/r/NoFapChristians

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NoFapChristians is a safe place for Christian NoFap users to discuss the process of recovery from porn addiction and other forms of compulsive sexual behavior.

This subreddit provides a safe place for Christian NoFap users to congregate. This is a place where all beliefs are allowed but please bear in mind why this subreddit was created.


How to get started:

  1. Post in this subreddit and let us know who you are. Post your story, post a favorite verse, post some encouraging words.
  2. Comment on each others things. Show that you care and that this subreddit wants to help those who are also struggling with this. (This can only be a community if YOU are involved).
  3. Read through our Wiki page for a FAQ section, glossary of terms, and lots and lots of wonderful resources like sermons, books, success stories and more!
  4. Join /r/NoFap and become involved there. It is a great community with lots of fantastic resources. We would be dumb to not take advantage of such an established community. (If you are from there then I'm glad to see you here).
  5. Fill out our NoFapChristians Member Survey. So the mods can get a better idea of how to serve the community.
  6. Find an accountability group or partner whether online or in real life. Keep in touch on a daily basis. Call each other out when there is a failure. Complacency is your enemy. (So is being mean. So gentleness please).
  7. Get in the Word. Reading the Bible on a daily basis will bring you closer to God, to your spouse (or future spouse), and will encourage all the more.
  8. Last but certainly not least, be praying for yourselves and your brothers and sisters. Through God's strength this is possible and you won't get very far without Him. He is the most important part of this whole journey so make sure you are walking with Him!

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"How can a young man (or woman) keep their way pure? By guarding it according to your word. With my whole heart I seek you; let me not wander from your commandments! I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you." Psalm 119:9-11

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I think being on your phone too much causes porn usage

As a Christian, I know that spending hours a day behind a screen is harmful to one’s mind, body, and soul. This is def not the plan God has for our lives. More and more however, I’m noticing that screen time has an impact on how much porn I watch. I usually don’t have an issue with porn, it’s only when I’m on my phone for long periods.

It’s as if this idol leads into sexual immorality. I’m not sure if anyone else has experienced this, but after my latest relapse today, I think I just spend too much time on a screen.

Both idolatry and sexual immorality are violating the Ten Commandments so it’s not surprise that one violation leads to another. Maybe you can relate, but the biggest difference in our walk to come out of the sin of porn and masturbation could be laying aside our phones for something more productive.

2 Comments
2024/11/10
20:31 UTC

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Reprobate mind

Me, I watch one porn clip and I get a reprobate mind, While others can watch hundreds of porn clips and have the best lives possible. I'm so annoyed. I hate my life

4 Comments
2024/11/10
17:20 UTC

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Quitting Porn and Masturbation completely changed my life

Old Me
-Scared of women/not attractive to them
-Feeling extreme shame because of porn

- No relationship with God
- Lonely, weak, hopeless⁣

𝐍𝐞𝐰 Me:
⁣- Completely off porn, masturbation, lust and even urges
- Became a role model for many people
- Helped people quit porn forever in 14 days
- Living a life of purpose and closer to God

- Started attracting women for potential marriage
- On a mission to help many more achieve their dreams and goals⁣

Want a change in your life?

Want to quit porn for good?⁣⁣

  1. Question your beliefs, even the ones that you think are convinced that they are 100% true. You'll realize that if you question them, you'll be closer to finding the real answer⁣

  2. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Please learn about The Subconscious Alternation Method, it changed my thinking towards porn forever⁣

  3. Understand that quitting porn is not hard, but actually easy. You've just been doing it the wrong way⁣

Hope this inspired someone today

5 Comments
2024/11/10
17:10 UTC

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Moodiness

Is it normal to be moody af when trying to quit porn and masturbaition for good?

3 Comments
2024/11/10
12:25 UTC

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Day Two

Samson.

Samson was a He-man with a she-problem. An angel appeared to his mother and then his father and mother before he was conceived and they were told to raise Samson as a Nazarite. That meant that he could not eat of the vine — grapes, raisins, grape leaves, grape juice or wine. He also wasn’t allowed to touch a dead body. And finally, no razor was to touch his head.

