/r/PositiveDating

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Like r/4/r but for people with any and all STIs.

Please use the r4r format for your title and include your status: example: "27 [F4M] Los Angeles, CA. HPV" *

General rules (Same as R4R)

  • This subreddit is 18+. If you are under eighteen, do not post.

  • Seeking an STI to get a positive status (yes these posts happen) aka "bug chasing" is NOT allowed. These posts will be removed.

  • No personal information, including but not limited to phone number, email addresses, or external profiles.

  • Exchanges for money, goods, or services are strictly prohibited.

  • No sexism, racism, homophobia, ad hominem posts, or rudeness will be tolerated.

  • Spam will not be tolerated and repeated offenses will result in a ban. Posting more frequently than 1 time per 24 hours will be considered spam.

  • All NSFW content must be tagged/marked "NSFW."

  • If you have an issue on the subreddit, use the report button or contact the moderators.

  • If you do not agree with a post, ignore it and move on.

  • No posting on behalf of another

RESOURCES

National STD Hotline 1-800-227-8922, M-F 8:00 am - 11:00 pm

Dating sites come with a risk and should you meet anyone from /r/positivedating it is highly encouraged that you exchange STI testing information to validate their status and make sure they are being honest as possible. And use protection to prevent other STIs!

/r/PositiveDating

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Mod needed

Looking for a mod to revive this group. I don't have time anymore. And idk what happened to the other mod.

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2024/10/05
18:47 UTC

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2022/10/17
04:39 UTC

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Feeling stuck

I am looking to see if anyone else here feels a desire (whether slight or strong) to be open about their herpes with new people in order to see if you are still sexy, lovable, or attractive? Do you ever feel the need or want to do this when you are already in a relationship? The person who gave me herpes is my husband. The way he did it was so careless and selfish. It's honestly really hard for me to get past, especially when he has been unfaithful to me after the fact. Now I'm left with so much insecurity that I'm not sure if Im still with him because I feel stuck due to the herpes, or if it's because I'm actually in love with him. Can anyone give me some kind advice or just comment and tell me if you can relate or what your experiences were? I'm just sad because even tho I looked past the std, I worry that a man cannot look past it with me having it. I've only been with 3 men my whole life and really honestly worry about men thinking I got it because I "get around" or was "careless". When really I trusted the man I love to be careful and he let me down. Also, does anyone have any good experience with positive singles? The dating app for hsv2+ people?

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2022/02/02
02:43 UTC

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Any females from Ottawa, Can on here?? Male looking 4F I'm 19, I've had hsv for 3 years not sure if it's type one or two but it's genital, pm me for my snap or socials, looking for friends/fwb/relationship, I've been on positive singles and there aren't a lot of females in this city on the app😂

3 Comments
2022/01/29
10:48 UTC

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31/M/Black/herpes

I just moved to The Big Island of Hawaii. I'm a mobile gamer, I'm 420/shroom friendly. I work security and trade forex

30 Comments
2022/01/14
23:53 UTC

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I went and picked up my std results from planned parenthood and they told me I tested negative for everything and I specifically asked about HPV. I literally showed this to a guy I’m talking to. Did I show him I’m positive?? They never called me to tell me I was positive for anything?

1 Comment
2022/01/14
06:30 UTC

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Any South African gay men with HSV?

2 Comments
2021/12/13
21:16 UTC

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Dating with Herpes?

Hi everyone, I have had HSV-2 for over 2 years now. I was with a partner up until a year ago and haven't been able to get back into dating. I live in London and moved here after breaking up with my partner. So don't have a strong social circle that I would feel comfortable telling that I have hsv.

Does anyone have any advice for dating, or maybe meeting people who also have HSV around London? Would be cool to hear how other people have delt with this or are dealing with it.

15 Comments
2021/11/21
10:48 UTC

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I’m confused by this response what is he thinking after I disclosed I have genital herpes. Has he moved on or is he still considering dating me?

