/r/DesiWeddings

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Welcome to Desi Weddings! A newly created subreddit to give desi brides, grooms, and guests a platform to ask questions, share wedding information, and find inspiration.


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Welcome to Desi Weddings! ♡

A newly created subreddit to give desi brides, grooms, and guests a platform to ask questions, share wedding information, and find inspiration.

Desi is a term referring to something or someone who is from the South Asian subcontinent and its diaspora around the world.

There's no limits as to who can join - whether you or your spouse are desi, whether you want an Indian-themed wedding, or whether you're invited as a guest to a Pakistani wedding or need advice on how to do bhangra at a Punjabi wedding - anyone and everyone is welcome!


Guidelines

  1. Please treat each other with respect and follow reddiquette. Hate speech, derogatory, inflammatory comments and general rudeness are not welcome.

  2. Please consider your privacy and the privacy of others when posting identifying information.

  3. Please do not post spam or posts that self-promote. We do not allow posts with links to external websites, including blogs, etsy, etc. These posts will be removed. Wedding vendors: we do not allow posts advertising your business.

  4. If you're posting a link or picture of any wedding related items/services, please try to give credit to who you got it from. Also, for these types of posts, please include your general location by flairing your post after submission.

  5. Please don't downvote an otherwise acceptable post because you don't personally like it. If it does not contribute to the discussion, is off-topic or violates the guidelines, downvote it.

  6. Please upvote if you think something contributes to conversation.

  7. Please report comments and posts that violate the guidelines. Also, feel free to message the mods if you have any questions or concerns!


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GTA Video and photo vendor suggestions and price

Hi, getting married August 2025 Sikh wedding in GTA. There are so many video and photography companies now that it’s hard to narrow down the good ones that aren’t crazy expensive.

Would love to hear who you chose and their prices roughly!

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2024/10/30
04:14 UTC

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Guest outfit help!

I will be attending a wedding in Mumbai in December. I'm trying to get my outfits beforehand because I'm looking for specific fabrics and I want to wash the fabric before I arrive. I searched for cotton sets since polyester is very irritating for me and I don't like silk, but cotton outfits seem to be more casual.

I have never attended an Indian wedding before. Would these be too offensively plain or casual for a wedding? I was told I would need 2 outfits.

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2024/10/30
02:19 UTC

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Can we do honest reviews of photographers like Pictroizzah, Sara Idrees and Muaz?

I have had both great and terrible experiences with some really famous Pakistani photographers, I’ve also heard of and seen some horror stories unfold in front of my eyes. I’m just curious, if anyone has any interesting or notable experiences they’d like to share about Pictroizzah, Sara Idrees, Fatima Tariq, Yratta Media, Mehlum Sadriwala, O Shoot, Muaz Qureshi (MuazCaughtThis) etc. Photographers are arguably the most important part of any wedding since their job is literally to freeze your big day in time for you, the wedding will end in a few hours but the pictures are forever.

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2024/10/30
02:04 UTC

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looking for wedding planners NY/NJ/DC/MD/VA area

Hello! Looking for recommendations for wedding planners in the NJ, NY, DC. MD, VA area that do full service planning. Doesn't have to be an Indian planner, just someone who has done at least a few Hindu weddings. Our budget for a planner is ideally less than 15k for full service planning. Thanks!

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2024/10/30
01:45 UTC

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Planning an Indian Wedding on a Budget – Need Advice on Budgeting for Pre-Wedding Ceremonies (Based in Canada)

Hi everyone! I’m a bride-to-be planning my Indian wedding for 2026. My fiancée’s family is covering the reception, but I’ll be responsible for covering the costs of my pre-wedding ceremonies up to the wedding day itself. Since my parents are unable to support financially, I’m planning to save and budget carefully over the next 1.5 years. I’d love advice on managing these costs, setting realistic expectations, and any hidden expenses I may not have thought of. Here’s a breakdown of the events I’m planning:

