As the title unsubtly suggests, even a caveman needs a bonk and dragged back to NOT his cave. By all means feel free to check the rest of my posts to determine my worth. If not, by all means, read on :)

A bit about me, physically, first.

I am 6ft exactly. Black hair down to my shoulder blades. Black bearded. And starting back at the gym for the new years, burly turning muscular. I love to drink protein shakes, eat meat, lift, and get an ego boost from beating my personal bests. So... Caveman right? The real hairy and sweaty kind. The real loud laugh and rubbing my arms kind.

BUT!

Sometimes I want to relax, step away from the confident 'Dom' looking man. I want to be carried away - not physically, although, we can have a laugh if you wish to try. I am 110kgs after all. But I want to be whisked away, romanced, cared for, embraced.

What does that look like?

Well, I have expectations of grandeur; I also believed in romance novels and anime and such. I am a really creative person. I hate just sitting around absorbing ideas and watching the fruition of others's work, I'd rather combine them into my own thing. I have so many creative dreams from at least one mural on the side of a public wall, to fixing up my own burnt out classic chassis I found in a scrapyard some place. I want to write novels and make ASMR. I want to work towards these things. But such work and life-long dedications takes both time and money but worst of all, it gets pretty lonely.

Looking like me, you tend to be sexualised a lot. Feared, respected, desired for strength and power, yes, but sometimes objectified - which is what very little people recognise if not notice. Whenever I've been approached by women it's always, repeat, ALWAYS on the basis of sex or short-term flings. Nothing long lasting, nothing substantial, nothing to come home to. To be clear, that isn't your duty nor anyone's. But you have no idea; one time receiving a 'hey, how's things? how's your project coming along?' saved me from every negative end of every negative spectrum.

What does romance and care look like? Well, everything you interact with me with is done with an undertone or overtone of affection, wisdom, safety, and reassurance. Even go strict with it like scheduling, or even just a conversational check-in. You'd be surprised with just how little men can live with their entire lives, if at all.

But regardless, who am I?

As said, I am a creative. An academic at heart, creativity is my lifeblood. My whole family is filled with lawyers, soldiers, teachers, people that state the status quo in a now morbid and overtly realistic way. While my writing style and reading habits are similar, I still like to create a sort of 'waystation'. I am constantly experiencing and researching escapism and the benefits of just stepping away into a realm where everything unavailable or impossible is present in droves. Resilience. Fortitude. Value systems. Fighting in the midst of losing. Things lost in the pursuit of identity.

I really enjoy writing - as you can tell - if you were to meet me in person, you'll no doubt think that - based on looks as well - I am a very quiet person. I only speak when spoken to and i struggle to be interesting. But my writing is always going to outclass my tongue. And for that I am thankful because I also have a touch of hypergraphia. Always writing or thinking about writing, if I am doing something important and my mind drifts? I'm done for. Productivity be damned. I am also always drawing and getting better by the week. I do 3D modelling on the side and saving up for a proper camera.

The punchline?

Well, I suppose now comes the part where I go with the herd and dictate what I desire and dislike and outright ban.

Here's the thing though. I have no idea. I suppose beginning with my 'vanilla' kinks:

Breeding/pregnancy/birthing; Anal; and Free-Use. But is that any different to the average modern man?

Here're the more unconventional ones I am TRYING to get into:

Intimacy/Romance' Affectionate slow burn/gestures/or even respectful distance in spite of extreme desires; therefore Barely contained obsession/staring/silent examination. And finally, here's the more femdom 'focused' kinks - this one is hard however, since I consider myself relatively new. Only pornography, conversations on reddit, or fantasising through yearning and loneliness.

Gentle/loving/soft femdom Serving - touching, cooking, cleaning, and companionship and even remaining silent (which I kind of love the most if not deep and meaningful conversations). Pegging and bdsm submission (I am new to this side of the D/s scenario, so be aware I may pull back.)

Endgame?

I have no idea. Want to find out? Because I am inexperienced, and I admit that freely, I still recognise a desire to simply be loved rather than always do the loving. I placed my trust too frequently and too deeply to really believe exactly what I want exists. I am always fantasising and I suppose it negatively informs my standards to solidifying but I aim to keep my mind and horizons open.

Please don't be afraid to message at all. I know I wrote a lot but I want people to be clear on who I want to be elsewhere in my life. I am always seen as a monolith of strength, but even then monoliths struggle and crumble. I won't say I want to submit. I suppose I just want to be teased, I want to feel that tingle of attention and a soft hand on my shoulder.

I'm making this post in the hope of finding a partner to be my person for a LTR or if you are averse to something serious, we can talk about any other labels/avenues/ideas you have or are open to. We don't have to be alone lol. Let's enjoy all that 2024 has left to offer while we decide! Only 2 months to go sadly. I'm down to grab a cider or hot chocolate in some quaint small out of the way town. Who doesn't want to enjoy some hot beverage while browsing through some old shops (sample some fudge in a general store and grab some old-fashioned whatchamacallit) with some light hand holding? Ooooh maybe a kiss? Maybe try a corn maze or pumpkin patch if it's cool enough outside? I'm always down for some adventure. lol

To start I have to disclose that I mainly like women, but I also like a very, very, very specific type of guy and certain trans men as I'm partially bi. (I'd rather be upfront about it as it's been a dealbreaker for most women in the past for some reason) Chances are you aren't that type but feel free to ask if you are. (Didn’t want to offend anyone so I’d rather say in private) Just throwing that out there as it's a deal breaker for most women in general. Which why would it be? The number one reason I get is I'm going to cheat on them with a guy if we were to date. As if being bi has any bearing on cheating and not the person's character.

I'm a 36-year-old guy living in the middle-ish of Texas looking for a female partner. Partner as in LTR. That's Long-Term Relationship meaning boyfriend and girlfriend and holding hands type of stuff. You know, adult things? I had someone comment I was too vague, so this is me being specific. I'm gonna be honest and kinda sad so bear with me.

So, I've spent the past two New Years alone. Rang in this one just like last New Years in bed staring at the ceiling listening to fireworks go off into the night. The next day I cried randomly while browsing for a movie to watch on TV. At first, I didn't know why as I'm not much of a crier/feeling's person, but I realized for the first time that I genuinely felt alone. I have no partner, no family that I speak to, no friends just acquaintances, really no one there for me. That's my own doing which took years to accomplish through me being closed off and just shutting people out, so I figure it might take just as long to fix. I'm not complaining as I got myself into this predicament. It's gonna sound dumb but I wanted a New Years kiss. I'd never had one and it seemed like a fun dumb silly thing to do. Eh maybe one day. Ok well back to my spiel. (I'm not depressed or anything or wanting attention) Some of my hobbies and interests are movies, reading, cooking, kayaking, records, video games, board games, snorkeling, bowling, swimming, escape rooms, puzzles and antiquing. I would describe myself as more goofy and dorky than nerdy. I like to go out and do fun things but also stay in and cuddle and relax. I guess it depends on my mood and the weather. I prefer the cold and would love to live in a state with actual seasons and snow. I'm 5'10, stocky AKA fat and open for adventure and new experiences.

I posted in a poly sub looking for a throuple/triad because I'm curious about being in one. I've never been in one nor have I ever been in a poly relationship. I've been 100% monogamous all my life. I'm merely curious about it. Apparently merely being curious about it disqualifies me from even talking to a fair number of women. So be it, I guess. This doesn't mean I'm solely looking for anything poly related. Just means I'm open to exploring it. I'm mainly looking for a partner. If she happens to be poly then that's ok. If she's not, then that's ok too. I keep getting people judging me for posting in the poly sub as if I'm only looking for that. I'm not. Just thought I'd clarify my experience and what I'm looking for in that regard. (For the record I'm 100% ok with being monogamous)

Here are some random facts about me:

Some of my favorite bands are: The Black Keys, Kings of Leon, The Beatles, Creedence Clearwater Revival and The White Stripes.

Christmas is my favorite holiday, mainly because of the cold and festive activities. (Seriously let's go do some festive activities!)

I come from a medium-ish family.

I'm exceptionally patient but every person has a breaking point lol

I like traveling a lot. It's a basic thing that lots of people like. But I've found lots of people hate to leave their house, town or state so if that's you we probably might not be a good match. I also enjoy the mountains. But I don't like roughing it (give me that sweet AC in the summer). Hiking is so hard on my knees, and I haven't done it in a while that if I were to, I think about doing it I'd about die or twist a cankle.

I don't eat seafood, mushrooms, artichokes or pineapple on pizza (Who cares about this? Doesn't mean I won't go to a restaurant with you that has these things)

Never went to college as I'm horrible in a classroom setting and at taking tests. (I'm slowly bettering myself)

I used to have probably the most boring job imaginable (Ask me about it)

Overweight but trying to work on it and make better choices (Get healthier and lose weight together maybe?) Slowly getting there!

Non-religious but no issue with what you believe. (If anything)

Looking into sterilization. If you are already maybe you can give me some info or tips?

My own red flags 🚩

I work too much and oftentimes can't talk.

I send selfies often. I'm a visual person and like receiving photos. Apparently, it's a generational thing. Hopefully you think pictures are neat as well? Is it really that weird to want to see you and your life and show you mine?

I sometimes speedily become attached to people, not in a weird way, but if I like you and we have some kind of connection, I will enjoy talking to you and want to do it often.

I'm a very organized person and will plan out pretty much anything from a vacation to a road trip to a birthday. This makes being with a go with the flow type of person hard at times I've learned but still very much doable.

Due to childhood trauma I'm secretive which can be annoying.

MY own "HELL YES" 🏁

I know how to cook.

I will always drive if you want. (Within reason)

Great at escape rooms and jigsaw puzzles.

Can read a map and follow directions.

Decent at reading backwards upside-down writing.

What I'm looking for:

Is my age or older. But I'm willing to go quite a bit lower if you are neat and we have stuff in common. But super young isn't my goal here.

Mature, considerate, responsible and funny (Dorky wouldn't hurt)

Someone who never cheats, honesty and trust are important to me.

Someone who is open-minded, willing to try new things, be adventurous, funny and nerdy.

Someone who believes in sharing household chores equally because we are both adults.

Be open and frank about issues you or I are having. Not pushy or jealous. Won't yell or argue about stupid things, I've had enough of that.

Willing to push me to become a better version of myself (Can you turn me into Batman?)

If this sounds like you then feel free to reach out and say hi or challenge me to a game of Scrabble/Pictionary/hand to hand combat maybe? Maybe Wordle or some online vidya game?

P.S. I realize my post isn't for everyone but if you're seeing red flags from my post then I'd say trust your gut and please don't message me as we probably aren't compatible. I honestly don't mean that in a mean or hurtful way. I've just been messaged quite often with women saying they pushed aside red flags to get to know me. Please don't, it never ends well, and you end up wasting both of our time. Wouldn't you rather spend it finding your person with no flags?

My name is Izabela, or Izzy. I'm a bit of a shut-in cynical type, so I could definitely appreciate someone who would like to be cuddly and caring. When I'm in a good mood, I'm a loud cavalier type. There was a meme a saw one time, in the first panel this girl is like "I want to grow up to be an elf queen. Resplendent and eternally beautiful", and then in the second panel shes grown into a dwarf laughing loudly with a beer in one hand and battleaxe in the other; thats the kinda person I can be.

For hobbies, I like video games, watching cartoons and tv, and I'm working in getting back into making youtube videos. Have a fantasy novel I'm working on too. Yes, I am trans, MtF. I plan on surgery, and I'd prefer to acknowledge it as little as possible in the meantime. If that bugs you, we probably won't be a good match. I'm also a Satanist, and particularly passionate in my politics (market patsoc)

I'm seeking someone who'd like to be my other half. The homemaker to my breadwinner. If you're good at cooking and cleaning, major plus; I do like eating and hate chores. I'd love to be able to share quiet time at home just doing our own thing next to each other, or maybe cuddling and sharing a geeky movie. Love language wise, I like words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time. Humble enough not to intimidate, but explicit enough to know how a partner is feeling. Kinkwise, I'm a switch, but I tend to find myself in a dominant position...at least cybering. I've never actually done anything irl, which is mildly embarrassing. I like to tailor to what a partner wants but I do like the idea of a little roughness.

I need a dominant woman who can make me her perfect subby husband. I have no interest in hookups, online relationships, or non-monogamy. I'm 24, white, 5'6, 135lbs, kinda fit, averagely attractive (imho), introverted (INT-J), and 'inexperienced'. I have garbage eyesight and sparse body hair. I'm extremely stoic around everyone, but I would like to find a special woman to be vulnerable and extremely cuddly with. You should be in your 20s or 30s and living within four hours from Livermore. I'm in no rush to have sex, but when you're ready, I'll be ready to give you everything you want whenever you want it. I can send SFW pics if you can send your own in response.

Your needs, wants, and comfort are my top priority. I like driving and I want to make myself convenient for you, so I'll drive up to three hours to pick you up from your house or to meet at your favorite first date spot. If I spend six hours driving, all I ask is that we plan for a long date and that we split the cost, so lunch is on you. Unless you tell me to take the lead, you'll make every decision for us while I take mental notes on how to keep you satisfied. If you're ok with it, I'd like to drive you around while you play your favorite music for me. We would hopefully end the day snuggled up somewhere cozy while watching cat videos or just talking. We can cuddle in the back seat of my car or on your bed if you trust me like that. You will be the sole instigator of any and all physical contact, and I won't try to pressure you into doing anything.

