mornings. He just sleeps through his very loud alarms on his phone. I'd like to get him a watch with a alarm that vibrates strong enough to wake him. If it's waterproof that would be an added bonus. Don't need any other functionality. Hoping to get recommendations that have worked well for you and cost less than $50.thanks

I’m going to be moving to Winnipeg this coming summer, and I’m looking to connect with the local d/Deaf community but I haven’t been able to find many events/groups online. Does anybody know a good place to start?

For context, I’m hearing but I’m autistic and have selective mutism so I’m learning ASL and want to get involved with the community in Winnipeg.

This is a rant! A sob-story; stop if you do not want to waste your time.

I went deaf after a college prank by unknown people some 3 decades ago. That resulted in immediate sharp tinnitus in both the ears that culminated towards eventual 90%+ deafness. Suffice to say it effectively destroyed my career and it was only with great amount of hard work that I somehow survived through initial 8 years in a corporate world as IT consultant. Then the problems started exaggerating (I was not even aware that it was deafness due to which I was unable to understand a damned thing being said in conference calls and meetings), and I ended up being embarrassed most of the times. Only that I was a decent programmer and had good enough analytical abilities, I somehow survived another 4 years.

Eventually I had to call it quits when I went to audiologist for the first time and she said, "the fkc dude. How are you even managing anything? Your freaking ears are 90% gone!". I was lucky to have my girl by my side, but we knew it really meant trouble for my job. So, I moved on to my own venture (with couple of friends) that I am still working in and going through just mediocre success. Yet, I am not ungrateful and consider myself lucky to even have what I have.

Then came my partner's decision to move to new country. She had dreams; I didn't want to impede. I knew there would be challenges, but then she gave up on so much for me, so it was my turn to do whatever I could. In this new land, a whole lot of certain skinned guys start looking down on me when I couldn't respond to their "normal communication". Heck yeah, I am better read than most people- I can recite freaking Homer and Shakespeare. My shelves have more literature lined up than weight bearing allows. But being deaf, with certain tone of skin, in a country that may not take lightly to "non-English-speakers", it has been tough to say the least.

As if things couldn't get any worst, whenever I now travel back to home country, the people there being mostly biased and outright rude to specially-abled, its no home either.

Divided across two worlds, without ears, belonging nowhere, I am just a stranger in a strange lands.

My acute thinking and heightened sense of awareness, being an introvert, an avid reader, and a wanna-be arts helps me keep sane. I keep escaping into wilderness all the time - camping, trekking, and whatever.

And now the family has grown- being a dad, I want to be there as a solid wall of support for kids. Make them feel that I am always there for them, and yet I can't even go attend PTM alone. Other day I was walking my kid home from school, when out of blue three of year 4 or 5 girls started throwing some jibes at me for no reason. I just smiled and walked on; and when I reached home, my kid asked, "why didn't you reply to them when they called you 'animal'?".

Heck they were kids, and had I been hearing and known what they were muttering, I would still have smiled and walked on. But I could see the hurt in my kid's eyes.

Being a follower of Buddhist philosophies (just a follower, no religious sh*t and stuff for me), it is easier I believe, but making the kids understand how it all works is altogether a different science that I don't think I understand.

Boy, ain't being deaf hard!

I’m one of a very few medical students who are Deaf and pretty soon I have to make a list of places where I want to do my residency. I want to be in a place with lots of D/deaf people. Obviously DC and Rochester are on my list but are there other places east of the Mississippi or near Iowa/MN that have a significant population of Deaf people. I know Fredrick, MD, DC, Rochester, some random places in Ohio, possibly Chicago, Nashville, etc are places to look but am I missing any other place? (I’m from a city in the same state as Nashville but know there isn’t a Deaf community in my home city.)

Kia ora

About 2 1/2 months ago I work up completely deaf in my right ear. Absolutely no hearing at all. In that time I’ve had a course of oral steroids. Steroid injections which have given me a small improvement eg can hear some sound no voices.

Have had to suck it up and get hearing aids which seem to be working. I can now hear voices but they sound like an alien.

My question is is there anyone out there who has suffered hearing loss late in life (I’m 47). There is lots of supports out there for kids:/people with hearing loss. Not much for those who suffered sudden 50-% hearing loss later in life

Thanks for reading ❤️

For context please look back at my previous post. Link below.

https://www.reddit.com/r/deaf/s/lN93MJGO7S

So I went on a great first date with a weeks worth of BSL I’d learnt… which meant I could communicate simple sentences and by finger spelling. What is the best way to learn BSL fairly quickly as I feel terrible for having to pull my phone out and type onto it for her to read.

EDIT: Thank you everyone for explaining to me that these two experiences are nothing alike and I was misguided in my comparison. I am probably not going to reply to anyone else because there is such strong consensus on the answer to my question. Hope you all have a lovely day.

I was reading about cochlear implants and being deaf because I was curious, and I was trying to compare it to being shortsighted. I'm very shortsighted (multiple pairs of glasses for different activities) and since I got old enough to get the surgery, my parents have been asking me to look into laser eye. They think I would be happier with the surgery because I wouldn't be reliant on glasses and I would get to experience swimming/surfing/ocean activities in high res (I don't wear glasses for these things because it's not practical, I can use the ocean currents to know when a big wave is coming, but sometimes I miss out on seeing a cool fish). I have had glasses since I was little, so I'm used to it, and I don't want to get a surgery that could go wrong. Some people have had laser eye and love it and talk about how good it is, but it's not for me at this stage. Based on what I read about cochlear implants, the vibe is similar - some people have led an almost 100% normal life with them, some people choose to navigate around not having a good sense of sound through other means. Please let me know if I have said something offensive, I don't want to be disrespectful to anyone!

Sorry if this is too inappropriate

So im seeing this guy and I really like him. Sometimes when we're in the bedroom we encounter issues because my ASL is very minimal (but I'm very dedicated to get much better) and he prefers to take his hearing aids out. He has been so wonderful at teaching me some naughty phrases and I have also been learning on my own and then asking him to make sure that's the right way.

Anyway my question: is the general thing to do would be sign in the bedroom or is there maybe common like physical taps or motions that would convey things. (I mean sexy time in itself is pretty universal)

I know I could just ask but I really want to take initiative and not make him constantly doing things that are not his favorite just because it's easier for me/all I know.

I have been using google transcribe for my father but it doesn’t work for phone calls .

So far I've had Miracle Ear hearing for 8 years that worked so well, but now with SSNHL I can't hear with them. I've tried Phonak Sphere (the new ones) and Phonak Naida. Both did not work.

DId anyone else go through a bunch of hearing aids to find the right one?

Is there a Deaf owned bookstore I can buy True Biz by Sara Novic from?

Trying to avoid big retailers. Did a google search but couldn’t find any Deaf owned bookstores that have it so thought maybe someone in this sub might know.

Anybody else? The dinner table syndrome is killing me this year.

(Just whining, we know it’s coming. Just another reason to dislike holidays :) )