I’ve been semi-awaken by intense and long dry orgasms while having lucid dreams the past 2 nights. I took Cialis Ed meds during the day and not sure if it’s a contributing factor, but I feel aroused in my sleep with an erection and throbbing. All of this is accompanied by what seems like coregasms(?) with my pelvic and abdominal muscles involuntarily contracting while I’m experiencing pleasure. I tried rolling over only to be semi-awakened again right before finally waking up. Like I said, I’m not sure how or why this is happening and wondering about increased blood flow from the Ed meds being responsible for these multiples. Maybe it’s all a dream in my head but it sure feels real and gave me reason to wake up with a smile thinking about having multiples without even trying.

How many times do you have intercourse per day? I used to want around six orgasms per day, refractory period anything from 0-180 seconds. Now it's 1-3 times a day because of mild depression (more often 1-2 than 2-3). Days with six are rare. Not sure of there are other ways of fixing this than alleviating the depression.

EDIT. When I poll like this, doesn't matter if orgasms are from intercourse or not. Just how many times a day do you go?

Hey there, I'm trying to understand if I'm doing something wrong or if it's a learning curve thing, but I thought after I learned to have NEOs (not the ones that involve moving energy) I would be able to have them a bunch in one session?

When I learned it started out with only one dry orgasms per seesion, but over the last few weeks I've worked my way up to a few orgasms before ejaculating. Is it possible to delay it as long as I want? Obviously not indefinitely because that would probably have negative health effects, but I've seen some people say they don't ejaculate for several weeks at a time and I can't make it past a single session.

Is it about learning to control my arousal better?

Thanks for any advice.

Hello everyone I have started my journey trying to become multiorgasmic. I had the book of Mantak Chia long time ago and I was able to follow it, I tried and I gave up. But lately YouTube showed me some videos of Jonathan White and his Sexual Kung Fu... and I decided to give it another try. I am doing reverse Kegels (in the past I made a lot of regular Kegels, and I think I got soft glans syndrome from it without knowing it or realizing I actually had a problem). I also starting some exercises of the macro cosmic orbit and breathing exercises: testicle breathing, belly breathing... I found that breathing is key. I have issue visualizing the energy flowing. It's weird because I am good at visualizations. I have started with relaxation pelvic floor exercises and some self-estimulation. I can go for half a hour... and I try to stop before it's too late. But I don't know if my self-estinulation technique or the whole process is affecting my sexual life, I am getting some sort of ED. When I am on my own I don't have problems. Has anyone had similar issues?

Hi

i've been self-cultivating for about an hour or more everyday.

I'm starting to feel growing burning sensation in my hand, located at the part of the palm connected to the thumb.

anyone aware of stretching exercises or others that could help prevent this phenomemon, or help it heal?

cheers

When I go really slow and right before the ponr I squeeze my pc muscles,but instead of a dry orgasm I get a bit of semen leaking out of my penis without the orgasm feeling. What am I doing wrong?

How do you stop yourself from ejaculating? I've tried in solo practice to stimulate other areas other than the tip and top of the shaft and usually I can do okay if I just stimulate the shaft (top and bottom), but if I start playing with the frenulum it usually ends up being a wet one no matter how hard I try. Any tips? Not ready to do PIV NEOs by a long shot but it is my goal one day.

Dear all

I understand that to practice NEOs, one must alternate between various physical and mental relaxation and tension. Keepitup Johnson recommends total relaxation, but also says that one must do a controlled PC tension when getting into the orgasm.

Physical relaxations: deep breathing, releasing muscles, the result of a reverse kegel,

Physical tensions: vocalising pleasure, squeezing the anal muscles, squeezing the perineal muscles, doing a reverse kegel (the result of which is relaxation), doing a big draw, or squeezing glutes / legs, smiling

Mental relaxations: defocusing from outcome, not having fantasies, feeling love for oneself

Mental tension: visualisations, drawing the energy upwards, keeping track of the pleasure level, ...

I think we can have long arguments about what would count as tension or relaxation, but here's my problem and question:

When am I suppose to relax what, and when am I to tense what?

Right now I'm doing hours long self cultivation sessions. I can now feel the physical tension that builds in my pelvic floor, buttocks, legs, feet, and belly muscles. I've learned to completely relax it all. However, when I do that, it tends to reduce the amount of pleasure I can feel, and with it my erection dips a bit. Even if I focus on the sensations in my penis. I can observe that for me to feel pleasure, there needs to be a little bit of tension in my buttocks, legs, and also to a certain extent in my pelvic floor.

