I'm feeling so much overwhelmed and emotional mentally paralyzed. At times I just feel like crying and I'm letting my soul down. I'm 27, and it feels that I've already given up on life. I don't even have the mental emotional strength and resilience. Anything I do just feels unhappy. We have Diwali celebration and I'm not even feeling the festival vibes. Because everything in my life just feels ruined. Since my mind is become garbage, my perspective has become the same way. And I just really have no clue how to get myself out this rut.

Im just basically living in constant fear, shame and doubts. Sometimes I just feel like taking the necessary steps towards actions but feelings and emotions come in the way and I end up not doing it. You know how you have to do repetitive boring things to get somewhere in life and even the beginning is hardest.. this is literally where I fail and where I'm at in life for the past 7 years now. I'm not overcoming the past bad experience and failures. I tend to live in victimization mindset as if something is wrong or something I'm lacking. I just feel that at the end of the day, I'm just a normal person who lacks confidence and clarity. I know my self esteem is down and I'm not putting effort. I'm hungry for guidance. Idk honestly.

My grandma thought it would be a funny idea,she wants to make me into her clone lol,it would be funny to prank old people playing bingo at a retirement home

I have learned in the past few years these self proclaimed chronic illness influencers do not GAF about awareness. They paywall information and lie, misinterpret research and gaslight the masses bc it gives them money and views. And the lies and misinformation they spread directly create the stigma they claim to be against. They make it harder for ppl to take ppl like me who CAN die of an illness that they turned into a trendy self diagnosis to get taken seriously if I go into the ER for care.

The exploitation of diseases is crazy, the new rules r crazy. I’m sick of being told how I should feel by self diagnosed misinformation spreaders.

These “support communities” actually r the most toxic and hateful places ever.

I was kicked out/banned on a sub that was for my condition because I made a post about misinformation I saw and how it was concerning. Perm banned for “gatekeeping”. News flash, if someone is not allowing u to combat misinformation there is an anterior motive.

Conditions in and of there selves r not meant to inclusive? There’s diagnostic criteria’s for a reason. I didn’t know debunking misinformation that I’m gatekeeping? Nope science is not my fault.

But I’m not allowed in a community anymore for having a different opinion based on facts. I’m not allowed to have support to make ppl without my illness who self diagnosed an don’t fit criteria so they can feel better.

I’m sorry it’s all bs and I’m sick of the romantisization of illness online as well. I’m grossly disgusted at the world.

What’s up everyone, I’m not going to write a long and detailed post as far all of my life details, however for context I’m a 26 year old male and I live with my mother, I’m feeling very positive about moving into my car soon and I believe it will lead to a breakthrough in my life. What are your thoughts on this?

Why did money and power become so important? Why is a degree so important? Ultimately, what is our goal in life? Is it to seek happiness? But, why do these vain things become so important that without them life would be miserable? The quote “Money cannot buy happiness.” is something I don’t agree to. Without money, is it really possible to be happy in this world? Our lives here are fleeting and we never know if we’ll die the next second… So, why do we have to try so hard in life and stress over systems that were created by our fellow humans? I want to explore the world, help people and show affection to the people I love, but in a society where money and power is important even that is hard. Thus, my main point is why did we evolve so much that we just proceed to create more problems for ourselves?

(sorry if it’s unclear… it’s my first post and my head is quite muddled with so many questions (

Someone was using my name and send one of my family relatives a text msg and this small issue turned into a big problem. I don't even know who used my name and send this text msg. Now that I'm trying to prove my point that it was not me. They don't want to believe me. I showed them my phone and said everything but it is like they are getting more upset towards me. At this point I don't even know what to do. I was just told by a family member that don't prove your point anymore. If they don't want to listen to you then there is no point. I feel so wronged today and it's the festivals. Like I don't even talk with my relatives and I don't know whoever this person is that is bad naming me behind my back. I just feel so overwhelmed and dishearted.

I'm trying to optimize/organize all my accounts/databases, but lacking motivation…

Damn these cyber criminals, I think my thinking, was to keep everything decentralized, confusing, unorganized, & then no sane hacker with 5 minutes to spare would bother destroying my online presence, dumb idea I guess…

Well, my advice to others now is to keep your accounts DOWN. I know cyber security experts are bitting their tongue now, but it's just getting RIDICULOUS. So why complicate your online presence more than necessary?

