/r/MutualSupport
A place for anarchists and the like to connect, discuss, organize, and most importantly, to offer and to seek out emotional and/or practical support and advice. Hell, shitpost if you want. We're open to the various flavours of anarchist/lib-left, as well as the anarcho-curious, so don't be shy!
Welcome to r/MutualSupport! A place for anarchists, left-libertarians and the like, to connect, discuss, share, organize, and most importantly, to offer and to seek out emotional and/or practical support and advice. Hell, shitpost if you want. We're open to the various flavours of anarchist, as well as the anarcho-curious, so don't be shy!
(Violation severity ranked 1-4, 1 being most severe)
1: No racism, sexism, LGBTQ+phobia, ableism, or advocacy with any form of systematic oppression (Severity lvl 1)
2: This is not a debate sub. Discussion between anarchists is allowed and encouraged, but please try to keep somewhat civil, let's not go beyond petty insults. Non-anarchists may come to ask questions, but if you want to argue, take it to r/debateanarchism instead. (Severity lvl 4)
3: No Brigading, If you are linking to another subreddit with malicious intent, use a non-participation link (Severity lvl 3)
4: Encouragement of self harm (pro-ED, etc) is a no-go (Severity lvl 1)
5: No calls for targeted violence. (Severity lvl 2)
6: Please mark NSFW or particularly-potentially-triggering content as such, respectively. (Severity lvl 3)
Other notes:
"Anarchists" is used here referring to left and post-left libertarians; "an"caps are not anti-hierarchal.
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/r/MutualSupport
Hello, I'm 22M, autistic & adhd. I am at risk of losing my vehicle and apartment. Early last month a chain of events went off where I needed to repair my car, lost my job and needed a lawyer, all within a short time. Unfortunately that burned through all my money. Bills have snowballed and I'm suffocating. When people say you are one bad situation from being homeless I think this is what they were talking about. I am trying my best to stay afloat by doing gig work but my sensory sensitivies are really giving me a hard time, I'm having nonstop meltdowns. I have no one to take care of me or help out, if anyone could lend money to me it would be extremely appreciated. I can show you proof of my situation, and we can plan how I will pay you back.
I (25f) just moved into a new place, had to pay £1375 (my entire pay check) for 1st months rent and deposit. Rent is insanely high in my city. I have £0 until the 30th of this month. I’m fucked. My mental health is spiralling and I’m so sick of living in poverty. I work full time but they’re just not giving me enough hours. I can’t take it anymore. I don’t even want the hours because I hate the job and it’s making me more unstable but I have to or I’ll starve. My family won’t or can’t help me.
If anyones got any money to lend me at all I’d appreciate it so much. I can send you evidence of the payment, the amount in my account, bank statements, passports, whatever you need to show I’m not scamming. I’m just desperate and scared.
I’ve been having ongoing medical issues (interstitial cystitis, chronic pain, IBS, anemia) and I’ve had several medical treatments and hospital visits. Our water heater went out and I have nowhere near enough to replace it. I’m worried would my daughter and I having enough food for the month, on top of everything I’ve had to pay for out of pocket. Anything will help.
I 25M, talking to 25F since end of July. Supposedly exclusive.We have been talking since july 28th. Called her on insta, talked for hours, next day she kept calling me, and this continued until july 30th and we went on date. Had sex the second time we hung out on august 3rd. And since then, shes been over every weekend, and some days/nights during the week as well.
So this girl and I have been "talking" since the end of July. She spends every weekend over and sometimes the night during the week. We have both agreed to be exclusive and havent been seeing anyone else. Shes actually currently asleep beside me right now. Well, this guy tried calling her on snap, and when I tried to wake her up, she just shooed me away and went back to sleep lol.
Well, we both know each others passcodes, and seeing that this guy is her "#1bff",( the lil heart emoji snap gives the person you snap the most), and we had been #1 bff but it recently went away. So seeing this, and never having been told about this guy, I ended up sneaking a peak at their convo.
