So I grew up with an over-involved abusive mother and I see that in the radfem community that Women should live together in communities. Which is good and all, until I brought up my story on how I [and possibly many more women] might feel uncomfortable due to our past abuse. And they belittled me, laughing at my abuse and many more Women there said that maternal abuse is a result of patriarchy and that I should just forgive her. What are your thoughts on this? I'd like a description. Thanks ❤️ [This was on tumblr btw]

If you're from an under-developed or developing country you must constantly hear about the conditions of women in a developed country. "They've achieved gender equality! Women there don't have to fight for their rights or freedom as much as we do! They don't need feminism anymore!" This is probably the biggest fucking lie told to women of this generation.

If you're a woman from a first world country who thinks that your country is "one of the good ones" please stop lying to yourself and come back to reality. Your country is only developed in terms of technology, not progressive. If your country is truly equal for all we wouldn't have to see horrifying crimes committed against women and traditions harming women to this day from South Korea, Japan, Australia, France, Germany, Ireland, etc.

Misogynists love spreading a false narrative on how modern women don't need feminism anymore, just know that if you hear bullshit like this you're still far from achieving true equality. I'm tired of hearing how free women are in other nations because they can get a PhD or go to a beach wearing a two-piece. Literally talk to any random man about wanting more equality and he'll go "Why so women can parade naked on the streets?" That's what their minds go to because they don't fucking know what feminism is about.

(Most) Men all over the world share the same patriarchal mindset, just ask two men from two different continents about what they think of women and they'll repeat the same sexist rhetoric you hear everywhere. Men in developed countries are not more respecful of women because they see them as humans, but because they have extensive laws protecting women. Literally the one thing keeping these men from committing horrendous crimes is a fear of going to prison, not basic empathy or morality.

And it's so easy for a nation to fall back in progress. Just look at Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq, USA, and many more places which might soon meet this exact fate. I just want all women to embrace that angry feminist stereotype and keep preaching about equality and intersectionality, no matter how equal or progressive your country may be. Your silence gives these bigots more power to shift the narrative and paint you as the villain.

I’m so fed up with being disrespected by men the instant i don’t give it up easily or criticize their inherently sadistic values,like genuinely it feels like all they know how to do sometimes is insult you when they don’t get what they want. This has happened twice this past week and its filling me with such visceral rage because i genuinely cannot comprehend why so many men feel entitled to my body and kindness,one even went as far as talking about assaulting me when i voiced not wanting him. It’s so hard to not sink into severe misandry when i’m faced with male aggression anytime i turn one down. Like,do they genuinely think we’ll believe we are ugly putrid people just because they said it to us after we rejected them? I’ve even had plenty go as far as racism,making fun of me being a recovering addict,and threatening to challenge my future in college over being told no. Have men always acted this entitled or has anyone else noticed an increase in their sensitivity?

https://www.reddit.com/r/Staiy/s/FuOvjzysRL

https://www.ndr.de/fernsehen/sendungen/panorama/archiv/2024/Frauen-schlagen-als-Volksfest-Manuskript,panoramamanuskript158.html

The victims are traumatised and often badly injured. Victim blaming is huge and family betrayl their daughters and let the perpetrator into the houses when the woman flee.

There is the "Krampuslauf" in tirol and "Klaasom" on borkum and in the netherlands.

Im ashamed and i thought we life in a modern society.

I cant post that in the other Feminism sub but i want to make this public.

I am finding it harder and harder to “figure myself out”. I am 20 years old and feel so far behind all my girl friends because I have never been in a relationship and have only ever had brief moments of ‘romance’ with men. I cannot tell for the life of me if it’s because of how deeply feminist I am and how much it matters to me, if I am completely aro/ace, or if I’m just a lesbian. I really don’t feel like I’ve had any real crushes in my life let alone on women so that doesn’t feel totally accurate but I cant tell if it’s just because I am extremely heteronormative? Not sure if anyone else can relate to this and help me out. I just feel like every man I’ve tried with has disappointed me and I always feel anxious/needy and not myself when I am involved with a guy. I feel absolutely no desire to have a relationship with anyone (regardless of gender?) because I feel like it messes with my head and removes my individuality. At the same time, I yearn for love and to feel loved by someone at times. I feel like even if the perfect man could come along… relationships with men as a whole are kind of distracting? I just feel like a man will never truly understand me, however I also feel like a majority of women wouldn’t either? Maybe I am just aromantic, but it feels like a sad conclusion to come to. Thanks to anyone who reads this, sorry if I went on too long lol.