Seriously, God bless you Google with all this excellent standardized freeware and account integrations.

Premise 1: The evolution of life on exoplanets or solar system ice moons is a morally significant event.

Premise 2: The possible outcomes of evolution on these celestial bodies are numerous and varied.

Premise 3: The range of possible outcomes in terms of well-being or suffering is extremely large.

Premise 4: Near-future microbial contamination of planets is likely to result in a sub-optimal or negative outcome for an enormous number of animals, leading to widespread suffering.

Conclusion: Therefore, humanity has a moral obligation to exercise restraint and prevent interplanetary and interstellar forward contamination for many years, lest it forfeit its moral justification for continued existence, since the astronomical suffering at stake may never be possible to compensate afterward anymore, as per the trolley problem.

Meanwhile, the space industry globally is still growing exponentially, which is intolerable.

Hi there. I’m a M/23, currently working as a chef in Canada. Things are going well and I love my job, I love cooking for people. But recently, I’ve been feeling drawn to Fashion Design. Not a random interest tho, as I’ve been into arts for most of my life, and my current career path is related to arts (as in culinary arts). It’s just that Fashion has been a strong interest my whole life (I can say the same as my passion for cooking), and I’ve been drawn to pursue it lately. Should I try pursuing both, which I’m not sure if I can divide my full attention on both career path? Should I leave the food industry to go to fashion school? Should I just stick to my current career path?

The job market is competitive and I’m grateful that I have a set career in the food industry. But, there’s this feeling that I would regret it later if I did not try to pursue fashion. Quarter life crisis incoming lol.

All advices and perspective are welcomed :) Thanks a lot.

How do you overcome insecurity?

I 17f so badly want to be confident in myself and wear the clothes I want but I am overwhelmed by my body dysmorphia. I feel like I’m trapped in my own skin and I’ve felt this way since I was 10.

I live in an area where most people are very stick thin; I’m not overweight and don’t have a double chin or anything like that, but I am a little bit thicker with some stretch marks. I feel so insecure all the time because i can’t wear the clothes I wanna wear without feeling fat.

I used to be overweight and have had an on and off ed since I was about 11 or 12. At my heaviest, I was 15 and got called fat for the first time to my face and now everywhere I go I think that’s what people see even though I’ve lost some weight since then.

I don’t know what to do. I am insanely insecure and expected it to sort of subside gradually when I was younger but it is exactly the same. How do you deal with this?

S/H TW

"They're just S/Hing for attention" ...and?? Like "oh you got stabbed? I need to know why you got stabbed, so I can determine whether or not to call an ambulance" Since when did we villainize attention as of we're not social creatures?

"Nobody listens to you, nobody cares about your well-being, nobody bats an eye towards you and when you talk about your problems you're shut out, you can't afford a therapist and your friends only use you for your looks or your resources. But you want attention?? You hurt yourself so someone notices your problems?? Your feelings are invalid and nobody cares about you. I'll publicly shame you and spread rumors about you and how you're only doing this for attention."

No matter WHAT the reason is. S/H is always a problem. They don't just "want" attention, they need it so bad they're willing to risk their lives and permanently injure themselves for it. We're social creatures, we need attention. No matter how small it is, and people who S/H for attention have been starved of it. We should help them instead of bullying them, S/H isn't some sort of joke.

It's not like they're PRETENDING to hurt themselves, they don't bleed, get scars, wounds, bruises, ect. just for you to say that they're 'acting like' they're getting hurt. Maybe they aren't doing it for attention, maybe they are, what does it matter??? They're hurting themselves and their reasoning doesn't make it less painful for them or serious.

I'm not gonna quit but it's weird to have to reorganize patterns of thinking and identities you have held onto for years. Some of them I'm still too stubborn to let go of. Simply because I'm afraid if I do that I won't do anything anymore.

Hi. I am from France and live in Ireland for many years.

Back in April I got a specialist blood test done in France (called OGTT). I got the results from the tests within 3 days and via email.

