I feel like people think that hypersexuality culture and modesty culture are two vastly contradictory things, and that weaponising one against the other is some system breaking act, without realising that they’re two sides of the same misogynistic coin: they both revolve around the notion that your sexuality is your worth as a woman, and if not used correctly you’re deemed as invaluable.

Because of this I’m finding sex and my sexuality really difficult to navigate. Like, nothing ever really feels like my choice, yknow?

Why do we even have Father’s Day?! And how has it been around for decades?! What do fathers do? Are they serious parents, in the same sense as mothers are? Do they destroy their bodies or even die for the sake of creating life?! There are still NEW YOUNG fathers today who will watch a game or go hunting and miss the birth of their own child. Most fathers will not take time off work to watch their sick kids. Most fathers will not do the bedtime routine or even know what it is. Most fathers do not get up in the middle of the night to take care of a screaming baby. Most fathers do not take time off work when their child is born, to actually be there for the hardest moments of the mother of their child’s lives! There are so many fathers who don’t even remember the age of their kids, name of their kids teachers, kids allergies, kids middle names, and other basic stuff. Why do we celebrate them?? And what is Father’s Day compared to Mother’s Day? Father’s Day is literally a bunch of lazy ass dads who get worshipped for doing fuck all nothing, lazing about on a couch with their other lazy dads, while all the mothers cook a big meal and serve them. Mother’s Day is when the moms have to get up early and begin preparing a big Mother’s Day brunch to serve her mother in law, meanwhile the fathers will not cook or clean afterwards. And if there is a Mother’s Day where the mom gets to “relax”, the husband still ask a million questions to the wife like “what should I do?” “What do you want me to buy” “what should I cook?” “How do I boil water”?!? So we just give up and throw our hands in the air and go FUCK why bother having a day to ourselves?? And there’s a lot of husbands now who will even go “why do I need to buy my wife a gift on Mother’s Day? She’s not my mom” Like are you serious bud? She risked her life to give you a child! And she probably DOES end up acting like your mother because you’re a fucking useless excuse for a human being. And these guys will go “oh but they work hard for the family” Uhmmmm that’s just them doing a basic job because THEY created their patriarchal BS capitalist society, where you have to work to earn money and use that money to buy food and shelter - that’s not on women; that was all created by you males! And you’d have a job even if you DIDNT have a wife and kids because you NEED a job to survive. He doesn’t work “hard for his family”; he works because he has to. He doesn’t even work harder for his family. Does he have 3 paid jobs? Does he do a ton of over time? Does he even MAKE enough money that we can afford a house and food and never have to worry about basic necessities? Probably not. Father’s Day is garbage.

The fandom for LiB latest season has gotten me depressed for several days now. Hannah is being called an abuser for standing up for herself and not accepting being put into the position of mother for the manchild Nick who kept asking her how to boil water. He weaponised incompetence in all manners, from house chores to finances and kept lying to make himself look better. But somehow she’s the abuser for calling him out on it.

In the same breath, Zanab from season 3 is called an abuser because Cole, another complete baby, acted so cute and needy. That he called her bipolar when she was upset with his infuriating act is glossed over.

The complete empathy for man babies and hatred for competent strong women with boundaries makes me so depressed. God forbid a woman dares to stand up for herself. Then we ask why women don’t stand up for themselves. Hannah is being dragged all over social media for stating the obvious in that she’s more mature than Nick who doesn’t even know how to pay a cell phone bill. But he’s without fault because mommy never taught him (never mind that he’s been an adult for almost a decade).

Just needed to vent. Thank you.

I just need to rant.

Men constantly whine about supposed "double standards" that favour women, but most of the time these "double standards" they complain about hurt women more than men. I apologise in advance about my rant, and it probably won't be grammatically correct or written smoothly. I just want to get my thoughts down and rant for a bit.

1. "Men can't show their emotions and women can." Lmao what?? Why are these men acting like when a woman cries, everyone rallies around her, supporting and comforting her? We are called crazy, irrational and "too emotional" when we show even the slightest bit of anger or sadness. Meanwhile men can punch a hole in the wall or go on literal shooting sprees and nobody accuses him of being too emotional. Do they forget that anger is also an emotion???

