good morning/afternoon/evening/night, whatever time you're reading this!

FYI: if you're thinking of messaging me, please read until the end. people with little to no karma (<50), or with no relevance to my original post, will probably not get a response, sorry!

with that being said...

hello, I'm triferg - I'm 27, living in the east midlands (UK) and work in finance. I am also a carer for my disabled partner outside of work hours.

more about me:

•music - I am a MASSIVE hip-hop fan. old school, trap, UK drill, grime, new school, experimental, you name it. •some favourites include; Wu-Tang Clan, Freddie Gibbs, JME, Danny Brown, Flatbush Zombies, Travis Scott, Mos Def, Ye, Headie One, RV, A Tribe Called Quest, P Money, Nate Dogg, Nas, Trapx10, Mick Jenkins, Loyle Carner, Pa Salieu, 50 Cent, Aesop Rock, Run The Jewels, M1llionz, Joey Bada$$, Denzel Curry, JID, Potter Payper, redveil, Slick Rick, French The Kid, Harlem Spartans, Griselda

•gaming - I primarily play on PC, however I also have a Switch and a PS5 • at the moment - I'm switching between WoW (mythic raider), Slay The Spire, OSRS, Fortnite and Overwatch (tank main!)

•420 - you already know what it is. I am currently weed-free due to a chest problem unfortunately. my partner is a big stoner right now due to it helping with her medical condition, and is in the process of getting a medical prescription!

•creative writing - not something I have generally done in the past, but it's something fun to do between the monotonous general routine!

looking for long-term pals who ideally live relatively near (i.e. near Northampton/Leicester/Cambridge in the UK) and like the look of what they read. very much looking forward to all the responses!

super love discussing music, gaming, or any other of the topics i've mentioned - so if you're thinking of messaging me & you're not too sure what to lead with, go ahead with one of those!

cheers!

I’ve realised I’m the problem in relationships. How do I heal from this? I feel very sad and regretful.

In relationships, I become a very insecure, untrusting version of myself. Outside relationships I’m confident, happy and charismatic. Lots of people like me and I like myself that way.

But in relationships I’m just too much. Stressful, untrusting, insecure, needy etc. I fail to trust them, I’m argumentative, repeat/keep going over the same things I’m unhappy about, always unhappy about something, I don’t listen to them so for eg if they say they need space, I get even more overbearing / suffocating.

I have insecurities that I let overtake my logic and it pushes people away. It ruined my most recent “relationship”, and the other 2, and I’m finding it hard to forgive myself for it. Especially this recent one coz I really liked this one and was given so many chances to change and I was making efforts to improve but I kept defaulting to the same bad habits till it got too much and they checked out.

Also, I’m not happy in my life (career not working out, etc) and it’s been like that for years so I don’t know if that’s impacting my whole persona and how I show up in relationships.

I’ve been in therapy for a while, even before this recent one, but it’s a slow progress and wasn’t fast progress enough for me to better in this relationship. I feel regretful and I’m hating myself.

I think the fact it was long distance made my insecurities worse. We were meant to go away together and I would have seen them for the first time and now because of the way I’ve been, I’m being told it’s not a good time so I’m going by myself and even though we might see each other, it’s been made clear nothing will happen with us. It’s painful knowing that if only I was better, we would be good right now. So my excitement of being with this person and the fun things we would do and finally being able to hug and kiss for the first time is lost because it now won’t happen. I feel I’ve missed out on a really loyal, good one.

They’ve even hidden their Instagram stories from me now, so I don’t know if that’s means they’re seeing someone else or not. The thought of that hurts me bad. The last one dated someone else because of how I was. The one before blocked me randomly even when we patched things up. I’m just terrible.

I’m the only one that this person has moved away from. Their exes either left them or cheated so to be the only one they couldn’t stand is proof of how bad I am. They said I self sabotage. My friend warned me my insecurities would ruin the relationship and look. They have.

Do you have any wise words to get through this? Even though it’s true, I cannot bear to hear “learn from this” because I desperately want this person back but it’s completely done and I cannot forgive myself for messing it up so epically. And realising it’s a pattern in my last relationships (and some friendships) too so I really am the problem. So learning from it won’t help me in this situation. I feel like crawling into a hole and isolating myself for a while.

I’m at a loss for what to do, I’m in so much emotional pain right now. I just keep crying, it consumes my thoughts and I have this heavy chest feeling that won’t go away.

I don’t even feel like it’s worth being here anymore coz I feel like a total f**k up.

Hi, I have been going to therapy on and off for a few years now. However, I feel like I'm not doing it right.

