New alternate account for NSFW reasons ... I'm sure that this is unusual, but I have a kink for prostate and electro play without finishing with an orgasm. I've been married over 25 years to a wonderful woman who wants me to finish with her and I'm totally fine with that, but I stumbled on orgasm denial during my "me time" prostate play and, after all this time, I have really come to crave it. I have had a couple of HFOs through the years, but most of the time I find orgasm from prostate play frustratingly elusive. I just get really horny and desperate to cum before I end up giving up.

What started out as frustrating in the wrong kind of way and that I still I don't like is that once a toy slides inside of me, I go soft. It doesn't matter how horny or hard I am, I completely lose my erection no matter how good it feels. When I first started, that was a problem because I wanted to be able to stroke myself. Furiously pushing a wet noodle around just doesn't do it. But, over time it became a turn-on knowing that choosing prostate pleasure for "me time" means giving up having an orgasm. But, massaging and milking my prostate satisfies a craving that's hard to explain. I really (really) get off on the feeling and sight of my cum leaking out and taking my orgasm with it, and now I love that desperate need to cum and the frustration of not being able to do anything about it.

Orgasm or not I'd love to be able to stay hard while I milk my prostate. I've watched guys completely hard milking themselves. It looks hot and makes me envious :). But, even with Viagra and a cock ring I just can't stay hard once I've penetrated myself. Has anyone learned to overcome the "deflation reflex"? Any tricks to learn? At this point, I would probably still choose not to cum because waiting until I get inside of my wife is so addicting, but I think being able to add a Tenga or something would amp up the fun.

I've read a few hot stories about prostate milking for orgasm denial. Even if it's made up, I know I can't cum once I've milked myself and it's exquisite. It's not my wife's cup of tea, unfortunately, but I'd like hearing if anyone else use prostate play for orgasm denial?

Hiya, new to the area and was wondering if it’s possible to reach the super Os i hear mentioned so much just with a finger or even two - if not, what household items work? Want to know how much success can be had without buying toys before making a huge monetary investment

Recently started to discover prostate play and it’s been a journey. Long way to go but has anyone else discovered a better mood afterwards? Definitely less irritable and maybe even happier lol

So I’ve been experimenting here and there with anal play and I have a question about cleanup. Long story short, I’m a fan of the bad dragon dildos and I use the bad dragon cum lube with them. My question is, after playing, is it required to cleanup straightaway? Reason I ask is, I usually play at night before bed and sometimes I’m so exhausted that I wish I could just go go to sleep after play and clean up in the morning but I don’t because I’m worried about leaving cum lube in me? I’d like to be able to go to the toilet, squirt our any lube that hasn’t dried up and call it a night. Is there any harm in doing so? Just throwing it out there that I do use a douche before all play and I do use a lube shooter as well

So as I've posted in the past few days I've hit a very new territory and I'm a firm believer now. The thoughts of "I'm just doing this, or maybe I'm not, I dunno" or "is this even real orbis this just for lucky few" because something happened that I in no way could I do it subconsciously or consciously.

I've been practicing more and more going down the toyless route just breathing, feeling, and relaxing. I noticed in bed that whenever I would nod off it would seem like I forgot to breath for a second, that could be the sleep apnea though lol. But I twitch awake, I noticed that I'd get this intense vibration in my prostate area and then it would fade as I relaxed. This happened last night and I thought maybe if I go into a trance like state. I have idea how to do that. But I tried, and after a few times where I did the nod off thing something happened.

I felt more vibration, I got hotter and it felt like the heat was expanding and stretching me to accommodate more of the heat. This faded and I kept breathing because they said it comes in waves but more intense. What happened next was to say was the most pleasant feeling I've ever felt and right up there with my best penile orgasms we be an understatement.

I as I breathed I felt it building, I told my self over and over to submit to my prostate, I wasn't even playing with my nipples at this point. The vibrating came back, small but in about 30 seconds built to something wonderous and not so subtle. It also got hot....really hot, it swelled and swelled from my prostate. I actually moaned out and it made it all feel better.

Also to note, EVERYTHING on me became sensative. I clenched my base and felt like I was gonna cum from the pleasure shooting through my backside. Also I had to get up and do something but I quickly got it back, like within 20 seconds of imagining that feeling again but this time the vibration and heat originated from my belly to which I thought, I wonder if I can move it and I was able to move it to my surprise

I didn't go out of body, see colors, or lights so I don't think this was a super o. Was this a prostate orgasm? Is this what they are like? If this is only a prostate orgasm then my goodness! These are great in of themselves!!

Ever since I first started having sex with my girlfriend, I've been quite jealous of the seemingly immense amount of sexual pleasure she can get. Wanting to experience something similar to the earth-shattering sensations that she has, I decided to buy I prostate massager yesterday.

However, I'm a tiny bit afraid that I'll like prostate play a bit... To much. So much so that the penile orgasms that I get when I have sex with my girlfriend won't satisfy me enough.

I don't really feel comfortable (yet) to open up to her about me wanting to try prostate play. So I'm beginning solo.