2. "When women claim to have been abused, everyone believes her, but when a man claims to have been abused, nobody believes him." This statement is actually so hilarious because of how blatantly untrue it is. It is the COMPLETE opposite. When a man accuses someone, especially a woman, of abuse, EVERYONE believes him and immediately hates on the woman he accused. Just look at the Depp vs Heard case. The reactions from the public was pure MISOGYNY, plain and simple. Even Harvey Weinstein didn't get as much hate from the public as Amber did. I don't want to hear anyone say that women face no consequences or "get away with abusing someone". That trial was just utterly appalling.

3. "Women are allowed to be sexist towards men but men are hated on for being sexist towards women." Nope, that's completely false. Have they seen how HATED feminism is? And 99% of the time, feminists aren't even hating on men. They are literally just like "please don't rape and murder women", and men see that as violent misandry. Meanwhile, the most horrific, violently misogynistic podcasts get so much support and aren't banned or taken down.

There are literally hundreds more examples. I am just so exhausted. Am I crazy for being so angry about these things?

I have been cursed by nature as a straight woman who is very romantic. At one point I was naive enough to believe there were good men out there and I thought I found one I truly loved and could trust. Then he became an orthodox christian trump supporter and now I’ve lost the little belief I still had in heterosexual love anymore.

Is love to women tenderness and affection, giving and attentive, while to men it is a game of laziness, power, domination and someone to use as an incubator?

I wish I could just turn off this desire for romantic affection even though I realise with my head that it’s silly and another weakness men use to manipulate women I still find myself wondering if I’m being too cynical. Ugh idk :(

Choice Feminism, as I understand it, is where women are given equal rights and then women are just allowed to be completely free to make the choices under the belief that they now have full agency and that their choices are "their own". This can be thought of as liberalism as opposed to progressivism. The term is either used disingenuously to support societal regression or used sincerely by well-meaning but myopic people.

It fundamentally ignores the fact that things such as your social environment and culture influence how you perceive the world and make your choices. So if your culture is misogynistic and patriarchal as all cultures still are, your choices will reflect that because they exist within that framework. Oppression can be and ubiquitously is internalised. And people genuinely do make choices that detriment themselves.

And some of these women want to go BACK to traditional gender roles including the restriction of women's rights. An argument that I've heard given by those kind of women is that feminism is about giving women the "right to make their own choices" and "say anything they want" so they should be allowed to advocate for traditional gender roles. That logic implies that it would be feminist to be antifeminist, because antifeminist women would just be saying what they think "as feminists want". That obviously makes no sense because it's paradoxical, and that's because it's wrong.

Feminism isn't about giving women total choice over everything to do with their lives. It's about gender equality and giving them rights. You have those rights now. That's absolutely not a choice. Under law, you don't get to get rid of the rights you're given. Whether you like it or not, they're your rights. Giving people the choice to restrict their rights with no apparent benefit is like going into an enslaved town to liberate some people and then when some of them say "thanks but I would like to go back to being exploited and enslaved now" you go "oh yeah no that's fine". Like, no mate. I'm giving you freedom. You don't just get to choose to go back. You're taking this freedom. I order you to be free!

And that's what feminism is. It's creating gender equality within society via the means of increasing women's rights. Even if you're a woman saying what you think, saying that you want to go back, that you want to enable and empower gender inequality and restrict women's rights, is firmly antifeminist. During the Suffragette movement, most women were antisuffragist and didn't want the right to vote. But they fucking got it anyway. Feminism is there to give you rights, whether you want them or not. And being against that means you're not a feminist.

The reason I decided to make this post is because of a video I was watching on Andrew Tate and the evidence surrounding his conviction. The video talked about how some victims spoke out but 2 victims actually defended Tate and his accomplices. The Romanian police reported that it had firmly established that these women were actually victims. They had been manipulated, coerced, exploited, and controlled. So why were they defending their abusers? Well, to put it frankly, they were fucking brainwashed. They worshipped Tate and the other abusers and I think this is a great analogy for society and how your social environment affects your choices. They defended their traffickers entirely of their own volition. They were happy to and they genuinely didn't want to see the abusers tried and incriminated. And how did Romania respond? They reported that it makes NO DIFFERENCE in whether or not it was voluntary on the part of the victims, their victimisation was still a crime. Are you seriously going to disagree with that? Because that's what choice feminist logic dictates. If yes, then how many women punished until the point of total submission so that they choose to be misogynists and enable and defend misogyny will it take for you to change your mind? People can and constantly do make decisions that are not in their own interest and also not in the interest of society. We voted for Brexit ffs.

