I don’t have a hard time with PE when I have sensual sex but when I try to fuck my girlfriend hard, I can’t last long enough and it’s frustrating. I tried buying alpha herb but they don’t ship it in my country (Canada). I saw online the product « colt male genital desensitizer » and I want to know if anyone have tried it. Thanks for the help

What colour is everyone's liquid? My first bottle was a brown colour and the new one i just got is alot clearer even after shaking

I recently learned about Kegel exercises and the importance of strengthening pelvic floor muscles. I identified the muscles by stopping my urine flow and applying a similar 'squeezing' technique. My routine involves lifting my penis for about 9-10 seconds while sitting, then relaxing, and I try to reverse it by imagining I’m forcing urine out before relaxing again.

I’m unsure if this is the right technique or if I should be doing something differently to get the best results. Does anyone have experience or tips on the proper way to do Kegels?"

I have been on this subreddit for quite a while and have seen alot of posts and discussions about way to deal with PE. I am 20yrs old, and to start off things real quick, I have had a really bad childhood. I was exposed to pornography when i was around 10 or 11 and started masturbating at an age where my penis wouldn't even get hard and my body wouldn't produce semen. I treated my body so badly, cuz I couldn't talk about any of this with anyone and I didn't knew it was bad. I believe that it's the sole reason why I have PE today.

It's so concerning that one time, I ejaculated without even touching my penis. I was watching porn that time, and yeah I know porn is really really bad for your mind. And another thing to mention about, is that when I start stroking it, when its flaccid, i ejaculate before i get hard, and it's not like I struggle to get hard, I do get hard when kissing my girl or thinking about anything erotic.

I have tried edging, but my PE is so worse that I reach PONR within 10 seconds and when I stop, and let it cool down and start again, I reach PONR again within 10 seconds, I even tried waiting for long time to let that time window to reach PONR increase, but waiting too long would either have no effect or I'd get flaccid.

I have seen people mention the 66 days challenge here, so i thought to give it a try, but i cant figure out how am I supposed to do it, I really can't maintain a 15 to 20 minutes session, I reach a point where even the slightest touch would make me ejaculate. I have stopped watching porn long time ago, and even tried kegels, but kegels didn't seem like they're doing much.

I'm stuck and i really can't figure out what I am supposed to do, please guide me through this...

My PE isn’t too bad, but I’m not able to rough fuck for a decent amount of time without having to slow right down due the sensation of climax fast approaching.

Ideally want to go full-speed & rail her senseless for at least a minute or two before slowing the pace right down, then slamming hard again for another minute or two, & repeat.

Any tips, supplements, exercises etc that will help me here?

I know if you regularly take anti depressants for a long time you will probably last a bit longer, but what about if you only take 1 time for 1 night will you last longer ?

So my problem is taking too long to cum. I would kill to cum in 2minutes. Im so fucking jealous.

Where to begin: I developed terrible performance anxiety from being raped or put in extremely sexual situations at age 15 by older different women. As I am supposedly good looking.

This caused nervous system responses like shutting down, dissociation, and disconnecting with my cock causing ED, panic, and extreme fight or flight.

Fast foward to now im in a much better place, i can cum with a partner, i can stay hard although it fluctuates by being randomly attacked by heavy anxiety.

My question is what are some techniques to help me relax my nervous system and help me cum easier. So I dont overwork myself and almost have a heart attack everytime I cum?

Hey there guys!

My doc recently prescribed me with Paxil to help treat my PE, but I'm very hesitant to take it for one simple reason: Tolerance.

I'm 25 years old without any anxiety disorder, so the Paxil is purely for my PE. However, I know that people usually build a resistance/ tolerance to this drug after a few months/years.

My question then is, can you build a tolerance to the effect of delayed ejaculation of Paxil? If so, is it worth to start taking it or should I explore other options before?

I’m nearly 30, and as far back as I can remember, I’ve dealt with finishing pretty fast. Over the years, I’ve tried countless techniques over the last 10 years when I realized it was a problem. I’ve probably explored every tip mentioned in threads like this one.

Some things have helped more than others. Wearing a condom has given me a couple of extra minutes beyond my usual under-a-minute timeframe. I also tried medication from an online pharmacy a few years back, but I stopped because I worried about becoming dependent on it or facing long-term side effects. Now, as I get older, medication might be something I’ll have to reconsider, though I still hesitate.

I’d like to hear from anyone who’s gone through something similar. At what point did you decide to see a doctor? How did you handle the insecurity and feelings of not satisfying your partners? If you’ve had open conversations about it, how and when did you bring up the issue? Most importantly, how did you reach a place of acceptance or make peace with this as part of who you are?

