So far I’m trying to keep myself busy as possible. Reading the Bible playing video games. And watching a Christmas movie. I had a few ridges here and there, but I take a deep breath, close my eyes, and tell God . “Lord forgive me and make my heart pure.”🙏🏼✝️☺️

I was making good nofap progress and now, I have no self control

Pray for me!

I am in a big rut I just can't seem to progress through this so what happened was I started nofap about 3-4 years ago never been able to maintain a streak or some shit got to 1-2 times a week fapping and it kind of stabilized but this year in july I promised myself to go all in and never do it again. Well it lasted for about 50 days or so. Well I got a girlfriend when I was about 20 days inn. And I thought I've won but yess I fall back into it first it started by like doing it 2-3 a week but now for the past 40 days or so I am fapping 5 times a day never did it so much in my life. And today I did it 10 times last one being 2 mins ago I feel weak and u motivated to do anything even sleep is fked up. One thing I wanna mention is that 3 months ago my relationship with my gf became long distance and it's my first ever relationship so yeah sometimes I even chat with her even remotely sexually like just about kissing or something I get hard and do it without watching porn just imagining doing it with her and other times I do watch porn and I've gone crazy from last week watching hentai child porn which is horrible I feel like a lost man I don't who what to do at this point I'm lost I'm 18 how am I gonna achieve anything with this horrible habit!

And like everybody it's not just that it's junk food eating sugary stuff energy drinks chips burgers and what not I've gotten poor because all of these habits I've even stopping going to the gym for the past 2 months Nov and Dec pls help anybody!

Hey everyone! I wanted to post here about some success that I have had, as well as tips on how I got here (three months literally feels like a dream, I couldn't have imagined this even a year ago)(also, female in my 20s)

A bit of backstory (totally skippable): I was exposed to erotic stories (smut, written porn, whatever you want to call it) at 12, and it's been a losing battle ever since then. COVID made it worse, bc I was just alone all day, every day, I discovered masturbation, and it got worse. Nothing I tried to do helped, nothing I read, prayed for - nothing. It was rough.

What helped:

1. CR. I started going to celebrate recovery. It was so, so scary, but I have never met better Christians in all my life. I ended up moving away (for financial reasons) from that group, but if you have a local group, definitely give them a go!

2. Phone protections. So this wasn't an airtight solution, but putting child locks on my phone, site blocks (I eventually switched to a flip phone and now I'm back on a smartphone, but without internet access) helped immensely. It would slow me down enough that my mind could catch up to what I was doing, and I could pray.

3. Versify. It's a verse memorizing app, and it really helped to have scripture there, ready to go.

4. This is the biggest one, honestly. 90 days to wholeness by crystal Renaud day (I got mine on amazon) was a life changer. It really, really was.

5. misc. I've told friends and family, and the support has been really helpful.

So yeah! I hope these help! We're not lost causes, folks. Romans 8:1. God has got this! If anyone has any questions / comments, I'm happy to answer.

Has any one of you ever listened to a sexual ASMR video?

Hey everyone, I'm new here.

Today I have committed to be day one of not watching porn. Although I'll be honest I am hesitant to not fap (without watching porn).

Porn has had a negative influence on my life and I am sick of depending on it for "stress" relief and to "alleviate" my sexual frustrations. (I know in reality porn only makes these things worse.)

Is it sinful to fap but without watching porn? Where in the Bible does it say that fapping in general is sinful?

How can I ask God to help me stop these sinful actions?

Thanks so much in advance for your advice.

I feel like it again and don't want to fall into a vicious cycle Yesterday I had a relapse after a few days, my brain drowned in dopamine through gooning and I felt amazing. After the relapse I didn't feel bad ,I didn't feel remorseful or disgusted. Why? I have always felt this way and today my brain feels like doing it again

1. Don’t count the number of days since you last relapsed.
   1. This will only reinforce it in your head the last time you masturbated, thus potentially leading you to masturbate again.
2. Don’t ask God for forgiveness before masturbating.
   1. It doesn’t work that way. You must repent from masturbation period. Not ask God for future opportunities to masturbate.
3. Don’t be prideful (don’t say you won’t do it again).
   1. This will lead you to relapse again. Tired of relapsing? Quit being prideful about it.

After sunday I realized I needed to stop, i've had urges but haven't felt like acting on them that much.

I thank the Lord every day for helping me get this far and I pray he continues to help walk me down this path of peace. Praise the Lord!