I'm generally a people pleaser, but when it comes to you, that would be an understatement. I love the idea of serving you and catering to your every desire. I'm not talking about a total power exchange. I'd be respected as your equal and you would value my opinions just as much as I value yours. I don't want to be bossed around and controlled, rather, I want to make my own desires secondary to yours almost all of the time so I can feel confident that I deserve you. What's most important to understand about this dynamic is that I'm not looking for a woman who is selfish and entitled. I want to feel appreciated, emotionally supported, and loved. You should have a similar urge to sacrifice for me, but you should ignore it so I can give into mine. Just think of it as a relationship where every day is your birthday, so I get to spoil you.

About me:

I'm into animals, programming, crimes, watching animations, piano, shooting, and cycling. Most of that is untrue. I write a program once every few months. I bought a decent piano years ago and have been procrastinating learning how to play. I never go shooting. I don't even own a bicycle anymore since the one I stole got stolen.

Rather than having hobbies, I have fixations that last a month but that I think about returning to constantly for years, like 3D modeling and game development, piano and music creation, lock picking, mechanical tinkering, or card counting. The only consistent hobbies I have are watching youtube, eating the skin off my lower lip, and imagining how great everything would be if I was at the top of the new world order. I currently spend most of my time stacking paper, being a sigma, and treading water emotionally.

I can get back into gaming if you want me to be your subby pocket medic who calls you mommy in voice chat :3. I like nature but I don't get out much aside from work. I think watching sports is cringe, but I'd participate in them. I listen to alt rock and I'll suck you off if you're into bands like AM, CWK, FOB, GA, ID, Joywave, Muse, RHCP, The Strokes and TOP. I love speeding, especially at night, in fog or rain, while extremely tired, and on winding back roads. I like to make people uncomfortable by being vaguely threatening and unnecessarily hostile whenever I can, because it's funny.

I'm very organized and sanitary. As a radical introvert, I never choose to be around other people. I'm socially awkward, but not dangerously so. I can swallow a hotdog, and have done so in front of dozens of witnesses. I only drink in social situations, which are obviously rare. I've never done drugs, but I'll try anything once. I have two cringe associate's degrees, but I'll get a bachelor's in something at some point.

I will touch any wild animal that lets me get close. I try to snatch up birds that let their guard down. I relocate non-annoying insects that get inside. My last two roommates were gay spiders. I picked up and had a lengthy conversation with an injured seagull. I was being so polite, but the ungrateful cunt tried to bite my face the entire time, and he succeeded. I drove him to a wildlife sanctuary and gave him to the only other guy who apparently doesn't hate seagulls. I want to get a cat. I think dog food smells good. Dolphins were always my favorite animal, and I refuse to denounce them.

I think dating someone with opposing religious or political beliefs is stupid, so stop wasting your time reading this if we're not compatible. I'm an atheist/agnostic, so I'm not looking for anyone who's avidly religious. I'm fine with spirituality if it's a minor part of your life, but I'm not going to church on Sundays and letting them indoctrinate our kids. Although voting is a scam and abortion is epic, I'd vote Republican. I don't hate anyone aside from the media and Democrat politicians, but I'm kinda edgy and cringe, so I say appalling, nefarious things that will make you want to kill me with a hammer. Despite that, I think I'm basically moderate. Most political issues don't really matter since I can't do anything about them, but there's one we need to agree on.

About you:

The most important thing for me is that you're intelligent and communicative. You need to be able to watch a movie without needing me to explain the plot. You need to be open minded and not prone to shutting down when you hear something you disagree with. I don't plan on having petty arguments and dealing with passive aggression.

Loyalty and monogamy are incredibly important, so I don't want you if you have ever cheated or have even considered polyamory or cuckoldry. You should be disgusted by the idea of including a third person in our relationship.

I have no intrinsic body requirements beyond you being female and not officially obese. I'm not picky about cup size, height, hair color, or whatever, but fit tomboys make me say awooga and pant like a dog as my eyes pop out of their sockets. I'd like to go out to rock climbing gyms, shooting ranges, trails, tennis courts, or whatever you can think of. We would make great workout partners.

I'd love to belong to a badass woman who would join me to check out a noise downstairs in the middle of the night, mag dump the burglar as he's running away, reload and mag dump him again, and liquify him with acid. It would be epic if you could pay the bill at a restaurant without tipping, because tipping is fucking stupid but I'm too much of a bitch to be the one to not tip. You should also love animals and be willing to touch them with me.

Long term:

I'm not a femboy or a cross dresser, but you can make me wear anything. I'll be your canvas If you need someone to practice makeup, hair styles, or drawing on, and I'll go out in public like that because I don't care. My pet name will go on the collar of my catboy outfit. The cat ears will stay ON for my driver's license renewal photo.

I will modify my body and behavior in order to become your perfect husband. I'll do whatever I must to make myself more interesting, more athletic, more attractive in your eyes, a better lover, or in any way more worthy of being yours. I'll explain my 'generosity' later in excruciating detail, but I'll say now that I would be thrilled to learn every intricacy of your mind and body so that I can be the only expert in pleasing you.

There's no point in dating if there's no possibility of marriage. I'd wait for at least a year before popping the question, and I have no problem with you asking instead. I don't believe in saving sex for marriage, but if you're the perfect woman for me, and you want me to prove my devotion by waiting, I'd be happy to. I don't care about my last name, so I'll gladly take yours. I actually don't care about my first name either, so you can pick a new one for me if you want.

My dream is to own a small house on a few acres with a bunch of animals, complete with the perfect woman who will always know that I love her and am so happy to belong to her. I'll be realistic, but I want cats, a husky, fish, chickens, ducks, goats, and an adorable jumping spider. I'm not talking about a whole ass farm, just a nice variety of pets, some of which I can suck eggs out of. I also want a shooting range and a vegetable garden. All of our trees will bear a different fruit. I'm not planting any cringe trees that take our water and give us only dead leaves and worthless oxygen in return.

We will NOT have a lawn unless we have goats to eat it, which is my biggest requirement. Grass is for boomers, and it's fucking stupid. I'm not cutting that shit every week just to waste water to make it grow back. We'll have moss, and that's final. Moss and I are a package deal, so If you don't like moss, I don't like you.

I want kids. I'd like to adopt, but I don't want the government up my ass because you shouldn't have to share it. We could make a few or just steal newborns from people who don't deserve them, then say they came out of you. I'll get a vasectomy whenever we decide to cease production. We're not just gonna hand our kids brainrot machines so they leave us alone. I want to actually be a good parent and create successful, stable, happy people. I'm gonna inject them with supplements and make them expand the vast tunnel system under our house, to build character.

Love languages:

Since I've never been in a relationship, everything past this point is technically theoretical, but it sounds nice in my head. All of the love languages make me feel fuzzy, but physical touch might be my favorite. You automatically have my consent to touch or grab me anywhere, whenever you want. You can wait until we get comfortable or break the ice by sneaking a finger up my ass. I want to forfeit my own personal space to you. You can and should, regardless of who's looking, spontaneously pet me, squeeze me, nuzzle me, hold my hand, play with my fingers, draw on me, grab my arm and pull yourself into me, or beat me up and steal my car. Any contact makes me feel wanted and appreciated.

I'm ready to cuddle whenever you are. I'm so ready. You don't need to ask me at any point if I want to cuddle, because I'm telling you now that I'd love it if you held me and ordered me to hold you. Without warning, you can set me up how you want me and use my body to make yourself cozy. Don't leave it up to me to remind you - just remember I said this and wrap your arms around me. We could do nothing but cuddle for hours, and I'll still beg you not to go when it gets late. You could stay the night with me in your arms and I'll make you breakfast in the morning.

I hope you like acts of service, because I want to make your life easy. I'd love to let you know that you're always on my mind by doing things for you unprompted. I'd like it if you did the same, but if only one of us is going to get our hands dirty, you should relax, then when I'm done running errands for you, I'll give you a massage if you're feeling a little sore. I'll do anything I can to ease your pain and stress when you're on your period. It's so cringe that you have to deal with that. If the Christians are right, that dumb bitch Eve is gonna catch these hands the moment I see her, that fucking cunt.

I love to give gifts, but only thoughtful ones. I think cut flowers and diamonds are stupid. I'm looking for a woman who's practical, not materialistic or wastefully traditional, so don't expect an expensive wedding ring from me. I'm saving up to buy us a house, not a rock. Still, I'd love to constantly show up with a drink you like or some other gift. I'm used to getting shitty gifts, so it would be nice to occasionally receive something thoughtful from the woman who knows me better than anyone.

Affirmation makes me super uncomfortable because I feel like I never deserve it. You should make me uncomfortable until I get used to it. If I've earned a compliment, you should give it to me and order me to accept it. I want to make you feel appreciated at all times, and I never want you to forget it, so I'd like to give you affirmations every day. I want to cure your insecurities and make you feel as perfect as you hopefully are in my eyes. I want to make you feel like a stupid idiot for doubting yourself and I want you to convince me that you're glad I exist. I want to start every morning we're together by letting you know that I'm thankful to have you next to me, and every morning we're apart by excitedly checking my phone to see if you're awake before letting you know that I wish you were next to me.

I want to spend as much quality time with you as possible. I want to go everywhere and try everything with you. Whenever I try something new, it makes me a little sad to think about how I'm doing it alone. I think new experiences are better when they're shared with someone special. When we're tired from going everywhere and doing everything, I want to have long conversations with you that last hours after we say we should go to sleep.

Consent:

I think consent is super hot, and I promise I'm not just stating what I think you want to hear. I hope that, by writing so personally and extensively, I come off as genuine enough to probably be telling the truth about this. I want to establish a special connection with you, and that starts with mutual respect for each other's bodily autonomy. Waiting for permission to touch you is the best way to make you feel listened to and appreciated, which if you haven't noticed, I've got a bit of a thing for. I also want to feel that way, so I'd love to get the opportunity to give you my consent for anything more intimate than cuddling. You already have my consent to touch me platonically, but I'll wait patiently for yours.

I understand that I'm probably stronger than you, and that you've possibly met a few guys who don't take consent seriously. I could comfortably get in your car the second I meet you and step into your house in a city I've never been in without feeling any fear. It's a shame that you likely can't do the same, but I'll quickly make you feel safe around me.

I will never cross the limits you set for me. Without trying to sound like a "nice guy", I couldn't possibly respect your consent any more than I do. I'll hate myself twice as much as you do if I betray your trust. I'll actually cry if I feel like I overstepped your boundaries and made you feel afraid or disregarded. I'm very cautious, to the point where you might get annoyed. Someday we should fully belong to each other, with enough trust and understanding to treat each other's bodies as our own. Until then, I want to make sure you feel safe and valued by always asking for your consent before touching you in any way. I might annoy you with how careful I am about it.

If you tell me beforehand that you want our first date to be platonic, but you predictably start getting carried away due to my flawless body and unmatched rizz, I'll kill the momentum and give you time to consider whether things are moving too fast for you. I don't want you to regret anything that happens between us. There's always next time to decide that we should go further, especially if we've been drinking. I'm not a modern day feminist, but men who think with their dicks and are overbearing with their advances are extremely cringe. I genuinely don't want to have sex with anyone unless they're super enthusiastic about it.

Sex:

I'll wait patiently for you to make a move, but when you do, we'll need to be sexually compatible, so here's way too much info on that.

My hard limits are the obviously gross stuff, feet, humiliation, degradation, *severe* pain, CBT, chastity, cuckoldry, forced bi, findom, ageplay, TPE, and polyamory. Please stay away if you're into that stuff, especially anything non-monogamous. If you're willing to be in a monogamous relationship, but polyamory or cuckoldry appeals to you even a little, then I'm not interested in you. If you tell me on our 10 year anniversary that you've secretly always wanted to use me as a toilet or fuck another guy while I watch, I'm leaving with the kids. I think anal is gross. If you get nothing out of it we can just never go there, but if you wanna don the strap I'll bounce on it and moan like a girl.

I'll always use full protection until we both get tested, with no compromises aside from kissing, which I'll do with unparalleled passion. I don't have any STDs, and I don't plan on having any to share with my future soulmate. It's not personal, and I'll get tested too even though I know I'm clean, because you deserve to have that peace of mind.

I'd categorize myself as slightly demisexual. Whenever I see a hot human woman, I can recognize that she is conventionally attractive, but I've never been tempted to stare at or "mentally undress" her as all other guys apparently do. I've also never cared about tits or ass. I might just be a low T beta bitch. I'm actually very easy to turn on due to my lack of contact, but the emotional bond is what I'm really interested in. I don't need sex, but it's fun and healthy, so I'd love to have a woman with a crazy high libido who can push me into the bedroom every day and drain me like a succubus.

I'm happy with anything we can do together. If you want me to finger you, play with your nipples, and suck on your tongue in order to make you cum as many times as you demand, but you're uncomfortable with reciprocating, that's ok as long as we can cuddle afterwards. Being able to give you what you want while feeling appreciated for it is all the reciprocation I need.

The rest is explicitly about my fetishes. You could read until you've read too much if you're curious, or just skip to the conclusion now.

As a service-oriented sub, providing service is my biggest turn on. I can dom if you order me to, but it feels natural to be womanhandled. If you want me to do all the work, you can command me or let me respond to your body language. If you want to take full control, you can push me down and use me as your toy. I want to be whatever you need me to be in order to give you all of the pleasure you deserve. All parts of my body belong solely to you, and they can meet any part of yours for as long as you command. Through it all, I'll be in ecstasy over the thought that you are too. I can beg desperately for reciprocation or just shut up and enthusiastically enjoy my role as your source of pleasure. We can focus on me instead if you'd like. I may beg for your permission to serve you first, but I can't refuse if you order me to relax. Even if you want me to beg or resist, I belong to you completely, so you must always get what you want from me in the end.

