I am so incredibly fearful of death because I just know I’m going to hell for being queer. It’s what the Bible says. Sometimes I think about taking my life because I’m going there either way, that I don’t deserve to be on this earth because I am such an abomination to God. I wish I could change. I wish I were born normal. It’s unfair. I have nightmares every night about dying and going to hell, about Jesus coming back and rejecting me. I’m so fearful and I don’t want to live my life like this.

I 31(f) was recently broken up with by my 26(f) girlfriend. We are both openly Christian’s her more open than me. She broke up with me because she “feels like god is condemning her for being gay. And she should be ashamed for liking girls” I am absolutely heartbroken and can’t wrap my head around it. I come from a religious family and wasn’t out until I was 27. At that time I had divorced my husband and had a 3yr old boy. So I get being impacted by religion. I had made my peace with my faith that I would be accepted no matter who I love. She continues to tell me she loves and misses me. But she also hates that she likes girls. At this point I don’t know what to do. Any advice would be helpful.

Hey all,

I've been off and on with religion like my whole life. Growing up my family wasn't and still isn't religious. My parents didn't get me baptized or anything because they thought it our own choice when we are old enough. My family aligns with the United Church of Canada, which as it turns out is lgbtq+ friendly (affirming?).

I've been to church a few times outside of funerals and weddings. But it never really stuck at the time. I've explored pagan beleifs, been an atheist, but lately I've had an urge to attend a service. I'm not sure why, maybe it's the changing of the seasons. I often drift towards religion in the winter and away from it a bit in the summer.

As I build up the courage to attend a service, do you have any reccomended reading? Like obviously the Bible is a good starting spot lol but any Bible studies of sorts with a queer lense?

Everyone I’m new here. I am interested in seeing if there are any Canadian Christians in here. My name is Mike. I am 29 years old. I know my profile says a different username. I signed up for Reddit and it gave me that username and I forgot to change it lol.

I also have a bit of a gay identity. I believe that part of it happened to me when girls started treating me horribly in high school and I found that I got along better with the guys and I think it’s stuck with me since. I know that there’s a lot of Christians who I’ve spoken with over the years has told me that it is a sinful lifestyle and it’s outside of the realm of in the confines, a marriage between a man and wife. However I find it hard to stay interested in women for long periods of time.

How have you all been able to handle gay feelings when they come up ??!!! Do you think anyone could ever convert to being straight again at some point??

Also what’s your opinion on gay pornography??? Is it ok to use occasionally??? Cheers everyone. 😊😊

So there's a song from the Disney movie, and specifically one line from the song that I would ask myself a lot in years past. My relationship with the Christian community wasn't the best one, I was bullied in church(and this was with them not knowing I was lgbt) and talked down to. Realising I was lgbt made things worse and made me feel like a sinner, I'd pray every night asking God if I was a sinner. Then one day, I rewatched Hunchback of Notre Dame and I fell in love with "God help the outcasts" because, I felt like I was an outcast. My favorite line in the song is "I thought we all were the children of God" that song actually restored some of my faith.

As a backstory, I grew up in a very strict and religious family. No one in my family but my husband knows that I’m a bi female. There is no way that I could tell my family. It makes me sad because I feel like I shouldn’t be judged just because I happen to also be attracted to other women. Unfortunately, my relationship with my family would irrevocably change. I can’t do that. I grew up in a church that taught that all gays go to the lake of fire and I never wanted to go there. So what did I do? Told myself that I’m not bi. Convinced myself that it was all in my head. Then I met my now husband who didn’t judge me and guessed it before I even told him and accepted the truth for what it was. I guess I just needed to tell others who would understand where I’m coming from

Just wanted to share a poem I wrote. Enjoy

“I Miss the Old Jesus”

Not from the 1950’s No, he’s not vintage I miss the old Jesus

Jesus who loved the sinner Jesus who ate with them Jesus who told them follow me

Jesus seemed to change lately “Follow me, my child” he says “But only if you’re straight and white”

Jesus didn’t know what guns were before Now he argues for gun rights Jesus seems to have changed

And I’m still the same And Jesus seems far away I miss the old Jesus

How do we reconcile Matthew 19 for same sex marriage?

I’m a Protestant Christian, newly accepted I’m bi. Trying to use Reddit or dating apps to start putting myself out there, at least online, but I’ve got these questions I can’t seem to find an answer to, so I’m pretty hesitant.

