I'm an adult female, 40. This involves my mom who is mid 60s adult female.

I've struggled a lot these past few years as I have a special needs son and had a terrible birth trauma. I lost my dad a few years back. My mom and i-our relationship has always been rocky. But I've done my best to make it work. She's a great grandmother, she's just not always a supportive mother. Growing up she was extremely critical of me from my appearance to everything else. I excelled though and did well in school always trying to gain approval. I'm now of course an overachiever. I work 50 hours a week, travel for work, am a VP and take care of two toddlers and a home. And I always feel it's not enough. There are times I push myself to limits and get depressed and anxious. Well given all that, I still always welcome my mom and roll out the red carpet when she stays with me and visits. But I've noticed a pattern with her and I. Our relationship only does well when I'm down in the dumps. She's supportive then and loving. When I'm happy and doing better she becomes a different mother. Extremely critical of me and my appearance. Example I told her in my last phone call, how much better I was feeling. That I saw a doctor and am doing really well and feel happy and like myself. But the medication made me gain 5 pounds. She proceeded to tell me that I needed to work out daily and not to let it get out of control. I ignored this yet she knows I barely have time for myself. I then told her I was going to dye my grays next week and she told me I need to start going to the salon every 3 months so they can correct it when I do a bad job. She was aggressive in her tone. I told her hey I'm doing the best I can, and she raised her voice at me and said I'm just giving you my opinion. I told her it's expensive to go to a salon and she commented "well I guess you know your finances". Such a silly conversation yet I got off the phone and immediately started crying. Most days I'm trying so hard to keep it all together and that one shallow conversation hit me hard. I had this realization when looking back in my adult years-whenever I have been doing well my mother has come in and been critical. When I'm in the dumps is the only time she is nice to me. Why? Nor she is supposed to come for Christmas and I don't really think I want that. Her last visit there was tension between my husband and her bc she told me he's rude and should be kissing the ground she walks on and he doesn't. Yes, she literally said that to me....

why do my parents always physically, verbally and emotionally abuse me 😭. For every small think i fell like they hate on me. They say i got no friends and i the biggest introvert in the world( even tho i got friends). I father always curses on me and my mother says i wish you were never born. They say I was born because of their karma for wrong doings. they compare me to animals and say i am less than animals. btw i am high achieving student with all A's and take high level classes

today we were planning on going to mobile store to look at some phones. When it was time to leave, my mom said to talk to the employees at the store about phones. I said her what to talk about since we had already done all the research. And she said prices, etc. I said we already at prices. My mom said there are no price labels at the store so you need to ask them about the price of each phone. I said I didnt know that. And my father started to give me the most evil hatred combined laugh ever. I said why he was laughing. He said U have been living here for 3 years and you dont know anything. I told him to stop laughing and he continues even after 15 sec. I became a bit physical(like holding his hand a bit tightly and pulling) to make him stop laugh. then he started to curse at me. i said to stop cursing he continued i became a bit more physical to stop him cursing. ( I get super anxious if some starts cursing at me with anger because my parents have always beat me and cused at me from a very young age). He did not stop cursing and we both became physical he hit me so i hit him back. i grabbed by my hair and kicked me and i tried to fight back. at last i took a bat and hit him in the leg pretty hard by mistake.

I dont know what to do. we almost fight very week😭. I feel guilty for hurting them back when i try to fight back as they hit me. I literally bleed some times due to the fight. I try to stay as away from them as possible. I study and spend most time outside or in my room. I try to eat in my room to avoid creating a new fight. I just fell this surge of emotions when they start cursing at me and I cant stop getting physical either.

