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Hi, we’re south asian (punjabi to be exact- so pretty big drinkers) and our reception is going to have 500 guests and we want to serve our own liquor at the banquet hall. Anyone have personal experience with supplying their own liquor to the venue and if so, how many bottles did they get?

Looking for places in the GTA that can work within budgets for Pakistani-style wedding dresses. I was originally looking at Ilsa by Samsara but saw a post here about how they’re basically a scam and horrible to work with, and I have friends that have had a bad experience at Dulhan by Mischief so looking for some other options that aren’t outrageously expensive.

Hi! I am invited to a multi-cultural wedding in the UK where one of the parties, and my friend, is punjabi and need some advice on how to dress. Here are my circumstances:

1. I live in a European country with zero (as far as I know) places where I could get any appropriate desi wedding clothes.
2. I am white, but the groom has told me the dresscode is Indian/British formal and that he encourages me to come in Indian attire if I like it since it would make him very happy.
3. My dad has travelled to India many times for work so I own some bangles and a saree my mum bought in the late 90s-early 00s in a big department store in Mumbai. I attach the picture (sadly it's the only one I had and the quality is not the best, but it's supposed to be green). I wore a cropped shirt underneath because it was short notice and my mum had lost the choli.

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So my questions are:

• Is showing up in a saree like the one in the pic kind of like showing up in a random 90s dress that is totally old-fashioned?
• Is a saree in plain colours (no patterns, no decorations or beading) appropriate for a wedding?
• I really like lehenga sets, in case the saree is not an option. Are there any shops you'd recommend that ship to Europe and that are not a scam? I am having a hard time figuring out which are too good to be true and which are legit. I am also kind of on a budget, which makes me an easy prey to scam websites...
• Are bangles ok to wear or do they have more meaning and could be cultural appropriation?
• Are there any colours that I should avoid?

Hey I’m 24 years old and doing a job. I recently broke up with my previous gf and finding the friend with whom can I share my things. May be it’s all online but if the same person agreed then make it offline also if possible. Making online friends having better nowadays. Tell me your opinions also.

I'm based in the UK. The wedding will be in summer and I am on the look out for a reliable online shop. I have checked out Lashkaraa and LAAM. Are they ok? Lengha or Anarkali would be perfect!

Hi all,

I need some tips because I am super clueless about what to wear. This is going to be my first time attending an Indian wedding. I need 3 outfits. Please recommend some websites/Instagram accounts in India where I can buy traditional clothes? Ideally I'd love to shop in stores but with a baby, it's been challenging to find the time to go out. And if you could recommend some styles that would flatter a postpartum body, that would be super helpful! Thank you in advance ☺️

Hi I wanted to buy an unstiched pakistani dress buy I'm confused as to whether after being stitched will be ad good as shown in the picture if anyone has any idea please let help.

Looking for an Indian wedding caterer in Northern California - both Northern or Southern Indian cuisine is acceptable! Please send any recommendations :)

Does anyone know any makeup artist who charge reasonable prices for bridal/hair and makeup in Punjab, or any international makeup artists who are in Punjab during March 2025!!!

Hey!

So, my best friend is getting married next month. She lives outside India. Can you recommend some online website for shopping for bridal outwear for her- a saree and a suit. Red and maroon color preferred, but not too heavy outfits.

Kindly recommend good wedding outfits. Thank you so much!

How did you guys get your wedding lengha cleaned? Any recommendations for places in Los Angeles? I’ve taken it to different dry cleaners and they were all afraid to work on it because of the heavy embroidery.

Hey! Can anyone tell me all details about the rimple and Harpreet veil? What is the length in metres etc? Can you post a video/share photos? I’m trying to get one made because the real one is so expensive.

I want to share my fiancé’s extremely disappointing and unprofessional experience with Erum Khan Strores/Couture from whom she purchased her Mehndi event dress 8 weeks back. Initially, they assured her that the dress would be delivered on time. However, after waiting for 8 weeks, they informed her that they could not fulfill the order and that too just 2 week before her Mehndi. Throughout this time, she kept on asking them for realistic update but instead of giving them one, they kept on dodging her and now told her that it can not be delivered as it is out of stock.

