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I'm not sure if anyone is on here but I want to vent, and read some advices one may have for me. I'm 26F, been with my now husband since we were sophomores in high school. Our sex life has been great for so many years. Up until recently when my anxiety increased and developed derealization as a result 3 months ago after starting the university for my bachelor's. My libido has been extremely low. The few times we had sex, I felt so uncomfortable afterwards. About last week, during intimate time I tried to enjoy it but I just didn't. Then we he finished, I cried my eyes out. He thought he r*ped me but I consented to it i just have that much low of my libido because I believe my body is in a lot of stress.

As a little backstory, we moved in together when I turned 19 and he was turning 20. We moved into a "small home" in the backyard of his parents house. Unfortunately, due to our financial situation, we still can't be able to move out of that small place. I used to work and lasted 5 years until I became a full-time student. He had a great job until some things got complicated and he lost it so now he is struggling a bit to gain back the amount he used to earn. The small house is as small as a master bedroom for references. No bathroom, no kitchen, no laundry room so you can imagine the rest. What can I do to bring up my libido? It sucks not be able to think of having sex because it makes me nauseous and anxious of the thought. When we flirt with each other, I'm hoping it doesn't lead to sex.

What can I do to increase my libido? I'm trying my best as far as stress management, but what else can I do? I know most likely having our own place will boost it up but I want it fixed before doing so. It just sucks how I can't think of sex the way he does.

I used to be HL, my partner has always been LL and that used to cause tension for us. However, I was unwell last year and the medication I’m on now has impacted my libido and I’m now LL. It has been about a year of this, the last time we had sex was October last year. We did try in May this year, I wasn’t into having anything done to myself but did fulfil their needs so I’ll count that as sex this year.

I addressed it a few nights ago, that I think we should try to be intimate. We do kiss and cuddle but I’m worried that this isn’t okay to never have sex again (which it feels like). Maybe it’s because I am formerly HL. I will say, when I became LL I was over the moon because it felt like breaking free from caring about sex which often took up a lot of my thoughts.

Hi all,

I am HL with an LL partner.

This r/ came up on my suggested and I felt so awful surrounding how some of your partners are making you feel.

For context:- I would have sex every day if that's what my partner wanted, however as it stands it's on average about once every 3 - 5 months - I don't want to make them feel bad for rejecting me so I let them initiate and tbh I feel bad for even counting those months in my head.

And no, I don't use porn or get off by myself to other people because my partner is genuinely the only one I want and desire.

I don't feel a lack of intimacy, we cuddle, we kiss, we flirt, snuggle on the sofa every night - even with my high libido that makes me feel loved, connected and desired and content. We share the same dreams, moral compass, goals and humour in such a unique and beautiful way that I can't even imagine being with anyone but them (and we tell each other we fancy each other and find each other gorgeous on the daily).

I suppose I'm saying all of this garbled love letter re: my partner to get to this point:-

There's too much social conditioning on both sides that regular sex is a qualifier for a healthy relationship. People with HL often feel that it is synonymous to love and affection, and on the other side of the coin people with LL often feel like they are deficient and not giving enough (but you definitely are!).

HL and LL in my mind are both separate from the importance and emphasis that is put on sex - and in my mind the latter is the relationship killer, the importance put on sex rather than the libido itself.

I guess I just wanted to let you know from a HL individual that you deserve better than what you're all putting yourself through and in a world of this many people, I can't be unique in my perspective. If your partners can't understand and appreciate your LL and keep pressuring you - that's abuse.

He said yesterday that he thinks all my complaints are just me wanting him to do it my way. Like when I feel terrified and freeze up during sex or when his roughhousing makes me remember domestic violence situations. Feeling like... what if I just walked out into the forest and never came back.

Is this why I'm LL, that I feel like he doesn't respect me? If he said, "hey I understand it's hard for you, let's find ways you can feel safe," would it be easier for me to meet him in that space? Is it like he says, that nothing he could do would ever reach me and it's all just hopeless?

25 year old female with a low sex drive wanting baby number two.. been trying for 6 months mostly during ovulation week. Any tips?

Hi there!

I (25F) moved in with my bf (26M) a year ago. He’s my best friend, I’m completely head over heels for him. However, as the title says, I just do not feel horny for him very often.