Unless I actively focus on maintaining that physical relaxation, it will come back. Specially if I give myself some little bits of mental fantasies to get back into pleasures. If I maintain that slight physical tension, then I am able to do pure physical focus on the pleasure sensations without fantasies, sucking them upwards from the tip of my penis to the top of my head, and making it flow back down on the exhale.

I've also read in various books (including keepitup Johnson) to keep a very slight activation in the perineum muscles.

What has been your experience with tension and release? What do you tense / relax? When? Why?

I'm just getting started on this journey, and wanted to share a reflection from my experience to encourage others. I haven't had a NEO, let alone full body multiple orgasms... yet!

I've had two proper sessions now where I practice self-pleasure mindfully, incorporating intentional breathing and kegels, building up to the PONR, attempting a well-timed kegel to allow orgasm w/o ejaculation. Basically following the method here. Both times, it has ended with an ejaculatory orgasm. (Not as.. ejaculatory as usual? more melty? basically the orgasm feeling wasn't as much in my penis, which I take as a sign I'm on the right path)

And you know what? Both times have been wonderful orgasms! Both times have left me laughing in pleasurable delight. My message to my fellow NEO aspirants, or those who are curious, is: the practice is fun! Even if you 'fail' to have an NEO (and you will fail, u/ShaktiAmarantha's invaluable guide estimates 80-200 'wet' orgasms before finding your NEO), doing the practice makes for more pleasurable sessions than whatever your basic ejaculatory routine is. For a while, I've been aware that NEOs are possible, which I think has been taking the fun out of orgasms, giving me guilt around them knowing I can do it better. Now I can masturbate shamelessly again, knowing each ejaculation is one step closer to reaching my goal! hahaha

A few questions for those who know:

I've heard that having a NEO is less likely in the days directly following ejaculation. Have you found this to be true?

I've heard that, when doing kegels, you should be isolating the pelvic floor muscles, with no involvement of muscles in the abdomen, thighs, or butt. My lower butt muscles definitely activate a bit when I do a kegel. Is this 'doing it wrong'? Will it cause me to fail to develop a kegel that will prevent ejaculation? Do I need to focus on isolating my muscles more, or is it ok to have some of the other muscles involved?

Thanks!

I put this post together because I have had a few inquiries on what has worked for me. It is a long one because I was attempting to address any areas of uncertainty. Ultimately, do what works for you. It is when I started to alter things that worked better for me, that I saw real progress both in results and pleasure. When I was first looking to do things differently, years ago, it was in the early days of the Internet and there was very little information on sexual energy. I was looking into that angle because I found the more I ejaculated the more fatigued I became. I wondered what would happen if I still got sexually aroused but did not ejaculate but was worried that it may not be healthy. I found Mantak Chia‘s work that focussed on building and channelling that sexual energy within the body, rather than ejaculating it out and losing it.

The book I started with is Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy, which can be a little heavy to read, but he did bring out a newer version called The Multi Orgasmic Man, which has much of the same information in a more user-friendly format. I basically followed the plan laid out in Taoist Secrets book, and within a month I had a small orgasm without ejaculating. I recently took another look at Taoist Secrets of Love and I still prefer that one. I was highly motivated so your progress will depend on your situation.

Mantak Chia says to limit your ejaculations and work on moving the energy through your body. That will give you a greater sense of overall vitality and your sexual system won’t become depleted, which in my case, made a lot of sense. Some modalities call for outright semen retention for ever, but I am not one for absolutes. Generally, the younger you are, the more you can ejaculate without losing energy. My sweet spot at my age (60ish) is to ejaculate every 3-8 weeks. I listen to my body, so sometimes it is more often (rare) and some times it is longer (more common). You have to find the frequency that works for you.

Non-ejaculatory orgasms and multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms are possible because the orgasm and the ejaculation itself are two separate physiological events. They just happen so close together that we all think it’s one event. So from now on, when I write “orgasm”, I will mean without ejaculation, otherwise I will call it ejaculation. The Taoist idea behind all of this is to heighten the pleasurable experience of both partners. They value the women’s pleasure and her ability to have multiple orgasms, but many men can’t last long enough to fully satiate her. Satiation is different than satisfaction. The latter means everything went well, and she is pleased and satisfied. The former means that she is fully spent, and can’t imagine having any more pleasure at the moment.

I followed Mantak Chia’s exercises and within a month, I thought I had a non-ejaculatory orgasm. It wasn’t big, but after doing some research, that’s what it was. I kept practicing and over time, the orgasms became bigger and bigger. I was getting better at moving the sexual energy up and away from my genitals too and I began to miss ejaculating less and less. I adopted a schedule of ejaculating every 3-8 weeks or so.

