Greetings! I'm so confused with my life atm. I'm an a levels student about to give my cies. Last year i applied to a Uni in Canada(McGill) and got accepted with a partial scholarship and a coop acceptance i thought my life was going good and that was what i thought i was gonna do after my cies however recently my family's financial situation detoriated as my parents put my sister in a private med school which is very costly and now i they have nothing for my visa application. Even though i would not have financial problems to study in canada as the coop pays well and the scholarship would cover half my tuition but my family doesn't have anything for my visa processes. I'm so confused on what to do now as i didn't apply to any other unis in Pakistan.. I'm a business student and there's no good business school in lahore except lums(too costly) and all deadlines have also passed...i need advice on what to do now . I want to move abroad and had the perfect thing but its all ruined and i have no backup plan ...

For context, my best friend and I have known each other well over 14 years now, and it is only now that I am re-evaluating our friendship, just how much weight and meaning it actually holds to her.

We are very well acquainted with each other's families and all that jazz.

Some time ago, I recently went through a major heartbreak that left me shattered for a good while. I had no idea what to do or feel, so naturally, I reached out to her and expressed my pain, she replied, was supportive and tried to calm me down, that went on for two days with her occasionally texting to make sure I was doing well. It's been well over a month now, and she hasn't reached out to me again, hasn't even asked me how I am doing, knowing full well that I was in a lot of pain when this happened. She made no plans to see me either, like best friends should.

It got me thinking if she really cared about me like I thought she did. Just last year, my father had a heart attack and apart from just one single message, she expressed nothing, didn't even offer to visit me in the hospital when I clearly expressed that it would bring me immense comfort.

I can't help, but think that when her family experienced a similar tragedy, not only did I go to her house immediately to console her (I didn't even have a car, but still managed), but my family also helped them the best they could, including my father.

I know friendships aren't a transaction, but this feels weird, it feels like I am the only one trying here, perhaps she is too, but not the way a best friend should.

Am I overthinking this?

So this is like a followup to my last post. I got 60% in Fsc and this year I will apply in unis. Art unis to be precise. But the feeling of failing j because of these marks and fear of not getting in a uni is eating me from the inside. I have plans to move out of Pak after my Bs but I’ve been thinking a lot and the thought of not achieving that is really frightening. Has anyone been in the similar boat? Or any advice someone ca throw at me?

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So one of my friend who is a profound putwari has been staunch supporter of N leak and i sometimes asked him what good has N leak done for Pakistan? He couldn't answer much, couldn't defend his claims even factually even though at the time 90% of media is under pdm/establishment control.

I just realized that he likes to be a tool, a good boy of local mna Rana Ali Abbass (from Faisalabad). He visits gatherings done by the mpa, he and he friends gather up people to go to Ali Abbass' Jalsas and other gathering. Not that he knew or respected that person before these previous elections this is a relationship called hm apky "tatty" uthayen gy.

He defends Ali Abbass without knowing or telling any of his accolades or achievements. He would say Ali Abbass is a great man he's done this and done that where he hasn't done anything good while being mpa in previous tenure.

These people like tc and they want others to be like them aswell. These brainwashed people don't even care for their own rights let alone care for the country, uthaying is their profession and they make links with high class people using this 😂. Isi liye kehty hain ky par likh jao nahi toh kl ko mna mpa ky sath pictures lgao gy aur kho gy spent time with greatness.

This tree near my house is nested by a kite pair(cheel) and most probably have laid eggs. Now when ever i go up for some GODDI they attack me and no other person not even my mother.. just me ... what can i do . Not going up there is not a chance .. should i wait for the hatching period. Or what ? Expert suggestions required.

AOA everyone, I graduated recently from NUST with a 3.5 CGPA. I plan to study masters in Europe, most likely in France or Germany. I have done all the necessary attestations, paperwork, etc. But I don't have enough funds to show them on my bank statement, as most of these countries require a bank statement of at least Pkr 4M+. Is there a jugaar available for it in the market? i.e., if somebody can make me a good bank statement in exchange for a fraction of that money. I am not opting for scholarships due to the high level of competition, and all the restrictions that come with them. Help this poor lad :)
Jazakallah.

Yaad hai jab Imran Khan ko hattaya gaya tab Pakistan ki ek aakhri installment baaki reh gayi thi loan ki. IMF ne Pakistan ko $3 billion dene ka kaha tha jiss mei se $1.9 billion ussi waqt de diye thay aur ek akhri installment of $1.1 billion baaki thi.

Jab PDM ki govt aayi toh they tried hard. Lekn unki govt mei unko ye last installment nahi mili. Bht saaray policy changes hue, IMF k reviews hue, lekn dairh do saal ki mehnat k bawajood kuch naa hua.

Then came interim govt, wo bhi kuch na kr saki. Ab, aaj finally, IMF has approved the last installment of $1.1 billion tranche.

Khush hona chahye ya nahi?!

بندر کے ہاتھ میں ماچس

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If any expert from the field can answer. How to get into this field if having an introvert nature. What do you do daily. Like daily tasks. How much can you earn. Can you work remotely for companies outside of pakistan. For US, Canada, or any first world country.

Every wedding video I watch, the comments have multiple people annoyed with the lack of hijab.

Every time I see a female news anchor, the comments again have multiple people targeting her for lack of hijab.

Every time I go on Instagram of female journalists, athletes, academics etc, the comments again have people harrassing them for lack of hijab.

Everytime I watch on Youtube about Pakistani female footballers, cricket players, field hockey players etc, the comments are obsessed about them not wearing hijab.

Even when I visit videos or profiles of Turkish females who are athletes, journalists, and anchors, you again have Pakistanis attacking them for their clothing.