For specific fetishes, I like gentle femdom, foreplay, edging, orgasm control, overstimulation, teasing, begging, praise, cunnilingus, creampies, breeding, body worship, aftercare, and mommy/mistress/puppy/good boy talk. I'm incredibly turned on and motivated by involuntary reactions to pleasure like twitching, throbbing, moaning, muscle contractions, and facial expressions. I'd like to experiment with bondage, pegging, prostate stimulation, choking, CNC, some light pain, and anything else I haven't mentioned that doesn't make either of us feel unloved or inadequate. When it comes to your body, I'm mostly excited by your face, pussy, and brain (so cringe). Still, while those parts are what spark my interest the most, I will gladly kiss, lick, nibble, grab, and caress every inch of your skin.

I did say I'm not into chastity, but I like being teased with the threat of it. I don't want to wear a cage, but If I fail to make you feel fully satisfied, then I have failed to earn my own pleasure. I should beg to be allowed to cum after giving you ten orgasms. I'll get more and more excited for my reward with each one, as you constantly remind me that my body is made for your pleasure. If we hit ten and you're still too busy enjoying my tongue to give me the release I was expecting, you can order me to continue, and I'll continue until you order me to stop. If you then decide that we're both done, you can let me come down anticlimactically and think about how I can better serve you next time. If instead, you graciously decide that your good boy deserves a reward, I'll be eager to let you know how thankful I am. I'll be so thankful that my wonderful, generous mommy/mistress (whichever you prefer) loves me enough to let me cum that you'll have to push me down and force my reward onto me to stop me from excitedly kissing you all over. I want to know that when you call me a good boy and give me my release, it's because I truly earned it by being everything you need.

Every orgasm I have will require your permission. If you don't want to have sex during your period or for any other reason, I'll insist on waiting for you. I will never watch porn or masturbate, unless ordered to. I hope you will always wait until you can use me when you need to get off. I have no right to stop you from masturbating if you're horny and I'm not around, but you know we would both enjoy it if you're extremely pent up when I get home. If you drag me to the bedroom and pull my face into your pussy the moment I walk through the door, I won't waste any time. You could order me to edge when we're apart so that I'm just as desperate. If I ever accidentally cum while edging for you, I will tell you immediately and make it up to you in any way I can.

If you'd prefer to comfort me instead of doing the female superiority thing, that's just as good. You can ride me slowly as you hold me and softly tell me that you'll always be here for me because I'm your perfect boy. I'll tell you I love you and you'll say "Shhhh, I know you do. You're such a good boy, just relax for me." I'll do as you command and just lay there as you pet me and whisper things that make me feel completely and unconditionally loved. I'll whimper with every exhale, and you can call me cute and encourage me to cum inside you. I'll whine out that I'm close and you'll say "Let it all out for Mommy. Good boy, I love you so much. You're my perfect little pet and I'll always be here for you."

I hope that, like me, you're turned on both by the idea of me being yours to exploit and being yours to nurture. Obsessing over your pleasure until I've earned my reward is extremely arousing, but so is the inverse of that. If I've had a long day, your mommy dom instincts should kick in and drive you to comfort me. When you're allowing yourself to be selfish instead, I don't want to be put down or made to feel worthless. Rather than being insulted or degraded, I prefer to be playfully teased about how horny I am and how much I wish I could cum as you remind me that your pleasure is infinitely more important.

I'm genuinely not into feet. I may joke about sucking toes, but I also joke about sucking dicks, and I only sucked dick twice. I'm not into feet, but your entire body is beautiful and deserves to be worshiped, so I'll kiss yours. I just don't want to suck the sweat from your toes or get a footjob, because I don't have a foot fetish. If I did have a foot fetish, I'd like them petite and a little sweaty from a short jog. You could shove them right into my face and I'd give them a big whiff and lick them from heel to toe, then I'd suck each toe for a full minute and trim your toenails with my teeth, but I'm not into that.

Dick stats: 6.5 inches hard, 4 inches flaccid, 6 inches around, uncut gang, aggressive 40 degree curve, leans left, leaks like a faucet, has an extra hole, no refractory period, shaved (trying hair removal, pubic hair disgusts me), balls are 20x40mm (measured with calipers)

Conclusion:

I don't see myself as a fetishist just because I'm submissive. If a woman is submissive, that's "normal", but if a guy is, that's apparently "not appropriate work talk", and I'm supposedly "fired". I'm just trying to find my perfect match. Our date can be totally platonic. I'll focus on giving you a good time and lots of attention. I don't expect you to do anything you're uncomfortable with, but I hope we can cuddle extensively. I welcome whatever fun activities you have in mind, like going back to your place and petting your dogs (please).

If you're interested, tell me about all the things you think could make us compatible, as well as whether you read all that cringe or skipped to the end at some point. Don't waste your time with something super long like this, but give me something to work with. If we're not compatible or you're too far away, but your goofy ass read this whole post anyway, feel free to message me.

We want what we want and I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to find it. I crave a strong woman in my life. Someone who's ambitious and a leader but also warm and caring. Someone who wants to flip the typical relationship roles and have a house husband. You focus on your career and success while knowing you have someone taking care of the homestead. I'll run the house, do the laundry, take care of the kids and pets, get groceries, make Halloween costumes and decorate for Christmas. I'll mow the lawn and tend the garden, make sure there's fresh cut flowers in the house. Let's build our own little empire and chase all of our dreams.

When you wake up I'll help you get ready for the day, make breakfast and pack you a lunch. When you get home I'll have dinner ready, we'll talk about our days and spend some time cuddling on the couch. Maybe you want to be pampered for a while or we can take the dogs for a walk, or whatever you need to end every day feeling satisfied, safe and loved.

We can go to farmer's markets on the weekends, hit up every fall and pumpkin festival there is, vacations and road trips, concerts and festivals, fireworks on the 4th, visit all the cute towns and sip coffee in the park. I want to live the good life and support my queen, help build her up and provide the emotional support and love that is so often lacking.

If this is the type of life you've been wanting I hope you know that it is possible, we just need to find each other first!

I'm 38 and currently live in the Hudson Valley. I'm white, about 6' tall, average build, some facial hair, and I have a lot of love to give. I'm an artist, a maker, and a dreamer. I love music, art, poetry, books, hiking and camping, Halloween, food, movies, adventures, dogs and cats, long drives, holding hands, coffee and tea...I could go on and on but let's save that for another time. If any of this resonates with you please don't hesitate to reach out, I know you're out there somewhere!

Hello all,

I'll try to keep this to the point and shoet

My name is iris. I'm a married, American, male to female genderfluid and I'm 35. I'm 6'2 slightly above average and slightly on the masculine side. Black hair, brown eyes, with big hands, feet and such. I'm a switch. Mainly been dom but love to be sub.

Why am I here? Like everyone to grow. Ever since I remember I wanted I want to be a girl. I use to dress all the time and since covid I've done it less and less and even more so since I've moved to germany.

So what I want is to be outside as a girl. Fully dolled up. I want to be more subbish again but not lose my dominance all together. I want a workout buddy to help me lose my weight and lean/slim down again. Penpals are always great. Would love to have more friends.

I love scfi, comedy, action, and anime stuff. I do like other styles but that's my favorite style.

I love to cook, go for walks, window shop, organize, sometime play video games.

Any questions just ask.

So, to start at the beginning: 13.7 billion years ago at the dawn of the universe….wait, wait, wait…too far back. Maybe I should kick things off with a little about me and why I’m here!

I’m white, 5’11, about 220lbs, gifted with glasses, dark hair, a gigantic nerd, and THE biggest, most awkward dork. It’s true, I promise! I watch way more anime and have read way more manga than I can count. I would love to share a long-term connection with a fellow nerdy person in my life that I can relate to, and hope you feel the same too. The fall anime season is well underway and I really want to enjoy it with a fellow dork! Beyond that I love gaming as well! I’ve got a big collection of new and old consoles, and really want to share that with someone who would actually enjoy exploring it together. I also really like old technology, watching movies, messing about with photography, getting to explore new places, and being able to spend quality time with the right person!

My love language is definitely a mix of affirmative communication and touch. I’m a total motormouth and always talking, so someone who enjoys lots of conversation and straightforward communication would be awesome. I’m a huge cuddler and maintaining frequent moments of contact is very important to me. So if you’re similar then we’ll probably be good friends in that regard. Being able to physically and verbally express lots of intimate affection and loving care with the right person is a core part of who I am and hopefully it is for you too!

So, a little about the other stuff I’m looking for. It can be hard to express but ideally I’m seeking a partner who’s bigger and/or larger than me, be it bigger, heavier, taller, stronger etc… Even though I’m the relatively dominant type I feel most cozy and comfortable around someone who is more sizable than I am, including when in that sort of dom/sub interpersonal dynamic. It sounds a little silly but sometimes a guy just wants to be the smaller one of the two! I’m open minded, welcoming of interracial partners, and flexible to all comers, whether you’re plus size, hard built, or anywhere in-between. I’m pretty kink friendly and open to a decent amount of stuff. All I ask is that you at least outclass me on the scale or vertical, if not both! I know that this all probably sounds a little ridiculous, but it’s a physical aspect I well and truly need in a partner.

I hope this message left you feeling happy and eager to get to know one another, whether you fit exactly what I’m looking for, or if this post spoke to you in such a way that you felt eager to reply regardless. Thanks for reading!

Hello~ my name is Austin. I'm a 25 yr old guy living in Maryland. And I figured why not give this a shot?

I'm a very funny and goofy person who loves to make people laugh and have fun with someone especially if I care about them. I'm very loving and affectionate a lot like a dog, I love cuddles and pets and being the little spoon. I'm very loyal and caring I love to do things to make my person smile and take care of them.

My hobbies are mainly video games so I'd love someone else who plays a lot so we can play together or at least play different things next to each other. I also love to listen to music and have something playing almost all the time. I love starset and pixel terror and stuff like that. Big plus if you like those too. I also like to write some, mainly short stories but I do hope to be an author someday. I like to write love stories most of all, I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic. Aside from that I don't mind doing anything if it's with someone I care about.

Kinks wise I love mostly gentle femdom/femdom type things. I love love love feet, smelling them, putting my face in them, kissing them, rubbing them. I love facesitting, smothering, body worship, chastity can be fun and other general things like that.

Send me a message and let's get to know each other I work nights so beware

Here's a very high effort post because I'm looking for someone special to spend my life with. I've clearly marked and categorized everything for your viewing pleasure.

What brings me to reddit for dating: For the short of it, I've been doing online dating for about 10 years, and could only describe it as a sisyphean struggle. With more traditional dating platforms having been absolutely torturous and a complete waste of time, god it hurts to live less than helpful, I'm hoping this will give me a better result.

Age: 28, open to 20-32~. I’m less about age, more about attraction/maturity.

Appearance: 5'8", medium length blond/brown hair (pictures are from when it was short), blue eyes, white skin, slim-fit body type. I dress almost exclusively in black if I can help it, hence "aspiring goth". I've been told I'm fairly handsome, but I'm including a few (very poorly taken) pictures, so you can decide for yourself whether or not I've been lied to!

Face: https://imgur.com/a/ykiCkwQ

Body (Warning: Lewd): https://imgbox.com/g/fI9YOozvlP

Location: Central NJ. For practical reasons I'm currently open to dating and relocation within the US, but outside of it sadly complicates matters a lot. I'm not looking for a long distance relationship, so being able to get together in person is important.

Looking For: A mutually loving and caring relationship with a partner and best friend in one. I feel that what I'd like the most in life is to find someone very special to me, who I can love with all my heart and spend my life with. Not really looking for a "domme", but a real relationship with some gentle femdom/role reversal elements.

Traits I want in a partner: Kind, loving, trustworthy, understanding. Good sense of humor, emotionally intelligent, communicates well. I wouldn't ask for anything I don't freely give you.

Non-sexual interests: Many of my interests fall into the "nerd" category. Games (video and tabletop), anime, music, art, sci-fi and fantasy stuff of all varieties. I enjoy a lot of RPG's, and some of my favorite game series include kingdom hearts, fire emblem, dark souls, and a fair few others. Former high level league player who's currently retired.

Recently my friend got me into magic the gathering, although we've only been playing commander so far.

In general, I like to keep in shape, play games with friends, share music, watch tv/movies/anime (horror and psychological stuff especially), share memes, read, and do some amateur writing. I'm also rather intelligent/insightful, which I think you'll appreciate as you get to know me.

Personality: Generally cool headed, laid back, and kind. Introverted, but can be extroverted when I'm in my element and otherwise comfortable. Deceptively intelligent despite how incredibly basic my pictures look, but I also tend to be silly a lot so that's not easy to discern at first.

I’m also very reasonable, with a strong preference for peacefully resolving issues, so you can expect very little to no drama and good communication skills. One moral concept I'm quite fond is the law of equivalent exchange, so fairness and reciprocation is a big deal for me.

Fun facts: I have a deep and sexy voice which many people don't expect, and a great many people tell me I should get into radio or voice acting.

Sexual stuff

Are you fully sub or a switch?: Probably a strongly sub leaning switch. I find being the receiving (but reciprocal) partner to be uniquely fulfilling.

Are you just sexually sub or enjoy nonsexual aspects as well?: I enjoy both sexual and nonsexual aspects. I'm perfectly happy being your adoring subby boyfriend even in public, in case you're into PDA and flaunting that aspect of our relationship.

Sexual (and relationship) interests: I'm fairly new to a lot of things, so this isn't an exhaustive list. I'm very open minded and willing to try most things once, even if I think it wont work for me. I'm also more than happy to try and indulge your interests.

