The lack of vibration in my chest when I speak/hum/whatever feels SO off. Like, feels like trying to hit a low note on a recorder and blowing too hard so only a whiny high pitched note comes out lol.

I don't feel like it's talked about much, but it really bothers me. Of course I'm dysphoric about the social aspect of not sounding like a man too (it's probably my worst source of dysphoria tbh) but I have a cold atm and now that my sore throat is getting better, my voice is coming back and it's deeper than usual, until I cough the raspiness away. Was humming along to a song and it just physically felt so right being able to hit the low notes I normally can't

22yo and where I live it takes 4 years to get on hormones at this rate, so, almost 2 more yrs to go :/ Not only do I feel like I'm missing out on social stuff and life in general, now that I had a tiny taste of what it could be like, I feel so incomplete physically and it's really disturbing I literally wanna stop talking. Music is an important coping mechanism to me but I can't even hum anymore

More of a rant ig

I’m 16 and my school’s New Year’s party is coming up in december. I was looking for ideas from other young trans guys on what to wear. I can’t have it boldly masculine cause my parents are very conservative (I live in Europe), so if anyone could share what they wore in their school days, it’d really help. Thanks!

Out of nowhere last night, my throat became super scratchy and hoarse. I got a irritated, very heavy and dry cough then. Today it came back. I don't feel sick otherwise. Could this be due to T?

I'm only 9 days on T (gel, 40,5mg daily) but noticed quite some effects already.

I started T 3.5 years ago and the only time I had my period after that was literally one month after I started. After that, it stopped. But recently I’ve had two episodes of bleeding - one accompanied by SEVERE pain (thought it could be a miscarriage cuz of how much it hurt) but it stopped quickly, and the other started a couple days ago and I’m still bleeding a little. I haven’t had sex in a while and this definitely isn’t the kind of bleeding you get if something tears a little during sex anyways.

The only thing I can think of is that I recently switched from IM to SubQ injections again, for no reason other than recent trauma made it difficult for me to possibly endure the pain I sometimes get after an IM shot.

Anyone else experience this? Was thinking of giving my doctor a call but I don’t know if this is just something that happens and is normal. Thanks guys!

Hi everyone, I’ve been on T for 4 1/2 years and get my shot every 3 months. So with that in mind, I have a question. Every few months I experience a period of a few weeks where my muscles get really tense and strained and I generally feel really weak and my whole body just feels “off”. I do work out regularly and also take care of releasing tension (I’m a physical therapist) but in these times it sorta gets out of control… and I can’t recover from it. Now I never thought this could be related to testosterone but recently I started thinking that the frequency in which it happens could actually be matched with the 3 month period of when the next shot is coming up. And if I think about it, it also makes sense since hormones play such a big role in the body. But in general I think this shouldn’t be happening because my t levels have been stable for many years now. Has anyone had similar experiences and if so, what do you do about it.

Don't know how many trans people get their childhood pictures edited, but I'm considering it. My mother has a bunch of pictures of my sister framed around her house and used to have a few of me, but I asked her to take them down a few years ago. I'm wondering if it will be seen as offensive to show her masculinised versions of my old childhood/baby pictures? We had a rocky start years ago but she's supportive now.

Hey guys! In a month i will be starting testosterone. Im 16, 17 in just under 2 months years old, ive been wanting to start since i was 11, i am so excited! I would like to hear your experience with it and the different changes you've experienced, and how long it took for the different changes to be noticeable. :)

I miss all the different fits, colours and patterns women’s clothes have. I don’t want to wear women’s clothes but I miss how easily you can show your personality, men’s clothes are much more plain and boring. Plus I miss wearing pretty vintage dresses even tho I have no desire to wear a dress I wish I did so that I could wear those old beautiful dresses, I have a small collection from before I fully socially transitioned

Edit: it seems people have misinterpreted what I was trying to say. I was trying to say it’s EASIER to dress and find more eccentric and fun clothes, not that it’s impossible or that I don’t dress how I want. So I was just saying I missed how easy it was to find those type of clothes

Hi everyone, I really need some advice, so please don’t remove this post.

I’m a trans man and straight. I’ve been with my partner, a straight woman, for almost two and a half years. She’s been amazing—accepting me for who I am and helping me feel comfortable in my own skin. Recently, I felt secure enough to let her see my body, something I’ve never done with anyone before. It felt great, and during intimacy, she asked me to take off my shirt. I believed that moment showed she truly saw me as her man.

