Hello, i'm 17f yesterday i was watching a movie (the movie was "old dads") and every time there was a racist/sexist "joke" and portrayal of stereotypical wokism or feminism. He then yelled at me when i tried to explain that it's not okay to laugh about such thing that opressed so many people and still do. He said i knew nothing about opression. But he know damn well i've been sexually harassed at school. I know that as a white woman i unfortunately have more privilege than people of color. But it dosent change the fact that our main opressors are men.

Sorry for the yapping, or if it didn't made much sense. Feel free to delete this post if it don't allighn with the subject : )

Have you found increasingly it's difficult to be friends with women who aren't in solidarity?

Hi! I hope you are all doing great. So, I'm still new to feminism. Mainly radical feminism. It's like stepping into a whole new world. It's eye opening but very soul crushing. It's so hard.

For the background, I'm an 18 year old Muslim from Pakistan. I have been bombarded with Islamic values all my life. My household is built on these values. Now that I don't agree with these values, I find it hard to spend time with my family. They are not evil people. But since I don't agree with them, I find it hard to not resent them.

For instance, my mother forces me to cover up Infront of my brother. I usually wear modest clothes ( which I'm okay with ) but she urges me to wear a scarf even in home all the time. If I try to argue against it, she stops talking to me. Every time I'm lacking somewhere in studies, they threaten to get me married. I can't help but notice that my mother loves my brother more and it crushes me.

It's so isolating. All of my friends are male centered. They will die for a speck of their attention. I feel so alone and miserable. I can only take out my resentment in journals and reddit.

I know this might be a lot and I'm lucky that I have a right to education but why must the woman be stripped off her rights? Aren't we humans? Why?

Why am I expected to serve the very same men who hate me( consciously or subconsciously).

Women around me- why do they lack self respect. What is this hell that I'm living on? I have to walk on egg shells so I can still have my rights. I can still fucking study. I'm beyond disgusted.

Everytime my father or brother say something misogynistic- I immediately want to throw up. Immediately. How can these people love me when they don't even respect who I am?

Also, I have come to this observation that one of the worst men I have encountered are Indian or Pakistani. Just lunatics. I seriously don't want to get married here.

All I feel everyday is disappointment. Sometimes I wish I never got into feminism, maybe i would have been happy. Even if that was a fallacy.

I submit to the readers of this site five basic ideas of revolutionary feminism. Comments are welcome.

women are an oppressed class

youth are an oppressed class

all oppressed classes have the right to make revolution

the revolution will be feminist or it will not be

revolutionary violence will be necessary for the destruction of the patriarchy

 las mujeres son una clase oprimida

las jóvenes son una clase oprimida

todas las clases oprimidas tienen el derecho hacer una revolución

la revolución será feminista o no será

la violencia revolucionaria será necesaria por la destrucción del patriarcado

“Feminists” in r/Feminism or some other women-centered subs are all high and mighty when it comes to calling other women on having internalized misogyny for following religions’ indoctrination, for being pro-life or for voting for Trump,…But then coming up with excuses when they perpetuate patriarchal norms themselves.

Like “I take my husbands’ last name because my name is too short, too long, not unique enough, not common enough, my father is abusive, my great grand father was abusive, bla bla”. How is that different from maybe a woman who says she only listen to men because most women she knows are bad leaders? Or women who believe “abortion is murder” because people actually abort female fetuses for being female in their countries? They’re both personal and “rational” reasons.

Choice “Feminists” argue that things like having plastic surgeries or being SAHM, or…are individual decisions that affect no ones. Bruh one woman voting for Trump also did not make him president-elect or one woman preaching wives should submit to husbands also did not create religions. It is when a ton of women have done and keep doing those by hearing from each other and looking at each other. Yes, when your daughters and nieces see you have a boob job “for yourself” or financially depend on a man because “you love cooking and cleaning” the cycle repeats.

Of course no one is perfect, not everything a feminist does should be for feminism movement as a whole. But at least admitting that whatever you do rooted in patriarchy is perpetuating patriarchal values, and stop making excuses. If feminists can’t even do self-reflecting, how can they expect misogynists to do so!?

Edit: I thought manspreading and invading communities are things for men and trolls, TIL they are also for choice “feminists” as well! Cheers to women in male-dominated fields!

Hello, this is my first post here (english is not my first language so i won't write much).

I was wondering how much patriarchy is rooted on our culture and influence what we like(for exemple medias, clothing choice and such)

I want be be know if i really do thing for myself or if i just do it because of sociétaires standards.