Today is the start of day 3 and I’m really struggling. This is the longest I have gone without touching myself. I’m addicted to porn and pleasuring myself and I’m a virgin. So just have porn to draw from. Didn’t sleep so well last night. This is when I have the most urges to touch myself. I finished my finals this semester and now am bored and alone. Would love an accountability partner or someone to talk to or any advice.

Basically I'm just looking for a friend so when can help each other and maybe escape this hellish addiction I just need someone I can go through this with

Hey all,

I'm reaching out for support and guidance. I've been struggling with porn addiction for a while now, and I've recently made an effort to stay away from it.

However, I've noticed a disturbing trend - when I'm not consuming porn, I feel disconnected from my wife and don't care about her feelings or needs. All I can think about is how she’s not motivated, makes un wise decisions, etc.

But here's the thing - when she notices my distance and confronts me about it, I suddenly become overly affectionate and attentive. She knows it fake, though, like I'm just putting on a show to appease her. I'm struggling with feelings of guilt and shame, knowing that my actions are driven by a desire to avoid conflict rather than a genuine desire to connect with my wife.

I'm also dealing with anxiety and fear, which are driving my behaviors. I'm constantly worried about my wife's health, and I feel like I need to control everything to keep her safe. I’ve told her to turn down jobs, opportunities just because I didn’t feel like it’s right. Not in a demanding way but a more persuasive way. Still, I know it’s controlling and pulling her away.

All this puts me in a 24/7 mess. Married for over 10 years and lately I’m either in constant fear and anxiety, anger or loneliness that stems from me being too attached and controlling.

I’ve only started getting serious about quitting about a month ago so I’m sure these are the withdrawals and things that come with it but anyone else going through or been through this?

I feel like I’m trapping her with my insecurities but then not sure if I want her or just want comfort. I do love her but just wish the negative feelings go away. She doesn’t deserve this.

Turn my eyes away from worthless things; preserve my life according to your word. Psalm 119:37

Let us be like King David who asked God to turn away his eyes from worthless things.

Let us turn our eyes away from worldly pleasures, even if its hard its not impossible Christ will help us .

im so confused

hey everyone i have a complex deal so bare with me this isnt just nofap stuff but wasnt sure where to go tbh. never talked ab this b4 but i found my paps porn stash when i was five and it kinda went from there. it kinda rlly bad thru middle and high school yk just getting more extreme tho ive had moments where i would chill out but recently its taken over my life. im nit a virgin but wish i was cause i felt empty every-time and i just got out of a relationship where sex was a big issue like i rlly didnt want to do it alot of the time. with that being said its been a tough past year my grandma passed and had a odd breakup and i suppress it but i dont rlly know how to deal with it like sum its hard for me to look at my gma photos type thing and and thats not an excuse but ive just been going crazy. we got some money after that and i told myself id never do this but i found out what online chats were and how easy it was to do and ended up losing so much money from it and even worse its truthfully led me to pay for ppl to do stuff physically with me sometimes. sometimes when i feel the sexual tention urges happening i feel like i cant breathe even tho i know a range of clarity is about to happen. i literally and typing this up in the car after having running out of a club( i am not a club person) and typing this up rn. to be real and pardon the negative self talk i just feel like a hypocritical idiot. like i keep goin back to the same old stuff and feel to guilty to walk i to a church building sometimes and i have great community there. ig idk guys ik this is wrong but im at a point where lust and know extreme forms of it has me confused on how to even repent and everything. my mind is just constantly sex sex sex idk guys just pray for me and love to hear feedback

I literally can’t afford to continue to be an porn addict it will be impossible I’m 18 turning 19 soon & my starting career requires confidence, an clear mind and my upmost focus I can’t focus being a addict. When I beat off I’m more depressed & reserved including the brain fog & that won’t work I hate porn for what it’s doing to be mentally it’s ruining my life day by day and I can’t stop even when I mentally checked with porn I still do it. The porn induced OCD makes it worse because I get these intrusive thoughts and relapse to make me feel better and I’m not a fan of the things I’m watching it’s becoming more and more disturbing and disturbing and it’s not me. I wish I never discovered this shit I want my life back I want a girlfriend money confidence etc… This has to stop

How many times have you heard from the enemy spirits that, “If you give in now, the urge will go away”? The devil keeps us trapped in sin with this lie. We listen and say to ourselves, “This sin will bring about my relief.” I’ve listened to this lie many times in my life and I’m done with it.

The book of James says: “Submit therefore to God. But resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” (James 4:7). Resistance and drawing near to God are how we overcome the devil. Giving in to sin just gives the devil’s words more power over us.

