Price isn’t a big issue but I wouldn’t pay anything unreasonable, unless the quality is amazing. Thanks guys.

Ever since my dad passed away, life has become so challenging especially when you lack adult figure male. Like I have my uncle whom is very older but is very mean to my family so I keep my distance. He always has the habit of lecturing and judging. So I guess there is no point in getting guidance if all I get is negative feedback. I know some older people have the habit of communicating this way and their expression of being nice or showing love isn’t same. But I know we all live in modern generation where everything is accessible online. A quick google search or YouTube is way to go. But I just feel like there is still so many things that most parents don’t remind or even teach their kids. Like how to become financially stable. The importance of building credit. The importance of networking and socializing. And stuff like basic house repairs or auto repairs. Understanding basic laws and rules of society. Idk there is still a lot to learn and understand

I know this is supposed to charge my battery, but what do I do? Is it dangerous to leave it on too long? How long do I leave it on? When can I try to start my car?

Hello, dad(s). I want to get something off my chest. Since I was a child, my father has always watched porn incredibly loudly. I remember the first time I heard it, he was in the living room while I was in my room; I'm not sure if he ever thinks whether I can hear it, but I wish he was more considerate. This has been going on for years; I am now an adult, but I am unable to move out because I do not have a job or a car. I'm too terrified to speak up because of how my father reacts to me; he's really harsh and yells a lot, and he doesn't know how to communicate like an adult. I'm also curious if this counts as sexual abuse ? This is my first time sharing this, I'm embarrassed.

Hi Dads! Firstly, I wanna hear what you guys want for Christmas(or any gift giving occasion), as yall are notoriously hard to get gifts for.

Secondly, I want to sew my dad something for Christmas, but can't think of anything better than a bookmark or simple bag/pouch. Here's some info on him in case any of you can relate/have really specific items I wouldn't think of myself(keep in mind he is pretty financially stable and doesnt wait for the holidays to get things he needs):

-Avid reader -Codes -Active at the gym -Enjoys challenging videogames and puzzles -Neat -Introverted -Enjoys tabletop RPGs -Enjoys writing

I went to change the AC filter and noticed a duct that looks like it’s not connected to anything. Is that normal?

Photos and Videos here: https://imgur.com/a/MF94xRn

I’ve been changing my oil every 3 months or 30000 miles as recommended, I just changed it a little bit more than a month ago and I haven’t reached the miles that are displayed in the little sticker that they put on my car. I checked in the floor if there’s an oil stain and couldn’t find any, it is very cold this morning but the light has stayed on for several minutes. Could it be that they didn’t changed properly the last time I took it to Walmart? Idk what to do dad :(

UPDATE: I made an appointment at my local Walmart so they could check the oil and by my surprise, when I was on my way there the light turned off! They still checked it and told me everything looked okay, just to keep an eye on it in case it goes on again. They checked my tires while I was there and they found one of them was about to tear off (it had a wire out) soooo, I feel like it was the heavens finding a way to tell me I needed to change my tires. Thank you for everyone that offered to help!

Didnt know where else to ask this. It will also be a bit long-winded, so sorry for that;

My mom and dad have stayed together with no previous marriages (honestly thankful for that, because split households are so common), however, my relationship with him has never been great. He always seemed to be at work, and when he had free time he used it to watch TV or play computer games. Rarely did we do things that would be considered usual father-son bonding activities, and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't bitter about this. I don't want to hold a grudge though, because he was recently diagnosed with prostate cancer (right as he was retiring, because life is a cruel joke), and although he underwent surgery for it, the surgeons suggested that it spread before they had time to remove the main trouble spot (totally not a result of their lethargic process, but that's an argument for another day). He was already upset at having to deal with the after effects of the surgery, but hearing this news has demoralized him even more. He is now convinced that these are his last days, despite not getting a definitive answer from the doctors yet on what is going on (again, would it kill them to hurry up?). He's really been down in the dumps lately, and I hate seeing him like that. I want to help him feel better, and my mom asked me if I could do something to help, but I really don't know how to. I am not the most emotionally mature or happy person myself.

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This stuff is pretty heavy. Job gave me 30 of these huge cable feeders to take home and trade in for money but… I don’t know how to get to it. I’m new to the electrical apprenticeship.

Thank you!

Edit:

These are high voltage cable feeders, No I didn’t steal them. I’m a first year electrical apprentice, working at a big job site. Our contract is going to be up soon and my local informed me to try to find something in the mean time while we’re laid off ‘till we get called back in.

And with that my boss has allowed us and other journeymen to take it home as a farewell gift.

