Hi everyone! I tried to visualize and summarize the different elements that play a role in prostate play and categorize them a bit. The result is this visualization that shows what drives and blocks prostate pleasure. It illustrates that achieving prostate orgasms isn't just about physical stimulation - it's a delicate interplay between your mind and body.

Prostate-Orgasm-Elements

An important thing to understand: You don't need to max out every element to succeed. Instead, it's about finding the right combination of mental and physical elements while avoiding certain blocking elements.

Focusing too much on the physical aspects while ignoring the mental elements is a common mistake. Often, it's more about learning to relax and let go than finding the "perfect" technique.

If you are interested in reading more about each element, there's more detailed information about each on my site as it would be too much to include all in this post.

What do you think? Is there anything missing from the visualization or anything you've experienced differently?

PS: I'm also working on another illustration that will show how these elements typically fluctuate during a session - for example, how arousal might start high but needs to be balanced with relaxation over time. So stay tuned.

I am not new to prostate play. I had bought Aneros Helix Trident 5 years back. I initially had very good sessions with it in 2019. Not sure if I got super-Os but I did get it to auto-fuck me and had some mini-Os as well. However since covid, I haven't been able to replicate those sessions. Using the Aneros felt nice but I never got those auto-fucks which I got earlier. I was never able to achieve mini-Os.

Frustrated since 4 years, I finally gave in and bought this sub's most recommended toy, the nJoy Pure Wand for $350. I live in India hence had to pay a lot of import duty.

While the wand was being shipped, I went through a lot of posts here. Did some prep.

• I bought some thongs for me for the very first time. When I wore those thongs, I immediately got a hard-on. It gently caressed my butthole which felt amazing. I danced around with a bouncing dick and balls like a male-stripper. Felt erotic.
• I bought some puppy pads.
• I bought polyurethane condoms which are compatible with oil based lubes. Silicon lube is way too expensive for me.
• I bought Psyllium Husk powder.

When I unboxed the wand and saw the wand for the first time, my asshole started clenching automatically. I just couldn't wait to get started with it.

So today I finally got some free time. I went to the bathroom and pooped and showered. However after pooping, I felt that something was missing today. I butt was yearning for the wand for the past 2 days. However, I did not get those feelings today. Perhaps, my sleep was messed up yesterday. Or I did not have enough fiber for the past 3 days.

Anyways, I marched on to get started. I covered my bed with a towel (mistake).
I watched some porn, danced around in my thong. I got a semi. I removed my thong, took the wand out, covered it with the PU condom and lubed it up with coconut oil.

I got to my bed and started inserting the wand. As I soon I started inserting it, I knew why I wasn't feeling it. My sphincter muscles were a little sore after pooping. I was sleep deprived as well.

Anyways, I lied on my back, inserted the small end, with the big end curving towards my tail bone. Soon enough I was able to get it to auto-fuck me hands-free. I was able to achieve something with the wand in a few minutes, which I wasn't able to achieve with the Aneros for the past 4 years. I get why this toy is recommended so much here.

However, this lasted only for a minute. My sphincter muscles started aching and I felt that the lube wasn't working well. I switched to the silicon lube. It felt better. I finally finished with a traditional wet orgasm.

I feel I need to do some more prep for the next sessions:

• I will get started with Psyllium Husk 5g everyday in the morning. I don't want to strain my sphincter muscles anymore.
• I will correct my diet for my gym sessions. I haven't been eating enough protein. I feel this is causing a drop in my libido.
• I will place puppy pads on the bed and on the floor during my sessions. I don't want to stain my towels and bed.
• I will switch back to latex condoms with silicone lube at least for winter. I will try pure coconut oil with PU condoms in the summer, when coconut oil is in liquid state at room temperature.
• I will read the book The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Glickman.
• I will read the whole Aneros Wiki.
• Not sure what I can do about my sleep. It has been fucked for a few days. I keep waking up at night due to bad dreams while the doctor has reduced my dosage for my anti-psychotics. In a few months, I need to remove it from my meds altogether. Any recommendations here?
• Any other recommendations in order to improve my future sessions?

Thanks in advance!

