/r/toastme

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Welcome to r/ToastMe! We are the polar opposite of r/RoastMe - only genuine and unique compliments by awesomely nice people are allowed here.

You don't have to state a reason why you want to be toasted! This sub is not only about being there for each other in bad times, but also to celebrate life and the good things that happen to you!

r/ToastMe is NOT affiliated with any product, app, external sites or other subreddits SFW OR NSFW. We will not promote such.

Rules

The full rules are found here. In summary see below:

-1. Be kind and make someone feel good! No insults. report any comments that violate this rule. Mods will deal with the bad behaviour.

-2. No advice. No ratings. ! Moderators will remove comments and/or posts that are asking for advice/ratings. Only comedy over-scores or full marks are acceptable

-3. All posts must contain a verification note. For full details: Brief: A physical sign/note with your u/ or username and "Toast Me!" on it, both clearly legible. Your username must match your account exactly! Verification featuring an image of a person CANNOT be digitally added. It must be a piece of paper or a physical object.

-4. Advertising/Self-Promotion: Toastme is not a subreddit for product advertisement, promoting a career or asking for money/donations (including youtube or similar). Posts outright asking doing so on the sub or by DM will be removed.

-5. Final Word/NSFW. Moderators have the final word. If we deem something unsuitable, we remove it. If you deem something unsuitable, report it, don’t pick a fight over it. Due to concerns raised by our subscribers, pictures of shirtless/showing a lot of “décolletage” will be marked as NSFW. Full nudity will be removed. Injury content will be removed. Links to such will be removed.

-6. Please do not judge others' motivation for posting - there's no such thing as karma-whoring here! Accusations of such and rudeness may result in bans.

-7. Age (U13) & reddit's content policy: Minimum age to post is 13 years old, so behave around them! There is a difference between telling someone they look pretty and then sexualising them/their attributes.

-8. No Sexual Comments: Applies to all ages. Comments resorting to sexual comments/sexually harassing will be removed and the responder risks being banned.

-9. Self Harm/Suicidal Ideations: Posts prominently showing self harm scars/injuries or express current thoughts of suicide will be removed and OP will be directed to support. Remember, if you feel this way, please seek professional help. Toastme and Reddit is in no way a substitute for real life help.

Hearing from someone you don't want to by PM?

-As positive a place as this is, there are still "ne'er do wells" who forget how to talk to people like proper human beings. Please let the mods know if you are getting Private Messages (PM's) as a result of posting on Toastme which upset or harass you. If you do not wish to receive PM's from anyone except trusted users, visit the desktop version of your Reddit settings profile here and set it accordingly.

Resources

In a Crisis?

This sub and its moderators are not equipped to handle mental health crises and suicidal ideations. If you are having such thoughts or are in a crisis, please check out our resource post: For those of us that are in the darkest of places.

/r/toastme

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Gained a little bit of weight (working on that) and was in a relationship that broke myself esteem. I’m an aspiring pilot that has been fighting my own way out of alcohol dependency and sometimes the lows are just too hard to bear. But if I can do it then I know that anyone can. 🖤

106 Comments
2024/11/01
19:57 UTC

120

October 2020 marked the end of the worst season of my life. November 1 that year I made a commitment to myself to move forward. Whether I made it or not I’m not sure. But I did not break. And every November 1 I celebrate the commitment I made and have kept and will continue to keep!

16 Comments
2024/11/01
15:44 UTC

84

11 months on testosterone and no one to celebrate it with, feeling like I've had no changes. Need a little pick me up!

32 Comments
2024/11/01
14:37 UTC

99

Was feeling better but had several panic attacks last night which caused me emotional fever all day. Haven't slept at all. I'm still really down, but I was able to take a shower to sleep feeling clean. I guess that's a good reason for a toast, right?

50 Comments
2024/11/01
03:58 UTC

103

Feelin’ bit down, could use a pick me up

23 Comments
2024/10/31
13:53 UTC

108

Still feeling extremely down. I'd appreciate any toasts I can get!

39 Comments
2024/10/30
18:32 UTC

112

Tired and Demoralized. It's been a tough couple of years.

36(almost 37)M. Service member (won't disclose which) and a chef by specialization/trade. Pagan, husband, and father. The past couple of years have been one financial/personal hit after another. Just looking for some kind of positivity.

