I know there are a couple of these entry’s, but I can’t find any remotely resembling to our current situation. Or everything that’s being suggested we already tried. So here’s me, heartbroken, trying to get help because I simply do not know what to do anymore.

So here’s the deal. We adopted B (11F) in may 2023. She’s sweet, sassy, and a bit territorial. We’ve always wanted a second cat, so when my partner and I moved homes and had more space to allow having another cat, we adopted M (3F), very sweet, laid back but also anxious, from a rescue in Greece.

We tried the Jackson Galaxy method - but a bit different (slower). And adapted many other methods including a feliway diffuser, dr ann’s stress med (natural) and also bought 2 giant scratching & chill units and other cat gadgets. We’ve been going at it for 7 months now. We’ve been in contact with a cat behaviour specialist (she works in the organisation from which we adopted M).

We have them until this day, on separate sides of our appartment (B in the living room & kitchen - at night she sleeps with us and can free roam, M in the bedroom, hallway and her own designated room - at night she stays in her designated room). We had to go back a step in the introduction process two times now. The first time we had to go back from either side of the door through a cat screen, to just the door between them with a crack underneath. And everything proceeded nicely, until one month ago.

One month ago we already started having them in the same room and walking around the house for the whole evening: say 6-8pm or 8-10pm while we were watching them cIoseby. There was some tension, but nothing major, just occasional staring while they were chilling in their own spots. Then I went on holiday with friends for a week so my partner proceeded the introduction with them being together every evening. It was all going well until 3 nights in a row - B started chasing after M. We told our cat behaviourist, she said B could be bored, and M got waaaay more anxious and scared after the conflicts so for the past month we’ve been focused on that: getting B active & engaged in life again and M less scared. It worked, but now their doesn’t seem to be any progress anymore between them. We took a step back to them having contact through a cat screen with snacks & play (snacks are going great, they’re both very snack driven). M does stay anxious, but M seems quite relaxed. We also tried playing with them on separate sides of the screen door, which isn’t a great success. M gets quit scared & anxious when seeing B play, won’t get engaged and stays faaar away from the screen, and B fluffs up her tail but is engaged in play. No vocalisations ever took place between them (apart from M hissing when B gets too close) and they also never fought. B did chase her with a fluffed up tail sometimes when she sneaked through the door, but we were there in time to cut it off - still leaving M anxious. B doesn’t seem to have any interest in M, as in not eating her have snacks when we do site swapping, not engaging with her in any sort of wat except chasing??? M was interested in B in the beginning, but now mostly scared.

This being said, the cat behaviourist services are free - and I am having a difficult time getting help from her since she’s being very abstract & sometimes not replying at all (which I can understand since we do not pay for her services but it’s included within M’s adoption). Also don’t want to push much on her when she’s not getting paid for her expertise.

HEY, HI. ITS BEEN LIKE A FEW MINUTES WHEN I SAW MY DOG EATING THE CHOCOLATE CHIP THAT I WAS SAVING ON MY TABLE THAT IS TALLER THAN HER, (SHES LIKE 4-5 POUNDS, A VERY SMALL DOG AS U CAN TELL) THERES NO VETERINARY THATS CURRENTLY OPEN AND I DONT HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO AFFORD IT. WHAT ALTERNATIVES CAN I DO?? PLS I HAVE SOMEWHERE TO GO TOMORROW

Hey everyone! I need some advice. My dog doesn't get along with my neighbor's dogs, and it’s becoming a bit stressful during walks or when we're in the yard. Does anyone have tips on how to help my dog feel more comfortable or calm around other dogs? I want to avoid any tension, but I’m not sure where to start. Thanks!

One is a Short hair and the other is a Medium/Long hair . The Long haired one is mostly hygenic but will soon need sanitary trims because of his fur being in the way, we aren't worried about him as much.

The short haired boy on the other hand, ZERO hygiene when it comes to the litter box. We clean the litterbox Either ever day or 1.5 days depending on how busy we are. But even when it's a clean litter box there is a high chance he will either a) step on his own poop or b) still have pee on his butt. He doesn't seemed bothered having poop on himself because he literally won't do anything to remove it, we usually have to wipe his legs down because of it. The pee issue is much more recent so I'm not sure what could be causing him to have a wet butt after going.