It was a very strong but not pleasurable orgasm that could be compared to having a taser hit you in the place between your balls and anus.

I am writing this with incredible bitterness and emotions wracking me. I'll start by saying that I've been moving towards this goal for 3 years, for 3 whole years I've been actively trying to have HFWO. I have been practicing anal play for the last 10 years, the last 5 years of which have been the most active. I have many toys of various shapes, sizes, and purposes including urethral vibrators, prostate vibrators, and dildos. What I'm getting at is that I'm pretty experienced at this, feel my body, know my anatomy and still my path to orgasm has been incredibly long as far as I'm concerned...

All my sessions I repeated according to the descriptions of others who have experience in getting HFWO, but each time was unsuccessful, I have a suspicion that there are some people have a prostate just by itself is not sensitive, although many people say here that this is a lie, you just have to believe and try...

I'll describe what I felt, my process. I stimulated my prostate either with a dildo attached to the wall, the tip of which was directly into the prostate, or with a special shaped prostate vibrator. These were the most effective ways I had ever tried. Lying down and using the dildo or other positions was not effective, I could at most get short dry anal orgasms and no more, but not even close to feeling the prostate. In all my almost successful sessions I felt +- the scenario familiar to everyone, a pleasant tingling sensation in the prostate during the process, then a growing urge to pee.

And this is where my path diverges from the others. Some people start to enjoy it and end up with an incredibly strong and pleasant orgasm that makes the whole body shake. But for me, this urge to pee grows to the point where it hurts. And prostate, and penis, and the whole body. It's when you've drunk a lot of water and haven't peed for a long time that your whole stomach starts to ache wildly, and if you try to stop the process while peeing - we get the feeling I felt, and then, weaker. Usually at this point the mood was lost and I wanted to quickly bring myself by hand.

And so in my last session, I got inspired again and tried to replicate the experience of many here. I followed the advice of many:
- 7 days without orgasm
- I cleaned my bowels the day before the session to avoid any mishaps.
- I decided to do the session in the morning, because this is the period of the day when men have the highest testosterone, and therefore arousal.
- More than 20 minutes of relaxation and preparation for the process, watching porn without touching the penis, of course.

Next I started the session, which lasted about 2 hours. I already had the inner stacks of my bowels chafed..... AND THERE IT IS. I felt a heated sensation in my prostate, my dick in a matter of seconds started to stand up and.... I spurted a huge load of cum without my hands. But the sensation was terrible, actually: it felt incredibly strong orgasm, there as my pelvic muscles contracted very strongly. But by “strong” I don't mean pleasant, I'd say it was probably like being hit with a stun gun.

I think that if the sensation lasted more than a WHOLE 5 SECONDS, it could be called torture. I didn't roll my eyes, I didn't shake for minutes, I didn't experience the pleasurable sensations in my prostate and the emptying effect for the next hours. And in fact, after that experience, I don't think I'll ever try to get a HFO again.

If you do a tear sheet of the orgasmic sensations that I've experienced:
6/10 - basic way
5/10 - the ruined way
7/10 - the basic way with the prostate vibrator on.
8/10 - the basic way, riding a dildo.
4/10 - HFWO

New to this (about a week in) usually about 3 fingers and sometimes a thin dildo, last night I finally managed to ride a dildo and fuck myself for a good couple minutes then stopped as to slowly train my asshole to being spread open. Anywho tonight I tried again but the coconut oil was kind of giving friction or something like that. It was really hard to insert a finger let along a dildo. Had to switch to a water based lube but those dry up so quick so couldn't really do much. I use organic virgin coconut oil. Any help or tips? Was i just sensitive and extra tight from being spread open last night? Common occurrence for y'all?

I’m curious if any other posters take cabergoline? It’s used most often for prolactomas (pituitary tumor) but I use it for delayed orgasm. I have been on it for awhile and feel it’s part of the reason I get such over the top orgasms. Anyone else experiencing this?