I didn’t mean to give anyone the impression that I’m a criminal haha. Thanks for the help regardless. (-:

Dad, I lost my good credit standing and every cent I had in my marriage. I even lost my self esteem but that’s another topic. I finally got out of that marriage now by the skin of my teeth, leaving with zero- and I have my job, I live with a new friend, it’s a budding new relationship and he is impatient and cruel often - I have a poor credit situation what can I do, should I get out of here ? But I have no good credit to get a rental, and fear no one will approve me to rent. I feel trapped. Help Dad. I have no savings.

Hi Dad, I took on a big auto loan on a newer car for me since my old one is acting up badly. But I’m afraid to get rid of my old car because what if something bad happens and I lose my job, then I can’t pay on loan have no newer car and then I won’t have my old car either. What say you Dad??

I don’t have a Dad to ask, my grandpa raised me best he could but he passed 3 years ago and I haven’t been the same since. I divorced after 21 years and I have no one to ask: I just purchased a car ( on a big loan) because my old one was acting up and I kept dumping money into it without any end in sight it seems. I feel pressured to return it to my ex because his name is on the title but it’s “ my car.” And I can’t keep 2 cars at this apartment complex. But my fear is : if I give it to him and I lose my job or something else horrible happens and I can’t pay on the new car anymore, then I won’t have any car. I’m panicking thinking I should keep backup option 2, my old car, to myself- even if I have to pay a bit to store it somewhere. What do you think Dad??

Hey guys , I'll keep it short. I'm in my college rn and in every semester I score a rank at the same time I'm pursuing one of the toughest professional courses with 8-9 Percentage pass rate, So like, I work so much still I get ranks in college.

Ranks are often awarded from 7.8 SCPA onwards and the maximum mark that one would get is like around 8.7 something. It's rare to get above 8.5 or 8.5.

I didn't get one this time ( I scored 7.99 ) and I just feel shitty, the problem is I don't get any validation from anyone, my family is shit and they don't give a fuck. My friends are all kind of jealously filled people and they will mock with this( as I outperform most of them in many things, debates and stuff but they take it in a wrong sense ) . Even a professor asked me why didn't I get 8 or above even this time. I feel shit,

I was genuinely happy with 7.99 but people around me are making me feel shit. And I was planning to focus more on college just to please them, then I realised professional course matters more. I mean that course will put me ahead of 90% of people

I would really love some input. Thanks

Help. New to this whole taking care of my own car thing. Long story short, got my first car with my money and my name in March. First oil change was complimentary from the dealership (Got it used, good deal, 2024 Subaru Impreza RS 😗) Approaching the 3k mark and want to make this car last so I'm planning an oil change soon. What do I need? I have a general idea of what I need but just need some help with a solid list of stuff to get and have.

Thank you in advance :)

Edit: I run my car hard and the conditions in the manual recommend a sooner rather than later oil change.

Our vehicle loan is just over $18k

CarFax puts the value of our vehicle between $15k-$18k, with the median price being $16.5.

My husband thinks we're too close to paying down to what it's worth that we shouldn't get gap insurance. We just recently switched insurance carriers, and learned the new carrier does not offer gap. Our loan is through Wells Fargo and they do offer gap insurance. However, we would have to pay up front through the duration of the loan.

Is it sensible to get it or not?

Hey dads'! So I'm in need of suggestions for gifts for my dad..Im always stumped.Hes definitely a garage guy(doesn't need tools),doesn't really drink but loves 🍃, not into sports..and isn't materialistic at all..I want to do something other than the usual giftcard,slippers or clothes.So any ideas would be appreciated! :)

Good Morning Dads, I (23F) just received an email from my car insurance saying my policy would be canceled (December 14) because of "Manual Non-Pay-Mid Term NSF CC or ACH" I have no idea what that means or why my policy is being canceled because, Ive had this policy since September and my next payment isnt due until December 12th. I also always pay by Cashiers Check. Everytime I call my insurance they give me the run around. Also if anyone has any suggestions for insurance thats not outrageously expensive that would be greatly appreciated. I was paying $736/month on this policy for my 2018 Cadillac XYS (64k miles)

Feels like it overtakes me and don’t know how to deal with it at my age

Hey dad, all the lights turned on in my dashboard at once. The car seems to be running normally though. I recently had everything “checked” when I got new tires. What do you think happened, and what should I do?

Hey Dad, Happy Thanksgiving. 🍁🦃 Losing my dad at 9 years old was so rough but finding this group has helped me so much when I felt like I could turn to you all for help or advice when needed.

I got rear ended while at a stop light. It was obviously near a highschool when all the kids got out of school and a sweet little girl with her first car saw the light turned green and expected me to go, but there was cars blocking the intersection with heavy traffic so I couldn’t.

