I should have been very careful what I asked for from God.

I’ve been asking God to try to love him more and like this sin less. And well, I think I might be getting what I asked for.

Because I somehow managed 14 good days, but then slipped up a bit this evening. But instead of enjoying myself, it was awful. It didn’t feel good, and I felt like an addict. I tried my hardest to make it feel good. I panicked because I had ‘cut and cast’ all of the things that helped me enjoy this sin. I considered returning to these now gone places so that I could feel just a tiny bit of pleasure. And it made me sad. Sad that God had met me halfway and made this sin no longer fun or pleasurable for me. And yet, here I was, trying to force even an ounce of pleasure.

I should have prayed and stayed near to God in that moment of need and weakness. He gave me a few chances out before it started. But ultimately, I stopped only a minute after beginning. Which is too late. The sin is done. I chose fake carnal pleasure over the heavenly pleasure of God.

I’m not discouraged though, I learned a few things through this situation.

1. I am an addict. That panicked response when I couldn’t get “my fix” is pure addict behavior.

2. That “cutting and casting” is the most important part of this journey. I am much less inclined to engage in this sin if it’s not pleasurable for me anymore.

3. That even when I don’t reach out for God as I should, he still reaches out to me. He grabs my hand and keeps me from falling. He gently puts me back on my feet and encourages me to continue to walk with Him.

I just need to vent and I'm coming here since I'm one of those people who I want people to talk to me if they need to talk and stuff but don't do it myself.

I was baptized a couple weeks ago and felt so free, but the lust keeps hitting me and I keep relapsing and doing it. I did it tonight and now I feel the most ashamed I have since I did it after spending a week at a Christian youth camp. I don't even know what to do and I'm scared that the holy.ghost will leave me and I will go back to the misery and pain I felt before. I keep trying not to fall for it but keep doing it. I feel that once I get my self control down I will be able to quit.

If anyone has had similar experiences or is going through a similar struggle share it down below

So I'm on day 10 of NoFap, and I just edged, but I don't want to give in. Is there anything I can do to bring my body back to the way it was before I edged?

Since becoming born again in my faith, lust has been a bigger issue than ever before. I've kicked heavy drinking completely with no issues, but lust is so bad. I was able to do many months streaks of nofap back in my non christian days. I've been praying about this but somehow I still keep falling and it's terrible.

I think I need an accountability partner? I just can't do it like this anymore...

Today has been a difficult day. I have been tempted to relapse all day. Thankfully I haven't. DMs open if anyone wants to chat.

I have not masturbated in 77 days and throughout the time, when I slept, I would wake up with my pants wet with semen. Is that sinning? I had no sexual dreams. Last night I woke up in the middle of one. Am I commiting a sin, I am not masturbating it just happens once or twice a month

Fellow believers,

I've been wrestling with guilt over my porn addiction for years now. It messes with my relationship with God. I tried skipping church, but I realized I need that fellowship to stay strong. I've started reading my Bible more, especially verses like 1 John 1:9 to remind me of His grace. I still mess up, but I'm learning to lean on His love. Anyone else ever felt this distance? Prayers would mean a lot as I keep fighting this battle.

have been doing extremely good. Not watching any prn and peaking. But this triggered me extremely and nothing i do seems to work. I could really use someone to talk too

Vade retro Satana!

I’ve been able to gradually reduce the amount of sin in my life. i’ve quit weed, drunkenness, i’m generally less angry with people, i’ve been forgiving towards others.

but i can’t kick this. for the life of me i cant kick the porn, the lust… it just wont go away. does anyone have any advice? I know Christ died for this sin, I just don’t know how to get myself away from it.

P.S. I am filling my time with productive habits, going to church, work, school, prayer, etc. So it’s not necessarily a lack of me being busy.

I feel like I’m losing myself, like I’m thinking and doing things that are completely against how I normally feel. In those moments, it starts to feel like it’s not even wrong. I know God can do anything, God can save me. But I feel myself clinging to the sin, and maybe it’s just me who isn’t strong enough to succeed. When I fall, I don’t want to do anything anymore for the day. It feels so hard to bounce back, and I know that if things continue this way, I’m going to tear my own life apart.

Repeating the words of God (scriptures against lust) in my mind all day had kept me from relapsing.

It is not us but Christ Jesus living IN us that overcomes.

Don't try to fight this battle by yourself, or you'll forever lose it. Trust that the Lord will fight it for you and He will give you victory, at His appointed time.

When the Israelites cried out to the Lord in Egypt, He didn't instantly teleport them to the Promised Land. They were still being afflicted everyday, but He was working on getting them there. They trusted that He will do it somehow.

Believe God. When the Lord says He will do it for you, believe Him wholeheartedly. God doesn't make empty promises. God means what He says. Nothing can break God's promise, not the Pharoah, not the Red Sea, not Aaron's golden calf, not the Canaanites and not even His kids nagging Him non-stop in the wilderness. In all of existence, one being that fully commits to His word no matter what, is our Father in Heaven. If He says it will happen, it will happen. If He says: "call on me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you will honor me”, He really means that. And if Jesus Christ says: "You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it." He really means that.

