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I am a bi woman and recently come out of a heterosexual relationship. I’m back on the dating apps after taking time to heal and the thought of swiping right on any girl I find attractive is tormenting me to the point dating feels daunting and scary again not just something to put myself out there for. The fear of not having a match pop up, or sending a message and being left on seen is causing me to pause and then close out of the app.

I’ll see a profile of a woman who’ll have similar hobbies to me, be funny and be attractive in her photos and I’m filled with immediate dread of the thought of her rejecting me to the point I reject myself before she can. I’m sure I’ve missed out on connections because of this, I’ve not had these issues with dating men and it surrounds women only.

I know it’s not a sexuality thing as my ex-girlfriend chased me, flirted with me and made it known she was interested in me and we were very happy together until we weren’t (lol). I am much heavier now than the last time I was on the dating scene (and it doesn’t matter if I’m losing weight or not, I’m currently heavier and that’s who their meeting/seeing pictures of) and I guess might be fearful that my size is going to get me rejected quickly by the women I might be interested in.

Any advice on how I get over the fear of rejection by women and move forward to potentially finding my person?

I am closeted. I know I just genuinely cannot tell anyone because I grew up really religious. My parents are extremely traditional and religious, and they will never understand. We have had conversations about this topic before and never about me but about the community the LGBTQ community and they have never been open. So there’s no way I can come out because I’m still young so I have to abide by the rules and stuff but my question is how does the closeted person meet someone. Because to explore my sexuality, I feel like I need to meet people who have the same thoughts as me or are OK with talking to women who are closeted

Feel like this girl is into me but not sure. She has a LGBTQ pin on her backpack and a couple more cool ones not LGBTQ plus related. Talked to her for the first time today for a arts project and she seemed super nice and looking at me a lot. Then we were sitting side by side to do the project and she was sitting super close to me her knee was almost touching mine. I felt super shaky and shy inside. I don't know what to do haha. Also I've been with women before I have had multiple female relationships before I just feel so stumped if she's into me or not.

Hi lovely people! I (22F) and my girlfriend (21F) are looking into purchasing a strap-on but we are very new to this. I am a virgin, so it would be my first time, and I want to know what material, dimensions, style, etc... would be best for a first time use (she's never used one either but since i'm receiving it's kinda scary ahaha) We want it to be as comfortable and enjoyable as possible and this means a lot to us, so any further tips would be very much helpful!

I recently came out as a lesbian. It saved my life and I'm much happier overall now, but I also lost a partner, family, and future, and I sometimes feel like I'm not "supposed" to be sad because that partner was a man. (this song has helped process some of those feelings, thought it might help others here too: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m2t8olwFW8g )

im 18, and only been in one relationship which was long distance and that went terribly wrong lmfao… i want to meet someone from my city but i have no social skills nor the courage to have friends. however ive been trying to work on it for my sake but its hard. i want to experience teenage love while i still have time but idek from where to start

my gf and i have been having issues for months and we broke up but we’re back together now and the problems are still there not as bad but still there, we had an argument today and she explained how she doesn’t know if she wants to be with me and then she said she had been thinking about asking for an open relationship she said i’m not doing anything wrong sexually but i want to be able to blow her mind so bad that she doesn’t even want to look at another woman she is the only person i have ever slept with and vice versa i have recently bought a toy that makes her finish within seconds but i want to go long enough that she can’t feel her legs anymore and satisfy her in a way that makes her think no one else can satisfy her the way that i can any advice would be greatly appreciated

I’m currently going through the worst heartbreak of my life. I had asked my girlfriend to go on a break because I was still in the closet with my family & it was really affecting her mental health. She wanted to go no contact & so I respected that. During our break I started therapy, I’ve come out to everyone in my life & accepted my sexuality but now that I’ve fixed our main issue in our relationship she won’t speak to me, told me she’s “moved on” and needs space before we can talk. During our break I reached out to her after a month to talk & she rejected me & continues to say she’s not ready to speak even though I love her more than anything & all I want is to have a healthy, public relationship. I’m SO devastated & I don’t know how to navigate this when I feel like I’ve truly lost the love of my life. How do I fix this? 😭😭😭

