/r/toastme

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Welcome to r/ToastMe! We are the polar opposite of r/RoastMe - only genuine and unique compliments by awesomely nice people are allowed here.

You don't have to state a reason why you want to be toasted! This sub is not only about being there for each other in bad times, but also to celebrate life and the good things that happen to you!

r/ToastMe is NOT affiliated with any product, app, external sites or other subreddits SFW OR NSFW. We will not promote such.

Rules

The full rules are found here. In summary see below:

-1. Be kind and make someone feel good! No insults. report any comments that violate this rule. Mods will deal with the bad behaviour.

-2. No advice. No ratings. ! Moderators will remove comments and/or posts that are asking for advice/ratings. Only comedy over-scores or full marks are acceptable

-3. All posts must contain a verification note. For full details: Brief: A physical sign/note with your u/ or username and "Toast Me!" on it, both clearly legible. Your username must match your account exactly! Verification featuring an image of a person CANNOT be digitally added. It must be a piece of paper or a physical object.

-4. Advertising/Self-Promotion: Toastme is not a subreddit for product advertisement, promoting a career or asking for money/donations (including youtube or similar). Posts outright asking doing so on the sub or by DM will be removed.

-5. Final Word/NSFW. Moderators have the final word. If we deem something unsuitable, we remove it. If you deem something unsuitable, report it, don’t pick a fight over it. Due to concerns raised by our subscribers, pictures of shirtless/showing a lot of “décolletage” will be marked as NSFW. Full nudity will be removed. Injury content will be removed. Links to such will be removed.

-6. Please do not judge others' motivation for posting - there's no such thing as karma-whoring here! Accusations of such and rudeness may result in bans.

-7. Age (U13) & reddit's content policy: Minimum age to post is 13 years old, so behave around them! There is a difference between telling someone they look pretty and then sexualising them/their attributes.

-8. No Sexual Comments: Applies to all ages. Comments resorting to sexual comments/sexually harassing will be removed and the responder risks being banned.

-9. Self Harm/Suicidal Ideations: Posts prominently showing self harm scars/injuries or express current thoughts of suicide will be removed and OP will be directed to support. Remember, if you feel this way, please seek professional help. Toastme and Reddit is in no way a substitute for real life help.

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-As positive a place as this is, there are still "ne'er do wells" who forget how to talk to people like proper human beings. Please let the mods know if you are getting Private Messages (PM's) as a result of posting on Toastme which upset or harass you. If you do not wish to receive PM's from anyone except trusted users, visit the desktop version of your Reddit settings profile here and set it accordingly.

Resources

In a Crisis?

This sub and its moderators are not equipped to handle mental health crises and suicidal ideations. If you are having such thoughts or are in a crisis, please check out our resource post: For those of us that are in the darkest of places.

/r/toastme

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16m, had a lot of people take shots at my looks recently

1 Comment
2024/05/20
07:13 UTC

46

M25 Sometimes I feel like I’m not enough.

4 Comments
2024/05/20
05:19 UTC

85

Feeling quite off about myself! 25M

11 Comments
2024/05/18
16:14 UTC

41

Feeling down (25M)

4 Comments
2024/05/18
07:44 UTC

56

My gf parents hate me for no reason, feeling really down❤️‍🩹

15 Comments
2024/05/18
03:33 UTC

110

22F single mom. Can you say something that can boost my confident? Feeling down this past few months 🥺

20 Comments
2024/05/18
00:53 UTC

50

18M been going pretty hard in the gym but haven’t really been getting any recognition, what do you think?

16 Comments
2024/05/15
22:13 UTC

27

I’m going on a solo trip to Los Angeles in 2 months and I’m looking forward to it. I’ll need a toast!

I often post lots of negative stuff on this app because I’ve been going through so much and it started to break me and I’m starting to get tired of being strong….. it also made me feel unloveable and alone….

I’ve tried different therapist a few time and none of them were helpful for me and they just told me to go some bars or clubs to put myself out there and it made me frustrated because I dislike bars and clubs…..

So I decided to solo travel this year and I did went to Los Angeles before but I was just hanging out with family and this is gonna be my first solo trip and I’m sort of excited…!

3 Comments
2024/05/15
03:01 UTC

67

29YO Millennial here trying to adult in life. Do I merit a toast?

Hi! My spirits are currently a bit down & thought I could benefit from some pep.

Not much to say really. I currently am working a 9-5 job, going to school part-time to get an AA, caring for aging parents (Dad has Parkinson’s & Mom has heart problems), being a caregiver to the LOML who is currently battling brain cancer (Glioblastoma) for ~2 years now, all while trying to manage my own personal life, keep my faith intact, pay property taxes (homeowner) & insurance in time, & going to therapy and learning to manage recent ADHD diagnosis.