This is for a friend of mine not me this is how they feel (they're 13yr old)

I hate being at my mom's house

She is always telling me to do something for her like clean the kitchen or almost always have to grab something for her. I know she can't physically do those things but I do this work and helping out ALL day. and when I talk about how I feel like I am working all day and it really stresses me out my mom starts getting angry at me for complaining. And I just wish I could live back with my dad because I wish I couldn't be so stressed and feeling like crying when ever I get home every day. I mean ican do some stuff for myself but barely do have time for it. I still feel a lot of stress because I literally have to cook, clean, and so much more everyday. I literally take care of the whole house every day..... And also she complains that I am in the bathroom too long. But I only stay in there so long is because I feel that is the only time I can truly feel like I can be left alone and have the slightest bit of freedom. I just sit on the bathroom floor for most of that time I am in there. And she is the main reason I have such a sh#tty attitude at home. I have such a bad attitude because of how much stress I have on me and the fact the she gets rude when I complain about the work I have to do. And she is also the reason I don't like having to do work at school and any other place I go to. I don't like to do all the work at school because I already do so much work at home.

There might be more they're typeing so I might add more so... Is this child abuse?

So basically Im a teenager who's been real sick since almost 3 years. Life aint easy and I got a lot on my plate every day. Worst of all is my constant nausea, you cant imagine how hard it is to live with it. Like it's hard for me to even get up everyday because I know what challenges Ill have to face again and again. There's more to that, but that's not exactly why Im writing this post.

Today was a bad day for me, I woke up late and I did not feel very refreshed, then I went down to the kitchen, cooked, washed some dishes and then ate. My parents weren't there yet so I called my mom and confirmed w her that Im gonna cook for us all. Well my mom did arrive but my dad took 2hrs more at least. Okay I get it ig, much to do and much to handle, but I was pretty upset bc I did my best and tried to be a grown up.

Now I felt really sick after lunch and still do. Like if I worsen my nausea by eating, that big nausea can hold for up to 1-2 days if real bad. So not a good day.

At around 9:57pm, my friend asked me if I wanted to playminecraft and I agreed bc we were supposed to be playing yesterday and I forgot nor did I feel good. So I booted up my pc and my game, then my mom came in and didnt like how I still wanted to play and if sb could hear our discussion rn. I was kinda mad bc it's weekend, I had an exhausting week, bad day and I didnt wanna upset my friend. So we had a fight and dude she always comes into my room as soon as I wanna play w my friends and it's really annoying. Partly my friends are the only reason im happy in some way.

Then my dad ofc heard it and was instantly annoyed, so when my mom and I talked it out and I apologized for being so impulsive I headed down bc I needed to know wether my dad was annoyed by me or not. He was and still is, talking abt how upset and mad I always am, one cant even talk to me bc Im telling everyone how they're supposed to feel and how he has to listen, apologize, understand to/ everyone.

I get that he has to listen to a lot but I also apologized that I was so mad and also told him that Im 24/7 super frustrated, stressed and on emergency supply energy LITERALLY. I wish I could react differently sometimes but I know I cant w the level of stress flowing trough me every flippin second. (If you are still reading, real sorry dude, this feels a bit stupid tbh)

Anyways he said "what am I supposed to do now, flip a switch and act like it's fine? "

Like no I didnt ask for that, I js quite literally didnt want you to be annoyed by me for a whole day. Ofc it'd nice if he'd understand me but I know he would never. Yall cant imagine how mad he is at us for js asking questions sometimes. I mean I dont really notice atp bc it's gotten a normal thing everyone and vice versa, we all are sensitive but I always have to not be annoyed when he's mad but he is allowed to be annoyed when Im mad?

Now I told them I could also live in the or somewhere else so I wouldnt annoy them and he js said that's senseless and a bold idea. All I wanted to hear was "I understand" or "it's okay Im not annoyed" or "Ill try not to be tmr".idk smth that wont make me even more nauseas.

Now what the heck am I supposed to do. I havr school on monday, I cant go to school while being a pile of anxiety!! I mean I do every week but this anxiety is far worse and I cant handle it, I have to pass this year even if Im sick all the time and today def wasnt helping. Like okay then Im a bad person, js pls do not be mad at me?