"Females crave absorbing, emotionally satisfying, meaningful activity, but lacking the opportunity or ability for this, they prefer to idle and waste away their time in ways of their own choosing -- sleeping, shopping, bowling, shooting pool, playing cards and other games, breeding, reading, walking around, daydreaming, eating, playing with themselves, popping pills, going to the movies, getting analyzed, traveling, raising dogs and cats, lolling about on the beach, swimming, watching TV, listening to music, decorating their houses, gardening, sewing, nightclubbing, dancing, visiting, `improving their minds' (taking courses), and absorbing `culture' (lectures, plays, concerts, `arty' movies). Therefore, many females would, even assuming complete economic equality between the sexes, prefer living with males or peddling their asses on the street, thus having most of their time for themselves, to spending many hours of their days doing boring, stultifying, non-creative work for someone else, functioning as less than animals, as machines, or, at best -- if able to get a `good' job -- co-managing the shitpile. What will liberate women, therefore, from male control is the total elimination of the money-work system, not the attainment of economic equality with men within it."

Valerie Solanas, SCUM Manifesto, https://www.2ra.co/uploads/2/6/8/6/26862532/scum_manifesto.pdf

heyy, I did this poster and thought it was kinda nice idea before I started working on it, now I think its dumb and also lowkey exploitative of the ppl I used the tiktoks from? I wanted to make it a lil uncanney valley but did them rlly dirty.. idk, Im curious what would yall think.

https://preview.redd.it/0in7jbjidh3e1.jpg?width=3508&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7b1d2f560fb7c9bb2258f3d1068029bc3e9d8d9c

So, today I was watching a little Yt shorts video, all is well. Until it’s not. They literally called a grown woman with a degree on archeology, who’s about to discover important historical evidence of cleopatra in Egypt, a “girl archeologist” and I’m so so so so sick of it. It seems like it appears everywhere. As if women can’t get past the “girl” stage. As if “male archeologist” was the default and she needs to be different and segregated in the English language with the word girl. And the way it sounded too, it was extremely gross, like, “girl archeologist” sounds like a little playtime for a child, as if not even after a hard degree and studying in Egypt, she still doesn’t deserve respect. And I’m so done with this being in my life.

Okay, rant over.

It's infuriating how little men care about others around them. This is just one dude amongst millions of others who votes for a candidate based on how funny or meme-able they are, than their values and credentials.

I also don't understand how a man in his 20s feels isolated or confused in this political landscape. With the technology we have today you can literally know everything about the candidate you're voting for.

And even if you're confused, why the fuck would you vote for a convicted felon who has probably SA'ed more than a 100 women than ANYONE else in the race..

Hey gals, I’ve been looking for a good book that sums up ethical and political arguments against marriage for women for a long time, but with no luck. All I find is empirical evidence like women getting left by their husbands at higher rates when sick, etc etc but no sound theoretical basis to criticize it effectively like beauty and misogyny by Sheila Jeffrey’s is for well beauty culture. Suggestions welcome!!

What are some of the ways feminism shows up in your life? What feminist practices are you committed to? What influencers/websites/media outlets do you follow?

hi! idk what is my point in this post, maybe i need to vent since i have no one to share this sadness with. i have friends etc but they’re not radfems and i think i am. i truly think women should be more radical with their values as the femicides, s*xual assaults, the global womens rights violation keeps just rising & rising. i think the least women can do is to totally decenter men in their life.

however, i find this difficult. i feel like i’ve lived my whole life through mirroring myself from the male gaze. i have lived for male attention. i think this is because i don’t have a relationship with my father and that have truly hurt my heart. i’ve seeked male attention (mostly from older guys) my whole life and when i found out i’m a lesbian, it made me feel disgusting and lonely.

i feel uncomfortable in my sexuality because i feel like i’m a walking p*rn category. thanks to men who jerk off to our bodies. i feel uncomfortable when my besties defend so wholeheartedly men and i can’t say what i truly think about them. i feel uncomfortable when i think about the disgusting fact that i don’t feel myself beautiful anymore now when i’ve realized i’m gay & i want to decenter men. i feel uncomfortable when i have to talk about my sexuality – thanks to men. in addition, i feel uncomfortable when some of my friends value men’s attention very much and they wish they had boyfriends. i know this sounds dumb and i don’t mean it, but when it gets too hard i sometimes wish i could be an unconscious straight girl. that happens only when i’m having those moments when i feel lonely in my stigmatized identitety and in my radfem values.

on the other hand, i struggle with my values. i feel bad because i want to be a teacher and i work in schools while studying in uni to be a teacher. can i feel this way about men even though i feel empathy towards the kids regardless of their gender or sex? i want them to have a good future and success, especially the girls!!!!!, but sometimes i find myself from the edge of truth: i can’t safe girls and women from patriarchy. they’re not safe or free and that truly shatters my heart. i feel so bad.

i’m glad i have my strong values, but it's hard to live in a world that's against them and the change isn’t happening. 💔 how do you cope?