I haven't been to the gym in 2 weeks. I want to start playing games again, but don't have an urge to. I have a February deadline to get out of my parents house and to save a decent amount of money, which is also stressful.

Even though I'm clearly addicted, it feels like I'm willingly doing this sin.

It's gotten worse.

Edit: Is this a sign of depression?

Are there groups or a website or resource that helps connect people together that BOTH avoid porn? I’m tired of being with someone who hides their porn use. I want to meet someone who can control themselves but from what I’ve seen and experienced, almost everyone lies about it so how can I find someone that overcame the addiction or never was addicted in the first place?

Walking along with Christ.

Make no provision.

When Jesus had that dude lowered on ropes through the roof to be healed he told him to take up his bed and walk out.

When Jesus healed that dude at the pool of Bethesda he told him to take up his bed as well.

The blind guy in Jericho left his cloak behind.

Pete took his coat from the boat.

Thanks for the trivia Fred. Got a point?

First off, Jesus’s commands are also His enablements. “Stretch forth your hand.” Or “Lazarus, come forth.” No one in the Gospels argues with Jesus or makes excuses. They obey.

Secondly, they take up their beds or leave their begging coats or take their possessions along because Jesus doesn’t want them or you or even me to go back. There is no “I’ll just leave my bed here and come back later when I get tired. There is no returning back to the blind man’s beggar coat, he doesn’t identify that way any longer. Pete took his coat from the boat because he was never going back.

They made no plan to go back to their old ways, their old lives. I’m a bit embarrassed to think back on the years and decades I’ve wasted, making provision for my flesh, keeping that magazine or that video or that book mark or app. Maybe I’m the only one, but I doubt it.

A couple of days ago, I wrote about being honest with yourself. That’s a crucial part of your sanctification process.

What do you need to pick up? What do you need to leave behind? What provisions of your flesh must you cut off and cast away?

As the title states, I'm after an accountability partner. As I'm from Australia, it would be nice if you were from a similar timezone to me, BUT that is not a requirement. I'm looking for ANYONE (from any timezone) who is serious about quitting and wants to keep each other accountable. Thanks.

PS I'm not Christian nor religious.

Heres how it goes: I'm in my early 20s and have been musterbating to porn for ten years. Not normal porn, extreme porn. It just kept getting worse. The usual 1-2 times per day. This affected early relationships as I am not able to get erect in sex (have to rely on viagra), and still can't.

I became incel for 3.5 years up until this year, and by definition, involuntarily. I would go on the occasional date, but could not succeed sexually. I would go to sleep at 3am, wake up at 11am, study (college), watch porn, eat junk. A loser.

This year it all changed with guidance from God. I repented and began the journey to becoming better. I started gyming hard, got abs, had a major facial glow up, started getting compliments often, and most importantly, was sleeping with actual girls on a consistent basis (viagra). Sin was switched to another yet much better alternative. I would have the occasional relapse but then lock in again.

Now heres my issue. I'm around 65 days in straight of no porn. Yes I have sex, but do not musterbate or watch porn. I have even began a testosterone journey for months increasing it via multiple natural methods and diet. But, I have not had morning wood for 7 years. My erections are not as hard as normal. I still have to rely on viagra for sex. But why the fuck can't i get morning wood like everyone else? Why isn't it as hard? I'm on literal natural suppliments for erections.

Please, I need advice. This is beyond a flatline, am I permanently broken, or can my situation be healed?

I lay on my side in bed with a pillow close to me. I hug and kiss it imagining it as a girl I love but doesn't love me back. I hug the pillow's portion towards my chest and hug and look at the pillow as it had eyes and kissed so passionately like those in movies. It leads to precum. I don't know if I masturbated since the precum. And over 2 years of No Masturbation I haven't consciously ejaculated semen. When I asked Doctors they said that when we're sexually aroused, precum comes out. But during these I did this activity, does each of the time I did and precum came out considered as masturbation?

The process of overcoming sin begins with the transformation of our hearts. By cultivating three essential attitudes—shame, reverence, and determination—we can begin the journey of renewal in Christ. Here’s how these principles can guide us in breaking free from the bondage of sin, such as pornography, and finding true freedom.

1. Cultivate a Heart of Shame 
A sense of shame is vital because it awakens us to the gravity of our sins. Only when we recognize our guilt can we humble ourselves before God and seek His grace to change. Consider the saints of old, who were ordinary people like us. Yet, through humility and repentance, they allowed God to work powerfully in their lives. In contrast, many today live in secret sin, indulging in pleasures that defile the soul, thinking no one knows. However, God sees all things (Hebrews 4:13). There is no greater shame than living in rebellion while disregarding His holiness. Let us feel this holy shame and let it drive us to Christ.

2. Cultivate a Heart of Reverence 
The Bible warns that "God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap" (Galatians 6:7). The principle of divine justice cannot be escaped, and our actions will have eternal consequences. Whether in public or in the privacy of our homes, we are always in the presence of God, who knows our thoughts and intentions (Psalm 139:1-4). Developing a heart of reverence means recognizing His omniscience and choosing to honor Him in every moment. Let the fear of the Lord guard your heart, so that evil thoughts do not take root and manifest in sinful actions.