How do does a therapy session go for you guys? Do you just tell the whats been on your mind since the past week and then the therapist tells you how to deal with it? Do you take your diary to talk to the therapist about what your going through? Do you make a list of your issues each week to take to them?

Also how do you know you are making progress?

I’m lightskin, 6’2, 180 pounds, 8” and in good shape. I like talking (A LOT). Also, I can’t host but any female no matter the age or size I encourage to message or comments! (If we click we can verify on insta and call or sum)

(21f) I’m soo depressed atm and my parents just can’t seem to help me this time.. I have suffered depression on and off the past 6 years along with health issues. Despite this I have managed to push and achieve quite some things. Like good academic grades and working. I did mostly to show my parents that “im worthy and that im worth the trouble”. I’ve been doing great for around a year.

However recently I had a great setback. It was like everything I’ve been working towards has taken a bad turn and I’m having to make difficult life decisions. I’ve gotten so down and depressed I’m finding it hard to do anything atm and unable to make a decision abt how to move forward with my life. I spend all day in bed watching telly.

Ik this is not great but I wish my parents could see how badly I’m suffering right now and talk to me. Help me make a good decision and maybe give me some stove encouragement or ideas. I’m unable to make serious life choices on my own atm due to low mood and health issues. I wish they could just advise me. I’ve feel like I’ve proved to them over and over how much, how hardd I’m trying.

They make make me feel like such a burden and worthless…

Work is stressful, relationship is stressful, my grandma just died. My mother's health is declining. Going to therapy and all my trauma is being brought up. I feel so fucking stressed out. Just need someone to talk to.

It’s a rough Christmas after my little cat died I’m very lonely I’ve been prescribers a medication but I’ve had bad reactions before and it has scary side effects. I don’t have any friends but a couple of pen pals this whole world just seems like a dark evil place I want to die but I know it would hurt my parents so I’m just stuck here in this awful that I just do t want to be in anymore.

I've been doing some online coaching for a game for the past few years(I think I've spoken to over a hundred people by now), and it was in a kind of psychological/mental context. The reason is, it's a very difficult, stressful and competitive game, so people get truly miserable trying to learn it and enjoy it. What happened is I ended up becoming a kind of mentor to several of the people who reached out to me, younger people who had and have difficult lives, especially with parent problems, or things like depression, anxiety, or are struggling in some way, not just in the game. And it turns out I found helping these people(which I still do almost daily) very rewarding. I am not some licensed therapist, but I'm someone who struggled myself and then poured all of my energy across many areas of interest like psychology and philosophy to get to some kind of psychological stability, and so I began offering what I learned to others.

I want reach out with that same sentiment to this subreddit: If you are really struggling and just want nothing more than some advice, guidance, a mentor, that kind of thing, from someone who has experience with resolving serious issues and has worked with others to help them, then feel free to contact me. I just ask you that you please don't contact me if you only want someone who'll listen to your problems and nothing else. I've done this before, and my coaching sessions have turned into this, and I found I just don't have the energy in me to be only an ear(or eye, I guess?) and nothing more. The deal here has to be a desire and curiosity for improving things, at minimum. This is not a paid service I'm offering, just to be clear

That being said, reach out if you feel you need to

Wishing everyone well :)

As the title suggests, I've found myself at an interesting crossroads in my life and am seeking a friend to share this new chapter with.

I recently completed my B.Tech last year and joined an IT company, which has been both exciting and challenging. The corporate world has welcomed me with open arms, but my personal life has taken an unexpected turn. Most of my friends have scattered across the country, pursuing their own careers and dreams, leaving me feeling a bit alone in my city.

Now, I'm not one to let loneliness get the best of me. So, I've turned to Reddit in hopes of making new connections. I want to make it clear that I'm genuinely here to find a friend, and I'm not interested in any dating or hookup propositions. If you're a female Redditor and have reservations about the intentions of someone reaching out online, I completely understand. In that case, I have an offer for you. I'd like to be your "Rakhi brother"!

By the way, if you're curious about the quality of my writing skills, I'd like to let you know that I received assistance from ChatGPT, haha!

I'm 20, and I'm on a heartfelt mission to find a truly meaningful connection. If you value honesty, kindness, and deep conversations, you might be the one I'm looking for.

About Me: I'm a down-to-earth guy with a profound passion for life. While my introverted side might peek through initially, once you get to know me, you'll find a relaxed and open-minded individual. My heart is set on exploring the world of gaming, with a soft spot for Roblox, Minecraft, Skull Girls, Dislyte, and Mech Arena. But I'm not just about gaming; I thoroughly enjoy engaging conversations, sharing laughter, and forming genuine connections.