So l'm bi and so is my friend. I was at hers just laying on her shoulder watching tiktoks. I looked up to speak to her and she first kissed my forehead which I thought nothing of. She then got up to put her phone on charge and got on top of me when she came back. I hugged her as that's what I thought she was doing but she came down and kissed me after the hug. She said "at least that's out in the open" before kissing me again as I didn't say anything. She then repeated it again which I again did not respond too. I kinda rolled away... and went on my phone after. Whilst she was doing her make up later on she would look back and kiss me every now and again and when her lipstick was done she said l'd kiss you but I'm wearing lipstick.

At the club she kissed me and this was all sober. I wasn't initiating anything so maybe that's why she did what she did next. She made out w a guy and bought him back whilst I was staying there but only for 'afters! I left as she would kiss him whilst I was there like wtf. We've spoken since as she asked if I was mad and I told her I was but it's just different for me now. She also told me she wanted a gf and not a bf so l'm confused about what happened.

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Just a survey for the wlw girls out there, do you prefer being fucked by a dildo or fingering? Personally i prefer fingering because the dildo is quite painful 😭 but i wanna know what the popular opinion is.

Last night I had the worst sex of my life with a girl I took home from a lesbian bar. They did not seem to care at all about me enjoying the experience, they wanted to put their dick in me without giving me any foreplay, and when I tried to help them give me foreplay they put the barest amount of effort into it. The excuse was that they're not used to having sex with people with vaginas so they don't know what to do, but they did not seem at all willing to learn or put any effort in, I kept showing them where my clit was and they somehow kept missing it. They never once asked me if I was enjoying what they were doing. At one point while we were having sex they randomly said they were thinking about their ex who was large (I am fat and they'd made a bit of an insensitive comment about my weight earlier in the night).

Afterwards, they asked if they were good and I was honest with them, and their response was, "Yeah, it was a bit unsatisfying," because I'd put a stop to it before they came because of how much I was not enjoying it, and then they said, "It probably would have been better if we'd had more time". ?????? Yeah, maybe it would have been better for you if I'd kept doing this completely unenjoyable thing until you got off, but it wouldn't have been better for me.

This was literally my second time having sex since realising I'm a lesbian and my last time having sex was over a year and a half ago, and I've only had sex with women twice before, so I was so excited, and it was so disappointing. People, please check in with your partners when you're having sex with them, especially if they're not someone you know well, and please don't have sex with people if you don't give a shit whether or not they're enjoying it, just get yourself a sex doll.

EDIT: Seems like there's a lot of transphobes in this subreddit. This person being trans was not supposed to be major thing, I just added the detail about them wanting to put their dick in me with no foreplay as an example of many things they did that were bad, the sex wasn't bad BECAUSE they were trans (or because it was a hook-up for that matter, I've had enjoyable hook-ups where I was treated with respect before). I really hope the mods step in at some point since transphobia is against the rules of this sub, but just personally, fuck off with your transphobia.

I (21nb) and my gf (21f) have been together for almost a year. She identifies as asexual and struggles with physical affection. She’ll promise me for physical affection whenever we see each other but most times she doesn’t give and I honestly need it. I’ve been accommodating to her needs but I feel like it’s not reciprocated.

What really has me wanting time apart was what happened just a few moments prior to me writing this. Our friends are getting ready for a Halloween party and are sleeping over at my place afterwards. She looks fantastic but I know that if I were to go to a party with her, I would be attached to her by the hip because my anxiety gets the best of me in social Settings. When our friends try to convince us to go together, I explain why I can’t go and how I know she’ll be annoyed with me. Then I express how she doesn’t even want to spend the smallest bit of time with me anymore and she begins to talk about how slow I drive with her in the car. I drive the speed limit because I don’t want to put her in harms way… After that…I went into my room and shut down. I was over everything and i don’t know how to express to her that I feel like she’s not pulling her weight nor attempting to spend time with me anymore. It’s excuse after excuse and I try my best to go with the flow but I don’t think I can make it to our first year. What should I do?

