I need help. I am a submissive male 33 who has never been properly collared. I have had limited personal relationships that incorporated BDSM and Femdom elements. Several years ago my grandmother had a stroke and now requires constant care. I share that responsability with my family but it has made it difficult to participate in Femdom activities. 2 years ago i reconnected with a girl I had met during uni freshman orientation in 2008 who had essentially lived in my head rent free since that incredible day. She lives about 1000 miles away.

During our catching up she said she had been working as a Pro Dom for several years and that she felt it was her calling. I started laughing because my attraction kinda made sense to me. I have never been with a Profesional Dominatrix nor am I familiar with what is customary and appropriate.

Since reconnecting, it's been a rollercoaster of emotions, encounters and a bit of confusion. She's broken up with her partner who was abusive. Her mother passed away this January. I visited her and spent some lovely lovely Vanilla time with her. She's changed dungeons like 2-3 times.

We talked about our relationship and how she'd want to have a monogamous relationship but since I am not physically available she didn't want that. I agreed and she began seeing another man who liveded more locally. She knew of my interests in cuckolding and seemed to enjoy boasting about him to me almost as much as I did.

The other day she had a slow day at work and so we had watched an episode of a show off Apple TV. When she was on her way home i commented about a cage i had wanted to purchase and how i had their sizing kit in the mail and how it would be more comfortable for longer play.

She said I don't pay her enough. This caught me off guard. I asked her if that was really it and she said it wouldnt hurt my case. She had mentioned me paying for her services once before when we first started but when I inquired she just said impress me and so I took it as playful boasting and just banter to make me feel a bit uncomfortable.

I have serious fears of abandonment and of being played and mocked behind my back and it all just came flooding in. I asked her if her and me were in a quasi open relationship with monogamous emotional tendencies, probably because I'm an idiot, but also because I felt like everything I had experienced up until then all of a sudden had a little asterisk to it that basically said to be determined.

I asked to talk but she said no, to not email her and to send her money. That I was blocked until i sent her money. I told her i was really scared because of her reaction and she answered that I was needy, demanding and did not know my place anymore. That she doesn't enjoy the unpaid labor with me and that I was taking advantage of her.

I freaked out and of course emailed her because I am an idiot.

Several hours later she unblocked me and wished me goodnight.

I was super confused and barely slept and first thing I did when I woke up was text her to please call mewhen she could. Again, i am an idiot. I know she hated being woken up and dealing with stuff right after waking up.

She was very annoyed at having to wake up to yet anothermessage of me needing something from her. She pointed out i was topping from the bottom. How i don't appreciate the person who cages me. How i don't care and how I'm entitled and just want to use her. How i have mommy issues and don't know what I want or need. Then she blocked me. Unblocked me and said she messaged her ex boyfriend and it's all my fault.

I think she has a point. I send her gifts and I buy things for her and her family. I buy food for her and her boyfriend once in a while. It's been a week or two since I bought anything but I've been busy with work and stuff and just haven't been able to coordinate in time. But I don't pay her for her work. I feel so stupid saying this out loud now but I thought she was doing those things because she enjoyed doing them with me. The thought of me having essentially forced someone i care about to do something sexual they didn't want is literally making me sick.

She said I was a bad submissive. And i inferred from that a shit human as well. I don't know if I want to continue participating in Femdom going forward. I love it and consider it my literal purpose but what the fuck.

I don't know what to do. I see her point that I am kind of entitled and i don't follow rules but I don't know how to fix myself.

Please can anybody here help me? I just need advice or something.

Her absence is significant.

Do you think a D type can look too severe or is it the most strong, icy, unyielding, etc. the better?

Personally I like at least some degree or sense of warmth or...softness, I guess, though that does NOT make me think they're a pushover, maybe just that they may have some compassion, empathy, etc.