• Role reversal/gentle femdom are the big favorites! I really like having a partner that's assertive/aggressive/possessive in a romantic/sexual capacity. One who enjoys initiating intimacy and sex, and hugging/kissing/touching/groping me throughout the day for example.
• I'm perfectly happy with displays of affection and you taking the lead, whether that's holding me tightly in public and even being territorial, whispering in my ear that I belong to you and no one else, or you proposing to me and putting a ring on my finger. I'd be quite happy with the prospect of being a house husband who handles the home stuff, and I can also make you a sandwich from time to time!
• Pegging, prostate massaging, and penis/prostate milking. Although my experience is a bit limited, I'm intensely curious about it.
• Continuing on the possessive aspect, it's really very flattering for me to see someone desire me so much and be possessive over me. I'm very happy to show my devotion even to the point of wearing a collar for you. So if you're a semi-yandere girl who enjoys that kind of dynamic, I think you'll like me a lot. Just make sure to treat me well!
• Play wrestling/fighting. Having you win and pin me down while kissing me is just incredibly hot.
• Kissing/licking/biting (both giving and receiving) are massive favorites. Lipstick marks and hickeys all over my body are a huge turn on, and definitely makes me feel like I belong to you.
• Cuddling, being held, holding you, affection, spending time together. I love intimacy, and I'm extremely loyal and affectionate once I get attached to someone. You will be my favorite person ever and your happiness/enjoyment will always be as important as my own. I'll always be there to support you, and seeing that I made the difference for you is incredibly satisfying for me.
• Oh, and of course, the dirtiest, most vile, and disgusting fetish of all, >!handholding!<. I'm a sick bastard who tramples upon all that is good, I know.

Hard limits (non exhaustive): Scat, pee, blood, getting punched in the balls, cuckolding, chastity, permanent injuries, physical torture, cooking fish in the microwave…

Partner preferences: I'm a big fan of goth/alt/tomboy looks. Shortish hair is a very big plus, somewhere between pixie and neck length. Height difference (taller than me) is also a very big plus. But these aren't explicitly dealbreakers! As long as I find you attractive then it works for me.

Dealbreakers/Requirements: Similar interests are a requirement. Being able to enjoy my favorite things with my favorite person is something I dearly want in a relationship. I do have an unavoidable preference for body type that I unfortunately can't get past, being the thinner end of the spectrum when it comes to proportions/body fat. So slim/fit/muscular/lighter end of average. PLEASE DON'T BE A SOCIOPATH, OR ACT LIKE ONE.

So a little about me : I'm short 1.61 m, and curvy with a bubbly personality. I like to draw, sing, take walks, doing resistance training at the gym, reading novels and manga, watching anime (though I'm not up to date with anything because of my busy schedule) I love listening to music, my taste is very varied and i would be very excited if we have similar taste. I love getting to know people and learning as much as i can from them. I'm an ambivert and a bit sadistic. I'm currently in college.

My ideal type of a dynamic can be represented in this manner:

Coming back home after a long day of work i step in through the door only to be met by my adorable little puppy in a cute flowery apron with big round twinkly eyes that have been waiting almost impatiently for my return. Having my coat removed so carefully and my handbag carried away followed by a good foot massage to ease the soreness of having spent the whole day standing in heels. Getting settled on the couch whilst waiting for my favourite meal to be served and a quick narrative of how my day went while i fetch out the cute little hairpin i thought would make my boy even prettier. Following the savoury meal with a whole lot of cuddles and a good comedy to recharge from my exhausting day. An experience worth looking forward to everday when I'm at work.

My taste leans more towards a bit of femininity, be it emotional expressions, the high pitched voice, being shy and easily flustered just from being called a good boy, and occasionally dressing up in cute female clothes to look pretty and a bit of makeup or spending hours in front of a mirror. I absolutely love it all! I would gladly hold your hand to get through crowds, cross the street, open doors for you and even carry you to bed (once I'm strong enough >< lol) As long as there's no gender dysmorphia and you are comfortable in the body God gave you and your other masculine features. My body has it's limitations so i would expect you to cover what i cannot.

I don't comform to traditional gender roles and i find it more easier to just do what you enjoy or have an added advantage to. But i very much dislike most roles assigned to women so if you're someone who doesn't find them as annoying as i do, then more bonus points. But hey, whether you're more feminine or not, as long and you're straight and sub leaning we'd get along. I would totally treat you like a princess since i am very dominant leaning. Character is what's most important to me, be loyal, honest, kind and have integrity with strong moral values based on Christian principles.

We should be on the same page religion wise and that means being a Christian. This is a deal breaker. I want someone who i can partner with in Christ and the ministry. So someone who doesn't do any drugs and is sober or rarely drinks socially. Being fit or actively improving your health is important. I prefer if you're clean shaven or do regular grooming and are taller than me. My side of the race comes with a lot of cultural practices, some which cannot be bypassed so you'd have to be more accepting in that aspect and the same goes for me. We all have flaws and there's always room for improvement and i want a companion that will help in bringing out the best version of myself. So the goal is to date with marriage in mind and we should start out as friends. So no hookups, no fwbs, I'm completely monogamous. I dislike indecisiveness, so at least have a rough draft of your future planned out and be self motivated.

Please note: kindly introduce yourself if you're serious about responding to my ad.

Hello! 😊

Note: I know this post is a bit lengthy, but I believe in being open and transparent. I wanted to give you a clear picture of who I am and what I’m looking for. If you prefer a shorter version, feel free to scroll to the bottom for a TL;DR. Thanks for taking the time to read it!

Location: I’m a software developer living in Phoenix, Arizona. My current employer requires me to reside in AZ, but my profession allows for fully remote positions with many other companies. I’m actively seeking an employer who offers this flexibility, especially if I enter a long-distance relationship. I’m willing to travel and relocate for the right person, even considering opportunities abroad if we find a strong connection. I hope you'd be willing to do the same for me, should your circumstances permit it. I can technically live in another state as long as it's not for the majority of the year, which should help with a LDR.

For now, I want to move to Philadelphia. It’s way too hot and dry here! 🥵 I believe living there will increase my chances of dating locally, including nearby cities like Baltimore, DC, and NYC. Just think of all the fun day trips we could take together! Being within a 2-hour flight of most of the U.S. population would also make long-distance relationships more feasible.

I aim to live car-free, so other walkable cities like Chicago, DC, and Seattle would also be ideal if I had a partner there to help justify the high cost of living. That said, it’s not a hard requirement. What are your thoughts on relocating for love?

Hobbies: I enjoy good food and love trying new restaurants. While I don’t do a lot of fancy cooking at the moment, I hope to revisit it in the future—it’s always a fun date option! Quality TV, movies, and books are also high on my list, with a particular fondness for animated works. Studio Ghibli films are definitely a highlight for me!

I used to write from time to time and would like to try my hand at it again someday. I also want to explore local attractions once I move, like museums, botanical gardens, and festivals. While I enjoy going out, I’m not into overnight or extreme outdoor activities like camping, backpacking, or rock climbing. Sports bore me to tears! 🥱

My primary hobby is video games, with action-adventure and RPG being my favorite genres. The Zelda series and Stardew Valley are top-tier for me. It would be wonderful to have gaming as a mutual interest, but it’s not a necessity.

What are some of your favorite cuisines or games?

Appearance: I’m 5’9", 130 lbs., and Caucasian/German with brown hair, blue eyes, and long eyelashes. I have a slim build and a traditional look (not feminine presenting). I take pride in my appearance and exercise regularly to stay healthy and fit.

Personality: I’m rather introverted and a good listener. While I can be talkative, it’s usually with someone I enjoy being around. I love deep conversations and consider myself to be pretty introspective. I appreciate meaningful connections and enjoy spending time in quieter settings, whether that’s a cozy café or a peaceful walk.

Relationship Preferences:

• Starting Point: I’m hoping we can start as friends and see where the relationship organically takes us.
• Dealbreakers: Dealbreakers for me include smoking, being a picky eater (I prefer omnivorous diets), and being an irresponsible animal owner. I don’t own pets and don’t plan to, as I’m more of a cat person—dogs don’t do much for me.
• Lifestyle Choices: I don’t drink or use soft drugs (like marijuana), but I’m okay with my partner using them as long as it’s not excessive or indicative of an addiction.
• Monogamy & Age Preferences: I’m only interested in monogamy and ideally looking for someone between the ages of 20 to 32. I could consider someone a bit older, but younger would likely feel uncomfortable.
• Future Goals: I’m childfree and envision a dual income, no kids (DINK) lifestyle. If you’re a remote worker, that’s a bonus! While I’m not against someone taking care of me, I recognize that might be a stretch! 🤣
• Values & Beliefs: I’m an atheist and politically independent, valuing personal freedom and pro-choice beliefs. It’s important that we share similar worldviews.
• Physical Preferences: I have preferences for taller women with pale skin, natural brown or red hair, or an alt look, but what truly matters is someone who takes care of their appearance and health.
• Personal Growth: I strive for independence and self-sufficiency, with long-term goals like achieving FIRE and owning a home. I’m more sensitive and in touch with my emotions than the traditional masculine archetype, and I’m working on my self-confidence. I want a partner who loves and accepts those parts of me, fostering vulnerability on both sides.
• Attractive Qualities: Kindness, empathy, intelligence, ambition, and assertiveness are all qualities I find highly attractive in a woman.
• Role Reversal: I love the idea of role reversal—being cared for and protected instead of always playing the stoic provider. If you're into being the knight in shining armor, I'd definitely be up for that dynamic!
• Mutual Respect: Ultimately, I want a relationship built on mutual love and respect, where neither of us feels lesser due to our personalities or preferences.

Sexual Preferences:

• Submissive Nature: I identify as 100% submissive. I’m working through some health issues that may influence my preferences, and I suspect there’s a chance I could be a switch (still leaning toward sub) once those are resolved.
• Attraction: I’m drawn to loving and nurturing women. I enjoy receiving affection both in and out of the bedroom, and I’m happy to give it to the right person, of course. I’m specifically looking for gentle femdom, as I don’t resonate with the degradation and humiliation often found in traditional femdom. I’m not a brat and don’t see myself engaging in that dynamic, aside from maybe some light teasing if my partner enjoys it. I prefer a “mommy” dynamic over “mistress” or “ma’am,” as the latter two feel a bit cold and impersonal to me.
• Interests: Some explicit activities I’m interested in include breast play (both ways 😉), pegging, prostate stimulation, milking, facesitting, bondage, biting, CNC, hypnosis, and most degenerate of all: cuddling. I also enjoy standard PiV sex, especially when I’m being topped. Mutual sexual satisfaction is important to me, and I want both of us to feel fulfilled.
• Hard Limits: My hard limits are pretty standard: anything dangerous, violent, or illegal; piss; scat; diapers; and heavy age play in general.

TL;DR:

Location:

I’m a software developer currently in Phoenix, AZ, but I’m looking to relocate to Philadelphia for its walkability and proximity to major cities. I’m open to remote work and willing to travel or relocate for the right person, even considering opportunities abroad.

Hobbies:

I love good food and trying new restaurants, and while I’m not a fancy cook yet, I hope to explore it more. I enjoy quality TV, movies (especially Studio Ghibli), and video games like the Zelda series and Stardew Valley. I’m also interested in local attractions like museums and festivals, but I’m not into extreme outdoor activities or sports.

Appearance:

5'9", 130 lbs., Caucasian/German with brown hair and blue eyes. I have a slim build and a traditional look. I take pride in my appearance and stay fit through regular exercise.

Personality:

I’m introverted, a good listener, and appreciate deep conversations. I enjoy quieter settings, whether it’s a cozy café or a peaceful walk.

Relationship Preferences:

• Starting Point: Friends first, then see where it goes.
• Dealbreakers: Smoking, picky eaters, and irresponsible pet owners.
• Lifestyle Choices: I don’t drink or use soft drugs, but I’m okay if my partner does moderately.
• Monogamy & Age: Looking for monogamy with someone aged 20-32.
• Future Goals: Childfree, DINK lifestyle, and striving for financial independence (FIRE).
• Values: Atheist, politically independent, valuing personal freedom and pro-choice beliefs.
• Physical Preferences: Prefer taller women with natural brown or red hair (or an alt look, if dyed), but taking care of your health and appearance matters the most.
• Attractive Qualities: Kindness, empathy, intelligence, ambition, and assertiveness.
• Role Reversal: If you're into being the knight in shining armor, I'd definitely be up for that dynamic!
• Mutual Respect: Seeking a relationship built on mutual love and respect.

Sexual Preferences:

I identify as submissive, but I may be closer to a sub-leaning switch after resolving some health problems. I’m drawn to nurturing women and enjoy gentle femdom dynamics. Some interests include breast play, pegging, prostate stimulation, and cuddling. Mutual satisfaction is important, and I have standard hard limits.

Let’s Connect!

I’d love to hear from you if you think we’d be a good match! I’m open to sending pictures or video chatting privately once we’ve connected.

Hello there, I’m Jordan. I’m a frequenter of these subs on Reddit but have never built up the courage to post on them. I keep hoping I will find the perfect friend/partner/domme but am now being more proactive in my search.

As the title says, I’m 25 and live in the Midwest (can disclose more later). I’m in my 3rd year of medical school and beginning to think more about my future.

I have long been interested in this lifestyle and FLR and have dabbled in past relationships but have never really dove in completely. That is what I hope to find. As a future physician I feel fortunate and blessed that I will have the ability to support a partner financially and would love more than anything to support them completely. I love the service aspect of FLR, I feel it ties into my chosen career as well.

I envision a relationship in which my partner dictates much of our lives together. I would be seen externally as an alpha male provider but behind closed doors would live to serve and please.