I pretty much kinda knew I always liked girls. 3 years ago I had an identitiy crisis, cut my hair short and although I hated it, girls seemed to be more attracted to me. I've always been dressing feminine but because of it I'm always assumed to be straight. I don't feel comfortable "dressing gay/masculine" or just always talking about my sexuality. But I've felt the last few months if not years I've just been seen as straight. I've even had conversations about women I find attractive and been out of the closet since I was 14/15. I just realized this as just this week people at work asked me if I liked women or had dated women, when I thought it was obvious. I just want a way to be seen and understood because I feel like it's such a small problem but it's really hurtful to me. What can I do and how do I feel better?

Is that sounds like she doesn’t have any romantic interest? Because seriously idk

Hi, first post on here. Im 17 and Ive been exploring my sexuality on and off these past years and i have always known ive liked women. Only form of ”sexual content” ive ever been able to view is lesbian and i have been in some short wlw relationships. But i cannot stop falling for men because of trauma. I never love them romantically or in any form its just limerence mind you. I feel like this need for male validation is stopping me from actually crushing on women. Even when i meet a girl i have really good connection with my brain keeps this ”need for male validation” as some sort of barrier that stops me from genuinly developing romantic interest in them. I know therapy and time is something the key but i need gen tips on how to push this aside when i do find a girl i really like.

So we have been back at school for a few weeks now and she got back on about the second week into the term.

I feel like the energy between us isn't the same as it use to be or like it gradually is getting weirder and wierder even before she left. I don't know how to explain it. Its like she really likes me (as a person) one minute and then ignores me a bit the next. Its like this really odd push and pull.

When I think about it in my head (I might be totally wrong and delusional) its like she is trying to get me like 'wrapped around her finger' but that makes it sound way more malisious that i want it to. It kind of pisses me off a little so I just decide to not have her as my first talking option and stuff most of the time.

But like anyways, back to the update.

I was kinda scared, but I wanted to start talking to her more just us two, so I called her on snapchat. We talked for ages and read our poetry to each other and just generally talking about things we mutually love. It ended because my friend got into trouble and I needed to call her but overall, a positive.

Another thing is that we send each other tiktoks like every single day. I have never sent this many tiktoks in my life but literally everything on my fyp reminds me of her sooo. (Its not one sided)

Once I was playing guitar with the band (her, our friend, and me), and our friend was saying how she isn't lesbian but suki waterhouse is so hot (I'm pretty sure she just doesn't know it yet haha). Then our friend left to go to the bathroom and I was talking to her about how she definately was in denial and then I said something about how the people she hangs out with don't really talk about liking girls and then she asked me if my friend group ever talked about that stuff. (WAIT IM REALISING HOW SUSPISIOUS THIS IS WAS SHE ASKING IF I LIKED GIRLS OMG). I said that we talked about that stuff and then I asked her the same and she said that her group 'supported' that stuff. I was going to like really nonchalantly drop that I'm not straight but I got scared. (When I put supported in quotations I just mean that it could mean she is straight but it could also mean she isnt).

Also I kind of had a realisation that doesn't really work well for the 'not straight' theory. Her older sister has a lot of the stereotypical gay signs like cds, vinyls, I cant really remember a lot but just trust the vibes. I was thinking about how younger sisters think their older sisters are really cool and copy them a lot, therefore she could be straight but just be this cool because her sister probably isn't straight.

But at the same time she gives not straight vibes so idek anymore.

Ok now for the reason I decided to write this whole update.

I was kind of having a menty b on friday and I called her but she didn't answer so I just called my other friend. She tried to call me but I was already on call so I just didnt answer. The next morning she called me again and asked me if I was ok and I gave like a really brief, like 2 sentence, explaination and it was a tiny bit awkward probs because i just woke up so I said that I was gonna go back to bed and I hung up. She has tried to bring it up a couple times to go more in depth but its always like while walking in the school corridoors or somewhere that is like the opposite of the vibes yk also its kinda awkward to say it unless ur in the mood to.