I'm guessing this is mostly a matter of preference or taste and am also trying to figure out if I'm in the minority on this, and if my fondness for girl next door types may have led to that (though I like 'regular' femdom and goths too, againas long as they're not too severe or cold looking).

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I wouldn’t say I’m new to this kink, but i definitely don’t have any experience. I have been trying to find a femdom who is actually real. I know there are many out there but my luck in finding genuine ones is next to zero. I’ve tried fetlife, reddit and a few other apps (looking for a digi femdom). The only ones I seem to attract are the ones that are strictly in it for pay pigs or scammers. Is it me? Is it my posts? I feel like I put in a good amount of effort in the posts but still end up with downvotes and scammers. What can I do to attract the right kind of femdom? Please help.

I'm hesitant to post this but need to get it out.

My lovely sub and fiancé has ankyloglossia. It's adorable to me and hasn't been much of an issue. Obviously his oral technique is non-standard, but quite effective for my preferences.

Still...the topic of surgery has come up. Generally, I think surgery to free his tongue is silly. He has no speech impediment and may need to learn to speak clearly after surgery. Surgery costs money, although his insurance would cover it. All surgery is a risk. I don't want him to feel defective as he was born, he's inflicted that enough on himself for other reasons. But HE continues to bring it up.

We have a cool, older dude coworker with a tongue piercing who recently pushed a wicked-looking tool through it to show off. I joked and said that was supremely slutty, the coworker laughed and nodded. My boy had a weird look on his face and told me HE would be happy to get a tongue piercing for my pleasure. Piercings are also extremely unusual in our field and out of character for him, so it would mark him as a bit of a boy toy. So that's all very sexy. I told him 1. HORRIBLE for your teeth(guess what else isnt popular in our field? Dental hygeine). 2. He physically cannot get one due to his tounge-tie. Gave me a little pouty face and that was that.

He pressed me later and I admitted that there was a possibility I would "force" him to get the piercing if it was possible with his anatomy. He asked why I don't just "force" him to get the surgery. We are in agreement on one thing: the idea is insanely hot. Modifying his body in a more extreme way just for my pleasure? It's hot. Can't deny it. "Forcing" him to go under the knife for a silly whim? Ultimately just for a novelty piercing which for me is less functional and more a subtle mark? It's all very seductive...even knowing the piercing itself isn't really the point and may be removed because uh, tongue piercing problems.

It is extremely hard for me, morally. I know he will not bother getting it done on his own regardless of me/kink/whatever, but that he WANTS me to make him do it. I'm not a good person. I've wrecked horrible havoc in people's lives(not through kink lol)..and enjoyed it. I've inflicted some serious consensual damage on subs in the past.

But he's my sweet boy, you know? He's nearly a decade younger and despite my exciting romantic history and 1 divorce, the first person whose well-being I REALLY care about. I have a hard time even getting him into really good transcendent subspace because I'm so delicate about hurting or overwhelming him.

I've seen multiple subs branded back in the day in dirty apartments and thought nothing of it. But this is a different era of kink (I hope) and this is MY sweet boy.

It's horrendously sexy and minimal risk, really. I want to do it. But geez, it's such a big deal in my head.

I'm not looking for internet strangers to make the call for me, just curious what people think and interested to hear some discussion.

Hey, my girlfriend (25) and I (24) got quite deep into femdom over the last weeks. She really enjoys to use me as her toy, make me whine, humiliate and degrade me.

Something that came up recently is potentially to "present" me to other people as her toy, potentially in combination with some SPH. However, as it's obviously not a good idea to just do it to random people that don't expect it, we are looking for some ideas to achieve this fantasy in a moral and legal way.

By now, we've came up with two potential solutions:

1. She gets on one of these "chatroulette-like" video chat sites. She then starts talking casually to the people there and at some point asks them if they want to see her boyfriends tiny dick. If they say no, nobody got hurt and if they say yes, she gets me in front of the cam, shows of my dick and comes up with things to do with me/my dick together with them.
2. She was a friend that is pretty open-minded and apparently also into BDSM and femdom, so we know that she's 'generally' okay with this kind of stuff. She was thinking about """accidentally""" flashing some humiliating pictures of me when showing her friend pictures on the phone or having her friend scroll through her gallery and """accidentally""" finding them herself.

