/r/feminineboys

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A SFW text-based community to discuss the Femboy experience

RULES: avoid reading them at your peril, they are enforced. Click the link. Quick summary: no NSFW content, no creeping, no bigotry, no looking for dates and hookups.

We are fun, we are happy, we are light-hearted and chill.

We are intrinsically political and we lean left (as the right despises feminine boys), we are very community-oriented, and we work to help each other out the best we can.

We don't say bigoted things, we don't be mean to each other, we don't hurt anyone's feelings, and we don't sexually objectify each other.

We are an SFW community for feminine people who've had or have a male experience, and those who admire them (be they gay or straight), to talk about all things pretty and otherwise. <3

                  

Discord! This is a PG-13 place, so keep it classy.

Introduction posts are highly encouraged. Tell us about yourself!

                  

Similar Subreddits

/r/femboy (picture oriented subreddit)

/r/masculinegirls

RULES: avoid reading them at your peril, they are enforced. Click the link. Quick summary: no NSFW content, no creeping, no bigotry, no looking for dates and hookups.

/r/feminineboys

276,384 Subscribers

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Do you guys know CPR

Cuddles Pets Repeat

0 Comments
2024/11/04
17:22 UTC

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I dont know if i should quit

My friends already disliked me being a femboy, my family expects me to be a manly man, and overall im ugly and hairy. I cant take it anymore and im just thinking if i should drop being a femboy to just wash away all these issues.

2 Comments
2024/11/04
17:10 UTC

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Got my first two skirts saturday! :3

Fir an early birthday celebration me and my friends went out to a mall and we went by hot topic and i picked up two of my first skirts! I was so nervous but i’m glad one of my friends decided to get them for me cus when i say my heart rate was high i thought i could see it hitting against my ribs and i was blushing like crazy but i tried em on and made to of my first outfits they aren’t too stylish but they’re something

2 Comments
2024/11/04
17:04 UTC

2

Im scared

Tomorrow my friend is coming over and hes the only one that knows im a femboy and im kinda scared i was jokingly flirting today too HELP😭

3 Comments
2024/11/04
17:00 UTC

2

I think I’m a true eggnog addict and almost revealed my secret

Sooo I always was in love with eggnog but I think sometimes I may be too in love with it I say that bc I was too broke for eggnog today and I almost let that get me depressed and my friend bought it for me and I kindaaa almost showed my feminine side bc I let out a squeal and almost did a happy dance but then remembered he was standing right there and had to act normal again he’s now questioning if I’m straight or not and idk what to do

5 Comments
2024/11/04
16:27 UTC

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Is it just me, or is dating as a femboy a lot harder?

When I’m on Tinder I match with all the gay dudes, and when I tell them I’m a femboy they all leave lmao. It’s the worst. I want to present as a femboy on Tinder, but I see people I know there. I don’t want the whole world knowing I’m a femboy. Thankfully my mom and dad already know and don’t care. I feel like my target demographic are bi people. Straight people would just be less inclined to start a relationship with me.

I almost feel like if I just presented as a femboy in the first place I’d hit my target demographic.

13 Comments
2024/11/04
16:26 UTC

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I miss my boyfriend:(

I don’t know if this post is aloud here, but my boyfriend broke up with me last week and we been together for over 2 years:( this is my very first post.

12 Comments
2024/11/04
16:12 UTC

3

heya

just a random femboy that enjoys playing chess and coding. i'd love to meet everyone here but im very dry and sassy when it comes to responses (im sorry if i accidentally hurt you)

4 Comments
2024/11/04
15:59 UTC

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Question on meeting others

Hi! I'm new to these type of communities, I wouldn't really say I'm a femboy or anything but I'm new to exploring the different sides of me. I was wondering what places are good for meeting new people in communities like this? Are there any good discord servers or?

I don't really have many friends who are femboys, but after talking for a while with someone who is, I really enjoy being around others who are open about themselves. I would like to meet some other people like this to hang out with. What places would you guys recommend. Thank you ahead of time :3

25 Comments
2024/11/04
14:19 UTC

38

Asking a femboy to hang out

There’s this cute guy who works at my local convenience store who dresses fem and I wanna be friends but idk how to ask, I also feel kinda awkward bc maybe it’s inappropriate to ask while they’re working. I’ve spoken to them a couple times and know their name and a few things about them. What would you say?

Also this is just a platonic thing I’m not trying to hit on them xd

9 Comments
2024/11/04
14:13 UTC

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How do I go about finding a femboy boyfriend?

