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Change my mind

All knowledge is a derivation from applied human cognition and human observation: perception. All reasoning is based upon human cognition. All conceptual frameworks, arguments, and axioms are developed by humans, including this. It is from this common understanding that I base my following argumentation on Metaepistemology and Metaphysics.

Given that humans are non-omniscient and incapable of omniscience, as individuals or viewed as a whole, the fundamental nature of existence is unknowable by humans for all of existence, even with immortality. A "being" with a state of omnicience cannot exist concurrently within the framework of its own existence, as it would have to know itself at any given moment, along with the addition of the reality in which it exists. Such a state of being requires an independence from time.

It is fundamentally impossible to posses absolute knowledge of the nature of reality, the laws or principles governing all of existence, without first knowing all of existence, all of time, and any other dimensionality. This can be supported by an exploration of theory. If an omniscient being, from outside our reality, somehow provided humanity with a blueprint of the universe, the laws governing the universe, and assuming the omniscient being knew this to be true and accurate, humanity could never fully know this to be true or accurate. Even if the blueprint allowed for the prediction of all events, humanity would have to be omnipresent, experience all events over all time, in order to know the absolute truth and validity of the blueprint, in a sense, to be omniscient themselvs. It would otherwise be possible that the blueprint only predicts the events that they are observing, and not the events of the rest of the universe, and therefore it cannot be proven with absolute certainty to be a true and valid blueprint of the universe. Nothing can be proven with absolute certainty without being omniscient. Without absolute certainty, all knowledge is theory, all reasoning is limited, and no law humans can devise is to be inherently certain.

Therefore all statements developing systems of value, morality, or purpose are to be inherently subjective of the human(s) devising such a system, and never to be a representation of an objective nature of reality itself. Any statments postulating absolute superiority or inferiority, absolute truth or falesity, are inherently flawed and cannot be a subjective of objective truth. While statments can be true or false within the assumptions of formal logic, the basis of formal logic itself is not to be a purveyor of reality itself, as formal logic, and the axioms within, are solely devised by human cognition, and not the complete processes of the universe. Objective truth, were it to exist and were not reality to be a formulation of absurdity, is unverifiable in absolute certainty. Hence all of human understanding, as a product of human cognition, is subjective in nature, dependent on one's perspective, and therefore limited in pure application.

We can make predictions that appear to have a state of absolute certainty. Ex, release a pen from your hand while on earth, and it will accelerate towards the center of mass of the earth until meeting resistance or a normal force. But even with our species' complex understanding of nature, there is always an inherent degree of uncertainty, for a curious observer. "Pragmatic" aspects of life however often override this uncertainty. We develop principles of virtue, ethics, purpose, meaning, in our own lives, and attempt to apply them to the lives of others, excluding humans using a nihilistic approach.

Through the application of cognition and perception, collectively, we have established widely accepted laws of theories of the nature of reality, through physics and philosophy. These laws are inherently subject to the limitations in pure application of the uncertainty bias all that all non-omniscient entities contain. Biologically speaking, we are often driven to interact and develop frameworks of living in ways that maximize the benefit to ourselfs and others, our reproduction and continued existence as a species, however such benefit is always subjective, contains exceptions, and can and does get exploited for deceitful purposes by individuals who wish harm on others for their own benefit. Many individuals, if not all, contain this peculiar drive to varying degrees, and apply it in ways which are not often able to be directly confronted, in order to avoid persecution.

It is with this understanding that I elect to terminate my existence at a moment of my own choosing, to no longer elect to engage in the absurdity of mankind.

Such a framework of understanding is often seen as an affront to the individuals in society who to higher degrees seek the harm of others for their personal benefit, as they lose the toys of their pleasure.

5 Comments
2024/05/12
01:24 UTC

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How would you feel if you knew that you won't ever have the thing you want the most?

How would you carry your life? Would you be able to forget this and live happily?

As for me, I'm M32 and never had a relationship. I know that won't change and I'll never go on happy without that part of life. I dont even want to live a life without that.

26 Comments
2024/05/11
23:49 UTC

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I will never treat someone of a different race differently, but I have a real mental problem with thinking differently. Can you help me (UK)

Almost as the question says. I hope to think I am not racist and I have never and hopefully will never treat someone in person different because of their race, but I keep having an inner monologue that thinks differently. When I meet someone at work, sometimes I think "hey you're really well spoken for a black guy", or just thinking that someone is alright for a Pakistani-born Muslim etc.