Whats your opinion? Is this an okay way to try it out or still not really morally right? Which additional ideas do you have?

Any input on this is greatly appreciated

I'm looking for as many tasks for my male sub while I'm away so I can make him turn playing cards for a different task.

Toys he has: suction dildo, prostate vibrator, cock ring, numbing gel, some of my lingerie/underwear, lube, chastity cage, restraints, blindfold

Limits are body fluids, food, illegal/too public, and large pain

All tasks welcome, feel free to share your favorites or get creative!

I want to keep him busy all day and night!

Hi! I’m F24 and I’ve always been into being the more dominate partner in sex but I honestly have not done much of a deep dive into most kinks because it very quickly because either super porny and fake or  EXTREMELY centered on the sub.  As I’ve discovered the Femdom community I can say that for the first time ever I feel completely seen in what I’ve been wanting, and I want to learn as much as I possibly can now!
 I’ve already started to understand that there are a million different types of doms but l am still confused about where I fit in and how to explore things further. I am less so black leather and super intimating but instead more into super cute aesthetic, sweet smiles and lots of bullying. I want to make sure this is a community I belong in but also where to go from here, all advice welcome!!

I (24M) have had fairly decent luck in having sexual partners who are experimental and open minded to try new things I suggested and would bring up.

I am openly bisexual but apparently I do not give off “bottom” vibes whatever that means. I would like to be able to partake in being submissive to a dominant woman, and I’ve tried to tell them I like women who are dominant, but they never really venture too far out.

Is there a way I can explain to a woman that I want them to be a femdom and for them to be enthusiastic about it or is it going to be something I have to experience with trial and error?

Hey all, 26M sub pretty new to this whole thing, and would appreciate almost a "FDom Survival Guide".

What's the easiest way to get into the lifestyle and meet like-minded partners, and what are some easily avoidable mistakes you may have made that you'd wish you hadn't?

Thanks in advance for any help!

So a lil bit of a context I'm a femdomme n I've been in the scene close to 3 to 5 years....the thing is while I'm getting ready to apply for a master degree...I found a job on the side...working as an administrative...n since I'm a Domme it kinda shows in my behavior, I come off a bit strong and quite at ease in a leading role and I like challenges cuz it satisfys me to conquer them...

the reason why I think my boss is sub...is he can't even look at me in the eyes when he tries to talk to me...n he gets pretty flustered when trying to give me things to do...n sometimes when he tries to give me things to do he looks at my bitch resting face n he gives it to another coworker...who caught on this n thinks I'm flirting with him....(he's not my type of sub cuz he's the age of my dad btw!)

I expressed my intentions to resign this end of the month...cuz it got to the point where I have to be In the leading role for my boss n he has to ask for my opinion for everything....when he heard about my resignation he keept drawing big cakes for me like increased salary...now he gives me bonuses on top of my salary...n I don't even do anything big... I mean I'm gd at my job n I do everything to perfection....but I think this is not what I want in a job....

tho I like my job I don't think I can handle my coworkers death stares... do u think I should Proceed with my resignation?

I'm new into sexwork and I have a sub who's interested in me being his dom. We're literally states away so it would be digitally. I'm open to learn but I'm a little lost how to do it without physical contact.

For myself, the most intense punishment I had was from a older sadistic MILF Domme. Who unleashed a lot of impact play on me for my bratty & entitled attitude as well as failing to make my ass available for her use. During her impact session she used her bull whip on me for the 1st time, which stung. Along with a lot of impact on my inner thighs with her other toys.

I hope I choose the right flair, as I am new here.