What’s even more upsetting is that they had already taken 50% advance payment from her. This kind of behavior is extremely unprofessional and has caused unnecessary stress just before her significant event of life.

She demanded her refund then. They assured her that this will be processed and now after waiting for almost a week, they stopped replying and started ghosting us. To my surprise, they have been doing this regularly and most of their victims are overseas Pakistani bec they think they won’t take matters further even if they scam them. I found out this by googling their names and there are atleast 6 such post here on Reddit alone and almost all of them are overseas Pakistani. After going through Erum Khan couture insta/fb accounts, found out that most of their followers are bots hence why they have put privacy so nobody can see follower list. This is an organised cyber crime and I’m going to report this to FIA as well. I’m going to initiate legal action against them as well. Meanwhile, what we can do is to mass report their pages so they can’t scam anyone else atleast if their pages are shut down. Their pages are main source of their contact with their potential customers who’d be scammed later. We should not let this normalise in our society and should be done as a collective responsibility. I’m attaching link to their pages.

@https://www.facebook.com/share/156Mrejo1k/?mibextid=LQQJ4d

@https://www.instagram.com/erumkhancouture?igsh=MThjeWR3dnVxZmhkbQ==

@https://www.instagram.com/ekasualbyerumkhan?igsh=M3Q0d2kyOHVreHN2

I had my nikkah in 2023 and am considering selling my lehnga. I also had a mehndi (green floral lehnga) and wedding reception (traditional red). I plan on keeping my red reception dress forever (i love it way too much) and my mehndi lehnga is not too embellished or poofy so i can easily re-wear it again.

My nikkah was a very special day for me, but i don’t see myself ever wearing the lehenga again; it’s very bridal and i was the last person in my family to get married and i wouldn’t wear it to a friends wedding either. It also takes up a lot of space at home (the lehnga is very poofy) and we don’t have that much space to store it (it’s crammed in a suit case). It’s been almost 1.5 years and i haven’t even taken it out to look at it it seems like a waste to just have it unused. I am a very sentimental person but i truly don’t know if i’ll regret this in 5 years or whenever. On the other hand, I’ve already had it for 1.5 years and haven’t once looked at it.

Let me hear y’all’s thoughts. Or, has anyone sold any of their wedding outfits and had regrets?

I’m planning on ordering my Eid outfit soon. Please let me know your experience ordering from Afrozeh to the UK.

Shipping times/ arrival/ custom tax charges?

So far, the customer service is appalling. I contacted them a few times to see how shipping time works as it’s so confusing. It says stitched outfits internationally take 40 days. I think it’ll be scraping Eid tbh

I’d usually buy from Laam PK but the outfit I want has been out of stock for so long.

feel free to suggest other subreddits this is appropriate for!

I fully anticipated doing a plated dinner but after talking with our coordinator, have started having second thoughts. We plan on having a mix of Indian food and American fare at our Indian/American wedding and I want people to be able to try a little bit of everything without feeling locked in to a plate that they may or may not regret!

The Indian meal is a tandoori chicken meal, and the American dish is tbd. We’ll also have a live dosa maker and some Indian sides that people will have access to without having to choose a plate, if we go with a plated dinner.

I know buffets not considered the fanciest, but I’d love if our guests had access to whatever they were curious in trying (70% of our guest list is not Indian). I also want our wedding to have an upscale vibe about it- what should we do!

Is there any place in Chandni Chowk which does alternation on same day? I have messaged several places such as sudhir bhai and kanchan fashion and they all said they need at least a week for alteration due to busy season. I'm in Delhi for only 2 days then flying to Varanasi for wedding so need a ready made lehenga or saree blouse. So need a place which does same day alterations.

Silly question but my wedding is next year and I’ve always wondered. I love the look of a lehenga with the dupatta draped across from on shoulder kinda like a saree, in addition to the dupatta being worn as a ghumta (on the head). My question is, are they two different dupattas or a very big dupatta? Pic for reference