However, later, she told me something that completely shocked me. She said she’s no longer attracted to biological men and is now into trans men (like me). When I asked her why, she said she likes my chest. I was stunned and didn’t know how to process it. She’s even saving money to help me with top surgery, which she says is her way of supporting me.

But when I asked her how she feels when she sees women’s breasts, she admitted that she likes them too. She’s always been very straightforward, and she said she was just being honest with me. Hearing that made my heart sink—I felt cold and devastated. I asked her, “So, do you not see me as a man?” She insists she does, but her words have left me feeling confused and broken.

I don’t know what to do. I want her to see me as a man, fully and completely. I love her, but I’m struggling with this. I feel so sad and unsure of how to move forward.

My main concern is having to go to a hearing and be subjected to whatever feelings the judge might have about transness, since I'm not sure whether my county is more progressive than not. My first and middle birth names are typically female. My chosen replacements are unisex, and were purposely picked to sound similar to the originals (as homage to my grandmother). I'm also changing my surname to match with my supportive parent. Notably, in my state sex designation has to be changed separately, so I will be listed as female during this process. Is there any way I can justify all of these changes well enough as if I were cis? Or should I be transparent about my intent to change my sex designation later on?

How are you guys dealing with hip dysphoria? All of my fat gathers in my hips and thighs and it drives me crazy. Looking for any advice (including workout tips).

I had a quick question that I can't seem to find by just web searching.

If somebody is changing their gender marker on their social security number; does the person keep the same number and the gender marker changes? or do you get reissued a new number with the gender marker change?

thanks.

I reached out to a helpline to talk about my height dysphoria yesterday. The responses I received were extremely brief and at one point, I was told to get over it and that it's not the end of the world. When I tried to provide polite feedback on how they could be more empathetic and clear in their communication, the only reply I got was "ok."

They also suggested that I see a doctor to ask about growth hormones. I’ve thought about this as a potential option, since it could allow me to start transitioning without fully coming out. I’m aware that I’d likely need a diagnosis for a genetic condition or severe mental health issues to even qualify. On top of that, there are significant risks and side effects to consider, especially since I’m otherwise healthy.

I found it unprofessional for them to suggest that without any apparent understanding of the topic. It felt like false hope, which made the situation even harder to process.

Apart from all of this, I doubt puberty blockers would have much effect at this stage, as I’m 16. From what I understand, T probably wouldn’t impact my height either, as my bones might already be fused. Which sucks. I'm shorter than my sister and it's humiliating to me.

I'm always super careful when I bind. I wear it for six hours max, and have binders that are more loose around my ribs (even at the expense of compression)

Anyway I wore one at my job (not labor intensive) and it's a size and brand I have been wearing no problem. This binder was brand new

No clue what I did, but I screwed something up, and my entire side is killing me to even move

So frustrating, and not even sure what I did wrong this time

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So i (31) am about to switch T. My levels were low even tho i increased my Gel dosage.

I will check if my T is converting into Estrogen. (is there a special test done here)

I pass but my progress had been slow.

i am a lil afraid of the side effects. Because its a huge dose.

What did you feel? Any side effects?

Edit: forgot to mentione im gonna switch to nebido 3 months shots

Just seeing if anyone has some advice about making guy friends because loneliness is starting to depress me. Typically I’m a really extroverted person but most of my deep friendships have been with girls. Which those friendships have faded away due to my transition relationship and life and it’s just kind of hard to talk to guys. I’m looking for any input or how anyone else has navigated this. Thanks in advance!

I have surgery next week so i cant/wont smoke or anything related for a long time.. I know ill be able to do it bc i have a medication that helps w that but..

How do i make this not be pure anguish?

Its my birthday which is the worst day of the year for me. And i cant get high. How do i not feel horrible? Should i just go to sleep? Idk what to do

Thanks guys

going in this week to legally change my name and gender, could i request the birth certificate change at the same time? (california) and if yes, do i need to fill out different forms?

first post here, hoping yall cant help me out! i cannot find comfortable underwear for the life of me. i cant stand loose fit and long inseam style boxers (i wear baggy pants so they end up shifting and riding up all day) and i dont really pack. im essentially looking for a masculine version of womens boyshorts. i like the tomboyx boyshorts but they are way outta my budget, and i got a couple pairs of jockmail packing underwear a few years back and ive been happy w them, so anything similar to those would be appreciated, thanks guys!