The results were borderline & decided to get a repeat of the test in Ireland in August.

I was warned it could take 2 months to get the results, but it is now almost 3 months and I still haven't got the results. It was done at a hospital & I have communicated with the secretary via email. She did send me an email back last month to let me know they would update me when they get the results.

When I heard nothing from them I sent a new email last week, but got no reply.

Same test in France, not only did I get my results in 3 days, I also didn't have to 'chase' to get the results.

This also applies for other blood tests. In France we get the results via email as standard and not in Ireland.

Because of these 2 very different experiences in 2 different countries, I am curious how does this compare to other countries?

I remember people who lived very middle class or on the cusp lose everyhing. Like no longer in the same schools. No longer having birthday parties. As a child it was confusing but looking back I see how people's lives were upturned overnight.

My dad was explaining how it impacted their friend group and my friend group but there was no real way to explain that to kids so what we noticed kinda got talked around. Like people who got new homes but there weas no furniture. Or people moving away to cheaper areas.

I’m currently preparing for the LSAT, and I'm finding it challenging not knowing which law school I want to attend or what type of law I want to practice. It feels like there’s an expectation from others—though no one says it outright—that I should already have my top law schools picked out and a clear career path in mind. I can sense their judgments, which adds to my stress.

A law professor who has been a mentor to me advised that I should focus on getting into law school first rather than stressing about those specifics right now. While she encouraged me to research schools, I’ve decided to concentrate solely on doing my best on the LSAT.

I believe that being financially prepared for law school and obtaining scholarships is crucial, and I see doing well on the LSAT as the main way to achieve that. Is there anything wrong with my focus and preparation plans? How should I adjust my approach? I’d appreciate any advice or insights!

This question gets to the heart of something so many people struggle with: the balance between fulfillment and security. On one hand, following your passion sounds like the ideal path, allowing you to work on something that genuinely excites and motivates you. People often say, “Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.” But what if that passion doesn’t offer financial stability, or has a high risk of burnout?

On the other hand, choosing a stable career—something with predictable income, benefits, and room for growth—can feel secure and even smart. But if it doesn’t spark joy, could it lead to feeling trapped or unfulfilled over time?

It's a debate between pursuing happiness now and securing comfort for the future. Some say you should do what you love on the side while working a stable job, but others argue that this can leave you stretched thin, with neither path getting your full energy. So, what do you think? Is it worth risking comfort for passion, or is it smarter to choose stability even if it’s less exciting?

I'm nearly 30 and I feel like I've wasted my life.

I've been in the food service industry for most of my jobs since I turned 18. I've always felt so stupid and daft (was homeschooled all my life until community college) so I stuck with jobs that I thought matched my intelligence level.

But now I am married and I don't want to just take whatever food service job is out there and whatever pay they're willing to give me.

I want to ensure my husband and I have a good future moving forward, especially if we end up having kids.

Am I foolish for finally getting serious about a career now? Should I just stick with what I know, or try and put myself out there?

When did you all find the career path you wanted to take? How long did it take you to feel like you "made it" in life?

Yeah I know I have been discussing morality. I just finished an online course on morality from Yale. Everyone should have a basic understanding of morality and psychology. Morality is personal, while ethics is social; sometimes people use the words to mean the same. But everyone is discussing AI ethics, and to a lesser extent business ethics.

According to the professor, people act more morally when they think they are being watched. Whether by God, people, or cameras. And people who participate in social community activities are more moral - whether religious services or bowling clubs. So the insight is, it is not religious belief or following religious books, which leads to moral conduct. It is the idea of being watched by God, and participation in religious services.

Does that mean that people who are under constant surveillance, will be more moral? Can we require people to participate in community activities? I think coercion should not be used. And the loss of privacy and freedom, due to surveillance imposes negative costs. I think educational and business organizations can organize social activities, for students and workers. And community organisations can also organise community gatherings, for helping the isolated, and the weak.

I myself am agnostic. But I live in a secular country. Unfortunately in India, people often mostly socialize with those in the same groups, whether religious, ethnic or class based. There is a need for cross group socialization and cooperation. But I don't think community leaders should have too much influence over people.

