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Real talk about Chastity and making it work in the real world.

This is a place for discussing chastity devices/belts: buying them, being locked in them, and training to wear them longer. Feel free to share your experiences, questions, advice, or even pictures (although if you just want to show it off, /r/chastity is a better place for that, keep it limited to pictures that explain your post or question).

We accept anybody locked in (or interested in) chastity, regardless of gender, expression, orientation, kinks, or favourite flavour of ice cream. The only thing that matters is a love of chastity. We also invite keyholders to participate as well.

If you're asking for advice about specific chastity devices please include a link or pic as names may not be consistent across vendors.

We ask that people read the 6 threads in the FAQ section. Many questions come up again and again and these are mostly already answered there.

Please be sure to read our rules before commenting or posting.


Chastity FAQ

Some useful posts that keep coming up. Most of these have been stickied at some point.

An incomplete comprehensive guide to (almost) all things male chastity

Almost comprehensive sizing and fitting guide

Custom Chastity Device Makers

The Grand Official Foreskin Thread - Chastity Uncut!

Big thread about Shrinkage

Prince Albert Devices Review - 5 Year Update


Chastity Family:

Manufacturer Communities

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Comfort Question about Springed Metal Cages

I would like to buy this kind of cage since it seems almost what I'm looking for as size and testing, this one: https://www.amazon.it/SeLgurFos-inossidabile-Dispositivo-Ventilazione-traspirante/dp/B09N8ZHLV3/ref=mp_s_a_1_31?

I would like to ask if someone find them comfortable or not, any advice or suggestion are highly appreciated and thanks :)

1 Comment
2024/11/20
10:44 UTC

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Comfort Question about Springed Metal Cages

I would like to buy this kind of cage since it seems almost what I'm looking for as size and testing, this one: https://www.amazon.it/SeLgurFos-inossidabile-Dispositivo-Ventilazione-traspirante/dp/B09N8ZHLV3/ref=mp_s_a_1_31?

I would like to ask if someone find them comfortable or not, any advice or suggestion are highly appreciated and thanks :)

1 Comment
2024/11/20
10:41 UTC

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I foynd somthing cool

I wanted to plap my caged sissy balls good so i had a choice hand dildo or i thought my fuck machine has a flat base end for attachments and i found it works well to slap my balls real good

0 Comments
2024/11/20
02:25 UTC

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Head of dick poking out top of chastity

As the title says even when flaccid my dick will poke out the end a fair amount, if I leave this for long enough when taking the cage off it will stay in the shape of the cage for 10 or so minutes, any one know any fixes. I have a knockoff cobra cage so might be that I need to change the cage.

4 Comments
2024/11/20
01:43 UTC

5

Chastity and diapers?

Hi everyone,

I’ve been caged for about a year now and I’ve also started incorporating diapers and chastity cages together and found that they go so well together, is anyone here also into this sort of stuff and if so please share your experiences

1 Comment
2024/11/20
01:37 UTC

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Bought my first!

Hiii just wanted to share to someone cuz obviously don’t have people irl i share this with but im so excited!

Got my first cage, it’s a micro chastity which might have been not the smartest choice but im not actually very big when soft so I don’t think it’ll be a huge problem. Arrives tomorrow and i can’t wait to try it out 🥰

Any general tips or advice to know before i try it on tomorrow?

7 Comments
2024/11/20
00:32 UTC

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Managed to get a tetherspout for my flat cage

The piece I get is 17mm long and 7mm wide. Had to use a phile in the central hole to make it fit, and now I test it without lube (don't have any... yet. And, it feels weird).

I cleaned it beforehand by dipping it in recently boiled water, so I can prevent any risk of infection. But, wanna know what else have to take into account.

3 Comments
2024/11/20
00:11 UTC

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Sizing help

Relatively new to cages. Still buying copycat ones until I get the size right. I’ve looked up a couple guides and I am running into a problem.

My soft and large size difference is making it hard to get the size right. Measured along the top, my soft is 2.9 in, and my large is 6.8 in. The cages are cobra style small and ht v5 standard size both fit pretty well soft (standard probably fits best, and the small one scrunches everything but fits very snug when soft) and I wear a shoestring to keep everything aligned but getting hard makes everything go wild as the extra length bunches up above the cage.

Any advice for solving this? My “goal” is for the cage to fit properly so the erection is just stopped while my partner plays.

Am I sizing it too big, too small? Should I be able to grow into the cage (that doesn’t seem right based on my reading). Should I be going even smaller or thinner?

Thank you for advice.

2 Comments
2024/11/19
23:51 UTC

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Holy Trainer or one of the CB 2-6000 cages?

I’m high and tight and have tried several cages, smaller ring seems to be the ticket but I’m learning that a thicker base ring may help keep my nut from slipping through. Will one of these work? I also like the Kink3d with XD ring idea but don’t want to spend $200 unless I have a better idea. Thanks for any insight.