I want to want it, but my judgements keep coming back, even if they're positive rather than negative.

Help!

4 Comments
2024/05/11
23:14 UTC

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Should I jump the Xbox ship now??

It seems Xbox is going down a bad path and going to be abandoned by other players soon. I've just put so much time into all my games Ive bought and don't wanna start all over on the PS5. PC is out of the question as I don't have the money to keep up with all of the graphical updates, hardware expenses and I just prefer consoles.

6 Comments
2024/05/11
22:54 UTC

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Spending money feels useless

Bit of context:

I study full-time, living with my parents with basically zero expenses. I have a small company where i provide commentary services for e-sports and motorsports. This means i don't have a stable income.

Previously, i worked in a theme park where i worked every weekend, as well as working fulltime during the holidays. This means i essentially made the same amount of money every month.

Now i work whenever i want and whenever i want. Sometimes i have offers for way more than i'd usually make, but other times i make basically nothing in a month, depending on how quick invoices are paid.

Ever since i made the switch, i am always worrying about money. I'm in no trouble financially, but i just fail to enjoy anything i spend money on. Im always worrying, when i know i should not. How do i deal with this?

1 Comment
2024/05/11
22:43 UTC

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Genuinely why do prolife people have a problem if someone gets an abortion or not

I really dont understand why it matters so much?? Babies dont have a conscious until 3-4 months inside the womb and people normally get abortions before 12 weeks as well as ive seen many people have said even if someone gets raped that they should still have that baby

175 Comments
2024/05/11
22:37 UTC

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How would you feel if you are successful, but it's always been tough

I am successful and have a good life by most standards. I m very clear in my goals and I have been mildly fortunate in my choices. But when I look at people around me, observe or hear about their journeys, I can stop but notice how my journey for the same outcome has been tougher. Its so recurring that I feel even though I did good, I may have been lucky because it shouldn't have been this tough to begin with

10 Comments
2024/05/11
22:20 UTC

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How do other women treat you?

This question is geared towards women, but for the guys here I would also be curious to know your own observations you've seen with female friends or how other women have treated your partner.

For most of my (28F) life, it has always felt like other women react negatively to me, and I don't know why.

I am very quiet. I don't like speaking up or drawing attention to myself. I am not confrontational and hate eye contact. I have no clue how to be flirty and have no clue how to be sexy. I don't like the typical activities that other girls like to do together, either, so that makes it hard for me to go out and meet people.

So maybe all this could be the cause?

It seems like women I interact with lose their smile when they see or talk to me, they're tense or don't seem like they want to engage in conversation with me. Or at a lot of jobs I've had, my coworkers would make teasing jabs at me that felt more disrespectful or hurtful towards me than funny, though everyone else laughed so I did too. And as a kid, I've had experiences where I tried to go and sit with groups of girls, but they'd stop talking and sort of avoid looking at me or talking to me.

So I wanted to ask about women's experiences on here. In general, how do other women typically react to or treat you? Is it positive, negative, or a mix of both?

And how do you make friends as a woman?

To be honest, I feel like I dont understand my own gender at all. Sometimes I struggle to even know how to be a woman, too.

46 Comments
2024/05/11
19:23 UTC

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If humanity for some reason found out that they could never leave Earth (ie Kessler Effect or similar), what do you think would happen?

The Kessler Effect defined:

The Kessler effect suggests that when the amount of space debris in Low Earth Orbit (LEO) reaches a certain level, it will trigger a cascade effect in which this debris will be constantly colliding and breaking up to multiply the amount of debris, creating a permanent danger for any satellite of spacecraft in orbit.

Expanding on that further, at some point we will reach a "point of no return" where, say, we run out of non-renewable energy and/or have no means to generate enough energy to both leave Earth and expand our potential by harvesting extraterrestrial resources.

Do you think humanity would stagnate? Do we eventually become a hippy, simple people that learns to just "live as we are"? Do we become a collection of Nihlists?

I don't think this scenario would preclude continued scientific advancements, but I'd also foresee that, due to limitations in resources and exploration capability, that we would slow down. What's the point, really? Is there a societal equilibrium that we would reach, or would we just go through cycles of conflict until eventually we destroy ourselves enough to have to start over completely, which would mean we would probably never get back to our current level of technology owing to the inability to start another Industrial Revolution?