It’s super annoying, because I really love him and our relationship is amazing, we laugh so much together and he’s the sweetest person I know. This is also a very drastic change from the beginning of our relationship where we (at the risk of giving y’all a bit TMI) had sex like four times a day. I know there’s NRE and all that, but it feels like one day we just went from once every three hours to once a week.

I also feel a bit of (self imposed) pressure, because he’s ALWAYS ready to go (as in, he gets a boner if I look at him too long). He’s very adamant that I should never feel any pressure to do anything I don’t want to, and he just gets horny because he’s in love with me and all that, but it’s hard not to feel a little bit bad when his sex drive is so crazy.

I work two jobs and attend grad school and he’s also in school at the moment, though he doesn’t work. I’m definitely a lot more busy than him, so maybe this is just a matter of energy levels more than anything else.

I feel like it’s also important to add that half a year into our relationship I got and IUD which I’m super happy about, as it saves me the trouble of taking the pill every day. We’re definitely not at a stage in life where we’re ready for kids (and we might not ever be), and as far as contraception goes I’m a big fan of my IUD.

So I guess what I’m asking for is advice on how to increase my sex drive, as well as any suggestions as to why it’s gone down so much since the start of my relationship? Has anyone else had this problem, and how did you fix it?

I’m not really interested in any “break up with him” comments, since I 100% want to marry this man, and our relationship is one of the best parts of my life.

Thank you so much!

31F with 39M … we’ve been together 4 years. Asides for the honeymoon phase, for the first two years it was primarily his low libido…we still had sex at least once a month. But for the past two years, both of us have had no sex drive. It seems like this should be easier but for some reason it’s more depressing? We haven’t had sex in months..I don’t want it, but I miss wanting it? I can’t even muster the energy to masturbate anymore.

I get that sex drive does down when you’re older but it just feels too early for both of us to have just given up…I’m at the point I’d be happy to find out he was cheating on me just to know one of us still had passion.

We also both went through a significant stress/trauma two years ago, which really seemed to finally kill both our sex drives. I feel like we’re both over the trauma but the lack of interest in sex is that one lingering symptoms which just … idk. Does it ever come back? Does it matter?

Hey, I'm 18F I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend now for a little over a year, we used to have a lot of sex and for us that was normal, in past relationships I would be quite sexually active and I've had what i would say I high sex drive for most of my teenage hood. within the last year, i experienced a lot of relationship problems which we have both worked through and are now in a healthier place than we have ever been, but I still find myself having a really hard time being turned on. I'm not sure not sure what it is BUT I FEEL LIKE I CANT GET TURNED ON BY ANYTHING IN MY RELATIONSHIP. I do though find myself wanting to pleasure myself at times but then again it doesn't even feel like much cuz I'm not fully into it, any tips or ideas on how to fix this or why this could be happening cuz its sad for me to not have sex with my BF and also i feel as if I am missing out in something i want to be apart of and feel. i love sex, but i never seem to be in the mood like ever

(F22) I don't really know how to start this and I really hope I manage to remain anonymous.. I was raped 4 years ago and already came from a very toxic relationship. I was 14 when we got together, he was ten years older than me, did drugs and brought me to use them as well and even used them to manipulate me, cheated various times and tried really hard to give me an eating disorder, constantly body shaming and dragging me down. I had a very messy life at the time and was also very young insecure and stupid, that's the only way I can explain myself how I endured 3 years with that human trash. Anyway at some point I finally broke up with him, didn't have sex with anyone for over a year and life was pretty good. I eventually got raped by this guy I knew, a friend of a friend I was staying at for some days. Didn't tell anyone and left the morning after, none of them ever heard from me again, probably not the best way to handle the situation but I needed to do so. Fast forward, 4 years have passed and I'm in a very happy and healthy relationship with an old friend of mine who has made a comeback into my life, we have been together for 3 years and are doing very well, but there comes the problem that has brought me to write all that shit. In the beginning it was all really good, but as we went on in the relationship my sex drive has started to decrease, it got to the point I thought I was asexual, if it wasn't for the fact that I've been a super hormonal adolescent in the past. I was really confused and even got off birth control to see if it would make a difference. Now it's became very obvious it is due to trauma but it is to mention that for a good amount of time I totally forgot I had been raped, the thing never ever crossed my mind until one day, I was talking with my boyfriend about my low sex drive and at some point I suddenly remembered and was like "wait! That happened! Might have something to do with it?". I've always felt that as soon as figured out I was safe with my bf my brain decided to drop all the masks that even i didn't know I was holding. Anyway he's been the most supporting person, never pushing me and always understanding, but I'm starting to feel as I'm missing a part of my life that should be enjoyable. For months I was totally disgusted by sex and couldn't go trough it without bursting in tears, now I'm just pretty cold about it and to be honest I don't even feel really attracted to my bf, but it's very clear he's not the problem as I find all men quite unflattering. Also I've lost lots of sensitivity, I don't experience a lot of physical pleasure but I very easily feel pain, and, just to clarify, it's not always been like this. I haven't masturbated in months and I just don't think about it, i feel like if I wasn't in a relationship I could totally forget that sex existed. I do not want to get too explicit so I'll stop there, the reason why I'm writing all this is that I'm really looking forward to have a healthy sexual life with my bf but I don't know anymore what to do, he suggested me to look for similar experiences on Reddit but maybe I'm not really good at searching cause I didn't find anything relatable. I enjoy reading AITA reddits but i never posted one myself, I really hope I get to someone able to relate and give some advice, I feel like something broke and I don't know how to fix it, I fear it will remain like this. I might feel uncomfortable and delete it later, also english is not my native language so sorry for the mistakes