Hello everyone nice to meet you it feels great to be in a woman space.

I'd like to share my story with you a little bit and get a few things out of my chest. Like every feminist ... well not necessarily every one of us but most, I went through a phase were I was a liberal feminist in my teenage year. I was 14 at the time, I thought that feminism was about choice, it was very surface level. I had no critical thinking, I accepted all those patriarchal ideas. I thought we could reform them, I thought as women if we owned them then it would give us a sense of power. Needless to say it was all an illusion, I created a prison for myself and for other women too that just ended up constraining me and us even more than we already are in this male centered society.

When I turned 15 that was probably the first time that I've seen and read articles about radical feminism. It was a completely new concept for me. During that time, I was also teaching myself about political literacy so i focused on that mainly. Up until I was 20 I was still educating myself. I was still learning towards liberal feminism not because I even agreed at this point but because I had Rose Colored Glasses on. I wanted to see the world in a way that it wasn't, I wanted to see womanhood in a way that it wasn't either. I saw feminism as acceptation more than a radical liberation.

Fast forward to being 20 years old, I met a man that I broke up with 2 days ago and that I hope nothing but bad things happen to. For 3 years we dated, i was grateful it was only online, he was an alcoholic verbally abusive man. Even though I stayed in that relationship for a long time I never trusted men I never liked men even before I made a switch from Liberal feminism to radical feminism I always thought they were leeches but I was at a weak time in my life and i was seeking and yearning. In a way, I was still craving the love of a man because of the fact that the first experiences I had was of abuse ... physical abuse at the end of men and my own father and sexual abuse as in groping and creepy stalking (it never went all the way to rape) .

When I was 14 my mother passed away she had cancer and she was getting better but my dad was really abusive towards her as well and he pushed her button too much one day punching her in her stomach she went to the hospital and had internal bleeding and ended up passing away, i should've taken that example in my life about how wicked men are and i did but i was being hypocritical because i was still seeking that love.

Let's go back to this man when I met him . .. still to this day I've never kissed any man, I am a virgin, I never held the end of a man. Not because of stupid purity reasons but because of disgust, i was always disgusted by man which was a weird parallel to now being with one. Putting the sexual abuse aside that I told you about I never participated in any kind of sexual or romantic relationship with any men so it was new to me. That was going to be used against me in our relationship, all throughout the relationship. I realized that my lack of experience was fetishized, it was sexualized. My so called boyfriend introduced me to naughty calls and he will ask me to degrade myself to choke myself on camera to shove my fingers down my throat because he wanted to hear me struggle to breathe. I learned after years of being together that prior to us being together he had a p*** addiction and it all made sense. He never showed his true colors from the beginning but the fact that he was a man should've been enough but the more I was getting attached the more he would use any and everything against me : my lack of experience, my sexual abuse, my relationship with my father. I realized even more that I was with a raging racist misogynist person (i am black and he's white) I felt stuck with him but the disgust that I had kept bubbling up. I saw the 4b movement online, I read everything about it. I educated myself more than I ever did about radical feminism I read and read and read and I broke up with him.

I sensed a relief. Those past few days he's been trying to guilt trip me. He's blocked everywhere but I forgot to block him on my Gmai,l he sent me a picture of him with a rope around his neck, telling me that he's going to end it, telling me that he cannot do it without me and that if I leave he's going to do it and that it will be my fault. I couldn't care less and I still don't care for a man to use suicide as a manipulation technique against me. This is all to say that I learned a lot. I am in indeed a radical feminist and I'm seeking for a sisterhood more than I ever before. As woman we are conditioned to think that we are not allowed to be angry, only a man can feel angry and when we are ? we are crazy, we are deranged. An affirmation that is ironic because when men are angry they rape, they kill, they abuse, they use violence in any and every kind of way against women and I am so angry I am fuming. I am taking that anger back as a powerful tool instead of ever letting myself feel shame for a man ever again.