It looks like my hairline has gone back at the temples and the front of my head looks thinner. Is this the start of balding? (Mums side loses hair, dad's side doesnt)

I recently had a background check done for employment and was informed that my deadname and current name show up under my social security. Is there any way to get rid of that old name or change the number to no longer have it associated with my deadname? When I had my documents changed as a minor everything was sealed due to threat to life/safety. There is no other record of my deadname besides what is showing up under my SSN.

Hello!

I recently emailed my old high school asking for an amended version of my diploma and got the usual pushback of "oh we can't do that it has to match the records at the time of graduation. I sent them the information about the FERPA policy, where "under FERPA, students, current or former, have a right to seek to amend their school records if said records are “inaccurate, misleading, or in violation of the student’s rights of privacy.” (34 C.F.R. § 99.7(a)(2)(ii))," but wanted to post here and see if anyone had any advice if I continued to receive pushback. Thanks!

I’m a freshman in college and was making out with a girl at this party the other night. It got to the point where it was noticeable that she wanted to get more serious, but I croaked and left the party because I didn’t want/know how to come out to her. I’m stealth and have been since I was 11. I have friends from highschool that go to school with me here and they don’t even know. I’ve come out to potential partners before, people I knew I could trust, but I’ve never had to before for a one night stand. I’m less worried about potential rejection from her finding out, and more worried about that information about me getting out to people, as again, I am 100% stealth and it would lowkey ruin my life. Does this take hookups off the table for me, or is there another way to go about it? Does anyone have any experience around this? Or is this kind of niche idk.

Maybe this is cold of me, but I am not basing a friendship off of a mutual trans status. I have a friend of a friend/ acquaintance guilting me into hanging out with his friend. His friend happens to be a trans women who apparently really wants to meet me. And I realize that I live in a smaller city, but it just rubs me the wrong way. This isn't the first time something like that has happened and I don't know if I'm being the jerk. I understand the desire to find a community, but we have a trans group at a local LGBT center. Idk, am I the jerk? Also, I was unwillingly outted as trans to the friend of the friend/acquaintance, so it's not even like I told them.

I'm 5'4" and I can't wear men's jacket because they are too long for me and I end up looking as if I were wearing a coat and not a jacket.

But it gets even worse. Women's jackets are also too long for me.

I don't know what's wrong with the clothing industry, it's like they're making clothes only suitable for skinny tall women.

A 5'8" model wears a jacket that's my size and the length looks good on her meanwhile on my body it looks like a coat. Besides, why do they put in the size chart that my size is for 5'4"-5'7" people if the model wearing that size is 5'8"?? Just hire a shorter model or make the whol damn jacket shorter!

I've been wanting a packer for awhile, as yk🧍.

I've seen Tmart, and I found a packer I really liked the look of, but I didn't know anything about packers. It's only £69 so that's great for me, as I don't want to spend more then a £100.

So, I have afew problems. Should I get one one from Tmart, look somewhere else and also can I get a packer?

I know maybe I shouldn't, as I'm 16, but my family is fine with it, just they said I had to buy it. I'm not sure if I can actually order it due to age.

Thankyou.

it’s crazy going from passing by look but getting clocked by my voice (before T) to passing 50/50 on looks (have long hair now) but immediately being recognized as male when i speak. pass 90% of the time overall now in real life, but get some brutally honest words on some subs based off of pics alone. not complaining at all bc i asked lmao, just a funny observation. definitely prefer the voice being my saviour as apposed to my enemy.

anybody else experienced this?

I have nobody in my life to talk about this with so you all get to hear

I (17) just went on a 10 night school trip to China and I roomed with a cis man and stayed completely stealth the entire time. I literally was freaked the fuck out for months before this trip not only about the bathroom situation but also about the room situation. But I was worried for nothing, This is huge for me as I feel I’ve seen this common ideal that no matter how much you “pass” coexisting completely stealth in spaces like this alongside cis men isn’t possible but it is. I don’t know who put that idea in my head but a post like this would have been reassuring to me, so that’s why I’m posting it. And I have also felt this idea that traveling while stealth/trans is impossible- I’m not saying to risk your safety I’m just saying don’t push your travel dreams off the table.