Hi, 23 M, I have come to accept that a low libido is most likely just like, part of me. But I'm confused about a few things, sex is basically never on my mind, I have friends that will talk about it with high regard but I just really don't care about it nor, like i said, do I ever think about it. I can still get aroused and I find people sexually attractive, but I'm just stuck with this feeling of complete indifference towards the actual act. Sexual comments and quite honestly just talking about sexual acts makes me kinda uncomfortable. When I do engage, after it's all done I usually am left with feeling like I would rather have not had sex, which confuses me because I don't know why that comes when I was all good about it and wanted to have sex prior. I've had this happen both in relationships and out of relationships and I try to be open and honest about my libido with partners.

I'm talking to someone about all of this in the coming months but I guess I just want to see if any of this is a similar experience for others with a low libido? Idk maybe this is just some self discovery journey type shi but yeah. Thanks for reading lol

My husband (48y) & I (58y) are in a rut and have been for a few years now. We used to have an AMAZING sex life. Like all.the.time. He is 10 yrs younger than me. When menopause started, it totally messed all that up. Between not wanting to be touched because I was so hot all the time... And huge anxiety, it was just not conducive to a healthy sexual encounter. Fast forward to now. I have been able to get EVERYTHING under control and I feel so much better!! Everything except my libido. We still love each very much. We just need to find our way back. Any ideas/advice are appreciated!

Hi! I haven’t struggled with low libido before. I’m currently married to my 25M husband, and we have sex 2 times a week. It feels unusual low to me & that freaks me out!

Is 2x a week considered a low amount?

Last night my boyfriend (HL27) and I (LL28) had a big fight about our sexlife. I think many of you can relate and imagine what was said. At some point he said something that really hurt me: "You're the weird one in this relationship. I'm normal. I just want a healthy amount of sex"

It took me years to accept my sexuality and get to the point where I could tell myself that nothing is wrong with me and with this one sentence he just ripped this wound open again.

He wants to have sex 3-4 times per week and a blowjob pretty much every day. I'd be fine with doing anything along those lines every 2 weeks maybe? I have put effort into this. Gave him a blowjob every 3 days and sex about once a week and he just doesn't understand that I'm already trying to meet his needs. It's not enough cause its not as often as he'd like it to be but I can't even explain it well enough for him to understand. It's so frustrating

So yall help me please. Been in therapy for years trying to work on my trauma that has lead to low libido.

Last night I was feeling safe and confident and Mild (not Spicy because it takes a bit for all of that but definitely was feeling myself and was trying to see if I could find Medium to Hot). In my Mild state I initiated a make out session with my wife. Y’all I was in it and was finding Medium. I’m trying to kiss deeper and she’s not going deeper. So because I so rarely initiate I thought maybe she doesn’t know that I’m trying to spark something. So I was like, “can I just have a little tongue” in my Medium seductive voice. Y’all still no deeper, not a pinch of tongue, definitely not setting up an opportunity for mine. And then yall it hit me— she wasn’t into it…..

Y’all… I’m kinda crushed. I didn’t get to process in therapy what might happen if I was finally ready to try out initiation that it might not land.