15 Comments
2024/05/11
17:38 UTC

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On migration and immigration

When I was young I believed some of the more conservative side of my parents could signal a hint of racism.

Now I realise that despite favouring libertarian views I have grown a substantial conservative mindset. The cause being this non-sense woke agenda that caters 0.2% of the population and forgets or forbids the needs of the majority.

Why did we come to a point where illegal migration is thriving?

If it affected only the one benefiting from those hypocritical policies I wouldn't mind but it affects everyone down to the migrant who wants genuinely to take the opportunity and contribute to the welcoming country society.

But all of that is wasted by the ones that once arrived will Profit of every flaw and loophole of the system to cheat it doing nothing while sometimes causing atrocious crimes.

The country becomes unsafe, the economy is overwhelmed in subventions and incentives request from the immigrants while not being able its very own people who worked hard all their life for a meager retirement check.

The society becomes xenophobic afraid of its own citizen and lose its own identity .

Our policies change to support the immigrants and thus our day-to-day life is harder with increased taxes as to support this circus.

Finally hard working migrants who will do efforts to integrate see their chance diminished by increased migration possibilities.

This general problem affects all of us and it makes god damn no sense.

I try to remain general as possible since it's continents wide issue. But I am just do frustrated of all of that.

Of course not everyone is the same. But damn it feels like it's fucked up.

I'm just tired of that.

65 Comments
2024/05/11
15:11 UTC

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The trade off between freedom and security is a false dichotomy

I don't see why government can't deliver both freedom and security. I don't care what the masses think the government is doing, or should be doing for them. It is not delivering freedom and security for my kind.

We should be free to travel wherever we want. I am not. We should be secure wherever we travel. I am not. I am not even free and secure in Delhi NCR, India, the place of my birth and residence.

I don't vote. Promise me freedom and security. And tell me how you will deliver this. Only then will I consider voting for you.

39 Comments
2024/05/11
10:45 UTC

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What can one do protect your human rights, when the authorities don't do so, instead are part of the problem?

Is it alright to do to your enemies what they do to you? Especially when the authorities don't stop them. And they may also be responsible for violating your human rights.

I have been damaged physically and mentally, I can barely walk or lift things, and there are huge holes in my memory. A few months ago I had breathing problems, was tortured with needles, was detained, was sleep deprived, was starved and dehydrated.

Now I am better, but still am physically weak, struggling to walk and lift things. Still struggle to fall asleep. And I believe that my property is regularly violated, including my mind, body, home, and possessions. And I am under constant surveillance and am stalked in public and cyberspace.

If the law doesn't protect me, what should I do? Ask my allies to protect me? Can I implement proportionate deterrence? Can all those working in a conspiracy against me with my violators, be held responsible? I can get past my recent detention and torture, and not implement any retroactive deterrence.

But is present and future proportionate deterrence morally justified? I suspect members of the Shadow, Indian authorities, American authorities, and the local community. If you don't want to be held responsible for violation of human rights, stop working with them in a conspiracy against me.

I have not decided what action to take or recommend. I want to think things through before deciding. Until then I recommend no deterrence, because I am too weak - and afraid of their threats to cut of my legs, blind me etc. I will assume for now that deterrence will only make them behave more badly.

P.S. Cyberstalkers, members and supporters of the authorities etc. need not respond

"I have found the enemy, and the enemy is is"

3 Comments
2024/05/11
08:06 UTC

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Which country do you think is the most liberal and not racist?

Is there such a country? Would be great if there is, we could all learn from its secret formula.

A related question would be, is it a successful and prosperous country?

51 Comments
2024/05/10
23:53 UTC

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A major change that had a significant impact on you and your life?

Lately, as I consider making a huge change in my life and also get a little busier than I used to be, I've been wondering how much it rlly matters.

As the days fly by and I get caught up in the little things, these bigger things seem more trivial. Like they're background details that you don't even pay attention to on average. Given my current experience, I wonder if it's worth it to make a major change and shift countries (according to my original plan)? Something I've looked forward to for very long.

It feels like I'm overstating its impact on my life. Like it won't matter all that much, eventually. Like the days will just fly by and it'll be another little detail in the backdrop.