I was recently placed in a middle school to work with their after school program. We have a diy room basically a lounge, academic clubs like debate, and sports. The school is a mess once the principal leaves. Since daylight saving makes the day go faster, the girls in sports often end sooner. They have about an hour of free time they should be on the field even if they’re resting but since it’s dark they come to the reunion gate. They don’t work on hw or read they just linger. I work the attendance booth at the gate most parents hear the students chatter. I remind them they have to keep their language appropriate. We also host a lot of sports games. So a lot of coaches and other schools have witness our colorful language.

When I tell them something, the defense mechanisms come “It’s only damn”, “my family lets me say hell” okay… well this is school. We have a policy the 5 P’s the first one is literally polite. They will roll their eyes and scoff. When I mention our school policy. How can i go about this habit the kids have? They know it’s bad but they’re 11-13 I cannot send them to the office or put them in a time out. We don’t have a rewards or movie days. So they’re not loosing anything by being disobedient. I spoke with two parents about their language. And they were understanding but they hit me with the “We don’t use that language in our home” of course they don’t. I know most times they just want to feel grown or fit in. But it looks really bad. Any advice?

Curious about suggestions for gifts for a four year old for Christmas. I don't want and don't want my family to buy useless "stuff" that excitement about it lasts 5 seconds and is promptly forgotten about. Any suggestions?!

I won't say who for privacy reasons, but someone I know was telling me how their parents threatened to whoop (spank) them just because they were eating fast.

27M here and brother 29M. I and brother have had issues for past 5 years and he's still living at home age 29M. Recently moved back in after two year hiatus. Issues are recurring only after 3 days at home. Issues have been persistent and have been present at home since 2018. Don't really want to go into detail, but small crap. Finally, mother said to both "GET OUT". About time, right?

How is your 8yo in the house? How loud he is? We remind him to use indoor voice, yet he is so loud, man!!! 😩 I sigh with relief thinking the house isbgonna be quite a bit when i see him pick his books to read. 🤣

Is it normal or should we be concerned?

I just found out that my little brother is my half brother. I'm 54 and he's 50. My mom cheated on my dad and she knows that daddy isn't his dad but she has kept this huge secret for over 50 years. My brother also has another half brother , who he knows but doesn't know they are related. I have recently found out that his real dad died of a disease like Huntington's disease. So did his dad and sister. I know I've got to tell him so he can get tested and get his daughter tested to see if they carry the gene. I'm scared .I don't know how to tell this huge secret and what's my mom gonna say?

I absolutely hate grocery shopping for me and my fiance and I can only imagine what it will be like when we have more mouths to feed.

Curious what y'all do to keep your lists efficient. How do you get in and out of the store quickly? What were some major annoyances you encountered while grocery shopping and how did you solve them?

I have a 1.5-year-old son, and his smiles and laughter mean everything to me. He loves seeing both of his parents together, and I love that for him too. However, his mother and I struggle to see eye to eye on so many things. Little disagreements often escalate into the same unresolved issues, leaving us both frustrated. I try my best to communicate openly, but I’m aware I could be contributing to the problem at times.

There’s a lot to unpack, and while I want to work things out, it’s been 1.5 years of conflict that doesn’t seem to go anywhere. We’ve tried couples counseling and other activities to strengthen our relationship since our son was born, but it hasn’t resolved the core issues. I tend to be the type who wants to talk things through right away to make them better, while she needs space, so I often find myself waiting for her to be ready.

The idea of splitting is painful because I don’t want my son to experience a 50/50 arrangement. I want him to grow up in a healthy, thriving environment, but I’m beginning to question whether we can create that together. Right now, I’m the one who mostly plays with him, feeds him, puts him to bed, and tends to him in the night. In the mornings, I’m up with him, getting us both ready and eating breakfast.

One source of tension is that his mother sometimes feels like I take over his care, though I’ve never stopped her from stepping in. We’ve discussed this repeatedly, but it feels like a cycle. She becomes anxious or on edge after nights when she’s up with him, so I’ve been the one to help. I can manage on 6-7 hours of sleep, but she needs around 10-12 to be patient and calm with both of us.