If God has nothing against me being bi and possibly marrying and being with a man intimately, why are there so many diseases and risk factors with a guy?

From STDs to the very nature of penetrative gay sex (possible contact with feces), it seems like our bodies are rigged against it in every way. Even just down to the simple fact that if I’m with a guy, I can’t have a kid of my own blood unless I go through a whole process of doing some science fiction stuff and getting a surrogate mother.

I’ve been doing a lot of reading and research and I don’t get it. Why would God make me have attraction to guys when it might close so many doors or pose so many physical risks?

For affirming/LGBT Christians, how do you view lust. What are your stances or perception on this subject.

I consider myself a very "lustful" individual. Like, I yearn.

I feel so very conflicted if I can even claim or come close to Christianity. I don't know if it's living in sin that I look at hot guys online with the umost appreciation. 👀

Sometimes I feel like maybe I'm doing God wrong by how I am, and that makes me not want to draw near. Things like "go on and sin no more", idk if I can do that

I really want the benefits of feeling God's love and comfort and closeness, Like I'm a part of his family. But I often feel like I'm not in God's favor or good graces.

Recently I’ve been able to come around to accept that I’m gay, something I’ve known my whole life but have been pushing down. When I asked God how he felt about it I started to feel like God is calling me to date. I also feel like Im missing that relationship in my life. The issue is I’m still deeply closeted and am horrified to come out. I’m currently a freshman at a small Catholic college and I know my family and friends will be accepting but I have no idea how people in my community will react. I also have no idea what I’d be able to do in a relationship. I really want a boyfriend and I feel like God is calling me it to. I just don’t know how to get there.

Sorry if this was confusing its my first ever post on Reddit.

I've been a Christian since I was a kid, I've always had faith. I've known I'm bi since seventh grade and only just now at eighteen learned to love myself for it. I know in my heart it's what God wanted for me. This last month I've just felt in a spiritual decline, where I know He's there but I feel like I'm not doing enough for our relationship? I downloaded this app on my phone to make me read the Bible when my lockscreen opens, but I don't feel like it's enough. I have Finch which I feel like I should utilize more often for my faith development. I'm with a new bf and we're talking about doing some stuff (mildly scary considering I like most people in this community have been raised conservative with toxic conservative mindsets) so I'm scared it'll hurt my relationship with God. My friend and her mom took me to a witch shop which was really cool but I feel bad for having crystals even though I know I bought them to remind me of His beauty and to thank Him for blessing me with his creative intuitions. (I don't believe in witch craft. I think it's a sin but I'm not gonna dog on someone because they believe in it especially if they aren't Christian) I feel stuck. My mental health has also been on a big decline again, I'm posting this mostly for advice from the community or for prayers for my mental health, my school work, my spiritual development, and my new relationship (I'm still healing from an old long term relationship that really hurt my mental health and self esteem) advice would be great, thank you all and God bless

I need some outside perspectives on a situation that’s been weighing on me. For context, I’ve been interacting with a guy for a while, and we recently met in person for the very first time. Before our meeting, we had shared some deeply meaningful conversations. He has openly told me that he struggles with internal conflicts, particularly surrounding his sexual orientation. He mentioned that he sometimes cries a lot because of it and feels a pressure on his chest, which makes me want to be even more supportive and understanding.( He comes from a religious family)

When we met, everything seemed great. Before I left, I told him I wouldn’t say goodbye the way I truly wanted because we were in public. To my surprise, he gave me a hug and then kissed me, and I could see happiness in his eyes. Later, he even texted me saying that, despite the kiss being brief, it was a “beautiful sensation.”

During our time together, he also mentioned in passing that “we don’t live that far apart,” which made me feel like he was considering the possibility of something deeper between us. I’ve always been consistent in showing him affection, and I’ve told him that I care about him. However, since that meeting, things have shifted drastically.

He became distant and cold in our conversations. At one point, I expressed my feelings, and he seemed to pull back even further, like my openness scared him. He has admitted to struggling with internal conflicts but hasn’t explained much beyond that. I noticed he often withdraws when things get too emotional or real.