So Samson grows up and sees a young Philistine lass that he fancies in the border town of Timnah. His parents are appalled, but Sam insists they make arrangements for the marriage. Nothing good happens in border towns. That’s where carnal Christians hang out. Can’t enjoy the Spirit filled life because they can’t let go of the world and can’t enjoy the sins of the world because the Spirit is grieved. That you, Fred? Maybe you can relate as well.

And you know the story — on the way, through a region of vineyards, a young lion surprises and attacks Samson but the Spirit of the Lord fills him and he rips that lion in two like you would a young goat. I’ve never been much for goat ripping but apparently it’s much easier than ripping lions, and Samson disposes of the carcass in a nearby vineyard.

So we see our hero here, hanging out in border towns, getting there and by walking through vineyards, falling in lust with Philistine fillies and messing with dead bodies.

And maybe that’s you. Hear me out here. Do you spend a lot of time traipsing through forbidden vineyards? Oh Fred, it’s not full blown porn, it’s just Instagram. My girlfriend and I? We just make out and do a little touching here and there, we aren’t having sex!

Later on Samson is going to get to wonder about that lion carcass and go into the vineyard and investigate that dead body.

And nothing happens to Samson as he dances around the forbidden. He is still special. The Spirit of the Lord still comes upon him when he needs it. His story is a tale of warning. Perhaps you can relate, perhaps you can’t — perhaps you’re still young and haven’t fully gone to that border town that looks so enticing. Maybe you aren’t there yet. But are you walking through the vineyards on your way there? Has God sent a young lion to dissuade you from continuing but you’ve killed it off and continued?

I suspect that if you’re reading this, you’ve already been to that border town and enjoyed yourself a time or two. Hanging around there, a Philistine lass is bound to catch your eye. And it doesn’t end well.

Get back to the Promised Land — a picture of the Spirit filled life. Don’t hang out at the border. Get out of the vineyards. Stop investigating dead bodies. It only leads to haircuts.

1 Comment
2024/11/10
11:32 UTC

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Day 5

Today was easy, up until a few hours ago. Around 9 o'clock, the temptation hit hard. And sadly, I couldn't get to sleep! I didn't do anything bad, didn't even go near looking at things, and managed to keep my mind away from those thoughts as well... But y'all, it was hard tonight!

Thanking Jesus that he brought me through!

Stay strong y'all! Keep The Fight! -R

1 Comment
2024/11/10
06:45 UTC

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Failed yesterday. Trying again today

Day 1 again. I'm so pathetic

4 Comments
2024/11/10
06:26 UTC

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Day 2 - Jesus Christ is Lord

I have a feeling that if we stay in Him, the Lord will release everyone in this sub from this sin.

Jesus Christ truly is the Lord God Almighty. The Father truly lives in the Son, and the Son truly lives in the Father. He is our Lord and our God. Our provider, our teacher, our Shepherd and our strength. I don't know where I would be if I had not known Jesus Christ, the love of my life. I can't go anywhere without Him anymore.

In my own life, He has pull me out of the depths of depression and despair again and again. His word has been my foundation and my stability. I am weak, and I have many shortcomings and limitations, but He is my strength. The Lord has been the rock that has kept me from sinking into the earth. I have been heartbroken, crushed and traumatized before. I have been taken for granted and cast aside throughout my life. I have lost direction in life, and my bed has been soaked with tears. But even when the pain was too great, the Lord remained by my side. The good shepherd has always known where to find me. Even when they rejected me, He heard my cries and He Himself came to deliver me against all those who had set themselves against me.

"Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm" - Psalm 105:15

Who is like this?

To describe Jesus is to describe our Father in Heaven. He is patient and humble. Gentle in heart. His strength is greater than Samson's, His wisdom is greater than Solomon's, His righteousness is greater than Abraham's and His love of God is greater than David's.

Stay in Him. Don't worry about the things you can't do, or the things you can't change. Don't even worry about being isolated from the world, because they hated Him first. God knows you, and He knows you very well. Come to Him in times like these and there you will find peace. Forgive those who have hurt you, they don't know what they are doing. Forgive yourself, you didn't know what you were doing. Whatever shortcomings you have, bring them to Jesus Christ and He will use them for good. He knows you very well. You're not good a speaking? Good, take it to the Lord. You feel rejected and unfairly treated? Good, take it to the Lord. You're struggling with lust and the problems in your life? Take it to the Lord.