I need help on the next steps discussing Femdom with my wife.

The “cat” has been out of the bag pretty early on in our 14 year relationship but it’s always been kinda in the corner and rarely discussed in substance. In fact most of the actual kink we participate in is done when we are pretty tipsy or flat out drunk after a dinner party or date.

Recently though this has changed and we are having more open conversations about it. Or at least we are getting there. The crossroads we are at now is having a truly open and honest conversation about what each of us truly likes, and wants to explore, or “absolutely fucking not” then see where our “Venn Diagram” matches up.

The thing is my wife is turbo shy about this kind of stuff. She is a very conservative (not talking politics here) person in general and VERY vanilla. Talking about it is legitimately hard for her, but she also has acknowledged this “other need” I have which needs to be fulfilled every now and then in order to fully feel loved and connected with sexually.

I don’t know if others feel this way or what it’s called but it almost feels like Dexter Morgan from the TV show (except instead of you know murder, we are talking sex lol) I can have good ole fashion vanilla sex with my wife and be legitimately satisfied. But as time goes on, like 2-3 weeks this urge builds up that starts leaving me frustrated and sometimes is even a blow to my confidence if it’s not fulfilled. The need to be fucking degraded, dominated and humiliated by my wife.

What changed recently is I came clean to my wife that in the times where we didn’t do something half drunk and never talked about it again, I would satisfy this need with porn. However over the years I started feeling so disgusted with myself. I was so tired of not having my Wife fulfill this desire. We obviously fought but we are past that now and in a good place. She even lets me satisfy myself if I ask permission which is already 1000% more satisfying than porn.

However I still feel like we dance around the subject. I want to lay it all out there and I want her to do the same (mainly so I can learn more about things she likes that I might not know about).

Does anyone have any success story’s or tips they could share? I want to respect her and her own comfort zone but I want to really dive in like adults.

I’m gonna try to describe this the best way I can. I’ve felt recently that being dominant to a lot of people means doing all of the labor in a relationship. Like my needs are put on the back burner for this dommy mommy fantasy.

For example, I have a terrible day at work and super exhausted, so this sub offers to come over, have me dress them in my clothes and then play with them. Don’t get me wrong I love being dominant and I love sex but after a long day, I don’t want to do any of it. It felt more like a threat than an offer of release. It felt like they had no compassion for me and repulsed me. It didn’t help that I was very close to a mental breakdown.

Also like any interest I have outside of kink turns into a kinkified version of it in their minds.

To keep this short, this isn’t the first time this happened and I took my time to explain how I felt the other times. I’m even thinking of ending things with them. Am I overreacting?

Basically the title. Not trying to offend anyone, pegging is just not for me.

I am into women who know what they want and assertively take it. BDSM, latex, milking/gloryhole, forced ejaculation, post-orgasm torture. Anything where the woman is in total control. However, it seems like the majority of what I find when I search for femdom is a woman with a strap-on. What should I be looking for that will not include this aspect of femdom?

After a long time of searching for a domme I finally found a wonderful lady and we developed sympathy for each other very fast. We had an amazing play session and she looked so passionate in it and told me how much she liked it and how amazed she is of my submissive qualities and wants me as her personal slave and we started writing about our kinks.