100% respect that she wasn’t into it. Completely believe that it’s not always the right time.

But how embarrassing that your first attempt was a major fumble… like how the fuck did I miss that she wasn’t into it for like multiple minutes yall…. I was trying to kiss hard for multiple minutes before I caught the drift.

This will be a short post because english is not my first language. This is my first time posting here, i want some advice in how to desire to have sex. i have 5 years with my husband, he is really good in bed and i enjoy it, my problem is that i dont look forward to having sex most of the time, and he has been really patient with me, still is, but i want to look for solutions so i can make him happy too. He is so good to me and always prioritizes my needs and pleasure. I stopped taking birth control in hopes to get my libido back to what it was (i had very high libido a couple years back) after birth control my libido was non existent, now i stopped and still nothing. Please give me any advice, i dont want to ruin or relationship

I have recently stopped working out overall, I run sometimes and became flexible about my food. My libido has increased which dropped excessively for the last 2 years. Did anyone face a similar situaton?

Edit: I have read every comment and I seriously appreciate them and they have given me a lot to think about. Thanks everyone for making me feel heard and understood.

i come here because this has been a consistent struggle for me and my boyfriend in the past year and a half, and i would like some different insight.

we’ve been dating for two years and have been living together for about a year and a half. before we started dating, we lived about two hours away from each other and i would visit every weekend or other weekend and our sex was great then.

since then, my libido has gotten much much lower and makes me feel guilty because i do not please him the way i used to. he gets visibly upset and we have discussion after discussion about this issue and he has brought up that he is not happy being with me any longer.

i feel as though many things could contribute to this, such as me being on my menstrual cycle for an absurd amount of time, my self esteem, what he calls an avoidant attachment style, laziness, not being able to miss each other and honestly just not being turned on.. i am also his first ever long term relationship and only second partner he’s ever had sex with. and first female to have sex with after losing his virginity.

i’ve never been a girl who cums from pure penetration, there has to be something more and i really enjoy foreplay which i have expressed, but he becomes so excited and wants to jump straight into intercourse. he’s not once made me cum with his fingers and used to become upset when i used my vibrator, however he doesn’t anymore, mostly because i rarely ever have the desire to because im simply not horny.

i fear that this is going to make or break our relationship and i don’t know where to go from here. he is an exceptional person, partner and my best friend and i want to do everything i can to keep him in my life.

I (21M) am in a long distance relationship with my partner (21F). I’m the one w the lower libido and it all feels so confusing. We used to have face time calls that would ease the sexual tension but I’ve always been more focused on other things ig, school, work, home life, her doing ok. As the relationship went on she voiced her frustration, she feels like she’s always initiating and that it comes off as needy. Im her first anything and idk if Im to blame for having multiple sexual partners in the past. The thing is she’s amazing, when I get to see her I want to have sex with her, but I also want to go out and do shit. I generally don’t think there’s a problem when we see each other. When we’re apart it just feels weird. I am happy with and without it, I feel like I’m super involved in what I have going on and that keeps me pretty occupied mentally. I don’t wanna say she does, but it feels as if she gets annoyed with me for not having such intense desire as she does when away. Just now we were talking about how I’ll get to visit her soon and we talked about how much we wanted to have sex already. She then goes from saying in a giddy voice “I just can’t wait already” and then saying “I know you’re not feeling like it, it’s ok I’ll let you sleep” in a more annoyed tone like she’s done w me. She’s pulled this before so I just told her honestly, maybe in a too dismissive way “yeah I’m not feeling it rn”. But wtf I feel like absolute shit like I’m never doing enough. And maybe I’m not, I’m already not putting in enough time into my school to get the grades I wanted but I always make time and lose sleep to talk with her and not lose our communication. I feel like I’m just bad at this relationship thing, I don’t feel like enough, I feel like I could be doing more but I don’t have the energy most days. Any advice?

Hey all, I'm a 31 year old female, and over the past three years, my libido has become shocking. My partner has a VERY high sex drive, and I have sex with him 3-5 times a week or do other things to make up for the other days (haha). I'm usually more than happy to give it to him, as I find it fun too, but sometimes it becomes draining. It's gotten to the point where porn doesn't even interest me anymore. He is always appreciative of my body like it's the first time, which makes me feel good, and I'm getting into the habit of appreciating him back.