The Lord will rescue you from your own Egypt and deliver you to the good land He has set aside for you.

1 Comment
2024/11/10
05:10 UTC

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A constant battle

I know that this is a constant battle, but some days I just want to give in to the temptation. Dm open

0 Comments
2024/11/10
04:49 UTC

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I’m developing something weird

I’ve stopped counting the days but it’s my longest streak by far. I’m starting to check my phone every single second for notifications or messages or email. Even though I’m literally on a mini vacation rn. Idk if I’m becoming compulsive or something but I’m driving myself insane. Btw this is probably my longest streak I’ve ever had im genuinely going insane rn and I’m scared that I’ve also gained anxiety or something. Since everytime I see or even think about my ex I feel like my heart is racing and my hands are shaking. I think I’m genuinely losing it.

Ps we broke up so I could work on myself and she has become an enemy and hates my guts for some reason so even though we broke yo with eachother we still see each other on a daily basis due to schooling and responsibilities

0 Comments
2024/11/10
04:44 UTC

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Relapse

Unfortunately I just relapsed halfway through day 4. I have heard once one makes it past day 7 then day 30 quitting porn and masturbation becomes easy. I am going to try and make it to day 7. Best of luck to everyone else!

9 Comments
2024/11/10
03:35 UTC

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Very Close Call

This morning, in a moment of strength (or guilt) I deleted the audio recordings permanently.

A few minutes later she walked downstairs. She said she had a dream. She dreamed I cheated, that she and that she hit me in the face, and I had to leave my home.

Shortly after, my wife comes down, and real talk ensued about what if I cheated.

It was too ironic, but man if it didn’t shake me.

I feel like I got a true wake up call having to look into the eyes of those I love and listen to them talk about a life I don’t get to be a part of. I don’t want to take that chance ever again.

I’m still battling sexualization of the roommate, but I pray peace of mind will come with time as I learn to view her as a whole person, and not the sexual object I have grown obsessed with.

I can’t go back to before, but I can let this represent a line I won’t cross again, and certainly one I won’t blow past in the future.

3 Comments
2024/11/10
01:28 UTC

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Day 0: I Need Help and Prayer

I fell after some victory, but I want to confess now, come clean, and move forward. I will start studying scripture specifically for lust. I must close down my X account. And I will try to be on this subreddit helping others and being encouraged by others.

I pray that the LORD gives us strength to endure and find the victory in Christ because He loves us. I pray we all know God's heart and are grateful for all the good things He has done for us. Amen.

1 Comment
2024/11/10
01:17 UTC

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Day 6

0 Comments
2024/11/10
00:11 UTC

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Wet dreams

Okay, people may have probably asked this question a lot on this subreddit, but I gotta know for myself: Does having a wet dream count as relapsing? I’ve been having a couple dreams lately that turned out to be slightly provocative, and I’m worried they’ll get worse and make me shoot it in my sleep. I’ve never had one before so I don’t know if having one counts or not. On the one hand, it’s sexual pleasure. On the other hand, it’s (from my understanding) completely involuntary. Is there something I’m missing?

4 Comments
2024/11/09
23:54 UTC

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I Need Help. I Keep Relapsing.

I feel like recently after my relapse on my 85-day streak everything has been going downhill regarding my relapsing. I've been binge-relapsing and watching porn. I've become hooked on porn and I feel like I'm returning to being my old self again. It feels uncontrollable and I feel like I'm going to lose myself to the sexual perversion. I relapsed multiple times today. The sexual perversion of my mind is returning and I don't want to be like this. I need to break this cycle. I'm 23 now. Do you guys have any advice?

1 Comment
2024/11/09
23:08 UTC

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Pornography and masterbation can’t bring or give you real or true peace, only Christ can…

Only real and true peace are found in Christ.

Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. ‭‭John‬ ‭14‬:‭27‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Peace I leave with you; My [perfect] peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be afraid. [Let My perfect peace calm you in every circumstance and give you courage and strength for every challenge.] ‭‭John‬ ‭14‬:‭27‬ ‭AMP‬‬

And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful. ‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭15‬ ‭KJV‬‬

Let the peace of Christ [the inner calm of one who walks daily with Him] be the controlling factor in your hearts [deciding and settling questions that arise]. To this peace indeed you were called as members in one body [of believers]. And be thankful [to God always]. ‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭15‬ ‭AMP‬‬

0 Comments
2024/11/09
23:05 UTC

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Screw Up Assessment

Well, it happened again. This time though, rather than wallowing, I turned to God, submitted myself in guilt and surrendered it to Him. God wants repentance, not just empty promises. With that, I need to start taking my response seriously rather than just playing around, using His patience and mercy as an opportunity for sin.

I am doing this here to:

  1. share with my brothers for both prayer support and to submit myself as display for how to take a proactive approach rather than drowning in guilt and hopelessness.
  2. write it down so that I can refer back to it in times of trouble.

Today, I screwed up. These the the key factors that lead to my falling into temptation:

  1. Home alone with no plan for the day or place to dispense of built up energy and/or to occupy idle hands
    • Like David, I stayed home rather than going to battle.
  2. Mobile device easily accessible
    • Unlike Joseph, I did not flee temptation but indulged its company in the back of mind until it inevitably overcame me.
  3. Not properly read up in the scriptures; I haven't spent time with the LORD in His Word as often as I should and consequently opened myself up to the fiery arrows of the devil and the whispers of the flesh without any spiritual weapon or armor to defend me.
  4. Returned to social media and dating apps where regular "softcore" porn is thrown at me and women can be seen as commodity or object (flicking through dating profiles as if choosing a film to rent for the night)
    • The dating apps themselves are not bad but the mentality they plant is in that it almost demands I look at women not for who they are but rather how they look and how easily accessible they are.

In retrospect, these are the most common factors of ALL of my failings, not just my most recent one. I have reviewed every failure I've experienced and pinpointed the regular stumbling blocks.

Now that I've listed the key factors of my fall, now I can address them specifically so that whenever I encounter them again I have a pre-coordinated plan to execute rather than just trying to "fight it". Get away from the house. Never let myself be home alone in private for long periods of time without some measure of occupation to give work to idle hands.

  1. Take advantage of having access to a car (even uber or lyft) and go out.
    • GO to a...
      • park, library, shop, public space, etc. All free options; no money required.
  • If it is an inevitability, separate myself from devices and find things to work on. Set up a project that is easy enough to pick up that I won't require a great deal of motivation to start up again. I will already be fighting temptation; fighting laziness will just make it more difficult, negating the purpose entirely.
    • DO: chores, work out, game with friends, sit on the porch and read, work on a project.
    • DO NOT: lay down, pick up phone for any reason, take a shower, isolate yourself in privacy.
  1. Separate from devices. Place a phone charger in the kitchen or living room. A public space where I would never watch porn or masturbate. When I come home, my phone is only allowed to stay on the charger; never am I allowed to bring the phone to my bedroom or bathroom.
    • This will also help with mindless "brain rot" activity that wastes valuable time and robs me of progress in life goals and desired skills. Also help combat content dependency reducing the developed ADHD effect of non-stop content consumption.
  2. Prioritize reading the word. Set a time to read scripture where there is no distraction such as phones, video games, or other work. God deserves a private time. Do so in nature if possible. On the front or back porch. Get our and take in fresh air along with the scriptures.
    • Establish a possible reading plan with friends and family or even just a church accountability partner with whom to share or talk about what I've read.
  3. Delete all social media and dating apps. Delete accounts, not just the apps. For accounts with purpose beyond social use (e.g. Facebook Marketplace), delete app and allow myself to only use it on the desktop during scheduled hours.
    • binding a phone to an uncomfortable spot (e.g. the kitchen counter with nowhere to sit for long periods) will aid with this immensely. Never let comfort and brain rot meet each other.
0 Comments
2024/11/09
22:56 UTC

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Need help really bad please

So from the moment i discovered fapping at the age of 11-12 I couldn’t stop from there on i tried to motivate myself in different ways but none were successful the most i could get was like 4-5 days . Im an active person i do a lot of things trough out the day but even if i have 5 min free in the evening before bed is enough. I reached a point where I honestly don’t know what to do anymore bcs i feel the consequences of fapping i see a girl everyday at my gym shes so so my type but i dont have any motivation to go talk to her to meet her bcs fapping is sucking everything out of me and in general thats why im so upset bcs i dont have any motivation to talk to girls bcs of fapping im so down right now and i exceed it many things in my life , i managed to changhe my diet which was a big problem in my life , my social anxiety and others but this one is the one that i CANT and in my mind i try every fkn day but i also lose , always . Even if i dont have the intention im scrolling through tiktok or ig and i see something bam the urge comes in . Im so lost like i don’t know what else can i try .