10 Comments
2024/11/19
23:33 UTC

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Ring sizes are either 45 / 50mm, I need 47 😡

I'm trying to find a comfortable metal cage and am starting to lose hope. I have a perfectly fitting cobra cage but I want to move to metal. The 45mm ring is too small and restricts blood flow, but the 50mm I can literally pull my dick out of. I've looked all over eBay and Amazon, the few metal ones with a between size either are too big of a cage or something else isn't right. Anyone got any tips or places I should check out to find a perfect metal ring?

6 Comments
2024/11/19
22:04 UTC

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Need help with lock

I bought a cage a while ago been wearing except for at work I took it off and came home to put it back on and I relocked it after taking it off I am unable to find either key I don’t wanna spend more money any advice

6 Comments
2024/11/19
21:49 UTC

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All the cages I see are a bit too latge

Hello everyone I'm trying to browse for a snug cage, the problem is that my cock has a diameter of about 3 cm when flaccid. all the cages I find are 3,5/7 so they would be a bit loose and they wouldn't be restricting, does anyone know a model that isn't too large? (Sorry for my bad English btw)

0 Comments
2024/11/19
21:27 UTC

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Ideas for helping wife become keyholder

Hey all! We’ve been very lightly dabbling in chastity for the last couple months. Currently my wife is basically ‘neutral’ about being my keyholder and having me stay locked. Mostly doing it for me for now.

Haven’t done anything longer than most of a day. I told her I want her to set some goals or timeline for when I can be unlocked. Tomorrow we will try starting again. Would love ideas of goals or teasing options we can try out. She isn’t vanilla, but is slowly warming up to more femdom type scenarios. Thanks in advance!

5 Comments
2024/11/19
21:14 UTC

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New to anal

Fiance locked me this morning and is going away for a few days. I’ve never tried before but I wouldn’t mind getting into sissygasms I asked her and she said as long as I film myself trying she doesn’t mind… so any advice for someone who has never taken anything up there?

5 Comments
2024/11/19
20:32 UTC

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Advice on cage

So I have a HT-v5 nub and it seems to fit comfortably. Ring size is good. Cage size is good but after extended wear I keep having the same problem. The skin from my dick keep like folding over the top of the cage that peptides behind the ring (not sure what that part is called). So the skin eventually gets pinched between that where it locks to the ring. Is there anything I can do to prevent this? Should I be looking at a different style of cage? Any recommendations would be helpful.

1 Comment
2024/11/19
19:45 UTC

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Mitigating uncomfortable erections

I am very new to chastity and originally started off slow, but yesterday I managed to do my first 24 hour (and counting) wear! This is my first step to my goal of 24/7/365 permanent chastity.

I have a medium size cage (9.3cm) and today I purchased the next size down (7cm) with intentions of slowly progressing to smaller and smaller sizes.

I bought one of the highest rated cages off of Amazon, which has many holes all over the top/sides/bottom, for air flow. These holes are great for what they’re intended for, however, I’ve noticed that since I’m constantly getting erections throughout the day, my cage gets very tight and my dick is pressed against these holes. When I took it off briefly to check for any marks, my dick was covered in red marks from the pressure against the holes.

To me it seems if the pressure is too tight when I get partially erect, it would be silly to size down even more. But from what I’ve read on here, sizing down can eliminate these erections all together and cause less tightness in the cage. My question: If tight erections are my problem, will sizing down eliminate the constant erections?

Edit: For anyone who has similar issues and found a solution. It would be helpful to know your sizes.

For me I’m about 6.5 inches hard, 4 inches flaccid. The cage is 1.26 inches wide (which I barely fit into) and 3.66 inches long (I’m down sizing to 2.75 inches long)

5 Comments
2024/11/19
19:18 UTC

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FINALLY had a prostate orgasm, thx chastity!

I have been frustrated for years trying to have a prostate orgasm. But I hadn't really gone "all-out" to try to have one.

So exactly a week ago I caged up, and agreed with my wife, no more sex, no more masturbation. I would give myself ten days of chastity. And if I couldn't do it by then, I would never be able to.

So I stayed locked every day. I bought different-sized plugs and I wore them for a period of time every day. And just as importantly, I bought a toy that is well-sized for me, vibrates, and thrusts in and out by about half an inch.

So this morning, I laid out in my cage, new toy inserted, magic wand against my cage...

Oh holy fucking shit.

I have no words to describe it. It was unlike anything else I have ever felt before. It was a whole-body orgasm. I literally screamed for I think about fifteen seconds as it was wracking my body. My semen shot past my shoulder and onto my pillow.

I have been a mess the entire day. It was so satisfying, so draining, and I never would have gotten there if it hadn't been for chastity keeping me orgasm-free for a week.