I've been really wanting a relationship for some time now, but I've never been able to find someone who's treated me like a person. I want to meet and give all my love and affection to a femboy, because they absolutely deserve it and they're just the cutest darn people in the world. But, I'm not a femboy myself and I don't know how to go about meeting or finding one, and I don't even know if I could meet up to any of their standards. Little of a vent, I'm sorry.

5 Comments
2024/11/04
14:02 UTC

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Does anyone else get kinda exhausted trying to look cute

I can spend hours shaving, putting on makeup, putting together an outfit, etc and by the end of it I’m just tired lol I wish this was easier

2 Comments
2024/11/04
14:00 UTC

4

little vent

so as I’m writing this post, I’m crying cause i’m out of options somehow,

i always wanted to be a girl, and when i found out that there are people like me around the world and i found about femboys, i was very relieved, i grown my hair, shaved my whole body with different excuses, started to wear feminine clothes in private, and even got to sleep with them for a night [which i miss that day very much]. but where i live is a homophobic country and my parents and my family are too, they hate the idea of me wearing female clothes, paint my nails [which i never got the chance to do so…] and do anything feminine in general, my school forced me to cut down my hair, and I can’t let the idea out of my head that they’re gonna force me again too, I don’t wish to be dead, i want to live, i want to be happy, i want to feel loved and be cute to others, but, i’m a boy…. an ugly misfortunate little boy, I just- i wish i was girl from the first place, I can’t get to be a trans either cause of my family.

sorry for the vent, thanks for your time, hope you all feel cute today and never have to experience the things i had been forced to go through.

1 Comment
2024/11/04
13:57 UTC

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In what ways can I look for a bf as a 16yo femboy?

As stated in the topic, I want to find a partner, but I honestly have no idea as to how I would do that over the internet when I can't use any apps (since I'm only 16). Are there any groups, maybe on telegram, you would suggest?

I guess it should be quite obvious, but I can't seem to figure this out, heh

12 Comments
2024/11/04
13:55 UTC

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Easy Hair Removal

I've been thinking of trying chemical hair removal products instead of shaving, and wanted to know if anyone has experience using products like these on their face, body, and /or delicates. I'm also curious about waxxing if anyone has any experience.

11 Comments
2024/11/04
13:33 UTC

6

How to make eyebrows less masculine?

Okay so weird question, how do I make my eyebrows less masculine? I was born with thick, aggressive eyebrows that just scream masculine...

4 Comments
2024/11/04
12:47 UTC

2

Excuses for shaving and the like

How do I shave my legs when I have to change for gym class. I am in high school so I can’t really object to it.

2 Comments
2024/11/04
12:40 UTC

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So, uh. This just happened and I'm kinda conflicted right now...

Met an old friend this summer I haven't seen or talked to for almost 10 years, we exchanged numbers and did a lot of catching up over a couple of months. So, I'm pretty comfortable talking to him so i decide to open up about my femboy struggles. He's a little puzzled at first but very supportive once we talk it over.

Fast forward to this past week. My friend has a big job interview in my town, so he asks if he can crash on my couch from Sunday to Monday (he lives 2 hours away and the interview is very early in the morning). Sure, no biggie.

He shows up, we hang out playing some ps4. I show him how to make my Italian meatball/penne casserole from scratch. After dinner we watch some Vox Machina but I notice that he keeps looking at me as if he want's to say something. After about an hour of that I just ask him if he's disappointed that I'm not wearing one of my girly fits and he goes "I was kinda hoping but" and I cut him off by calling him a "f-ing pervert" but in a teasing, not serious kinda tone. He started to blush and I couldn't help but laugh at him.

I told him to wait and went to fetch my leopard leggings and a bright green way oversized sweater with some silly print that shows both my collar bones and a lot of shoulder, put those on, did some quick makeup and went back into the living room.

He seemed very pleasantly surprised and said I looked super cute so I jumped onto the couch and snuggled up next to him :3 He got a little touchy as we kept watching the show together and the touching turned into playful wrestling. I uh, grabbed both his wrists, pinned him down and...I kissed him. It's obvious what happened next, so I'll just cut it short by saying he spent the night as planned but not on the couch, lol.

So here's what bothers me: I really like him. He's cute, funny and a little bit stupid in a very charming kinda way? I just can't shake the thought that I'm just a notch in his belt of exotic conquests, I mean. there's literally 10 other people in this city he's stayed in touch with and he could have crashed at any one of those, so why me?!?!