36 Comments
2024/10/30
09:47 UTC

67

M19 . Need confidence

18 Comments
2024/10/29
23:42 UTC

195

Time to get toasty for the fall! Toast meeee

72 Comments
2024/10/29
18:45 UTC

157

One day at a time, some days are worse than others…

Stuck in a slog recently, I know it won’t last forever but stuff just seems so daunting/draining to do sometimes

13 Comments
2024/10/29
16:17 UTC

146

Been through some rough times, but at least I don't have a soul to be broken. Hah! Take that "LIFE"

35 Comments
2024/10/29
06:34 UTC

64

Could use some encouragement

12 Comments
2024/10/29
03:28 UTC

88

[m21] Cleaned up my diet and have been going to the gym for 8 months consistently

11 Comments
2024/10/29
02:15 UTC

116

28M, Having a Rough Mental Health Day (SFW, Just Don’t Want Picture Too Public)

61 Comments
2024/10/29
00:25 UTC

81

[M21] Newly graduated LPN with crippling self esteem and I truly believe that I am hideous no matter how cool I try to make myself look with fashion trends, some uplifting words please if you all don’t mind?

34 Comments
2024/10/28
16:42 UTC

131

[17m] Feeling ugly and fat, and no one believes that I look like 17

63 Comments
2024/10/28
13:25 UTC

179

Today’s my birthday so I thought I’d return here :)

41 Comments
2024/10/28
12:37 UTC

74

f15 Feeling ugly to the point I don’t know what’s real and what isn’t :( diagnosed with bpd on full spectrum and Dysmorphophobia, but I started to take meds but they are not really helping so far, and I’m scared ill be like this forever, need some reassurance because I really have no idea what I am

76 Comments
2024/10/28
11:05 UTC

93

Bummer 18th

18th birthday was kinda lonely but i had a great time with my one good buddy. 17 was a very hard year and there was a whole lotta darkness crammed in there. I’m not just celebrating my birthday this month but also being 6 months clean from opioids. I’m so thankful to be here :)

14 Comments
2024/10/28
10:20 UTC

146

M25 Lot of things have happened but I'm still here and happy to be alive

18 Comments
2024/10/27
19:22 UTC

95

[25M] did not mean to look so serious lol up

had a tough few years since the pandemic with my mental health. just turned 25 and hoping to properly get back on track :)

32 Comments
2024/10/27
14:49 UTC

157

(32M) Unemployed for almost 2 months now. Struggling so much and I feel like a failure.

34 Comments
2024/10/27
05:09 UTC

655

I posted on amiugly, things went very wrong and I’m broken, I just need nice words tonight please

464 Comments
2024/10/26
21:21 UTC

192

41m/nb, bad at accepting compliments, thanks for letting me practice

67 Comments
2024/10/26
21:00 UTC

251

Lonely night for a 33M. Just needing a little affection, a little understanding.

57 Comments
2024/10/26
03:01 UTC

181

(20) In college been struggling with mental health but still trying my best.

32 Comments
2024/10/25
13:56 UTC

400

30(M) I'm trying, but it's hard

30(M) Determined to regain my confidence after 3 years of severe depression, anxiety, substance abuse and self loathing. I'm making progress but I'm so lonely and I can't get over this hump. Simply no longer hating myself is not enough, and I feel like I've hit an insurmountable wall after developing a hopeless crush on one of my best mates.

Stuck living at home, can almost afford to move out but I fear it would be too much for me to take.

I feel like I'm doomed to an endless cycle of self sabotage and romantic failure. I'll happily answer any respectful questions you've got about what/who/how I am, what I do and how I live. Please Toast Me.

Much love to you all

219 Comments
2024/10/24
23:49 UTC

97

Need Some Positive in my Life

18 Comments
2024/10/23
23:01 UTC

68

I hate life and I need everyone to convince me that it beautiful

I did everything to work myself and push beyond my limit and go over 1000x to make myself feel better, I went to therapy but I hate it because I don’t like being told what to do and they only told me to go to some dance class and I don’t even dance at all and that only for women and they only told me to go to some events which I did but none of them went no where because I haven’t met one person despite that I did put myself out there but none show interest towards me and I’m so tired of life…. It started to break me mentally and I’m at the end of my wits…. So I quit therapy because it not for me at all…. I would rather do activities and truly make me feel better about myself and reminded that life is beautiful but I get treated like a bad guy for prefer to do activities instead of going to therapy and accused me of not trying harder and I’m not emotionally drained and I’m crying g right now…….

I’m going to college but I’m started to hate college because it all work and I don’t have enough to enjoy college experience and to have college friends and I don’t know if I will ever have friends at college

16 Comments
2024/10/23
17:41 UTC

240

41/m my mental health is trash these days. Trying to claw my way out of it

My meds have stopped working. My hobbies bring me little joy these days. Waffle (my lil fuzz ball) is why i get up most days. I don't need advice. I know all the things. Itll get better. Just looking for some words to help get me through the night i guess

77 Comments
2024/10/23
02:39 UTC

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