Then on tuesday at lunchtime she was really overwhelmed with work because she had to catch up from being away on exchange and it was test week. I was at the library with her and her friend and then she started having a mental breakdown and then her friend and I stared comforting her and helping her study and all that. She ended up being fine in the end but it kind of seemed like she thought that she owed us something for comforting her and helping her ig? she seemed like way nicer to me like just the pull not the push.

The next day I got sick so I stayed home and she texted me out of the blue telling me that the geography test wasnt too hard and i was like merci and then she kept the convisation going like 4 times were it could have ended very easily.

Then she said "howwww r u"

I said "same as always + sickness"

She said "you can always talk to me about anything" (something along those lines)

I said "is this because of last friday?" (when I tried to call her)

And then she wrote something, deleted it, and left me on opened.

Im so confused. Literally did I do something wierd? Is my sick brain making me go crazy? Its been like 2 days since and both of us havent said anything. Um I am confused.

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/WLW/comments/1fms21j/im_crushing_so_so_so_hard/

Me and my girlfriend (both 20) have been best friends for 5 years and recently I confessed and she said she feels the same. We've been through a lot and there's no tmi between us. I love her very much but we both struggle greatly with expressing emotions properly. We've talked about it and decided to still talk like bros because we're just bad at being affectionate, we're awkward and laugh at every intimate moment but not as in "that's ridiculous" just "I don't know how to act". We talk everything out and I'm sure she feels the same in these situations. PDA, pet names, all the relationship stuff- we just don't know how to act with each other now. I don't want it to change dramatically I want to be always comfortable around her and hope she will be around me too. How to stop being so awkward, how can I mature emotionally? How to be a good partner? Can this work out?

I’m always worried that a date might feel like a friend hangout. How do I make it not feel like that? I’ve been talking to this girl recently and want to take her on a date but I’ve always have this anxiety about how not to make it feel like a friend hangout but rather a date .

so i have/had a huge, all-consuming crush on my coworker this summer (you know, those lesbian crushes that completely engulf you). i don’t know if it was love, but i’ve never felt this way before. i never told her my feelings because we had such a great friendship and didn’t wanna ruin what we had. everything was just so perfect. i also got the vibes from her that she wouldn’t want to date a coworker. and i was hesitant because everyone always says to not date your coworkers. she also doesn’t like physical touch and doesn’t do outward displays of affection really. she is bi though and we have had some deep conversations on sexuality. i assume she didn’t have feelings for me because she never made any advances but i didn’t either so idk. it was a summer job that ended 2 months ago. we kept in contact and talk everyday.

she just told me yesterday that she’s dating our other coworker (m18) and she’s 21. weird age gap in my opinion but that’s beside the point. i am completely devastated but mostly in denial. if you worked this job you would also be so confused by this pairing, i don’t know how to explain it but it’s extremely odd. i don’t know when they started dating or confessed mutual attraction but i never picked up either of them having feelings for each other. if i didn’t pick up on her having feelings for him, it’s making me wonder if maybe she did have feelings for me but i never noticed.

i am currently feeling very mad at her but i know she didn’t do anything wrong by dating him. we weren’t dating, she didn’t cheat on me. i have no right to be mad. we were all planning to come back to this job next summer but if they are dating, that’s gonna be really weird. if they break up, even weirder. honestly the only reason why i wanted to come back was because of her but now i don’t know. i just feel very hurt and i can’t communicate that with her without ruining things. i wanna keep talking to her like nothing happened but it’s so hard. i feel like she knew i liked her because of how she worded her text. it was almost like she was breaking the news to me rather than just telling me. she kind of beat around the bush and took a long time to get to the point. our conversation was very awkward, she worded it more like an apology than just telling a platonic friend you’re dating someone. there was a really weird vibe compared to how we usually talk. i just responded by telling her “i’m happy for you but i’m very shocked, i don’t know what to say right now”. at this point i was bawling my eyes out and decided not to say anything out of emotion. i wanted to confess feelings but i know very well it’s too late for that now and will only fuck things up. i’m just mostly mad at myself by not confessing when i could, i feel like with a love this strong i owed myself to at least try, and if it didn’t work i would at least have closure and be able to move on. after i said this to her she said she didn’t know what to say either and we haven’t talked since

i’m like going through all the stages of grief rn - first anger, then bargaining, depression, and currently denial. not necessarily looking for advice, just wanted to rant and maybe hear your guys’ perspectives. no hate please