What would most parents do in this situation? Keep trying to work things through for the sake of the child or consider separating for a healthier environment?

Why do kids today seem less scared of horror scenes compared to past generations? I’ve noticed that while horror scenes used to traumatize children more in the past, nowadays many kids seem unfazed. What do you think has contributed to this shift? Is it exposure to more media, a change in parenting, or something else entirely? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences.

Parents with grownup daughters, I am a 28 year old female. I am going to a concert alone tonight in a city that’s five hours away from where I am living. I have never been to that town. My parents freak out hearing my plan when I talked with them about that last night and they urge me to cancel the trip. (I don’t live with my parents)

I wish I could find some companion. Unfortunately my friends don’t share the similar music taste with me. I really like this band and I want to go to the concert. And initially I think I don’t need to worry about the safety since there will be a big crowd there.

I will take a train to get there, stay in the hotel overnight and come back home on Sunday. The city is super close to the metropolitan area.

I checked with my hotel, which is a 3-star hotel within a walking distance to the arena where the concert will be. The hotel said I should be safe since there are many people living in the hotel walking back from the arena after concert at night. As long as I followed the crowd at the Main Street after the concert, I should be fine.

My parents are never convinced after I telling them all details I mentioned above. They asked “How about there will be a massive shooting?” “How about the crowd act crazy at later night, finding some targets to assault?” They are like, if I am a young man but I will definitely be safe but the reality is I am a female.

Parents, if you have a grownup daughter. Will you worry about her safety if she decides to go to the concert in the town she has never been to? Will you stop her going to the concert?

My train will be at noon. I still hasn’t decide to cancel my trip.

Hi so this might be weird but I have to ask because I’m just so curious. I am not a parent. But, I take care of my girlfriend’s little brother a lot. To the point that I see him as my little brother / son. He is very clingy. He doesn’t have a male father figure in his life, so I’ve kinda taken on that role. He is 6 years old. He loves me and I love him. But, when we sleeps he sleeps in my girlfriend and I’s bed. He loves to be carried especially because he’s a little small for his age. When he sleeps with us in our bed, he usually ends up falling asleep on me or in my arms and I just lay there with him, cuddling and holding him along with me. Is this okay? Like, if I were to tell someone this they won’t look at me crazy? He’s already had a tough little life at his small age and I just want to bring him as much comfort as I can. He’s very affectionate and just the sweetest little kid I’ve ever met.

I feel like I should also mention that this kid does like Olympic style gymnastics in his sleep. So I also kinda mainly do it so I don’t get kicked in the head in the middle of the night lol.

Hello parents, I just read a post about a child whose teachers think might have depression due to expressing wanting to die, so I got really worried about my youngest 8 y/o sister (I'm the eldest sister, 22 y/o I'm technically her guardian after my parents)

She does express wanting to die on minor inconvenience, but I thought it was just her copying her teenage drama-queen sister or just something she saw off youtube, but after reading that post I started freaking out.

My 8 y/o sister is kinda like an orphan in our house, all of us are way older than her, the youngest is 6 years older than her and in our community neighbors barely know each other so she doesn't have any friends outside of school and she barely goes out at all, all of us are mostly at home and barely go out, she's usually either watching tv/youtube or talking and playing with herself. I know I'm at fault and that I should play with her and go out with her and study with her and I hate myself for not doing that but I'm doing a terrible job at managing my own life (I'm not really managing my life I'm rather failing in it, big time) Over the past three years I've been in and out of a rut that lasts for months at a time..

So what should I do to save her? How can I get out of the rut I've been in and become a better guardian? How do you maintain being a good parent when your life is not at all under control? How do you guys successfully play with your youngest even if it's agonizingly boring or too exhausting to keep up with their energy? How do you make friends for them and arrange playdates if you live in buildings with flats in which no neighbor knows the other? Can you please advise me on what I should do? Can her childhood still be saved?