Diversity in morals and abilities is good. But there should also be some basic universal morals and abilities. I believe in freedom, truth, privacy, and sanctity of body and mind. I don't think they are all universal. Which should be universal? There are shared values as evidenced by the UNDHR and the ECHR.

Im in a Mew School now and i find that when in public. I ususlly end up over thinking a lot snd i am wondering how do i stop doing that? If anyone knows just say bc it would help

Economist typically rely on measures like GDP, GDP growth, and GDP per capita. But this doesn't capture unpaid work, which is a significant part of total work. And it doesn't reflect the environment or other human well being.

According to phys.org: "The OECD has developed a series of indicators to measure well-being in many countries. They are: income and wealth; work and job quality; housing; health; knowledge and skills; environmental quality; subjective well-being; safety; work-life balance; social connection; and civil engagement. The resources for future well-being are natural capital, economic capital, human capital and social capital."

I think a human rights approach based on the ECHR could be also useful; measuring compliance with human rights. Also measuring progress towards achievement of the UNs Sustainable Development Goals.

And the media has a large part to play in this. By reporting human rights compliance, and progress towards SDGs.

Reference: https://phys.org/news/2024-10-gdp-outdated-health-economy-doesnt.html

My sister is 22 and just had a 3rd child despite not being able to properly care for the other 2. She has been on welfare since her first kid was born and complained how assistance doesn’t give her enough to meet her kids needs, that her kids weren’t eating well on a food stamps budget and she doesn’t have money for kids clothes. So my parents were sending her money for years to cover a portion of the clothing and food expenses. After her 3rd pregnancy, my parents decided that they were no longer funding her irresponsibility. They don’t want to continue to enable her horrible decisions. She wants to increase the financial burden on my parents which is selfish. They want to be able to retire at 65, and she is delaying their retirement.

I saw somewhere that 7 billion people experienced today differently. I love that perspective, what is something yall did today ? ( good or bad ) I’ll start, today I worked out and found a new song i really like !

I work in Tech Support when this stuff first caught my radar a couple years ago, I decided to try and branch out look for alternative revenue sources to try and soften what felt like the envietable unemployment in my current field.

However, it seems that people are just going keep pushing this thing everywhere all the time, until there is nothing left.

It's just so awful and depressing, I feel overwhelmed and crazy because it seems like no one else cares or even comprehends the precipice that we are careening over.

For the last year or so I have intentionally restricted my ability to look up this up topic to protect my mental health. Now I find it creeping in from all corners of the box I stuck my head in.

What is our attraction to self destruction as a species? Why must this monster be allowed to be born? Why doesn't anyone care? Frankly I don't know how much more I take.

It's the death of creativity, of art, of thought, of beauty, of what is to be human.

It's the birth of aggregate, of void, and propagated malice.

Not to be too weird and talk about religions I don't believe in (raised Catholic...) but does anyone think maybe this thing could be the antichrist of revelation? I mean the number of the beast? How about a beast made of numbers?

Edit: Apparently I am in fact crazy and need to be medicated, ideally locked away obvi. Thanks peeps, enjoy whatever this is, I am going back inside the cave to pretend to watch the shadows.

I have PTSD from bad life event and also war in my region, so am just curious for those what you have to say from your experiences what help you! I strugle often with this, but feel no motivation to try and do something elses. I do have hobby I want get into but I think will be helpful to hear from how you experience this events to your life and what is helping you to get through it

example being like a parent when they are caught malnourishing the child they love "more than anything" so they make a big deal out of why it happened. or basically any depiction of a 'karen'

similar

if you dont understand what you read somewhere or its not very engaging to you/you arent very involved so you have no input. obv its a recipe for a mess to try to contribute at that point but people still do it anyways.

The food industry has always played a huge part towards influencing people on what foods to buy using as it almost seems “any means necessary” To bring attention of their products in a positive way.

The organizations that set standards, for example the old food pyramid that has been updated as far as I believe, Foods that they deem safe for diabetics and obscuring. The fact that process and ultra processed foods are problem, but instead saying obesity is because of the reduced amount of physical activity and adults have and not because of food.

The Whole Foods system seems upside down, the foods you should eat, our priced very high and the foods that really are not good for your health and well-being. Our priced the more affordable rates for families.