Here are some key things that have worked for me:

1. Breath work. I adopted, deep, rhythmic, belly breathing, similar to someone who is meditating. This breathing helps you focus on your body (the breathing) and gets you away from the thoughts in your head. It also relaxes you. Relaxation in very conducive to good sex. You have better erections, you last longer, and you don’t have to think of distracting things to do so. In fact, you end up feeling more because you focus on your body’s sensations.
2. Kegel exercises. I practiced, not only strengthening them, but isolating various areas when I clenched. For example, I tighten the muscles around my anus, then tighten the muscles along my perineum, then tighten my muscles that make your penis move. This will really help develop your sense of what’s happening in your body, where it is happening, and how to make adjustments.
3. Reverse kegels. This is when your entire PC muscle region is relaxed. The best way to describe the feeling is when you are gently trying to push out a poop. When I got really good at relaxing those muscles, I found myself lasting a lot longer. Tension equals ejaculation, and relaxation equals orgasms. That’s a very simplified view because you may to clench your PC muscles at some point, but in the meantime, I got used to making them relaxed when I was aroused. In fact, every once in a while, I will relax my pelvic floor because so many of us keep that area tight all of the time. Relaxing my PC muscles, helped my body to relax, and prolonged the pleasurable experience.
4. I practiced being able to be aware of exactly where I was on the arousal scale. I concentrated on every little sensation, and over time, finely tuned my ability of gauging my arousal level. If ejaculating is a 10, I was able to tell when I was at a 7.5, or 8.9, or 9.7. The more I practiced, the more I became aware of that moment when I began to feel the orgasm, a split second before I started ejaculating. Seeing as they are two separate events, I was able to lengthen the time between the two. I did this by stopping or slowing down at first, then I moved to riding the sensations and letting go of my attachment to ejaculating. Ejaculating became neither good nor bad and it was not a goal of mine any longer. If it happened, it happened.
5. Visualization. There are countless examples of how visualization has helped people in all facets of their lives and sex is one of them. I visualized my sexual energy as a warm liquid, a little thicker that water, and a golden orange in colour. It would build in my genitals and then I would move it up my spine, into my head, and down my front. This spread out the sexual energy, making it less intense in the genitals but more euphoric throughout the rest of my body. I felt tingly and energized.
6. The big moment. To ejaculate or not to ejaculate. If I felt that ejaculating would drain my energy, I would approach the point of no return and when I began to feel the first stages of orgasm, I would clench my PC muscles and practice what Mantak Chia calls “The Big Draw”, where my ejaculation is locked out and I move the sexual energy away from my genitals. At the same time, I pulse my prostate and that pushes me over the edge to have an orgasm without ejaculating. The prostate pulsing can be felt by starting to pucker and release your anus.I will ride out and enjoy the orgasm and when I am done, I sometimes stop there, and at other times, I continue on with the stimulation. Because no semen is released, the hormones that normally make you feel tired and make your penis soft, don’t get triggered. When you want to continue, you can get hard again or stay hard.

I practiced this way for a long time until something different happened during a sexual encounter with a woman. She was very sensual and understood and supported my lack of attachment to ejaculations. We were having penetrative sex and I was approaching the point of orgasm when I would clench my PC muscles. This time, however, I had a vision in my head of a path. I was moving along the path and if I turned right, I would ejaculate and if I turned left, I would orgasm without ejaculating. I turned left and went into a full body, vibrating, non-ejaculatory orgasm. It was so intense that my entire system was overloaded with explosive, pleasurable energy, I even yelled out, “I love you (her name)!” We laughed about that later because we were exploring together with no commitments and we didn’t love each other in the romantic sense.

My first NEO without clenching my PC muscles was a game changer. Mantak Chia says that you can control things with your mind, and when I read that, I thought, “Yeah right.”. I couldn’t conceive of the idea of being able to not ejaculate without having to do something physically to lock it out. I now have the approach that when we visualize, sometimes our bodies act as if our vision was really happening, so in that case, it is real. It is real because our mind and body believe it is real and the fact that whether it was or we visualized it, doesn’t really matter.

I am at the point now where I don’t really visualize having or not having an ejaculation. I ride the pleasure waves and, invariably, my body does what it needs. I trust my body so much that what has happened, is that I still ejaculate every 3-8 weeks now without having to “work” at it.

