/r/toastme

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Welcome to r/ToastMe! We are the polar opposite of r/RoastMe - only genuine and unique compliments by awesomely nice people are allowed here.

You don't have to state a reason why you want to be toasted! This sub is not only about being there for each other in bad times, but also to celebrate life and the good things that happen to you!

r/ToastMe is NOT affiliated with any product, app, external sites or other subreddits SFW OR NSFW. We will not promote such.

Rules

The full rules are found here. In summary see below:

-1. Be kind and make someone feel good! No insults. report any comments that violate this rule. Mods will deal with the bad behaviour.

-2. No advice. No ratings. ! Moderators will remove comments and/or posts that are asking for advice/ratings. Only comedy over-scores or full marks are acceptable

-3. All posts must contain a verification note. For full details: Brief: A physical sign/note with your u/ or username and "Toast Me!" on it, both clearly legible. Your username must match your account exactly! Verification featuring an image of a person CANNOT be digitally added. It must be a piece of paper or a physical object.

-4. Advertising/Self-Promotion: Toastme is not a subreddit for product advertisement, promoting a career or asking for money/donations (including youtube or similar). Posts outright asking doing so on the sub or by DM will be removed.

-5. Final Word/NSFW. Moderators have the final word. If we deem something unsuitable, we remove it. If you deem something unsuitable, report it, don’t pick a fight over it. Due to concerns raised by our subscribers, pictures of shirtless/showing a lot of “décolletage” will be marked as NSFW. Full nudity will be removed. Injury content will be removed. Links to such will be removed.

-6. Please do not judge others' motivation for posting - there's no such thing as karma-whoring here! Accusations of such and rudeness may result in bans.

-7. Age (U13) & reddit's content policy: Minimum age to post is 13 years old, so behave around them! There is a difference between telling someone they look pretty and then sexualising them/their attributes.

-8. No Sexual Comments: Applies to all ages. Comments resorting to sexual comments/sexually harassing will be removed and the responder risks being banned.

-9. Self Harm/Suicidal Ideations: Posts prominently showing self harm scars/injuries or express current thoughts of suicide will be removed and OP will be directed to support. Remember, if you feel this way, please seek professional help. Toastme and Reddit is in no way a substitute for real life help.

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Resources

In a Crisis?

This sub and its moderators are not equipped to handle mental health crises and suicidal ideations. If you are having such thoughts or are in a crisis, please check out our resource post: For those of us that are in the darkest of places.

/r/toastme

558,653 Subscribers

104

Recently, I’ve been feeling really bad about myself, as if I don’t have any worth. Please, toast me!

Soon, I’ll be taking an exam to qualify for a job. It’s a tough exam, and I feel like my entire future depends on whether I pass or fail. It’s especially difficult bc around 30.000 people are competing for only 2.000 positions. I’ve been studying for an entire year, and I’m reaching my limit. As the exam date gets closer, I’m feeling worse — more exhausted, more scared. Part of me wants to take the exam already, but another part of me doesn’t.

But it’s not just that; for many years now, I’ve been struggling with my mental health issues. I often feel insignificant, with no desire to get out of the bed, no motivation for anything, just watching the days go by. It has been incredibly hard to prepare for this exam, and I feel like I could have done so much more if I were “well”. I feel useless. It feels like the negative aspects of my life always stand out. It’s as if my negative memories are stored in my brain in 4K while the positive ones are in 144p.

I don’t know; I need kind words, thank you very much.

54 Comments
2024/12/11
14:10 UTC

148

Been struggling with physical and mental health issues for awhile. Toast me please 🙏🏻

92 Comments
2024/12/11
02:52 UTC

60

I posted on r/roastme, I am curious what good things people would say about me 🫡🤔

I am graduating from college on Friday! I got roasted on the roast me thread ☠️😂 hopefully I’m not cooked!

31 Comments
2024/12/11
01:22 UTC

258

My ex left me because of my line mark on my nose, toast me!

406 Comments
2024/12/10
21:59 UTC

32

Feeling a bit off about my appearance

I’m very young but I always felt like I’m ugly for some reason, maybe it’s because I’m use to my face or something. Could use some kind words:)

22 Comments
2024/12/10
16:45 UTC

74

Body dysmorphia is a nightmare, toast me plz

Legit my body image issues have me feeling old, ugly and obese. I graduate college this weekend and really would love to be feeling myself by then 💜

31 Comments
2024/12/10
15:40 UTC

36

This semester of college was brutal. Major car accident, realized most of my friends were fake, I feel lonely and like an outcast, and the girl I like promised we'd go out on a date 8 months ago! Really need to hear some kind words.

14 Comments
2024/12/10
14:21 UTC

26

A Strong Woman Is Unstoppable

6 Comments
2024/12/10
13:03 UTC

153

I have low self esteem and keep comparing myself every single day

A lil bit story actually i have small forehead but i shave it so my hairline is messed up since people always pointing it out when i was around 13-14 and when i was 16-18 im not as talkative with my friend and last year I started going to college thinking it will get better but a lot of thing happened and i feel lonely and i got hate in social media by a group of people from my college and now i can’t even pointed out what i like about myself im dumb slow learner and on top of that im such a disappointment since im the youngest siblings my mum used to compare my grade with my cousin but not anymore but i always think about that

P/s: sorry for talking too much but i will deleted this post pretty quickly later

101 Comments
2024/12/10
13:03 UTC

103

Christmas shopping today. Toast me!