To be honest, this has really limited how often I have sex because I can’t shake the feeling of comparing myself to others my partners might have been with. My previous ex had a high sex drive and while I did too I ended up losing the relationship because I was so ashamed of not being able to last longer.

When i had sex with gf and didnt use AH, idk why but after i started using, makes me confident, my PE its all about psychological, now i can longer like 5-15mins, the gym and breathe exercises help me too, im a people who had a high anxiety, so i need to work on this to get better

hi everyone, just a little about me first - im an active/fit person, workout regularly and maintain a pretty consistent diet, I do not drink alcohol regularly, and I am 32M, USA.

I have always been premature for as long as I could remember, but over the past few years I’ve noticed it becoming quicker and quicker.

I’ve had several occasions where I’ve c*me in my pants while on a date with a girl just from some light touching or rubbing over the clothes, even if it was just incidental.

The few times I was able to avoid that and actually make it to the bedroom, girls have made me cum in just 1-2 strokes with their hand or fingers before we even get to anything further…and the super rare occasion that I am able to go all the way, I am erupting within 5-8 seconds (at most) every time.

I’m not sure what to do at this point. I feel like I have good confidence and good health but I’ve gotten so quick and so consistently quick that it’s affecting my dating life.

So we fool around, kiss, hug. As soon as I leak any precum I feel like I had multiple orgasm but with zero pleasure. Can't get hard anymore, libido becomes non existent. It's just like I just had orgasm and now I'm closing all the porn videos because they stop being interesting. Recovery period from this is at least 6 hours... Googling around I never found anything similar.

I kinda figured a way around this, it's just to have sex as soon as I'm close. No foreplay allowed, and kinda have to finish in one go, no breaks allowed. And it's probably 10 mins max with 3 mins being average. Obviously not ideal for women

i almost feel like i can masturbate without porn, i want to move away from porn just for my own sake. i feel like it’s trained me to feel more aroused in certain positions due to the eye candy factor of it. anyone know i should do? would photos be better ?

Has anyone compared both? (using before sex on demand, not taking the pills everyday)
Did anyone that had no success with SSRI's find success with tramadol? After having tried 3 type of SSRIs with no relevant difference, im going to try tramadol as I have heard some reports as well as studies were it worked while SSRIs did not. The problem is trying to find a dr that isn't stuck in the 90's, but once I do I will try it, as I have already tried different SSRIs (clomipramine, dapoxetine and paroxetine) as well as lidocaine+prilocaine cream and it's not enough.

Has anyone used and had results with Blisswater? I'm from Brazil and there is no similar product and I would like to try it, as it seems like a valid attempt.

I know all of you are tired about hearing the relaxing your pelvic floor stuff. I won't bother you with pelvic floor stretches, I know how frustrating it is . But unfortunately it is still the key to get ridding of PE . And these 2 things are never mentioned anywhere on this subreddit.

1. Since childhood I have had the habit of trying to suck my tummy in and I still do this everyday. Basically tightening your abs to make your stomach look thinner. This is VERY BAD for pelvic floor health and this is one of biggest reasons why there is too much pressure on my pelvic floor.

When you tighten abs you increase the intra- abdominal pressure and in turn there is extra pressure on your pelvic floor for no reason all day. Please try to relax your abs all day and I'm sure U will feel a difference.

2. I finally understood in my case why I premature ejaculate. So basically whenever I start having sex, the excitement/anxiety during foreplay leads me to enter the sympathetic nervous system state. Please read about sympathetic and para sympathetic states online. Basically Sympathetic State (SNS) is the flight or fight state when you are extremely excited and this itself leads you to get tensed all your body like abs and pelvic floor in the first place . I'm sure you might recognise yourself entering this state during sex.

On top of this when the thrusting part starts, if you have the habit of clenching your pelvic floor , you will start doing that too unconsciously. Because usually we clench our pelvic floor muscles to reach organsm faster but this theory most of you all already know :)

So basically the sympathetic state and clenching pelvic muscles, and also the constantly tucking my stomach are tag teaming the fuck out of my pelvic floor keeping it insanely tight during sex.

This is also the reason why even thought most of us changed the bad masturbating habits now and we already understand to unclench our pelvic floor muscles, however when we masturbate we are in a para sympathetic nervous system state . This is the opposite of the SNS mentioned above and in this state we are completely relaxed and our muscles are also relaxed and do not tense up so we can easily unclench our pelvic floor.

But during actual sex, as I said we enter the SNS so It is different from masturbating with this extra variable. In order to truly control how long you last , We have to first get out of SNS state during sex , then it will be identical to masturbating and we can finally last as long as we want. So basically for now please just read a little about the nervous system states and try to recognise them in your sex life, and then slowly start to move away from the SNS during sex .

