... It's mostly a temporary one, but I think it's a good placeholder for the time being. Tell me what you think!

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greetings and salutations, my name is SalamanderFlames. Feel free to call me Salli. :P

Our little subreddit has been without moderation for a long while, but I decided to take over and give it a shot of new energy. Feel free to visit and express yourself, your thoughts and concerns, regarding the Bi life, mental health, and discussions/suggests about the sub.

'til Peaceful, Salli.

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I've been thinking about this a lot lately with this being Pride month: do you feel connected to the LGBTQ community as a whole?

I don't.

Last year was the first Pride I've ever been to and I felt terribly out of place - and the unwelcoming behavior of other attendees didn't help. There was a general sense of "you're not one of us" and I get it - I'm a woman married to a man and we both probably look straight, it's easy to think that we're both just allies and neither are queer. We walked around together and got a few dirty looks and comments, and really was just a weird, surreal experience. I felt like an outsider and I was intruding on their space.

It was my first real experience with the greater LGBTQ community. Even though I came out when I was in college and knew of the LGBTQ support organizations on campus, I didn't participate in any of them. I don't really have any good reason why or why not, other than I didn't feel the need to join.

Even among some of my former friends who were gay, I was like I was straight and they flat-out ignored the fact that I'm bi, completely steamrolling over it any time it was brought up (and thus why I eventually ended the friendships.)

And so despite always technically being a part of the community, I can't shake that sense of being a black sheep even though I'm the "B" in LGBTQ.

I had been debating on whether or not I should even go to Pride this year. A part of me wants to, but still I feel hesitant because I worry about another unwelcoming experience and being shut out again.

So I was curious what you all thought about it; do you feel connected? Do you actually go to Pride or other LGBTQ events/organizations? What's it like for you?

I love my queerness. I love being able to love anyone. I love not having to conform to outdated unhelpful stereotypes of masculinity. I love the greater level of empathy that my queer struggles have given me. I love the scars and tears and pain, and I love you, because we're both stronger because of it.

I hope you're safe. I hope you're okay. I'm sorry that today has been so bad, but know that I'm thinking of you and I want you to be safe and happy and loved.

They look classy as fuck on the box for my vibrator. :3

^^I ^^just ^^thought ^^their ^^choice ^^in ^^colors ^^was ^^hilarious

PS to mods: I didn't think this kind of jokey post would be against the rules but if it is I'm sorry & will remove it.

I made a straw poll:

http://www.strawpoll.me/10100310

One thing I've found pretty frustrating is the lack of community spaces aimed at bi people.

The current city I'm in has a Beers and Queers night, which is the closest and the city I'm moving to has spaces for "gay and bisexual men" but nothing for bisexual people exclusively and the lesbian groups just say "lesbian" not "lesbian and bisexual women."

What has been your experience with these kinds of spaces?

Just wanted to put up a communal post to check in and see how everyone's doing :). I'm doing alright. Doing internship prep for my grad program is giving me panic attacks every few days, but I just bought Enter the Gungeon and having an adorable game is helping.

Also Penny Dreadful comes back in a few days and I can't wait to see my Bishonen Bisexual Werewolf Boyfriend, Josh Hartnett again!

So what are you watching, doing, thinking, feeling, etc?

I don't think of my attraction to any gender in terms of percentages. It just is. So I find it weird when people rate their attractions like "I'm 40/60 for men and women." As tho you can't like both 100%?

I once was asked by someone basically just how much I like women vs. men and I was like, i don't have a preference, I just like people? In different ways, for different things. And my attraction to different genders doesn't even feel the same. Does that make sense? Like my body has different responses to different genders. Idk. Just wondering if any of y'all can relate.

Being bi rocks! I didn't care about their gender, was too busy checking out their luscious purple locks. And their cute smile.

So, a coupe years ago, a guy who is friends with my older brother (and who I've known basically my whole life) asked me if I would participate in a threesome with he and his girlfriend. I knew his girlfriend at the time, and was well aware that she was bi, but the way he asked made me uncomfortable, and I very quickly rejected him. He was cool about it, so I thought nothing of it.

Fast forward to this year and, wouldn't you now it, he asks me again this time in a clunkier way, and now with a girlfriend who I've never seen in my life. I know threesome requests are a common grip in the bi community, but I can't shake this one, has anyone else had a similar experience?