Have unlocking prostate orgasms ruined "regular" orgasms for you, or are you still satisfied with your penis knowing that you are able to experience more please if you want to.

Curious question, and maybe this applies more to the “gay” community or people in general who take bigger things up there on a regular bases. Does doing prostate stuff regularly make you more “loose” or anything to where it affects or changes anything related to when you go to the bathroom? I ask curiously, because I see some people (women included) taking some biggg things haha, and I know the body can take a lot and kinda go back but was just curious peoples experiences and/or tips.

I've been married over ten years. Long story short, I slowly and embarrassingly let my wife know about my kinks. Specifically, prostate play. I showed her one of my toys and explained it's what I like to do. She told me it was not her thing which is fine. Fast forward a few weeks. I left some dildos in my nightstand drawer that she found. I guess I was sick of hiding it.

Today, she sat me down and told me we're breaking up. She wants nothing to do with any of it. She said the word divorce. For the foreseeable future, I'm sleeping in the basement until we figure out planning.

Good luck out there! I hope we find our way whatever it is.

I started with buttplugs now I've gone all in with a remote massager as well cant wait for it to come in and connect to my materbator

Anyone have a recommendation or experience with these? Are they worth a try or meh? They recently caught my attention and i’m wondering if the textured sensation feels good.

I mean obviously it doesn’t vibrate but in terms of size would it be visible to anyone?

I got the Aneros Vice 2 as my first but after reading , it seems like this is not the best one to learn with. I was at Walgreens and I picked up the Plus One prostate messaged but I’m wondering, is this ok to learn with. It looks very similar to the Aneros. Does it work with the same methods ect or do I just need to snag say a trident or eupho.

I was looking for a good all day wear plug that gives a good feeling of fullness. I have an Aneros Helix Syn, but it doesn't give much fullness for obvious reasons.

I think I've settled on the B-vibe Snug plug, and have an eye on the #4 or #5. I can currently take 4.5cm diameter with very little stretching or warm up, so either of the snug plugs would be fine.

I really want the #5, but I'm a little concerned that it's 15cm insertable length will bump into the signoid colon. I have a 17.5cm x 4.5cm insertable length dildo which does hit the signoid and need to be worked past it for full insertion.

Anyone here with the #5 snug plug? How is the length? I am 190cm tall btw

New to the prostate play experience. I have an Aneros Progasm I’ve been trying to get used to and get my first big O. I finally experienced and intense feeling the other day but it was from manual stimulation using the toy. I’ve been doing a lot of reading and apparently you are supposed to let it do the work and not “chase the feeling” or manually move it with your hand like a wand. Is this correct? How do I let the toy do the work? Also since I just used it last night is it better to take a break to get a better feeling?

Ordered a dildo (Blush novelties avant ergo mini) today after having mastered the Njoy PW for some time. My previous experience with silicone dildos was with my partner and solo, had trouble with after session smells and ended up getting rid of them not long after using them (quality silicone ones, like vix mustang pricey).

I don't want to end up going down that road again or even having to worry about it absorbing smell and was thinking of using a condom with it. As far as condoms on a dildo and the prostate are concerned, is there any noticeable reduction in sensitivity or feeling of the dildos curvatures? Thanks for any input on this question

I broke my prostate messager trying to get some extra milking done. Looking for one that is similar maybe a little more intense in the prostate and possibly thicker. I broke off part the T piece so it is still usable but not ideal. Any suggestions for either a different aneros or another brand all together.

I had to quit using cannabis for a few reasons, and I was afraid quitting would hamper my success. But actually, the opposite has been true. I think being sober maybe allows me to really focus and intellectualize what I'm exploring whereas cannabis just feels good overall. Maybe it's tied to dopamine somehow too since I was a regular user.

My first HFDO happened as things were building up. Focusing a little extra pressure on that have to pee feeling spot (with an empty bladder), which after a while feels sexual. It basically felt like building to a traditional orgasm. But when I came, nothing came out. Everything about it felt like an orgasm, the pelvic floor muscles contracting rapidly etc.. Is that how you all experience it? I finished traditionally and had a wet orgasm. Felt like a major accomplishment. I realize I should have tried for another dry O haha.

I've had a couple HFWO the same way. However, the last one the buildup was so much more intense and the wet orgasm was actually painful. It felt like my taint cramped up. I remember a comment where someone said their first felt like that. Wondering if anyone has the same experience or knows anything about that?

23M, English is not my first language, I'm writing this with Google Translate, so apologies if the wording is a bit off.

I've been playing this game for a couple of years now, and I've bought a few toys that have helped me progress quite a bit (an Aneros Trident, Edge 2, and a knockoff Njoy Wand). I've tried everything, THC, CBD lube, and it's worked pretty well, but I feel like I'm not quite reaching that coveted Super O.

In my last session, I was as high as a comet, with the aneros and a foria sup in the ass, and started feeling p-waves like "ooommmgggg here comes the big one," but I can’t seem to ride that wave. Whenever I get that close, those p-waves fade away, and "the big one" doesn’t arrive haha.

Any tip please? I’d love to feel a super orgasm like the ones people talk about in this sub :(

Out of curiosity. How many guys here are single and how many in a hetero relationship?