Anyway have a good day/night <3

Hi everyone,

There’s a lot of debate about whether plastic surgery can be seen as a form of “feminist self-care,” where women take control of their bodies, or if it’s more about reinforcing patriarchal beauty standards.

From your perspective, can plastic surgery ever be a form of genuine agency, or is it primarily a reflection of systemic oppression?

I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts on this.

Thank you !

Maybe im a hypocrite, i’ve been in a relationship with a man for almost 2 years now, i am 20 and he is my first boyfriend and to be completely honest, I think if we ever broke up he would be my last. He is the exact opposite of a “typical” man, never watched porn, doesnt use derogatory language and is exactly the kind of man a woman like myself with very strong radfem values would want to date. I struggle immensely however with maintaing friendships with men. I just cannot do it. He is the only man i’ve met (bar my gay best friend lol) who isn’t essentially a peice of shit be that publicly or privately. I feel like this is probably the same for most radfems, but my boyfriend asside I actively seek to avoid friendships or any kind of contact that isn’t necessary with men. I do find some of his friends hard to get along with because i clock anything they say that i think is inappropriate/misogynistic even if it seems trivial. Just wondered what everyone else’s opinions are on friendships as women with men and if they can ever really be sustained?

So I grew up with an over-involved abusive mother and I see that in the radfem community that Women should live together in communities. Which is good and all, until I brought up my story on how I [and possibly many more women] might feel uncomfortable due to our past abuse. And they belittled me, laughing at my abuse and many more Women there said that maternal abuse is a result of patriarchy and that I should just forgive her. What are your thoughts on this? I'd like a description. Thanks ❤️ [This was on tumblr btw]

If you're from an under-developed or developing country you must constantly hear about the conditions of women in a developed country. "They've achieved gender equality! Women there don't have to fight for their rights or freedom as much as we do! They don't need feminism anymore!" This is probably the biggest fucking lie told to women of this generation.

If you're a woman from a first world country who thinks that your country is "one of the good ones" please stop lying to yourself and come back to reality. Your country is only developed in terms of technology, not progressive. If your country is truly equal for all we wouldn't have to see horrifying crimes committed against women and traditions harming women to this day from South Korea, Japan, Australia, France, Germany, Ireland, etc.

Misogynists love spreading a false narrative on how modern women don't need feminism anymore, just know that if you hear bullshit like this you're still far from achieving true equality. I'm tired of hearing how free women are in other nations because they can get a PhD or go to a beach wearing a two-piece. Literally talk to any random man about wanting more equality and he'll go "Why so women can parade naked on the streets?" That's what their minds go to because they don't fucking know what feminism is about.

(Most) Men all over the world share the same patriarchal mindset, just ask two men from two different continents about what they think of women and they'll repeat the same sexist rhetoric you hear everywhere. Men in developed countries are not more respecful of women because they see them as humans, but because they have extensive laws protecting women. Literally the one thing keeping these men from committing horrendous crimes is a fear of going to prison, not basic empathy or morality.

And it's so easy for a nation to fall back in progress. Just look at Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq, USA, and many more places which might soon meet this exact fate. I just want all women to embrace that angry feminist stereotype and keep preaching about equality and intersectionality, no matter how equal or progressive your country may be. Your silence gives these bigots more power to shift the narrative and paint you as the villain.

I’m so fed up with being disrespected by men the instant i don’t give it up easily or criticize their inherently sadistic values,like genuinely it feels like all they know how to do sometimes is insult you when they don’t get what they want. This has happened twice this past week and its filling me with such visceral rage because i genuinely cannot comprehend why so many men feel entitled to my body and kindness,one even went as far as talking about assaulting me when i voiced not wanting him. It’s so hard to not sink into severe misandry when i’m faced with male aggression anytime i turn one down. Like,do they genuinely think we’ll believe we are ugly putrid people just because they said it to us after we rejected them? I’ve even had plenty go as far as racism,making fun of me being a recovering addict,and threatening to challenge my future in college over being told no. Have men always acted this entitled or has anyone else noticed an increase in their sensitivity?

https://www.reddit.com/r/Staiy/s/FuOvjzysRL

https://www.ndr.de/fernsehen/sendungen/panorama/archiv/2024/Frauen-schlagen-als-Volksfest-Manuskript,panoramamanuskript158.html

The victims are traumatised and often badly injured. Victim blaming is huge and family betrayl their daughters and let the perpetrator into the houses when the woman flee.