Like I don't get it. Why does Islam in Pakistan revolve around what women wear? It is especially the men. Like if they are such good Muslims, why are they watching women in the first place? Why are they on such videos and profiles of women in the first place? Why do they feel the need to lecture women who are not in any way related to them?

I mean even Javed Ghamidi's organization Al Mawrid, probably the most sane minded Islamic institution in Pakistan, has said the command for hijab is not present in the Quran or Hadith. So even when we have popular Islamic personalities saying this, the nation continues to obsess about the clothing of women.

I feel like this odd obsession just keeps getting worse. My grandparents and much of their friend base seems more open minded about the clothing of women than these newer generation Pakistanis. And they grew up in the 60's and 70's. And they aren't "liberal" either, they are as traditional as it gets. So what exactly is fueling it?

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To to be fair, it is not just men. It is also the self righteous women who also harass non-hijab women.

People who got 60% in Fsc, what are you doing rn and do you have any regrets?

https://www.yahoo.com/news/german-interior-minister-hamburg-islamist-152904352.html

If you ever go to an engineering university such as NUST or UET you will find students wearing hijab, dupatta, shalwar kameez and some wear niqab too while male students are also found mostly having beards and some wearing shalwar kameez. A similar situation is found in medical universities but if you go a arts/business university such as LUMS/IBA/BNU the students there wear very fashionable clothes such as sleeveless, tights, phati hui jeans, full on makeup and male students in shorts etc.

Assalamualaikum,

I left Pakistan at a young age (its been a few years & going back to University for my doctorate by God's grace).

I am unsure if anyone else feels this way but I just wanted to say that as an overseas Pakistani I have never really been able to enjoy myself (though I tried very hard). I recall others noticing this about me when I first arrived. My relatives in the US would notice my face at parties & ask what was up. I realized that I felt fortunate to be in the midst of white, wealthy, educated, loving people & in a developed country but I had also seen what people go through in Pakistan & I wished to see Pakistan & the whole world so blessed, prosperous etc. When I was 17 I was thinking about how I was at a lovely party while my loved ones (including any of you) were overseas suffering through heat, humidity, the disease carrying fauna, the infrastructure issues, the cultural & religious issues & ofcourse the nice oriental neighbors etc.

I tried very hard & nearly every white friend (&relatives) has asked me to look out for myself first (& to attend to my own oxygen mask first before trying to help others) but I am unsure if I even know how to do that. There came a point when I cut off all contact & tried to lose myself amongst the white, wealthy, educated, Christians & Jews & I realized how immune I had become to the sorrow of being a Pakistani & a Muslim. Growing up among Pakistanis & Muslims I would cry every Juma (for our sins), cry every 14th August watching Rashid Minhas Shaheed & Major Aziz Bhatti Shahid, cry over the persecution of Muslims in India & Kashmir & the Levant & Balkans (Bosnia, Albania) in the daily newspapers, mourn the suffering of the cleansing of the Muslims of Amritsar , pine for love & a girlfriend & yearn for the day when I would conclude my life sacrificing it like the Sahaba & the Shuhada. It is strange that sacrificing my life for the faith (like my Dad & Uncles & male relatives) was a goal. I am still afraid of & curious about the fascination of 1-2-many in the West with "living" & "dining out" & "love" & "dating" (although as I said I tried it & I am grateful that these generous white Christian peoples have permitted me to go dining out, dating & "making love" to their fair & comely & healthy folk etc.).

As I said the way I felt growing up, I thought it was normal & that I had a very happy childhood (because I did not know any other childhood). Though I observed some European/ Expat Pakistanis I did not know what it was like to be in their skin, didn't know that they were maybe slightly doing a better job of leading a happier & certainly virtuously life.

Unsure if anyone else can relate.

I read of a people who were in pain all the time except they think it is normal & everyone else thinks that they are leading normal lives (but they are actually in constant pain & have simply become immune to it & don't even know that they are in pain because they don't know what it is like to live any other way). May God forgive us our sins. I do not think anyone deserves to live so. Either people should have equality & the best quality of life & a holy spirit & a holy environment or else they should be with the Lord God Almighty (Allah SWT) but not have so much inequity & suffering & make so many mistakes.

So I hope someone's prayers when we say: رَبَّنَا آتِنَا فِىْ الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِىْ الآخِرَةِ حَسَنَة (our lord give us the best in this world & in the hereafter) comes true. After all we pray for THE best in this life & in the hereafter every day atleast 20 times a day.

So following are some action items which we can act upon to bring about a more developed, Europeanized/ Westernized Pakistan:

1. alter the climate to have it resemble the climate in Switzerland & Italy (which is temperate but not too hot nor humid).

2. actively plan out development & cities ensuring every block has gardens , fountains, flowers, streams, libraries, cafes, gyms

3. ensure everyone becomes ever-healthy, ever-white, ever-wealthy, educated, ever-free, ever-prosperous, ever-young

4. remove all harmful flora & fauna from the lands

5. introduce a faith & religion which is based on the correct ideas within the religion of Abraham (Judaism, Christianity, Islam) but which does not require so many rituals (5 times prayers & reciting a holy book you don't know the meaning of) and greater stress on living - or worship of Allah SWT by the act of living : swimming in clear waters, skiing, boating, dining out, dancing, watching the opera/wholesome movies/ symphonies/ theaters, smelling flowers etc.

6. replace multi-generational dwellings with lifestyles favoring couples & single friends (as in the show Friends, where singles & couples live on their own & go out dining & dating & enjoying the cultural elements of life)

7. ensure every person before they are born have a lifetime supply of foods, clothing, transportation, housing (at prime locations), resources for a quality life set aside for them (in order to regulate population management we need to install a system where the best aesthetes & Prophets may pick what genotype & phenotype is suitable for & needed for our society with a stress on health, beauty & a peoples conducive to acts of love)