Some of my main kinks include: FLR (duh), bondage, humiliation, chastity, denial, anal play, pegging, oral service, domestic service

I would be interested in potential pet play or occasional feminization although are certainly not deal breakers

Ideally my partner would be of similar age 22-35 and in the Midwest as well although I am early in my career and open to relocating down the road for the right person

Outside of kink I spend a lot of time studying but in my free time I enjoy cooking, traveling, hiking, sports and sci-fi movies

I would love to chat more, if you are interested please reach out

• Jordan

Hey all! I’m somebody who realised a long time ago that traditional gendered relationship dynamics don’t work for me- I don’t find the idea of prowling around a bar, buying women drinks, and trying stupid pickup lines on them remotely appealing. In fact, I’d much rather be the one hearing the stupid pickup lines. Both physically and personality-wise, I lean far more feminine than the average man: I have shoulder length brown hair, shave both my face and body, paint my nails, moisturise, generally carry myself more delicately, and enjoy wearing skirts sometimes. I’m also on the shorter side, at around 5’6. I’m rather emotionally expressive, and try to be a caring, nurturing presence in the life of my partner. I’ll happily listen to my darling’s problems, offer cuddles when they’re sad, give shoulder massages, and so forth, while being openly emotionally available myself. I’ll cry openly at films that affect me, and ask for cuddles when I’m feeling blue.

In turn, assertive women who aren’t afraid to take the lead in the relationship really appeal to me. I love both feminine women, and more outwardly butch ones, but certain indicators of you being the “man” in the relationship are something that really resonate with me; putting an arm around my shoulder in public, holding the door for me, pulling me in for kisses whenever you want, placing orders for us at restaurants, handing me your jacket if I start getting cold, picking out clothes you’d like me to wear, maybe even being a little possessive at times? Once we’ve become a little familiar with each other, slightly condescending nicknames (ie. princess) are preferred, lol. But of course, I don’t expect my partner to be a clump of stone who performs conventional masculinity at all times! First and foremost I’d like a real relationship, where we mutually respect and support each other.

Personality-wise, I’m outwardly rather nerdy, shy, and introverted. With people that I’m close to though, I’m generally very bubbly and chatty, with a good sense of humour IMO. I’m generally rather indoorsy, enjoying reading (mostly nonfiction), watching TV/documentaries, and gaming. However, I’m by no means a total shut-in; I’ll happily go for long walks in nature, or visit museums, or historical landmarks with you. I adore long, aimless walks in the sun! I definitely benefit from somebody who is a little more extroverted than myself, who can take a leadership role and bring me out of my shell. I graduated from university in July, and am currently looking for employment while living with my friend.

My main requirement for prospective partners is that you live in the UK; super long-distance doesn’t personally work for me. I’m currently based in Glasgow, but I definitely don’t mind taking the train to see you, as long as the travel time isn’t more than five hours or so, as I’d like to be able to see you regularly for cuddles. I don’t personally want to date anyone younger than 21, but I don’t mind if you’re older than me. We should have compatible values, so no right-wingers, bigots, or anybody involved with the military or police please. I’m also submissive in the bedroom, and would prefer somebody complimentary.

Most importantly, please don’t message if:

• You are another man/femboy.
• You are only looking for platonic friends.
• You are already in an open or polyamorous relationship.
• You are exclusively interested in an online dynamic.

I’m happy to talk online for as long as you need to feel comfortable prior to meeting, but I am ultimately seeking somebody who can cuddle and hold me IRL, either as part of a long-term relationship, or a FWB dynamic. Please save both of us some time and don’t message if that’s a dealbreaker for you!

Please see attached a photo of me (with face obscured) so you have some idea what I’m like. I look forward hearing from you. :3

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(Hungarian/English)

Hello :)

Not sure how many people are in Hungary, who are also on Reddit, and interested in this, but here goes nothing:3

So, basically, I'm a bit nerdy, shy, cat lover (though currently I don't have any) guy, who also dabbles in cooking, and is a looking for a not so tradiotional relatiopship. Physically I have 2 arms, 2 legs, 1 head, brown hair, glasses, so a pretty standard appearance. Also a bit chubby, but I'm trying to change that (seriously this time,even taken up swordplay :3) .

Mosly, I'm looking for a relationship, with a bit dominant (and funny, able to take and give a joke, clever, nice, cute, and a lot of other positive attributes) woman/mommy/buddy. Well, a role-reversed relationship, though I'm not insisting on that, the whole dynamic should develop naturally, depending on what we like.

I'm down for long-term FWBs as well.:D But even then I'd like to get to know each other before, because it's important for me know each other as humans, like each other, not to mention to develop enough trust.

I don't think I'm capable of one-night stands (unless there is some kind of very long night, where we get to know each other first), and online play is not really for me, I'd prefer to talk instead, then meet, and probably after that we can do some online thingies, but only for fun/teasing, not as the basis of the whole relationship. I'm also very picky in one thing: I won't be part of any cheating, so if You have a partner, then they should know about us, agree to it, otherwise we should just leave each other alone.

Apart from subby things,I'm a little bit of a switch,and I also like those extra pervert things, like kissing, handholding, headpats,etc.:3

Well, that's all for now, if You have any questions feel free to ask, I'll answer:)

(If I can find my messages here, I don't really use reddit:D)

(I can send pics after a bit of talking, when we are sure none of us are trying to get the other one's kidneys:3)

Have a nice day/life:)

Hello, I'm a 26-year-old sub hoping to find a dominant person to be friend with, and hopefully turning into a serious long term relationship.

Infos about me

This is a photo of me, body type wise, I'd say I'm slim and twink like. I've been told I have a really nice ass multiple times!

I'm more of a shy and quiet person at first, so it takes a little bit of time for me to be comfortable with someone, but once I'm kinda out of the shell, I can be a spontaneous and a fun person to be with. My love language for receiving are physical touch and words of affirmation, and giving are acts of service and physical touch (more on that later!).

I'm bilingual, I speak English and Mandarin.

I'm located in Southern California, it's okay if you're not in the same area if we really hit things off. I'm open to relocate for the right person.

Career wise, I'm currently looking for a job in STEM, but the job market isn't good right now, so it has been slow for me, but the upside is that I got more time to focus on myself!

Hobbies and interests

I like playing single player story rich video games such as rdr2, god of war and I also enjoy playing board games as well! I'm a really curious person and I enjoy learning, Wikipedia is probably one of the website I visit the most, and often spend a lot of time going down rabbit holes and so I have a lot of fun facts! I also enjoy reading, especially topics around political science, philosophy, or history.

Animes and movies are also big interests of mine. I love watching old hollywood movies, from 1930 ~ 1990 (e.g. Casablanca, 12 angry men, Psycho).

I enjoy talking about social issues, I'm fascinated by how every person has a slightly different take on the same thing, probably has a lot to do with your background, and that's really interesting to me. Personally I'm left leaning, but I'm still open for any kind of discussions!

I really enjoy singing, one of my childhood dream was to attend a singing contest, haha. I also do play a little bit of guitar.

I love trying different kinds of food from different countries, Japanese cuisine is my favorite. I do cook from time to time, and I enjoy it a lot!

References

Mom(biological): Wow! You're so smart!
Ex: Aw! You're so fucking cute!
Co-worker: What a good boy you are. (This had me blushing at work)
Previous boss: Are you still in bed? I'll have to say, this is quite impressive.

NSFW stuff

I enjoy being the little puppy with my partner, I like to be the little spoon when cuddling, I like to be nurtured, and patted on the head, being called a good boy.

Kinks that is a must is worshipping and pegging, I love being pegged or having my prostate stimulated. I have a few prostate massager that I enjoy playing with, but I plan on getting more! And I LOVE to worship my partner, I like to make my partner feel special, and this is one of my favorite way! Other than that, some of the kinks I have but are not a must are orgasm control, joi, edging, begging, teasing, light humiliation, light degradation, teasing, feet. I don't mind exploring the feminine side of me, so I'm open to feminization if that's what you're into. These are just some of the kinks I have on the top of my head. I'm pretty open to explore new kinks that you have. What turns me on a lot is seeing you get turned on by me pushing my boundaries and doing stuff for your liking. Watching me doing handstands turn you on? Alright, watch how hard I get doing a handstand. Oh, inhale with my nose while exhaling through my mouth is a big turn on? Oh this is how I breathe from now on, no need to call the ambulance.

I still enjoy PIV sex very much! And I hope you do as well.

I like to take sexy pictures of myself showing my naked body, it'll be a huge plus if you're also into this.

I have had one online D/s relationship before, so it's not completely new to me, but also wouldn't consider myself really experienced. Good thing I'm really good at communicating about my feelings, or what I want.

Hard limits: Findom, forced-bi, cuckold, scat, blood, anything illegal or permanent.

What I offer

Like I said, my main love language is giving acts of service! It could be both sfw and nsfw.
I enjoy giving my partners massages, driving her to places she needs to be at, even simple stuff like bringing her water or getting out of my way to get her desserts she likes. I like to treat my partner really well! Cause being in a relationship to me is like having a teammate, us vs the whole world! Why wouldn't I want my teammate to be treated well? Although you're the domme, I still want to be the person that you could lean on when you're feeling down, and be there for you.

About you

I'm not looking for a person that's here to fix my life, I have my life together already. I'm looking for a companion that shares the same value with me. I'm looking for a teammate to explore the world with.

Appearance wise, I don't have much preference, as long as you're not overly skinny in an unhealthy way or obese.

Hopefully you're in your 20s to early 30s, and a person that's respectful! Yes, I like giving up control to dommes, but I also think respecting each other is important. We are both equal! I'm looking for a person who prefers being a gentle dominant person (but strict when needed) that values aftercare for the both of us.

Other qualities that I look for are creativity (I always try my best to spice things up with my partner), emotional intelligence, being communicative and being open minded with everything, not only the sexual stuff.

Here are some femdom and role reversal arts that I like. It gives a little insight of the dynamic that I'm looking for in a relationship.

I hope you're an educated person that likes to read and enjoys learning, and at least have your own opinions on most things, such as social problems. I hope we could have healthy debates on these kind of topics.

Lastly I'm looking for a person that's open to share what you think deep down. And be honest with yourself. A heart to heart connection is what I value most. I hope you're comfortable sharing your vulnerabilities to me, and me to you as well.

I know what I'm looking for is probably too specific, but I'm not in a hurry to find anyone. However, you're free to message me if you only match some of the requirements! Again, I'm open to a lot of things!

I hope you could put some effort into your message as I've poured my heart out for this ad. It would be really nice if you share a sfw picture of yourself, and what resonates with you the most in this ad!

Talk to you soon!

Hello! I am a 24 year old gender non-conforming boy who prefers to present and identify myself as feminine. I am not comfortable with being perceived as masculine. I prefer masculine presenting or identifying women. Long distance and online is fine with me but i prefer things not to stay that way for forever. I'm soft hearted, i've been told i'm kind, and pretty introverted. I enjoy all kinds of things, from sports like tennis, volleyball, or cycling, to entertainment such as video games, anime, movies, etc. Admittedly I am a bit tall at 6'1" and I'm average weight for my height (Was underweight for a large majority of my life) I have no problems sending a picture of myself to see if we click, and if we don't then it's totally understandable! I'm searching for something long term and monogamous, no one night stands or f buddies. For NSFW compatibility purposes, ill just say that i am a sub, i'm not comfortable being a dom. No need to discuss those things immediately. If you're interested give me a dm! I mainly use discord to communicate through so we can use that if you'd like. Thanks!

Hi! My name is Ari, I'm 20 and I live in the USA near Washington D.C. I like video games, streaming, roleplaying games, going on walks, listening to music (mostly funk, rock, metal, rap, and electronic), or watching stuff. I love cats and my family owns 3 of them.

Physically I'm mixed, 5'4" tall (or small), and I have very long brown hair and some facial hair.

I do have anxiety and autism, and possibly something else that isn't diagnosed yet. I'm on meds for my anxiety and my autism doesn't affect me socially too much (though it does help to be blunt with me).

If you're interested let me know if we have anything in common! And if not tell me what you love doing, I always enjoy learning new things!

I'm making this post in the hope of finding a partner to be my person for a LTR or if you are averse to something serious, we can talk about any other labels/avenues/ideas you have or are open to. We don't have to be alone lol. Let's enjoy all that 2024 has left to offer while we decide! Only 2 months to go sadly. I'm down to grab a cider or hot chocolate in some quaint small out of the way town. Who doesn't want to enjoy some hot beverage while browsing through some old shops (sample some fudge in a general store and buy some old-fashioned whatchamacallit) with some light hand holding? Ooooh maybe a kiss? Maybe try a corn maze or pumpkin patch if it's cool enough outside? I'm always down for some adventure. lol

To start I have to disclose that I mainly like women, but I also like a very, very, very specific type of guy and certain trans men as I'm partially bi. (I'd rather be upfront about it as it's been a dealbreaker for most women in the past for some reason) Chances are you aren't that type but feel free to ask if you are. (Didn’t want to offend anyone so I’d rather say in private) Just throwing that out there as it's a deal breaker for most women in general. Which why would it be? The number one reason I get is I'm going to cheat on them with a guy if we were to date. As if being bi has any bearing on cheating and not the person's character.

I'm a 36-year-old guy living in the middle-ish of Texas looking for a female partner. Partner as in LTR. That's Long-Term Relationship meaning boyfriend and girlfriend and holding hands type of stuff. You know, adult things? I had someone comment I was too vague, so this is me being specific. I'm gonna be honest and kinda sad so bear with me.