I’ve been rear ended before and dealt with insurance, but this time I got a phone call from their insurance company, a reputable one at that, saying the insurer (the girls dad) was asking me to settle this outside of insurance. I’ve started my claim process with my insurance already days ago when I got this call today.

Is this legal? I’ve always assumed it’s best to go through your insurance company.

Thank you for everything.

The alcove(?) I want to build it in is 43.25in, and want the boards that long. I found some L-brackets ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0D3HKVTSS/ref=ox_sc_act_title_8?smid=A3TZ3I9O1GT6JU&psc=1 ), and maybe this wood ( https://www.homedepot.com/p/1-in-x-8-in-x-8-ft-Premium-Kiln-Dried-Square-Edge-Common-Softwood-Boards-914835/100065210 ), but I have some questions:

-could I hide the bracket how it is in that top shelf in the pic? With the long side of the “L” horizontal

-do I need a bracket in the center of the boards with it being so long

-how thick should the boards be?

-I’m pretty sure in just going into dry wall so do I need anchors

-I want to put some books, cameras, and small plants on it

I’m trying to avoid asking my handyman neighbor downstairs about it; he just recently helped me out, and I don’t want his kindness exploited (I did just deliver him and his girlfriend cake and lemon tarts though)

Tl;dr nothing in my life is going the way I want and I feel too burned out to do anything about it.

I really dislike my job, I work in a call centre and sometimes people are lovely and kind and I feel like I've genuinely helped someone, but most of the time I'm being yelled at or nearing an anxiety attack due to customers being passive aggressive. I did my degree in photography, I love it, I'm not well enough physically to peruse it to the point I'd be financially stable and I've accepted that, but I'm trying to look for other jobs in my area and I'm struggling. All of all friends no longer live in my city, it was like while I was focusing on getting used to going full time and dealing with my health everyone moved, I still talk to them and love them dearly but I'm lonely. I struggle to reach out to my family as I struggle to put on a brave face and be positive the way they want me too, and while it's not their intention I just feel put down by them and a disappointment for struggling.

I tried to kill myself a month ago and failed, now I'm back at work, and two days in I'm already really struggling again.

I really don't know what to do.

I know this is kinda a dump, but any friendly dad advice about getting through the day and maybe making the next one a little bit lighter would be amazing. <3

My grandpa passed away this month. He was my father figured, raised me mostly all my life when my real dad left. I’ve been struggling with his loss but I don’t have time to grieve comfortably. My family is a mess and the torch has been passed down to me to keep the family safe, feed and financially supported. I can’t cry or show weakness cause then they fall apart. I want to say something but everyone keeps saying something around the lines of “stay strong for the family” “we know you’ll make him proud” and ect. I just want to fall apart but I can’t. I don’t know what do

I'm (24m) in grad school that prepares us for med school by giving us year 1 content. I've given it everything that I had and never got anything above a C and we have to crack 80% as an average between semesters. I've been going SO hard for months as we don't get a break. I've managed my time, never missed class, etc.

I admit it. I'm not proud of it, but I've cried countless times. Beaten myself down. Doubted. Reconsidered. Told myself I could/couldn't do it. Was I even capable? I put so much of myself and time into it just to fail anyway. I'm sure that this is the path I want. Deep down, I refuse to quit, but I can't help but think "what if I actually can't do it?" I've taken all the resources, aid, advice, and met with other med students and nothing. 10 out 14 of us are failing, but I don't understand how when we're doing the same things? It's validating but it isn't comforting.

I've eventually had to seek support for my mental health. That opened up a whole host of other things that I should take care of. I could feel myself slipping into a full depression. I'm scared to tackle all of it because I'm doing all of this on my own and I have no guidance at all and never really have in the real world. I know my why, and it's what's keeping me going. But is this all just a lesson? What if I fail completely? I would disappoint everyone who's ever invested anything in me and I don't know if I can handle that.

There's a remediation semester offered for those who opt for/need it, but I'm in this place where I feel discouraged and incapable, but this is what I want. Nothing else.

Sorry for the vent, but I don't feel like myself and want to go home for a while. What do I do? Is there a different perspective I'm not seeing?

my dad passed away when I was seven, he was an alcoholic but I didn't know up until a year ago or so. three years later after my dad passed away, my mom remarried and I've always had a bad relationship with my stepfather (currently 71yo) I call him by his name because I never had the guts to call him dad unlike my siblings because I had the fear he would replace my dad.

the past five years me relationship with him has been growing and I've come to love him very much, he now calls me "mi cielo" (my heaven or my sky in Spanish). he got me my therapist and when he got sick during the pandemic I felt my world crumbling because he was the only person I felt comfortable with to talk about my psychological problems.