Let's dive deeper and learn more about each other. Whether you're an avid gamer or someone simply seeking a genuine and lasting relationship, I'm here. I believe in trust, support, and the beauty of meaningful interactions.

So, if you're looking for someone to connect with on a profound level, whether it's as a gaming companion or a partner in life, don't hesitate to reach out. Let's chat, explore our shared interests, and embark on this exciting journey together. Send me a message and let's see where this adventure takes us. I'm genuinely looking forward to connecting with you.

I've been going through a lot lately. My whole brain is turned upside down. It would be nice to have someone to chat with. Share photos of my Starbucks with. Etc open to texting because I'm not online much. Hit me up with your favorite subject in school.

My bf committed suicide. He's been gone 3 days and I feel very much alone. There's been no contact from his family or friends, and I don't really have anyone. He was the one I turned to, I'm still fighting the urge to call him, to just go over because he's the only one I want to talk to about this.

I don't know what else to do. I tried cleaning but I put on music and ended up making a playlist of songs that remind me of him and felt worse. I tried some podcasts but I feel wrong listening to anything that's not suicide or grief related. I don't want to talk on the phone but I think having someone to text would keep my mind from going back and settling in the dark right now......

Hi folks, around a year ago I was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma, long story short I'm still in the battle, had to move due to illness and looking for resources to find friends online

I’ve been feeling pretty lonely so I decided on Reddit to look for some new people to talk to. Im not really good at much but I do all I can to make other people happy. Anyone is welcome to message me for sfw or nsfw reasons. Im pretty desperate. So to anyone who accepts thank you very much. To anyone else, I still hope you have a wonderful day! SoulPorpoise126 on discord. Thanks for reading!

Introvert dude checking in, ready to chat about dogs, or why parties terrify us, or why the hell Wall-E made us cry so hard. Let's talk, empathy rules! 🤗.

[Very much open to anything, disregard how long ago this was posted, I am always open to meet new people, reach out and let's chat, talk or video, anything you want!]

I'm from Spain, I am 25yo and studying computer science, but I already have a doctorate on Overthinking and Procrastination 😎.

I am an introvert dealing with social anxiety (working on it 💪) wishing to get to know many more people, and maybe someone special, shy IRL but find texting much easier, would love to talk with someone that can relate a bit, let's relate and share our problems 😊

When it comes to hobbies, I enjoy playing video games, series and movies of all kinds, from emotional or cartoons, to action or horror. And got a special sweet spot for emotional tearjerkers 😭.

Outside I really like long walks and hiking, and I have taken a liking to weightlifting as of late 💪, I am very open to new hobbies, and I am trying multiple new ones that would love to share with you.

I am actively pushing myself to get out there and face new experiences (literally going through exposure therapy), as those can be a real fucking hard challenge for me, so I am open to everything really, and it is being fun so far.

That doesn't mean it is all perfect, far from it, I am struggling greatly about getting into social settings, most of all with people around my age, I can't keep IRL conversations going too well, and can barely do it via chat, so many experiences or regular stuff people do or did before my age I just didn't get to experience (yet 😄), furthermore, I am having to develop self-discipline right now, as I am a huge mess when it comes to actually doing what I have/want to.

Above all, I value Empathy and Compassion, I try my best to understand everyone's perspective and circumstances 🤗 and I am committed to living by these values, I would LOVE to hear about your troubles and help in any way I can.

I am quickly becoming more at peace with myself and have recognized I can be a very emotional person at times, this is being quite the journey and I try to let my feelings and emotions show as much as possible, after decades of hiding them at all costs.

As the title states, I am currently open to a romantic relationship, but only if that interests you and if we click with each other after talking for a while, I am a firm believer of clear communication and a mature adult, that is why I wanted to clarify this, feel free to make your intentions clear, so we can build a platonic friendship without any mixed feelings in the way 😊.

I only ask for respect from you, I don't need anyone bringing me down, more than able to do it myself 🤣.

But really, I would love to hear you out and get to know each other better 😁.

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PD: I know how Reddit is about emojis, they are staying there though, I love using them in my conversations and want to remain authentic to you all, and no, I am not trying hard, I like to be energetic and optimistic, if anyone thinks they are "cringy" or "immature" then you are free to ignore me, this is me, for all intends and purposes.

I recently moved to Europe and don't have any friends here, therefore I recently joined reddit. I read that reddit communities are sincere and can help in long lasting friendships and relationships.