I've had issues in the past where we would argue because I don't initiate, there was a big while where I would try to avoid sex but I've changed my mentality about it and feel a lot more willing to please him once I've fixed my way of thinking. I probably orgasm once a month or every two months with him. Part of me thinks that getting older and living with someone might be contributing to this, but both of us are very playful, have no children, and love our life together.

I have no interest in swinging or outside play but thinking of other men sometimes arouses me which makes me think it's being with same partner for 8 years kind of 'problem'? Thought I'd consult everyone on here. Has anyone had the same issue? if so what have you done to overcome this?

I got my blood tested and my libido just hit the average mark so technically still on the lower side.

I feel really overwhelmed because I have low libido and I could also say that I'm sex adverse too. I have a partner of 3 years and I started to feel guilty for not being as sexual as him, the first times in my relationship we didn't have penetration sex because we were teenagers and it was fine, when I started in birth control it's were I became less sexual. When we hangout I don't really feel like wanting to have sex and it makes me feel bad because my partner has a high libido, every time we see each other he wants to do it but I don't feel like it, I usually just pleasure him but I don't want or care to being pleasure, it's like if his feeling aroused I just do things to him so he can stop feeling like that and we can spend time together doing other things. A few days ago we were in bed watching videos and he was so aroused that he didn't want me to touch him or he would get more aroused, so I did the usual, let him do what he wanted so we can finally cuddle. I feel extremely bad because I don't desire him (and anyone else if that matters) but I feel that I have to have a high libido to make him happy and feel like a normal person.

Also I started to hate sex a few years ago because of an ex friend, she was so obsessed with sex to the point I was annoyed, she was always talking about sex, she regularly upload post about sex in her IG stories and even get to the point of her talking to my about her sexual encounters and it disgusted me.

I've think of seeking help with my therapist but I feel embarrassed of talking about sex with him since he's a man and I just don't know about sex therapist in my town, can someone give me an advice? :(

I don't think I have a particularly low libido, but I recently had a conversation with my partner that somewhat concerned me.

When talking about sex in our relationship, he said "If we were only having sex once a week, I'd be complaining."

I'm pretty happy with about once a week -- in fact, I'd probably be less happy if we were having less sex and wouldn't say no to twice or occasionally three times a week -- but that comment really worried me. What about when we have babies?? I suspect I won't want sex while we have newborns! What about if other life stressors get in the way?

It hasn't helped that recently when we have sex it's been a little bit painful. When I'm warmed up (with oral) it's not, but I've had some trouble effectively getting through to him that we need to focus more on foreplay and non-penetrative sex, and that if I say "ow" we have to really slow down and return to foreplay before moving further.

My partner and I are heading towards marriage and I've been shocked at the number of posts I see on Reddit by married people who have a fundamental misunderstanding of how their partners' sex drives work.

My libido is primarily responsive, and I've seen so many people on here essentially say that's a bad thing and my partner will never feel wanted unless I feel spontaneous sexual desire for him. I just, don't, though! Sometimes I spontaneously want to make out or get close and see what happens, but I've never wanted to tell him "I need you inside me right away" or anything to that effect. And I really don't think that's wrong or that it means I don't love him.

But everything I'm seeing on here is telling me that if I become sex averse, he's just going to end up really, really hating me. I didn't worry about it with him, though, until we had that conversation where he said he'd complain.

I've bought a copy of Come Together that he's also going to read, and I know that I need to effectively communicate my concerns, but I'm looking for advice on how to do so in a way that he will hear and won't feel hurt about.

I’m a 31 year old female. My libido has been low my entire adult life. Sometimes I’ll have a higher sex drive and want to have sex/masturbate multiple times a week but more often than not, I only have the urge about once every few weeks. This causes issues in my relationships. I’m wondering if anyone has had success increasing their libido and how they did it.

I am on birth control and have been for 15 years. Started on the pill for about 10 years and now have been on the ring for about 5 years

Hello! I (32F) have struggled with LL for probably close to 10 years. While I initially looked into tracing the cause for my spouse, after years of searching for an answer I'm really wanting to solve this for me.

I've tried therapy, asked multiple doctors, switched up my birth control a few times, read smut, watch porn, tried just about everything. I've also improved a lot of my personal care: I left a really stressful job and found a great fit that still pays well, I live in an area I love and feel part of a community, am physically active, and have a healthy self esteem.