For the guys with partners. How Manu know you are into ass play? How many play with you?

I told my Lady I wanted to try butt stuff. Prostate for health and pleasure.

She seemed OK with it but really hasn't done anything.

I enjoy it so much but at the same time I feel so ashamed about it and my other kinks and fetishes it's just a long list of things I hate about myself

Straight to the point: how flared does a dildo have to be in order to be safe for anal play? I'm looking at two different ones - one of them is significantly more flared than the other, but the not-quite-as-flared one seems like a better size. The latter is flared, but just slightly wider than the toy.

Any input would be appreciated

So I [M23] am in a relationship with a girl [F25] we’ve been together just about 2 years. As of right we both love eating each others asses and tongue fucking each others buttholes. It feels so good. When it comes to her, we’re able to do lots of butt stuff like anal sex, butt plugs, licking and eating. With me I am always scared of not being clean and there has been a couple times where it’s gotten messy. Well I want to let her do more stuff to me, so far she’s put a finger in me, and we tried a buttplug but it really hurt! I just bought some anal beads that I think will work good and she wants to buy me a prostate massager. I’m gonna use some poppers and a lot of lube. But I really want it to be nice and clean for her. What can I do to make us both comfortable and mess free?

Just as the title says really, how long do you give yourself? I find after half an hour (which doesn’t include warm up/ cleaning etc) I tend to grab a dildo and ‘go to town’ which always results in me peeing (sometimes squirting I think) and getting frustrated.

I’m thinking to set myself a time of absolutely do not change course - how long would you give it

Compared to men who reported 4–7 ejaculations per month across their lifetimes, men who ejaculated 21 or more times a month enjoyed a 31% lower risk of prostate cancer.

Given this, should we be jerking off nearly every day?

Perhaps milking the prostate would provide that cancer-lowering benefit, but I've yet to achieve anything more than a dry HFO. I'm not a doctor, but I can't think of a medical reason a dry HFO from prostate play would reduce the risk of prostate cancer.

Thoughts?

I have been playing on an off for many years with aneros and many other toys, last week while using my aneros psy I feel like I was getting p waves that felt pleasurable and I could focus the toy using different clenches over my prostate and I felt a build up to what I thought would be an orgasm but it felt really dull compared to having a hfdo that I have had twice before in my journey while using vibrating toys

I had the pelvic contractions and my stomach and thighs were fluttering just a dullish feeling when I was hoping for the big one (the p waves felt more pleasurable)

Any ideas if I am on the right track? Is it due to the Foria CBD oil I was using?

I have a few massagers, Eupho, Progasm, helix, pure wand, a few different dildos, and the edge 2. The edge 2 just feels like it hits the perfect spot, only thing is I just don’t like how there’s such a large external portion. I’m looking for something that can give the same pressure as the edge 2, but minimal on the outside. The helix and the Progasm don’t really do it for me, but the Eupho seems to also hit the right spot. I was thinking of trying the pure joy plug or the psy since it’s adjustable. Anybody have a recomendation?

30M. For over a year, I've been trying, but no matter how much I tried, I couldn't seem to find my prostate, despite reading tons of posts on where it should be and how it should feel. This morning, feeling horny again, I tried one more time, and as I rubbed against the wall, I could feel the sensation. My cock was already hard, but I wasn't touching it, I simply kept rubbing my finger against the spot. And then I actually orgasmed, something that I never experienced before, cumming without having to jerk off my cock.

Now, it wasn't this mindblowing, earth-shattering orgasm that I always hear people talking about it, but I'll count it as a win and hopefully a sign of better things to come. Thanks for reading.

So recently I finally decided to order a dildo after discovering how good it feels to finger myself. After talking to a few people on here about what to get that would fit me best to explore my prostate, I settled for a 7 inch “realistic” dildo.

I had a lot of free time Saturday so I decided to take advantage and explore this new thing. I was really excited. I set my bed up and used a plastic board so the dildo would suction on to it, and I teased my ass till I was ready to get on it and started slowly riding it.

I usually get off to women that I find very attractive (usually super models or actresses or women I know), so I put up a few videos of women I’m really into as I rode it and I almost started to feel feminine?

I was riding it; moaning, feeling myself. It was unreal, I felt a wave of pleasure come over me and I got super into it. Almost to the point I was imagining myself as one of those women.

I’m not at the point where I can have an orgasm without touching myself so I made myself cum after about an hour of riding that thing and I was sort of freaked out because I’m a straight guy.

Is this a normal feeling with prostate play? It’s not necessarily that I don’t feel masculine on it but I just felt this intense sensual feminine feeling with that dildo inside of me

So long story short I’m in college and want an app controller vibe I can be in class with

Thanks

After 2 years of trying, I've upped my game as far as prostate pleasure is concerned, and can have dozens of very satisfying prostate orgasms, without a problem. My question is, what is my next step towards a "Super O" ? Do I just carry on until it happens, change my approach, or even try some weed, to improve my chances, or is it just the usual "just be very patient"?

Any advice would be gratefully appreciated, thank you❤️