Is this just a weird kitten thing that he'll grow out of? Am i cursed to random smear marks on my arm for the rest of my life with this cat? I've lived with other cats before but none of them ever had this issue, short haired or long. Someone told me it might be because he's a bottle fed baby who was abandoned at literal birth, so he likely never learned proper grooming skills even with being around other kittens.

He was neutered months ago without any complications, and is otherwise a normal kitten. Do we need to start wiping him down anytime he gets out of the litterbox so he starts to associate cleaning himself afterwards???

I am horribly allergic to cats. I've tried, thinkig my allergy would subside even just a little bit but it would only result in my eyes itching and my face red and scratched by my nails.

I need a pet to love. Someone plz recommend me a pet that I could have. And plz make sure it's not an endangered species or something.

I love cuddles. I would love to cuddle with an animal. Maybe with one that could warm my lap and sleep on my tummy? Maybe an animal that would come to me everytime I come home if I treat it with enough love. Perhaps an animal capable of showing physical vulnerability and love. Being trainable is a bonus!

Asking for a friend here ;P

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Olá gente, gostaria de pedir a ajuda de vcs para salvar minha cachorrinha, ela está muito doente e debilitada e precisamos muito do valor pra salvar ela. Na vakinha explico toda a situação dela e de como ela ficou assim se puderem doar qualquer valor ou ajudar divulgando para mais gente eu agradeço muito, pq estou desesperada..

I've had Fetch for a couple of years and never needed to use it (thankfully). I moved from MI to CO this year and my rates skyrocketed. They blamed it on state insurance requirements.

Has anyone had this experience? It seems like BS to me. I'm going to shop around.

Hello I’m recently going through a difficult break up with my partner and I have a cat. I need a place to put him temporary save up and get my own apartment the place I’m staying doesn’t allow pets, but I don’t wanna give him up. Are there any places in Syracuse, New York or Auburn, New York where I can, have fostered or temporary stay?

My female dog is about 1 and a half years old and she just recently started constantly whining while carrying a specific toy around the house. She’ll try to go inside our rooms and either hide inside the closets or hide in between the pillows on the beds and i’m just worried. The toy isn’t a new one, she’s had this toy for a couple months but this behavior is certainly new. She’ll look around anxiously and try to hide in small dark places and sometimes she even looks like she’s hyperventilating. I haven’t noticed her releasing milk or anything so i was questioning the possibility of a false pregnancy but i’m not sure, if anyone could help i’d greatly appreciate it!

Hey everyone,

I just recently separated with my ex, we both have cats that grew to be friends, for 2 years lived together and now we had to split them up. I am so worried my cat is going to be lonely if I do not get a second cat, i work 12 hour shifts some days and i hate leaving her alone that long (i do come home for breaks so shes not alone for that long; but i am not home for more than an hour in total while working, can you let me know your experiences if you've ever been in a situation like this?

Thanks in advance

please. HELP. she’s driving me crazy. I have a 2 y/o female cat. She’s so sweet in so many ways but also, evil? at my last apartment she learned that knocking the items over on my window ledge was a good way to get me out of bed. she also digs at my hair/face to get a reaction out of me (like the litter box covering poop motion) she’s always been this way but now i’m working a new job that requires im up at 5:45am anyways and that’s when she will get breakfast, so her 4am begging is a lot more detrimental than it used to be, it makes my morning that much harder that i’m on here asking for advice. most will think- just lock her out of the room! problem solved! and to this i say, no. pls no. we are in an apartment and the doors shake if even little kitty paws put pressure on them. and she does it repeatedly until someone lets her back in or feeds her, and it’s SO loud. so currently we just let her smack us, bite us, or knock things down until we can’t take it anymore and usually cave and feed here around 4:30am we truly can’t take this anymore. serious suggestions only please, i’ve googled it we want to try to address her diet make it more fufiling nutrient wise, perhaps start using treat toys/slow feeder. SOS tired cat mom :(

Does anybody happen to have Chewy coupon codes that aren't only good for new customers? Or is it okay to make a new account to get the $20 off $49 again? Pet food is so expensive, it's crazy, but I need to feed my babies. Thanks!