And, as these women were submitted into misogyny, the average woman is also submitted into patriarchal norms and thinking. Their choices are still patriarchal and feminine and sexist because that is what our social environment demands of us. Not only this but, without progressivism, the problem can get worse and society can regress. Femininity is still the standards for how a woman is expected to live and behave and almost every woman conforms to these standards to an extent and this conformity partly constitutes your "choices". So the culture doesn't just dissipate. Without progressive activism against these cultural standards, they will remain for millennia and may even get worse. Cultural standards of expected behaviours actually often do get worse. They exacerbate themselves which can be observed with all kinds of traditions throughout history. This can manifest itself as actual activism for and promotion of these standards. There are plenty of male and female misogynists that strongly advocate for societal regression and the restriction of women's rights. And there are women such as tradwives that passively and actively promote traditional gender roles in order to influence the change that they want without being seen as explicit activists. They are covertly trying to sell you a lifestyle that they want you to conform to.... because Jesus.... and this will work very well on future generations that won't really know misogyny and gender inequality and so will be beguiled by the romanticism of traditional gender roles that are secretly very oppressive. With enough support, backwards ass thinking like this from both men and women CAN and WILL take over as recent years have shown.

So this is why 'choice feminism' isn't real feminism and actually enables and produces antifeminism. It's a term used sinisterly by conservatives or sincerely by the myopic who enable them. You either have gender equality or you don't and continuing to conform to gender is always going to produce gender inequality because gender conformity fundamentally IS gender inequality. As much as people may not want to hear it, that's the reality.

Consider that men generally look to other “successful” men to guidance. Honestly I don’t see enough women talking about philosophy outside of feminism or anti feminism in specific scopes or frameworks so that’s just how I perceive it.

Consider Plato’s Academy; consider who was allowed to write at the time, and consider that Socrates never wrote anything down, probably because he couldn’t.

Pretty much what you got is the first recorded comic book character; the rebel who defies the premise of Plato’s Republic by being both poor and intellectually superior to everyone else.

That’s basically how he’s written, and it basically sounds like bullshit. Aside from busts that supposedly capture his likeness, it’s entirely plausible that he is a made up character for writing anything that prevents the elite from taking responsibility for anything that could be considered anti establishment.

There’s a realization brewing. Something important. Something obvious. I can’t find it.

On social media but also in real life I witnessed this: A man who protects a woman when she gets disrespected in any way gets called "simp", or he‘s told that "he won‘t be able to smash her".

This alone is leaving me speechless every. single. time. i encounter it. Women are viewed as not equal to men but as something to own/f#ck or to be disrespectful to (depending on how attractive they think you are) and it‘s so tiring. I just want to let my frustration out. (Ofc not all men, but ALOT)

It also pressures good men to be disrespectful too or not protect women in these types of situations. + You as a woman feel worthless when u witness/experience things like this. Like wdym he‘s a simp because he protected me?

Sure I don’t take it too seriously when guy in Black Ops kills me and calls me a wh*re but I do think it shows how many men use violent multiplayer games as a way of exerting their violent fantasies onto female players. Things like mimicking sex crimes and targeting women specifically in matches tells me a lot about how these losers view the women they meet on their day to day lives.