Was there a major change in your life that did indeed significantly impact you or your quality of life? I don't mean an event that changed your perspective. I mean, something more tangible. A real change to your life, if you will.

4 Comments
2024/05/10
19:31 UTC

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Can turning off the lights and having looking at my phone screen at full brightness in the dark close by affect my vision permanently?

I’m kinda worried rn because feels like my vision isn’t as perfect as before this happened.The screen was 2 inches away from my face because wanted to see if something was in my nose so used the bath light then still was looking at my eyes phone while I turned the light off but phone brightness was at highest brightness while still looking at my phone.I saw gray when I had did that and since I feel like I have to squint to look at my tv or focus on something

3 Comments
2024/05/10
17:53 UTC

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time flying by is the scariest thing

i've heard so many times that you blink and you turn 30, and then another blink and your whole life is behind you. i'm 18 and can't get this off my mind. i'm at the end of my freshman year and it went by pretty fast. i can only imagine how fast the rest of college will be, i'll blink and i'm holding my diploma.

it is it inevitable? if you live your life to the fullest, is it still like that? or like, do you just come to terms with it?

41 Comments
2024/05/10
17:41 UTC

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Is someone still worthy of living if they fucked up in the past?

As they were known for tantrums/acting out, hurting people like family and friends, and being a bully or just flat out mean. There is also committing crimes and ending up in prison, like DUI, robbery, and . There are many people that are known for their bad deeds/the hurtful things that said and know they can't take back.

Why is it better to life if a person has fucked up and has to live with the consequences of those actions? Forgiving yourself doesn't feel like the best option because it comes off as being proud of what you did, which it isn't true. Self-pity/feeling sorry for yourself about what you did isn't okay either. I know a person's past doesn't define them, but their consequences are still have an effect on them.How di reconcile with past actions that you're not proud of?

The best option is suicide, which is very risky, and know some people who did bad things don't do it. It feels like the best option.

21 Comments
2024/05/10
17:33 UTC

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You don't have to justify anything you do to anyone. You can do whatever you want since you will bear the responsabilities of your actions

Basically what the title say.

You have the right to live your life as you want but that doesn't mean you will be free from the consequences of your actions

39 Comments
2024/05/10
17:25 UTC

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The Homo Sapiens will go the way of dinosaurs

Most mammalian species go extinct within a few million years. Dinosaurs lasted longer, but they were not mammals. Their descendants survive in a much diminished form in birds. Humans may be replaced by their descendants. Dinosaurs, it was suspected, became extinct due to external forces, like environmental change, due to a large asteroid strike. But humans, it is suspected, will be the architects of their own demise.

There are many existential risks to humans. In the next few decades, we are facing many risks. Including environmental risks, like climate change, failure of ecosystem services, leading possibly to food or water crisis. We could also be challenged by intelligent machines, who are our creation and now we control; but if they become intelligent enough to set their own goals and constraints, and learn the ability to survive and grow in numbers and intelligence, they will compete with us for finite resources on earth and nearby.

Humanity could also bifurcate and mutate, into a new species adapted to the changing environment, or we could use genetic engineering to create a more resilient species; either way the old species might become extinct. Or we could find the only or best way to survive, is to merge with the intelligent machines.

So while I am worried about the extinction of humans, within the next few centuries, I am hopeful that our descendants will survive in a new form.

What do you think is the future of humans, and other intelligent life?

"There are more things on heaven and earth, than are dreamt of in your philosophy"

23 Comments
2024/05/10
14:29 UTC

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Yeah after I made my post about the money laundering report I feel guilty for some reason.

Really can't explain it. They didn't say anything, they were very kind and understanding. Wrote a report and redirected it to another institution.

Their is still yet to be a answer to my report but I did my civil duty I guess idk.

But after it is something a lot of people don't talk about I guess. A HUGE amount of guilt and doubts and what ifs.

I can't really explain it and a simple " you did the right thing" and " Don't worry about it" doesn't comfort you at all.

To be fair even if they found something I would feel guilt.

I realise that the " Snitches get stitches" mentality is overwhelming our mentality as a society. That why probably a lot of people for some reason tolerate corruption and criminal behaviour.

Now my situation is still ongoing but it's stressing me the F out for no reason.