Tonight I was doing some Mindgasm training, and at the end of the second lesson something told me to grab my newly acquired Njoy Pure Wand and have some fun. About 5 minutes in, I started pouring fluid out of my penis and I was writhing on my bed in pleasure. I grabbed my phone, took a couple of videos and continued for another half an hour. I finally achieved an hfwo (I hope) after playing for a couple of years with other toys. Feel so awesome right now! 🥵🥵👍

I can't figure out what that was! I've made great progress towards HFWO in the last 3 months. Through meditation and hypnofiles I've learned to achieve HFDO with and without a butt plug. I can even have intense dry orgasm just by contracting my pelvic muscles. I'd like to take a 3 month break with my njoy wand. Yesterday after 2 minutes of the session I started to have sperm flowing out of my prostate drop by drop without any waves or orgasmic sensations, it was nice. But I was just oozing sperm for 10 minutes. I continued the session for about 30 minutes and sperm was constantly flowing out drop by drop, I was riding waves of pleasant sensations, but I still haven't achieved even a dry orgasm! What was that? It's so strange, it turns out I'm experiencing stronger sensations without direct stimulation of the prostate just by contracting my pelvic muscles. Has anyone experienced this?

I know that youre supposed to rub the area in between your balls and your ass but whenever i do touvh that area, i feel absolutely no pleasure, it just feels like im rubbing skin. Am i doing something wrong? Or does it take like 10 minutes of rubbing to feel anything?

I'm struggling to feel anything from trying to play with my perineum. I don't know if I've even found it. I need help trying to figure out where it is and how to play with it. I've heard of perineal orgasms and want to try to experience one. Help pls?

After promising myself I’d make this year the year I’d finally have a prostate orgasm, I fell off the bandwagon and haven’t really been committed to training my hole and p spot. But good news - I was able to get my plugs in easier this time! It used to take me a good 30 minutes, but now they slide right in. I also feel more control over my asshole muscles and can relax and contract to help move the toy in quicker. I still feel like it’s gonna be a while before I can enjoy the sensation of a toy moving around - I think my asshole itself can only take so much in and out or even up and down movement. I’m stroking myself because rn I want to associate anal play with pleasure - my brain associates it with nerves and pain. So I figure it’s better to start there than try to go hands free entirely. Anyways, here’s to keeping up the work.

Okay, so I read this Reddit comment and I want to know if it works before I buy anything. I want to have a HFO, but I have had no luck with that so far. The Reddit comment said that the person uses a TENS unit to make their PC muscles contract, which makes the use of aneros automatic, if that makes sense. Will this work, and has anyone had experience with this?

Edit: yeha i know the spelling is wrong in the title.....

Or would it have the opposite affect? I'm not really into chastity at all. I don't have a cage. I have considered it just for play. Because the thought of it seems exciting for some reason. It would be a turn on.

My thoughts on why it would help: it might add to the sexual excitement and bring me closer to orgasm that way. It would also prevent me from trying to touch my penis.

I’ve always used olive oil as lube for my dildo but i’ve been seeing on reddit that it’s not a good idea. I’ve never had any problems with it but I’m wondering if it’s bad for my silicone dildo? Will it cause damage to it over time?

This year I’ve started playing with my hole a lot. Multiple dildos and plugs. I still haven’t had the courage to tell my fiancée but really want to. Last week before we fucked I put a plug in while showering. I was so nervous that she would see it so I skipped the foreplay and fucked her missionary. All I could think about was how hot my ass looked as I was balls deep in her with her pink plug in my ass. I came hard then cleaned up. I did it again a few days later.

Does anyone else get a big of pain/cramps/bloating in the day or two following a session? Can be hard to poop sometimes in the same timeframe.

I can do one rn and can come close to orgasm but just stopped for some reason but I’m wondering how to fit 2 fingers in and if it feels any better?

Loving this toy. I insert the small end then flip it around backwards, with large end pressing against the bed. Then I ride it, using slow and shallow hip movements alternating with fast and deep thrusts. Can't get enough.

Yesterday I played around and somehow fit an 8.5” dildo, not all of it but probably 6” or more. It was girthy and to be honest i didn’t think I would get it in, I’ve never used anything anywhere near that size before. But, the feeling of it finally sliding in was amazing! I didn’t have it in for long though because I didn’t wanna do damage and since it was my first time, wanted to see how I felt after.