All the stereotypical female attributes are coded to benefit others, not women themselves. Affectionate, good at taking care of people, beauty , cooking, housework, pleasantness, human friendliness, just like a working dog. Think about all the professions dominated by women: receptionist, babysitter, flight attendant, nurse, and so on. Women simply aren't expected to be unpleasant, aggressive, tough and inconvenient. Personally, I vehemently deny such programming and narrative. We're deemed subhumans forever associated with man, husbands, kids, and marriage. Women are systematically programmed and indoctrinated to serve and attend from a young age. Also, as far as the whole "beauty" saga goes, patriarchy just plots and schemes to reduce women to objects of aesthetic value to be gazed at for other people’s pleasure. We wear whatever inconveniences us as long as they promise to cover our flaws and boost our attractiveness. Just look women back at Victorian age and half a century after that. We're coded to be inconvenienced and superficial. Beauty is an obligation, an inherent part of our worth. And it has come to the point where it's more of a yoke, imposition and liability than empowerment. The fact that women try much harder to pursue beauty than man says far more about how patriarchy has debased and undermined women than it does about difference between genders.

If we, as a world, are currently operating under the mindset that man was created first by God and then woman as his companion, I have two points to make. For those who think men are superior because they were created first, and that women are merely receivers of their energy to create something better, I have this to say:

First, God created all other living beings—animals, birds, single-cell organisms—before creating man. They came before men. So, by that logic, does that make all those animals superior to humans? No, it does not. This proves my point that being created first does not imply superiority. You have simply brainwashed women into believing they are the weaker sex or naturally inferior to men because you benefit from that belief. So, your whole perspective is now crumbled—completely crumbled.

Second, whenever an artist creates something, they start with raw and imperfect pieces. Their final creation is often the most beautiful, refined, and perfect piece they’ve made. So, if God made woman last, that suggests that woman is His most evolved and beautiful creation. It means that women are naturally superior to men, but we don’t feel the need to assert that. God gave us love, empathy, and a great deal of compassion, and we don’t think that way because we operate in a very evolved manner. We are sophisticated and compassionate human beings, not raw or animalistic like men. Therefore, we don’t subscribe to the idea that women are superior to men, even if the logic suggests otherwise.

To add to this, many spiritual gurus and wise people state that women are receivers of energy, who transform that energy into something beautiful. This means we take in raw energy, raw emotions, and raw elements from men, and we create something beautiful out of them. This gives us the power to create, to transform. We are creators. And since God is also known as the ultimate creator for making the world, it means that we, too, embody that divine creative power. In essence, we are God.

And to add another perspective, since when did we start putting raw materials or those who provide them on a pedestal? It’s the person who takes those raw materials and creates something beautiful that earns respect and admiration. We are drawn to, and inspired by, those who turn raw elements into something meaningful. Since when did we start glorifying the raw materials and those who provide them? That’s a backward way of thinking, and it’s time we all reflect on that.

Furthermore, we women recognize our need for raw materials to create something beautiful, and we are deeply compassionate towards men. We respect those who provide us with these raw materials and are truly grateful to anyone who supports us in the process. We acknowledge everything with humility. Despite being capable of transforming raw materials and holding this creative superpower, we remain down-to-earth. We have never taken pride in or sought superiority over men. We are simply here, being grateful, compassionate, kind, loyal, and continuously creating. If we, as the holders of such a superpower, can stay humble and respectful toward men and all other beings on this planet, why can’t men do the same? Is it insecurity or an inferiority complex about not being able to create something themselves?

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None of my family is voting (except for my grandma but she doesn't live with us). My mom was going to vote with me but decided last minute she does not want to. So today I am going to vote by myself. The political views of my family are terrible and it hurts me. I don't even have friends I can confide in.

Update: Got back from voting a couple hours ago. It was my first time voting (I am young). I felt sad and nervous being by myself but I am so glad I did it. There was a woman greeting everyone at the door and sending people to specific lines to keep things organized. When I got to her she asked me if it was my first time voting. I said yes and she gave me a fist bump. She was super nice. I am grateful that I live in a majority dem area so I felt comfortable going out to vote :)

Ok critical thinking feminists! Explain to me the connection and parallels between sexism and racism, specifically : why men can’t be the target of so-called “sexism” or aren’t disenfranchised because of their gender AND why white people can’t be the target of racism and structural inequality?

I am not looking for a debate, I want to expand on these parallels between patriarchal systems and white power structures. So for the sake of the argument, accept the two aforementioned claims as facts.

(For the record I am a misandrist and anti-racist )

Making dozens of fucking burner accounts to bother the woman they’ve decided they are obsessed with for the day. It’s so annoying.

Just curious because they will grow up to be men.