I am a Master's student in Clinical Psychology at Queen's University, and my passion is in conducting inclusive sex research and making sure that LGBTQ* voices are all heard in research. I am currently completing my master's thesis that looks at how different couple constellations negotiate and navigate sexual problems. We are currently recruiting participants in intimate romantic relationships who have been dating a minimum of three months for an online study on sexual problems and sexual well-being. We are looking for participants in ALL relationships with any level of sexual satisfaction, with or without sexual problems or concerns. We greatly appreciate everyone who is able to participate and/or able to help us spread the word. Thank you for your help in conducting inclusive sex research! *****To participate visit: https://surveys.psyc.queensu.ca/SWBR.aspx ~Note: There is also a 'save and exit' button in the survey if you would prefer to complete it over multiple sittings.

I'm not a big musical guy, but I love the book Fun Home, so I decided to listen to the original cast recording of the musical. It wrecked me. For those who don't know, it's based on the autobio graphic novel by Allison Bechdel about her relationship with her dad, who was closeted, and his suicide.

The song that hit me hardest is Telephone Wire, which is about the last time Allison talked with her father, just trying to will herself to talk to him about their shared queerness. As someone struggling with coming out it's just...ugh, it really fucking hits home. Hard.

Have you folks seen it? Heard it? Read it?

I like that I automatically don't think and speak in terms of gender and that feels natural to me. I like that I don't have to do that weird hetero overreaction at seeing someone of the same sex get naked. And I like butts.

You?

Most of the people who I have sex with are bisexual people. At least half of the relationships I've been in have been with bisexual people. There's definitely a different dynamic than the "mixed orientation" relationships I've been in and I've noticed a slightly different dynamic with other couples where both people in the couple are bisexual, too.

And I can find fuck-all that anyone has written about it. When I Google "how bisexual people have relationships with each other" the only thing which comes up is how bisexual people have relationships with monosexual people and most of it is from the monosexual persons' perspective. An unhealthy amount of it is advice on how to "handle" you bisexual partner. (Although that exact wording is never used.)

I've done quite a bit of reading of original research on the bisexual community (there isn't much of it) and there is absolutely no research on this topic. There's research on lesbians having relationships with each other, there's research on gay men having relationships with each other, but there's nothing about bisexual people having relationships with each other.

And it really bothers me. Because I have so many questions which are large and abstract. Not questions necessarily about my relationships in specific but whether that relationship looks like a larger trend. And I keep typing my questions into Google like a smart person and the only thing Google wants to tell me about are the larger trends in the lives of monosexual people.

Full disclosure, did a quick and dirty survey on rSampleSize about one of my questions.

EDIT:

Its still not actually an academic survey. But hey, straw polls aren't the worst thing in the world.

I'm sure this topic has been brought up numerous times in /r/bisexual, but I haven't seen it in this subreddit in particular.

Anyone aware of literature, movies, games, etc. with bisexual characters? It'd be nice to get a list going of some representation in fiction.

What have y'all been consuming recently? I just finished Love, the new Netflix series, a couple days ago. I hated it! It's like a 10 part ode to male egotism without any self awareness.

I'm catching up on my comics. I read the newest issue of Sex Criminals last night and thought that was great. Their letters page is always a hoot (yours truly might have gotten a letter in there once that may or may not have been relevant to this sub), and I enjoyed the Bowie Sex Tips.

Playing and listening to I've been doing simultaneously, because I've been playing Rocket League while catching up on The Adventure Zone. Rocket League is super chill and the perfect podcast game. The Adventure Zone is a charming DnD comedy adventure podcast played by a family, and it's just the best.

What've you folks been catching up on recently?

I finished Transparent season 2 a while ago and I'm still pretty sour on it. I liked it as a tv show in a lot of ways, it's well written and shot and I like a lot of the characters, but I thought it botched it's bisexual representation to an offensive degree. In a show about queer identity that gets some things so right, they used the cheating/confused bisexual trope on not one main character, but two. When they started having Ally question her sexuality in season 2 I stopped watching for a month just because I was worried about how they'd handle the story. I pushed through it a few weeks ago and it left me with a bellyful of anxiety and alienation.

Anyone else feel the same? Differently?

In about a month, my spring break is happening. I'm planning on going home to see my family and, hopefully, my friends. My problem is that my family doesn't know I'm bi. I've gotten used to my university which is super accepting. I'm completely out here and have even started attending PRIDE. I really don't want to go back in the closet, but I want to see my family and I don't feel comfortable coming out to them yet.

Do you have any words of encouragement, advice, or similar frustrations?

I mostly just needed to vent a bit, but I'd like to hear from others.