Because I had searched high and low through Reddit for my dog's situation with little luck I wanted to post to future folks that making the rainbow bridge decision before things get to a point of worse is okay.

Our guy didn't have cancer and he didn't stop eating. But he did have a significant decline in his mobility, independence, and lost his love for his favorite activities. Getting up required him calling for someone more often than not to lift up his back end. He could generally walk once he got his bearings but how terrible a feeling to be stuck places especially when we weren't home. He also had become incontinent of bowel and bladder.

Our vet had no true explanation other than degenerative processes in his spine. I'm not even sure I remember the last time I saw his floors tail wagging, he also lost that ability.

He was mentally aware, painfully so. But we let him cross yesterday afternoon knowing his legs would never get better and he deserved to run free again.

It's okay to let them go, what a tremendous gift we can afford them. He was 12 and boy were we lucky 🍀 🩷

Hi guys. I'm from the Philippines and my two 1 year old cats are having colds. It's been 2 days of them sneezing and I took them to the vet earlier today. The vet prescribed co-amox antibiotic but I am having trouble giving them this since they salivate and would run away. I tried everything and gently try to get them drinking but I don't think it's okay. Should I opt for the antibiotic shot that is good for a week? I dont know why they have colds if it is a virus or what but it was rainy the past days and I think they got wet from the rain the previous days. Thanks for the advice please reply :' ( I'm kinda scared about the convenia shot since I havent tried it with my previous cats.

I've never used Chewy Autoship but want to so I can more easily see pet expenses vs my Amazon subscription expenses that are shipped as needed. Is Chewy Autoship customizable per item or is it like I get one box at the frequency of my choice so I need to figure out the quantity of my pet products for once a month or whatever frequency works? Sorry if this question is worded poorly. I'm just used to Amazon where I can determine the frequency per product and they ship whatever products are up for the month to me each month. But Chewy doesn't seem to function like that.

Hello, I am 19F and am considering rehoming my 2 cats. One is a girl and one is a boy. I simply do not think they are happy here.

My mother got them when I was in high school. I was over the moon because I love cats. She adopted them both because they are a bonded pair of siblings. When they first got there, I gave them space and did not overwhelm them. I got along great with them.

Now for the upsetting part. I have a cat allergy. I did not understand until maybe 2 years ago. Since i’ve gotten those cats I’ve consistently been sick. My symptoms have lessened over time but now it seems to have gotten worse. I recently moved because I am attending college. I was told I have to take the cats with me or they would go to the shelter. I couldn’t fathom leaving them behind and I’m sure they would not have been happy.

The house I moved into is a 4 bedroom 4 bathroom student housing. It’s not cheap and I had to pay 500$ for my cats. Since i’ve moved my cats seem to hate me. They do not interact with me, opting to stay upstairs in my roommates room. Both of them have become very skittish. I cannot walk in their direction without them running from me. They only come up to me when they want food. Sometimes it’ll be days before I can actually interact with them. I struggled with the thought of it but i’ve accepted they probably don’t like me anymore. I know cats need time to adjust to change, but it’s been more than a year since I’ve moved.

I can’t afford to take care of them. I am living well above my means, I don’t make much money from my student job, and I need help from my family just to make rent. On more than one occasion I could not afford to feed them and have had to have my roommate buy cat food and litter. There shots are overdue, but I can’t afford to take them to the vet. They have also gotten chubby due to overfeeding. My roommates just fed them whenever they meowed. Therefore they do not groom themselves anymore. Grooming them has never been a problem but now they have consistently gotten matts. It’s hard for me to brush them because i get bad allergy attacks so I often have to double mask but I still get sick.

I feel terrible about this, it’s not the first time i’ve thought of rehoming them. I think my house is too busy for them and they have gotten anxious, choosing to stay upstairs and under my roommates bed. I feel like i’ve failed them, I’ve tried hard to take care of them.

Can anyone give me some opinions about this?

My cat ate about 2 or 3 spoons of uncooked rice without my knowing, she is not lethargic and eats well too, I just found out that she ate uncooked rice when I saw her poop full of rice grains, is she fine because she pooped it?