No I am not in harms way. No it's not a group or a organisation it's about a individual. I can't imagine their stress,but the weird thing is it's all cultural what ifs.

The police didn't turn me down they didn't tell me to go away and they listened to everything. They did tell me they will not investigate it at this stage, but will send it to my equivalent to the IRS to do a audit.

That's it I guess just needed a please to write it down.

14 Comments
2024/05/10
13:40 UTC

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Hey world: WAKE THE FUCK, UP!!!

A large part of the world's problems relates to our labeling ourselves and relating ourselves as separate groups-religions, ethnics, geographics, sexual orientations, belief systems of all kinds instead of just accepting we are all just people and very much alike.

People go through life concentrating on what they don't have instead of being thankful for what they do have. This is not the road to success or happiness. I can not understand people who claim to believe in god fighting over their belief in god being better or the only way to believe in god. How people who believe in god think THEY can say how god intended man to be sexually oriented or what god says they must believe in.

Even with the too many people who already inhabit this planet there is indeed room for everybody to live and there is food enough for everybody to eat. Fighting over land, specially when so much of it was unused throughout the ages serves what purpose?

It's not funny how the evolution of man can be measured easily by the improvements in efficiency of man to kill man but the ability of man to live with man is nearly immeasurable.

Each and everyone of us is born with a ticking clock. When your clock runs down there is no re-winding the main spring. How does wasting even a second of your life hating, benefit you? You'll never get that time back. There are productive things to do with your very limited time. A thought for the day-THINK about it next time: "does this hate/anger improve my life?" "Does it help others?" "IS IT REALLY WORTH WASTING MY LIFE OVER?" Spend your seconds, minutes, hours, days on things that have value! While you still can!

WAKE THE FUCK, UP!

For each and every one of us, one day it WILL be too late!

25 Comments
2024/05/10
09:46 UTC

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Wealth and power gained, but at what human cost?

Some people are born wealthy or powerful, and don't have to make personal sacrifices or take advantage of others to gain them. But it takes hard work, moral flexibility, selfishness etc. to acquire a lot more personal wealth and power, through your life.

That is why most political and business leaders, and the the largest organisations they lead, are suspect. Who have they taken advantage of, and what personal sacrifice of their leaders and stakeholders?

"It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man, to go to heaven." - Jesus Christ

25 Comments
2024/05/10
09:15 UTC

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I have time for myself this weekend

Should I stay inside the house for the entire weekend and get cabin fever but be at least be comfortable or face my agoraphobia and get outside like I always want to do but always make excuses for myself?

3 Comments
2024/05/10
06:52 UTC

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Does anyone else feel like they’re meant to be alone?

I’m 18f a senior who will very soon graduate from high school. During my high school I have not succeeded in having meaningful relationships. Either friendship or relationship wise, I’ve never had a boyfriend and making genuine friends feels nearly impossible. I’ve always struggled with chronic loneliness since I’ve felt lonely since elementary school. I moved a lot for a couple of years but that was never a problem for my siblings since they achieved making close friends and my sister(17) and brother(14) succeeded in romantic relationships.

Meanwhile I am just an introverted loner who tried several attempts to make friends but it always goes wrong. Even though there are around 8.1 billion humans on this earth it feels like I’m just made to be alone. I’ve recently been or at least trying to come to terms with it but it feels better than just getting your hopes up and seeing your attempts didn’t matter. What made me give up completely was after prom since the school year started my mom has been getting on my back about going with someone either a date or a friend and I just ended up going alone. My dad has told me if I keep this up I’ll be alone and my sister said you either got it or don’t, neither of them understand

If you ever listed to that song Here by Alessia Cara that’s how I feel most of the time. I feel like a shadow majority of time something people know exist but don’t bother to acknowledge. If I couldn’t succeed in creating close relationships while I was in school what chance do I have once I’m out in the real world? I’ll just truly be on my own. Have any of you ever felt this way before? People have told me not to give up but nothing has convinced me not to. Are there people who are truly meant to be alone?

26 Comments
2024/05/10
01:33 UTC

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How does having ADHD as an adult affect your day to day life? And what do you wish those around you could understand about how it affects you?

I'm curious to know more about this since my fiancé has ADHD. And I think it's helpful to hear from people's personal experiences.