I may have a lot to unlearn still but i am unlearning and learning at the same time.

Hey! I made a video unpacking how Christianity functions as the sanctification of patriarchal social roles and the worship of supremacy.  It’s not just Christianity - it’s all of the major religions because they’ve erased women from worship and the concept of God, but as an American I know Christianity best so I focused there.

Below is recap of basic points and the link is below if anyone is interested in checking it out:

https://youtu.be/0x43vKUURQA?si=SrVqTtBAIR2qm6z0

Specifically, I look at how Christian culture conditions women to view the highest expression of femininity as a performance of codependent martyrdom where sacrificing self produces salvation for men to consume.  It teaches women that self sacrifice is the only path for their own salvation as well and encourages the culture of male narcissism where they expect to dominate and extract from women as the core expression of masculinity.

Christian narratives around marriage are about enforcing male narcissistic exploitation as the standard of partnership.  And that’s patriarchy in a nut shell, right?  I’m always ranting about how patriarchy is the system of male private for profit ownership of women and the culture of male narcissism.  Christianity seems more devoted to upholding that dynamic than actually focusing on spiritual development - as a political entity at least.  

I’m exploring how Christian culture instills the expectation that two become one through marriage.  That ends up looking like the man subsuming the woman as an appendage and means of production within his own concept of self.

The woman is no longer an independent person, she is not separate from his sense of self but subjugated as function under his dominion.  She becomes a FUNCTION of his desires and needs.  As a FUNCTION and not a person, she loses all rights to dissent or demand recourse for violations against her.

Complementarianism is used to uphold and sanctify this narcissistic codependent standards of relationships as the ideal marriage dynamic.  It works because it dovetails with the whole Christian view on salvation at large.

Christianity teaches that salvation is not individually created or embodied, but is received from the martyrdom and crucifixion of another (Jesus willingly sacrificing to save humanity - people receive salvation externally by accepting his sacrifice in their hearts and are then saved, the emphasis isn’t on individual cultivation of salvation if that makes sense).

This idea is extended to sanctify traditional gender roles in service of male supremacy where women are subsumed by a man as the machinery of his life, becoming the sole infrastructure for generating needs and family for that man to consume without participation, compensation, or reciprocity.

I look at how the church relies on conditioning women to act as the shock absorbers for male dysfunction through doctrines like Be His Peace (AKA do whatever is required to regulate that man so his dysfunction does not become a problem the community must directly confront).  

Ultimately, I conclude that the purpose of Christian belief is manufacturing and policing the performance of patriarchal social roles.

Christian culture largely functions to condition people into fearing creation and those who intentionally create their own lives and identity authentically, outside of the narrow performance of traditional gender role assignments.  

I’d love to hear any feedback or opinions on these ideas - the link to the YT is below, if you want to check out the full scope of argument beyond these basic points.  THANKS FOR READING THIS! I don't have anyone IRL to talk about this stuff with and super appreciate this community space <3

https://youtu.be/0x43vKUURQA?si=SrVqTtBAIR2qm6z0

The comments were ridiculous. I actually can’t believe I was banned for that. And even if you don’t feel that way, we ban feminists for being a bit more radical? What’s up with that. Anyway just a rant.

I'm new on this sub, liberal feminist in the past, and probably radical feminist in the future.

I had some interactions with men in the last month that made me question if I ever want to talk to another man, let alone anything else. Stalked by unknown man, being recorded in a changing room, etc. Seems like anything I do, there's a man to shit on it. I'm not only tired of those "bad" men, but also of "good" men that choose to pretend that those are just "isolated incidents".

I want to remove men from my life as much as possible. But I have a long-term relationship that is going okay, and I don't really have a reason to break it off. There was a conversation between him and me that really suprised me.

HIM (commenting on an older woman he saw): "She is my cousin's wife. Immediately after the wedding, she got fat and cut her hair short." ME: "Okay, and?". HIM: "She just waited to trap him, and then became ugly on purpose". I couldn't believe what I was hearing, he sounded so... vicious. A few days after I asked him what would have happened if I cut my hair short, and he said that he would be mad that I cut my hair without consulting him first. WTF?