No sin ever brings about relief. No sin ever brings about peace to our mortal bodies. It’s only resistance, and drawing near to God that peace comes. The Prince of Peace Himself, Jesus, is the only relief and peace this world has to offer. Perhaps God set it up in such manner?

Lust is of the heart. Our hearts are stained with this sin. It’s up to us to draw near to God to get it cleansed lest the pattern of giving in to get some “relief” persists the rest of our lives

Our Church has confessions today, so I will be sin-freeand ready for Christmas. But please prayer for me brothers and sisters, cause devil strikes those who are close to God and I feel things are about to get REAL.

Thank you for your support on my last post.

What’s first?

Confession.

Now we often think that confession is simply a laundry list of our sins and we go to God and list them off. And yeah, that’s part of it, it’s a type of confession.

But God wants something deeper than the laundry list.

For years and years I thought if I could just stop masturbating, if I could just quit the porn, everything would be ok. And from reading your posts on here, I’m getting the feeling that you’re thinking the same way.

But it’s deeper than that. It’s a heart problem that we discussed briefly yesterday. And once I got my eyes off the porn (and my hands off my weiner) my heart problem, my lust problem became apparent. It isn’t the act. The act is a RESULT of what’s in my heart. And I’ve gotta go to God with that. Confession is more than a list. It’s agreeing with God, getting on the same side of the matter with Him. It’s not arguing with Him. It’s not making excuses. It’s not shifting the blame. And that requires honesty on my part.

Now I don’t like this one little bit. And I’m gonna bet this chocolate chip cookie that your flesh won’t like it either. Because this sin of the flesh is really an example of my heart. Perhaps you can relate.

Can you get honest with God? He asked Adam “where are you?” Not like a cop looking for a suspect. But as a Father, looking to restore a lost son. And He is asking you too. He wants to restore His relationship with you. He knows what you’ve done. He knows what you’ve left undone. But He needs you to get it out and agree with Him to start the process.

And this isn’t a one time thing. I wish it was, but the longer I walk down this road, the closer I draw near, the more aware I become of my shortcomings. And that can be discouraging, but that’s not the point. The point guides us back to day 0, and my reliance on His Grace — God’s Riches At Christ’s Expense.

Get honest with yourself. Get honest with God. Confess. Agree with Him.

hey everyone i have a complex deal so bare with me this isnt just nofap stuff but wasnt sure where to go tbh. never talked ab this b4 but i found my paps porn stash when i was five and it kinda went from there. it kinda rlly bad thru middle and high school yk just getting more extreme tho ive had moments where i would chill out but recently its taken over my life. im nit a virgin but wish i was cause i felt empty every-time and i just got out of a relationship where sex was a big issue like i rlly didnt want to do it alot of the time. with that being said its been a tough past year my grandma passed and had a odd breakup and i suppress it but i dont rlly know how to deal with it like sum its hard for me to look at my gma photos type thing and and thats not an excuse but ive just been going crazy. we got some money after that and i told myself id never do this but i found out what online chats were and how easy it was to do and ended up losing so much money from it and even worse its truthfully led me to pay for ppl to do stuff physically with me sometimes. sometimes when i feel the sexual tention urges happening i feel like i cant breathe even tho i know a range of clarity is about to happen. i literally and typing this up in the car after having running out of a club( i am not a club person) and typing this up rn. to be real and pardon the negative self talk i just feel like a hypocritical idiot. like i keep goin back to the same old stuff and feel to guilty to walk i to a church building sometimes and i have great community there. ig idk guys ik this is wrong but im at a point where lust and know extreme forms of it has me confused on how to even repent and everything. my mind is just constantly sex sex sex idk guys just pray for me and love to hear feedback

i did so much thinking over this last week on NoFap. i lost to an urge but i know i can overcome

I learned that the Lord is the ultimate provider and the ultimate deliverer! Because I cannot do this without Him.