7 Comments
2024/11/04
12:21 UTC

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My mom knows

So my mom found out I'm a femboy I left my door unlocked when I went out today and I had accidentally left my female clothes out of the place I normally have them she was chill with it and even offered to buy me more feminine clothes if I wanted

10 Comments
2024/11/04
12:02 UTC

4

How do I start off?

I always preferred more feminine things over masculine stuff but never got my mind to do anything much, my physique is a mess and I don’t have any sense in fashion. How do I start appearing feminine?

3 Comments
2024/11/04
11:21 UTC

7

hello

So uh, Im not a femboy myself but I do like them and I love the whole Idea of them. So, I hope I'm still welcome to this reddit and I hope we can all get along. Till next post.

5 Comments
2024/11/04
10:52 UTC

4

I need some advice

I need some advice on how to tell my family that I’m bisexual and a femboy I’m not sure they’ll except me.

6 Comments
2024/11/04
10:37 UTC

1

da nightmares fo today and da last year

kinda strange and completely off topic but i have ptsd and i constantly have vivid gruesome nightmares about horrendous violence and hwat not every night even though the trauma doesn’t seem to be affecting me during the day time i don’t really have anywhere else to talk about this and if anyone can maybe gimme some advice i dont like waking up 5 times during the night sweating and shaking and feeling hung over every morning this was my ted talk (someone please help me) :3

9 Comments
2024/11/04
10:27 UTC

39

Do femboys only date or would they wanna be a boiwife

Ive dated a few femboys but they never wanna commit for whatever reason…which is annoying. My dream is like a stay at home boy who dresses cute and stuff 😅 but not got a good response to that from the femboys I’ve dated 🙃

36 Comments
2024/11/04
10:15 UTC

33

got outed >~<

this may be long... sowry >~<

a week or so ago i went out to the city with a couple of friends as a boys outing :3
like always i wore my skirt and an oversized nirvana (in utero! >W<) shirt tucked under the skirt... shaved myself clean and aaah i just felt sooo good to be me in public... toook group pictures with my friends and they didnt mind too which was vewy nice
anyways, when we were going back home by bus i met a girl (we will call jane ig) who i was familiar with as her parents are good friends with my parents. we briefly exchanged some words and said our goodbyes before we split off. it was cool and all i knew she definitely took notice of my skirt but she didnt question it.

before i entered my home i wrapped my jacket around my waist to hide my skirt (since i was always worried that my dad would check the cameras). once i got home i rushed upstairs to change my clothes and phew they did not notice anything but my dad and mum asked me how my day was to which i showed them the pictures i took. a bit silly of me because one of those pictures was me sitting down with a skirt to which my dad IMMEDIATELY ZOOMED IN ON. i realized what i did and took my phone away from him before he was going to swipe and see my WHOLE FEMBOY GALLERY >~<... but it was a tad too late and he asked me "are you wearing a skirt???"

i played it off... "no? those are just normal pants... anyways the weather was beautiful... rare especially for melbourne amiright hehehehe~" but i saw his face and AAAAAAAH 3:

quickly i retreated back into my study room where i sent the picture to my friend to see what he thought and he said simply "yeah that is a skirt i do not even need my glasses to see that" and that he "would"
...
uhgyfhjbgwyafh dread
i could just hear them talking about me outside saying something like...
"yeah he likes to carry 'lady bags'" ... "i swear that was a skirt..." ... "he does wear jackets around his waist when he leaves and comes home..." ... "ask him to wear what he was wearing before"

i thought i was cooked since i believed my dad was more of a conservative vietnamese... i did think my mum who is indonesian would be slightly more okay. they arent super religious so i knew they wouldnt be balling their eyes over that but i was still cautious. an hour or so passed and i came out of my room prepared to be beheaded or smthing but no? no mention of my skirt? nothing... he was just doom scrolling on tik tok...

i thought i dodged a bullet... until the next night rolled around...
dad and mum were in the kitchen and dad stated, "jane told me you looked very different, she said you were wearing a skirt and looked feminine"

the jig was up i thought. i knew i had to come clean lmfao. i sat across the table from him and i said well yeah i was wearing a skirt...
gosh i remember the face of my dad. he just sat there silently like the gears in his head stopped turning. i murmured softly that i was afraid to tell them earlier... that i had been doing this for a year or two... aaand that i was sorry if you feel angry or something... i did not know how to explain this whole femboy thing but i just said yeah i was gay and was considering that i may be trans or something

my dad spoke up, "no need to be sorry. from now on we just want you to be more open with us."