Today I wrote her a letter telling her how much I like how empathic, passionate, dominant but also gentle she is as domme and how euphoric I am that I can be her Slave. I told her that I was never happier in my life and quit porn permantly for her If just can serve her. I told her that I felt dysphoria for myself when searching for a woman to worship but than they want a more dominant man and how happy I am that she likes my submissive side naturally. I even told her about my virginity and that I break out in tears because I am so happy to can be her Slave. I told her that I will do anything to understand more about her pleasure and it should be much higher than mine in the future and what she likes because I don't want to be a kink dispenser. And of course I told her that I accept her boundaries and freedoms and not bomb her with my feelings but just want to say how thankful I am and how amazing she is. The only thing she said to this was that I have to pay more tribute to come next time. Don't get me wrong I like to pay to make the Life of a domme better but she Said before that i only have to pay for the first date and If she likes me I can be her Slave. She Said before that I should be more self confident of my submissive qualites and she just Cares about my devotion and not my financial situation and that is what she really wants from a slave. I was in heaven and now I am breaking out into tears and having a really bad sub drop. I trusted her so much of myself and now I don't know If even anything was real. Is it a test? Am I the Problem? Is it a scam sheme? If trust breaking is a kink it is definitive in my taboo list now because I think it is the pillar of every d/s relationsship. I hate my self for being submissive and emtionally. I don't know which lady I can trust anymore. I even develop this bad incelish thoughts again although I only want to worship a woman. I asked her but she couldn't answered me why she changed her opinon.

I took a bunch of great pics with my sissy slave the other day and I’m looking for caption ideas!

Most of the photos are me holding her on a leash, pulling her by the neck, her kneeling below me, etc.

Need some ideas for empowering or humiliating captions!

My only idea is “I do what I want with my property.” need some spicier, sexier caption ideas please and thank you!

So my wife will be going away for a few weeks and has left me with a pack of cards to have some edging fun. Still haven't quite figured out the exact rules to the game but would like some punishment/humiliation ideas please. I will be playing at home and only want to include short excursions outside.

Limits: identifying pictures, public exposure, slight pain ok, no body fluids

Toys: prostate toy, bullet vibe, handcuffs, blindfold, chastity cage hopefully, ice, alcohol, lingerie, lube, general household items

If you have an idea for rules to the game feel free to share those also. Thanks!

(The title is an obvious joke, if you play games and identify as a girl, you can be a gamer girl).

Long as hell but goofy and worth it.

So recently I've been on a journey to fully complete every 'soulslike' game created by From Software, including the dlcs. A soulslike is a subgenre of games that are known for being incredibly difficult with a steep learning curve, alongside darker themes and some form of punishment for death. The term comes from the game series Dark Souls, but also in this collection by FromSoftware are other games such as the gothic Victorian Bloodborne and the feudal Japanese Sekiro, in which you'll find the boss Sword Saint Isshin. Isshin is regarded as one of the hardest bosses From Soft have ever made with 4 phases and no breaks or checkpoints between them, a big milestone that just so happened to be the last boss in my journey.

Anyway, to the fun. I had a guy over that I have a casual off and on thing with, mostly just hanging out and watching stuff. The topic went to soulslikes for a bit and he wanted to watch me play and be there for my big victory, so I booted it up and started playing.

As expected it started poorly. Soulslikes are known for being rough and Isshin is probably the hardest boss in the game to fight. I'll admit I started getting frustrated with it which he noticed, as I felt his hands on my shoulders to give me a massage. It actually helped a lot! I sort of stepped back and killed some lower level enemies for a bit, just to get some experience to level my character. It was honestly so nice to just be doted on and ignore him completely while repeating the same process to get xp.

Eventually I got what I'd intended and went back to Isshin to try again. I was intending to go into the arena to try again but then got myself an idea, clicking my fingers twice. My friend is well trained and understands this, so he got onto his back, lifted up my skirt and slid himself beneath me to be my seat.

Is it weird this made me play better, because it did 😂

He was just being used as a stool for me on the bed as I continued playing and I actually STARTED DOING BETTER. Maybe it was just the sudden increase in superiority outside of the game but I was nailing my deflections and dodges now, I beat the first two phases barely losing any health. I did struggle for a bit on phase 3 but I finally reached phase 4 for once so I knew I was improving! It was slow progress this way, I died a few more times but I kept at it and he kept as still as he could, I'm assuming sniffing me through my panties which I have no issues with.