So if anyone is up for chat, let's talk about anything from entertainment to general knowledge :)

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It’s been a little over a month since he passed away. We became super close super fast. Sent each-other gifts, I spoke with his wife and other friends. I’m not looking to replace him. However, I miss that companionship.

I’m a 26 year old female, I love video games and play a lot on pc. I especially love survival games and rpgs. I have two cats who are super goofy. I’d love to connect with others who are looking for a supportive and loyal pal.

Our online support community offers a safe and inclusive space for individuals who are feeling lonely, heartbroken, or struggling with a breakup. With almost 300 members from diverse backgrounds and beliefs, our aim is to provide a supportive environment where you can connect with others who understand what you're going through.

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Going through something pretty rough and looking for a genuine connection and someone to talk to about what is going on and they tell me about there own issues and experiences

When I was a child I was abused and confused. I spent a great deal of my childhood in placement. Doctors said I had non verbal learning disability, depression, ADD, severe emotional distress and emotionally handicapped.

Up until 18 I had insurance, years of medication and upon becoming an adult I got kicked out instantly shut off of everything. During homelessness I tried getting back on my program but with no guiding structure it was impossible for me. Later I went to the ER distraught and they sent me away within minutes no thought in it saying, "You don't have mental disabilities, you just have a tough life"

I lost my childhood, was coded with disabilities and was on prescribed meds that were helpful but since I wasn't insured it seemed like they tossed me to the streets. Like I don't think doctors fib or fabricate handicapness...

I'm now 35 and throughout my life I've experienced much turmoil staying afloat. I've been resentfully alone and not knowing why I can't befriend anybody. To cope I've adopted messaging from various scriptures mostly Christianity and Buddhism. Just trying to be a good person (sweet disposition) and I guess that means I have little in common with the average person.

I live in my car and have a huge gambling addiction close to being unable to even manage what little I have. My whole dilemma bakes my noodle and I'm wondering if how I'm turning out has to do with disabilities. I know, how opportune of me to question it when the chips are down right?

My Question:

What resources are there for people in my situation who could be suffering from lifelong mental disabilities but fell out of the treatment loop and want to determine fact from fiction?

One things for certain I remain alone unsure why because I treat people good and try to surround myself with good apples but all I get is cold shoulders. Is the collective conscience allergic to simple, positive people with great ideas and conditioned that way by the powers that be?

Seems whatever way I choose to project what I think the world needs I just get outcasted like putrid slime and it really bothers me. I am so lonely I'd like to get the layers of my onion peeled to determine if I am clinically disabled.

I don't get this world never have and maybe never will!

My name is Anna, I am 36 years old, I come from Singapore and lived in California for 5 years. I'm looking for a man who loves me and the people I love and wants to have great experiences with him. I'm looking for someone who knows what life is like, doesn't abandon me on my down days, but is comforting, companionship, caring, and I feel like relationships are two-way and equal at the same time.

I hope that one day we can meet in our reality and have a biochemical reaction, live a beautiful life together, and spend a happy life together. Love and chemistry, believe me, if you give it your all, I do too, I think if two people understand each other, tolerate each other, take care of each other, things will work out.

But together we bring out the best in each other, and that's the kind of relationship I love and the kind of life I look forward to.

I enjoy video games animals and plants not the most interesting I know lol. I’ve been having a rough time I recently got sober and am struggling with isolation and just life in general if anyone wants to talk send me a message.

I hope I can find a person here to communicate with who helps with the loneliness of it all. Thank you.

I just turned 25 in December, and I am a dude.

I'm a part time papa John's employee with autism and anxiety and I've been really overworked and feel like I haven't been getting a break. My situation is I've been coming in every Tuesday and friday and I'm always the only instore at the place, my manager and the afternoon driver are often busy with other things and refuse to help. I prep all of the ingredients and sauces and I mean ALL of the ingredients and sauces, I have to rearrange the dough when it comes in from the truck I have to fold all the boxes needed and prep the dough all before the dinner rush and a long with that make pizzas. I also recently had my bank account drained and my hours reduced from 15 to 9 and I'm worried about paying my bills. I recently asked for an extra but the manager said it would take time and this is how I get paid. I want to work in the evenings like everyone else but don't know what to do

There’s literally nothing here for me. I am certain whatever awaits on the other side is better than here. Every day is torture. No one sees or hears me. Im gay and my super religious southern Baptist family barely talks to me and I moved away thinking that I would find some liberation, but it’s only found me more lonely and sinking slowly. I honestly don’t know how much longer I can last. I am constantly planning my death and trying to figure out ways to do it. I just don’t want to be here anymore