So, I've spent the past two New Years alone. Rang in this one just like last New Years in bed staring at the ceiling listening to fireworks go off into the night. The next day I cried randomly while browsing for a movie to watch on TV. At first, I didn't know why as I'm not much of a crier/feeling's person, but I realized for the first time that I genuinely felt alone. I have no partner, no family that I speak to, no friends just acquaintances, really no one there for me. That's my own doing which took years to accomplish through me being closed off and just shutting people out, so I figure it might take just as long to fix. I'm not complaining as I got myself into this predicament. It's gonna sound dumb but I wanted a New Years kiss. I'd never had one and it seemed like a fun dumb silly thing to do. Eh maybe one day. Ok well back to my spiel. (I'm not depressed or anything or wanting attention) Some of my hobbies and interests are movies, reading, cooking, kayaking, records, video games, board games, snorkeling, bowling, swimming, escape rooms, puzzles and antiquing. I would describe myself as more goofy and dorky than nerdy. I like to go out and do fun things but also stay in and cuddle and relax. I guess it depends on my mood and the weather. I prefer the cold and would love to live in a state with actual seasons and snow. I'm 5'10, stocky AKA fat and open for adventure and new experiences.

I posted in a poly sub looking for a throuple/triad because I'm curious about being in one. I've never been in one nor have I ever been in a poly relationship. I've been 100% monogamous all my life. I'm merely curious about it. Apparently merely being curious about it disqualifies me from even talking to a fair number of women. So be it, I guess. This doesn't mean I'm solely looking for anything poly related. Just means I'm open to exploring it. I'm mainly looking for a partner. If she happens to be poly then that's ok. If she's not, then that's ok too. I keep getting people judging me for posting in the poly sub as if I'm only looking for that. I'm not. Just thought I'd clarify my experience and what I'm looking for in that regard. (For the record I'm 100% ok with being monogamous)

Here are some random facts about me:

Some of my favorite bands are: The Black Keys, Kings of Leon, The Beatles, Creedence Clearwater Revival and The White Stripes.

Christmas is my favorite holiday, mainly because of the cold and festive activities. (Seriously let's go do some festive activities!)

I come from a medium-ish family.

I'm exceptionally patient but every person has a breaking point lol

I like traveling a lot. It's a basic thing that lots of people like. But I've found lots of people hate to leave their house, town or state so if that's you we probably might not be a good match. I also enjoy the mountains. But I don't like roughing it (give me that sweet AC in the summer). Hiking is so hard on my knees, and I haven't done it in a while that if I were to, I think about doing it I'd about die or twist a cankle.

I don't eat seafood, mushrooms, artichokes or pineapple on pizza (Who cares about this? Doesn't mean I won't go to a restaurant with you that has these things)

Never went to college as I'm horrible in a classroom setting and at taking tests. (I'm slowly bettering myself)

I used to have probably the most boring job imaginable (Ask me about it)

Overweight but trying to work on it and make better choices (Get healthier and lose weight together maybe?) Slowly getting there!

Non-religious but no issue with what you believe. (If anything)

Looking into sterilization. If you are already maybe you can give me some info or tips?

My own red flags 🚩

I work too much and oftentimes can't talk.

I send selfies often. I'm a visual person and like receiving photos. Apparently, it's a generational thing. Hopefully you think pictures are neat as well? Is it really that weird to want to see you and your life and show you mine?

I sometimes speedily become attached to people, not in a weird way, but if I like you and we have some kind of connection, I will enjoy talking to you and want to do it often.

I'm a very organized person and will plan out pretty much anything from a vacation to a road trip to a birthday. This makes being with a go with the flow type of person hard at times I've learned but still very much doable.

Due to childhood trauma I'm secretive which can be annoying.

MY own "HELL YES" 🏁

I know how to cook.

I will always drive if you want. (Within reason)

Great at escape rooms and jigsaw puzzles.

Can read a map and follow directions.

Decent at reading backwards upside-down writing.

What I'm looking for:

Is my age or older. But I'm willing to go quite a bit lower if you are neat and we have stuff in common. But super young isn't my goal here.

Mature, considerate, responsible and funny (Dorky wouldn't hurt)

Someone who never cheats, honesty and trust are important to me.

Someone who is open-minded, willing to try new things, be adventurous, funny and nerdy.

Someone who believes in sharing household chores equally because we are both adults.

Be open and frank about issues you or I are having. Not pushy or jealous. Won't yell or argue about stupid things, I've had enough of that.

Willing to push me to become a better version of myself (Can you turn me into Batman?)

If this sounds like you then feel free to reach out and say hi or challenge me to a game of Scrabble/Pictionary/hand to hand combat maybe? Maybe Wordle or some online vidya game?

P.S. I realize my post isn't for everyone but if you're seeing red flags from my post then I'd say trust your gut and please don't message me as we probably aren't compatible. I honestly don't mean that in a mean or hurtful way. I've just been messaged quite often with women saying they pushed aside red flags to get to know me. Please don't, it never ends well, and you end up wasting both of our time. Wouldn't you rather spend it finding your person with no flags?

It's spooky season and I have a backlog of scary movies to watch, but lately I've been pining for that comfortable warm blanket feeling of being in love. I function perfectly fine on my own, but I definitely thrive and have a pep in my step when there's that special someone that I just can't get off my mind.

ANYWAY. Hi, I'm Edward ( Pics / Audio ).

I've lived in NYC my entire life and I'm located in the lower East side. I'm still emo at heart, a huge geek, and a lover of good story telling and cinematography. I'm a bit of an awkward introvert in large groups, but I handle myself a lot better in 1 on 1 interactions. Black cat energy outside, Golden Retriever energy inside. I work the overnight shift at my job so I'm around for late night chats. Tell me how your day went while I get mine started?

Some things I'm interested in:

• Movies - Sci-fi, horror, slow burn thrillers, the occasional good romcom, Marvel and other comic book movies.
• Shows - Stranger Things, The Boys, Wednesday. I'm usually not a big anime person, but currently I'm watching an anime called "Shikimori's Not Just a Cutie", which is a slice of life anime with a bit of rolereversal dynamic in that the really cool/badass girl is constantly saving the clumsy guy. It's heckin' adorable so far.
• Games - I usually enjoy cinematic and story driven games. Nier: Automata is up next on my queue as soon as I get through the Shikimori anime. I'm open to suggestions for fun coop games too!
• My music taste varies a LOT but I mostly listen to movie soundtracks or instrumentals. Also I still listen to my high school favorites and it helps that Eminem and Linkin Park have albums out this year.
• I used to cosplay and go to conventions a lot and would love to find someone to go to these again.

Currently trying to find someone for a LTR monogamous relationship (preferably local or in the tri-state area). I don't mind distance for the right person as I have a good amount of vacation time to take trips, but it can be tough to coordinate visits. Physical touch is my primary love language, hugs and cuddles are very important to me.

My preferences and attractions for a romantic partner can be all over the place sometimes so idk feel free to shoot your shot, though nerds and geeks are probably easier for me to relate with. I have a preference for a M4F relationship but I'm also open to M4T or M4NB as well (I guess that makes me pan?)

Messaging is fine, but Chat is preferred. Please say more than just "Hi", introduce yourself, tell me what you think we might have in common, what your favorite activities are, etc. Including a picture is always a plus (it's nice to put a face to whom I'm talking to) but don't feel obligated to if you just want to be chill chat buddies. If you've messaged me before and I didn't respond, or if you feel like I've ghosted you, I'm incredibly sorry! Sometimes Reddit will send me blank messages and I can't see who sent them, or sometimes I'll feel socially overwhelmed and lose steam/momentum in talking. Feel free to shoot me another message if you feel inclined to though!

Let's watch a movie or binge a show, maybe even do some gaming together ❤️

Hi, my age is 30 and I am looking for a partner to commit to and live with for the rest of my life. 

Below is an honest story of my life, one I have never told anyone about.

My ideal partner is someone who is white. Why not the other colors? Scroll to the bottom and read my FAQ. 

What matters the most to me in a marriage is love, trust, loyalty and commitment. With these four factors in place it is possible to overcome anything.

About me: I am a mission oriented person who once has a dream, simply does not dream about it but makes every effort to make this dream become a reality.

As a person, I am always kind and nice, naturally tend to be respectful, I have no enemies and is liked by everyone.

When I was 14 I wanted to be a pilot. I worked extremely hard putting my health on the line. I would wake up at 5 AM rain or not and run, climb mountains and stay physically fit just as military personnel train. Education wise, I was always a failure and even came to the aviation dream, I failed miserably due to my inability to learn Mathematics beyond the basics. 

After the Aviation failure at age 17 I fell into deep depression and looked at my options in life and realized that the only skill I had was photography and the only industry where it was possible to make money was in Porn as I didn't know of any other areas where it was possible to earn the same amount a Pilot would make. So, I enrolled in a University that put me into a per-university program in the Business stream where I put in all my effort and for the first time in my life was getting top marks in all subjects even beating students who were a lot smarter than me. I used my the knowledge gained to create a business plan for the porn company and spent 95% of my time researching equipment,the industry etc. And only 5% of the time watching porn evaluating behind the scenes and the content produced. Eventually, I settled on two categories. Female Solo and Lesbian as I could never stand the sight of a man's penis,  although, that eventually changed after I did a subject called "Gender Studies" and became more open to the aspect of having a dedicated Trans site.

The two barriers I had with plan was access and capital. Access as I am not from a country where producing porn is allowed and secondly camera and computer equipment is very expensive. 

In order to gain access to a country where I would be able to set up a small studio and move forward, I would need to be a citizen of that country. So, worked hard on getting a Degree and got a job in company to gain Marketing experience as I saw Marketing as the biggest challenge in creating a profitable porn company.

By pursuing the Porn company dream it saved me from suicide, gave me a Degree, allowed me to work in an international company and work abroad and allowed explore so many hobbies from traveling and working abroad to climbing mountains, jets ski, horse riding and gosh the hobbies the list of hobbies I have gotten into is extensive.  I am alive thanks to Porn which is strange because I have heard so many negative stories of how others struggle with addiction and how marriages have been torn apart. 

The change in life plans: Last year I decided to give up the "Porn Company" dream and pursue my other dream of finding a women to get married to being loyal to one women for life as I have a stable job and Degree. I also don't see the point in continuing to sacrifice my time, energy and everything for something that has a small chance of succeeding, given how muuch more challenging the porn iindustry is becoming and the fact that in order to be competitive now Mirrorless Cameras have to be used which is a huge turn off for me as I love DSLR cameras.

The challenge in finding my ideal partner. As I am from a country where all women are Tan or Brown I have no choice but to look for someone beyond the borders. My ideal wife is someone who is white with a maximum age of 32.

Location does not matter, where my parner wants to live as I am extremely adaptable and can live anywhere.

I have also only been in one relationship with a very conservative women who was a foreigner and met my criteria perfectly except for the large age gap (she was older). What shocked me was that I was incredibly loyal, committed dedicated to her and just lost all interest in porn and other women. She was someone selfish, short tempered, strict, controlling and extremely jealous, putting her friends above and my feelings where I was always afraid of her and under tremendous pressure. It was like I had always been a person who had strong values which surprised me as I always thought that because of the amount of time spent researching porn and knowing full well, that choosing one women to spend the rest of my life with was like trying to decide what car to drive for the rest of my life, being loyal would be impossible and yet, it was the opposite, what surprised me more was the abuse I was willing to put up with simply because I loved her. 

What attracted me was her smile, her long sleeved dresses that she wore and her beauty which I had no idea was all photos that were 10 years old. When we met in person where she didn't have her three hours to put on make up, she looked like she was 50 and despite being in a state of shock I still decided to love her and still wanted to marry her even through I knew she could end up ruining my life. 

After the relationship ended in break up months ago, I have been in a state of confusion with a pen and notebooks contemplating and figuring things out and the conclusion is this.

When it comes to marriage, I am man who is adaptable and can change based on partner. Beyond the appearance standard of white as all the women in my country are brown and finding someone who is white is next to impossible being someone who is age 32 and can be someone I can trust and won't treat me like a slave or dog. I have no other standards. Your past does not matter and even if you are someone who is a sex worker I really don't mind.

Chasity: I am willing to be locked up in chastity because once I am married outside of being used to satisfy my future wife, a cock's only other function is to pee and masturbation is like cheating  as it involves thinking of other women. Additionally, I feel like it help remove any insecurities my future partner has. When you want to lock me up and for how long is your choice.

Cuckolding: Despite the fact that I will be extremely loyal, I feel comfortable with having a partner who has the freedom to engage in sexual activity with other men. I am not sure why I am okay with this despite the fact that if I was running a porn company I would never be okay with a male/female sex but I suspect that it could be the fact that I am person who once he archives what he wants is satisfied and this has been true with everything from first iPhone I bought which six years later I am still using and have no interest in upgrading or looking for other options. So, if you want to have fun with other cock's and enjoy yourself if you feel like my dick does not satisfy you enough the way, my cock size is 6.5 inches.

I have had sex once when I was a teenager but NO penetration and no blow job. Could I still be considered a virgin, I am not sure.

Submission: I am submissive when I love someone but not to the extent of being called "slave" or beaten or asked to kneel down in a corner. My idea of submission is being respectful, doing acts of kindness like cleaning the house while you relax, cooking your favorite meal or surprising you with a gift and doing something romantic. of course, if I do Something terrible like, well I don't know. But I am sure, we can figure out an appropriate punishment.

I was treated like a slave in my previous relationship and after sometime, I was so scared of her that I started to overthink every decision. So, submission is good but not to the level of "slave". 