8 Comments
2021/11/08
00:18 UTC

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Someone to build a future with

I'm new here. And I definitely don't want to waste anyone's time or my time. I have hsv 1 with very little to no ob. I'm in the Bossier city area of Louisiana. Is there Anyone on here live close by?

3 Comments
2021/11/03
05:35 UTC

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Looking to give head for the first time New Jersey.

Hello Im in south jersey looking to give my first bj. I have hpv and nothing else. Im looking for the same to let me give a good blow job. Send me a msg if your interested. I'll also do couples and bi couples in the same situation. Not interested in anal (recieving). Can pump and dump or lasting fun.

2 Comments
2021/10/02
10:58 UTC

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29 [F4M] HSV1 looking in Iowa or nearby areas

Tired of disclosing and looking for someone with a shared experience. Probably not many people on here in the Midwest but it’s worth a shot. PM’s are open.

3 Comments
2021/04/02
02:48 UTC

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Was diagnosed with high-risk HPV, wanted to start a community

Hiya, I hope this is allowed. I just wanted to share the HPV platform I’ve started incase some of you may find it useful :)

I was diagnosed a couple of years back and found it hard to find a resource that could answer my questions in a straightforward way, or was aimed at my demographic. So I thought I’d start my own! I would love for it to turn into a supportive community.

Here’s the link to the insta account, with the website link in bio:

https://instagram.com/wtfishpv

Thanks all!

0 Comments
2021/02/23
23:19 UTC

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26M socal [M4F]

Hey, 26M here with hsv1. Let's chat, message me something you want to accomplish in 2021.

0 Comments
2020/12/13
07:19 UTC

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31 [M4F] Looking for women who have had cold sores previously #Seattle

Hey everyone,

I'm 5'7, 145 lb, brown, south asian man. I have had cold sores a very long time ago (I don't remember when but I do know that I have not had an outbreak in 8+ years). I didn't know having cold sores was a problem until I came to US and my ex told me that I couldn't eat her until after marriage (that's not the reason we broke up but I'm not here to tell my sob story).

Long story short, I want to eat someone out and would prefer someone who has the same problems as me. I can host and if you want me to come over, I'd prefer someone in the downtown or Lake Union area because I don't have a car.

About me: I'm a fairly athletic person (to give an idea, I have ran 2 half marathons last year, nothing this year coz pandemic) and I have been told that I have an average size dick so set your expectations accordingly. 😛 I have also been told that I'm a good listener and that I can also be funny sometimes. In case you are interested, just HMU and we can trade pictures. Thanks a lot for your time and attention ❤️

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2020/12/08
01:05 UTC

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MF4A

Hey, my girlfriend and I are looking for a third. Preferably a girl or couple. She has HSV2, I do not. Let us know if you’re interested! :)

1 Comment
2020/12/06
16:48 UTC

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M4F DC/DMV

Throwaway because Im not sure if this is still up and running but im 24 living in DC and trying to get back into it. HSV2+. Hit me up here and well move it to SC

0 Comments
2020/10/23
22:46 UTC

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San Diego / SoCal Herpes chat group on Kik

Starting a new local Kik group. Looking for people that like to chat and bullshit throughout the day or need general help with this diagnosis/condition. DM for details.

0 Comments
2020/10/23
02:50 UTC

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2020/10/17
04:00 UTC

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[32/M/GHSV2/Houston, TX]4R and/or Post Card Pen Pal

First a funny herp story! I've had GHSV2 for about three years now and think I have the physical aspects of what this disease does to me figured out pretty well. Really not bad at all; obviously there's the social stigma which I still deal with. Over this past summer I've had a little bit of an ant problem in my apartment. So.... I'm laying in bed trying to fall asleep the other night when suddenly I feel an intense stinging on my junk. Is this some new physical symptom of the herp that I haven't experienced before?! Jump out of bed, flip on the light to check out these new blisters forming only to find an ant biting me right on the dong... If you've ever wondered ant bites look surprisingly similar to herp blisters especially when three of 'em are clustered together : /

32/M/Houston, TX looking for someone to connect with. Soft spoken, maybe even a little quiet dude but I love a good conversation. Easy going, level headed and just a little bit snarky/sarcastic. My sense of humor falls on the drier, darker side. Finding amusement in the weirdness of everyday life. Kind of a loner for better or worse. Back in school for a career change. Active, height/weight proportionate and in decent shape; happy to send a photo. I enjoy trying out new recipes in my cast iron pan(s), thrifting, self care stuffs, amateur plant care, running, watching old movies and being outside.