That state of relaxation and pleasure, without worry of what may happened has transformed my sexual experiences. By giving up strict rules and listening to my body, I no longer have to work at not ejaculating. I also don’t have to work at ejaculating. It’s that state of tension that happens when I work at one outcome or the other that goes against my idea of sex. By me being unattached to whether or not I ejaculate, I am able to experience ever little pleasurable sensation in the moment without tension or worry.

My more relaxed and present state, has also enabled me to be more responsive to my partners. I read somewhere of a survey of women asking them what makes a sexual encounter less than great. The most common answer was not penis size, or other physical attributes. It was a lack of presence. They could tell when their partner wasn’t fully connected with them in that moment or even checked out, and that even hampered their ability to reach orgasm sometimes.

The payoff, in the Taoist sense, has to do with Yin and Yang. It’s quite involved, but the gist is to think of Yang as more of a male or outward energy, and Yin as more female or inward energy. We all have both Yin and Yang energy in us. Sometimes we are more Yin and sometimes we are more Yang. The Taoists say that sex should be where the guy has control over his ejaculation in order to continue to pleasure the woman, even after she’s had one or more orgasms from oral or finger play. If you are able to provide that to her, she will open up and you will see her Yang energy. You will see the real her emerge during the lovemaking session. When you see her open up and show her vulnerable Yang energy by totally letting go because she feels safe with you, you will feel more safe to express your Yin energy and your inner emotions to her. This means that sex becomes an exchange of energies that complement each other, and further the pleasurable experience for both. Because both of you let go and are vulnerable, you both feel totally safe which also adds to the experience. If you can think of other sexual encounters you may have had where you show up with all of your baggage and she shows up with all of her baggage, and the pressure to perform is on you and the pressure to be seen as attractive and to do a good job is on her, that the whole situation can get kind of messed up. Yes, you may both have orgasms and you may ejaculate, but beyond the release part, it doesn’t necessarily feel great.

I am still learning along the way, but I am now at a place where I am fully present and connected to my partner and the result has been an elevated experience for both of us.

Some final thoughts:

• Sex should be fun. We make other pleasurable things fun otherwise we wouldn’t do them. Why do we make sex so serious and goal oriented? Imagine if you got naked with awomanand said “I’m here to be with you, explore pleasure, and have fun.” How different would that feel? What would she think? Take the pressure off.
• Remember that erections are all about blood flow and that requires dilated or relaxed blood vessels. In order to get that, YOU have to be relaxed. Anxiety, stress, and worry, are biological boner killers.
• Examine your relationship to ejaculating. How much of your sexual experience is centered around the goal of eventually ejaculating? How does your partner feel about it? For manywomen, or maybe allof them,ejaculationshows them that they are “doing a good job”. How would they feel if you didn’t ejaculate?When would sex be done?Something to think about.
• When I stopped ejaculating so frequently and started to feel more energized, the people in my lifenoticed big changes in me and asked me what I was doing.They said I looked better, happier, and calmer.
• Because of my more energized feeling and my increased confidence with sex, my drive for life has increased. I am more proactive and ambitious than I was before.
• Speaking of increased confidence, I used to shy away from sexually confident or assertive women. Now I gravitate towards themand as a result, have had some incredible experiences I would never otherwise have had.
• As you become more tuned in, you will be the only expert of your body. This is important to think of when you look at sexual practices. Do what works for you and tweak as necessary. So many get stuck in a system with so many rules, it ruins the pleasure parts of it.
• If you look at the Yin and Yang symbols, they are two fish swimming in circles. The white fish (Yang) has a black dot for an eye while the black fish (Yin) has a white dot for an eye. This symbolizes that we are never all Yin or all Yang and we have both. Which one gets expressed more in any given moment depends on the moment itself as well as the other person present (if there is one). My language above is hetero-normative for simplicity in explaining the concepts. In real life, you could have a mix of genders in a sexual encounter and most of the time, one will be more Yin in that moment and the other more Yang. What if there are more than two involved in the encounter? Great! More fun!

Hello.

I am a married, 45 year old man. I have been doing Mindgasm for a couple of years. Usually I consume some THC to get comfourtable.

I can get orgastic waves just lying on the bed and focusing on breathing. But recent year has changed my normal way of having sex with my wife. Yesterday we had sex.

My wife was on her back and I was penetrating her slowly. I was lying on my left side so I could touch her right nipple and massage her clit. As I kept penetrating slowly I sometimes just stuck my penis as deep as it goes and I stayed in.