The message at the top was "pool was really fun, maybe we can do it again or go get coffee or something" and her response (all from today) was "yeah I dont know my schedule for this week, but Im pretty sure I work all week and am off next weekend. So I added him on my snap and he messaged her and said "whos trent?" And I just responded "idk just add him back and ask him" then when he added me i told him it was me responding on her phone and just straight up told him we have been talking, and was just wanting to know if they were dating too and that I didnt want anyone getting played. He said no, were just friends. That theyve been talking for a few months but just as friends.
So now, I know when she wakes up she'll see the messages i sent on her phone, and he'll likely bring it up. Idk what to say or do, I honestly look crazy as fuck now, but the whole thing really freaked me out, bc those two messages really looked like planning a date and hes a very attractive dude. Not to mention she and he apparently have been snapping a lot for them to be #1bffs and to take our bff status down.
Should I mention what I did when she wakes up? Or just say nothing and see what happens?I never have been thru her phone, but shes always said "idc heres my passcode" and ive told her mine as well. Its just this dude called out of nowhere and being her #1 bff on snap, knowing that ours just went away this week bc she was sort of talking to me way less this week. But she did come over as usual sat night and has been here since then.
Please give me advice, I really dont want my insecure actions to ruin this potential relationship if they really are just friends.
Tldr; I 25M, talking to 25F since end of July. Supposedly exclusive. Saw her new #1 bff on snap isnt me anymore, and is a different dude. All messages were gone (auto delete after 24hours) but the message from Saturday was "pool was fun, maybe we can do it again or grab coffee, when are you off work?"
And she just responded earlier today "idk my schedule yet lmao but pretty sure i work all week and am off next weekend" and shes been here with me since Saturday afternoon.
He texted her while shes asleep beside me rn, and I saw the #1 bff thing and ended up opening it. Got him to add me on my snap and asked if they were dating or talking and explained myself. He said "no were just friends lol" and "weve been talking for a few months, but just as friends". Now when she wakes up she'll def end up hearing from him what I did, any advice?
Any comrade for a friend
Any community
Anyone true to freedom and anarchy and truth
Comrades and future friends and family,
I seek help, I need help, I always need help. I need to leave, and I need your help, and if there are other ways you can help besides the long copied text below (from what i wrote in r/Bandcamp) please let me know. I am old. I suffer. I want to stand with you in a real way, but I cannot but fuck, I want to. Please help me help everyone too!
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Normalise getting to know and downloading among the most eclectic, progressive rock, fusion, asian, western wordless concept album influenced by the
magical michael oldfield
otherworldly composers pat metheny/lyle mays
fusion icon mahavishnu orchestra
prog rock pink floyd
rock legend frank zappa
classical composer steve reich
indian tabla trilok gurtu
pop music
trip hop
miles davis
ambient meditation music
you really can hear the distinct influences weave in and out. it was my first album i ever made using a laptop or any computer, and i had been too poor to get a guitar or computer for over 7 years while i busked on the streets either with a selindung (indonesian flute) or doing tarot readings (actual street tarot) before being BULLIED off by (for legal reasons, I will state) 'in my opinion' i think she is psychotically hateful Elim Chew of the Singapore Kindness Movement and a rabid Christian (IN MY OPINION) who in my opinion threatened me with implied bodily harm accompanied by muscle bound men. It is an opinion i am stating about this person, and am legally protected in stating such an opinion which is only opinion and not an accusation nor a statement of fact.
Unable to gain employment dues to life long trauma (CPTSD) I rely on my spouse who works as a cleaner and food handler in a small food shop at minimum wage like income level. we had sold everything at the time of this recording to fund an ill fated exodus for me to leave Singapore which I find personally culturally and socially oppressive.
