/r/toastme
Welcome to r/ToastMe! We are the polar opposite of r/RoastMe - only genuine and unique compliments by awesomely nice people are allowed here.
You don't have to state a reason why you want to be toasted! This sub is not only about being there for each other in bad times, but also to celebrate life and the good things that happen to you!
r/ToastMe is NOT affiliated with any product, app, external sites or other subreddits SFW OR NSFW. We will not promote such.
Rules
The full rules are found here. In summary see below:
-1. Be kind and make someone feel good! No insults. report any comments that violate this rule. Mods will deal with the bad behaviour.
-2. No advice. No ratings. ! Moderators will remove comments and/or posts that are asking for advice/ratings. Only comedy over-scores or full marks are acceptable
-3. All posts must contain a verification note. For full details: Brief: A physical sign/note with your u/ or username and "Toast Me!" on it, both clearly legible. Your username must match your account exactly! Verification featuring an image of a person CANNOT be digitally added. It must be a piece of paper or a physical object.
-4. Advertising/Self-Promotion: Toastme is not a subreddit for product advertisement, promoting a career or asking for money/donations (including youtube or similar). Posts outright asking doing so on the sub or by DM will be removed.
-5. Final Word/NSFW. Moderators have the final word. If we deem something unsuitable, we remove it. If you deem something unsuitable, report it, don’t pick a fight over it. Due to concerns raised by our subscribers, pictures of shirtless/showing a lot of “décolletage” will be marked as NSFW. Full nudity will be removed. Injury content will be removed. Links to such will be removed.
-6. Please do not judge others' motivation for posting - there's no such thing as karma-whoring here! Accusations of such and rudeness may result in bans.
-7. Age (U13) & reddit's content policy: Minimum age to post is 13 years old, so behave around them! There is a difference between telling someone they look pretty and then sexualising them/their attributes.
-8. No Sexual Comments: Applies to all ages. Comments resorting to sexual comments/sexually harassing will be removed and the responder risks being banned.
-9. Self Harm/Suicidal Ideations: Posts prominently showing self harm scars/injuries or express current thoughts of suicide will be removed and OP will be directed to support. Remember, if you feel this way, please seek professional help. Toastme and Reddit is in no way a substitute for real life help.
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Resources
In a Crisis?
This sub and its moderators are not equipped to handle mental health crises and suicidal ideations. If you are having such thoughts or are in a crisis, please check out our resource post: For those of us that are in the darkest of places.
/r/toastme
543,923 Subscribers
I've been having trouble with online dating, could use a boost. I'm slow to fully open up to people and people I like never stick around to actually get to know me. I just feel really disposable (m24)
16:01 UTC
school started again and my kidneys aren't working properly
15:30 UTC
Adulting hard or more like hardly adulting
09:34 UTC
Do I look dateable? Somewhat at least?
I needed to repost with a different picture because I needed to verify myself, this is current me, not old me lol. Here we go
21:52 UTC
In the process of leaving an emotionally and financially abusive relationship. Broke, scared, and sad.
29F, feeling very down after starting the process of leaving my 2.5 year relationship, where I have been lied to, gaslit, and manipulated until I was questioning my sanity and I did not recognize myself. He encouraged me to work less so I could find a career in my field, all the while breaking me down until I had no will to do anything to better myself. He convinced me not to worry about money and promised he would take care of me financially repeatedly. So now I have no savings, lots of debt, and only a bartending job to fall back on. I feel dumb for getting myself into this position, too old to be at this place in life, and scared of how I can possibly dig myself out of it. I’m also very sad to be single at 29, when I really want to get married and start a family.
21:37 UTC
It’s been a totally tiring year and we’re not even halfway through :(
18:50 UTC
i feel miserable, im 20, stuck in a relationship, and more depressed than usual. anything would be appreciated
11:56 UTC
Not feeling great lately. Father of two daughters of 2,5 yo and 4,5 months old. Diagnosed with depression (for few years) and ADHD (since September 2023). Desperately need a toast! [Also very tired]
10:31 UTC
31 F Broke up with my significant other of 4 years and in need of some uplifting
It was a situation where we were both unhappy and tried for a couple of years to fix it but it just wasn’t gonna work. I still care very much about this person even though I felt it was for the best of both of us that I leave. I’m worried that 31 is too old to start over even though I know that sounds ridiculous. Thanks for any kind words.
23:04 UTC
Bit of a down day - have been in burnout sick leave for some time now and having difficulty bringing myself up today
11:54 UTC
M/23 honestly struggle with multiple mental health issues, very hard on myself. Could use a few kind words
08:16 UTC
Hi all, 35/F. I fell and hurt my knee at work today. Also struggling with loneliness after being single for over a decade.
The title is only scratching the surface of what’s happening in my life. But for today: I’m a reporter for my town’s paper. I was trying to take pictures of the river line to show how water has receded since flooding earlier this week. I got a picture but thought I could get a better one. Ended up sliding in the mud and hurt my knee. I’m lying in bed with ice on it. I don’t think it’s broken but it hurts.
I love my job but it doesn’t pay well. I’m in a small town, so it’s the only place if I want to be in media, which I do. Anyway. Off the soapbox.
02:48 UTC
Lot has happened. Friend died, girl I was seeing for months and fell head over heels for left, nobody has talked to me in weeks. Phone is an expensive paper weight now. Could use a toast.
23:37 UTC
m30 never had gf and just got rejected again
14:10 UTC
23f i've been feeling inadequate, impossible to love deeply, and it's been affecting my mental health journey recently
i just need a little pick me up :')
02:26 UTC
Recently out Enby, been absolutely destroying all my clothes!
23:56 UTC
20F I got my hair done in the salon today :))
21:22 UTC
i’ve been feeling pretty low about myself recently. i could use some kind words.
21:05 UTC
feeling like poopoo
it’s been a rough week, don’t really know how to cheer myself up rn so here i am tryna find some nice people to maybe help me out. cause i really need it rn. thank you a lot guys <3 (p.s. i forgor to add verification in the last post so sorry if you have to see my face again)
18:23 UTC
Anxiety hitting hard. Haven’t heard any compliments in years. 32M
13:00 UTC
Posted here 104 days ago after an OD on Christmas Eve trying to take my own life. Now here I am, 51 days sober and in AA, working full time back in my career, working out, healthy and have just signed a lease to my first own apartment with a view of the beach. I’m so proud of myself. ❤️🧿✨
07:15 UTC
The last 8 months have been brutal. Tonight, im going to an event not because it’s ‘good for my mental health’ but just because i want to for the first time in months.
00:10 UTC
I’m a SpongeBob enthusiastic
23:33 UTC
Verification
16:53 UTC
Got broken up with after 3 years and it left my sense of self-worth in absolute pieces. Sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever be good enough for someone to stay. Could use a few kind words right now.
08:41 UTC
20F
01:43 UTC
Insanely stressed and out of psych meds, rly need a pick me up
18:25 UTC
Been in some kind of a rut lately. Could use some positivity.
16:16 UTC
(13f) feeling insecure after losing my best friend, toast me?
06:37 UTC
(19m) Too much of a pussy to post on r/amiugly, please toast me instead.
06:00 UTC