Obviously, I'd love to meet someone local but am not really holding my breath on it. Not into distance relationships but it would be cool to have a post card penpal interested in some light hearted, flirty correspondence. Something to look forward to in the mail aside from bills. Maybe a chat/text/phone call buddy with an option to meet up in the future if we get along. Someone to relate to that understands living with the herp. Hope to hear from ya soon!

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2020/09/10
02:16 UTC

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40 M4F #sandiego - C19 quarantine & HSV blues

Covid and quarantine has me feeling down. I really would like to find someone to have fun with. Friends lovers and anything in between. I'm not the hit it and quit it type. I love to give massage. I'm at risk of covid hurting me so please reply only if you have been quarantined and are being careful and don't think covid is a joke or masks are an assault to our freedom.

2 Comments
2020/06/23
18:57 UTC

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Please be careful due to covid 19

When considering meeting up right now please use extreme caution due to Coronavirus

1 Comment
2020/05/19
07:29 UTC

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Dating sites

I don't understand how I can be on all these dating sites and disclose to so many ppl and yet NONE of them have any STDs or STIs I have HSV2 and it's pretty common. So I just don't understand it. It drives me crazy.

2 Comments
2020/01/21
03:30 UTC

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32/M/GHSV2- Houston, TX

Howdy there! Dating with the herp is tough and the local herp social group leaves a bit to be desired. I've been a hurp derp for about two years now and while it isn't the worst disease it hasn't exactly been fun either. It would be ideal to meet someone else with this lovely gift. I miss having a partner in this rough and tumble world.

Soft spoken, maybe even a little quiet dude but I love a good conversation. Chill, level headed; just a little bit snarky/sarcastic. My sense of humor falls on the drier, darker side. Finding amusement in the weirdness of everyday life. I have a full time job and am working on going back to school for a career change. Active, height/weight proportionate and in decent shape; happy to send a photo. I enjoy trying out new recipies, thrifting, watching old movies and being outside.

Wouldn't be opposed to meeting someone in person or just having a friend to talk to. Taking a trip to meet a friend or traveling together isn't out of the question either.

Hope to talk soon!

6 Comments
2020/01/06
19:49 UTC

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Hcream (Previously Happy Herpes) - New ‘tinder’ for hsv positives. We are excited to share our new dating for both Android/Iphone platform in hopes to make dating life easier as apps like positive singles charge way too much.

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2019/12/14
19:05 UTC

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Recent HPV scare and telling new boyfriend?

I recently started dating someone new. He is amazing. About a month after we started dating, I went in for a regular appointment at my gyno- my pap smear came back abnormal and I had to have it biopsied. I am waiting on my results but I am very nervous that I have HPV. The problem is that my new boyfriend and I had unprotected sex because I was clean with everything else. I regularly see my gyno to check my IUD and I get paps done every two years. If my diagnosis is that I do in fact have HPV, how should I tell my boyfriend?

2 Comments
2019/12/09
01:24 UTC

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I’d like to hear any and all experiences dating with high risk HPV.

0 Comments
2019/12/07
03:18 UTC

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Dating Apps and Sites

27 M GSHV1 OHIO Im guessing this may have already been discussed if so I’d appreciate being pointed in that direction. Anyway I have been trying out some positive dating apps and sites and im finding that you need to pay for premium to really get anywhere. Has anyone tried premium for MPWH or any orher sites, and is it worth it? Thanks!

6 Comments
2019/12/01
22:02 UTC

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