It seems like women who are suppressing their queer attraction don’t like being around those of us who are out and/or open about ourselves. I suppose since they’re still battling with their feelings that it can be hard to see someone who seems to easily accept theirs. People who are comfortable with themselves don’t distance themselves from you. People who are denying it and are uncomfortable do. I also understand that comphet has led many women to date and give their all to men who they may not have even been in complete love with but the idea of being with a woman scares them or they never saw it as a valid option. Many want to go in living their straight, “normal” life and don’t want to deal with what they feel internally. It’s all just really sad.

I think a woman I know may possibly be feeling this way because she says we’re friends and we’re cool but she distances herself from me whenever she can. If we’re talking she never asks me questions and doesn’t care to hear about anything queer-related. She says she’s not homophobic. Maybe she’s just straight and it makes her uncomfortable. I don’t want to just assume it’s repression. It’s difficult either way.

hi everyone, so me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 years. This past summer i moved back to my home town 1600 miles away from my girlfriend to spend some time with my family for the next year or two while my girlfriend finishes school. My girlfriend is my absolute best friend. she is my rock. she is my everything. she has genuinely saved my life. But i’m having some anxiety. We did long distance for 6 months when we first met and then moved in together and been in person ever since, now we’re long distance and i’m going to visit her in december but the last time i had seen her is in may. Love knows NO distance and i am more than willing to do this distance, what im worried about is what if she feels like…. a stranger in person? i know im probably overthinking it and i know it will be fine im sure. But 8 months is a long time to not see someone and she is a full time college student so we don’t really get to talk or text much either since she has so much school. i still love her with all of my heart and she is my family but has anyone ever experienced this and how did you feel more comfortable/safe about it? Thanks!!

There’s a girl at my school who immediately gave off a strong vibe, and I felt drawn to her from the beginning. I’m so curious about her, and I want to know everything—I’d love to be her best friend, or maybe even more. I catch myself smiling and blushing whenever I think about her, and I light up when we’re talking. My friends even joke that I look at her with “the look of love,” but I’m still not sure if this is a friend crush or if I actually like her. I don’t want to mislead her if it turns out I don’t like her that way, and I’m also unsure if she even likes girls. When I look through her TikTok reposts, some are about girls at school, but others are about guys.

I’ve been trying to drop hints—like writing her initials on my hand and sending a streak just to her with a message that said, “Little does she know my hand is covered with her letter.” She replied, saying, “Ohhhh, lesbian??” and I answered, “I guess it depends who’s asking 😉,” to which she responded, “OH damn.” (Also I have a friend form a different school who has the same name and I wore one of those kissy letter hoodies that she made and I’m afraid she thinks I like my friend and not her) I’m not sure if I messed up there, and I still don’t know if I really like her in that way. We recently started hanging out with her friend group, but I’ve noticed she’s not a big talker, especially around me. I’m trying to get her to like me by complimenting her, and she compliments me back.

On the first day we hung out, she randomly told me I’m really beautiful, so I complimented her eyes and smile. Then the next day, she replied to a story of me and my sister, saying we don’t look alike, but we’re both fine—so I guess that means she thinks I’m attractive too. My friends say I’m obviously into her, and she’s like Adrien from Miraculous Ladybug. 😭

So, roughly four years ago I met my ex through a dating app (Taimi). Things were great until they weren't. Our relationship was extremely rocky for all of three months before we "broke up" because she was still in love with her ex boyfriend. Stupidly, we still continued to talk and see each other occasionally for the following two months before we officially parted ways. The day after we ended things finally she called me to tell me she was also very deeply in love with her best friend whom, throughout our entire relationship, was a reoccurring theme of our arguments because I constantly expressed I didn't like how physical they were (biting and leaving marks on each other, pinning the other to the bed, spitting in each other's mouths, and other things that weren't appropriate of a friendship imo). During our relationship she would reassure me that there was nothing more than a friendship there so for her to tell me that really she had been in love with her the entire time and made me out to be a crazy, jealous person broke me. I became extremely depressed and although I tried to conceal it from family and my job, I would cry for hours every single day wondering why I had ever wasted my time to begin with. Why she couldn't have just left me the hell alone and spared my feelings to begin with.

