Me (29f) met this guy (33) a few weeks ago. We hit it off instantly, but since I’m quite newly single (about 4-5months) I told him I’m not looking for anything serious. But truth is we talk daily, sometimes he face times me in the week, and we see each other 2-3 times a week, when I go to see him I usually stay over. (He knows I’m not seeing anyone else and o know he isn’t either). Yes we have great sex, but I almost enjoy our conversations as much, we have lots of deep talks and we joke a lot. In the past couple of weeks, he asked me twice if I would date him, but I keep saying no as I am worried he just wants to use me.

I am white and curvy, blonde, blue eyes, I usually get a lot of attention when I’m out, mainly from black and latino guys. He is a gym goer, has a great body and face, and personality, he is very chilled. He is here on a student visa and did say that during this time he will want to possibly get married so he can stay permanently, and he doesn’t have to be in love to purse that. And as much as I understand, it has put my guard up, as I do worry that he is being so perfect so he can mould me into what he needs. I usually trust my gut, but after my last relationship, I’m not sure if I can. I don’t know whether it’s my gut telling me something is not right, or am I just expecting men to lie, cheat and betray (that’s why I’m not rushing into any relationship, I don’t think I’m ready).

Part of me questions whether he really likes me, but it could be just in my head. Last night he said one day he’d like to have a baby with me (I know this can help with the visa too, as I’ve discussed it).

Generally we communicate well, and he know my worries, but I just wanted to ask other people for advice and opinions.

Hello World!, Aceez, 27, from Ibadan, Nigeria. I always love to explore the latest trends in software and gadgets. I'm seeking new job opportunities, ideally in a dynamic environment where I can grow and learn.

I'm open to working anywhere, even outside this globe. I bring creativity and a strong work ethic to any team I join. Let's connect and explore new possibilities.

Hello,

How are you today,

Today's, let's learn word to express different feelings in Yorùbá.

1. Ó rẹ̀ mí - - - - - - I am tired

2. Ebi ń pa mi---- --I am hungry

3. Òǹgbẹ gbẹ mí - - - - I am thirsty.

4. Orun ń kùn mi------ I am feeling sleepy

5. Inú mi dùn - - - - - - I am happy.

6. Ooru ń mú mi-------I am (feeling) heat.

7. Òtútù ń pa mi------I am feeling cold.

8. Ìnú ń bí mi------------I am angry

9. Ìtọ̀ ń gbọ̀n mi----------I am pressed (wants to urinate)

10. Ìgbẹ́ ń gbọ̀n mi--------I am pressed (wants to defecate).

I hope we have learnt something.

You can reach out to me if you have any question.

Your Yorùbá tutor.

Adéọlá.

Who has written Deloitte GAT before? I would love to be guided on the materials to use to prepare for it. XX

Samuel Aiayi Crowther, allegedly a liberated captive of an illegal Slave boat later who went on to became a missionary and linguist. He is accredited with translating/transcribing the Yorba language and bible as well as siring the child who would later be known as the father of Nigeria nationalism.

Is he considered a founding father, what of his family are they still in Nigeria?

I trust that people in this subreddit will let me know if this is a lowball offer. I'm going to be hiring someone for a technical role a few months from now that will require some software engineering + UI/UX abilities. Generally doing things like research, documentation writing, and occasional basic coding.

I want to hire a Nigerian for altruistic reasons (there's many talented people for Naij who just need an opportunity) and also because it's more affordable for me, obviously. But I don't want to take advantage of anyone; I want to pay a fair, maybe even above average rate for a job like this.

Is 500k monthly a fair price for something like this, or should I increase it? What salaries are you guys earning there, for those of you in tech roles (whether you write code, do project management, or something else)?

Additionally: I'd probably include something like a take-home assignment during the interview process e.g. write documentation on XYZ methods for solving problem A, compare them, and decide which is best. I'd imagine something like this to take 8-12 hours; would 50k be fair for this? As I'm putting together my budget and logistics, I want to keep payroll in mind so I can be sure to fund things appropriately.

Lastly: what are the logistics like for handling payment in Nigeria? Should I be using a specific platform? Is biweekly or monthly pay more standard? Should I be concerned with data/internet access? Any other things I should keep in mind? I'm in the US so I'm already aware and prepared for the time difference.

I’m currently looking for entry-level and mid-level Human Resources, Public Relations, (Digital) Marketing, Social Media/Content Management and Business Development roles in any industry. I am a lawyer with all of the above skills and more, and I am open to opportunities. Send me a DM if you’re interested in knowing more about my skills.

Edit: I am based in Abuja, but open to remote roles worldwide.

From my perspective, the majority of Nigerians are quite dissatisfied with the way Nigeria is being governed. However, they rarely agree on the important details of how the country should be governed. The word "restructuring" is common term use by these people. I've heard various ideas ranging from Outright change of constitution (some suggest return to regional government) to Making significant constitutional amendment (like state policing and resource comtrol) to just making minor changes in policy.

I will like to read the ideas of a "restructured" Nigeria from people here.

I know this is wholly a completely unserious topic but I have to ask it. I'm currently arguing with one of my friends right now, Ogbono or Okra, which is more superior?

Amesiere all! I just wanted to confirm that my name should be spelled as the following: Idiọŋọ I was informed that this name had a resurgence in the 80s/90s (and here I was assuming that I was super unique 😅). I was named after my great grandmother of the same name. Thanks in advance for your input!