4 Comments
2024/11/09
22:42 UTC

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How to force myself from not masturbating

Ive been struggling with this unending cycle of telling myself i wont masturbate but i end up masturbating everytime and it feels like i dont have control over it anymore, and im afraid the more this addiction grows then the harder it will be to pull myself away from masturbating, so im hoping if anyone has some suggestions or ways i can force myself to stop masturbating or atleast force myself to not fall into the temptation

11 Comments
2024/11/09
22:13 UTC

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1 week

I’ve been going for a week.. I’m doing alright so far, but still temptation is strong

1 Comment
2024/11/09
20:56 UTC

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God's Will

I rate “Daily Bible-study (5 chapters per day if you have time) as a great tip for quitting. I rate a block of time in prayer as a great tip for quitting. But many hear about praying for an hour a day and think, “I have no idea how to do that.” Here is an idea that anyone can do if they simply say, “I want to be more dedicated to God.”

Consider searching “Bible chapters that are good to pray over.” You will find many great ideas on Google. For example, I have prayed and thought about Psalm one often.

First, praying over any passage is a great distraction activity.

Second, this process increases the Holy Spirit in us.

Third, Psalm One is very inspirational to me. It says that I can be blessed and prosper. It tells me how to try to do that. For me, it took years to learn to do what the passage says to do, but every time I think about it I move forward in a positive manner.

Fourth, the more we get scripture in us the more we are inspired to do God's will.

Fifth, consider doing God's will today. I need people to go to non christian sites and invite people to come to this Christian site. Many people on these sites are open to Christian teaching. Simply say something like, “I get a lot of tips from ______________________.” Just put in the title of this site, making sure that the r/ is in front of it. It will change colors once it becomes a link. (Note: it is best to do this with a comment on someone elses article).

Thousands of people are asking for help. If you think these tips are Biblical and are good, consider giving other people a chance to read them if they have helped you.

Sixth, Billy Graham was a great evangelist. Many were saved. But many less people know the story of the woman who constantly prayed for him. Pearle Goode went on crusade with Billy and prayed and prayed for hours daily for him. Thousands, if not millions were saved. At Pearl's memorial service, Ruth Bell Graham spoke these encouraging words concerning her: “Here lie the mortal remains of much of the secret of Bill’s ministry.” What an honor.

Today, consider finding a ministry that you believe in and pray for it every day.

Seventh, someday in heaven I dream that someone will come up to me and say, “Every day I told someone about your site and gave them a link. I knew I could never quit my addiction, but after I started doing something for God, my mind started clearing up. I started seeing things God's way, I finally cared about the destruction. Finally, I quit.”

Starting to find purpose is a top 5 way to quit. Consider starting today.

0 Comments
2024/11/09
19:56 UTC

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I've failed today but I'm not giving up

Today on 11/9 I failed. I failed right before my shower but after I didn't feel any shame. I just felt angry. I think im mad at myself for failing but also mad at the devil. I'm more determined than ever to keep going despite this setback. I've been on and off for 2 months now. I usually can make it a couple days before failing and I even got 2 weeks once but I am just filled with determination to not fall again. I hope this determination lasts and doesn't fall. I know I constantly fall short of the lord but I'm going to keep going. I love the lord and everything he has done for me but I just feel like I've failed him one to many times. I'm not gonna stop though, every setback is going to bring me close to completely quiting. 2 steps forward 1 step back, right?

6 Comments
2024/11/09
19:49 UTC

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Thoughts about a biblical story as agnostic

I am an agnostic and my knowledge of christianity is pretty average. So I aplogize if anything I say is stupid.

I have never read the real bible. I only read a few pages of a bible for children before my mother took it away. One story I always remember was the one where God calls Moses and tells him to lead his people out of Egypt.