I made a party for my birthday three months ago and only invited my friends. he got mad and sad because I didn't invite him and didn't talk to me for like a month (I only see him on Saturdays). then he didn't go to my thesis defense for my bachelor's despite I invited him directly. this reminded me that he didn't go to my graduation party despite I payed for his ticket because he told me twice that he would go.

now he got mad because this Christmas I decided to make the secret santa online through an email instead of making papers because everyone lives in different parts of the city so it would be faster and easier. he said he won't participate this way because he doesn't have an email (he does) and we offered to help him but he refused.

I just... I feel like he doesn't love me... He's mad at me and doesn't talk to me and the only thing I feel it's that he doesn't love me. I feel like he removed his love and just can't handle not being loved by my... father...

I was shot about 3 yrs ago by a downstairs neighbor and currently I'm still awaiting disability and certain benefits from the victims crimes unit. I'm 38 yrs old and a single mom to a handsome young boy whom is in middle elementary school and I'm also currently staying in a hotel in plano at the moment awaiting my housing voucher through the victims crimes unit as well. I'm out of work due to the transmission on my car went out about 4 mths ago and I obviously can't walk to far so I'm somewhat limited. I was shot in my femoral artery in my right leg and had 16 surgeries almost having my leg amputated after the initial first surgery which was 17hrs long. I was shot also in my stomach and right side of my chest piercing my lung. I'm so grateful to be here however I didn't walk for a year and couldn't even eat solid foods for 6mths. I'm in need of renewing my hotel room that is how right it is for me at the moment and it's only $75 but to mist that's a lot. I wouldn't normally do this however I have a son to think of and need immediate help. So if you are able to contribute in any way whatsoever I'd be the most grateful and God bless you. Please contact me if your able to help. Thank you and have a wonderful holiday. 🙏

It's time for the heater.
Last time a guy came and checked, he said we had a bunch of CO coming out of our system.
For some reason- Our CO monitors aren't picking it up and setting off any alarms?
What's the best way to get it checked? Should I buy one of those checker things on Amazon and check myself or should I call the fire department and ask if they can come look or what?

We're renting, but the landlord is trying everything under the sun to not get things fixed completely. (We've had the AC break like, 9 times since moving here a year ago... And every single one of the HVAC guys says to replace it, but they won't, since after they fix it, it's "good enough".) The last AC guy said we should call the fire department to come check and then they'll force the landlord to get it fixed properly... But... IDK what to do here.

I'm 19 and in college, I've been through some of the most traumatic shit you could think of. Just gonna run down the list so you can get an idea...

Father tried to kill himself and became brain dead when I was 12

Mom is a narcissist and abusive (I've cut her off and she's been blocked.) she's also the only place I can call home so after my semester is over not sure where I'm gonna live.

Uncle took too much coke and died in his sleep. ( I remember my dad telling me not to cry because god didn't like it) which was kind of odd but looking back it prob hurt him to see me cry.

I played d2 football my freshmen year and got arrested because I drank way too much and my shadow self just took over and the anger got me in trouble. I spent two days in solitary confinement. This was my spiritual awaking in a way.

My mother called the cops on her most recent boyfriend and claimed he was a pedo and would spam me about her relationship problems and how he touches little boys. (He doesn't and there's not actually evidence of it.)

My mother was never home growing up and would leave me for months at a time to stay with some Coke head.

I've always been poor and I lived in the projects and then a house that doesn't even have tiles on the floor and the house is just disgusting and was never meant for a child to live in there.

That's just a couple core things that I've delt with and it's a lot. I should honestly be in jail or dead. But my coach saved my life. He stepped in and become a father figure for me and I look towards him whether I think of who I wanna be. I've had nothing but negative things around me all my life. People who I didn't wanna be like. It's really taken a toll on me and my soul. I have a hard time forming new relationships. This made me reflect back to me at my core. I just don't really love myself I have nothing of value I feel like. I have no one that truely loves me whether I do the right things I'm suppose to do or even if I don't it's the same shit. Everyone only cares about themselves and that really hurts me. I genuinely don't have not one person besides my coach that I can rely on or even say I love you too. I'm just really lost not even sure what I'm trying to say on here but if you have any advice or words please I would appreciate it.

“Normal” meaning a person who isn’t an alcoholic, heavily emotionally dysregulated, nor a creep. It’s 4am again here and I’m missing the type of dad I never had. Argh. Anyways, hi dads. This is just a “hi” and an “argh.”