11 Comments
2024/05/15
00:15 UTC

96

Currently in the middle of the “finding a new job” process and it’s hitting me hard. The constant rejections after the interviews is really taking it’s toll on me

11 Comments
2024/05/14
14:26 UTC

106

Wanted to say thanks again to all the awesome people in this sub who helped me get out of my little slump last week, truly do appreciate it! Almost halfway through the week folks, you’ve got this!

6 Comments
2024/05/14
12:55 UTC

34

In need of a little love. Girlfriend of 7 years decided to leave me.

12 Comments
2024/05/14
04:03 UTC

249

Y’all, i got asked to perform for the first time in a decade

All my own solo compositions. Wtf is even happening

59 Comments
2024/05/14
03:32 UTC

68

29F, any compliments welcomed

26 Comments
2024/05/14
00:45 UTC

121

Been depressed for a while now, today's my birthday and no one wished me. Insanely lonely, no friends, never been in a relationship on account of being called ugly by many women. Feels like I won't find love.

63 Comments
2024/05/13
17:52 UTC

120

Got chosen to be in the Top 100 Innovators of 2024 for my work in men's mental health. Don't want to intrude on my guy's space, and have no one else to tell.

38 Comments
2024/05/13
03:58 UTC

109

25F who is feeling lonely and unloved. could use a toast pls!

30 Comments
2024/05/12
20:38 UTC

92

Please be gentle 💜

Just spent a few days in the hospital and was diagnosed with a heart condition and now I have Covid…please toast me 🙏

14 Comments
2024/05/12
20:25 UTC

65

Almost a Year of Being 30. Rejection Sensitivity Syndrome Desensitized. Took Charge of My BS. 20 Months of Weekly Therapy. Starting to Feel that Coveted Self Love

I moved from my hometown and settled 2k miles away 3 years ago. I’ve learned a lot of hard lessons alone and it’s been extremely, terribly difficult. However, because I knew what I needed and wanted, I did not run back home to be comfortable and away from the struggles. I learned that change is feared because of the instability that comes with it. But theres literally no other way to grow. There were things I needed to learn. Some easy, but mostly the hard way.

I feel better, wiser, more self-aware, and I finally got it through my thick a** skull that no one’s opinion of me has any bearing on my life. It still sucks, but I’m okay if someone doesn’t like me. I’m a better communicator, I’m not afraid to stand up for myself and being more assertive when just months ago I wouldn’t open my mouth and just take bullshit. I was a true doormat.

I now say no as a complete sentence. I strike back when I’m disrespected. I NOW HAVE BOUNDARIES AND IMPLEMENT THEM AND DON’T FEEL GULITY 😭 that was hard for me because people who I thought were my “ride-or-die” distanced themselves from me.

Most importantly. I’m okay with being alone. I don’t use people to fill a void within me and to have control anymore. I finally got that I can only control what is in my ability, and once my brain realized that, I instantly felt the weight lift from my shoulders.

It’s been the most freeing thing I’ve felt. Everyone I tell (except my therapist 🤣) doesn’t understand the magnitude of these things and how valuable they are for the quality of your life.

For anyone who truly understands the value of these things and has been here, or anyone trying to get there; I could really use someone telling me that I’m doing the right thing and I need to celebrate myself, win or lose.

8 Comments
2024/05/12
16:13 UTC

98

30 im dealing with some swelling due to meds but trying my best to make things work

15 Comments
2024/05/11
22:32 UTC

69

Just had a fight with my sister that's got me on the verge of tears so I need some positivity in my life.

12 Comments
2024/05/11
20:48 UTC

168

Got a few negative comments about the quality of my tattoos - now feeling pretty bad about my appearance & could do with a toast

67 Comments
2024/05/11
19:49 UTC

180

32F not in a great mental space, could use a good toast

59 Comments
2024/05/10
19:46 UTC

125

I reached 2000 minutes in a meditation app!

19 Comments
2024/05/09
23:52 UTC

88

I got pneumonia and feel super sick 🤒 finals are in less than a month, and I can’t even get out of bed

21 Comments
2024/05/09
16:02 UTC

42

(M16) I fucked up a bit and I think that a bit of love can’t be bad 😅

I’m a theater kid, I have to learn my texts since three weeks ago, I fucked up a bit with my friends, I think that a picture of my desk sums up my life

8 Comments
2024/05/09
13:11 UTC

116

Posted the other day and hope it’s ok to go again. Still feeling down and would love some nice words and encouragement.

21 Comments
2024/05/09
09:32 UTC

57

29M - Could do with a pick-me-up...

17 Comments
2024/05/08
21:30 UTC

270

Finally stopped crying because i cant unhear all the bad things about my looks that my ex said about me.

And somehow i feel guilty asking for strangers’ validation like he said i did but here i am anyway.

95 Comments
2024/05/08
20:27 UTC

46

(m21) I'm tired and have no motivation, try finding something positive that isn't the hat.

I'm overweight, constantly exhausted, haven't been able to do anything except go to work and go to bed, I kinda just feel bad all round. Good luck

6 Comments
2024/05/07
20:35 UTC

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