In the last few days this story is stuck in my head even though I hacen't thought about it for ages. I don't really know how to formulate my question but is this something that happens to people who get help from God? Is this something like a sign? I know this probably sounds stupid but I hope someone understands what I mean.

Amen

11 Comments
2024/11/09
14:38 UTC

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11/9 - failed

Well I saw that coming. Didn’t read yesterday, don’t know what I expected. The first week was very easy too, so hopefully this doesn’t set me back or give me the wrong takeaway from things. It really came down to, I had an opportunity to say no and I didn’t. Well, like I said at the start, November’s just one month and the challenge doesn’t really mean anything, the goal is eliminating lust from my life which I’m aware will be a lifelong battle. That doesn’t mean I’m just okay with failures but there’s no time to mope around, I’ve got work to do. I’ll keep posting, it helps me stay on track, but I wanted to look at what went wrong as the week went on.

  1. I started sleeping with devices closer because I didn’t see the big problem with it. I hadn’t had any major temptations up until that point. Well guess what, boundaries are there to take away the option of that temptation.
  2. When I made my first mistake I didn’t look back. I cared more about the streak than the sin. After I broke the barrier my conscious felt bad and instead of running to God I ran away.
  3. God needs to be the highest priority. Look I had an early morning yesterday but so did everyone else getting in the word before starting their day. No excuse, God needs to be my top priority in life. For me that means I need to start my day with him.

Normally at this point I’d spiral, but I don’t think that’s going to happen this time. I did something wrong, but time to not let my face fall and continue on that path. I’ll be approved if I do what’s right. I feel like I should be further on my journey at this point and I’m annoyed because I already knew all these things! Well time to define what nofap looks like clearer for me. It’s not just don’t look at bad stuff when you’re home alone, but do look to God, do always honor him by sticking to the rules you’ve made for yourself. God loves us, time to wash our robes and present ourselves before him again.

2 Comments
2024/11/09
14:17 UTC

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If you feel deserted

If you sometimes feel like you're all on your own, God is far away and your battle seems endless and fruitless, you're not the only one.

Just don't stop praying and asking God for help. This may be a test. You are learning to rely on God's word and his grace. Jesus understands you (Heb 4:15-16) He's been through the same when He went to the desert and was tempted by Satan for 40 days all on His own without food and drinks or company. All He had was God's word.

Focus on your goal. Focus on God's word. Draw close to God. Resist the temptation. God will reward you.

1 Peter 5:10 says this: And the God of all grace, Who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.

3 Comments
2024/11/09
13:49 UTC

4

Day One

Repent.

Change direction.

Science is advanced by observing something, and then changing one variable to see the result. Your life is the same way. You’re reading this because you spend hours every day doing things you know you shouldn’t do, yet you continue to do them. Day after week after decade.

So make a change.

Now I’m weak. Weaker than most. I simply can’t resist porn. The sight of a nekkid lady is so powerful to me that I simply can’t look away. If the opportunity is there, I’m gonna avail myself that opportunity. And once that happens, I have lost control of myself. And inevitably that leads to all sorts of sin.

So I have made it impossible to see said nekkid ladies. And I have trip wires and booby traps in place (Mmmmm — boobies) that if I do stray off the straight and narrow, people will find out. And consequences will follow. Consequences like the loss of all internet activities.

And for the past three years that’s worked.

That is what repentance looks like. That is the sort of changes you must make.

Because if you’re honest with yourself you’re no different than me. You’re just as weak.

Now you can read that and agree with me.

And do nothing. Click away and read the next couple of posts and live just as before. And your sin will progress and mutate into something more evil and more difficult to escape.

Or you can read that and make excuses.

Porn and nekkid ladies are everywhere Fred. It’s impractical to block it all. I need my smart phone and tablet because that’s just how everyone else does this or that or the next.

Or you can read that and make changes.

Chances are, your first few attempts at ridding yourself of access to porn won’t be successful. You’re gonna weasel a way past the fences and barriers you’ve set up. I did. It’s difficult because we can get pretty resourceful at figuring out ways to get porn. Ways that involve more moral compromise. I won’t elaborate because I don’t want to give you any ideas.

So my final question to you is this: what will you DO differently today?

Doing nothing isn’t different.

Making excuses isn’t different.