There is the "Krampuslauf" in tirol and "Klaasom" on borkum and in the netherlands.

Im ashamed and i thought we life in a modern society.

I cant post that in the other Feminism sub but i want to make this public.

I am finding it harder and harder to “figure myself out”. I am 20 years old and feel so far behind all my girl friends because I have never been in a relationship and have only ever had brief moments of ‘romance’ with men. I cannot tell for the life of me if it’s because of how deeply feminist I am and how much it matters to me, if I am completely aro/ace, or if I’m just a lesbian. I really don’t feel like I’ve had any real crushes in my life let alone on women so that doesn’t feel totally accurate but I cant tell if it’s just because I am extremely heteronormative? Not sure if anyone else can relate to this and help me out. I just feel like every man I’ve tried with has disappointed me and I always feel anxious/needy and not myself when I am involved with a guy. I feel absolutely no desire to have a relationship with anyone (regardless of gender?) because I feel like it messes with my head and removes my individuality. At the same time, I yearn for love and to feel loved by someone at times. I feel like even if the perfect man could come along… relationships with men as a whole are kind of distracting? I just feel like a man will never truly understand me, however I also feel like a majority of women wouldn’t either? Maybe I am just aromantic, but it feels like a sad conclusion to come to. Thanks to anyone who reads this, sorry if I went on too long lol.

"Females crave absorbing, emotionally satisfying, meaningful activity, but lacking the opportunity or ability for this, they prefer to idle and waste away their time in ways of their own choosing -- sleeping, shopping, bowling, shooting pool, playing cards and other games, breeding, reading, walking around, daydreaming, eating, playing with themselves, popping pills, going to the movies, getting analyzed, traveling, raising dogs and cats, lolling about on the beach, swimming, watching TV, listening to music, decorating their houses, gardening, sewing, nightclubbing, dancing, visiting, `improving their minds' (taking courses), and absorbing `culture' (lectures, plays, concerts, `arty' movies). Therefore, many females would, even assuming complete economic equality between the sexes, prefer living with males or peddling their asses on the street, thus having most of their time for themselves, to spending many hours of their days doing boring, stultifying, non-creative work for someone else, functioning as less than animals, as machines, or, at best -- if able to get a `good' job -- co-managing the shitpile. What will liberate women, therefore, from male control is the total elimination of the money-work system, not the attainment of economic equality with men within it."

Valerie Solanas, SCUM Manifesto, https://www.2ra.co/uploads/2/6/8/6/26862532/scum_manifesto.pdf

heyy, I did this poster and thought it was kinda nice idea before I started working on it, now I think its dumb and also lowkey exploitative of the ppl I used the tiktoks from? I wanted to make it a lil uncanney valley but did them rlly dirty.. idk, Im curious what would yall think.

https://preview.redd.it/0in7jbjidh3e1.jpg?width=3508&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7b1d2f560fb7c9bb2258f3d1068029bc3e9d8d9c

So, today I was watching a little Yt shorts video, all is well. Until it’s not. They literally called a grown woman with a degree on archeology, who’s about to discover important historical evidence of cleopatra in Egypt, a “girl archeologist” and I’m so so so so sick of it. It seems like it appears everywhere. As if women can’t get past the “girl” stage. As if “male archeologist” was the default and she needs to be different and segregated in the English language with the word girl. And the way it sounded too, it was extremely gross, like, “girl archeologist” sounds like a little playtime for a child, as if not even after a hard degree and studying in Egypt, she still doesn’t deserve respect. And I’m so done with this being in my life.

Okay, rant over.

It's infuriating how little men care about others around them. This is just one dude amongst millions of others who votes for a candidate based on how funny or meme-able they are, than their values and credentials.

I also don't understand how a man in his 20s feels isolated or confused in this political landscape. With the technology we have today you can literally know everything about the candidate you're voting for.

And even if you're confused, why the fuck would you vote for a convicted felon who has probably SA'ed more than a 100 women than ANYONE else in the race..

Hey gals, I’ve been looking for a good book that sums up ethical and political arguments against marriage for women for a long time, but with no luck. All I find is empirical evidence like women getting left by their husbands at higher rates when sick, etc etc but no sound theoretical basis to criticize it effectively like beauty and misogyny by Sheila Jeffrey’s is for well beauty culture. Suggestions welcome!!

What are some of the ways feminism shows up in your life? What feminist practices are you committed to? What influencers/websites/media outlets do you follow?