At the same time I focused on my breath and kept it deep and slow. At some point my wife squeezed and that sent me off. I started getting orgastic sensations, I made noises and my pelvis started to move very hard. So I fucked her on autopilot and came all the time without ejaculating. My whole body starts kind of convulsing.

Sensation is different than basic ejaculative orgasm. I do not do anything with kegels, I am just very relaxed and focused on breathing and moving my sexual energy. When I breathe in, I move energy from my penis to the top of my head. Breathing out, I move energy back to my penis. I don’t aim for orgasm, I only focus on how I feel. It is like a magnet that is moving inside me. I also ejaculate maybe once a month. Not ejaculating feels good too in its own way.

We did this for 30 minutes but had to quit because she came and could not continue anymore (sleepy time). I came maybe 10 times and felt wonderful. I could have kept on going but I had to let her come and then it was over. Women, I know how you feel when partner comes and sex is suddenly over. :D

Nowadays I get orgastic just by smoking weed even when I attend social situations but I can keep the level low so it only moves the energy a little and I get little shakes but nothing more. Life is good.

Hello fellows. I discovered dry orgasm which is not the full body multiorgasm but a good way of beginning i think. But my expereience is my lingam stoppes after two dry orgasm. Have you ever expereinced this? Is it normal? Should i increase the arousal? Can you suggest something to me please?

Has becoming multi-orgasmic lead anyone else to masturbating more than they ever did? I'm assuming it's normal but I'm really not sure. Personally for me this is the case now that I have a pretty decent handle on it and can have a few orgasms back to back in one session. I used to be a every other day or every few days kind of guy but now I'm wanting it everyday just about.

A few days ago I posted about touch as one of the keys to multiple orgasms. If you haven't read that thread, it's pinned in my profile. Today, I'd like to discuss another important factor, increasing the threshhold between you and physical release. I'm talking about a practice known to yogis as vajroli mudra.

Vajroli mudra is a simple practice one can master that can make it easier to avoid releasing fluids. Easier, not impossible. This practice strengthens the barrier between physical release and non-physical release (multiple orgasms, coming without physically releasing aka simulated releasing). Basically to me, it feels like if I relax calmly, focus on the touch, and engage in stimulation: it feels like I have a much higher threshhold between myself and physical release.

With Vajroli, orgasms become more intense, we're able to go further and longer and things which would normally be danger areas become safe. Because it is harder to release, the quality of pleasure in the session is greatly increased as you hit areas that would normally send you into release and instead you are able to endure through these areas with non-physical orgasms. It feels beautiful, like unlocking a kind of slutty endurance. This is all done at a calmer excitement threshhold - vigorousness is not needed here and would only counter our goals.

Vajroli is a simple practice. It's technique varies but this is one that has worked directly with these results for me. It's as follows:

1. Sit down. A desk chair is fine. Spine straight. Breath normally then pull up on the bandha locks as such. You can study this in detail but it means to pull up on the anus., pull the area directly below the belly button up toward your chest a bit, and hold it there gently but firmly. Bring your chin down to your chest and gently rest it there. This is the 3-lock bandha, maha bandha. The exact amount of pressure here is something you can refine but there is no need to kill it. I definitely recommend below a 30% threshhold of whatever you're capable of.
2. While the bandha is locked, gently pull your urethra in the opposite direction that urine flows. You should feel a minor amount of pressure here. I'd say this is about less than 20% of whatever you're fully capable of. Just a little amount of pressure.
3. While steps 1 and 2 are locked, take 10 regular breaths, keeping everything locked. Relax afterward, release all locks, and take a small break if you want to repeat the steps.

That's about it. For me, after I practice, there is an affirming shift in my sexual energy. I've been practicing yoga for 11 years, so I'm uncertain you'd get these feelings as I'm guessing it is dependent on your inner flow of energies and blockages being addressed. I usually practice this about 2 more times in succession after a short break, taking another 10 breaths in each time for each practice.

Next time I'm looking at a girl and doing the deed, I tend to notice it right away. It feels as if my threshhold between simulated release and physical release is a lot bigger gap. It's consistent. It feels beautiful, it increases the feelings I get during. Overall it is extremely affirming and beautiful.

In case I'm not being clear - this practice is independent of stimulation. You don't do this practice while you're stimulating. Do it on its own. The practice and the stimulation are separate. I recommend you keep them that way. You may question the logic of this but all I can say is it does its work during the practice. Doing it during stimulation is unnecessary and may even lead to injury.

You may get different results. As I said, I'm 11 years deep into Kundalini Yoga and so I get beautiful 'energy feelings' all the time.