Good day all!

My wife and I are going to be adopting two cats in a few days, after having to say goodbye to my beautiful 18 year old Hayo last June. It was a really hard time for us, but we feel ready to welcome new life companions now.

One of them will be adopted from our local rescue shelter and is one year old and the other one is 12 weeks old and will be adopted from an individual that cannot keep it at home. It was very important for me to "save" a cat rather than adopting from a breeder, since I have difficulty rationalizing the practice.

Because of the age difference, they will have different nutritional needs. While I'm mainly working from home, I do have to go to the office twice a week and I want to make sure the cats are fed a regular intervals while I'm away.

I am looking for a feeder than can feed two cats separately, with two different foods. I also remember seeing an ad a few years ago about a feeder working with tags to identify the cat waiting at the feeder, which will dispense only the food for that cat, and at the right time, but for the life of me, I can't find it again.

I'm either looking for that feeder or something that has equivalent capabilities.

Appreciate the help, thank you!

We adopted a 9 week old kitten last week and he's incredibly tiny for his age. We've crate trained dogs in the past so we're very familiar in what to do, but as a first time cat owner (especially one who requires a bit of extra support with feeding/growing).

At night, we've been keeping him in our room in a large carry cat crate. It has space for a litter tray, bed and space to move around. He's been sleeping through the night just fine and hasn't had any issues with it, but I just wanted to check that this is ok for him? As he's so small, I wouldn't want to risk him getting hurt in the night but I've read online that doing this can harm his development.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

My cats wear reflective collars with multiple bells. They need them so I can find them while they're hiding, but also should they get outside, it's for the protection of the birds.

As annoying as it would be to have to wear these all day - I feel for my cats in this sense - the dangling bells fall into their water bowl when they take drinks, and then they have to carry around sopping wet bells for a bit after that.

I can't seem to find any other noise making device to put on a cat collar that doesn't dangle.

Does anyone have suggestions?

Thanks

Okay, so... do dogs get dementia? The reason I ask is because I am genuinely starting to believe mine might well have.

About 14 years ago, we bought a Staffordshire terrier pup from a neighbour. In hindsight, we shouldn't have done because, let's just say they weren't the most above board of people.

Anyway... I'll cut to the chase. My dog chews my doors to the point I'm having to replace them and recently she has started becoming more aggressive. She bit my daughters (13) foot as she was stepping over her, she has nipped me more than once and about half an hour ago she bit my son in the backside as he was leaving for college.

Any slight tap or knock sends her into a barking frenzy and she just won't stop.

I'm going to be honest, the whole family want her gone. She is a liability and I am genuinely concerned for my family's well being. I have an 8 year old son with autism and everytime I try to leave the house to take him to school, the only thought on my mind is "is she gonna go for him?"

I've tried calling places like the rspca etc, but I only get flipping voicemail.

Long story short, we need her gone ASAP. I need to put the safety of my human family members above all else. Any thoughts and advice would be appreciated, but please be respectful. This isn't a decision we have made overnight and it is probably something we should have looked into a while ago.

I lost my orange cat today. He was only 6. I loved him so much.

Earlier today I went over to a friend’s place and brought my dog with me. I haven’t been over for a while, but always brought her beforehand and did the same today. It wasn’t until we got there that I found out my friend’s cat has fleas. The cat starts treatment tomorrow but hasn’t started it yet. I’m really worried about my dog getting them. Is there anything I can do to prevent an infestation before it starts? I will probably call the vet tomorrow to pick something up if I can but any home remedies are appreciated.

My dachshund is boiling in cold weather and he has had no exercise since 2 days ago

I have a 4 year old jack Russell X dachshund, it's cold outside and inside and my dachshund is boiling hot, any things to recommend doing?

He is Duke he hasn't done anything, this post is written at 7:50 am as the test happened at 7:30, however after 30 minutes Duke is still hot and hasn't cooled down, he is panting and I don't know what to do

A couple months ago I adopted a small white dog from the shelter. I fell in love with him, but there’s one major issue with him—he keeps peeing in my carpeted house.