Hello parents.

I'm 23, about to graduate from college and start my career, so I've been thinking a lot about what my life as a working adult will look like.

For quite some time now, my number one goal in life has been to become a dad. I want to be a part of a child's life so I can guide and nurture them as they grow up.

So many of my life decisions have been centered around this goal. One of the things I told myself to help push myself through college was that I needed to do this in order to make enough money to support myself and my kid. I wanted a career that paid well, but also one that allowed me to work a normal 8-4, M-F schedule with flexibility to work remotely when I need to.

I have adult relationships and hobbies, an interest in traveling, and I've been enjoying my career so far. These are all things that I value and prioritize, but not quite as much as becoming a good dad.

Hi parents! We’re a family with three kids, two boys (ages 12 and 8) and a girl, 6. We’re trying to figure out if our current bath routine is still appropriate or if it’s time to make a change. For context we’re in the UK

Our 6 year old daughter used to shower with my wife until recently, but now she shares baths/showers with her 8 year old brother, this was never forced but it just happened and now it’s stuck. They both have longer hair as well so we’re able to help them with that as they share making it easier for us.

Before that, our 8 year old used to share baths with his older brother, who’s now 12. That arrangement worked between ages of 4 and 7, and when his older brother was around 8 to 11, but now our 12-year-old showers solo obviously.

So right now, we’ve got our 8-year-old and 6-year-old (opposite genders) sharing, and both are still totally fine with it. It makes bath time quick and easy in our busy household, but we’re starting to wonder if we’re pushing the limit on what’s “normal” for their ages. What would you advise? Stick with it or change? Thanks everyone

Hello! I’m a child life specialist in a children’s hospital. My job (in a nutshell) is to help children and families cope with being in the hospital.

Recently, we lost the ability to utilize streaming services easily in patient rooms and I’m working on building up my unit’s DVD collection again because of this. The DVDs we have now are pretty outdated. I am generally “up” on what is popular, but wanted input from parents!

If your child was in the hospital, what movie/show would be comforting to watch or have available? Doesn’t have to be their “favorite” but one you know would be so comforting and familiar during a stressful hospital stay?

Im 14 year olds and I've been cooking myself food ever since I was 11 and if I don't cook for myself I normally have nothing to eat and it's always been like this, my mom doesn't cook because I'm too 'picky' even though you can cook alot without lamb and beef, I try and tell her if she's able to cook and she just kinda ignores me, sometimes I'm even cooking food for her aswell and don't get me wrong I don't mind cooking for myself sometimes but I just get tired eventually of doing it and I end up getting shouted at if I don't eat, so is it normal to cook for yourself if your a teen?

when i was 14 my dad helped me get a job at his work place and i had the job for about a year then i stole from my co-worker. i dont know why i did it all i know is how my dad now feels we had a long talk today about it hes very mad and said i haddicapped him because his work is a big part of his identety and now he feels that every one is staring and jugding. i stole it about 4 months ago and he told me he still hasnt healed as he tohgt he would i feel awful and i just want to help my dad get better at his work. is there anything i can do. please help

My daughter has sensitive skin, what are good hypoallergenic diapers that won't cause rash?

Hi! I’ve “adopted” two brothers through the Angel Tree program in our local school district. I was given clothing, shoe, and coat sizes and a few of their interests.

I plan to get some personal hygiene items (toothbrush, toothpaste, body wash, etc), a clothing outfit, jacket(?), gloves, a beanie-style hat, plus one or two “fun” things that match their interests lists to go with this.

The suggested amount is $100 per child. Ideally, for the “fun” couple things, I’d get them tangible items that could be unwrapped on Christmas morning instead of gift cards.