I ended up in a particularly close battle about halfway through phase 3 before I died, but I felt confident. The game has the ability to resurrect yourself when you die to give yourself a second chance in a fight, only reclaimed if you complete a boss phase or rest. You can choose to die immediately or resurrect, the time to choose between the two is limited but you have quite a while.

So when I died I moved myself up, pulled my panties to the side, sat back down and said one thing; "lick".

He was HORNY at this point I could tell, he was a bit frantic but trying to restrain himself. I snorted a bit honestly, it was cute. Anyways, I resurrected myself to continue the fight and it was hard. I managed to eke out a win for phase 3 by staggering him JUST before he hit me and then got to phase 4. My seat was mostly focusing on my ass but he liked to explore a little bit, I just kept playing and sometimes sat myself down harder on him to smoosh his face. The good thing is that Isshin is sometimes slow to engage you I guess?

Anyways, it was a really rough fight and I got to maybe my last 2 health items but I managed to kill him, which was such a dopamine hit in conjunction with the stool 😂 It DEFINITELY felt like it helped improve my confidence so I decided to reward him by grinding my ass into his face and ordering my stool to jerk off.

Once he finished I sat there for a minute or two to just let him bask in my glory before unstraddling his face and just sitting by him. He congratulated me on my victory and we just sat and talked for a while (after cleaning up, don't worry). We hung out for a couple more hours before he headed home for the night, with me saying to him -jokingly- that "I'm a real gamer girl because I had my ass eaten while fighting Isshin".

It was honestly kind of surreal but it was a lot of fun and I'm glad we had that time together! Definitely the highlight of my sometimes painful journey across all From Soft games. Maybe if any dommes out there are struggling with a game you should try out a stress seat as well?

I'd love to make more couples jewlery so I'd love your input on what you have liked or disliked.

How to describe the more "female gaze" version of femdom without focusing too much on what it's not or specifically how it differs from common male gaze-y tropes? I'm finding it way easier to describe what it isn't than what it actually is.

I've been opening up more with my current SO regarding my kinks/interests, and I feel like I'm struggling to properly articulate this one. I have a pretty lengthy history in a dead bedroom in a previous marriage and I think I'm suffering from some residual baggage/mental block here from suppressing myself for so long.

Hi all,

This is my first time post so a little nervous! I've recently been exploring femdomme with my partner and it's been a lot of fun so far. He absolutely loves to be my sub, be sissified and humiliated. We've done some pretty fun stuff recently (stuff I never thought I'd have done previously!) from exploring chastidy and sissification, to cuckholding and getting him to blow random guys off of grindr whilst blindfolded, caged and in a maids outfit and then sending me videos of it after. Anyway, it's safe to say we're super comforable playing with each other and learning a lot about each others kinks and boundaries (though I really don't know if he has any at this point HA).

The only problem is, when I'm into it and in Domme mode, I'm REALLY into it - but when I'm not, I'm really not. I can still be super turned on and horny, but I loose interest in having him caged/plugged etc. and find it way harder to come up with ideas or be creative in tems of setting tasks, punishments/funishments or responding in the way I would like, and then this makes me feel insecure. This is usually influenced strongly by my stress levels or most likely tied to my time of the month, but I know it effects my partner and can confuse him when he's so in sub mode and then suddenly I'm the one needing a break from it. He would never say this, but I think it dissapoints him a little and I want to be able to maintain this dynamic better because I know how much he loves it.

Does anyone else struggle with the same thing? I'd really appreciate any tips or advice on how to be a bit more consistent with this stuff! Thanks :)

I (18F) recently started sleeping with a man (24M) who can be submissive in bed. This isn’t a problem to me, seeing as I find it incredibly sexy, however I am slightly shy and somewhat hyper vigilant about ensuring my partners are having a safe and enjoyable time so I tend to be more gentle than he prefers in terms of talking in bed. How can I assert myself in a way that is dominant without being someone who could create an uncomfortable environment for my partner?

Me and my boyfriend are both 19 and we're both eachother's first love and had no sexual experiences prior.