What are some of your daily struggles, and how do you usually cope? What are your personal strategies?

What are some things you wish people understood more about ADHD and how it affects your day to day life?

How has it affected you in your school and work life?

My fiancé began vaping nicotine in high school to help him cope since the medication his doctor at the time put him on didn't help at all.

I'd like to get him off it completely (he's starting to cut back and use it less thankfully, and also wants to quit), so I have been thinking about ways I can help/teach him to cope in a healthier way with his ADHD.

57 Comments
2024/05/09
22:12 UTC

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Stop telling Gen Z to grow up, tell them to Show up

Humble disclaimers: This post may or may not actually be helpful if your not an American gen Z and this post may help you if you have been; A trying to push your Gen Z manchild/womenchild out of your house B are that manchild/womenchild trying to show up in the world. C want to help young ppl flourish. I'm aware that gen Z was raised in a less than helpful way and yet It's still our responsibility to adult somewhat like other adults.

I'm 25 I have the helicopter parent, sheltered existence, sheltered and physically safe childhood. In a way this post is for me but I feel compelled to say it where others can read it. Other than my mom, I've had older people tell me to 'grow up' ya know what I mean; move out, go to college, meet someone, start a family, get a job. When I hear someone say 'grow up' that short list and what those things relate to is what I think of.

Early on I realized the college part isn't a catch all, spend any amount of time on the internet learning about student debt and the student debt crisis or anything else related to colleges and student debt it quickly becomes apparent that this is a 'societal pot hole' for most people my age. Housing is expensive unless living with roommates or out in the middle of no where. Tiny homes and tiny rooms is really want is on the housing menu for Gen Z, at least as far as I'm aware. Labor market is tricky because there are plenty of jobs but they expect the world and give you some dirt in return. Become an expendable cog in a machine that will never actually care about you unless you do something invaluable to them but most gen Z don't bring that kind of value to a company. Dating is done on apps and it's an ocean of unsatisfied people with the crest of the wave being those who found love or some kind of medium term or longer relationship.

I know I sound like a doomer, when someone says 'grow up' to me it sounds more like 'Follow the status quo'. I think it's more open ended and empowering to tell someone like me 'Show up' Show up the in the world. The boomers and gen x haven't served us well so why carry around their ideas of what being an adult look like? Every generation does adulting in their own way, so leave it to gen Z to decide what 'adulting' looks like to them.

How we (Gen Z) get there is another thing. Encourage us to take the risk and challenge ourselves not because we have to but because it's fulfilling. Video games and social media are never going to fulfill us. "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step" but what it should be is "A journey of a thousand miles begins, continues and finishes with a single step" Failure is not the end, Failure is an integral part in progress. I don't care what someone does they failed and probably failed a lot before they were good or decent at something. Our lives may be unfair because of the things I said in the 'doomer section' or just because life is unfair anyway but it's still our responsibility to find our own path in life. It always was OUR responsibility to show up. Now if you excuse me I need to take my own advice.

Reader, What do you think?

126 Comments
2024/05/09
20:10 UTC

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Can adult humans sustain injuries from foxtail grasses just like dogs/pets do?

I've found one article/mention of it online, on the Poison Control (?) website @ poison.org ... other than that, there are a few articles I've found in various medical journals but nothing really for "the public"....

my question is, can/do humans sustain injuries from foxtail & foxtail-esque grasses/vegetation (ie, diaspore (?) type plants, although I'm not sure if I'm using that term correctly here... I'm thinking of things like tumbleweeds though, in addition to foxtail-type grasses), just like dogs and cats do? I am aware that it's obviously not as likely to happen to adult humans however, if someone was to get in say, an ATV accident or something and ended up getting dragged through some foxtails or tumbleweeds or whatnot, couldn't the same thing happen to an adult human, that happens to dogs? for example, foxtails getting embedded via mouth/nasal passages/cavities, ears, etc?

2 Comments
2024/05/09
19:25 UTC

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How is it possible for me to be a misogynist without me knowing I'm a misogynist?

I made a few posts here a while ago that went into me having rape fantasies about women I've been attracted to for years. Two days ago, I made another posts on the sub r/psychologyofsex(Which has since been taken down) where I asked people for insight about the electrical and chemical processes occurring in the brain that make certain people prone to having such thoughts, specifically how the brain links having power and sexual pleasure. Which most people didn't even bother touching upon. As you'd expect, I had multiple people claim I was just misogynistic. I can't really complain about that, it's not like the context of my fantasies, and my profile activity, doesn't involve depicting women in clearly degrading manners.