We are seeking ways to raise money and gather contacts and resources to find our true home. I have no friends, no family. I am not at home in Singapore. I live like a recluse.
while i have more music to release online it would all be fruitless as i have no money to market and sell myself like a ... i m going on too long.
let us live for one another, let us live for ourselves, no gods, no masters, in respect for one another and the earth we come from
https://catrinadaimonlee.bandcamp.com/
'the book of worlds'
I don't have anything left really. Lost my best friend and my dog. I have nothing to keep me going. My dreams and hope shattered. I was thinking of taking a long walk, and jumping off the bridge a couple blocks down. I don't do drugs, and won't start now because I know I'd be letting people that aren't here with me down. There's so much in this life I wanted to do, people I want to keep helping, and good times I still want to experience. But I don't know if I can take what's about to happen. If I'm strong enough to live, or keep up this facade that Everything's good. I hate this life but I don't hate life if that makes sense. I don't want to die but feel like I don't belong here. Before what happens next. I'm willing to talk it out, or find a way out of feeling like this. Deep down I don't want to give up. But I know there's no other choice.
CW: depression, sui
Hi there, everyone. I'm a trans woman who's been doing sw since I lost my job as a prep cook in March. I was incredibly depressed and suicidal at the time which resulted in me taking time off work to seek help. I was let go from job unfortunately for missing too many days and have since returned to sw to stay afloat. Recently, I've been having trouble making ends meet and could use either financial assistance to help with bills/food/HRT/antipsychotics or else resources for remote employment (I also have admin assistance and content writing experience). I know I don't have much karma, but trust me, I wouldn't be asking if I didn't need to. Looking to raise at least $300, but any amount will help. Thanks for your time. <3
I'm going through a rough and emotional time. I might have to give my kids up to my parents. Please pray for me. Seeing how my poor choices are affecting them in their youth is doing me in. What kind of burning slow torture is this life? I'm so tired and so mad. But I can't do anything about it. Everything is coming to an end, God.
I am still learning about the concept of mutual aid, so forgive me if anything I say is a misinterpretation. Also, I am very much open to learning and hearing different ideas and perspectives, but please don’t be aggressive with it.
On Twitter, the main form of “mutual aid” that seems to exist is people tweeting about how they are in a dire situation (struggling to find food, struggling to find a place to stay, struggling to pay rent, etc.). Obviously I understand that each state is different and not all states and cities have equal resources. I am also not opposed to doing a simple retweet, but majority of people I know including myself are barely struggling to get buy ourselves and don’t have money we can spare. At the same time, doing a simply retweet when I know that all it’s reaching is the same crowd of people who are also doing their own mutual aid requests feels like singing to the choir?
I would love to do some sort of bulk fundraising separately and distribute the funds equally but I don’t have the network or support system to do something like that. However, I am very adept at finding local resources like food banks, rent assistance programs, shelters that don’t have waitlist or are demographic based, place for DV survivors, etc.
I feel like every time I ask a person if they would mind sending me their city/state so I can look for local resources in their area, they don’t respond well or they don’t respond at all. I understand that in situations that are dire it could feel patronizing to have people ask bc it could insinuate that you didn’t try to look for those things already but sometimes it is easier for other people to find resources because they have a new perspective so that might see something you missed.
I just don’t know if there’s something I am doing wrong or if I am missing something in the way I approach mutual aid.
Well, it's been seven months since I last posted there, and a bit less since I actually had the guts to look at the replies to my own post…
Oh, and if you might ask, of course I haven't even started doing anything to fix my problems in that regard lol, because I'm a freaking pussy who is afraid of expressing themselves and doing what I want to do even if there's literally nobody to witness that haha
Well, I guess that's all for now…
Hey it’s me again. I got denied disability despite me trying for a year. I need to get to cvs or Walgreens to get some items and it would really appreciate it if someone could help me out. Not sure what thread I should put this in.
Some things I need Shampoo, conditioner, vitamins, sunscreen, eyeliner.
I have 5+ disorders and it makes it hard to hold down a regular job but I am trying my hardest