This reasoning could also explain so much of PE treatments like

1. SSRI's remove the intensity of the SNS making it easier for you to control your ejaculation and hence last longer.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/12072618_Short-term_sertraline_treatment_suppresses_sympathetic_nervous_system_activity_in_healthy_human_subjects#:~:text=%5B19%2C25%5D%20Some%20studies,long%2Dterm%20usage%20of%20SSRIs.

2. Other kinds of drugs depending on your choices most definitely only help you relax or in better words just help you manage being in a state of SNS.

Without SSRI or something else , you only come quicker because you are more excited/ your SNS system is tensely you up very quickly and hence you ejaculate quicker .

3. This can definitely explain why PE is massively reduced in situations when for example If you are in a relationship, if you are more comfortable with your partner chances are your SNS will be easily in control. Also for example If you doing round 2, you last longer because Round 2 your excitability is reduced considerably.

Think about it - Round 1 with a new partner is going to be uncontrollable excitation. It is so easy to PE in this situation because your SNS is extremely stimulated. So NEVER blame yourself for Round 1 with a new partner.

There will be so many more examples you can find in your life and each of them you will come to realize You most likely PE'd because of being in the Sympathetic Nervous State. I also only discovered and started paying attention to this very recently and if you read this far Im letting you know ,I'm not expert and we are basically going to journey together now to finally understand ourselves better.

So I've seen many posts about PYT balm and Alpha Herb. I want to know which would be a safer alternative and which one doesn't numb. Thank you

Long story short, I am not a young man but finally trying to get some assistance for ADHD as it is hard to focus at work.

After doing some research, it looks like ADHD medicine may also decrease appetite which in turn can help lose weight, and some random notes here and there mentioned delayed ejaculation.

I am looking to see if anybody has any real knowledge on this, as I think I am about to hit the jackpot on a medication that I need that can cover my focus concerns, weight loss, and PE!

Thank you in advance for any assistance here

Until today's after noon I was getting PONR within 15 seconds of even light stoking . When I used to give full grip stroke , the PONR used to be 2 stokes away from that very moment but suddenly when I used timer and did reverse kegels plus heavy breathing plus full grip and thrusted continuously I reached 1:52 seconds for first PONR 2:22 for second PONR and 3:02 for third PONR , is it progress ? Man, this is giving me real hopes , I never thought I would be able to even handle 30 seconds .

what is this a sign of? i simply feel alot better when i dont masterburate, just a simple touch on penis and my pf spasms

no rev kegel works neither streches for long term recovery

Since November is the "Men's Mental Health Month", I would like the share something with you.

I am in a 13 Years Relationship, and the intimacy level is very low. Every intention is coming from me. This got more worse every year after our son was born in 2017. In the last weeks we had many conversations, in which my girlfriend also told me, that my behavior is the main reason for the missing sex. I got very pushy, while beeing extremely nervous at the same time.

This next thing is very important for me and for you guys: IT IS NOT BECAUSE OF THE PE. IT IS BECAUSE YOU LET THE PE CONTROL YOU!

I always had PE. It's mainly psychological in my case. Plus I trained myself the cum very quick, since this is/was my main strategy to get some relief from stress, anxiety, fear...

My girlfriend told me, to just let it happen. To not ruin a intimate situation with fear and guilt. PE still haunts me like a shadow but I am trying the let more light in my (sex)life. I am enough. You are enough. Carry on.

So. I have suffered from PE for a very long time. A bit of trauma when I was younger made me train myself to cum quickly (I wont go into that in much detail) and then an unhealthly relationship with porn for about 30 years. It got to a point recently I was watching porn a few times a day which became problematic with work so I decided to stop watching it. Over the years I have sometimes managed to go for a few minutes but usually after 5 or 6 thrusts I am ready to explode.

It doesn't help I have been in a pretty sexless marriage for a long time so when we do get it on I am super excited and I can'tcontrol myself. The problem is as soon as I enter I just go straight to 10 and want to explode as I said.

I am very fit for my age (47) and I have a pretty descent diet.

I have tried ssi's and sprays and they have worked well. I don't like the tingling feeling it leaves my wife with the sprays and the meds make me feel reslly weird.

I decided recently I was going all in to fix this.

I have experimented with mindful masturbation and found that to be good with understanding my body. I bought a fleshlight and have practiced edging with it. sometimes not cuming to try and separate that with sex. With the fleshlight I edged 21 mins today so I really think that is helping with the sensations and understanding my body better.

When I get in certain positions with the fleshlight I notice very quickly the thrusting seems to set me off allot quicker so logic would say avoid those as they obviously put more pressure or something else to my pelvic muscles.