  1. Pre-Wedding – Outfit, jewelry, hair/makeup for an engagement shoot, and invitation cards (50~100 invitations to print) for my side of the family.
  2. Bachelorette Party – I’m undecided on this; do you think it’s worth having? Any budget-friendly suggestions?
  3. Bridal Shower – Although I know I’ll receive gifts, how much should I budget for hosting about 20 people at an external venue with food and decor?
  4. Jago/Sangeet – Hosted at my aunt’s house for ~50 guests. I’ll need to budget for my outfit, jewelry, decor, catering, and any other essentials.
  5. Maiyaan – Hosted at home with ~30 guests. I’ll need an outfit, decor, and catering.
  6. Mehndi – Hosted at home with ~30 guests. I’ll cover the mehndi artist, decor, outfit, catering, and some photography costs.
  7. Choora Ceremony – Hosted at home. I’ll need to budget for my outfit and the choora itself.
  8. Wedding Day – My parents are covering the ceremony venue and related expenses, but I’ll need to budget for my outfit, jewelry, hair, makeup, and venue decor, as well as attire for my three sisters.

Are there any additional costs specific to Indian weddings that I should be prepared for? Would you recommend DIY-ing decor for home-based events, or would hiring a vendor be more practical? I estimate to have $20,000 - $25,000 CAD by 2026, but I’m hoping not to dip too deeply into my savings.

Edit: I am planning to go shopping for outfits in India so realistic CAD budgets would be very helpful! It is very expensive here with less variety.

Any budget-friendly tips or suggestions would be much appreciated. Thank you!

12 Comments
2024/10/29
19:35 UTC

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Can someone help me with what lashes these are ?

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2024/10/29
19:32 UTC

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Wedding color fireworks

I’ve see a recent wedding where they had color smoke shoot up behind the stage right at the end. Almost like smoke bombs but more like fireworks. Do you know where I can get them in the Chicagoland area?

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2024/10/29
19:13 UTC

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Is this dress too much to wear at my husband's cousin's wedding?

I'm looking for outfits to wear at my husband's cousin's wedding, and my mother-in-law said I should wear something heavy because I'm the only daughter-in-law in the family, and I really like the dress she suggested but when I asked my husband, my cousins and my mum, they all said it kinda looks bridal. The colour scheme for guests is gold/cream so I am in theme with the colour, and the bride (my husband's cousin) is going to wear red, plus I wouldn't be wearing any jewellery, but I still want to make sure I'm not upstaging the bride.

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24 Comments
2024/10/29
18:08 UTC

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Has attending other weddings helped you consider some things you weren’t originally thinking about for your own wedding?

Inspired from a similar post on the main wedding sub! I had my wedding, but before mine, I had only been to one desi wedding with a seating chart, out of the multiple weddings I have been to in my life. The chart somehow elevated the whole vibe lol? And so…I did a seating chart! I know it sounds like a basic thing, but trust me when I say that it has been super rare in my community.

7 Comments
2024/10/29
15:25 UTC

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Which designer outfit is this

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2024/10/29
14:47 UTC

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How long does Dr Haroon take to deliver a bridal outfit?

Getting married in April and I want to do something traditional for the nikkah. I know Bunto takes a year, but how long does Dr Haroon take?

2 Comments
2024/10/29
14:10 UTC

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Jewellery shops in London. Ilford Lane or Green Street?

I need to get jewellery for a wedding I'm going to. I don't care its not real gold, I'm on a budget and just need a set of jewellery that looks good. Would it be better to go to Ilford Lane or Green Street? Thanks

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2024/10/29
13:02 UTC

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Help me find a wedding venue straight out of a dream – Noida/Delhi folks, I’m counting on you!

Hey beautiful people of Delhi NCR!

So here’s the deal: I’m from Noida, and I’ve been dreaming about my wedding day since forever. You know those scenes in romantic movies where the bride gracefully walks down some grand staircase, the soft rustle of her dress echoing through a stunning old building, and all eyes are on her? Yep, that’s the vibe I’m going for.

The catch? I need your help finding the perfect venue to make this dream come true! Here’s what I’m looking for:

•	Open space – I want the sky to bless us, not ceilings.
•	Something vintage or with old-world charm – Think palaces in Jaipur, but without needing to bribe the relatives to travel that far.
•	Stairs, stairs, stairs! – The dramatic bridal entrance is non-negotiable.

I’d love for the venue to be away from the crazy hustle of the city – somewhere peaceful on the outskirts of Delhi would be perfect. It’s all about creating that magical, serene atmosphere.

If you’ve been to a wedding like this, or know a hidden gem that fits my dream, please let me know. I promise to name our first-born houseplant after you (okay, or at least make you my hero forever).