As I said in my other thread, one of the keys to going longer is to stay within a certain level of excitement. If you calmly do the deed and look at the girl and focus on the touch, the energy gets excited but there is a difference between 'calm excited' and 'chaotic excited'.

Chaotic excited is unstable area and physical release happens here very easily. Chaotic excited is usually reached through vigorousness. "Going for it" might also apply.

Calm excited is a stable ground where you can go as long as you want. In calm excited, one can feel everything they feel in chaotic excited, but without the dangers of physical release. There is no need to "go for it", because you are in it. You are in it every moment.

The feeling of coming, the feeling of releasing is there and at higher levels repeats itself. At 'calm excited', I often bask in the orgasmic energies of release as they permeate my body and I can just relax into them. The feelings outweigh by far the single momentary release - so much to the point that there is never the temptation to physically release again. Instead, that satisfying feeling of releasing is happening in every moment again and again.

If you observe the energies long enough, you can see where this threshhold is reach. Once you see the threshhold, stay below it. It is like a submarine traveling at a certain depth. Stay at the right depth, your submarine can travel forever. Rise to the surface, and the torpedo (physical release) will sink your submarine. Notice the qualities of the energies. You can see chaotic through vigorousness. Then take a minute break and compare it to calm, notice the qualities of the energies. Your goal then is simple - to never let your energies anywhere near the chaotic place. Keeping your energies at a certain 'depth' is quite easy with enough practice.

Vajroli is a beautiful practice, but please be gentle with your body. I recommend more in depth research on any physical practice you plan to maintain for a long period of time. And this one of course I recommend daily if you're passionate about the glory of girls as I am. ^_^

Girls are Goddesses, Girls are Life Eternal, Life Eternal is glorious sexual rapture. Experience the tiniest sliver of this glorious eternal truth by unlocking your multi-orgasmic potential on this crazy dismal theatric world of ours. Dream big - it's all out there. The sexual unions of legendary intensities. One day we will laugh at our struggles here. Stay strong and fill your heart with slutty dreams my fellow worshippers. Love you all.

Okay, so years ago when I looked at girls and did the deed solo, it was usually based on the anticipation of orgasm. My focus was purely on the outcome. This method is putting the cart before the horse. This was the wrong way, and it took a long time for me to learn the difference. This is the method you are likely doing if you haven't consciously shifted your focus yet.

Touch has to be the only thing you're focused on. The exact feeling of how good it actually feels to touch. This is putting the horse in front of the cart.

A horse can push a cart, I guess maybe. But lets really think about that for a second. It isn't that great, it's sloppy, it pushes it sideways, left, right, doesn't really go too far. If we properly put our horse in front of our cart, it can lead it anywhere, to any place that is capable of going.

The feeling of the actual physical contact is the ONLY thing you should be focused on. Try going slow and very steady and realize it is all right there in the touch. THAT is the glory. Without the focus, without the awareness, it becomes a broken message, a sentence that only contains gibberish.

Imagine a sentence that only contains a partial message. This is what you are doing when you focus on orgasming instead of the beautiful feeling of touch, OR you are only loosely focused on the touch. There is a big difference in awareness here and it should be ALL devoted to that beautiful feeling of the touch. Here is what a broken message might look like containing only a faint awareness of your touch:

There a and the your nature.

Focusing on touch, the incredible feeling of your sexual organ being stimulated from direct contact, and NOTHING ELSE, is receiving the full completed message.

There is a beautiful rainbow that shines and brings rapture in the garden of your beautiful sexual nature.

There is simply no comparison. Touch based focus rules the day. When you are looking at the girl and doing the deed, how does it feel right there on your genitals?

This is why many turn to vigorousness during sessions, they need a louder message to get through. But this leads to an unsustainable state.. A more gentle approach where you focus entirely on touch can show you that everything is there and by bringing stability everything can continue to be there as long as you want.

That is one of the keys to Multi Orgasmia

One of the pitfalls is focusing on touch is you'll be interrupted and led away by thoughts or other things. Keep practicing, it takes some practice but once you do you'll literally find everything you were looking for.

Another pitfall is gripping your sexual organs too tightly. This can deaden nerves and create a feeling like you need more stimulation (they recover in time). A very light touch with no pressure, gripped with the tips of two or three fingers (focusing on the tip for men) is probably greatest for avoiding numbing nerves. Nerves are very prone to shutting down which is why you may feel the sensation deadening after a while. Always just use fingers with a very light stimulation. There is no sacrifice, everything will be there - intensity will eventually happen in spades and surpass anything you feel you are sacrificing when you master it. EVERYTHING YOU LIKE IS THERE. DO NOT DOUBT THIS. Even during orgasmic events, continue focusing on the touch. Always the touch, never the orgasm! The orgasm is a byproduct of the touch, the touch is not a byproduct of the orgasm. Lose the touch and you lose the ability to go higher.