During the beginning of our relationship, he has opened up to me about his fantasies of being submissive and enjoying pain/control etc, me personally on the other hand, consider myself to be a very vanilla person, but under his influence I can now occasionally act dominant to make him feel good.

I do enjoy some aspects of it but only stuff more on the gentle side like blindfolds, nipple/ball torture, facesitting and handcuffs but it doesn't turn me on as much as it does for him. Recently scenes of him struggling, begging and in pain floats into my mind alot and I would feel very guilty of what I've done to him. Although I know that he's enjoying it, I just couldn't seem to convince myself otherwise. I feel so disappointed in myself for doing such things. He's also been asking me to strangle him, abuse him and even "rape" him but I just feel so lost and this is all too much for me to handle. I really just want to love him and treat him nicely like he means the whole world to me and I can't imagine ever doing such terrifying things on him, although he consents.

We have talked about this issue and he has said that I didn't have to force myself to be dominant at all, but I genuinely do enjoy some of the aspects of being dominant but I just can't get past this barrier of feeling guilty. It's such a difficult thing to rewire my brain to get used to. Has anyone experienced this in the past and how did you get through it? I would really appreciate it, thank you.

As the title says, I'm looking for tying techniques to bind my pets c&bs. Any suggestions or advice?

I've been denying any orgasms to my sub for about 6 months now (I did my reseach at the time and I read that it was safe), only giving him ocassional edging sessions. This is because we are planning to meet irl and I want him to be as needy as ever when we do 🥰 Recently our plans may delay due to life and things we can't control so I want to give him ruined orgasms to make sure he gets a rest from time to time. But I still want to properly ask Is it okay to go without any release for a long period of time? I love my boy too much and I don't want to hurt him in any way.

Hi thank you in advance for taking a look at my question.
I am looking for a dating site in 2024 for femdom dating. I imagine something like tinder but for for femdom? I would love to find in person dating over online.
I live in Denver, CO and I have not figured out how to find a domme.
Thank you!

My partner is not new to BDSM at all, and originally was a Dom when I met him, over the years, we started exploring his submission more. This brought him to the conclusion that he's a switch. I am dominant in nature, and a switch on paper. I was having fun, and I still am, but things are beginning to feel one sided. I discussed this with him, telling him that I absolutely loved controlling and caring for him, but am feeling neglected in terms of service and general care. I have to be dominant everywhere I go in life, and it would be nice to be able to release those transgressions with someone that I trust as much as him. Instead, I come back home and have to be a service dom all day (which i do enjoy, but it is often taxxing) , often times I don't recieve anything. His response to this was "Well I guess I don't like switches then." Am I in the wrong for thinking this was an asshole response to this? What do I do with this information?

edit: i would also like to add, all of this with the expectation of me still being submissive in terms of daily life, which confuses the dynamic even more. He's expecting me to be "babygirl" without giving me any sort of submissive treatment besides telling me what to do. no aftercare, emotional or physical, i don't even get to lay on his lap while we're watching a movie. he's always little spoon, always being held, hair being played with, the works. I find it hard to view someone who wants these things and more 24/7 as dominant at all . (these are also things that put me in domme space) . When I get really into it in the bedroom, he almost snaps out of subspace and tells me "not to get to cocky" . tbh idk what the fuck he wants and i don't think he does either.

Any officiant for a wedding with FLR vows online or live?

Hope this is the right place to ask but my Mistress and me are entering a new phase in our life. We would be really interested in finding an officiant to perform a FLR wedding in our next visit to London in november -preferably a female officiant. Does anyone know if that’s a possibility?

The ceremony would be an exchange of vows and signing if a contract but it would be ideal if the officiant is someone in the lifestyle and knows everything about what is happening. We wouldn’t want to force this on someone from outside this world.

Thanks everyone for reading and creating this amazing community. And apologies again if this is not the right venue for this question.