I'm hoping that since I've done it once, I'll be able to do it again next time with a little less denial!

4 Comments
2024/11/19
18:57 UTC

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My first week with a chastity cage

I got my first cage last week Monday. It is a cheap cobra knockoff from Temu to get started with.

Ring
I have been experimenting with the different ring sizes to get an idea which one works for me. When wearing the smallest ring (42mm) I can easily fit a few fingers under the cage, but it does cause my sack to burn. I settled on the 2nd smallest option (45mm) as it sits comfortably. I can also wear the 2nd biggest ring (48mm) without much problem, but the biggest (52mm) is just uncomfortable because of how much space it takes between my legs (it presses against my legs when sitting closed legged). I also have small balls, so they can easily pop out.

Cage
I went for the standard size (was originally thinking maxi because I'm like 12cm flaccid), but saw people say that it is good to go down 1 size. The cage is still a little bit to big, mainly due to it being really wide, while my dick is on the skinnier side. When I get erect, it does sometimes feel a little bit uncomfortable at the holes on the sides, sometimes even hurting slightly, But I think this is also due to me having a lot of skin

Foreskin
I'm uncut, which has been one of the biggest hurdles for me. My foreskin slips out from the tip, and then it pinches on underwear. I have tried pulling back my foreskin, but because the cage is wide, the foreskin slides back easily. As mentioned earlier, I have a bit of uncomfort when erect, this happens when my foreskin is just sitting in the cage normally. I also tried pulling out all my foreskin from the front, which does help with multiple of my problems, but after about an hour, it becomes uncomfortable, and I end up pushing it back in. I do plan on buying a catheter to see if that helps, but I heard it increases the risks of UTI. What I found to be the best for me right now is the take a piece of toilet paper and fold it into thirds, then using that to cover the holes in the cage from the inside, this prevents bulging and pinching of the skin, but obviously this has it's own problems (like having to remove it to pee)

Erections (straps)
I have always had extremely strong erections, and my dick points upwards towards my belly button, so much that I when I have tried topping before, it hurts bending it down enough, I also have a huge erection. This with my small balls has led to my cage pushing away from my body significantly, which crushes my balls a little bit and causes burning on my sack. I got a strap, but it does not help much since my erection goes upwards. I now use a piece of string that I tie too the bottom of the ring and take it behind my ass and then tying it to the strap. This ensures that the cage does not push way to much, so I am also planning on getting a strap that does this, since string is not optimal.

Overall, I have been really enjoying the experience, It sits comfortably when I am relaxed, and when I'm busy doing something and I feel my dick in my cage, I get this really weird but enjoyable feeling on my dick (almost like it is happy). I have not had much success in sleeping with the cage yet (only 1 successful night) but I am working towards it. I have also been a lot more motivated in improving my life (like going to the gym more, getting a part time job, etc.) and I feel a lot more 'submissive' and willing to do chores. (all of this even though I still cum about every second day because how much excitement I have)

5 Comments
2024/11/19
18:52 UTC

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Is there a difference in the expensive cages?

So I’ve bought couple different cages now usually from lockthecock and some have been really uncomfortable while I’ve had two that are actually fairly nice. I’ve been wanting to purchase another one for an even smaller size and I didn’t know if I should go for the really expensive ones.

The last one I bought was around $40 and it’s pretty comfortable and has pretty good material. I keep buying the cheaper ones cause I was new to chastity and didnt want to go all out on something I wouldn’t wear.

Well I’ve had my most recent one on now for 3 weeks straight and I can confidently say I love this lifestyle. I want to buy a smaller size cause I think I can fit in a smaller cage so since I know im gonna be wearing it a lot is there a big difference in the expensive cages that I should know about?

I mean average seems to be $40-$80 but I’ve seen some that are selling for $150-$300 and Im willing to spend the money on one if it is actually a noticeable difference.

Any advice or info would be greatly appreciated thanks!

10 Comments
2024/11/19
18:28 UTC

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Just bought my first cage and struggling

Hi everybody, I just bought my first cage as title suggests, I can currently put through one ball but cant get past that, I have tried a few different times and thats how far I got, I am currently using the biggest ring atm, any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.

10 Comments
2024/11/19
18:01 UTC

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Problems with Piss

So, getting straight to the nitty gritty, I've recently sized down twice to a Cobra V2 Nub. Everything has been going relatively smooth, even dealing with my foreskin, but the main point of trouble for me is well...peeing.

I'm sitting extra long, as well as shaking, squeezing and everything I can think of, but there's been at least 2 incidents in 2 days now where I've finished, and whenever I settle into a new position (sitting or standing), pee that's seemingly passed will suddenly appear and soak my pants or balls.