I then tried watching porn with the fleshlight and I really struggled to control myself. This leads me to think the visual and noises of sex are what really send me over the edge.

I have been with my wife, getting a bj no problem but as soon as I enter her and she makes a sound I am ready to explode as I said.

I have no idea how I train myself for this?

I read porn doesn't help but how do I get used to sounds and visual stimulation without it or without having loads of sex?

I would really welcome some advice...

I(25 y/o M) don't know if it it true or not, but I think this is best solution for involuntary kegel, I learned that involuntary kegel is neurological condition, it has nothing to do with tight or loose pelvic floor muscles.. I have done a lot of experiments on this, when I do all this pelvic floor stretches and exercises, my issue resolved only up to 20-30%, I have tried baclofen / Valium which relaxed my muscles and it helped a little bit, I also used dilator to relaxed my muscles but it didn't solve my issue completely, But one day I tried Anaesthetic cream(lidocaine 5% higher dose) on Glans( Not exactly on Glans but on triangular shape (Where frenulum is situated), entire region of dorsal side of glans and little bit on shaft) I found that my involuntary kegel stopped , I didn't get that sudden twitches during erection.. But Anaesthetic cream only works for 1-2 hours so after effects fade it started again. I checked it with repeated uses of lidocaine cream. So. I came to conclusion that it is completely neurological condition which develops due to bad habit of masturbation. So for solution I know two ways, one way is to use lidocaine repeatedly, it"ll reduce nerve density down there, and don't get aroused when u don't apply cream, if u do u will have involuntary kegel again, so you have to do this for atleast 2 months depending on situation (if you suffer for long duration you may have to apply cream for long time) Second way is to use mind, although mind created this problem, whenever u get aroused and you know now you gonna have involuntary kegel try to stop you from getting more aroused, stop stimulation, gain control over thoughts, and apply your will power and mentally repeat this no matter what happened I"ll not let involuntary kegel to happen, you will gain some control over there. By the time you will gain completely control over involuntary kegel.. I tried this way for almost 22 days, I hadn't had this issue during that time, but on 23 day horniness takeover my mind and it started again... I hope I will achieve control over mind and solve this issue permanently.

I have done this experiments on this, this may not work for all guys but it"ll help at some degree to all guys

I'm a man and I can last just fine during intercourse or with a partner. But when I masturbate, with a combination of a mantra and very specific movement, I can orgasm without even getting an erection, in seconds.

Ive been able to do this for years, and it's the kind of thing you just cannot 'unlearn.' It's endless addictive potential, instant gratification anytime you want. I don't need to be aroused or horny or erect. I hate myself for it.

I've never found anyone that shares this experience. Results are always about premature ejaculation, but it isn't, its only when I masturbate, because I conditioned myself to be able to just cum on command. It's been making me really worried that something is wrong. I haven't had sex in half a year after a breakup and I'm scared ill actually give myself premature ejaculation if I'd have sex again. I don't know what to do. Thanks for reading

I wonder if the manufacturer of Fleshlight is funding the posts that praise the device for solving premature ejaculation.

therefore, in almost all the promising and ideal posts, you find promotion for this product. Is it just a coincidence or not? Only God knows.

Some people suffer, while others live off their suffering."

First small improvement from PE. Omg.

I’ve been trying to desensitise myself to hardcore porn and trying to get back to normality. And after so many hours of training and stamina training I finally saw an improvement. It somehow took me 1 minute 10 seconds to blow when I usually can’t handle anything above 30 seconds. I know you might think that’s not an improvement but I am so so happy.

Hi guys so i noticed that if i masturbate using the penis shaft i can last longer , but once i touch the head its game over i get super excited and lose control.. i got circumcised when i was 18, no anti depression pill worked so far.. any idea of how to make my glan less sensitive.. somebody told me rub coconut oil 10 minutes everyday, but ill like to heard other options!!

Hi Guys, I used to masturbate since I was 14 years old and I never had a problem and I used to cum fast but it wasn’t premature ejaculation, I can control when I want to finish and I had a relationship with a girl I used to last so long that she’d start complaining, but there was one thing that occasionally happens, whenever I get worried when masturbating about a specific part of a porn video that “I don’t want to finish on”’I get premature ejaculation and I finish in the exact unwanted moment, it started like this, but lately a thought came into my mind and it destroyed everything, I said to myself “what if everytime I masturbate this happens”, once I started worrying about that, it started happening, I cum out of worry not stimulation, it’s very weird and unexplainable, I’ve been like that for 4 straight months, my semen is transparent because it’s premature and my life is destroyed, what can I do now? Did anyone face this problem?