12 year old boy interests: Football, basketball, Roblox, Pokémon, Xbox

16 year old boy interests: Football, Xbox, basketball

I’m 35F, & I apparently identify myself as a boomer considering I’ve never even heard of Roblox haha! Does anybody have any suggestions on how to fulfill these interests while also getting them things they could possibly need? Should I get them each a pair of tennis shoes / sneakers or no since I don’t know style preferences? This is also my first time doing this, so all suggestions are welcome!

I've been with my girl for about a year now and it's been great but the only issue I have is how she reacts to her 4 year old sometimes. Now before i say anythingi should preface this with the fact I'm not a parent and have never been one, I'm good with kids and used to work with kids programs after school. Her kid can at times be a handful as any kids can be at times but the way she reacts to him just.. being a kid sometimes has me wanting to tell her to stop but I feel because I'm not a parent I really have no place commenting on parenting. I'll give you examples of what I'm talking about. Kids are curious, their world is so small because they're growing and learning but she doesn't treat it as that, she tells him to stop asking questions (sometimes he asked the same question again and again and in that case I get being annoyed) and even earlier today we took her kid to the store and was walking home when he started just being silly and saying silly things and her response was "STOP SAYING SILLY THINGS YOU'RE BEING WEIRD" but he wasn't really her was just saying silly made up words which I find harmless. Now I'm not there 24/7 but I do know he has his tantrums, he has his kid breakdowns, just moments of growing. Does anyone here have ANY suggestions how to approach this or if it's even worth approaching. I care for this kid and I think being silly and curious are great when you're 4 and you should keep doing that until you're older because that's part of the magic of being a kid.

I was 23 at the time, he was 33; I was a prep cook and he was the head chef. Some things like:

• making lots of jokes about who he was attracted to, people crushing on him, telling me to make sure not to 'kiss lots of people' to avoid colds going around(?), joking about 'packing me up in his suitcase' to take me with him on holiday, calling things I did 'adorable', saying 'you're mine, I know how that sounds but' when talking about managers wanting me in other parts of the restaurant, remarks about my hair, touching my waist, giving me days off and being 'happy to work longer if it means time off for you', telling me was 'really proud of me' and complimenting me all the time, offering me rides home, joked about 'still waiting for his princess' (when mentioning his wife and disney movies) etc.

Although he'd also:

• nicknamed me 'kid' and 'a good egg', said it was charming how I was 'his little shadow', said he'd miss me when I left and that he saw a chef in me, knew about my ASD and would often pg-ify the workplace when I was around (like, dismiss innuendos, be fake-disappointed in sexual jokes by others and apologise to me for them), sort of infantilise me a bit, and be pretty jokey with everyone (he'd only be more serious/murky like when it was just us in the kitchen), would call me his 'little artist' when I'd doodle things, let me borrow his knife set, and never overtly touched or was like 'flirty' I don't think.

I never really knew how to respond, as I didn't want to be rude, and knew my shyness would get mistaken for like 'earnest' or girly a lot. I'm curious if maybe it's just like a guy/bro kind of humour?

tldr

• boss was very friendly, but maybe it's just 'guy' friendly?

I have two children from two different relationships. My older son in 8 and I had him with my ex husband and now I share a 3 year old with my current boyfriend. I am finally taking a vacation with my boyfriend and kids and my older son is adamant that he does not want to go. My son gets very anxious about traveling and going places, even if it's local but he's especially anxious because we have to be on a plane. He gets very paranoid and thinks of all these scenarios that prevent him from enjoying himself. It was actually kind of a big deal over summer because he was starting to want to be a little of a recluse and he was irrationally upset about doing things like going to a baseball game. He is currently in therapy to address some of these things.

Anyway, with that said should I let him stay home? I'm so sad he's not excited, as this would be our first big trip and I really was looking forward to this time together. When I divorced his father, we went through alot. We had to move 3 times in a year and life for us was very hectic for a little bit. When he was 5, I was pregnant and I was going to take us to Hawaii to get some one on one time with him before my younger son came along and my ex sabotaged it. So this trip is a big deal for us/me. I even bought nice outfits so we can do our own little family pictures.