I take him to the bathroom behind a shed. This area is pebbled unlike the rest of the property and it’s 3 by 8 feet long. The pebbles are to help him understand the difference between inside and outside. He has a doggy door that he has access to in the house. Also, in the house, I keep him in a small 25ft squared area by the doggy door. During the day, he is kept outside and has access to his potty area. Whenever I take him to go potty (in the mornings, night time, after breakfast & dinner, before entering the house, etc), I give him treats and praise when he goes to the bathroom in his potty area. I crate him at night and carry him outside to the bathroom in the morning to prevent accidents. By the way, he’s a chihuahua poodle mix. He’s 19 pounds.

For the last couple of weeks, he hasn’t peed in the house because I’ve been on top of taking him out frequently. Recently I slipped up though and forgot to take him out after movie time, so he peed in our bathroom when I took him in there (I take him in there while I go to the bathroom so he doesn’t cry). Do you guys think my dog will eventually become potty trained? Or is he just always gonna have to be monitored super well?

Also, any tips with separation anxiety and fear in new public spaces?

Hola amigos,

Apreciaría su opinión sobre la situación que estoy atravesando.

Hace una semana adopté una cachorra raza pequeña y ya tenía otra en casa de 2 años. Mi perrita al principio se portaba muy agresiva y tensa con la cachorra, temblaba y su cuerpo estaba rígido todo el tiempo. Intentó morder a la perrita y yo la reprendía verbalmente.

Los días siguientes empezó a acercarse a la cachorra y jugaban pues intenté juntarlas y que convivieran en el patio y funcionó pero mi perrita ha cambiado mucho.

Sus juegos se han vuelto muy agresivos y yo he intervenido para llamarle la atención a la perrita grande para que le baje de intensidad pero entonces la cachorra se ha portado muy dominante sobre la grande abusando de la intervención mía.

Mi perrita ha dejado de comer. Antes amaba jugar con sus peluches y juguetes con chicharra y ahora solo duerme todo el día y se esconde de la cachorra. No desea jugar y me evita cuando antes era muy cariñosa y apegada a mi.

He intentado darle su tiempo por separado y jugar y apapacharla pero no veo que la situación mejore. Ya estaba entrenada para hacer pis en el patio y tiene 2 veces que hace en la casa, junto a donde la perrita.

Me parte el corazón verla así. La perrita de mis papás al contrario, acepto a la bebé y no hubo problemas. No se por qué mi perrita está tan a la defensiva y ha dejado de ser ella misma.

Estoy pensando en darle en adopción (a mis papás) a la cachorrita pero no se. Me siento como un fraude, un fracaso de dueña. Jamás pensé que sería tan duro. Yo intentaba era darle compañía a mi perrita pues salgo a trabajar y se queda sola 😭 pero parece que salió contraproducente

Por favor denme sus consejos y opiniones honestas.

Gracias!

Neighbors are abusing and abandoning their pets, but we’re afraid to cause a rift between us if we report them

My next door neighbors have lived next to me for three years now. We live in the woods on a county road, so the laws are pretty flexible (as are my neighbors) about what does and doesn’t happen on our street. We live down a dirt road with only about 8 houses, so it is a close-knit community.

When I moved in, my next door neighbors were clearly running a puppy mill, as they still do to this day. I have never appreciated the way that the dogs are kept or treated, but I have no proof that they are operating outside of the law.

About a year ago, the teenage daughter rescued a cat without the parents’ permission. One day, my boyfriend and I had to save the daughter and the cat from being attacked by six pit/boxer mixes that they were breeding for sale. The cat was seriously injured, and we stayed with the distraught daughter until the parents arrived home. We even offered to drive the daughter and cat to the vet ourselves, since the parents were not present at the time. When they arrived, they never took the cat to the vet, and even seem sort of pissed that we were involved at all. We felt sad, but realized that there was nothing we could do, as it is not our pet.