What has happened to where food and health has gotten to this point?

What has happened to the care and well-being of citizens at what point did the system change?

It just seems a little mind boggling how twisted some information is on what’s “healthy” to where the non healthy stuff is almost so normal it’s part of “the norm” now and days

Last thing, the schools and foods provided, they may meet standards in serving vegetables (tomatoes) but really it’s tomato paste that goes on pizza. Just one example

I am a 20 year old unemployed man. When I was 18, I found a job from another city, my parents allowed me and I worked there for a year, then problems started. My parents wanted me to live with them and insisted on this; I had to go back. My mom is manipulative. Then I found a job closer to home and started working there and after 7 months I quit due to a lot of bullying at work (not related to work). When I found a job (it’s quite difficult in our country) my dad said that he talked to his friend and found a job that I can start next week but I still haven’t started working because now I’ve been waiting for some problems for 3 months already but still no news . During this time I worked in our field. Although I live for free, from time to time my mother asked for money. I always gave him money in the amount exactly to pay for housing in our area, but my airbag has already run out. When my mother asked for money this time I said that I didn’t have any money left, now my mother grumbles at me and obliges me and does it quite aggressively and often. And yesterday my mom came to my room and said I owe him money for this month, otherwise I have to live on the street. I can’t find a job now because our country has 2 months of free internship and I’m broke. What should I do ? What can I do? Help please!

According to Haidt, there are six moral categories. Care, Fairness, Loyalty, Authority, Sanctity, and Liberty. If you emphasize care, fairness, and Liberty then you may be liberal. If you emphasize loyalty, authority, and sanctity then you may be conservative. But it's not binary, and people can emphasize categories like both care and loyalty.

By this definition I am slightly liberal, or center left. Would conservatives be loyal to the authority of liberal leaders leading the nation? I think most wouldn't. India is a very conservative nation, currently being led by conservative religious authoritarians. Who restrict human rights, including freedom of expression. Who don't respect religious or ethnic minorities. I do think loyalty is somewhat important, but I can't be loyal to those who don't share most of my values or interests.

Is it disloyal to criticize my own nation, especially to foreigners? I think as an Indian I have the right to criticize India. It is very religious and conservative, and I am a liberal agnostic. And my only acquaintances are a citizen of Nepal, and a citizen of USA. I had some Indian acquaintances, but they got offended from my lack of religious belief and criticism of the current political leadership. One person set his dog on me. One person locked me in a bathroom.

I was also detained and tortured, because the authorities considered me as a risk to national security. So I can't really be loyal to them. I will be loyal, when my human rights are protected and not violated; and more so when so are the rights of other minority groups.

Are you loyal to your nation and its leaders? Is it immoral to not be?

So you're in love, but the person you're in love with is in a relationship with someone else. You know they are, and it's a serious relationship. I known this one person for like 4 years and it's kinda been off and on through out me liking them because they have had diffrent bfs. Idk if I like them as a best freind because we hug for long or sometimes I pick her up and carry her and we do everything together since she was single for a bit it wasn't that bad and I thought it was causal that I went her in the rain and walked an hour to get to her house just to see her OR is it an actual crush. Like should I let her know that for the past like 4 years I've been attracted to everything about her like her personality or do I keep it to myself. I don't know if it's because she's a really good freind to me or serious. Thank you.

Over the past few years, I’ve noticed that I don’t feel certain emotions the way others do. For example, when someone in my family dies, it doesn’t affect me deeply, or it takes a while for me to have any reaction at all. Even thinking about a loved one passing away doesn’t really bother me. I’ve heard people say things like “live in the moment,” “appreciate the beauty around you,” and “find joy in the small things,” but I honestly don’t get it. How do people actually feel that way? How do they find beauty or inspiration in little things, or stay positive when everything’s falling apart?

For me, it’s hard to enjoy anything because my brain is constantly going to worst-case scenarios, overanalyzing until nothing feels exciting. It’s like I’m always expecting things to go wrong, so I’m prepared for it, and then when it does happen, I feel… nothing.

What am I missing? Why do I feel like my emotions are switched off most of the time?