my mum said a lot more... she was okay with me being gay along with my dad too ("yeah its normal for kids to be gay in 2024" lol ok)... though they were a bit more vocal on the trans part which okay fair enough... later on they told me they were there to support me whenever i needed it (like oh if i needed say a therapist regarding this whole trans thing) and that my whole family like my mums side were supportive... it just felt so weird hearing names of family that i had not met in so long suddenly saying they supported me which was lovely.

gosh... im sorry i waffled a lot >~<
ill end on some final thoughts and more rambling :3

  • nothing much i felt has really changed (at least for me). really now i can wash my thigh highs and skirts and crop tops or shave without having to worry about them catching me :3. i definitely feel a lot safer at home now though. i do not really see myself wearing fem clothes around them though but maybe if i go out i dont have to hide them when i leave the house >~<
  • i originally had plans on wanting to come out before but i did not know how. at first i thought of going in "guns blazing" but figured that i should take it lightly especially for them. i realized that things would change so much for them and that the son they once knew and had aspirations for (whether that was say to start a family) would just go poof... oh and cause im 17 sooo i shouldnt really complicate things too much with them...
  • i think it helped me in some sort of way by not explicitly mentioning that i was a femboy. to me it would just be easier for them to digest that i was gay.

gooooosh again im sorry for rambling... >~< i salute you if you read through my waffle :3

4 Comments
2024/11/04
09:40 UTC

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Are there any girls who actually like femboys?

Like, do they exist? The only girls I know either like normal guys or are ace/aro

26 Comments
2024/11/04
08:43 UTC

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UPDATE: ON KISSING A BOY AND MY PARENTS FINDING OUT MOST AWKWARD SITUATION OF ALL TIME

so I went to a Halloween party dressed up as a schoolgirl—like, full-on skirt, thigh-highs, crop top, makeup, the works (thanks to my friend’s brilliant idea). I got pretty drunk, and somehow things escalated… ended up on my porch making out with this guy, full-on grabbing my waist, hands all over me. Problem is, my ring doorbell caught the whole thing, and my parents saw it.

So they got home and gave me this awkward sit-down. Said they weren’t mad, but very shocked, then went on about how I need to “be safe” because the guy could’ve “done anything.” Then they hit me with this bomb—“We know you’re gay.” Like, what? I kept trying to say it was just some drunk party kiss, and like i know it’s exactly straight lol but it was nothing serious, but they weren’t convinced at all. Now I’m over here questioning things because… maybe I didn’t totally hate it? To make things crazier, the guy messaged me after the party. Not really sure what to do there. And yeah, my sisters saw the video too and thought it was hilarious, but luckily they backed me up to my parents, saying it was just a dumb party thing. Still, I feel like I’m in a total mess right now trying to process it all.

79 Comments
2024/11/04
08:38 UTC

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Talk

Despite not being a femboy myself, I do feel comfortable talking here. Though I suppose it's because I've been raised around femininity. I'm always curious of why all my friends are either all women or femboys. Nothing to complain about, obviously, but I think it's funny. Does anyone else have this experience? I mean I rarely have any other male buddies. Like. Only 4.

0 Comments
2024/11/04
08:00 UTC

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Not all of us are sex obsessed twinks who are looking for a daddy (Rant)

And I hate people who immediately assume that, it's so annoying.

It's not about how I look to you but what I Iike. Skirts are cute to me and comfy as fuck.

I am not desperate for intimacy and relationships, I'm Demi-AroAce and can wait till I find the right person.

No I am not gay, Girls match my vibe more.

Etc. Etc. Etc. Being a femboy comes with so many assumptions attached that I feel uncomfortable using that label to self describe, and I just say "feminine guy", which has too many syllables. Popular culture (and many in this community) has put us into a box that is particularly hard to get out of in comparison to other groups. Even the most progressive people seems to understand diversity in other communities but think of the same old shit when they hear "Femboy". Even fucking r/femboy is mostly sexualized and r/femboys is straight up porn.

36 Comments
2024/11/04
07:30 UTC

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Cosplay

I became a femboy two months ago. My sister recently found out about this and suggested we do a couples cosplay. She really wanted her to cosplay as a male character and I as a female character. Who can we cosplay? Help plsss

2 Comments
2024/11/04
07:14 UTC

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