The bell is rung. You can’t unring it. Now you know.

What will you DO?

1 Comment
2024/11/09
11:57 UTC

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It will give your brain better clarity and concentration.

I think the first change most people start to notice after being on the No Fap Journey is the improvement in mental clarity. In our ever more digital world, too much content online can lead to too much stimulation from adult media, which can induce a mental fog. The truth about No Fap is that when you break away from these habits, your mind has the opportunity to reset and function more clearly.

Sharper Focus

Less distractions means less distractions distract you from your productive tasks and meaningful goals. But cutting back has an effect on cognitive function, as studies suggest. And lots of people are able to focus at work, study better, and get done the things they are really passionate about.

Advice

Mentally stimulating activities like reading, learning a new skill, or creative hobbies every day take a little time to add to your schedule. You fill your time with positive pursuits which reaffirm that your mental clarity is improving and making distractions less distracting.

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2024/11/09
10:31 UTC

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i lost.

About a month ago, me and my friend decided that we must change our lives for good, do better for ourselves genuinely, reach our fullest potential, ykwim. He's a really really close friend, and we both genuinely want the best for each other.

We made a pact that a year from now we'd be ripped, or atleast have a consistent gym streak, and specifically for me, stop yanking my meat, because it's something I've been doing for a really long time now.

I still remember watching it for the first time when i was 10/12. I still remember discovering the pleasures of masturbation and whatnot. What i didn't know was the hellhole I'd be driving myself into for the next 7-8years.

In the beginning, i was ruthless. I used to do it at regular intervals, binging and doing it 5-6 times a day, going to my maximum limit.

Although recently, I've realised my mistake and for the past year I've been trying real hard to stop. I've looked up millions of videos and read hundreds of articles hoping that maybe this time something will change and I will finnally be free

All but in vain.

Coming back to the present, i started off pretty strong after the pact i made with my friend. For someone who's longest streak was two weeks (more than 2years ago) and for someone who couldn't resist the temptation for more than a day, things were looking good.

For once in my life I felt like I'm genuinely putting effort into what I wanted, and finally breaking free from my slavery from porn. I went to the gym regularly, studied well for my exams and just did well overall.

For the past few days, the temptations had gotten stronger. Explicit thoughts kept recurring to me and i became like a fish out of water, struggling to resist the temptation.

I had a peek.

I thought it was nothing, and I found a random nsfw link in the comment section of a reddit post. I thought that it didn't make a difference and I'd still make it through, but some part of me was still scared.

And then later I had another peek. And another. Then i started surfing through random nsfw subreddits, trying to fill the dopamine deficit in my brain, and my temptations.

Today it happened again. But today I lost. I lost to my temptations and i failed God.

After 28 days of going strong, I fell. And i feel like absolute shit.

Videos where people say that it's okay to succumb to your temptations keep popping up in my head, reminding me not to go binge because then i would lose all progress and whatnot.

I just feel like such a big letdown man idk. And more than everything I let my bestfriend down.

I've been trying so hard to get rid of this addiction for so long, for once it felt like I was actually going to reach the end of the tunnel and finally break free, but I guess not.

I really don't know what to think of myself, or what to do. I'm posting this here because of the small hope that there would be others in the same situation, and maybe i could find some solace.

Idk man

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2024/11/09
08:22 UTC

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Relapsed

Relapse after months, almost a year. I've been struggling a lot lately with thinking about porn or having sexual thoughts when it doesn't even apply to the situation I'm in. A lot of wet dreams really aren't helping either.

I know "small" slip up like this may not seem that big of a deal but it is to me because I know myself. I've struggled with masturbation and porn addiction since I was 12 (now 24). It got so bad to the point where my grades were horrible and I barely did school work. I ran up my parents internet bill up so high watching stuff too. I couldn't go a day without touching myself or watching porn, even in public places where I thought I could be discreet about it. It was all I could think about. I would stay home all day and skip out on things just to do it.

I really don't want to get how I was when I was younger but I feel myself getting back into that mindset. I still want to do again even now. I've had some other slip ups with porn this year too, I don't want to get addicted again. The thought never really go away but they've gotten worse lately. I'm not sure what to do. I've tried praying more and it's helped some but it's still a struggle

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2024/11/09
07:46 UTC

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