It's ALL in the touch. That is the horse leading the cart. That is the way to glory. Practice lightly and maintain your focus, and you may reach the legendary places.

I hope this insight helps someone today.

Cheers!

Has anyone tried prone masturbation while relaxing the pelvic floor muscle? I've been doing this and I think I'm close. I can feel the pleasure building up in waves but get scared I'll cum so I stop. Haven't got a NEO yet. I also rub my nipples to see if that will trigger it.

Hi everyone,

I'm looking for advice on how to learn to isolate and differentiate the different muscles in the pelvic region.

Namely, I'm particularly interested in learning to activate the bulbospongiosus, without activating the anal sphincter and levator ani muscles. See the picture below for help.

So far I've just been sitting down, focussing on the area, and trying to activate one zone at a time with low level squeezes. Strong squeeze basically activate everything

Another question is what are the uses of these in terms of non-ejaculatory orgasms, pumping pleasure upwards, stopping orgasms, edging, etc.

Do regular, multiple orgasms have the benefit of reducing menstrual pain?

So I've been training in the Angion method for better blood flow down there and get over the death grip syndrome. Also been working on pelvic floor relaxation and mindful breathing for a while now. I've come close to having multiple orgasms but it was more like edging and cumming in intervals so far and at no point was i able to avoid ejaculation without an abrupt stop.

But today i finally got my first proper multi orgasm while doing the angion method! Its basically swiping your penis in the direction of blood flow either on the top of your penis (CC) or the underside (CS) and there is no grabbing of the penis involved and no "trapping" blood in like your traditional masturbation. So while doing it i reached the point of no return as usual and really focused on the pelvic floor and breathing and not paying as much attention my penis. I had my first orgasm and dribbled maybe a drop or two of cum and then my pelvic floor was fully relaxed and i knew i was on the right path this time even though it wasn't much of an orgasm. A few seconds later i had my second orgasm and again, pelvic floor relaxed except for a momentary clench for the orgasm but it was much more intense. Didn't ejaculate this time so i kept going and boom, another orgasm with the same momentary involuntary clenching and no ejaculation again. This happened 4 or 5 times in total with the same intensity and every orgasm was felt all over my body with me even having uncontrollable body spasms a few times like women do when they have multiple Os. I was sure i ejaculated every single one of the times but when i looked down each time there was no cum. After the last orgasm i focused on ejaculation and i still couldn't ejaculate but stayed hard. After a couple more minutes of trying to ejaculate i realised I couldn't and i was still very satisfied and didn't feel like i was missing anything so i ended the session.

This has been a very exciting moment in my life to have this kind of an experience where the orgasm was felt all over the body although without the huge intensity of a single orgasm thru normal ejaculation. And the best part is there hasn't been the classic prolactin spike after ejaculation that leaves me feeling lethargic, sleepy and unmotivated. Very excited to try this again in a few days!

What techniques or tricks do they use to be able to cause multiple orgasms in their partners?

Have any of you fainted from so many orgasms in sex or masturbation?

I come here to get advice on how I can give my girlfriend more than one orgasm or just one but continuous one. I want her to enjoy each intimate moment more and give her all the pleasure she wants.

During masterbation, I am trying to draw energy from my penis upward to the spine through breathing in.. as i do I feel kind of energy in the lower back simultaneously a little leg shaking happens also gets me harder but after that I reaches PONR and ejaculate.

Assuming if energy is moving towarda spine then why I am ejaculating ?Am I doing wrong?

I need to talk about how insane my sex life is. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 months and it’s been the most incredible experience of my life, and keeps getting wilder.

I got a clicker counter off amazon last week and the first time i used it, looked at it after and it said 120. The next day, a longer session was at 244. Honestly i’m just counting peaks, it’s basically a constant orgasm at this point. I had multiple orgasms our first time, and it has gotten steadily more intense. My whole body just seizes up, and i make SO much noise, and the squirting oh my god. I feel like i’m going to pass out regularly, working on remembering to breathe through them.