74 Comments
2024/12/10
11:45 UTC

63

30 year old still hurt that his crush said he was unattractive

113 Comments
2024/12/10
11:16 UTC

194

Side effects of antidepressants aren't sparing me at all rn, could use some kind words please

201 Comments
2024/12/10
10:43 UTC

115

18m, recovering agoraphobe, 2nd time posting cause i messed up 🙃

reminded daily that my eczema/sebderm keeps flaring, got crazy fuckass hair, and a big nose w a red spot on the bridge that ive had since forever cause i got kneed in the face as a kid with a prosthetic leg. looking for some compliments now instead :D

40 Comments
2024/12/10
05:44 UTC

89

I almost made it a month without needed a toast. I feel awful. I feel so sad. The Santa hat is ironic because all my love for the holiday got sucked out from me. Cheer me up?

62 Comments
2024/12/09
23:32 UTC

43

Toast me - 6mo postpartum, forgot how to socialize.

26 Comments
2024/12/09
23:21 UTC

17

32m- I Was so excited to know what you guys think about me that I turned Blue :3

9 Comments
2024/12/09
22:58 UTC

34

Give me a toast!! Curious to see what strangers think about me

Bad picture but took it quickly!🥹

34 Comments
2024/12/09
19:14 UTC

77

I never had a girlfriend and I’m sure it because of my autism and appearance despite I went to the gym and college to work on myself but had no goals

I’m gonna turn 28 year old next month and plan on voting to San Francisco for birthday trip and I still haven’t had a girlfriend.

I feel like my time is running out and I don’t know what to do.

I have been alone all my life and for once I just want to be love. I don’t know why but I always find it hard to socialized with other even if I went to the events and everyone had their own group of friends and I don’t know if I’m gonna fit in with them and I don’t know how to start. I am not good at making friends and I wish I can just meet new people and talk to.

I feel like I have a sad life all alone and no one to talk to. People around will never understand how I am feeling and I feel frustrated because it made me feel isolated and no one cares about me. But I just want to find someone that I can love and be loved. I am not sure what to do going forward. I am lost in life and no clue what is coming for me.

35 Comments
2024/12/09
17:21 UTC

139

got rejected from my crush of 7 years.. it stings

Ya... what can i say... sure there are bigger problems and i will get over that rejection, but it still hurts like hell right now. Was crushing hard on that guy for 7 years, recently made it obvious and got rejected. Never wait that long to tell a crush how you feel, because rejection hurts a lot more after that much time.

118 Comments
2024/12/09
14:11 UTC

5,830

33M struggling with anorexia but I managed to gain 5 lbs in the past couple months, could use some kind words.

Started a new job delivering pizzas back in October to help me start to eat more. Working and getting out of the house has really helped with my depression. It's a slow process but I feel like I'm finally starting to get control of life. I feel finally ready to start living instead of just waiting and hoping to die.

1420 Comments
2024/12/09
12:27 UTC

26

Need a pick me up

13 Comments
2024/12/09
04:59 UTC

97

Felt unattractive my entire life. Second Christmas in a row I'll be spending alone. Might be flunking out of a class I really care about (Latin). Everything appreciated :)

59 Comments
2024/12/09
01:33 UTC

34

31M, need some joy in my life, be honest!

14 Comments
2024/12/09
01:09 UTC

62

Feeling really down kind words appreciated ❤️ f21

Did my makeup for the first time in months after getting a lot of hate messages ❤️

61 Comments
2024/12/09
00:54 UTC

48

Finally broken down by my chronic conditions enough to have to use my grandmother's walking stick today.

Kept thinking everyone was looking at me thinking " why is that fat 27 year old doing that?". Anyway enjoy my horrifically asymmetrical face <3

21 Comments
2024/12/09
00:03 UTC

25

Absolutely burned out doctoral student.

I've just been so burned out and overwhelmed lately. I got sick a week and a half ago but I got deadlines to meet and I'm still sick. A lil pick-me-up would help 🦫

6 Comments
2024/12/08
23:05 UTC

56

Struggling with loneliness and the prospect of spending another Christmas by myself. Toast me?

Also, sorry I'm fat. I'm working on that too.

75 Comments
2024/12/08
22:42 UTC

26

Need a boost today. Have lost 140lbs over the past 2 years but all I see when I look is the mirror is a slob and can't get out.of my own head 🙃

17 Comments
2024/12/08
19:55 UTC

38

Living in my car can you give me a toast?

So I live in my car and the main reason because of that is because I got an argument with my mom and her boyfriend and I didn’t want to stay there anymore so I just decided to live out in my car though I am about three months behind on car payments and I’m probably going to lose my insurance soon. I could really use some motivational words.

35 Comments
2024/12/08
18:42 UTC

112

After a 13-hour shift at work, some kindness would be nice.

84 Comments
2024/12/08
06:37 UTC

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