Ultimately, the answer I've landed on is that I don't drink/smoke weed anymore. I was a late bloomer and while I remember feeling aroused while going through puberty in high school, I didn't experiment sexually until college. There was literally only one person I had sex with sober. And tbh, I don't recall feeling horny for him, it was mostly curiosity because he was my first time for EVERYTHING. He and the person who ultimately became my spouse are the only sober partners I've ever had.

The first time I realized I may be LL was at a time when I started a really stressful job and I changed my lifestyle pretty drastically. I stopped drinking/going out and think sex went out the window not too long after that. Like I said earlier in my post, I tried everything but I haven't felt my libido change at all, despite improving a lot of areas of my life. While I enjoy the occasional buzz now that I'm at a less stressful job and feel comfortable letting loose, I still veeeery rarely get horny.

I'm really happy with my health outside of my libido, and so I'm struggling with the idea of increasing my drinking/adding weed into my routine when they don't really serve me otherwise. Anyone else have a similar experience? Thanks so much in advance!

I’ve been with my current partner for a year and my libido was just fine in the beginning, then completely dwindled. I love him to bits but I struggle to want him in that way. Even conversations about sex and intimacy feel awkward, almost like I’m talking to a family member. I need to feel extremely safe and good, or drunk, to want sex with him. We have sex pretty often, and I like pleasuring him, but I rarely get pleasure out of it (especially from penetration itself) unless I make myself come. This has happened in every relationship I have been in (this is my fourth). My sex drive is just fine and even pretty high when I’m single, and I do experience attraction to people outside of my relationship. I find nothing more exciting than the idea of sleeping with someone new (not just anyone though) and it breaks my heart because I do want to be in a monogamous relationship. Has anyone ever experienced that?

Has anyone had success with resolving the mutual suffering from mismatch?

HrLm (40) married 15 years to LrLf (40). Both work. 3 young kids, youngest 2yo.

I did the standard shitty things HrL’s seem to do. She now feels aversion to any form of intimate contact.

I saw a few posts of the ilk “not in that mismatched relationship anymore, now my libido has come back; it was the aversion created with them that was the real issue.”

What do some effective approaches look like to resolve the aversion without breaking up?

So, me (27F) and my partner (28M) have been together for 11 years. Our sex life has had its ups and downs throughout the years, but since early this year, it has only seen downs. Once in a while I'll feel like having sex, but during foreplay I already change my mind, and I'll go until the end just because I feel bad for my partner. I've recently told him that foreplay was not working and gave him some suggestions, but it's hard for me to know what I want when I've never had sex with anyone else. He has no experience with anyone else either. I feel like we're stuck in this sex that feels mediocre for me. Any suggestions?

I’m a 31-year-old man who got engaged last month to a wonderful woman who is four years younger than me.

We’ve been together for over two years, and we love each other deeply.

After a year of dating, we decided to move in together and rent an apartment. Before living together, our sex life was great, but since the move, my libido seems to have dropped significantly.

We used to have sex at least three times a week, but now it’s once every two or even three weeks.

My fiancée has started to comment on the lack of frequency, sometimes making jokes and suggesting I’m not attracted to her. But the truth is, I am attracted to her — I just don’t feel the same drive.

Sex takes a lot of physical effort, and after a long day of work, I feel exhausted. The last thing I want to do is get even more tired. It’s started to feel more like a chore or obligation than something enjoyable.

I work from home, and before starting my day, after my fiancée leaves for work, I masturbate to relieve stress and help me relax.

Is this normal? Am I the bad guy here? I’m worried she might look elsewhere to get her needs met.

Hi! So me (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for a little over 2 years. I have always had a low libido, and he has always had a high one. It has truly never caused any issues in the relationship, but I am always trying to find alternative ways to get that body to body intimacy, without sex. We do lot of massages and stuff, but I recently found this sub and were wondering if you guys had anymore ideas! Thanks

Hi. This is my first post. I don’t know how to use Reddit. I (21f) have been with my BF (23m) for 4 years. We had a really good sexual relationship the first 2 years but since then my libido has SIGNIFICANTLY decreased. I still love him and he’s the most handsome man I know, but I can rarely bring myself to sex. We usually have sex 2-3 times a month :(

I want our sex lives to increase of course but idk how. He only makes moves when he’s drunk because “it’s easier to be turned down when drunk”

I just don’t know what to do anymore and it really hurts.

Thanks for listening.