Drop your suggestions and make a soon-to-be bride’s dream come true. I’m eternally grateful! And hey, wedding invites aren’t out yet, but you never know ;)

Thanks a bunch!

4 Comments
2024/10/29
11:20 UTC

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Terrible customer service by Faraz Manan Bridal online consultant

I have my wedding coming up and I’m in Pakistan to place orders. Faraz Manan is in Lahore and I’m currently in Karachi, I thought I’d get in touch with the Faraz Manan online (via WhatsApp) Bridal Consultants but that has been a terrible experience. Their dresses are priced in the 80 lac range but their customer service is utterly shit. I asked them for the details of just two dresses, I even listed down the details I wanted (price, fabric, some information on the kid of work and the delivery timelines) but they’ve not been able to answer even that properly. The dresses are stunning but I’d rather pay the 80 lacs to Tarun Tahiliani or Sabyasachi who have much much better customer service.

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2024/10/29
10:56 UTC

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Diwali Fashion for Women: Embracing the Festival of Lights and Tradition

India's vibrant cultural heritage seamlessly blends with the science of holistic wellbeing, and this is most evident during festivals. Among these, Diwali shines brightest as one of the most cherished celebrations. This festival evokes emotions tied to the return of Lord Rama, the worship of Goddess Laxmi, and the bonding of Bhai Dooj. From the soft glow of Diyas to magnificent decorations, delicious sweets to sparkling fireworks, Diwali is a beautiful amalgamation of tradition, culture, and values.
Amidst all this grandeur, could we possibly forget about the Diwali outfits  that elevate the festive mood? Absolutely not!

Diwali dresses are a reflection of our personal style, and what we wear adds a distinct charm to our celebrations. Let’s take a look at how you can stand out this Diwali with your Indian traditional wear choices.

Sumptuous Sarees:
Sarees are ageless! Whether you're 20 or 60, this timeless piece of Indian traditional wear  is a favorite across generations. Sarees resonate with a rich cultural aura, perfect for celebrating Diwali . With endless varieties to choose from, such as Silk, Georgette, Organza, Khadi, Velvet, and Linen, sarees offer both elegance and comfort. Opt for bright colors and contrast blouses to match the festival’s joyous spirit. Shades like yellow, pink, red, and green are especially festive. Whether it's delicate embroidery or bold prints, a saree is the ultimate go-to for ethnic clothing for Diwali .

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Astral Anarkali's:
Nothing matches the grace of an Anarkali as it twirls with every move! These regal outfits bring a celestial vibe to your Diwali wardrobe . Known for their comfort and variety, Anarkali's come in fabrics such as Georgette, Silk, and Net, adorned with Zari work, hand embroidery, and block prints. This ethnic wear for Diwali  is perfect for the younger generation, with styles featuring unique cuts and fabric fusions. An Anarkali is not just an outfit; it's an experience of joy and elegance during this festive season.

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Gala Gowns:
The world of gowns has transformed over time, and today’s modern fusion gowns are a fantastic blend of comfort, style, and festivity. From satin to velvet, silk to cotton, the choices are endless, making them a perfect Diwali Gown . Gowns, with their intricate designs, prints, and frills, offer a glamorous yet comfortable option for your Diwali celebrations. Whether you're attending a party or hosting a family gathering, a stylish gown is sure to make you feel like royalty.

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Lajawab Lehengas:
Lehengas are a staple in Indian traditional wear , offering a sense of grandeur that is synonymous with Diwali celebrations . Lehengas come in various regional styles, but no matter the design, they never fail to impress. This lehengas for diwali option adds opulence to your celebration, making it an ideal choice for those who want to make a bold fashion statement. Whether you prefer heavy embroidery or simple elegance, lehengas elevate the festive spirit.

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Kurti Kanya's:
Kurtis have revolutionized Diwali fashion  with their versatile appeal. From casual to traditional, Kurtis can be styled in endless ways to match the occasion. Choose from short or long formats, straight cuts or A-line styles, or even trendy Indo-western fusions. Pair them with palazzos, skirts, or churidars, and you have a chic yet traditional Diwali outfit  ready to impress.

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Indo-Western Ideas:
For those who love to balance tradition with contemporary style, Indo-western outfits are the perfect choice. These looks are especially popular among the younger crowd, offering a fusion of ethnic wear for Diwali  with a touch of modern flair. Whether it’s a tunic paired with a skirt or a jumpsuit with traditional embroidery, these outfits blend tradition and comfort, making them ideal for festive occasions like Diwali.