It honestly breaks my heart that he doesn't want to come but I don't want to force him. He's been begging me all week not to go, to the point he's getting mad now, telling me he refuses. That's a whole other can of worms.

I have to decide soon to get my money or credited through the airline.

Any advice? Would you just force him and hope for the best or leave him and feel guilty?

My daughter has this really good friend at school(grade school). They hang out a lot outside of school and are in sports together. I definitely know the mom but we aren’t super close. The mom and dad are hosting an adults only Christmas party. They invited a ton of parents from the school in an evite. I open the invitation online and every other adult invited has the adults first and last name listed along with the spouses name. I am one of the few single moms in the school. I was invited under my daughter’s first name only. Looking like my daughter was the one invited to their boozey Christmas fest.

I am feeling as this was a slight. Just “inviting” me because our daughters are friends but not giving me the full formal invite. Am I over thinking the weird invite?!

(For some background, I'm 22 and my mother is 63. We're both black.)

So I got into this heated debate with my mother when it came to how you should refer to parents as well as older/authority figures. I argued that it's all about someone's personal preference (the adult/older person/authority figure). If they feel comfortable being called by their first name, then I'll refer to them as such. If they prefer to be referred with a Mr., Mrs., or Ms. alongside their first or last name, that's totally fine too. I have no problems with that. My main argument was that there are no "correct" or hard cut ways someone should refer to someone older than them or has authority over you in some way. As long as that individual is comfortable with it, then it's fine.

My mother strongly thinks otherwise. She strictly thinks that referring to anyone who is older than you or has authority over you, like a friend's parents, teachers, professors, seniors, etc., should be referred to by Mr., Mrs., or Ms. no matter what. It "shows respect" and is "the only way" a young person should refer to them as such.

This debate came about because my partner (F, 21) asked what my mother preferred to be referred to as. I asked my mother, and she said "Ms." alongside either her first or last name. I relayed it back to my partner. My mother finally met my partner at a party her and her own mother were hosting. My partner's mother asked what my mom's name was and she said it, and everyone at the party referred to her as such. She was comfortable with it mostly. She just didn't like that my partner referred to her by her actual first name. I believe my partner asked if using her first name was alright, to which my mother said that "it was fine."

Ever since then, she's constantly told me whenever we get into this same argument every couple of months that her saying that is rude and that "she shouldn't be saying that". I told her that I can tell/remind my partner that she should refer to her using Ms. or Mrs., but my mother said that it's "too late" and that "she's already used to calling be by my name", but she doesn't like it still, and that "she's the only person to call me by my first name other than my friends".

She keeps going on about how the younger generation is "rude and disrespectful" and that "there's only one way to refer to those older than you". She used her childhood of her calling older people Ms. or Mrs. as well as how students call teachers Mr. or Mrs. in school as her counterargument. She also isn't comfortable with me referring to my partner's mother by her first name even though I asked her what she prefers to be called, and she said her first name was fine. My mother claims that she "doesn't really feel like that" and that "she doesn't like it either". If that was the case, then that's her problem. Not to be rude, but if she were really bothered by it, she could've told me, and I would've totally used Ms. or Mrs. no problem. But I'm like, 90% sure she doesn't have a problem with it.

She just seems really picky when it comes to the idea of "respecting your elders" and each time I clarify "I'm see where you're coming from. I just think it's all about their personal preference", she keeps shutting me down saying it doesn't matter and that the way she was raised is the correct way, and that my partner "wasn't raised like that". (Also, she keeps mistaking the personal preference as MY personal preference when I kept saying over and over that it's the OLDER person's preference which I will respect if they are more comfortable with it. It's no different from me respecting the pronouns/names of my transgender friends. I get the respect part, but some people are different and don't care what you refer to them as, while others want to be referred to by Mr. or Mrs. That's it.)

I just want some opinions on this coming from other parents besides my own. What's your take?