I don't want to uncage just to go to the loo, but since I'm working in a food handling environment and urine is gonna cause irritation, (and it's also embarrassing as fuck, I'm worried there's no other quick & practical solution to avoid it.

Has this happened to anyone else, or have you got solutions you find work well?

9 Comments
2024/11/19
17:00 UTC

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Pussy cage recommendations? And Black Friday.

So... My sissy side always wanted one of those pussy shaped cages. They might be increasing in popularity, but I still don't seem them discussed very often. Do you guys have any good quality-price recommendations for cages like that? And any info regarding long term wear and comfort would be useful too.

Related to that, I was wondering if any sites might have some specifical sex toys offers now that we are near black Friday 😅 Thanks in advance :3

4 Comments
2024/11/19
16:03 UTC

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Chastity being normalised

Hi everyone,

Just posting to share my thoughts on chastity slowly getting more normalised in society. I do love the way it’s heading how this kink is being more accepted and more men/ couples are getting into it. Do you think chastity will get more popular over the years? And what are your opinion on the pros/ cons of chastity?

28 Comments
2024/11/19
15:42 UTC

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Is 5 days long enough to cum handsfree?

Haven’t rly had a longterm lockup and usually cum holding a vibrator to my cage while I play with my gf but we’re long distance and it’s just phone sex but she’s coming to visit and this is the first time she’s told me to lock up before we meet and wants me to fuck her with a dildo, I wanna try cumming in my cage while using the dildo to fuck her or cum just from pleasing her in other ways :x

anyone have any experience with this?

9 Comments
2024/11/19
15:05 UTC

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How rare are we?

I’ve often wondered if I encounter other locked men IRL without knowing it. I have no friends that are locked that I know of. Of course, my wife and I don’t share our kinks and most people who know us would be shocked I’m sure to learn about the things we do. Do any of you have locked friends IRL?

25 Comments
2024/11/19
15:05 UTC

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My first full 24 hour cage

I’m very new to the chastity lifestyle, but I absolutely am in love with it! Today marks my first milestone of a full 24 hour (and counting) wear! This is big for me since I’m taking small steps into my goal of PERMANENT 24/7/365 chastity. My next goals being 1 full week, 2 full weeks, 1 month, and so on until I’ve been caged for a full year. And I assume after a full year I’d still continue for many years to come. I’m currently wearing a medium size (9.3cm) cage but just ordered a smaller one (7cm) with plans to continue sizing down.

For those of you who engage in permanent chastity, I have a few questions:

  • Would you say it’s important to occasionally remove the cage in order to clean yourself, perhaps daily, or do you just flush the cage with soap and water that way you don’t have to remove it ever? (circumsized btw)

  • Should it be removed occasionally in general just for health concerns? (ie: erectile dysfunction, infertility, etc.)

  • Is it true that smaller cages are better for long term wear since they prevent erections all together? My current cage is 9.3cm which allows me to get partially erect and tightens my cage. I’ve since ordered a smaller one (7cm), and plan to continue sizing down.

7 Comments
2024/11/19
14:43 UTC

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Looking for a new cage

I am currently using a flat Gatling cage that I've been using for years. I've gone over 6 months with it with no issues. Recently I'm starting to experiment with the tetherspout it came with as I like the idea of a cage I can't pull out of, but piercings are too hardcore.

I've been making good progress with it. However I'm starting to think it might be time to look ahead for an upgrade. I'm hoping someone will know off the top of their head exactly what I'm looking for.

What I'm looking for is another crazy small preferably metal cage, in pink, with an inverted attachment and a tetherspout.

Writing it out it seems like a tall order, but hopefully there's one out there that someone knows of

3 Comments
2024/11/19
12:05 UTC

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Locked friend group

Hey guys, Do you guys have any locked friends that you hang out with irl? I have this idea in my head of a whole locked friend group living in one house. Would be a very frustrated household 😂

29 Comments
2024/11/19
07:48 UTC

5

Election Trouble

I've gotten a cage with a Very snug fit, and i absolutely adore it. Makes me feel like I could wear it for days on end without any trouble, except for an issue found while sleeping with the cage on. When I get hard while it's on it tried to push the cage off, but thankfully can't get past my balls like a previous cage. I considered just using a q-tip or something to stuff more of my cock into the cage itself but I'm not sure if that's the right choice. My goal is to go 24/7 with chastity and I was really hoping this would be the cage, any advice?

4 Comments
2024/11/19
07:43 UTC

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ring sizing issue?

ive tried to wear my cage yesterday but after about an hour(ish) i started to feel a burning pain under the ring, my ring size is 52,2mm vertical and 50,5mm horizontal and i can easily fit two of my fingers under it while soft so i wanted to ask if the burning is caused by a ring thats too big and if it is, is there a way to make it smaller without replacing?

5 Comments
2024/11/19
05:08 UTC

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