But when I tried explaining that my fantasies weren't actually driven by hatred towards women, one specific commenter pretty much said I was misogynistic without being aware. Of course I argued against that, since that idea makes little sense to me, and that's when things went off course and got messy. That last part's kinda besides the point of this post though. I'm just adding context. What I want to do here is explain my mentality on this situation and see if anyone can make that commenter's idea make sense. I get that repressed feelings are a thing, but this seems a bit outlandish for me. But I've been wrong before so...here goes my side of this little debate.

Argument One:

So, the first thing I want to bring up about their statement that I disagree with is them saying I'd been "socialized" to believe I deserve power over women, basically implying that was the core reason for my fantasy. There's two problems with that angle. One being that I wasn't "socialized" to believe this. Nearly every member of my family, both male and female, were pretty damn adamant about making sure I didn't grow up thinking like that. Another being that...well, I don't think I deserve power over women. I've got no reason for thinking that. If you ask me, the only logical reason to say someone "deserves" power over anyone is if they have the capacity and drive to make life better for others. If not for society at large, then at least for the person/community/group that puts them into power. That's not how things would go if I had power over a woman. I'd likely end up making life harder for her. Not out of malicious intent, mind you, but because I generally screw up more things in life than I get right. And I'm still quite dependent on my family. I can't even take care of myself as well as a guy my age should, how would I be able to take of another person? That doesn't really make sense.

Argument Two:

This one of the more obvious(At least to me) reasons that I don't think my fantasies are driven by misogyny. Speaking bluntly, I don't feel anger or hatred towards the women I fantasize about. It's just that I like imagining scenarios that give me power over them. I don't select my imaginary victims by how much they piss me off. Most of them are just actresses I know from various horror/thriller flicks I'm into and I'm just picking them because I know they play victims well and they're sexy(Again, at least to me). The only anger I usually feel during these thoughts is at myself for being insecure enough to resort to them to feel powerful. And I logically know that's not anyone's fault. I'm insecure because of my own shortcomings, not because of any bad things girls have done to me.

With all that context laid out, and taking into account that I'm consciously able to acknowledge the fact that I've got no logical motive for thinking I deserve power over women and/or having general hatred for them, I really don't see how I'd be dealing with some unconscious misogyny here. Does anyone else have another view I've failed to consider? I'd be genuinely interested in them.

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2024/05/09
17:55 UTC

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My second grandpa passed away two months after my first grandpa - I don't know how to feel? It still isn't really getting to me.

My first grandfather passed away in mid-February, he was 85 years old. At the news of his death I was in despair, heartbroken, I couldn't get it together for many days. We had a great bond and I loved him very much.

Today I was informed that my other grandfather died (he was 93). Upon hearing the news, I just locked myself in my room and have no desire to talk to anyone or eat or do anything. However, I can't fall into despair like I did upon hearing about my first grandfather, I'm just not able to. I feel like my head is light, I feel bad, but I am also unable to believe it. It doesn't get to me yet.

It's all happening so fast, I haven't yet had time to go through the grief of my first grandfather thoroughly and I've already lost my second, my only one.... I don't know how to feel, I can't even express my emotions, all I feel is emptiness and I consider this year tragic.... I lost two grandparents in such a short interval and I don't know if I can cope with it. I know - some may write that it's a beautiful age and they would like to live to such an age (me too) but the two huge losses I am experiencing this year may finish me completely... I don't know how to feel... Nor whether I will be able to cope.

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2024/05/09
16:11 UTC

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How to boost your self-confidence and stop caring about what others think?

I am a 17 year old boy who really need to get my self-confidence up and also stop caring what others think. My lack of it makes everything from friend or family relationships to my role as a sports coach, standing up for myself and my daily life much more difficult. It also makes me a worse person tbh.

A few years ago my self-esteem and confidence was great and high but now it’s at a low point. I’ve tried my best to fix it but I don’t know how and I’m really tired to feel bad about, judge myself and overthink at this point.

Does anyone have any tips? :)

17 Comments
2024/05/09
14:20 UTC

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