Since then, this cat has had at least four kittens that come to visit our house on a regular basis, and I believe I am the only one that provides them with food. The mother (whom we saved) often comes to visit as well, and will bring us gifts like dead frogs to show her appreciation. This week, she has been lying out in the street, and it has become clear that she has been abandoned. She is literally skin and bones at this point, and walks with a stagger as she cannot find her balance. We try to feed her, but she refuses most food and seems to have accepted her death at this point. I dont want to watch a cat die in my front yard, but every time we ask them about the cats and if we can adopt them, they are adamant that the young girl refuses to give up the cat or the kittens. I tend to them regardless, but don’t take them into my home so that the neighbors don’t accuse me of stealing their pets. However, at this point, the mama cat clearly needs to visit the vet, and we’re about to just take her there and present her as a stray because I feel like that’s what she is at this point.

While I’m happy to do this, and even take her into my home, I’m worried about the neighbors accusing me of “stealing” the pet that they abandoned. I feel that even though the daughter adopted the cat, it is the parents’ responsibility to protect the animal, and not commit animal neglect/abuse.

For some context, these people also just purchased over a dozen baby chickens who are currently roosting in my other neighbors’ yard because these people never set up a proper coop for the chicks. They really are just horribly irresponsible with their animals and seem to only care about the ones that make them money (the over a dozen caged dogs). These people also house an insanely large amount of people on their seemingly small property, and will do things like randomly shoot off guns at 1 am. I understand that we live in the country, but it just seems to be getting out of control. I can handle their drunk fighting and even their random gun shooting, but the animal neglect is starting to cause me too much heartache to ignore. While I am happy to take these cats in, it seems like a never ending problem that I shouldn’t have to take responsibility to fix, especially when taking responsibility for their animals could lead them to accuse me of stealing those animals. At this point, my boyfriend wants to report my neighbors to ASPCA, or go confront them. I want this situation resolved, but in a way that we can still coexist as neighbors. As I mentioned, it is a very small neighborhood, just one dirt road, and no one ever involves authorities in really anything. I don’t want to create any animosity between our household and the people who I will most likely live next door to for a very long time. What do we do here?

Update: thank you everyone for your responses. We’re trying to find the cat tonight to bring her inside, and I’m going to report the neighbors in the morning. There’s no use in speaking to them myself to try to mend the situation. I’ll post an update once they are (hopefully) investigated.

I have a missing cat. I'm making a lot of cat houses for her in a perimeter so she can survive the cold. I need the kibble in these houses to last week's to months. Some of the area's are very remote and hard to get to. We're talking broken ground, extremely dense trees, random elevation.

It's cold. Currently it's fridge temperature but it will get to freezer temperature in a few weeks. Is the kibble going to last? What is the maximum time in an emergency I can leave the kibble out?

So I fell for this a few months ago, didn’t really care since it went for a good cause but it’s three months since I got the “your cat won” text and a few days ago I got another.. but this time it was “due to your cats popularity we decided to put them on a puzzle” does that happen to everyone? It just seems like a long time to randomly resurface.

I know in most posts about "is it time," the answer is yes, and I've experienced those things with other pets. My situation now is a bit different.

My sixteen-year-old girl isn't in bad health. She has a bit of degenerative myelopathy with hind-end weakness, but she's getting around pretty well for a senior citizen, and has zoomies and bouncies at meal times. She has no evidence of organ failure or significant pain. She can get upstairs without help 9 out of 10 days. She takes Rimadyl for any pain due to the myelopathy.

She has dementia, though. Even though she seems content and eats and drinks and pees and poops normally, I'm pretty sure she has no idea where she is or who we are the majority of the time. She doesn't seem to enjoy pets or scritches as much as in the past, although she tolerates them, and sometimes seems to enjoy them.

She takes Xanax for anxiety, which is likely caused by the dementia. I'd be anxious, too. She is not always anxious, it's only occasional, but we want to spare her that as much as possible, thus the meds.

It's hard to tell if she in pain. It's hard to tell if she's more scared than anxious. She loves her food, and going outside, and relaxing in her bed in the living room. She sometimes leans into pets and scritches. She has a younger sister dog who seems to keep an eye on her, and who often helps her find her way when she seems lost.

I don't know if that's quality of life or not! I don't know how to judge when it's time to help her go. It's not apparent that she's suffering. I've never had a dog with dementia, and it was easier to make the hard decisions for all of my previous pets because of obvious suffering or prevention of expected suffering.

Any suggestions from others who've experienced anything similar would be very much appreciated.