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From the timeless charm of sarees to the opulent grandeur of lehengas, we’ve explored the diverse range of Diwali dresses  that allow women to celebrate both their cultural roots and individual style. As you choose your perfect Diwali outfit , remember that the essence of the festival lies in the joy we share, the memories we create, and the love we express.

This rephrased blog weaves in your keywords like Diwali outfits , Indian traditional wear , and ethnic clothing for Diwali  while highlighting the festive mood and fashion choices.

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2024/10/29
08:00 UTC

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A 90s and 2000s mix playlist for my brother’s wedding!

Hey there all! I would like to know about some songs or playlist for my brother’s wedding for all the ceremonies— haldi mehendi baraat and some songs to play even without any function. Mostly from 90s or 2000s or latest.

2 Comments
2024/10/28
20:20 UTC

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Jewellery suggestions.

Hi, Need suggestions on what type of jewellery should I wear with this lehenga. That's my wedding outfit.

27 Comments
2024/10/28
20:11 UTC

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photo/video recommendations - arizona

looking for photo/video recommendations in arizona and surrounding states. thanks!

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2024/10/28
18:55 UTC

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Planning A Wedding in India from the USA- Help please!

Hello!

Coming in kind of blind but I have been scouring this forum for quite some time now. My fiance and I are looking to get married in Rajasthan some time in 2026 and here are a couple questions/details I have:

  1. We would like our budget to be around 100K-150K- not planning to have a huge guest list, and they will pay for hotel/travel.

- We would like our wedding to be outdoors, ideally have 3 days to allow for Haldi, Sangeet/Welcome Dinner (combined), Wedding (day time) /Reception (night time) on the same day.

I envision a beautifully simple, cohesive wedding look that feels warm and elegant, with a focus on florals and candlelight to create an intimate, timeless atmosphere. I’d love to avoid elaborate performances or flashy videography effects, opting instead for a setting that radiates understated beauty and sophistication.

Example that I kind of liked online

  1. Does any one on this thread have a good wedding planner suggestion? From my research the only two that really caught my eye were Panodrama Events & Palkan Badlani Wedding & Events. (Don't know their pricing at all)

  2. Does anyone have any venue suggestions as well?

  3. People who plan from America- are there any vendors you bring from the USA- or have all the vendors been based in India?

* However top of mind would be a trustable wedding planner, that will understand our vision. Any help is truly appreciated.

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2024/10/28
18:21 UTC

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Need help planning a Hyderabadi & Pakistani wedding

Hey guys!

I've been tasked with planning my brother's wedding and I'm not sure where to begin. My family is Hyderabadi and the bride's family is Hyderabad-Pakistani. Most of the cultural events are obviously shared and going to be the same, so that's not an issue, but since this is the first wedding in the family, I don't know where to begin.

These are the events I've considered:

Rasam - happening soon so I can't really do much but we're going to buy rings, sweets for munh meetha, and imam e zamins.

Manja - this is going to happen at home. We're going to make ubtan, buy more sweets, make food at home, and wear yellow. I'm thinking of buying fake genday ke phool for this.

Sanchaq/Mehendi - this is also likely going to happen at home, we're probably not going to buy new clothes for this except for gifts for the bride. We'd have to arrange a henna artist for this event.

Nikaah - this is happening in the Masjid. We're thinking of renting a nikkah pardah but that depends on what the bride and groom prefer. We have to arrange for the marriage certificate and the imam fees, plus little favours for anyone attending the Nikaah.

Shaadi - this is going to happen in a function hall. We have to order a sherwani and khada dupatta for the bride and groom, as well as jewelry. We also have to arrange catering, a decorator, and buy flower garlands.

Walima - this is also going to happen in a function hall. We have to order suits, a decorator, and possibly rent a limousine.

Am I missing things to consider?

I'd also appreciate any tips from anyone who has planned a wedding (Hyderabadi or not).

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2024/10/28
16:46 UTC

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Wedding shopping Lahore (visiting from UK)

I am planning to visit Lahore in the next few weeks for my wedding shopping (we are planning the wedding for April 2025) Because of work I will only be able to go for 10 days. Will this be enough time?