And turns out, having that many orgasms several times a week is a crazy good workout, like i’ve done a zillion kegels. I’ve given birth three times and had those typical issues of mild incontinence when sneezing/coughing and it’s completely stopped. And it’s only getting stronger, almost worried it’s going to go too far, bc a couple nights ago after sex i kept orgasming every time i laughed. You know how if you sneeze or coughing those muscles contract? Yup. I also push him out during sex, and sometimes clench so hard it hurts me. 💀

My sex drive is out of control, how could i not want this 3 times a day? When i’m not with him i daydream about being under him in the utter bliss state he takes me to. Ugh. Obsessed. I used to feel uptight about dirty talk, but we just talk throughout, and oh man it does it for me. Let’s not even get into the daddy stuff. 😂

I know this sounds fake, trust me, i feel like i’m living in some sort of fantasy romance erotic novel. And it’s not just the sex, he’s sweet and gentle and emotionally intelligent, and feeling so supremely safe/accepted/loved has completely released parts of me i didn’t even realize existed. My nervous system just goes “ahhhhh” when i’m with him. And I’m so much kinkier than i knew, it was just waiting for the right person. I seriously wish everyone had this. 🥺

when approaching the PONR during edging, i have the feeling of ejaculation (pressure in the urethera) as well as the orgasm. If I stop, i won't ejaculate and my arousal goes down, so i'm for sure not beyond the PONR.

what can i do to push this feeling back until i cross the PONR? i've tried relaxing but it's difficult when close to the PONR.

I have seen many examples of multiple orgasms. Generally, Taoism or Tantra can easily succeed, and it is an energy orgasm that is systemic. How can ordinary people learn from free resources?

https://youtu.be/-P0fD7Ywcew?si=nPceU0gdVbvLHH5i

So I'm a very sexual dude. I love sex. I also received an injury down there which caused Lichen Sclerosis.

I had a skin flare up down there so bad that some skin fell off. (Doctor is adamant that it will heal but please don't have any friction on it for a month )It's been a month of creams and steroids and waitlists for urologists to talk about circumcision. ANNNYWAY.

I've had to get creative. I also have Crohn's disease so I'm not a fan of butt stuff because I have PTSD from that obviously. But I let my partner finger my ass(she was DELIGHTED lol). I didn't orgasm but I leaked a s*** ton of whatever the f***. Like her hands are overflowing with goopiness from my urethra.

The next day we simulated sex (I just thrusted pretending to have sex with her as she rocked her hips above me and whispered naughty things in my ear. I came. SO MUCH. I then went showering and remembered that women use detachable shower heads on their clits so so clenched and released my kegel muscles non-stop, while having warm water hit my frenulum (slightly pulled back. Foreskin) and I had a small orgasm

Hi! I'm new here.. Can anyone give me instructions on how to have multiple orgasms?

Not sure if this is the right place to ask, but you all seem well versed in all forms of orgasm.

After I started taking ADHD meds a number of years ago (as a 30+ year old), I noticed that I was able to ejaculate without having a full orgasm. It happens when I am close to the PONR and especially if I do a reverse Kegel. I'll get a strong steady flow of semen for a few seconds without any throbbing / contractions. It's not just precum... it's a comparable amount of liquid as a normal EO. It's a very orgasmically pleasurable sensation. I can then continue to edge and have a traditional ejaculatory orgasm afterwards, but it's less pronounced and there's less fluid.

This has continued after stopping the meds a few years ago. I don't really see this kind of thing referenced much in posts here... has anyone else experienced this? How do you connect it with the other forms of being multi-orgasmic mentioned here? It seems very similar to the relaxation / reverse Kegel method mentioned here.

I have in the past successfully achieved NEO through the Kegel method, but didn't have the discipline to keep up with so much kegeling and masturbation... tough to juggle with a family.

Hi I have been working on getting NEOs for a couple of months now and it has been working great until since recently. I’ve been having hours long gooning sessions with just touch my gland with precum, (sometimes) saliva, and coconut oil, while watching porn and sexual binaural audio. But come to a point my head of penis has desensitized a lot in the last few months. Because of that I have been experiencing with nipple stimulation to increase my pleasure sensation. But even with this, there too many ups and downs of pleasure when doing so. Usually I like to ejaculate after each day of session to clear out my pipes. But as of today, i couldn’t achieve NEOs or ejaculate after 4 days of just touching the penile glan and nipples. My balls are a bit aching and my I feel more pressure building up in my kegel area. I do have to say, in result of this, my dick has been oozing precum nonstop trying to use that as my lube when I can, but I just get hard for 15 min then flaccid again.

Any tips on what I should do to try to return back to my same sensations that I had a couple months back?

Could it be the position I’m in while pleasuring myself, or some other factor??