Most recently, we were supposed to have a serious conversation last Sunday. He told me to wait for him to call, but he never reached out. He also didn’t let me know he wouldn’t be available, which left me feeling ignored and disrespected. Eventually, I heard back from him, but he was very cold and didn’t address why he didn’t call. He simply mentioned that he was struggling with some stuff in his life, but he didn’t go into detail. He apologized, but the apology felt very superficial, like he was avoiding discussing anything meaningful.

I’ve tried to be understanding, knowing his internal struggles, but his sudden coldness after everything we’ve shared feels so confusing and painful. Is he afraid of the connection? Is he testing me, or could he have lost interest entirely?

I’m torn between waiting for him to reach out,giving him space, confronting him about how his actions are affecting me or just ending everything already. I’d love to hear your thoughts on what could be causing this shift and how I should approach the situation.

As a gay man in Liverpool, England. I’m the only Christian in my immediate family and friends. My grandma was religious but she’s no longer here, for that reason I also don’t attend a church, I suffer from severe anxiety so the thought of going to a church alone scares me, and with my mental health deteriorating I feel I can hear God less and less and I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel like I’d ever stop believing in God because I can FEEL Him, but I’m scared I’m drifting away from being a part of His family, I don’t know if this makes any sense, I just feel alone on my Christian journey.

Firstly... I'm bi, raised Christian, have so much religious trauma it's hard to be in this sub at all but god bless you all for sticking around Christianity when I couldn't. There's so much beauty I just couldn't handle the pain.

My beautiful, LGBTIQ affirming doctor came out to me today... as a Christian! She said something sad, which is that she doesn't wear crosses to work because she knows what that to many LGBTIQ folk it's a symbol of fear and trauma and she'd rather hide her faith than make a patient feel unsafe.

I'm tearing up thinking about this 😭 I appreciate her sensitivity, but I also don't want her to have to hide who she is like I've had to hide who I am 🏳️‍🌈💜 Yes many Christians suck, but her faith is at the heart of the love she shows our community. She shouldn't have to suffer for the sins of others. Very not-Christian idea, that!

I want to get her something to show her faith and that she's an ally too - she can do with it what she wants. I'm thinking this print in a small frame. But has anyone found something like a pin, badge or necklace that is nice? Or anything else you like really.

She goes over with me because we get on like a house on fire and there's a lot of random chatter 😅 I don't think she'll be weirded out by the gift or anything. It's a good time of year for it too and I can just send it to her office as thanks for the wonderful care she provided me with this year. She's such an amazing doctor and a feminist with a love of science and it was so great to discover that her faith was a huge part of this 🌈🕊️💖

[Edit: It is very disappointing that I couldn't even ask a question about buying someone a gift without somebody who thinks that same-sex attraction is a 'lifestyle' and that same-sex attraction can be 'cured' sending me a DM. How sad that I couldn't even have one positive interaction with Christians without having this experience.

I am tired of these experiences, and I am done protecting people who harass LGBTIQ folk like me. So here's a screenshot. Btw, it seems from their profile that this person is the moderator of 'r/exhomosexual' and 'r/detranschristians' 🙄.]

https://preview.redd.it/800367rztp3e1.png?width=1037&format=png&auto=webp&s=033a6c92c98ba7a3283af94d61df1605d77a5f3a

I was born and raised into the Catholic faith. I have always had an understanding of God, Jesus and Holy Spirit. However, deep down I always knew I was a gay.

I distinctly remember, when I was bullied and teased in the playground asking my mother one day what the word ‘gay’ meant as it had been used towards me in a derogatory manner. She explained its definition and instantly the light bulb moment went off and I realised that was who I was. What I know to be true is that it was never a choice I could make and it was the fabric of who I was.

Thankfully, my family were very open minded and supported me no matter what. All they wanted was for me to be happy and healthy and I am grateful that I was blessed in those circumstances. I know for so many that isn’t always the case.

But naturally, I couldn’t get behind the idea of God, especially one who was righteous and loving if what was being taught by the church was true. It seemed twisted to me, to create a human being in a certain way for them to live a life deprived of being honest and true with themselves. Coincidentally it meant that I rejected any form of faith around the age of 16 and had no intention of stepping back.

Then when I was 20, I discovered the famous ‘Secret’ and that opened my eyes to the world of manifestation and spirituality in a whole different way. I was hooked and delved into deeply.

However, as I have continued to age, I realised that a lot of the semantics used in the art of manifestation seem to be in parallel to what The Bible already mentions.