Can you recommend any shops or markets? I am looking for a Mehndi and baraat dress as well as any decor for home events, wedding favours and invitations.

Thank you in advance!

2 Comments
2024/10/28
16:31 UTC

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South Indian Wedding Shopping in Mumbai

Hi,

I am getting married this December and I’m looking for recommendations for my trousseau shopping. Looking for a red kancheevaram saree for wedding in Mumbai and a great bridal blouse tailor. Are there any stores doing custom blouses in Mumbai? Also looking for Sangeet , reception and Haldi outfits. I’m a US size 14, so a little on the plus size heavier side. Would love recommendations for designers who do custom lehengas in the 1 lakh or below range.

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2024/10/28
15:39 UTC

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Haldi Mehendi venue

My brother is getting married next April, and we're expecting around 70-80 guests. We're having trouble deciding on a venue. I was inspired by outdoor locations, especially near a pool, but my mom thinks we should book a banquet hall for the Haldi and Mehendi since it'll be quite hot. I feel a hall might make these lively events a bit dull, as they're usually more fun outdoors.

We're planning to have the Haldi in the morning, followed by lunch, with the Mehendi and Sangeet in the evening. Could you please share your recommendations? I'm really confused about this!

2 Comments
2024/10/28
09:39 UTC

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How much do wedding planners in Coimbatore typically charge?

The cost of hiring a wedding planner in Coimbatore can vary significantly depending on the services provided, the scale of the wedding, and the planner’s level of experience. On average, wedding planners in Coimbatore may charge anywhere between ₹50,000 and ₹5,00,000 or more.

Here’s a breakdown of typical pricing:

Basic Coordination Services: For couples needing only day-of coordination or minimal planning assistance, fees generally start around ₹50,000 to ₹1,00,000.

Partial Planning: If you need help with select services, like vendor coordination or venue selection, partial planning packages range from ₹1,00,000 to ₹2,50,000.

Full-Service Wedding Planning: For a comprehensive package that includes budgeting, vendor management, decor, and day-of coordination, full-service wedding planning can cost anywhere from ₹2,50,000 to ₹5,00,000 or more, depending on the complexity of the wedding.

Luxury or Destination Weddings: For larger, themed, or destination weddings, planners may charge upwards of ₹5,00,000 and may include additional travel and logistical fees.

Many wedding planners offer customized packages to meet specific needs and budgets, so it’s always a good idea to consult with several planners, discuss your requirements, and request a quote. This will help ensure you find the right planner who aligns with your vision and budget.

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2024/10/28
06:56 UTC

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Greedy asf relatives

So how many have you faced problems like this where u encounter Greedy relatives like we were distributing cards and my massi’s asked for 15 cards and like 30kgs of sweets. She even stole some boxes from us to be given to her daughters in laws. She herself gave us barely any and it wasn’t even homemade we all got sick from food poisoning her daughters wedding was trash one person nearly died from food poisoning as well and now just cause we’ve done an expensive wedding she’s wants to use us to show off my Nani wants to invite all her neighbours like wow even after all that each single member getting dozens of kilos of sweets homemade from the best materials we still here them say it’s not that good. My dad doesn’t care he says we can’t stop them mom gets angry when we mention it.

6 Comments
2024/10/28
06:38 UTC

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Wedding venue (Bay Area)

Looking for a wedding venue that can accommodate 350 guests and doesn’t have a crazy F&B minimum. Any ideas?

3 Comments
2024/10/28
05:55 UTC

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ceremony = lehenga, reception = lehenga top and pants?

Hi:

We're having a fusion wedding at a restaurant, definitely casual for an Indian wedding - colorful boho vibe more so than glitz n glam. I'm splurging on my lehenga and the groom is getting something custom that matches the lehenga. We're so picky on outfits - I would love to not search high and low for another outfit for the reception.

Do people wear their lehenga tops and swap the skirt for pants so it's easier to move and dance? Does anyone have photo examples of people pulling this off?

TIA!

3 Comments
2024/10/28
01:25 UTC

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Cost of wedding decor in India

Can anybody share your cost of wedding + reception decor for weddings in India? A break up of costs, or sharing any quotation you received would be highly appreciated.

Planning an wedding in Chennai, and we're in the US and would like to know what decor costs currently are like. Thanks.

2 Comments
2024/10/28
01:18 UTC

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