Concept of ownership: I consider myself to be like a product on sale and any women who wants to own me can purchase me by marrying me and as an owner I will have more control and rights than me. 

If you want a man who despite the dark past is someone who is very loyal, honest, committed and loses interest in all other women and porn when he loves you and is someone who is will pursue a dream you set for him and can still be molded according to your preference of an ideal husband then send me a message and we can get to know each other better. 

Questions I have been asked in the past. 

Why the preference for a white women? Answer: I am naturally attracted to a white women or other skin colors and I know that if I marry a white women, I will content and lose interest in all others. However, if I married a brown or black women, I am bound to look at porn featuring a white women or look at other white women that look good. When I was in a relationship with a white women who was 15 years older than me and even other white more attractive women looked like a blur to me, I had no interest. But in the past  when brown/black women was interested in me, I am unable to decide if I want to commit or not no matter attractive or sexy she may be. One moment I think yes, then no and back again to yes, yet, always unable to make a decision because I deep inside I don't have the natural desire to marry anyone who is not white. 

Maximum age of 32: Why? Answer: I dated someone who was 15 years older than me and the age gap never worked out. It was difficult and caused too much pressure. 32 has always been a maximum age I am comfortable with. 

Preferred Relationship structure? Answer: I don't know, I am fine with anything because Equal structures make it easy to communicate but can lead to fights and arguments. Female Led - no arguments or fights but if the man is treated like a slave he could lose his sense of autonomy and become overdependent on the women. Traditional - Reverse of Female Led but the women can still argue, yet, the man makes the final decisions in marriage

Are you okay with pets? Answer: Yes, I am okay with pets and when I was growing up, I had Dogs, Birds, Tortoise, Cat, Fish and Squirrels. 

22 [M4F] #Pittsburg/#Arcata/Norcal - Bearded Teddy Bear lookin' for connections, cuddles, and intimate adventures

Please read the full post before responding!

Well, hello! I'm Azure (or Asher or Ozzy, I'm fine with whatever). I'm a neurodivergent non-binary/genderfluid AMAB individual. I'm open to a lot in terms of relationships. I'm from the Bay Area, live in Pittsburg with my dad, and go to Arcata for school. So, with that, let's get started!

Currently, I'm attending Cal Poly Humboldt as a Cell and Molecular Biology major on track for my B.S. in Cell and Molecular Biology. I'm in my last year, so yay but we'll see haha. I'm a transfer student from a community college in the Bay Area where I obtained an A.S. within the Biotechnology Manufacturing Technician program there. I sort of have a plan for what I wanna do after my B.S. degree: master's and doctorate research into biofuels production in the biological systems engineering program at UC Davis, after maybe 7 years of work (at the minimum) and some research experience, including prep work at a community college for grad school. I'm a full time student currently, in my second senior year. In my free time, I like to play pool, people watch in the lounge area, play video games, and read. Along with academics, I am a member of my school's world percussion ensemble, and am taking percussion studio lessons. All this to say.. I can get rather busy, so if it takes me a while to get back to you or whatnot, likely I'm distracted with schoolwork.

Personality-wise, I'm caring, honest, goofy, supportive, and sweet. I'm definitely an old soul, and love deep conversations. My friends often have described me as a living cartoon, in that I act like one all the time. I'll break into accents or voices for like no reason and my movements sometimes seem cartoonish, however I do not function by the laws of cartoon physics which is unfortunate. I am very geeky and nerdy, especially about the following: science (biology and spaaaace!!), history, anthropology, drums and percussion, divination and witchcraft. I'm left-leaning, and am open minded about politics.

I am 420-friendly and kink-friendly. I do have a dad-bod and am hoping to work on that more, and I'm omnisexual. I'm diagnosed autistic with undiagnosed ADHD and other conditions (I'm an open book if you wanna ask about it).

In terms of a long term dynamic, I am a sub-leaning switch, and would love to submit to a powerful woman. I'm a kitten-player, although I have no equipment or dress up stuff yet. I'd love to curl up, or lay across/sit in, your lap as I purr and nuzzle you while we relax. I'm also a little, and tend to be a curious little in that space. Overall, I'd say I'm very obedient, and would make for a good house husband! I can be bratty at times tho, and love me a good ol' spankin'. Some of my limits are serious injuries and humiliation. We can discuss more as we chat.

I'm looking for genuine conversations and connections. I'd want to chat for a bit first, develop a friendship, and see where things go. If we stay as friends then that's fine too! My only requirements are that you're LGBTQIIAA+ friendly and that you don't just send "Hi". I'm open to all identities and ages 18+, up to like 32 yr/old or so.

If you've gotten this far, you can answer one of these two prompts, or both if you so choose:

1. If you could have any superpower you wanted, what would it be?
2. What's a cool talent you possess?

Can't wait to start start chatting with y'all! Thank you for reading!

Don't worry if the ad is old! Chances are I'm still available, lol (🥲). But heads-up that I'm not on Reddit every single day though!

Goal:

I think my main goal is to find a soulmate, but I also kind of just want to stay home and be the one to do the housework and stuff.

Measurements:

5'11" tall

Around 170lbs (Fairly thin)

7" in "length" (Not sure if it matters but hey)

Selfies:

I get that looks are important! I am very open to exchanging selfies soon, BUT I would like us to quickly get to know each other first. I just think that there's no sense exchanging photos if we were never going to get along personality-wise.

Personality:

A personality can be so hard to convey succinctly. And I swear I seem to make a better impression in-person than I do online, but I'll do my best:

I guess I'm something of a quiet person? Definitely pretty aloof too. But I do love to make people laugh and I find that I'm quite good at it! I'm a good listener. I'm diligent and I don't like to half-ass things. I know some people out there never seem like they're every fully paying attention to you. You gotta tell 'em everything twice, and they couldn't follow the simplest grocery list to save their life! I'm not like that at all.

Kids:

I would like to father kids some day. Doesn't have to be soon, but it's definitely a deal-breaker if you never want to raise kids ever.

Likes:

Drawing, cuddling, video games (from action games like Dark Souls, to puzzle games like Baba Is You), anime, programming, sushi

Dislikes:

Alcohol, weed, onions, rap / hip hop, masochism / sadism, chastity cages

Other:

Mmm... I don't know what else to write, but if you have any questions PLEASE don't be shy about asking! I don't mind! I always rush these kinds of ads because otherwise I end up dwelling on them indefinitely and then they never get posted...

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To begin with, while I am aware of how often it repels people, I am Asexual, and Demiromantic. So I am not one for a short term friendship or for falling for someone without knowing them, especially not on an emotional level.

I am shy, and I am very hesitant to try and leave my comfortable shell at all. So this is my latest attempt in trying to find a new social connection, after the last 10 I successfully made seemed to have become too tied up with life to talk to me. I am also doing this for my health, since I often go entire weeks without talking to another person.

I am overall a very sensitive soul. I will cry when I am bullied, I get scared easily, and I have trouble talking to new people.

I am 5'11, 195 pounds. I spend 1 hour a day on Cardio, and I like to take walks to help myself make ideas on how to make an OC character design inspired by fairy tales (A bit like RWBY). I also love to read and listen to music (especially classical music and classic rock) and audiobooks.

I am also a fan of JoJo's Bizarre Adventure, Star Wars, Hans Christian Anderson Works and other knowledge of media. I love Ice and Snow.

I especially love to play 7 Days To Die. So if you play that game, that is a nice thing for two people to have casual conversation while playing.

Just to reiterate, If it's hopefully not something that pushes you away, I am Asexual, possibly Demiromantic, so if I fall in love with anyone at all, it would be with a girl I am close friends with first. DM me if you are interested.

Here's a very high effort post because I'm looking for someone special to spend my life with. I've clearly marked and categorized everything for your viewing pleasure.

What brings me to reddit for dating: For the short of it, I've been doing online dating for about 10 years, and could only describe it as a sisyphean struggle. With more traditional dating platforms having been absolutely torturous and a complete waste of time, god it hurts to live less than helpful, I'm hoping this will give me a better result.

Age: 28, open to 20-32~. I’m less about age, more about attraction/maturity.

Appearance: 5'8", medium length blond/brown hair (pictures are from when it was short), blue eyes, white skin, slim-fit body type. I dress almost exclusively in black if I can help it, hence "aspiring goth". I've been told I'm fairly handsome, but I'm including a few (very poorly taken) pictures, so you can decide for yourself whether or not I've been lied to!

Face: https://imgur.com/a/ykiCkwQ

Body (Warning: Lewd): https://imgbox.com/g/fI9YOozvlP

Location: Central NJ. For practical reasons I'm currently open to dating and relocation within the US, but outside of it sadly complicates matters a lot. I'm not looking for a long distance relationship, so being able to get together in person is important.

Looking For: A mutually loving and caring relationship with a partner and best friend in one. I feel that what I'd like the most in life is to find someone very special to me, who I can love with all my heart and spend my life with. Not really looking for a "domme", but a real relationship with some gentle femdom/role reversal elements.

Traits I want in a partner: Kind, loving, trustworthy, understanding. Good sense of humor, emotionally intelligent, communicates well. I wouldn't ask for anything I don't freely give you.

Non-sexual interests: Many of my interests fall into the "nerd" category. Games (video and tabletop), anime, music, art, sci-fi and fantasy stuff of all varieties. I enjoy a lot of RPG's, and some of my favorite game series include kingdom hearts, fire emblem, dark souls, and a fair few others. Former high level league player who's currently retired.

Recently my friend got me into magic the gathering, although we've only been playing commander so far.

In general, I like to keep in shape, play games with friends, share music, watch tv/movies/anime (horror and psychological stuff especially), share memes, read, and do some amateur writing. I'm also rather intelligent/insightful, which I think you'll appreciate as you get to know me.

Personality: Generally cool headed, laid back, and kind. Introverted, but can be extroverted when I'm in my element and otherwise comfortable. Deceptively intelligent despite how incredibly basic my pictures look, but I also tend to be silly a lot so that's not easy to discern at first.

I’m also very reasonable, with a strong preference for peacefully resolving issues, so you can expect very little to no drama and good communication skills. One moral concept I'm quite fond is the law of equivalent exchange, so fairness and reciprocation is a big deal for me.

Fun facts: I have a deep and sexy voice which many people don't expect, and a great many people tell me I should get into radio or voice acting.

Sexual stuff

Are you fully sub or a switch?: Probably a strongly sub leaning switch. I find being the receiving (but reciprocal) partner to be uniquely fulfilling.

Are you just sexually sub or enjoy nonsexual aspects as well?: I enjoy both sexual and nonsexual aspects. I'm perfectly happy being your adoring subby boyfriend even in public, in case you're into PDA and flaunting that aspect of our relationship.

Sexual (and relationship) interests: I'm fairly new to a lot of things, so this isn't an exhaustive list. I'm very open minded and willing to try most things once, even if I think it wont work for me. I'm also more than happy to try and indulge your interests.

• Role reversal/gentle femdom are the big favorites! I really like having a partner that's assertive/aggressive/possessive in a romantic/sexual capacity. One who enjoys initiating intimacy and sex, and hugging/kissing/touching/groping me throughout the day for example.
• I'm perfectly happy with displays of affection and you taking the lead, whether that's holding me tightly in public and even being territorial, whispering in my ear that I belong to you and no one else, or you proposing to me and putting a ring on my finger. I'd be quite happy with the prospect of being a house husband who handles the home stuff, and I can also make you a sandwich from time to time!
• Pegging, prostate massaging, and penis/prostate milking. Although my experience is a bit limited, I'm intensely curious about it.
• Continuing on the possessive aspect, it's really very flattering for me to see someone desire me so much and be possessive over me. I'm very happy to show my devotion even to the point of wearing a collar for you. So if you're a semi-yandere girl who enjoys that kind of dynamic, I think you'll like me a lot. Just make sure to treat me well!
• Play wrestling/fighting. Having you win and pin me down while kissing me is just incredibly hot.
• Kissing/licking/biting (both giving and receiving) are massive favorites. Lipstick marks and hickeys all over my body are a huge turn on, and definitely makes me feel like I belong to you.
• Cuddling, being held, holding you, affection, spending time together. I love intimacy, and I'm extremely loyal and affectionate once I get attached to someone. You will be my favorite person ever and your happiness/enjoyment will always be as important as my own. I'll always be there to support you, and seeing that I made the difference for you is incredibly satisfying for me.
• Oh, and of course, the dirtiest, most vile, and disgusting fetish of all, >!handholding!<. I'm a sick bastard who tramples upon all that is good, I know.

Hard limits (non exhaustive): Scat, pee, blood, getting punched in the balls, cuckolding, chastity, permanent injuries, physical torture, cooking fish in the microwave…

Partner preferences: I'm a big fan of goth/alt/tomboy looks. Shortish hair is a very big plus, somewhere between pixie and neck length. Height difference (taller than me) is also a very big plus. But these aren't explicitly dealbreakers! As long as I find you attractive then it works for me.

Dealbreakers/Requirements: Similar interests are a requirement for me. Being able to enjoy my favorite things with my favorite person is something I dearly want in a relationship. I do have an unavoidable preference for body type that I unfortunately can't get past, being the thinner end of the spectrum when it comes to proportions/body fat. So slim/fit/muscular/lighter end of average. PLEASE DON'T BE A SOCIOPATH, OR ACT LIKE ONE.

I can't hide it any longer, I looooove being called a good boy. Like love love.

When people call me it ironically I have trouble not falling to my knees, when I listen to ASMR where a girl calls me a good boy over and over again I start twitching, tearing up, drooling and my leg wiggles wildly like a tail. I want to be cuddled, I want to be pet, I want to be completely controlled by you.