I thought that he was the crazy one, but I stumbled upon a reddit post with man claiming he would be mad if his girlfriend cut her hair short, and all agreed with him! I was stunned by the overwhelming support he got from others. It's so normalized for men to believe they have a say in our physical choices? How is this considered acceptable? Is that amount of control normal in relationships? Even when I was a child, I had a complete control of how long or short I wanted my hair to be, it went without saying. So what's this with (most!) men thinking grown up woman should have less of a bodily autonomy than a small child?

After this relationship, I’m seriously questioning if I ever want to date men again. How anyone can think it is okay to be mad over something so insignificant?

I'm perplexed.

Hi ladies!

I’m looking for the quintessential books on female/lesbian separatism and supremacy, similar to SCUM Manifesto by Valerie Solonas.

Also looking for recommendations for books on radical feminism (radfem) and the lesbian identity. Can be theory, biography, or poetry, just no fiction please.

I’ve already read everything by Rachilde and Renee Vivien.

Thank you!!!

why men assume we have daddy issues when we point out their crappy behavior? joke is on them i have a good relationship with my father and my parents are married. is this their stupid way of not feeling accountable for their actions as usual?

Would you guys consider wearing jewellery to be anti-feminist in the way that other things that prop up beauty standards (makeup, shaving, high heels, etc) are? For me it’s a bit of a grey area; id say that some types of jewellery (watches, piercings, etc) are somewhere between neutral or even positively feminist (like the so called “man repellent” septum piercing), whereas jewellery that has a more traditional beautifying “function” is less clear.

On the one hand, I wouldn’t say it’s harmful to women in the ways that confirming with beauty standards definitely are and you don’t get the same pushback from male society for not wearing jewellery as you would for not shaving or wearing makeup. But on the other hand, it serves no really purpose other than making you look “prettier” so I’m torn as to whether or not it’s anti-feminist. Opinions?

Note: I’m not talking about culturally significant jewellery, just about jewellery that is worn purely for ornamental value.

Im just so tired. Im exhausted from feeling like i HAVE to be “pretty”. Today i woke up and my face seems to have some sort of skin problem on my face and when i went grocery shopping i felt so ugly. I saw how people looked at me. I know that everyone is beautiful and it’s whats on the inside that ACTUALLY matters but i don’t know why i feel so pressured to put on makeup and always be “pretty”. I know that being “pretty” isn’t the rent I mistakenly pay to exist and yet my heart aches when i see people avoid me today. I hate it because I’m just so tired. I wish that the concept of being “pretty” never existed. I hate seeing my friends cry because they don’t feel pretty because they feel they have to.

I am cautiously optimistic. Yes there will be sex. There was a gratuitous sex scene in the first episode. But they actually said "sisterhood above all", and I gotta say it made me really really happy. It is about materially empowering women. Evidently the first schism in the bene gesserit was about whether material empowerment or just "the good of the universe" was their goal. And they chose material empowerment of the sisterhood! I like it, ngl.

Alright, let me just lay this out and leave it here: look at how the cycle keeps repeating itself, over and over. It’s almost laughable how predictable it is.

We created the “Bear vs. Man” concept, a symbol of resilience and challenge. Suddenly, out of nowhere, “Woman vs. Tiger” pops up. Like, seriously? They couldn’t even wait a second to remix it and center themselves.

The #womeninmalefields, it’s just a funny little joke. But then, right on cue: “Men in female fields” becomes a thing. Sassy much?

Then there’s that amazing trend, “What I would wear if men didn’t exist.” It’s empowering, fun, and a little cheeky, highlighting how societal expectations shape even the smallest details of women’s lives. But, of course, here comes the edgy counterpart: “What I would wear if females didn’t exist.” Alright, edge lord, go off, I guess. What’s next?

Let’s talk about the “I hate my boyfriend” trend, absolute gold by the way. It’s humorous, relatable, and cathartic. But no, they couldn’t leave it alone. Suddenly, “I hate my girlfriend” trends start popping up, trying to co-opt the energy. And yet, we’re the “emotional” ones? Sure!

And don’t even get me started on Female Rage. It’s raw, it’s real. But before you can blink, Male Rage shows up, as if men haven’t had centuries to channel their anger into everything from wars to laws to Twitter arguments. Childish is an understatement.

It’s like they can’t stand not being the center of attention for five minutes. It’s not just mimicry, it’s a refusal to let women own anything without reshaping it to fit their narrative. The cycle is exhausting, predictable, and honestly, a little embarrassing at this point. They won’t let women have anything and that’s the same reason they invented this god of theirs, they cannot stand that women are the ones that make the babies.