I’m not really that sore today, maybe a little bit but it’s not that bad at all. I REALLY wanna try it again, it’s all I’ve been thinking about, is it too early to try today or should I go for it? There is some soreness but nothing major…I don’t wanna damage something, that’s my main concern. Is it too soon to try again?

Girthiest one I have have has 1.75 inch in circumference and I find it easy to insert after playing with a smaller toy for warm up. It's crazy how some of you seem to swallow big monster cocks making it look so easy. How do I get there? Is it hard to stretch like this? Does this require multiple toys and consistent sessions? Or is my body able to slowly stretch and relax with only couple tries? Also are there any recommendation for girthy toys? I've seen steve by square peg but it seems too big. Maybe something a little smaller would be nice.

Hi there, I've been trying prostate play for a while, but I usually have trouble maintaining focus or staying patient and not touching my penis. I think this is probably exacerbated by my ADHD.

So I thought of giving THC a try like many people here seem to suggest, but my issue is, how do I get my hands on it? CBD is easy to find in Europe but THC is completely outlawed. Like I've had greater ease acquiring psychedelics such as shrooms or LSD, which can work wonders as well! But the tolerance buildup with that is unfortunately quite problematic.

So any Europeans here that can give me some advice? Is CBD oil/edibles a decent replacement for THC? Or do you guys just buy weed straight up?

Was wondering if this is a safe lubricant as ive heard it feels amazing and i really want to try anal/prostate play. Also asking because i have to get stuff from a Walmart and they sell this there so i wanted to know if others have used it on themselves and if its safe, all replies appreciated, thanks very much!

So i did prostate play for over year now. Pretty succesful many orgasmic sessions. During prostate play i could get erections on and off or finish session with strong regular penile orgasm. Problem is i cant live normal Male life anymore. When i am aroused by woman prostate start pulsating but penis is calm. I dont even have night erections anymore its just constant prostate clenching. How the fuck do i get rid of this curse ? How do i rewire back to my penis ?

There was a post 5 months ago. I could link it, I found it before posting again.

Does anyone feel any concern when they're bringing their heart rate in extreme highs during play?

The last post talked about aerobic and anaerobic rates. Last night I was peaking max and averaging 150-155 bpm. I know a part of it was played by edibles but when I didn't touch the prostate or legal I could drop to 100 bpm, but whenever I got into it: straight to 150+

I still ripped a couple poppers throughout and my watch shows I would hit 180 for those short half minutes.

Like what's the consensus here, if we go out dieing from the ultimate pleasure it's cool. Or do we check out before we get there.

I feel it's worth noting I'm very active and health conscious and this is all outside of normal scope of life.

Here's my problem: I start to have p-waves that build and build, almost orgasm strength, and once they get really strong I get an erection.. And it's over. I stop, refocus, it builds....and erection, stop. Anyone else have this issue? What can I do?

Also i was thinking of getting the plusOne Duel Vibrating Arc, as i can get it from walmart. Is this brand body safe? Ive heard some materials are porous and can trap bacteria or that the material of certain sex toys can be hazardous. And does anyone have any experience with this brand or specific product?

After months of experimenting with almost every Aneros model, I’ve compiled my ultimate ranking based on my personal experience. Keep in mind, everyone’s preferences and body responses differ, so what works for me might not be the same for you.

How I Use Aneros

Each session starts with a towel on the sofa, gloves, lube, and mood-chosen 2–3 models (from smallest to largest). I begin with gentle contractions, focusing on prostate sensations and mixing in nipple play for extra sensitivity. THC enhances everything, but relaxation and pacing are key. As I warm up, I move to larger models, letting instinct guide me. Gloves are a must since I dislike lube texture, though it can feel wasteful, considering environmental factors.

Pleasure Ranking (Highest to Most Subtle)

1. Maximus Syn (Blue) – Best Super-O Award
   Currently the perfect mix of size, shape, and flexibility for my prostate. Slightly thicker than Helix Syn V, its indirect stimulation hits just right. With THC, it gave me my most intense session yet—made me squeak like a happy piglet.

2. Helix Syn V – Best Versatility Award
   A fantastic all-rounder. Beginner-friendly yet powerful for seasoned users. Vibrations are a fun option but can overstimulate if overused. Balanced size and mobility make it a go-to model.