After months of self reflection and isolation, I began to move past her. I finally felt normal again and thoughts of our relationship didn't hurt anymore. She ended up reaching out to me down the line to apologize for the way she treated me during the relationship and keep me updated on her life. She would tell me how things were going with her and the other girl and how much she loves her but I didn't harbor any feelings toward her whatsoever so it didn't affect me. I was even rooting for her to become a better person and live a fulfilling life with the other woman.

However, recently, she's begun posting more and more photos of that same best friend with captions like "best girl in the universe, y'all never stood a chance" and "all i ever needed was her" or "my one and only". When I see these photos, I suddenly feel intense waves of anger and bitterness despite knowing throughout the years that she was in love with her. I thought I had moved on, so why am I now suddenly bitter about photos? How can I move past this? Why does this confirmation that I was being played hurt again? I really don't have the energy to be stuck on old ass feelings at this point in my life so any advice is greatly appreciated!

i wrote this really stoned so this is kind of rambley. i don’t know why i feel the need to tell strangers about this and idk if anyone will read this but honestly, this coming out post is mostly for me. ex-philosopher and youtuber Natalie Wynn (Contrapoints) said in her lesbian coming out video that if she didn’t come out now, she might never and she might never accept herself as a lesbian and that’s why im writing this. putting these feelings into words makes them real and makes me confront them. i’m a transsexual (i think nonbinary people are valid, i just think that sex isn’t binary and unchanging and ive taken steps to change/trans aspects of mine), and until i was almost 21, i lived as a femme gay man. i was raised as a boy and the intersection of my dysphoria, heteronormativity and father inflicted abandonment issues is something im only now starting to disentangle. ever since i was little, i felt like a girl. i didn’t have the words for it but i always was drawn towards femininity and women. and when they first started separating the boys and girls in like pe in 1st grade, there was this profound sense of wrongness in being forced to go with the boys. i had a necessity to not only be with the girls but to be one. in elementary school i had crushes on girls irl and in media but i only had crushes on men in games my dad played and things i watched. dante from devil may cry, leon from resident evil, danny in danny phantom, ben and kevin from ben 10 to name a few. but i didn’t have crushes/attraction on any boys that i knew. that didn’t start until 5th grade when i started experiencing a male puberty. testosterone is one hell of a drug that i am so grateful to be off but it raised my libido like crazy suddenly i was sexually attracted to people and a year later in 6th grade i started being attracted to boys too. growing up with mormon extended family and christians all around me, i was taught that my feelings for men was wrong. but deep down i felt like a girl and i felt that being with another girl would solidify that im actually male, in patriarchy having a woman makes you a man. so to feel feminine and because the church focuses so heavily on it, i focused on my sexual attraction to men. i still had crushes on girls but i felt dysphoric about it an because i wasn’t really a guy, i felt that i was inadequate. so i started thinking that i wanted a romantic relationship with a man. in high school i came out as gay and repressed my feelings for women entirely. i thought that because i had sexual desires for men, i must have romantic desires for them too. at the same time, i would joke about how id be bi if i was a girl and when i saw sapphic love in media, not sex, something in me felt fulfilled. i wanted that. i wanted to love and be loved by a woman as a woman. the idea of being an old woman with my loving wife was heaven, but i thought that i wasn’t allowed to have it, not in this life. but because i felt like womanhood was unattainable, that a man would affirm my femininity and my sexual attraction to men, i think i tricked myself into thinking i wanted to be in a relationship with a man. i don’t think i was really attracted to men, i was attracted to their attention. when i finally started to transition, and pass as a cis woman, i looked back at my life and realized that i had been attracted to women the whole time. i identified as bisexual and heteroromantic to dismiss my feelings for women. but then i went on a date with this girl. she was beautiful and smart and talented. and i realized that i could spend the rest of my life with a woman. the reason i didn’t pursue women was because it made me dysphoric and because the thought of being rejection from a woman hurt so much more than rejection from a man. i currently have a serious boyfriend and he’s making me realize that i don’t want this. men are hot but do i want to spend the rest of my life with one?? did i ever?? i didn’t ever consider a relationship with a woman as a valid option for me but i’m realizing it’s the only one. my bf is kinda mean and impatient but even is he was gentle and kind, im realizing i don’t want to be with him or any man romantically. i don’t think i have the capacity to love a man romantically and i don’t know if i ever did. i can love men sexually and platonically but when i wake up in the morning, i want to wake up next to my gf/wife. i want to have a common understanding of womanhood that a man, including my trans bf, can’t really have. i want to come home to my gf after a hard day and let me cook and bake my worries away for her. i want to be able to comfort her when she comes home. being domestic and romantic with a man, especially a volatile one, is making me realize that i can’t keep doing this. i might want to hook up with a guy here or there, but i want to give my heart and my body and my self to a woman. being financially dependent makes it hard to leave though 🙃