I searched the sub and didn’t see any mention of it but basically Eyimofe is a Nigerian film that was released about two years ago. I’d argue it’s one of the best films Nigeria has produced in the last decade. It was shown at multiple international film festivals and is critically acclaimed.

I watched it for the second time last night (on prime video) and I absolutely loved every minute of it. Unlike other Nigerian films, this is one of those films you forget you’re watching people act. The directing was excellently done by two brothers Chuko and Arie Esiri and I am really looking forward to more of their work.

If anyone has seen Eyimofe and can recommend similar films, please let me know. I would really love to watch.

I went back to Nigeria a month ago after over a decade of not going, and I was shocked by people constantly asking me for money. A lot of them were people I dont even know.

As soon as I touched down, even the airport employees were asking me for money. It's one thing for family members to ask you for money. it's another thing for random people off the street and in service areas who dont want to give your change and feel entitled to it. Even the security everywhere you go want something.

Have we no shame anymore?

I just dey walk, minding my own business.."Yes bro...please please". I've heard of the sales tax and VAT... but this one na Waka Tax ooo lol

As a Black man in America, I'd like to get an understanding of the opinion of other people to the so-called anti-slavery amendment or whatever someone may call it. It is claimed that slavery ended in the USA and that we were one of the first to do it. That Americans fought to end slavery through the Civil War, that they risked their lives to free, far-to-be African 'Americans'. Yet, the 13th amendment is clear in continuing slavery.

The text reads: “Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.”

There is a clear exception there. That exception continues slavery. It does not end it. It simply made it ok to have/keep white slaves. It did not end slavery for ANY American, it instead expanded slavery. All that it ended was legal rights to individuals and families owning slaves and it ended 'chattel' slavery, as in we are no longer born enslaved simply because our parents are/were.

There is also valid evidence that in prisons we do hold slaves. Forced to work for basic necessities other than food and water and shelter. Slaves were given allowances as are prisoners. While there are no straight whippings, there is plenty of torture. The comparisons are there and in 2022 they held a vote over whether 5 states should continue working under the 13th's provision to allow slavery and 4 out of 5 voted against it.

What's your opinion?

Hi! I am not Nigerian, but I fell in love because I use to shop for vegetables at shop which is owned by woman from Nigeria who speaks Yoruba. Every time I entered I loved the music in the shop,- I never wanted to leave. I felt some kind of peace in music she listens. I now live in different city. Please recommend me some old fashion classic slow Yoruba songs (as I am learning now Yoruba language).. Secondly recommend me some Yoruba singers who live and perform in the UK, - I will see if I can get any tickets and go to that shop and take the shopkeeper out to a concert! Thank You!

I’m Nigerian American and it wasn’t until YESTERDAY that I learned there are high rates of female genital mutilation in Nigeria. In all my years of life I’ve never heard of this being discussed. But I’m learning about 50% of Yoruba women and 40% of Igbo women have had it done.

I was reading a book by Flora Nwapa and FGM was being done to a character to make her “clean” before pregnancy. It caught me off guard completely. So I googled it.

Apparently it’s mostly the older generations affected, but I am still in disbelief about those percentages. There are so many different statistics online that I’m thinking these numbers are exaggerations, but I know that’s probably just wishful thinking:(. Female genital mutilation is horrific, torture, an absolute worse nightmare. I cannot fathom this being so many women’s reality.

Have you heard of anyone you know being affected?

I am going through a particularly tumultuous situation cos I left my religion for another and family ain't having none of it, to make it worse, I'm marrying a girl from my new faith and a different tribe so, they think it's cos of her even though I converted long before. Enough waffling, let's hear some juicy stories.

Historically we really don't have the best relationship. I'm happier when we don't see each other and I only call him once a week to greet him for like 10 seconds. So when a few months ago he asked me to go manage one of his start ups (basically bottle water company) which I have zero passion for I knew problems were going to start but I still did it anyways. from shouting and complaining whenever you missed a call of his even though you can call him 7 times and he only answers when he feels like it, to not following advice when he's given because he feels like he knows better than everyone, he's basically a toxic boss although I'm not without my fault, I truly believe and have proof that managing the place without him being on my back makes everything work smoothly, and everytime he complains about anything is just a step towards me quitting. the straw that broke the camels back for him was that I was given something like charmed water that I'll use and wipe the new machinery with (how fucking retarded), the man that gave me the water said someone should do it, while he (my dad) said I must do it. all is cool till yesterday I did it around 5 something and he started complaining about how I should've done it at 6pm and why am I in an eager to leave the place, together with more exaggerations and all sorts of things. at the end, he told me to not go there again because I am hopeless and clueless and that I only want to be going out and not responsible at all. the good thing is that I and everyone else apart from him, knows that I'm not irresponsible. i dont drink neitherdo i smoke and i finished uni in the time im supposed to and done with NYSC and nobody has ever came to the house to report me of any wrong doing, I'm not wishing bad on anyone but I hope my younger siblings really show him what hopeless and irresponsible mean. I appreciate the financial support and everything but that's just it, I have no other attachment to him other than the financial support. if he dies, I'll surely miss his money, but just like when he's not around me right now, I definetly won't remember him.

"he has talent for picking the best hands" oya come and explain.

Visiting as foreigner doctor to Nigeria, first time, to attend Medical Conference, please tell safest and best hotels out there

Hello,

Does anyone know if the Nigerian passport renewal in the US need a proof of state of origin?

My passport was from the 1990s so I don’t know if I can use that as proof.