3. Progasm Ice – Most Impact Award
   A beast for picking the prostate. It’s large, commanding, and delivers intense sensations. However, as my sensitivity grew, its size started to overshoot the sweet spot, making it more of an occasional tool for me.

4. VICE 2
   A vibrating monster. It’s huge and less mobile, but for those who love vibrations, it’s unmatched. Personally, I see it as a special-occasion toy since vibrations mostly numb my prostate.

5. Psy
   A demonic, overpowered MGX Syn that feels adventurous and raw. Even though it‘s aggressive nature can easily trigger high rises, it requires patience to master. Its adjustable tridents add customization, but can be finicky. Best for advanced users seeking variety. I definitely have to test it more.

6. MGX Syn
   Simple, finger-like, and beginner-friendly. It’s pleasant but lacks the wow factor of larger or more advanced models like Helix Syn V or Progasm. It‘s great for warming up and enjoying simple massages.

7. Eupho Trident (White Plastic) Too subtle for my taste. It’s ticklish and light, making it the least stimulating model for me. It is my goto when you want to lightly warm-up a swollen, sensitive prostate. It‘s rough plastic is the reason why I only have Syn models. It‘s texture causes too much friction for me personally, leaving unpleasant feels in my ass after use.

My Insights for Beginners and Beyond

• The bigger the support wheel, the easier: Models like Progasm are ideal for starting your journey, because some people like me see Aneros like supporting wheels for mindgasms, but as you grow more sensitive, smaller and more precise tools become more satisfying, as the need and size for supporting wheel decreases, until at some day you may not even need any models anymore.
• Nipple Play: Essential for me. It amplifies sensations and decrypts „encrypted“ prostate’s signals.
• THC: Nitro Boost for your prostate play, making you way more sensitized and boost your speed and chances of reaching Super-O‘s
• Vibrations: Can be fun but might desensitize with overuse. I prefer alternating friction (comtractions) and pauses (involuntaries) for consistent stimulation.

Conclusion

For me, Maximus Syn currently reigns supreme with its perfect balance of size and stimulation. Helix Syn V is the most versatile, while Progasm remains the powerhouse that helped awaken my prostate. However, what works best depends on your experience level and preferences.

This review is based on my experience as of November 29, 2024. I’ll post an update as I refine my techniques and explore further.

I hope this could help some people. Happy exploring!

My girl was out of town so I decided to pop in the old toy and give it a go. It's a thumping vibrator from too timid for those who were wanting to know. I've used it many times before but never had much success until today.

It started pretty average, felt good but nothing new. At some point I hit a good pace of clenching and releasing that got me going so I turned up the speed on the toy. What really pushed me over the edge adding in a rotation with the clenching. I would rotate my legs inward and push my butt out while clenching, that pushed the toy in the absolute perfect spot. I instantly knew that was different and felt it start to build. Within a minute or two it happened, I was clenching and blew large a load on my belly while I tried to keep quite so my neighbors didn't hear me moaning.

I can't wait for my next chance to use that toy again.

I’ve been doing prostate play for years and a few years ago when my state went legal, I tried edibles and quickly came to the realization that THC gives prostate play a huge boost, but even though I’ve been doing it for years, I still can’t decide if there is a sweet spot, or if more THC means more pleasure. Sometimes I get super high where I can barely walk and I feel like the sessions are great, and sometimes I just do a little bit where I can hardly feel it, but it still gives a considerable boost to the pleasure. Does anyone else have opinions on whether or not you can have too much THC where it actually detracts from the pleasure?

Been trying prostate play for about 6 months. Within like 2 months I was able to do hands free full multiple orgasms but I’ve lost it. Now whenever I’m playing I get close and feel the same sensation and my body tenses like I’m having an orgasm but instead I just pee(colourless and slightly thick?) or poop(even though I feel I’ve cleaned more than enough and this wasn’t an issue before) It still feels great but it isn’t the same.

Any advice on what has changed?

I’m gonna spoil myself with a new toy today, basically need advice on which toy to get in the title. Any other toy recs are welcome too. I already have the pure wand and its great, but Im so obsessed with butt stuff now I want to explore more options