Universe = God. To Manifest = Pray & Receive. Your Power = The Holy Spirit.

This revelation felt like a calling to reconsider and reconcile my faith. I went on to read God and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines and his deconstruction of the clobber passages opened my eyes.

On some deep level, I feel too scared to fully surrender to God. I think in some ways I am still traumatised by what was preached to me in my formative years. I also feel that if I step into faith, I am turning my back on my community who have been subjected to awful acts of discrimination by those believe to be doing God’s work.

However, I keep stepping back into faith and then stepping out. Questioning myself, my judgement. Wondering whether I’m doing the right thing or am I just trying to bend what scripture says to make sense to me.

I feel like I’m in a minefield and trying to make sense of it all. In one way I want a relationship with God. In another, I feel deafened by the noise of non affirming Christian’s and am scared that I will lose my self in the process.

I’m still trying to figure it out. At the moment, I am focusing on just praying when and where I can. I even ordered a journal to continue to this practice to be used specifically as a prayer journal. I’m not sure if I am ready to delve into it all fully just yet… but I am just trying to make sense of it all.

Any help or resources would be so welcome…

I’m an atheist and I have been all my life. I am also genderfluid and pansexual, and I just want to say I am so sorry that our community seems to hate you so much. I have met way too many gay and trans people who hate all Christians no matter what, and I don’t understand why. Most Christians I’ve met have been kind and caring people. It isn’t fair to hate an entire religion just because of the actions of a few.

I am a new Christian and this is my first advent season since converting! Yay! I’ve done some reading on some of the advent traditions such as an advent wreath and my church handed out booklets with scripture and hymns for each day of advent. I’m working on setting advent goals for myself. What are you doing this advent season?

My therapist thinks I have OCD when it comes to God and religion. I think it’s called “Scrupulosity”? I’m really struggling lately. I thought I was doing okay, but my Papaw who raised me had some issues with his health and it brought it all back up for me. Scared of sin, scared I don’t know the truth, scared my marriage is going to send me to hell. I feel like I’m a “lazy” Christian. I read my Bible every day and pray every day, but I don’t live like the Amish, I don’t live like other devout denominations or anything. I’m full of sin. And I don’t know how to get close enough to God to not go to hell.

I pray every night for guidance, understanding, wisdom, peace, and deeper relationship with God, but I don’t “feel” Him like I want to, and I’m scared He’s turned me over to a reprobate mind or something. I know I post on here a lot, but I’m really desperate for some help and maybe some answers. I love yall.

Like the title says I'm thinking about getting "Living In God's Plan All Year : 365 Daily Bible Studies for Growth with God" by Peter J. Clark. Has anyone else here read the book? Have you gone through the full 365 day experience? Do you recommend the book?

I'm struggling to find any gay Christian guys to potentially date. I have tried mostly online. I wouldn't even begin to know how to find anyone in person.

Any suggestions, advice, or even interest is welcome.

I am not a Christian, I do believe in God but I am not Christian, however finding this subreddit is very refreshing and I hope you all have amazing lives. I'm so used to Christians being rude to lgbt+ community but this subreddit has made me smile. May you all be blessed!!

Hello all!

I’m still a little uneasy with all the science behind transgender issues, especially when it comes to medical treatments performed on children.

I’d like to read a few books or articles that are fair and unbiased on the science behind the issue. So many seem to scream for one side or the other.

If anyone has any recommendations please let me know! Thanks y’all!

I’m 29 (M), I consider myself attractive, fit. Plenty of opportunities to hookup. However, I stop myself from engaging further mainly because I have a hard time separating my emotions with sex. Definitely too sensitive. Every gay men around me seems to be having so much fun hooking up with as much guys as they want. I’m over here preserving. For what? What am I doing with my life

A lot of work God called me to do in my life has been distracted with dating and being with the wrong people. I’ve met this guy on accident and it seems to be a bunch of yeses at this point. I’m thinking about what I should do. I’m just asking some of y’all that have found your husbands. What are the signs I gotta show you that you found your husband.

Hi everyone, I’m a 19m who has always liked men. I wonder whether I should live a life of celibacy or date guys again? I have never heard gods voice and I want guidance to see what he wants. Has anyone of you ever heard gods voice? What can I do to hear his voice because I talk to him but don’t get a response.

Just curious...and feeling a little isolated in a relatively conservative tradition. ☦🏳️‍🌈