3. Cultivate a Heart of Determination 
Overcoming sin requires bold determination. Many fail to change because they allow themselves to drift, giving in to temptation again and again. When we realize our sin, we must resolve that nothing is more important than repenting and walking in righteousness. This determination means prioritizing holiness over all else and devoting our time and energy to seek God's help in overcoming sin.

Practical Steps to Overcome Lust

1. Actions: 
Start by ceasing sinful behaviors. If you’ve been indulging in pornography, stop. While this initial step is necessary, outward behavior alone won’t lead to lasting change, as the root of sin remains in the heart.

2. Understanding: 
Reflect on the spiritual and moral consequences of pornography. Each person we objectify is a soul created by God, loved by Him, and worthy of respect. Pornography dehumanizes and corrupts our view of relationships, reducing them to selfish gratification. True repentance comes from understanding the harm sin causes—to ourselves, to others, and to our relationship with God.

3. Heart Transformation: 
 The most effective way to overcome sin is by addressing it at its source—our hearts. Jesus said, "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God" (Matthew 5:8). Through prayer, scripture, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit, we can cleanse our thoughts and desires. When a sinful thought arises, recognize it immediately and turn to Christ in prayer. Ask Him to purify your heart and fill it with His Spirit. As you do this consistently, you will find freedom and joy in His presence.

Encouragement in Christ 
Remember, this journey is not about your strength but about surrendering to God’s grace. "I can do all things through Him who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13). By cultivating shame for sin, reverence for God, and determination to change, you will experience the transforming power of His love. Let today be the day you commit fully to Him and walk in freedom.

Hey guys, I just failed after ~150 days clean. I had gotten complacent, and not kept God at the fore front of my life. Any advice on how to keep up the pressure against these demons on long streaks? I feel weird. They won a battle, I feel drained. Please keep me in your prayers.

God Bless.

I don't really know how to start this post, but here we go..

The solution is asking God for a woman to come into your life, (Or ask for a man if you're a girl) But basically, lots of Christians who have struggled with lust in the past have overcame it by doing this method. When you ask God for one, he'll start refining you when the time is right. I know God is willing to do this because he's doing this to me right now.

Let me know if you guys have any questions related to this post, if you're skeptical I can send you the video that convinced me of asking God for one. After all God stated himself that, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

I keep falling unto masturbation, I began struggling with it in late 2013, struggled until May 2015 when I got saved, thought I was free, until February of 2020 when I fell back into it, struggling throughout the year, 2021 I only did it once, 2022, I avoided it completely, but 23 and 24 I fell back into it, in 23 because I thought I’d never get married, and this year has been the hardest, don’t think I’ve done it more any other year, I keep crying out and repenting but I know I must be genuine, in 2025 I have a plan to improve overall and get closer to God, I feel ashamed and think that maybe this is why God hasn’t given me a wife. Any tips, or anyone who has been able to quit?

Make sure you are staying in the fight. How? You are building habits that produce. What do I mean.. so basically I got to a point that mentally the only reason I was still on the train was my children. I broke down and gave it to God. Now I don't want to come off as that person you all know who I'm talking about who just says good biblical sayings but nothing else.

How did I give it God. Well I broke down and said Lord I can't do it anymore I tried and if it I didn't know you i would of got off the station long ago. I need your guidance father, let your spirit dwell and rebuild me towards your path. Now just because I prayed this and believed it doesn't mean I just sit there and wait.

I cut out all social media except reddit for discussion and youtube for sermons and podcast. I then did better help therapy along with chatGPT therapy(saw it on reddit). Then I implemented a self care plan daily I do a prayer journal and in the am, I read the Bible in car pick up li e for my children, I read a book(self help, encouraging life stories ect..) when laying my children down for bed, and then right before bed I do a "dump journal session" lmao love the name hahah. But basically in a journal app I just started at the beginning of the day and type it all out so nothing carries over to tomorrow and then rinse and repeat.

God is moving lust and porn a battle of mine for 16 years..since 9th grade he has taken it and I'm free of it!!! Stay the course and continue to fight for freedom because Jesus already declared it for you on the cross

I know the truth, I know the gravity of my actions. But I continue to struggle, I continue to sin. I feel like I am trapped in this cage I scream and claw and want out of it so bad, but I know it’s me. Is there any hope for a man who continues in his way that he hates and knows is bad. Feeling bad isn’t enough for him. He requires change but I struggle.

🙏🙏🙏

I think that the root cause or at least one of the root causes of the lust and addicting I'm trying to overcome is loneliness and the sense that I'll never find someone. The sense that nobody really loves me and that nobody would far if I just disappeared. I want to have a loving meaningful relationship and get married to someone someday and have a family and everything, I just feel like that's not going to happen and that there's nothing I can do about it. The things that I do watch or listen to when I'm feeling this way are things like smut or porn but with a sense of being loved and cared for that I just don't seem to have. I self-insert into these roles, acting as though I'm in this loving relationship and it gives me comfort even if it is later met with guilt and sadness.

There is no excuse for pmo.