I can do tasks around your place! I can clean, empty the dish washer, massage you, listen to anything you want, cook any vegan meal, anything at all! All I want in return is being cuddled and made crazy with affection.

You can treat me as an equal human being or you can make me eat from a bowl on the ground and spit on me while I wear a leash and collar (both things that I have, as well as a dog tail and ears), I just want to get that sweet praise for doing something right!

It doesn't even have to be sexual, but for reference I never had sex before and I also never cuddled before, so any touch from you would probably send me to a different dimension.

About me, I am 22, white, very slim (I weigh 60kg), tall (185cm/6ish feet), blond; shoulder long; flowing hair, no glasses, have slight skin issues, go to the GYM from time to time, I like to draw and love videogames, movies, anime and all that stuff!!! And I promise that I am a stable, normal and nice person who goes to school and jobs normally. ^^

Please I want to make a girl happy, I want to be a good boy, I want cuddles and I want you to be proud of me!! :D

Hi! I’ve liked the idea of role reversal for a long time, but I’ve yet to experience much. So here we are 😊

This is not a dating personal or FWB bid, I’d like to start messaging someone here to see if we’d be a good fit as roommates.

Ideally we’d become friends and I’m open to our dynamic evolving, but I think it’d be more fun and less pressure to keep expectations relaxed.

I’m working a flexible remote data analyst job, so it should be simple for me to meal prep for two and keep the common areas clean while still paying my half of rent. If you’re skilled at basic maintenance, that’s a plus but probably not essential (can always call the landlord or something)

I do want to get better at food presentation and entertaining small groups with drinks and snacks, but not too much. I like people and serving, but being around strangers or too many at once drains me(introvert problems).

Downsides? I may do yoga in the common areas sometimes. I wanna do more art modeling gigs, and yoga flows help me with that. If we end up having chemistry and I’m attracted to your personality, i might get a little flirty(until I catch myself or you ask me not to)

I’m looking for a complementary roommate. Femboys, you’re great but not the energy I’m looking for in a roommate. Tomboys, butches, assertive women; I’ve been too intimidated by you for most of my life. Now I’m feeling a bit brave and want to connect. Should we start with a direct message?

Hello, I hope this ad is a bit different than others. Simply speaking, I love, adore, and worship Women. Nothing makes me happier than making sure the Woman in my life is happy. I truly mean that - I’m not like some of the "do-me" sissies who just want to prance around in heels for an hour and demand to be tied and teased. I desire to be useful, to make Your life easier by doing dishes, folding your laundry, brushing your hair, making your home spotless. Your pleasure is my greatest compliment.

But more than just being a domestic girl, I seek a true connection and eventual relationship. I realize it takes time to trust, but I'll work hard to earn that. Once established, I have a huge heart and wish to be your biggest supporter, your largest cheerleader, your confidant to share private thoughts with, and someone you'll genuinely look forward to coming home to. If you are done with male toxicity, maybe trying someone with more of a feminine side could be a great alternative.

If you’re in a friskier mood and want to tie me up and fill me with your snuggest plug, I’ll happily moan and squirm to your heart’s content. If you’ve had a long day and don’t have the energy to follow your maid around with a crop in hand, just give me a list of chores to do and I’ll quietly manage myself while you relax on the couch. Fantasy or routine, I'm grounded and flexible enough to do all and any in between.

When I’m not shopping online for that next little black dress, I live a pretty normal yet busy life. I have several jobs that keep me busy including being a landlord, assisting in real estate, and even teaching golf on the weekends to kids and adults. I love golfing, trying out "hole-in-the wall" restaurants, spend rainy days playing from some of my board games collection, taking in a movie (chick-flicks welcome!), or enjoy a quiet evening of wine and conversation. And it goes without saying, shopping is divine! I keep my professional and private life very separate and prefer to keep it that way.

What I seek:

I believe open and honest communication is the cornerstone to any relationship, so I too have needs and a few must haves I’m looking for in a Woman:

• I seek a Woman with relationship potential. Not that I'm wanting to get proposed to tomorrow, but I need a solid connection with someone that seeks an eventual female-led lifestyle.
• I need a Woman who respects boundaries, limits, and safewords. Feel free to push and expand my horizons, especially to help me become the best sissy girl that I can be for you, but not beyond what we have set hard limits for.
• No money. I’m not looking to be paid or to pay someone. See my solid connection desire above.
• Respect of separation of kink life and real life. We both have real lives and jobs and need to respect those that are not part of our private world.
• I'm not interested in multiple partners, nor have any attraction to males.

Skills and Service Examples:

Because every Woman is unique and may have a preferred way of doing things. I am quite flexible and will learn to tailor my skills perfectly to your needs. Here are some examples of skills/tasks that I will happily do to make your life more pleasurable:

• Household: cleaning the kitchen, rooms, whole house, doing dishes, household chores, vacuuming, dusting, taking out garbage and recycling, window washing, floors, moping, laundry, ironing, bed making, cooking (I'm a novice cook - being a bachelor, but I can generally follow a recipe and over time I can learn to bake/cook better), etc.
• Beauty: Helping to do Your makeup (I'm not very good yet with makeup, but very willing to learn), Hair brushing, Hair curling (happy to be trained), painting nails, shaving, bathing, dressing you, etc.
• Hosting (if with understanding company): preparing and service food/drinks, serving food/drinks serving appetizers, good listener and conversationalist (although you may find it amusing to develop some secret signals that might tell me to agree with You, step away from the conversation, or remain silent, etc.).
• Visiting others: Even though we are appropriately discreet about our lifestyle, you may find it amusing to require me to try very hard to put myself in a subservient position by offering to do the dishes after dinner or whatever chore that seems most helpful to the host, knowing that failure to do so may result in punishment at home.
• Being a maid/servant in public: Not necessarily in outward appearance, but doing all of the little things of appreciation flawlessly: doors opened, drinks carried, umbrellas unfurled. When leaving the house, You may prefer to not carry anything but Your stylish purse. Being your beast of burden, even to the point of inconvenience is something I'd perform with pride.

If you have made it this far and are interested in what I look like "dressed", you can go to Imgur and search for serenasissygirl.

I know this is a long read, but I wanted to show my sincerity with details. If I sound like someone who may be a good fit, please contact me and let's get to know each other. Even if I'm not a match, I hope you'll refer and send other Women my way. Thank you so much for your consideration and I hope to hear from you very soon!

Sincerely, Serena

Hello! I’m a kind, generous, playful and curious boy looking for a long term partner who is firm, thoughtful, kinky and assertive with a playful side.

I currently live in Edinburgh but I'm planning on moving to London or the South of England soon.

I have a fair amount of hobbies and interests including: painting, playing music, games, growing plants, cycling and more. I particularly love to explore nature, be it a wild beach or a forest where I can get lost and collect things. However I also love to get cosy in front of a good movie, game or whatever rubbish I am currently watching. I'm a bit of a film nerd and if you get me started it can be hard to shut me up. It would great if we shared a few similar interests, especially if you enjoy the outdoors or being active.

I’m slim/athletic, grey/blue eyes with brown hair. Here's a couple of pics of me one semi NSFW https://imgur.com/a/zhv2ZfR I'm 5'6 or 168cm but I don't mind how tall you are I like being small. If you're insecure I can wear some heels...

As I said I’m after a relationship and I want in person so ideally you live in the U.K. or Europe but I may be open to other places as finding my person has been hard as I find I don't fit into the traditional social norms. Location is a bit flexible as I'm looking for a new job as I recently left my last one but I'm having interviews in London so that is my desired location.

I am attracted to a wide range of appearances, what I’m mostly attracted to is someone who is confident and assertive but doesn't take things too seriously. I prefer someone at least around my age or older but am a bit flexible on this (25-45). I want a partner who will get competitive over a board game one moment and teasing me the next (I might tease you back). It’s important to me that we can have fun and laugh together, and be supportive of each other. I may be submissive but I’m a strong person who is very supportive of the people I care about. Oh and one last thing my politics are quite left wing so if you’re a bigot or anything like that it probably won’t work out sorry. I don't mind disagreeing on the little things but when it comes to big matters it's a problem.

As well as role reversal I'm also quite kinky and into a fair bit but the main ones are: bondage, spanking, lingerie, chastity/orgasm control and denial, pegging and teasing. I've not tried all of these yet but would like to explore. Something that really excites me is seeing the glee in my partners face when they do things to me. I don’t know what the word for that is though, maybe it can be classed as sadistic. I'm curious about a lot more such as tickling or pet play so feel free to ask me more if you’re comfortable. My limits are anything illegal, toilet play and blood.

I also have a few love languages, I love to give thoughtful gifts, unique compliments and acts of service like making food (although I rarely cook for other people as I worry they might not like it). Physical touch is another big favourite of mine so if you like to grope your partner then I'm in luck.

Thanks for reading, if you think we might be a good match then please send me a message, I’m easy to talk to and very reasonable, the only scary thing about me is how bad my jokes are. :)

Hello again!

It’s me, your local (600 miles is local these days, right?) nerd trying to put himself out there once more. If you dont feel like reading a tl, dr will be down below!

Who is this creature with an insatiable love for the dominant? Well, you’ve heard of golden retriever boys, but i’d call myself more of a Border Collie Boy! Always working hard, trying to keep things organized, and of course very obedient. :3c

-My hobbies are all over the place, ranging from anything game related (Physical and Digital), writing, chatting, reading, and going out in the world to see new things. Anything Horror related has me all over it!

-I am a demisexual, meaning I dont really have any sexual desires until I form a deeper bond with someone, and for the most part im on the monogamous side, not too sure about anything open!

-And of course gotta address the big kicker, being a furry. If youre not familiar with them, please dont assume the worst!

But enough about me, what about you?

-Pretty much im very open to most people! Looks aren’t worth much to me, I only care about the inner you! Nobody is perfect, and im no judge!

-I also highly value clear communication!! I never want to fight, upset, or have any problem left between us! I promise to be honest no matter what and respect any wishes/boundaries set!!!

Beyond that theres not much else! Im not great at writing these things but all I ask is for a chance!

(Telegram/Discord available since reddit dms are wonky for me!)

if you’re thinking “wow have i seen this post before?” yeah totally maybe. if you’re thinking “wow i’ve seen this before and i messaged her and she never replied” baby girl i got over 150 messages and got lost in the ocean of them. do not be afraid to message me again. and if you’re thinking, “damn she changed her location?” you’re also right. i’m uprooting my entire life in may of 2025 to move to dublin so yknow. starting early to connect i guess.

the loud girl in question

me: 25, part-time worker who hates her job, easily stressed, bisexual idiot (so big bonus if you’re also queer) i’m 5’10, chubby/midsize whatever you call it; but 1) big tits 2) i also kickbox biweekly so i can and will pick you up my style is pastel + cottagecore i dress to have fun and be a little silly. i do also enjoy wearing heels this is a warning. i have pet fish but love all animals and would love pets long term. i am absolutely 100% childfree this is a hill i will die on, if you have any potential lingering thought to wanting kids, i’m not the person for you sorry autistic with a capital A and adhd also unfortunately. the wires in my brain are definitely doing something my special interests are freshwater fish, the locked tomb saga, and the dishonored games (plus whatever random book i’m hyper-fixating on in the moment) i love video games (bg3 multiplayer let’s kiss together), books (mostly fiction), and tv shows. i rollerskate, kickbox, and walk my friends dogs i run warm and am willing to be a personal heater big fan of giving pet names. let me use excessive pet names

you: -re looking for more then just a quick session or platonic bdsm. i’m looking for romance and kink. not to be fucking lame or anything but i want to be loved and non-kink/non-rr relationships just have not worked for me at all are not insecure about your height. i do not care if you’re shorter then me (or taller or the same height) between 22-27 years old (willing to be a bit flexible on that for the right person ngl but obviously 18+) i really don’t care abt weight etc but i do consider aesthetic attraction important. i know it’s shallow or whatever but i’m not going to pretend it isn’t important. while i’m not asking for a face picture immediately (unless you’re comfortable, in which case, please do!), but a decent description at least pretty please i’m not technically giving priority to twinks, femboys, anyone who’s androgynous af, and bigger femme girls…. but the horny brain wants what it wants. i have a type. types i suppose love to yap and be yapped with. while i am currently in new zealand (eough), i really am just focused on looking for people ireland/uk (or europe idk fucking love a train) since i’m moving there in may(ish) of 2025. i’m happy to be online only for a length period of time (obviously) but i do genuinely want to meet in person. like i said, i’m looking for an actual relationship, not just to dom someone -ove a good joke but also okay with the fact i sometimes blue screen at jokes and need a second down to communicate problems because i can’t read a room

!!!!!nsfw!!!!! i’m definitely more of a giver then a taker. i enjoy my submissive’s pleasure, to have someone melting and writhing under my touch. whether that’s more chastity or constantly giving you orgasms is up to you. i want someone who genuinely wants to submit, not 24/7 brat. don’t get me wrong, i enjoy playfulness but i want to feel reciprocated. service subs and domestic subs get an extra special kiss on the nose for being my favourites. my hard limits are scat and blood. i’m either into or just neutrally for down for fun to most other kinks. love bondage, collaring, ropes, everything in that shade. let me decorate with ropes and cuffs i respect if pegging isn’t your thing and i’d never force it on anyone (obviously) but i love the strap. god didn’t give me an organic strap because i’d be too powerful. i’ve never done long-term domination with someone with romantically, but have four(?) years experience as a dom for platonic play partners aftercare is my best friend and it’s not optional. we eating m&m’s in bed.

best contact? reddit dms. if we hit it off, discord, and/or other platforms. one liner messages will be biffed into the bin.