Hi, I need advice/reassurance that I did the right thing. I was seeing this girl that was anxious-avoidant attachment style. Things were going great until she had a sudden car accident that totalled her car but she was okay. I gave her a week to just be alone and yesterday I asked her if she still wanted to try and see where things go, because the last time we were together she talked about seeing a future with me. But ever since the accident she said she feels too overwhelmed to be in a commitment right now. Anyway, she said "She's not ready for the level of vulnerability or commitment that we had... This isn't something that's sustainable for me rn... I now know it's not something I'm ready to pursue." So I said goodbye bc all I wanted to do was love her and she wanted to end things. But now I'm second guessing myself... should I have asked her if she wants to go slower? If she wants to still try? I want to tell her that I'll wait for her if she wants to work things out. Am I being naive? Just overthinking? Do you think it would've made a difference if I gave her more time than a week to talk about "us"? I'm an anxious attachment so I just hate feeling like I'm not being wanted. And I guess she wasn't sure. Idk.

She keeps requesting me on my instagram as if she really wanna keep up with whats happneing in my life BUT infact she just wants to SHOW ME how better she is off without me.

I accepted her request once , considering how its been so many years and I shouldnt have any problem following her or seeing her pictures....OH BOY I WAS SO WRONG.

She added me on her CLOSE FRIENDS LIST ? 😳 uploaded the story of a picture with her arms around a girls waist , who was wearing this beautiful red dress.

I thought about that picture the entire day instead of focusing my lectures and I feel extremely stupid for being so affected by a single picture and how my emotions went haywire over it.

I feel so sick about the fact that maybe she just wants to be friends or be normal by following each other......while Im out her still avoiding her even tho we never see each other face to face and probbaly never will....ever again.

I feel like the fucking loser for running away from it instead of accepting it and facing it when I know that I shouldnt give a damn about what she thinks when Im having to keep deleting her request. I CANT EVEN BRING MYSELF TO BLOCK HER ? Cuz I dont wanna give u unnecessary importance by blocking u , Im gonna leave it at that.

Every time I'm drunk, I cry to my friends, worrying that they might think I'm into them. Like, what the heck? They have been the sweetest, most accepting friends, and I actually consider them family.
I'm bisexual, and my friend group consists of gay men and straight women (except for me, of course). They have always supported me and rooted for me when I'm with someone, regardless of their gender, and I’m 100% serious when I say I can't think of them as potential partners—they're my friends, my SISTERS.

They have NEVER asked those stupid, weird, creepy questions like, Are you into me? or Who would you pick among us? I don't know why I'm so worried about this, but I still feel like I can't talk to anyone about my crushes on girls because there’s no one who can relate and I worry that if I talk about women, they might get the wrong idea. I don’t know what I might have buried deep inside, but every time I'm drunk, I get worried that they might be grossed out by my sexuality.

Why do I feel this way when my friends have always been supportive? Is this normal? I really hope it’s not because it feels awful.

I'm just curious to know if you ever rejected someone and then somehow changed your mind about them and gave them a second chance. If so, how or what did they or you do that made you reconsider them?