Key things I've learned:

1. God has a very kind heart. He is very slow to anger and very quick to forgive, and as a result, we often take His love and humble heart for granted, but He is patient with us more than we deserve. Our Heavenly Father cares very deeply for all His children. He feels for us. He is close to the brokenhearted and He honors the meek and the humble.
2. Rest. It's very important. Sometimes God just wants you to chill the 'f' out sometimes and just let Him bless you for once. Resting is more than just taking a nap. It's taking a break from things. Letting some things go. Not being in a rush to do anything or being anywhere, and just resting in the presence of the Lord.
3. Take up your cross daily and continue walking with the Lord. Jesus Christ died for your sins, so take them all to Him and continue to read the word of God daily. Put on the full armour of God every morning, cover yourself with the blood of Jesus Christ everyday and pray without seizing.
4. Remove the things in your life that lead to porn use/ fapping (e.g. easy access to porn, social media, sexual content etc.), delete that collection, install a porn blocker if you have to. You can't quit porn as long as it is still in your life.
5. Trust in God. God has divine authority over all of creation. If you have prayed and asked for it in the name of Jesus Christ, it will surely be given to you. Not in the way you want, but in the way that the Lord choses to, but it will surely be given to you, whatever it is. Trust and have faith in the Lord's timing.
6. Stop condemning yourself. If you were wrong, then you were wrong, take responsibility without beating yourself up, and admit that you did wrong. Humble yourself to the Lord, and move on. Life's too short. You're a human being and we've all sinned.
7. Humility always comes before honor. All glory belongs to God, not us. God honors the humble. We are not entitled to anyone or anything, all that we have is a gift from the Lord. If we are offended, we must ask ourselves "who are we to be offended?" and if we are blessed, we must ask ourself "who are we to be blessed?". Let us practice saying "thank you" to God everyday and give the credit to Him for every victory.

If yall wouldn’t mind praying for my walk with God. I just want to want to be obedient to God and not give up. I was walking with God and following and want to still. I fell back into sin today and honestly I lost a desire to just wanna obey God. Does this happen for people who are saved or no? Like do yall who are strong Christians do u ever feel like giving up or just honestly not obeying God? I normally do but I honestly been pretty upset at God lately. I just don’t really understand and I been patient but I been really really struggling to follow Christ and He hasn’t exactly helped my stress, anxiety, or faith. I know I’m wrong to say that and think that way but it’s been really hard. Anyways I find it to be a red flag of just honestly I think out of emotion I don’t care about anything really rn. I wanna get back on the right track but I can’t really change that feeling or desire.

It started when I was 6. And I haven't stopped since. There were times when I'd go a month or two clean, but I always go back. I knew deep down in my heart that it was wrong, though I didn't know why. I didn't become a christan until I was 17yrs old. I understand now since being a christian how pornography and masterbation can really ruin our lives. I guess that I thought that by giving my life to christ that I'd be 'cured' but I was so wrong. In fact, I feel even more attacked. More obliged to fall back into those temptations. I fell again tonight and I'm so angry with myself. I know I should go to God with this, but I can't. I'm too afraid. I know God wouldn't/isn't mad at me. He is my savior and only wants what's best for me, so why do I keep running away from Him? I see men all the time struggle with porn addictions, but it isn't so common in women(from what I've seen). I'm not trying to discount men's struggles, but as a woman, it's hard to relate with other girls because they never have the same issues as me. What should I do? How should I go about beating this sin??

I think what got me hooked on it when I was 8 or 9 was a demon too. I was in my room and there was a cricket in my room. That damned cricket was chirping and chirping and that kept me awake. And I can still remember that cricket’s noise. And I spent hours in the night trying to catch that cricket but I couldn’t. But basically I had a computer in my room and since I couldn’t sleep and my parents were asleep I decided to search up stuff that I knew was taboo but never understood why. And you can guess the rest. I tried to find that damn cricket the next morning and I searched everywhere in my house in the closets and floors and cleaned it completely and thoroughly and couldn’t find it. Not even a dead insect body. But apparently my brother who was in the room next to me only about 3-4 meters away from my room was able to sleep perfectly fine even though that guttural noise was horrible and literally insanely loud I could hear it from the other side of the living room about ten meters away. So I am convinced there was a demon waiting that night ready to decieve my young and innocent brain into sinning and that stupid demon cricket set me up for a lifetime of struggle and withdrawal

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Day 1 no fap; Psalm 37:4 - Delight yourself in The LORD and He will give you the desires of your heart. Good things come to us when we follow God's Path and what He wants for us in our lives

Lust is literally going to kill me and I hate myself so much for being like this why did that stupid computer have to be there when I was 8 why the hell did I start doing this why didn’t god move me away from that horrible place all those years ago I genuinely hate myself I can go a weeks without it and suddenly I fall again idk how I’ll ever change I hate this I hate myself so much. Why did god make me such a weak and emotional creature why can’t I just be normal why can’t I just be with god why does my life have to be in this same cycle. I went for weeks without it and then I do it again, is this what the rest of my life will be like till I die? Just struggling and suffering I’ve tried every single type of trick and top I’ve prayed to god but idk if I even know who god is I read the Bible but nothing works ever